This Modern Woman Got Hit With REALITY Check
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the importance of a family unit and the impact it has had on society. We also discuss the difference between having a family and a career and how it has impacted society in the past and present.
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girls can we admit something can we just admit something let's just admit something yeah
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you girls would rather have someone that's important to not important easy as yes or no
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yeah of course yeah that's it easy as but being important doesn't mean money though
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what does it mean then who you are as an individual who you are cool let's say a homeless guy who
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you are who he is yeah so you rather sleep with a homeless guy rather like thinking about who he is
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i think i see what you're saying but it's not just would you sleep with a homeless person
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because she was a virgin it's not the same thing bro well well it kind of is though it kind of is
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though no it's not i mean you know kind of like men prefer women that live with their parents
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so in a way that's it no i'm saying i mean i don't think they want to come on for girls homeless on
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the street she had to have made some bad life choices to get it is so hard to be homeless as
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of what you know how many women's shelters there are like you have no relatives that'll take you
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in no ex-boys it's always gonna be something yeah yeah but men like genuinely i've heard men talk
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about like they prefer women that live with their parents really they're not sure somebody's
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homeless yeah because think about it you're not doing as much madness if you're you got your dad's
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got to see it unless you got a weird i know some people got that weird relationship where their
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parents let them pearl do you think it's because of the dependability because if a woman is living
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with her parents she's more dependable and that transfers to moving in with a man and depending on
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him and submitting to him that's that you know that's the big difference like before the 20s
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before that was like when women first started to move out and have a period between living with
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their parents and living with their husband and that's when you see like the birth rates start to
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drop and marriage rates start to drop was actually in the 20s the 60s like accelerated it but it
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actually started in the 20s and so you know it's kind of i would say the evidence is clear that like
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careers may started kind of started the downfall of like women like the family unit to be honest
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i mean yeah 100 because obviously the woman's out of the house more so she can't be in two places at
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the same time of course and she can't have no because you can't have a family when you have a
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business of course you can it doesn't it's not gonna be easy but
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what's the point bro but there's so many women out there with that have businesses
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what don't you want to give your all to your family though what don't you want to give like
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100 of you your time your energy and love to your child the person that i am i know i could do both
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i don't care what anyone says i know i could do both i appreciate that it's not really like
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logical who's watching the kids you don't know when you're at work who's watching the kids so i mean
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when they're old enough they'll be in school obviously when they're younger they'll be in nursery
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when they're a baby i will be there all the time it's not until that they're at an age but business
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is cutthroat it is cutthroat if you don't if you're not so you can't just take five years off and then
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come back this is cutthroat yeah no of course because obviously every day there's new things
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coming in so you have to stay updated of course but the power of having this at my fingertip while i
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could also be catering for my child it's done i know people in real estate that will be at home with
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their kids but they're still doing business calls yeah and i and i think that's the problem to
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be honest i think that like i think it's the way you look at it though i i think we look at the
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outcomes what has that done for society is it made it better or worse like the family unit stronger
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or weaker it's made it weaker i mean my parents like that's why kids are so messed up now like you
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you have a mom that's paying attention to her business she's not paying attention to you
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so you live in the same household but you barely know her because she's spending all your time i don't
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agree with that and you're on your tablet and watching tv all day like why do you think all these kids
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come out with all this like god i'm so tired of hearing these women's like trauma like god my
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trauma for my child it's just yeah and it's just it's just like it doesn't lead to good outcomes yeah
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but i think it's a balance though i think if if you can balance having a business as having a kid
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100 but what do you think is more important to your child like do you i've already said that i think
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having a family is more important than my career because i need that i need that i don't need a career
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i want one because i know what i can offer and what i want to get out of the world but i need
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that family because without having a husband and kids you have to have i won't have any family because
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i've got family in australia i've got family in scotland i only have i haven't got any siblings so i
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won't have brothers and sisters growing up do you know what i mean oh that's very respectable i can't
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lie like the fact that you want the kids but a loving family that's respectable you know i'm saying
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and you'd rather choose a family over a job over a business if i had to make a choice yes i would
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choose a family okay but would you wait let me tell you something let me ask you something would you
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prefer a rich guy that you get married to you not even rich like just wealthy you know that can
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look after you that can look after your kids yeah or would you prefer to get married to the same
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rich guy have the kids but still run a business for no reason well it wouldn't be for no reason it
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would be for no reason because you're already set for yourself for life why do you need to
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but that's not me in my head being set for life relying on someone else because he could walk and
