JustPearlyThings - This Modern Woman Believes This Is Possible

00:00:00.000 do you guys believe in happy wife happy life why or why not yes the wife basically is in charge of 0.95

00:00:09.140 the household not the household but the house in itself so if the wife is in a bad mood or it's

00:00:15.600 not doing okay the kids are not going to do okay like for example with me when my mom was you know

00:00:20.060 going through things or upset she wasn't able to nurture us the way she could and sometimes that

00:00:24.580 would affect us not in a big way so imagine if you know a woman is not happy in a relationship

00:00:29.240 she's not able to do her wifely duties properly so therefore the woman's life the kid's life and the 0.99

00:00:34.740 man's life um is not going to be able to like you know the way i see i feel like the wife is the sun

00:00:40.320 and everything orbits around it and she's what keeps things moving so if that's not working out

00:00:45.720 nothing else is going to work out i think both to be fair i think it's not fair to say like happy wife

00:00:52.920 happy life i feel like we should make a man happy as well because they they can like he he's the

00:00:59.220 one that's providing he's the one that's taking care of the household he's the one that's making 0.93

00:01:02.260 you feel safe he he he we wouldn't do stuff as well we put stuff on the table but i'm speaking

00:01:05.860 about him now i feel like happy husband happy life and happy wife happy life both of them

00:01:11.620 what do you think i feel like happiness is just a feeling and you know like for i don't know what's

00:01:16.780 that for a woman but for a man when we wake up sometimes i'm not happy but i have to keep it 0.94

00:01:20.040 moving because i've got i've got stuff to do whereas in the past i've been a partner as soon as

00:01:24.340 something goes wrong and she's not happy it all breaks down and you have to come up with a solution

00:01:27.880 so in that sense there's so many more like different things for like uh like a female to be 1.00

00:01:35.840 unhappy about i mean i don't really have that choice i don't have that that um pleasure to

00:01:40.240 have that feeling if you know what i mean but at the same time i haven't been married so i don't know

00:01:43.820 from other people that have told me that they say that what do you think um i would agree i think

00:01:49.560 it's about 60 50 about 60 to the woman 50 i'm sorry 60 40 i'm a bit tired um 40 to the the man

00:01:58.900 because i would say because obviously biologically women are just a lot more emotional naturally so 1.00

00:02:05.060 i feel like the repercussions of her unhappiness will affect a lot more than the repercussions of

00:02:09.860 a man's unhappiness as in he could probably hold it together a bit uh more than a woman um it's not

00:02:15.060 going to impact as much and to echo what you said about the kids and the household it's going to

00:02:19.160 affect all of that and that's now your environment so i feel like that's where it comes in but i

00:02:23.580 don't agree with like i'm not so rigid and thinking like happy wife happy life and forget

00:02:28.720 your husband because i just truly believe you do need to make your husband happy 100 what do you

00:02:33.380 think oh me yeah do you think happy wife happy life is good advice no i think i think the husband

00:02:41.960 needs to be happy obviously both both needs to be happy but more time the husband because he's the

00:02:46.260 one that's making the money he's going out and he's if if your man is stressed do you think that

00:02:52.100 he's going to come home and he's going to he's going to treat you right and he's going to be he's

00:02:55.160 not he has to be happy as well um yeah i think it's both sides i think that happy wife happy life is a

00:03:01.360 recipe for disaster why yeah i think it's i think it's telling the man that you have to try to make a

00:03:08.800 woman happy and as women i think we're never happy i think that if you give a woman everything you that

00:03:15.740 she wants she'll still find something she'll still find something to not be happy about

00:03:20.260 i feel like the saying for me the way i look at it i feel like men go through a lot they literally have

00:03:26.880 to go outside and battle to understand and the way i look at it i think the only thing that can really

00:03:31.640 make a man happy is his woman that's the own that's his safe space that's his peace so when people say

00:03:37.500 like happy wife like when your wife is happy that man now becomes happy like for example you like

00:03:42.660 when you're you're do you have a girl or whatever sorry just yeah yeah sorry about that like when

00:03:48.020 she's calm and when she's happy doesn't that bring you happiness and peace too like compared to all the

00:03:52.380 stresses of working out or do you have like other outlets and i'm talking like she brings you that i need

00:03:57.580 to i need to add one thing i think that's narcissism i think women were naturally narcissistic 1.00

00:04:02.760 and we take credit for everything and i think that he's either a happy man on a purpose or he's

00:04:09.240 not and i think women have very little to do with it i think women play a big role in men's happiness

00:04:15.860 i think women are delusional and narcissistic um just like by our nature um and yeah i think we think

00:04:23.440 that we deserve more credit than we do oh my god i feel like women definitely make men let's just start 0.99

00:04:29.980 with the fact that where else would men get their orgasms from women yeah but that's a moment of 0.78

00:04:36.940 happiness i guess and that fades very quickly men typically get happiness from doing things 0.84

00:04:42.160 it really doesn't have anything to do with women what about peace though i'm thinking of peace when i

00:04:48.520 say happy life i'm thinking the problem with your argument is you're saying the woman needs to be happy

00:04:53.080 to make the man happy but the problem with that is usually women think that their happiness should come 1.00

00:04:58.520 from the man so the man needs to make her happy to then let her make him happy that doesn't make sense

00:05:02.760 so which one comes first then everyone should be responsible for their happiness yeah yeah yeah yeah

