JustPearlyThings - March 24, 2023


This Modern Woman GOT Put In Her PLACE


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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

215.81474

Word count

2,218

Sentence count

227

Harmful content

Misogyny

45

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Hate speech

27

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Summary

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In this episode we talk about how much money a man should spend on a woman and how much he should not spend on her. We also talk about the importance of being a better man and how to get women without all the money.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 When you go out and you can spend a bag and buy a bottle,
00:00:03.020 you're that guy now.
00:00:04.000 No, but do you know what?
00:00:05.340 Do you know what?
00:00:06.000 If I've got 30 racks and I spend one on a random girl, 0.99
00:00:12.580 I don't know.
00:00:12.920 I could be a...
00:00:14.240 Hang on, wait, wait, wait.
00:00:15.780 Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:00:18.180 Okay, this is a warning.
00:00:19.820 Stop.
00:00:20.180 You can't be over-talking the host.
00:00:21.880 It's ruining the show.
00:00:23.020 The chat is picking up on it.
00:00:24.220 You cannot be over-talking the host.
00:00:25.540 I could be a multi-millionaire, right?
00:00:28.120 But if I don't know you,
00:00:30.760 I have no obligation to be spending hundreds, thousands on you, right?
00:00:36.120 The problem is in this generation when we're talking about simping,
00:00:39.620 there are guys that are multi-millionaires,
00:00:41.800 or maybe not even multi.
00:00:42.640 They just got a little bit of money.
00:00:44.260 And what they feel like doing, and it's for me,
00:00:47.160 is like this shows men do not know how to get women without resources, right?
00:00:54.160 They feel like their resources can get women, right? 0.99
00:00:58.120 And a lot of the time, it can, because women love money. 1.00
00:01:01.100 Women like shiny things, right? 1.00
00:01:03.000 But if men understand, if you learn to focus on yourself
00:01:06.880 and understand how to get women without resources,
00:01:10.840 when you have the resources, you understand that those resources,
00:01:14.260 regardless of whether you have them or not, it doesn't matter.
00:01:17.220 You can still get women. 0.99
00:01:18.400 But what has happened in this society,
00:01:20.300 a man will have a watch on his hand, right?
00:01:22.360 He'll have a chain on his neck, right?
00:01:24.000 He'll be at the club, he'll buy multiple bottles,
00:01:26.240 and he thinks, okay, cool, I'm going to get some women.
00:01:29.240 I'm going to tell you, bro, stop doing that,
00:01:31.840 because the bottom line is those women that you're trying to attract 0.54
00:01:34.780 do not give a damn about you. 0.93
00:01:37.160 Yeah, but then maybe he don't give a damn anymore.
00:01:39.680 That's what I'm trying to say.
00:01:40.660 If I've got a fortune of, say, like, say I've got 50 racks.
00:01:44.240 Now, say I blow one rack on girls in the club. 1.00
00:01:47.640 That doesn't make a dent in what I have.
00:01:49.760 But you look like the guy that's spending money.
00:01:53.080 So just because you've still spent enough to make you look like the guy,
00:01:56.940 but not enough to dent, like, your value, your financial value.
00:02:01.120 But that's what I'm saying.
00:02:01.700 That's the culture today that you, it has to be a cap to it.
00:02:05.200 There has to be a cap to how much you spend on this random girl in the club 0.67
00:02:08.720 to make you look like the man, but not the simp.
00:02:11.360 But the thing is, let me, let me, go on.
00:02:12.700 I have a question for the girls.
00:02:14.680 If you really like a guy, does it matter how much he spends on you?
00:02:17.980 Like, if you really, if you, if you really, really like a guy,
00:02:21.080 coffee date.
00:02:21.600 Not at all.
00:02:23.300 No, I believe that when I like a guy, I just, I care about his presence,
00:02:29.340 how he treats me, how he talks to me, these things.
