JustPearlyThings - This Modern Woman Said THIS

00:00:00.000 do you think feminism has made us better women overall do you know what following here in your 0.95

00:00:05.840 stats and even seeing that muzzle um i still have my views on feminism but i would say that it has 1.00

00:00:12.080 played a huge part in um assisting women you know with getting a better quality of life getting more

00:00:19.760 equality because it obviously at some point there was a lot of oppression and i don't think it was

00:00:25.360 treatment i don't think it was oppression ever yeah um i believe so and um i believe that

00:00:32.480 you know to a certain point that it's assisted with like just creating a better space letting

00:00:37.440 getting our voices heard because like it's all well saying that we don't agree with a lot of

00:00:42.480 the things that the feminists say today the reason why i don't agree with them is because they're 1.00

00:00:46.960 taking it too far and like the definition is being lost of independence and what it is to be an

00:00:53.360 independent woman and person but as far as feminism and what the people were doing to make the change 1.00

00:00:59.920 and the changes i think that to a certain extent they are doing a good thing because it is important

00:01:05.520 that we have a diverse you know diverse people and voices on the tables like you've got a diverse panel

00:01:12.320 you know so it's important that we can get a male's opinion you know so all voices all cultures are very

00:01:18.720 important in order for us to breed greater innovation for us and breed better humans even

00:01:24.400 our children and a better future you know for us all to have that growth i think the premise that men

00:01:29.360 and women can be equal i think is wrong i think men are yeah but there's equal to what extent you know

00:01:34.880 so obviously if you're talking in the sense of relationships then obviously we can go to traditions

00:01:40.720 and cultures there's a few different factors that we can find out if we want to look at it in that way

00:01:45.920 but so i do agree that there is roles within the home i'm very traditional in that way i agree with

00:01:52.560 a lot of the things that um not i don't agree with all of the things before no muzzle i kind of liked the

00:01:57.840 muzzle you see i'm very um i like i do agree you know that um again i'm all for diversity i think voices

00:02:06.160 do need to be heard but there's respect as well and um a muzzle is very disrespectful it was only used

00:02:13.200 it was only used for extreme women you've seen those women that are berating their husbands in 1.00

00:02:18.240 public that that make their husband's lives a living hell it wasn't yeah but then that's down 1.00

00:02:23.360 to how that woman was brought up and then that's down for the man as an individual to say that's

00:02:28.480 not the kind of woman i want to be with well you were forced to be married back then so to me i was

00:02:33.920 like i'm not saying we should bring back the i'm kind of joking but but my my thing is i kind of

00:02:39.520 understand it because they were forced in this marriage he's married to a wicked wife it's like

00:02:44.720 women don't talk about so like social abuse or verbal abuse women can be very verbally abusive 1.00

00:02:51.120 and women are equally abusive as men you get and with men that go through domestic violence and

00:02:56.320 because of women as well so it can work both ways and again maybe it doesn't get discussed as much 1.00

00:03:02.400 because obviously in today's culture today's culture everything has been changed so feminism 0.86

00:03:09.440 has actually brought and changed laws whereas imagine if women that were a lot of women were 1.00

00:03:14.240 getting domestically abused and nothing was getting done about it because their voices weren't being

00:03:18.800 heard there wasn't laws for them but they even but i'm saying even changes that have been made but even

00:03:24.560 even back then they would argue that the the laws still favored women like for example they they estimate 0.79

00:03:29.600 that 61 of murders were done by women and most of them didn't even get because back then they didn't

00:03:34.560 have abortion so women would literally kill a quarter of their kids they just kill them we're also 1.00

00:03:38.240 missing there's like a interesting piece of the puzzle that we're missing in this is that like okay

00:03:42.720 let's go back to the 1700s and yes like there's some different sort of expectations so women are doing 1.00

00:03:47.440 all this stuff around the house etc but it's like what was the what was life like for an average man in

00:03:51.760 the 1700s oh horrible right it's like you're working on a something like you're breathing poison at work

00:03:57.600 all the time you're dealing with poison you're dying like look at the life expenses way shorter

00:04:01.680 for men it was like farmhand um coal miner or a factory worker but i don't remember what year the

00:04:08.960 factories came in and like there's a pretty good chance you're gonna get like a wound that kills

00:04:13.200 you or you're gonna lose a limb at whatever job you're doing and you're gonna die 10 to 15 years 0.66