00:05:09.180 yeah that's right yeah i think it's a recipe for disaster because you're basically telling men

00:05:14.100 that you're only going to have a happy life if she's happy and i think it goes back to like

00:05:20.200 the like a lot of times marriage like men view marriage as a horrible contract and i think that's part of

00:05:26.600 it because they're they're selling that in order for you to be happy she has to be happy and women 1.00

00:05:31.220 are never happy i always felt like the saying was just like uh just take care of your wife i never

00:05:37.020 really made i mean it meant like you have to be responsible for that i never knew people really

00:05:40.760 took it literally and that's why i was just like you know keep your wife happy because i thought it was

00:05:45.160 just make sure you're taking care of your wife but i didn't know it actually meant you're responsible

00:05:49.720 for her happiness and i don't believe in that i don't think you should be responsible for anyone's

00:05:52.920 helping i don't think it's like intentional but i think there's like a lot of words in our society

00:05:56.840 where we like subtly give like women credit for everything and like blame men for everything it's 0.73

00:06:01.880 very subtle i'll give you an example of another one not to do with the marriage but like knocked up

00:06:06.760 assumes that he knocked her up yeah whose fault is it his he got her pregnant like there's a lot of 0.99

00:06:13.160 really subtle things and i think that's like just one of them no that's that's actually true i still feel like

00:06:19.800 in a relationship everyone should be you should practice interdependence meaning you're able to be

00:06:25.240 independent by yourself and provide for yourself in terms of happiness but when you are in a

00:06:29.960 relationship i think your partner should wake up with the need and want to actually contribute not

00:06:37.400 make you happy and be the source of your happiness but contribute to your happiness so in that aspect

00:06:42.520 aspect i do believe that men should contribute this and it's vice versa as well i i also think sometimes

00:06:48.200 happiness is just an illusion like put your microphone we're supposed to i think sometimes

00:06:53.000 happiness is an illusion because we're supposed to be up and down up and down if we're waiting

00:06:57.320 until we're happy we're never we're never because there's always something there's always something

00:07:01.640 that we're going to stress about yeah there's always a loss of a family there's always a career

00:07:05.800 that i there's always something so happiness is an illusion like you can be content wait so one thing

00:07:11.800 you know i just realized oh my gosh women we have easier lives than ever before we have more freedom 1.00

00:07:19.240 than ever before we have more automation than ever before yet we're more miserable than ever before

00:07:26.120 and we're more miserable because men tried to make us happy by giving us everything and now we're unhappy

00:07:33.240 with all of this choice and freedom we just spoil yes yes it's like we're like too many options yeah i

00:07:40.040 think we're like children actually yeah and it's kind of like if you give a kid everything yeah a

00:07:46.440 miserable child very true yeah yeah i think it's the same so one thing that you actually taught me

00:07:52.440 is um you know exactly what you just said that we're not always going to be happy in life learn to

00:07:58.600 deal with the unhappiness learn to deal with the stress when you're at work do you know what she

00:08:03.240 says to me she was like you're at work and you're angry just start smiling just endure the anger yeah

00:08:10.280 and there's studies that say like that you naturally like get happier if you're smiling all the time

00:08:15.000 yeah she was like just just learn to deal with it that's part of life you experience different emotions

00:08:20.360 you don't always need to be happy sometimes you're sad and i think sometimes if the guy is like feeding

00:08:24.680 into it every time like it's kind of like with kids if they're having a temper tantrum and you

00:08:30.200 feed into it it's like it gets bigger and bigger yeah yeah yeah wherever you just just shut it down

00:08:34.360 i'm a big fan of ignoring problems yeah i think sometimes when you ignore problems you forget and

00:08:39.800 they go away i don't think we got to talk about every problem or issue also just being a bit cheeky

00:08:45.000 with it i think as a man a lot of men need to learn to just be like it's okay baby i mean just shake

00:08:50.680 it off and then and then you as a woman be like all right cool i'm overreacting right instead of

00:08:54.440 being like oh no are you okay yeah don't do that and that's what i think that phrase like encourages

00:08:58.760 men to try to make her happy when again i don't think men can make women happier they're happier

00:09:04.520 you're not yeah it's a choice isn't it happiness is a choice that you make and like life is literally

00:09:09.960 just a never-ending story of problem solving i think will smith said something one time he said

00:09:16.600 you both have to be complete before you come together both be happy within your within yourself

00:09:22.120 you're never going to be complete or happy that's the whole point no no no but like

00:09:27.000 my point is have you seen we've seen will smith's marriage oh yes no but i've taken the positives

00:09:33.080 from it don't like here's the thing yeah don't try to seek happiness of your partner because then

00:09:39.960 you're going to be stuck aren't you you're going to be forever searching be happy within yourself and

00:09:44.280 then come together as one could we react to um the girl's reaction i know we started watching it

00:09:49.960 earlier but um yeah i told you guys i told you i was like i should tell people to wear like i don't

00:10:02.280 know just shorts or something no i'm just too sorry that was sorry i don't know if you can say that word

00:10:08.760 sorry next time next time i'm just gonna come and like you know what african moms wear 1.00

00:10:16.440 you got you got no excuse you've been here before i don't know who told me to wear this

JustPearlyThings - August 19, 2023

This Modern Woman Believes This Is Possible

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