00:02:32.960 Obviously, as a girl, you do like the finer things in life or whatnot,
00:02:38.240 but it's not what matters the most.
00:02:40.500 For me personally, anyways.
00:02:42.040 Money is easy.
00:02:42.960 If you have, if I have a million pound in the bank
00:02:45.280 and I give you a thousand pound, that's easy.
00:02:47.980 If I have 50 pound in my account and I give you 20, that means more.
00:02:51.480 But this is the problem though.
00:02:52.620 People think because you have money, you're that guy.
00:02:54.660 You're not that guy because you have money.
00:02:56.180 Anyone can make money.
00:02:56.960 I can make money.
00:02:57.660 But the thing is, you know what makes you that guy?
00:02:58.740 The way you carry yourself makes you that guy.
00:03:01.380 It's got nothing to do with money.
00:03:02.620 Because you can go and spend a thousand pound on a female, 0.99
00:03:05.540 but the way you carry yourself makes you that guy.
00:03:07.860 Do you get it?
00:03:08.300 Because then she can respect you even more by how you present yourself.
00:03:12.120 Because you can go to a chicken shop date, whatever, a chicken shop.
00:03:15.560 Get her chicken. 1.00
00:03:16.200 And you mentioned the word there.
00:03:17.700 I mentioned the word there called respect.
00:03:19.940 And the thing is, is that if a woman respects you,
00:03:23.640 it doesn't matter how much money you have.
00:03:25.000 Facts.
00:03:25.480 It doesn't matter how much money you don't have.
00:03:27.320 We've all been with broke guys here.
00:03:28.980 Let's be real.
00:03:29.340 If she respects you as a man because you show that you are a man,
00:03:34.400 you don't have to simp.
00:03:35.880 Your money don't mean anything.
00:03:37.300 Can I just say something, please?
00:03:38.900 Yeah, go on, bro.
00:03:40.580 For some guys, simping to them is not simping.
00:03:45.000 It's fishing, right?
00:03:46.680 So let's say I see this girl.
00:03:49.100 I want to get her, right?
00:03:50.360 But I know she's into money.
00:03:52.200 She's into going, you know, buying her flashy things
00:03:54.460 and spending money on her.
00:03:55.720 That's what's going to get me to be with her
00:03:59.160 or to sleep with her, right?
00:04:01.140 So for me, I wouldn't worry about all the money
00:04:04.120 that I'm spending or everything that I'm doing for her.
00:04:07.320 In the long run, I just see the bigger picture.
00:04:10.220 Can I say something?
00:04:11.360 Hang on.
00:04:11.880 Get her into bed, right?
00:04:14.320 So for men, for some men, simping is not simping.
00:04:19.940 So hang on.
00:04:21.460 I feel like simping is a really brilliant word.
00:04:23.480 Ladies, one second. 1.00
00:04:24.240 So what you're saying is that she's a prostitute? 0.88
00:04:26.480 No.
00:04:27.100 No.
00:04:27.860 Technically.
00:04:28.380 Technically.
00:04:29.180 No, that's not what I'm saying.
00:04:30.460 That's not what I'm saying.
00:04:31.660 That's not what I'm saying.
00:04:32.800 What I see is to get her into bed, right?
00:04:36.160 You spend money on her.
00:04:38.860 Hang on, wait.
00:04:39.620 So what you're saying is you spend money on a woman 0.99
00:04:41.400 to get her into bed?
00:04:42.760 But do you know what the douchebag is?
00:04:43.500 Is that not prostitution? 1.00
00:04:44.900 You're a douchebag. 0.96
00:04:45.680 No.
00:04:46.280 In essence.
00:04:47.160 No, I'm not saying...
00:04:47.880 Because you're being that nice guy
00:04:49.200 because you want something from her.
00:04:50.900 No, no.
00:04:51.440 Let me get to the point.
00:04:52.120 No.
00:04:52.380 Do you know what the difference is?
00:04:53.280 No, let me get to the point.
00:04:53.560 One at a time, let him speak it.
00:04:54.780 Let me get to the point.
00:04:55.980 If I know,
00:04:57.540 if I know you are more likely to be impressed
00:05:01.300 if I pull up on your driveway with a bench, right?
00:05:05.540 Right.
00:05:06.060 I'll go and rent that bench
00:05:07.580 to pull up...
00:05:09.280 to come to get you.
00:05:11.380 Yeah, but the thing is...
00:05:12.200 No, no.
00:05:12.820 But let me get to the point.
00:05:13.920 Sorry, God.
00:05:14.200 Women like flashy things, right? 1.00
00:05:16.320 If I know,
