JustPearlyThings - This Modern Woman Could NOT Answer This QUESTION

00:00:00.000 um okay so could you respect a man that you make more than yes the answer is yes however i want to

00:00:09.620 see him being ambitious he has to have a plan he has to be someone that gets up no no no that's

00:00:15.220 not that's not the guy you're dating no no that's like that's like the women trying to change men 1.00

00:00:21.140 no he's he's making let's say what's whatever the average salary is here 35 000 pounds a year

00:00:27.400 he will always he will always be making 35 000 a year okay this isn't build a man but what kind

00:00:33.140 of person is he the kind of guy that wakes up and plays video games and just he goes he's the kind

00:00:37.260 he goes to work okay and makes 35 000 a year and then comes home sometimes he plays video games

00:00:43.880 sometimes he doesn't the same way you know it's like they we can complain about the video games

00:00:48.740 but how many girls are on social media for hours we're just as bad no you know what you're right 1.00

00:00:54.240 i think i could because i've been in that situation and i've been very happy with

00:01:00.960 that okay why aren't you with him he's in australia oh oh so this was recent yeah

00:01:08.500 okay i don't know what he makes it's none of my business but i know he's not like the richest guy

00:01:13.740 in the world but he's lovely and he actually made me feel safe in every way so how do you know that

00:01:18.520 you earn more than him i don't but if i did i'd be okay with it because he was that wonderful

00:01:23.800 okay okay so yeah sounds like you need to go

00:01:28.520 finish your healing man well uh that was the plan not for him though but i would like to see him

00:01:36.940 again 100 oh do you think you're healed enough though um wait i'm confused so when was the okay

00:01:44.540 so wasn't the the old guy eight months ago yeah that was in june okay and then when did the the

00:01:50.500 australia guy come in literally this month oh oh and he left to australia no i was in australia

00:01:57.280 she went away to australia for six weeks see this is why when men it's like everything the guys say

00:02:03.080 so this is why when guys say like you're healing they just think you're i mean they don't have

00:02:08.580 yeah you're just sleeping with other dudes um no because it wasn't quite like that it took me a

00:02:15.300 long time to even go on a date with someone like it wasn't until i went to australia i even considered

00:02:20.880 that i was just completely right but you told me you were healing earlier in australia yeah and now

00:02:26.900 you're telling me you met the guy in australia it's no it's no hate to you i'm just no it's fine i'm

00:02:30.760 just observing he's a healer that if i'm honest because i said that to him because he was going

00:02:37.380 through his own thing which i won't discuss on here that's his business and i was going through

00:02:41.800 mine and i said to him for whatever reason i walked into your life and you walked into mine

00:02:46.940 because it was an accident you know i was walking down the street oh you met him on the street what

00:02:51.340 happened was i just come back from the gym i was in a bad mood i smell i was covered in sweat i was

00:02:56.560 spotty i was like you know on my period so i was like bloated and i did not look appealing at all

00:03:01.600 and this stunning man walks towards me and when i fancy someone i get shy

00:03:06.340 and i just look down and he starts talking to me and i'm just like in my head i'm like why today

00:03:11.980 why today and then he's like you should smile you know it looks good on you and then we were just

00:03:17.160 talking and um i felt really good around this person he made me feel safe there's something about

00:03:26.820 his energy that just made me feel really good so you were able to trust him it was more

00:03:33.940 i know that sounds wild because even i look back and i think how did i do that

00:03:38.560 to an extent yeah because i said to him what are you doing later let's go out

00:03:42.480 it was me that initiated it and then when he went in to kiss me he said he asked my permission

00:03:48.000 this is after the date he said can i kiss you you know he was asking my permission he was respectful

00:03:53.340 of my boundaries he was you know but you know how you said that you were going through your stuff

00:03:57.660 and he was going through his stuff you said that about your ex the one who was obviously dealing

00:04:02.480 with anorexia you said um he his traumas and your traumas like were able to go together and now

00:04:08.680 you're saying basically the same thing this guy yeah yeah you've it's because i'm aware i'm not a

00:04:14.060 perfect person but don't you think that you said you're you're healing right yeah if you're healing

00:04:18.840 and then you're now meeting this guy and you're acknowledging the fact that you're going through

00:04:23.040 your ish he's going through his ish and we've meshed together you're acknowledging the fact that

00:04:27.780 you're entering the same pattern again yeah just because the guy is you know but it's always when

00:04:32.520 you're not looking for someone they just pop up and then you click i can't explain it but they're

00:04:36.640 not denying what you're saying though yeah right but don't don't you think you should just not that

00:04:40.660 you should but i guess what i'm saying is if you want to heal to have a fruitful relationship

00:04:48.680 that's not going to be toxic that's not going to have any of the repeated patterns

00:04:52.500 just have that discipline in yourself and be like actually you know i do really like you as a

00:04:57.340 person but let me get to a place where i know that i'm strong with in who i am i'm not dealing

00:05:03.000 with the same whatever from the last person and bringing that into the new person because

00:05:07.680 all that's going to happen is yeah you're going to be in the same predicament yeah it's just going

00:05:11.560 to be a different story i wouldn't say it's a personal thing on me i'm definitely strong in who i am

00:05:15.880 but you're right i'm definitely not over what happened and i'm i appreciate what you said thank you

00:05:21.780 i just think they need professional healing self-healing is not healing but how do how i have

00:05:26.740 it sounds like you run away to australia but you can't run away from yourself

00:05:31.460 yeah you know what that's right that's true because i caught myself crying in a new city