00:04:17.440 earlier than the woman in your life so it's like oh we have all these rules it's like well

00:04:22.560 man men had a really hard existence back then right and it's like can you give him a little

00:04:27.120 credit he's gonna die in war probably defending you well my my thing is i just think we can't be equal

00:04:33.440 because every time like how can you have equality when you'll always have to appeal to men to enforce

00:04:37.920 our rights you always have to ask men to give us the rights no we can't i think this is why this is

00:04:43.680 about this article was this this is presenting a very overly idyllic version of the past and a very very

00:04:51.760 a like antagonistic version of the present because there would have been many women back 1.00

00:04:56.480 then who would have been bad wives who would have been very cruel to their husbands and there are

00:05:00.880 many women hey i showed you the muzzle but who i showed you the muzzle this is presenting an overly

00:05:06.720 idealistic version because i agree with you that i completely agree that feminism is bad but to say

00:05:12.720 that it was all brilliant back then because for example as the gentleman rightly said you know a lot of

00:05:17.200 men led very difficult lives it's not like i didn't say i didn't say it was i didn't say it was all

00:05:22.560 good i would argue the wives were better then i mean i think i think i don't know on the basis of

00:05:27.440 purity alone yeah why is that on the basis what percent of women have a cookbook today what percent of 1.00

00:05:37.120 women really you you know the average chick i've had over 600 i've probably had a thousand p women in 1.00

00:05:43.680 here in the last year the majority don't know how to cook are they from this society i i have 0.99

00:05:48.560 interviewed women all over the world like yeah everywhere i'm telling you i've i i can't even

00:05:53.520 count how many countries we've had and i'm not saying there are women that are more traditional 0.99

00:05:58.000 that do cook that do all those traditional things but do i think more than half of women have those 1.00

00:06:02.640 skills today no well you don't have to go back far just think of your grandparents marriage like most of

00:06:07.120 us can remember our you know our grandparents being together and what that marriage looked like and it's

00:06:11.680 probably different than how our parents were and it's different from our peers my mom showed me

00:06:17.760 from young yeah i was grown up she looked after my dad she looked after the family my mom did not

00:06:24.800 know what working was she was just a housewife she would cook my dad would come home from work and we 0.99

00:06:31.040 would have a family dinner that's how it was 19 years my mom was putting up with it and i think it's

00:06:36.640 just about how you're raised it's not about like i don't know it just really depends on how you're

00:06:41.760 raised and i guess the the people you're around literally being a housewife is a good thing as

00:06:47.120 well as well we shouldn't knock house but i think my point is if you look at every statistical data

00:06:52.080 point the wives are worse today than they were just because you just because you don't like the way it 1.00

00:06:59.680 sounds like the the facts women were more the women were more pure it sounds like a way to make 0.97

00:07:05.520 modern women look bad i mean modern like we do look bad women are not feminists they're worse exactly 1.00

00:07:14.320 they might not identify as a feminist but most women live their lives according to feminism 1.00

00:07:18.800 because traditional women put family first but you don't have to be traditional women are typically 1.00

00:07:24.560 married before the age of 25 because that's the number one thing they prioritize most women go to college 1.00

00:07:29.920 and college teaches you to be a feminist i'm not saying it's women's fault completely right because 0.88

00:07:34.560 we're all told to go to college we're told to do this stuff but it's like when you prioritize

00:07:40.000 having um a career in your most fertile years that's the life of a parent's having a career isn't

00:07:45.440 feminist for example margaret thatcher no it's not margaret thatcher was not a feminist like you don't

00:07:50.560 isn't the options don't have to be traditional woman versus feminist this is a misconception i'm saying

00:07:55.200 i'm saying i'm saying they might not identify as a feminist but the way they live their life 0.99

00:08:00.960 is more feminist because what do you mean by because when i say when i say when i say traditional

00:08:06.080 traditional is putting the family first and family is your first priority so women that are truly true 0.98

00:08:12.400 i'm not even saying i'm i'm not a traditional woman otherwise i'd be married by now so i'm not even i'm not

00:08:17.600 even saying it's me but i'm saying the women i know that are the most feminine the most traditional they are

00:08:22.480 married before 25 they don't really care about college they don't really care about a career

00:08:26.800 and that's their number one priority so a lot of times people get like like like frustrated because

00:08:32.560 they're like women think they're traditional and they're not but why the options traditional versus 0.62