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leave him you could walk and leave him you could walk and leave him this is the propaganda that they
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that's scarcity and luck but this is where yeah this is the propaganda that they're always saying
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that you can't rely on men you always need a backup plan no you don't that is like it is okay to
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need a man to know that you can't live without him yeah then they they teach like i don't know why
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they have this like fear-mongering in women and they literally like it's it's propaganda sorry go
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ahead no it's gonna say i mean i i i haven't once said that i don't need a man because for to have a
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family i need a man obviously um but i just think women are so capable of doing things for themselves
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now that it's not that we don't need a man but we don't need to rely on a man i think that's the i think
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it's i think i love how modern women are i love how independent women are i love how powerful women are
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nowadays and i think it's so i think you should encourage women to want to do well for themselves
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i just think it's so inspiring when you see women doing what like the kardashians they have a family
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they take care of a family and and look at the outcomes like genuinely is it good north is twerking
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on tiktok i mean i don't agree with that right i don't know and now they're like kids and they're
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already exploiting the dog yeah and look at it look at what happened like when he picked the modern woman
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and you know i'll give kim her credit she's super successful yeah but look at look at what it's
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done to their family yeah she she divorced a billionaire like the top what one percent of
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men she divorced him and like how how selfish is that for the kids and that that's the problem is
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when we tell women like our feelings come first like that we translate that until we're children
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where we won't stick anything out for the sake of the kids i i do hear that but also say if my i mean
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my parents have been married for like 42 years they got married when they were 21 wow yeah that's
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amazing yeah i mean for that it's not very rare to still have parents that are still together as
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well they like each other they they love each other yeah they obviously they had their moments where
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they're bickering right you can see the love and your mom stayed right yeah yeah and that's that's
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they don't make women like that anymore yeah but if but from my perspective if i knew my mom was unhappy
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i wouldn't want her to stay you don't think in 42 years she was ever unhappy
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oh i mean i know i know that there's difficult times in marriage of course but again something
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worth having isn't easy yeah so so you would say there were times when she was unhappy
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and maybe not as a younger kid i wouldn't have noticed but right but now if if i saw that my mom
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was unhappy i would want her to leave and it was but it was better that oh my dad wouldn't you say
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it was better that she stayed because there were times that come on in 42 years we both know that
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at some point she was unhappy yeah there's no way you go through 42 years and like the person
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it's a choice right right there's times i love i love my my parents my siblings there are times when
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i hate them yeah but you love them right and so it's like this whole like we don't talk about duty
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responsibility uh legacy that we ruin all that when we focus on our happiness it's not like marriage is
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supposed to be selfless it's supposed it's supposed to be about their happiness not ours
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yeah i would like to add on to that because my grandmother was a traditional woman in a sense
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where she stayed at home her husband worked my grandfather and she stayed home and cooked and
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that's what she did my grandma's the same she was together with him for 20 30 years to the day she
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died of cancer right all right dude i was there i i seen the unhappiness i done seen the trials and
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tribulations for my grandmother and my grandfather i know she wasn't happy all the time but regardless
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of whether she was happy or not she stuck to her duty he went to work busted his ass came home and
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there was a cooked meal and she cooked for me and all my brothers and my grandfather and everything she
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stuck to duty regardless of her happiness because she was traditional in the sense that you know what's
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important is that i have a meal that's going to protect and provide for me and it's going to give me
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that security and he's always going to be there and what i have to provide as a woman is i'm going to
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give you a cooked meal i'm going to give you that loyalty i'm going to give you that sexual exclusivity
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and i'm going to be here and i think that women would get caught up in this whole happiness thing
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where it's like i got to be happy all the time and by all means like happiness is truly important
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but it's not the top priority when you enter that marriage it's like all right so what happens when
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you're 12 years in and you get unhappy and you're just not happy for like a month two months six months
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what you're just going to leave when you got a kid at home that's dependent on you and a family
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that's dependent on you you gotta stick it out i'm talking about my grandfather was there to the
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day my grandmother died through cancer were they necessarily happy at that end no but it was duty
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and i think that we prioritize happiness and independency over you know this this duty in marriage
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and it's really not about that because you know you do need a man you do need a man like what's wrong
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with needing a man like a man needs to feel needed like if you're in a relationship with a woman that
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you feel like she just doesn't need you like why am i with you like if you don't need me what am i
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with you for you need to feel needed as a man in some regard i'm not saying like every little aspect
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of your life as a man you don't got to be like i'm just saying just in general like she's someone
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you look to she he looks to you for guidance she looks to you for support when i'm confused when
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you're confused and frustrated and emotional and you're stressed out you go to him of course yeah
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because he's your best friend and he's more than that he's your everything yeah