00:05:36.100 about the same shit sorry ish have you been to therapy yeah is it a is it a male or a female 0.82

00:05:42.900 therapist it's a male oh wow yeah no luck he's amazing no honestly i'm just happy he would

00:05:49.860 know he's he's so he's so sad about it i'm still yeah but how do you turn that off like

00:05:58.020 you need acceptance first you need to accept that it's happening you need to accept how you're feeling

00:06:02.180 i have accepted it it's just because i'm speaking about it on a public platform do you still like look

00:06:06.980 up his social media stuff i tell you from the day that i broke up with him i've never stalked him

00:06:11.460 i'm too proud i would never do that are you still having counseling i don't want to answer that okay

00:06:17.940 but you're right there is more work to be done i'm aware of that it's just because for me to come on

00:06:23.060 a public platform and speak about it it's like quite raw for me still do you know what it is sometimes

00:06:28.100 when you're not ready yourself the universe just keeps giving you the same person in different forms

00:06:33.220 that's so true you're attracting the same kind to yourself so you need to be alone and happy within

00:06:40.260 yourself and then something that you obviously think is for you and good for you will come but

00:06:46.660 you're not ready so that's why the world isn't bringing you someone i don't think right now your

00:06:51.540 subconscious is just is saying actually i need to be back in something i need to have that no because

00:06:57.060 i wasn't even looking for that i do i love being single and i really love it i said her subconscious

00:07:03.540 no because i wasn't looking for him i was walking down the street minding my own business

00:07:07.780 to go meet you at the bar because i enjoyed his company i'm in australia you're just contradicting

00:07:12.820 yourself like how did you know his company by him just saying hi though do you know what i mean

00:07:17.700 because i felt good in his presence and i'm in a new city and across in the night you know that that

00:07:23.300 feeling that you felt that safe feeling yeah did you have that with this the last person who was your

00:07:27.460 friend and you just had that feeling and you was like oh i like this yeah yeah so you haven't actually

00:07:32.820 gotten over that yeah no you're right that that same feeling that same kick that you got from the

00:07:37.780 last one you're still getting from this you know it sounds like you're addicted to that feeling yeah

00:07:42.180 you know what you're probably right can i ask you can choose not to answer yeah yeah quite personal but

00:07:47.460 before both of these have you suffered with stuff within yourself and then you're kind of using these

00:07:54.500 yeah to patch that up yeah okay probably most likely but that's the first step is acknowledgement yeah

00:08:05.060 okay where were we in the room with the money question okay go ahead if my man was making um

00:08:14.740 less than me um yeah yeah significantly less now i was earning more he would still be my man probably it

00:08:23.620 doesn't really matter to me i love the person for the person if it stopped me from doing things and

00:08:30.340 living the life that i wanted to live then i'm not with the right person if i love someone i love them

00:08:34.660 for them i'm not really materialistic about stuff like that is there a minimum what figure yeah i mean

00:08:40.740 because let's be honest let's be honest if he's unemployed for two years you're out yeah probably and i hope you

00:08:48.820 would be yeah if he's unemployed for two years i'm out so so there has to be like a minimum what would

00:08:53.700 you roughly say it is i couldn't i don't know what people earn and not shift work i couldn't tell you

00:08:59.860 how much you'd like him to bring him a movie for a month not shift work like what would you like him

00:09:04.020 to bring him a month yeah in a month two grand three grand four grand remember you you listen if he says

00:09:12.020 quit whatever whatever the amount that sustains us to like be happy but i don't need like big flashy

00:09:18.580 things to be happy you'd be happy to live in the caravan

00:09:23.700 i guess what about what about the box on the corner over here there's someone there's there's

00:09:29.220 like a couple people in these boxes over there but you're down there in it yeah yeah

00:09:33.300 like literally there's a homeless shelter down the road they got this box out in the roads i've seen

00:09:38.420 i don't think i could but money doesn't determine like the person for me if that makes sense

00:09:45.140 i don't know if that answers your question no it doesn't no there's no minimum like come on no

00:09:52.100 minimum i don't know if things like that i don't know what people earn for you what like to take it

00:09:57.620 to have all your necessities met do you live on your own yeah i live on my own okay so you know

00:10:04.420 what it takes to sustain yeah do you want him to be a provider basically because if you do you know

00:10:10.900 you have to know your minimum surely surely unless you don't mind providing for yourself then it

00:10:16.740 doesn't matter at all yeah can we not come together was that not an option i thought you just said he's

00:10:23.780 earning less than me yeah so i i'm i'm saying at what point do you respect his decision making

00:10:30.260 so like if he said quit your job tomorrow i have a plan i'll listen but if he's a bum and hasn't 0.94

00:10:35.380 worked in two years why the hell would you do that yeah i would definitely not listen so so there's a

00:10:39.540 minimum point right yeah there's a minimum point where and it doesn't have to be exact you know just

00:10:44.740 just a rough figure where you would listen to what he says

00:10:47.300 i wanted to see i couldn't tell you i couldn't tell you i forgot okay what about

00:10:55.620 30 30 000 pounds would you listen is that the minimum people earn in the uk just go off like

00:11:01.780 what it takes to sustain yourself and then could you live on a thousand pound a month if he's bringing

00:11:06.820 in like between three and four thousand three and four thousand i think yeah that's fine a year no a month

00:11:13.700 oh yeah that's nice that's fine it's more than nice or something i like it yeah okay um what about you would

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JustPearlyThings - March 22, 2023

This Modern Woman Could NOT Answer This QUESTION

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