00:08:37.760 feminist you know like because also this is the misconception being an independent woman doesn't 1.00

00:08:41.920 mean being a feminist like a lot of career women because women have taken it to the next level and 1.00

00:08:49.360 not even understanding what it means to be independent so now a lot of these women are 0.97

00:08:54.320 saying oh i'm independent i don't need a man yeah they're man hating because feminism is really about 1.00

00:09:00.160 being anti-men like you can be pro-men and also be a career focused woman you know what i mean like

00:09:06.800 there's been a lot of married women for example helen girly brown was happily married and she was one of 1.00

00:09:12.240 the founders of sexual liberation a lot of feminists don't like her okay so what her is trying to say is 0.71

00:09:17.600 it's either you're going to dedicate your life to your family or you're going to dedicate yourself

00:09:24.720 to a big career no one say you can't no one's gonna no you can't so basically you can be i i my

00:09:31.120 my business academy i actually train women to do business like women entrepreneurs and um female 1.00

00:09:38.080 leaders yeah the reason why i do it is not for the feminists so to feature them to be independent 1.00

00:09:44.560 but what i'm trying to do is to help them build their self-esteem yes and give them skills that

00:09:49.120 they can transfer to their children because the way i see it the women spend the majority of the time 1.00

00:09:54.080 at home with their children with the children so in order to build leaders and entrepreneurs out of our

00:10:00.480 children we need to educate our women in that way so that's the purpose of my business so when i'm

00:10:06.400 teaching these women i'm not teaching them to say right you lot are going to go into your business

00:10:10.960 you're going to be leaders and you don't need no men you're going to lead the world i'm not teaching

00:10:15.440 them that i'm teaching them to grow and be more confident with themselves and become better

00:10:20.880 influencers for their children because as women we are a big influence in society and to our children 1.00

00:10:27.840 you know but the the misconception that a lot of these modern day women have is when they're 1.00

00:10:33.200 chatting foolishness like we don't need men in the home we don't need a man what are you teaching your

00:10:37.840 daughter yes what are you teaching your son so do you want your daughter to go and get breathed up 0.97

00:10:43.200 by go and sleep with any man and have five three different baby dads no you want to teach your 0.95

00:10:48.960 daughter the right way my daughter's father's died a couple days ago i'm not looking to just go and get

00:10:54.080 into a relationship just to have a man around me i'd rather make sure that i do it the right way so i

00:10:59.760 can teach my daughter the right way you know and there is a problem with just sleeping around i'm not

00:11:05.040 going to run up my mileage dating how many men just to go and pleasure myself what's that going

00:11:10.960 to look like to my child what kind of man would i be introducing into my life yeah you can't you know

00:11:17.120 no like so it's not a case of saying you know there's any to me the traditional way works that's

00:11:24.880 why our grandparents were together for so long you know and this modern day way of living that's why

00:11:30.880 you've got all these single mothers growing up sons on their own and then their sons are becoming 0.74

00:11:35.520 feminine and they can't even deal with your daughter they can't even deal with your daughter properly 1.00

00:11:40.560 or be a man to your grandchild that's why they're breeding these girls and leaving them saying got 1.00

00:11:45.280 no man in the home because of these modern day women uneducated your business sounds amazing but 1.00

00:11:52.320 don't you think we can find a balance between the traditional and the modern because there's no need to go

00:11:56.960 back to the 1800s but the point i'm not i'm not it sounds amazing by the way you might be able to

00:12:02.240 prioritize yeah so what pearly's trying to say to you is you've got a choice so i've got a friend here

00:12:07.520 i know one girl i've got to know a couple girls like that and they're actually going up into their 0.94

00:12:11.440 40s they're deep in their 30s and they haven't got no children and i actually feel a bit like sorry for

00:12:16.560 them they've never really had a serious relationship and my my thing is it's probably because you're not

00:12:22.800 really focused you're not presenting yourself in that way how can you how can you get a husband if

00:12:27.920 you're not letting off that energy if you're in a rave every day if all your friends are single

00:12:33.280 how are you going to get a husband if you're sleeping with everyone what man wants you like seriously 1.00

00:12:42.000 what's wrong with being a hoe there's a lot of wrong being a hoe you need to respect yourself 1.00

00:12:46.400 to be honest so first and foremost before getting a man to respect you because a man's going to feel