00:05:17.240 if I go out,
00:05:18.840 if I pop two bottles,
00:05:20.580 three bottles,
00:05:21.120 or if I go out with a bench,
00:05:23.420 I'm definitely going home with a girl, 1.00
00:05:25.780 then I'm fucking... 0.57
00:05:27.000 I'm doing it.
00:05:27.540 Yeah, but let me tell you something.
00:05:28.520 But that's an investment.
00:05:29.320 But let me tell you as a man.
00:05:30.560 I just feel like
00:05:31.160 if you really like the guy,
00:05:33.260 it doesn't matter.
00:05:34.100 It doesn't matter.
00:05:34.700 That's what I'm saying.
00:05:35.480 But then let me just...
00:05:36.760 In my 20s,
00:05:37.680 I'm 41 now, right?
00:05:38.680 But in my 20s,
00:05:39.520 when I was going out,
00:05:40.740 I could go out
00:05:41.720 without a bench.
00:05:43.340 True.
00:05:43.960 And come back with a woman. 0.99
00:05:45.080 True.
00:05:45.380 Times are different.
00:05:45.980 Do you know why?
00:05:46.500 But do you know why?
00:05:47.400 Why?
00:05:47.720 Because I knew how to talk to women. 1.00
00:05:49.860 Because that's...
00:05:50.400 And I knew...
00:05:51.020 And the thing is,
00:05:52.960 the problem now is,
00:05:54.580 the problem now is,
00:05:55.980 guys don't understand
00:05:57.100 how to interact with women. 0.95
00:05:59.080 Sorry.
00:06:00.160 No, I think...
00:06:00.640 I've got a cold.
00:06:01.280 Guys don't know how to interact with women. 1.00
00:06:03.300 Oh.
00:06:03.880 Hang on.
00:06:04.420 Mm-hmm.
00:06:04.640 So they're money.
00:06:07.980 Some of them speak.
00:06:09.280 I think today's...
00:06:10.220 Can I say something to that?
00:06:12.540 I think today's society of women 0.67
00:06:14.660 expect more.
00:06:15.960 I don't think it's the fact
00:06:17.060 that guys don't know
00:06:17.920 how to speak to women.
00:06:18.660 No, let me say something.
00:06:19.380 Women expect more? 1.00
00:06:20.540 Wait, like...
00:06:21.200 I know certain goals
00:06:22.600 that if a guy is nice,
00:06:24.420 they come up to them,
00:06:25.240 they've got a nice approach,
00:06:26.360 they've got a good energy,
00:06:28.000 and they're not taking them a shard,
00:06:29.320 they're not going.
00:06:30.760 Persie, I don't understand that concept.
00:06:31.920 No, I agree with you.
00:06:33.760 Women expect more 1.00
00:06:34.840 and they offer less.
00:06:36.200 We offer less than ever.
00:06:37.060 But do you know what I think it is?
00:06:38.520 But that's how women are, though. 1.00
00:06:40.200 Yeah.
00:06:40.540 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:41.540 But you've got to be like that.
00:06:42.580 You've got to expect more
00:06:43.400 because you know what you want from a guy
00:06:45.920 and you have to, as a guy,
00:06:48.080 if a guy comes into your life
00:06:49.360 and he's trying to get to know you
00:06:50.620 and you have a certain expectation
00:06:52.220 of that guy,
00:06:52.900 if he doesn't reach that expectation,
00:06:54.280 you're going to be like...
00:06:54.660 I didn't mean like offer less
00:06:56.500 in terms of like compared to him.
00:06:58.500 I'm saying like in all of human history.
00:07:00.360 Yeah, that's true.
00:07:00.680 Like women bring less to the table nowadays 1.00
00:07:02.420 in terms of women. 1.00
00:07:03.440 Do you know why?
00:07:03.980 Do you know why?
00:07:04.900 No, no, no.
00:07:06.000 Listen, women are at the table, my guy. 1.00
00:07:08.360 How are women at the table 1.00
00:07:10.000 when pretty is common?
00:07:11.340 No, no, no, no.
00:07:12.000 I'm not saying...
00:07:12.620 I'm not saying as in pretty.
00:07:14.260 Guys, guys, guys, guys.
00:07:15.320 One at a time.
00:07:15.880 Go ahead.
00:07:16.340 Go ahead, then you.
00:07:16.860 I'm not saying as in pretty
00:07:18.260 because anyone could be pretty.
00:07:19.580 You could go and get plastic surgery
00:07:20.640 and be a fucking pretty bitch. 1.00
00:07:21.820 Do you know what I mean?
00:07:22.540 Yeah, but for me...
00:07:24.120 You guys can tell.
00:07:24.780 I ain't going to come at you
00:07:25.580 dealing with you.
00:07:26.080 That's true, but as a woman...
00:07:26.880 I feel like it all comes down to like
00:07:28.580 women and men provide different things. 1.00
