JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023


This Modern Woman Got Hit With REALITY Check


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10 minutes

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Word count

2,388

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

26

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Hate speech

7

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of a family unit and the impact it has had on society. We also discuss the difference between having a family and a career and how it has impacted society in the past and present.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 girls can we admit something can we just admit something let's just admit something yeah
00:00:02.880 you girls would rather have someone that's important to not important easy as yes or no 1.00
00:00:08.380 yeah of course yeah that's it easy as but being important doesn't mean money though
00:00:12.600 what does it mean then who you are as an individual who you are cool let's say a homeless guy who
00:00:16.760 you are who he is yeah so you rather sleep with a homeless guy rather like thinking about who he is
00:00:21.660 i think i see what you're saying but it's not just would you sleep with a homeless person
00:00:27.780 because she was a virgin it's not the same thing bro well well it kind of is though it kind of is
00:00:33.080 though no it's not i mean you know kind of like men prefer women that live with their parents
00:00:38.160 so in a way that's it no i'm saying i mean i don't think they want to come on for girls homeless on
00:00:43.400 the street she had to have made some bad life choices to get it is so hard to be homeless as
00:00:47.740 of what you know how many women's shelters there are like you have no relatives that'll take you 1.00
00:00:52.220 in no ex-boys it's always gonna be something yeah yeah but men like genuinely i've heard men talk
00:00:56.800 about like they prefer women that live with their parents really they're not sure somebody's
00:01:01.340 homeless yeah because think about it you're not doing as much madness if you're you got your dad's
00:01:05.640 got to see it unless you got a weird i know some people got that weird relationship where their
00:01:10.220 parents let them pearl do you think it's because of the dependability because if a woman is living 1.00
00:01:16.000 with her parents she's more dependable and that transfers to moving in with a man and depending on 0.99
00:01:21.460 him and submitting to him that's that you know that's the big difference like before the 20s
00:01:25.240 before that was like when women first started to move out and have a period between living with 1.00
00:01:30.080 their parents and living with their husband and that's when you see like the birth rates start to
00:01:34.820 drop and marriage rates start to drop was actually in the 20s the 60s like accelerated it but it
00:01:39.400 actually started in the 20s and so you know it's kind of i would say the evidence is clear that like
00:01:45.220 careers may started kind of started the downfall of like women like the family unit to be honest 1.00
00:01:52.880 i mean yeah 100 because obviously the woman's out of the house more so she can't be in two places at 1.00
00:01:59.380 the same time of course and she can't have no because you can't have a family when you have a 0.89
00:02:03.620 business of course you can it doesn't it's not gonna be easy but
00:02:06.640 what's the point bro but there's so many women out there with that have businesses 1.00
00:02:12.220 what don't you want to give your all to your family though what don't you want to give like
00:02:16.340 100 of you your time your energy and love to your child the person that i am i know i could do both
00:02:22.220 i don't care what anyone says i know i could do both i appreciate that it's not really like
00:02:27.100 logical who's watching the kids you don't know when you're at work who's watching the kids so i mean
00:02:32.160 when they're old enough they'll be in school obviously when they're younger they'll be in nursery
00:02:35.920 when they're a baby i will be there all the time it's not until that they're at an age but business
00:02:41.260 is cutthroat it is cutthroat if you don't if you're not so you can't just take five years off and then
00:02:46.900 come back this is cutthroat yeah no of course because obviously every day there's new things
00:02:51.160 coming in so you have to stay updated of course but the power of having this at my fingertip while i
00:02:57.020 could also be catering for my child it's done i know people in real estate that will be at home with
00:03:02.160 their kids but they're still doing business calls yeah and i and i think that's the problem to
