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Summary
In this episode, we talk about beauty in the eye of the beholder, body positivity and why we need to stop shaming people who are overweight or obese. We also discuss the importance of self-awareness and how we can improve our own mental health.
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do you believe that beauty is in the eye of the a holder the eye of the beholder
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i guess so because someone in east asia might not find um someone in the west attractive um so it
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really depends on that person like what they grew up with like what they grew up was um what they
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their society grew up with that's attractive would affect how they would perceive the person
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so there's like pictures of people that you might not find attractive in like medieval times but
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back then people would like kill themselves or done crazy things just to be with this person but
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like now we're looking like oh i don't see the attraction there so i definitely feel like it's
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definitely a subjective experience what do you think yeah no i definitely feel that way as well
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and i also think um your taste changes as you get older what you might find attractive and what you're
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drawn to initially initially when you're younger will ultimately change as you get older um you
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might go for like the the obvious pick but then as you get older you might start thinking
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certain different things are more beautiful do you think that's for men or for women
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oh because because that sounds like a woman's point of view not necessarily a man's like yeah i think when
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we get older we're like well we don't necessarily need these things but men i it seems like they just
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like hot likes me yeah they're more uh visually yeah motivated than us yeah i feel like they're more
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primal than like women like i don't know she hot in there yeah but it's kind of cute because like
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some women are like oh like i want my man to have a nice job to be so intelligent but i go like oh i
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think you're cute and that's kind of enough for some what do you think is beauty in the eye of the
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beholder um i yes in the term in in the um when we're thinking about character so i think personally
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for me i i write myself a four physically really what yeah i'm definitely not four
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but but i genuinely like it doesn't bother me i'm just i'm very objective about it i i write myself a
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four however i honestly believe what we're missing today is like uh everybody's saying that what it
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appears to be everybody's saying oh i'm a 10 i'm a 10 but they misconstrued it in terms of their
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personality everything as a package they're a 10 so there is no room for improvement and um i mean i'm
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thinking about like at what point does humility come in uh you know it seems like non-existent therefore
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they won't really do any you know introspection and are they self-aware and all that stuff so i'm
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just saying just saying you're a 10 it's just it's problematic but from what i'm saying is that um
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so i think i'm a four but with my personality and everything and my character all these very
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important things they kind of make the package they make the person and these are the ways that
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people fall in love um you know with somebody's character so i think that's what they're fundamentally
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missing when they just say they're a 10. okay so you're a 10 but what about your personality
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i'm a 10 there as well i'm just perfect all around which just comes across as arrogance to me
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what do you guys think of the body positivity movement
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in terms of what do you think it's good for society no it isn't what why well uh who whose body are
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we saying that it's that that they're fine like what what what change has have we seen
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i don't know i'm just i just wanted to know how you think uh well for example like i think about
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a while ago i saw uh a clearly obese woman uh on the cover of a magazine i can't remember what
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magazine it was but then they said very clearly this is healthy and i'm just like are they trying
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to manipulate me into thinking that that's healthy and she was in sportswear but clearly she's not
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it's like clearly you ain't going to the gym i i know right and she's been on the treadmill in a
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mitt like come on but but but what i find generally heartbreaking is that okay yes i'm i'm physically
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slim right so people are gonna be like oh you're just like fat shaming but i genuinely have concerns
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for her so when i see people who are like oh yeah girl you're a 10 sorry i can't speak like that i'm
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terrible but yeah yeah you know yes queen and i'm like i'm it breaks my heart i'm just like you don't
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care about her you're not telling her you're not encouraging her to change you know there's a risk
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of diabetes are they saying um diabetes is a 10 are they saying asthma is a 10 i'm saying depression
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is a 10. uh so yeah you can say yeah you're a 10 but no one's there when she's crying all alone and
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she has all these health problems what happens to all that energy then and it is really heartbreaking
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as soon and and i've seen plenty of people who have been obese and they've uh you know they've made
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tick tocks and stuff and they say um on the tick tock uh i've done this to myself or i'm going to
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take responsibility and then you see their progression and they're so much happier and they're
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not in that delusion and somebody who genuinely cares about you will tell you the ugly truth but
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they are telling you they're not telling you a beautiful lie and that's what you want from a
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friend and that's what we should have in society if we have everybody's like oh yeah you're fine
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yeah you're fine yeah you're fine um it's actually really unfair and i'm just thinking like in a way
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i think it's really sinister because if i was fat and my friend told me you're fine i'm like she
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doesn't give a shit about me she really doesn't she would have told me this is you're actually ill
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you're not well and the moment i get on that treadmill and she's there by my side you know
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championing me on i'm like well that is a friend so the moment i see people are like encouraging
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very unhealthy behavior uh it really does genuinely break my heart and i i just like my genetics or
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whatever is you know people say oh you're slim you can afford to say that no i genuinely care about
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people and i encourage them and when i see people obviously are yeah it really questions um it makes
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me question their motives like you have an agenda why are you you know encouraging clearly unhealthy
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behavior and is that why you don't agree you don't think the body positivity team movement is
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positive no i i well it's false body positivity because it's saying you're fine the way you are
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and there is no you know improve there is no uh they're not we're not championing improvement
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is what i'm saying okay i think that's a good point that you made um but i would like to like draw
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upon like the opposite side of that like obviously with body positivity it's not just about
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um like weight it's about like skin texture skin color yeah but that's like one of the biggest
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things i've seen you you've seen more between like weight yeah i don't i don't really see skin
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texture or skin color that kind of thing or like people that don't shave people are hairier
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yeah i mean i don't want to see that like why are they putting that i miss the days when models would
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make me feel bad about myself and i would put their picture on the treadmill and i'd start running
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i didn't bring them back i think you've got to find a balance because if you go to the other end
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of the spectrum and someone's really underweight and it's being advertised it's it's not gonna
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that's not so great i think you are you are ultimately ultimately you are fine the way you are
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because i don't think no one can tell you anything obviously if you're having these health issues
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then definitely needs to be addressed but um yeah to be honest with you so you think you're fine the
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way you are at 300 pounds not necessarily you're not i do think you should you should definitely do
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something about that but i think it's about being realistic if these types of things are being shown
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on media then i think it should be shown in a way to show that listen whether it's bad or good
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uh there are people like this and they're still part of society etc etc it doesn't it doesn't un
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it doesn't deem you uh a certain way in a negative way if that makes sense don't you think it normalizes
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it because shouldn't obesity not be normal shouldn't it be abnormal isn't that what we should want i think
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obesity shouldn't be the norm but i do feel like there are people that are just going to be bigger
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there's people are going to be smaller regardless like if we put everyone on the same diet
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people will still be different sizes but not like morbidly obese i did say like not obese i said
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like people are going to be different sizes i think um it'd be interesting if body positivity went in
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the in the way in the direction that we're like okay they're going to be people that are different
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sizes and they're still a part of society they still should be respected we still need to treat
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them like humans i think that's kind of what the direction it should have gone in instead of like
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normalizing um being morbidly obese i think that's what your point but i but i think people will say when
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you say all shapes and sizes they will put in morbidly obese like that's fine unless you
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explicitly say accept morbidly obese but then you will be you know shamed for fat shaming no like i
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mean like genetically like you're going to be shorter i might be taller someone might be i don't i don't
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want to say that use the term big boned because it doesn't really make sense but some people are going
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to be broader and have wider shoulders like this is like the reason why a lot of people pursue different
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sports um you just built different you know regardless of diet and how how you train you
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can't really change your genetics by that much certain people achieve certain muscle formations
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that certain people won't have you know as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are
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