00:12:51.120 that energy yeah so if you don't respect yourself no one else is going so there's a lot to do with

00:12:56.720 that and then what are you going to be feeding to your daughter to your son or to your nieces or

00:13:01.120 nephews and this is the problem with modern day women they're not thinking they're not very conscious 1.00

00:13:06.400 about what this they're just following trends it's not it's not all but but the but the the point is

00:13:12.160 it's still most most women are not traditional it's like we can't we can't have a conversation about 1.00

00:13:17.120 we cannot we cannot have a conversation about anything unless we can have generalizations

00:13:22.560 and we know that over 50 percent of women i would say are not marriageable if you ask the men they're

00:13:27.200 going to say the same exact thing it's not up to us to decide who's marriageable it's up to the men 1.00

00:13:33.440 my son yeah and he's 22 and he's so he made a really good point and going back and he was saying to me

00:13:41.440 about um girls his age like he's like that age group he's like mum you can't take them seriously 1.00

00:13:47.680 because he's saying the roles are reversed he said and imagine this is a guy that's 22 like and i think

00:13:52.560 he was about 19 at the time when he told me this and what his point is is that these girls they're

00:13:58.880 actually the ones running down sex and man they're the ones you know the tables have turned now so

00:14:04.640 they're like the boys and again why is that because of these the education that they're getting from

00:14:11.760 these girls from the last generation think about how bad this is fall four percent of women are 1.00

00:14:17.360 virgins on their wedding days that is a traditional woman she waits till she's married four percent we 1.00

00:14:22.720 went from 85 percent to four percent i can't think of many modern men who are demanding virginity and

00:14:29.360 they're not demanding they're not but they're not demanding it because they can't how can they

00:14:33.840 demand it when four percent men adapt to the market there's studies we don't need to wait wait stop

00:14:38.800 stop there's there's studies there's studies that have said that that sex is a need for men

00:14:43.520 yeah and so if sex is a need they're going to adapt to the market but most men would prefer a virgin for

00:14:48.400 a wife there's four billion men in the world you know this statistically they probably would prefer it 0.93

00:14:53.680 but i think because of today's culture i think it's highly unlikely i don't think people are

00:14:57.840 in the past i think people lied no they didn't because the consequences of sex were real before

00:15:03.760 the birth control pill like women were like there was always the men that women wanted and then there's 0.99

00:15:08.560 the men that women needed long term and there's a difference the cat versus dad strategy right the 0.99

00:15:12.720 cat is like the chat and tyrone we call them today in evolutionary psychology it's called the cat or

00:15:17.360 evolutionary biology and then there's the dad which is the long-term partner right and the problem was

00:15:21.120 the women couldn't be with those chads and tyrones because the risk of pregnancy would just devastate 1.00

00:15:25.760 their life not to say the shame aspect wasn't there because it was like the social consequences

00:15:30.560 of you know a man probably wouldn't marry you if 85 percent of women are virgins he's not picking from 0.99

00:15:35.520 the 15 that are not he's like one body right and that's and that's but but but the risk of pregnancy

00:15:42.000 is like it was so severe and so serious and like if you first of all abortions were illegal so like that

00:15:47.200 wasn't an option and then the reality was that like women had men they probably were naturally more 0.99

00:15:53.120 drawn towards the more masculine etc etc but it's like well that's a dangerous option because he

00:15:57.840 might not commit so he would pick a guy that would commit there was value in the market to commitment

00:16:01.680 that value is gone today and the numbers on it are pretty shocking if you've got one

00:16:05.760 match on tinder as a man you're in the top 50th percentile 50 percent of men never get a match on

00:16:11.600 tinder that's real data if you've got 14 matches on tinder as a man you're 99th percentile

00:16:17.200 yeah so so should we all go back to the 1800s well in some ways that probably wouldn't be a bad thing

00:16:24.320 and in some ways there probably be some so you're laughing but it's like not necessarily bad right

00:16:27.920 like well this is romanticizing hey hey i would i would go back to like 400 dc and i would go to like

00:16:33.120 stoicism i'd go to like clato and aurelius and to me like that's a beautiful thing and you can't

00:16:37.520 disagree with that philosophy right that just because it's old doesn't mean it's antiquated

00:16:41.600 well and i guess

JustPearlyThings - March 22, 2023

This Modern Woman Said THIS

Episode Stats

Summary

Transcript