00:03:05.860 be honest i think that like i think it's the way you look at it though i i think we look at the
00:03:09.900 outcomes what has that done for society is it made it better or worse like the family unit stronger
00:03:14.980 or weaker it's made it weaker i mean my parents like that's why kids are so messed up now like you
00:03:20.600 you have a mom that's paying attention to her business she's not paying attention to you 1.00
00:03:24.260 so you live in the same household but you barely know her because she's spending all your time i don't 1.00
00:03:28.060 agree with that and you're on your tablet and watching tv all day like why do you think all these kids
00:03:31.980 come out with all this like god i'm so tired of hearing these women's like trauma like god my 1.00
00:03:36.280 trauma for my child it's just yeah and it's just it's just like it doesn't lead to good outcomes yeah
00:03:41.800 but i think it's a balance though i think if if you can balance having a business as having a kid
00:03:47.220 100 but what do you think is more important to your child like do you i've already said that i think
00:03:51.980 having a family is more important than my career because i need that i need that i don't need a career
00:03:57.800 i want one because i know what i can offer and what i want to get out of the world but i need
00:04:03.540 that family because without having a husband and kids you have to have i won't have any family because
00:04:08.320 i've got family in australia i've got family in scotland i only have i haven't got any siblings so i
00:04:12.700 won't have brothers and sisters growing up do you know what i mean oh that's very respectable i can't
00:04:17.300 lie like the fact that you want the kids but a loving family that's respectable you know i'm saying
00:04:21.860 and you'd rather choose a family over a job over a business if i had to make a choice yes i would
00:04:28.360 choose a family okay but would you wait let me tell you something let me ask you something would you
00:04:32.480 prefer a rich guy that you get married to you not even rich like just wealthy you know that can 0.95
00:04:36.940 look after you that can look after your kids yeah or would you prefer to get married to the same 0.99
00:04:42.620 rich guy have the kids but still run a business for no reason well it wouldn't be for no reason it 0.86
00:04:47.840 would be for no reason because you're already set for yourself for life why do you need to
00:04:50.880 but that's not me in my head being set for life relying on someone else because he could walk and
00:04:55.920 leave him you could walk and leave him you could walk and leave him this is the propaganda that they
00:05:01.380 that's scarcity and luck but this is where yeah this is the propaganda that they're always saying
00:05:05.180 that you can't rely on men you always need a backup plan no you don't that is like it is okay to
00:05:11.220 need a man to know that you can't live without him yeah then they they teach like i don't know why
00:05:16.140 they have this like fear-mongering in women and they literally like it's it's propaganda sorry go 1.00
00:05:21.800 ahead no it's gonna say i mean i i i haven't once said that i don't need a man because for to have a
00:05:27.380 family i need a man obviously um but i just think women are so capable of doing things for themselves 1.00
00:05:33.900 now that it's not that we don't need a man but we don't need to rely on a man i think that's the i think
00:05:40.140 it's i think i love how modern women are i love how independent women are i love how powerful women are 0.99
00:05:46.000 nowadays and i think it's so i think you should encourage women to want to do well for themselves
00:05:51.000 i just think it's so inspiring when you see women doing what like the kardashians they have a family
00:05:57.380 they take care of a family and and look at the outcomes like genuinely is it good north is twerking
00:06:03.880 on tiktok i mean i don't agree with that right i don't know and now they're like kids and they're
00:06:08.180 already exploiting the dog yeah and look at it look at what happened like when he picked the modern woman 1.00
00:06:13.920 and you know i'll give kim her credit she's super successful yeah but look at look at what it's
00:06:19.200 done to their family yeah she she divorced a billionaire like the top what one percent of 1.00
00:06:24.800 men she divorced him and like how how selfish is that for the kids and that that's the problem is 1.00
00:06:30.480 when we tell women like our feelings come first like that we translate that until we're children 0.54
00:06:35.320 where we won't stick anything out for the sake of the kids i i do hear that but also say if my i mean