00:07:31.220 So like as a woman, 0.96
00:07:33.580 you provide...
00:07:34.460 I don't know.
00:07:34.900 Obviously, everyone's got their own mindsets,
00:07:36.900 but men provide like... 0.99
00:07:38.820 They are providers as...
00:07:40.340 Where women, they like... 1.00
00:07:42.280 They cook.
00:07:43.280 They look after the children.
00:07:44.960 They clean.
00:07:45.360 How many women... 1.00
00:07:46.840 How many women really cook and clean? 1.00
00:07:48.560 It's automated nowadays.
00:07:49.560 No, there is.
00:07:50.260 I mean, there is.
00:07:51.540 It depends on where you're looking.
00:07:53.020 I think the difference is.
00:07:54.980 If you're going for City Girl,
00:07:56.440 she's never going to go cook for you. 1.00
00:07:58.140 She's going to clean for you. 1.00
00:07:58.980 She's not going to take care of the kids. 1.00
00:08:00.260 She's not going to do anything
00:08:01.220 that you look for in a woman. 0.95
00:08:03.160 But if you go for a respectful woman, 0.99
00:08:04.720 a woman that's been raised right in a family, 0.79
00:08:06.940 her family's taught her good manners
00:08:08.500 and everything,
00:08:09.380 you're going to get everything that you want.
00:08:11.500 But a man...
00:08:11.840 I agree, but there's not as many of those.
00:08:13.680 That's true.
00:08:14.700 That's true.
00:08:15.440 That's very true.
00:08:16.160 But that's because of society nowadays.
00:08:18.440 I would say it's...
00:08:19.700 The average age of first marriage
00:08:20.900 is 31 in the UK.
00:08:23.040 But that's the UK though.
00:08:24.540 You're right.
00:08:25.040 It's 27, 28.
00:08:26.080 It's like 35 in Ireland.
00:08:27.560 Like it's in the West.
00:08:28.520 It's an epidemic basically.
00:08:29.940 But everyone in the UK is from different cultures.
00:08:31.380 How many bodies does a girl have by 31, 35, 28? 1.00
00:08:35.180 And I'm saying like people used to marry...
00:08:37.240 Men used to know they could provide for a girl 1.00
00:08:38.840 and get a young virgin. 1.00
00:08:39.940 They can't get that anymore.
00:08:41.220 Do you know why I think women need to kind of have 1.00
00:08:43.840 a higher standard than men?
00:08:45.760 Because you see if I'm a girl
00:08:46.960 and I meet a guy,
00:08:47.920 my standard's the subpar.
00:08:49.400 I sleep with him.
00:08:51.020 Doesn't work out.
00:08:52.260 Happens again, happens again.
00:08:53.380 When my body count gets to a certain level,
00:08:55.900 I'm seen as a hoe.
00:08:56.940 I'm seen as...
00:08:57.360 You can't wife that. 1.00
00:08:58.400 But a guy could have double, triple my body count
00:09:00.900 and it doesn't devalue him.
00:09:02.420 So I feel like...
00:09:03.480 We have to have a higher standard
00:09:08.520 because if we don't
00:09:10.200 and we act like men...
00:09:11.360 When I say guys can do it,
00:09:13.500 that's not getting me no brownie points.
00:09:15.280 I'm still a hoe. 0.77
00:09:15.940 But wouldn't it make more sense
00:09:17.700 to ask those guys what it was?
00:09:20.120 But guys just lie.
00:09:21.880 I'm saying like...
00:09:23.060 Ask the men what they want 0.70
00:09:25.000 and try to be more of what they want.
00:09:26.620 No, because guys...
00:09:27.260 This is my point.
00:09:28.080 Like he said,
00:09:28.580 when a girl wants a Benz, 0.99
00:09:30.600 a guy will say he'll go rent a Benz.
00:09:32.820 This is what...
00:09:33.780 Guys love the chase.
00:09:35.280 Guys love the chase.
00:09:36.280 Guys that aren't ready to settle down
00:09:37.840 love the chase.
00:09:38.440 Guys love the chase.
00:09:39.420 Guys that aren't actually looking to settle down,
00:09:42.220 they love the chase.
00:09:42.860 Guys that actually are looking for something serious.
00:09:44.460 But you see the differences.
00:09:45.520 I've talked to men like...
00:09:46.580 I've talked to men like successful, attractive men
00:09:49.400 like where I'm looking to matchmake them
00:09:51.360 and they're not really into the game
00:09:53.000 if they're looking for a wife.
00:09:55.420 But the key is a lot of times
00:09:57.140 like we date guys our age,
00:09:58.320 they're not looking for a wife. 0.66
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