00:06:42.180 my parents have been married for like 42 years they got married when they were 21 wow yeah that's
00:06:46.840 amazing yeah i mean for that it's not very rare to still have parents that are still together as
00:06:51.020 well they like each other they they love each other yeah they obviously they had their moments where
00:06:55.700 they're bickering right you can see the love and your mom stayed right yeah yeah and that's that's
00:07:00.320 they don't make women like that anymore yeah but if but from my perspective if i knew my mom was unhappy 1.00
00:07:05.660 i wouldn't want her to stay you don't think in 42 years she was ever unhappy
00:07:09.680 oh i mean i know i know that there's difficult times in marriage of course but again something
00:07:15.760 worth having isn't easy yeah so so you would say there were times when she was unhappy 0.69
00:07:19.780 and maybe not as a younger kid i wouldn't have noticed but right but now if if i saw that my mom
00:07:26.020 was unhappy i would want her to leave and it was but it was better that oh my dad wouldn't you say
00:07:30.240 it was better that she stayed because there were times that come on in 42 years we both know that
00:07:34.820 at some point she was unhappy yeah there's no way you go through 42 years and like the person
00:07:40.020 it's a choice right right there's times i love i love my my parents my siblings there are times when
00:07:45.920 i hate them yeah but you love them right and so it's like this whole like we don't talk about duty
00:07:52.020 responsibility uh legacy that we ruin all that when we focus on our happiness it's not like marriage is
00:07:58.440 supposed to be selfless it's supposed it's supposed to be about their happiness not ours
00:08:02.100 yeah i would like to add on to that because my grandmother was a traditional woman in a sense
00:08:08.420 where she stayed at home her husband worked my grandfather and she stayed home and cooked and 1.00
00:08:15.260 that's what she did my grandma's the same she was together with him for 20 30 years to the day she 0.99
00:08:20.540 died of cancer right all right dude i was there i i seen the unhappiness i done seen the trials and
00:08:28.580 tribulations for my grandmother and my grandfather i know she wasn't happy all the time but regardless
00:08:35.000 of whether she was happy or not she stuck to her duty he went to work busted his ass came home and 0.94
00:08:41.020 there was a cooked meal and she cooked for me and all my brothers and my grandfather and everything she
00:08:46.740 stuck to duty regardless of her happiness because she was traditional in the sense that you know what's
00:08:51.920 important is that i have a meal that's going to protect and provide for me and it's going to give me
00:08:55.660 that security and he's always going to be there and what i have to provide as a woman is i'm going to
00:08:59.500 give you a cooked meal i'm going to give you that loyalty i'm going to give you that sexual exclusivity
00:09:02.960 and i'm going to be here and i think that women would get caught up in this whole happiness thing 1.00
00:09:08.740 where it's like i got to be happy all the time and by all means like happiness is truly important
00:09:12.920 but it's not the top priority when you enter that marriage it's like all right so what happens when
00:09:17.840 you're 12 years in and you get unhappy and you're just not happy for like a month two months six months
00:09:23.000 what you're just going to leave when you got a kid at home that's dependent on you and a family
00:09:26.700 that's dependent on you you gotta stick it out i'm talking about my grandfather was there to the
00:09:30.320 day my grandmother died through cancer were they necessarily happy at that end no but it was duty
00:09:38.140 and i think that we prioritize happiness and independency over you know this this duty in marriage
00:09:43.600 and it's really not about that because you know you do need a man you do need a man like what's wrong
00:09:50.640 with needing a man like a man needs to feel needed like if you're in a relationship with a woman that
00:09:54.660 you feel like she just doesn't need you like why am i with you like if you don't need me what am i
00:10:00.200 with you for you need to feel needed as a man in some regard i'm not saying like every little aspect
00:10:05.300 of your life as a man you don't got to be like i'm just saying just in general like she's someone
00:10:09.060 you look to she he looks to you for guidance she looks to you for support when i'm confused when
00:10:14.180 you're confused and frustrated and emotional and you're stressed out you go to him of course yeah
00:10:18.900 because he's your best friend and he's more than that he's your everything yeah