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00:00:00.400 do you believe that beauty is in the eye of the a holder the eye of the beholder

00:00:06.320 i guess so because someone in east asia might not find um someone in the west attractive um so it

00:00:13.440 really depends on that person like what they grew up with like what they grew up was um what they

00:00:19.680 their society grew up with that's attractive would affect how they would perceive the person

00:00:24.480 so there's like pictures of people that you might not find attractive in like medieval times but

00:00:28.080 back then people would like kill themselves or done crazy things just to be with this person but

00:00:32.560 like now we're looking like oh i don't see the attraction there so i definitely feel like it's

00:00:37.040 definitely a subjective experience what do you think yeah no i definitely feel that way as well

00:00:42.960 and i also think um your taste changes as you get older what you might find attractive and what you're

00:00:51.200 drawn to initially initially when you're younger will ultimately change as you get older um you

00:00:57.440 might go for like the the obvious pick but then as you get older you might start thinking

00:01:05.040 certain different things are more beautiful do you think that's for men or for women

00:01:11.040 oh because because that sounds like a woman's point of view not necessarily a man's like yeah i think when

00:01:17.600 we get older we're like well we don't necessarily need these things but men i it seems like they just

00:01:24.400 like hot likes me yeah they're more uh visually yeah motivated than us yeah i feel like they're more

00:01:30.880 primal than like women like i don't know she hot in there yeah but it's kind of cute because like 0.98

00:01:37.040 some women are like oh like i want my man to have a nice job to be so intelligent but i go like oh i 1.00

00:01:41.920 think you're cute and that's kind of enough for some what do you think is beauty in the eye of the

00:01:46.880 beholder um i yes in the term in in the um when we're thinking about character so i think personally

00:01:57.040 for me i i write myself a four physically really what yeah i'm definitely not four

00:02:06.960 but but i genuinely like it doesn't bother me i'm just i'm very objective about it i i write myself a

00:02:11.920 four however i honestly believe what we're missing today is like uh everybody's saying that what it

00:02:19.120 appears to be everybody's saying oh i'm a 10 i'm a 10 but they misconstrued it in terms of their

00:02:23.120 personality everything as a package they're a 10 so there is no room for improvement and um i mean i'm

00:02:31.040 thinking about like at what point does humility come in uh you know it seems like non-existent therefore

00:02:37.280 they won't really do any you know introspection and are they self-aware and all that stuff so i'm

00:02:42.480 just saying just saying you're a 10 it's just it's problematic but from what i'm saying is that um

00:02:48.320 so i think i'm a four but with my personality and everything and my character all these very

00:02:53.840 important things they kind of make the package they make the person and these are the ways that

00:02:58.640 people fall in love um you know with somebody's character so i think that's what they're fundamentally

00:03:05.680 missing when they just say they're a 10. okay so you're a 10 but what about your personality

00:03:10.800 i'm a 10 there as well i'm just perfect all around which just comes across as arrogance to me

00:03:18.160 what do you guys think of the body positivity movement

00:03:23.280 in terms of what do you think it's good for society no it isn't what why well uh who whose body are

00:03:34.480 we saying that it's that that they're fine like what what what change has have we seen

00:03:40.640 i don't know i'm just i just wanted to know how you think uh well for example like i think about

00:03:45.520 a while ago i saw uh a clearly obese woman uh on the cover of a magazine i can't remember what 1.00

00:03:52.000 magazine it was but then they said very clearly this is healthy and i'm just like are they trying

00:03:56.960 to manipulate me into thinking that that's healthy and she was in sportswear but clearly she's not

00:04:02.640 it's like clearly you ain't going to the gym i i know right and she's been on the treadmill in a 0.79

00:04:07.280 mitt like come on but but but what i find generally heartbreaking is that okay yes i'm i'm physically

00:04:13.440 slim right so people are gonna be like oh you're just like fat shaming but i genuinely have concerns

00:04:18.080 for her so when i see people who are like oh yeah girl you're a 10 sorry i can't speak like that i'm

00:04:23.040 terrible but yeah yeah you know yes queen and i'm like i'm it breaks my heart i'm just like you don't

00:04:29.200 care about her you're not telling her you're not encouraging her to change you know there's a risk

00:04:33.680 of diabetes are they saying um diabetes is a 10 are they saying asthma is a 10 i'm saying depression

00:04:38.560 is a 10. uh so yeah you can say yeah you're a 10 but no one's there when she's crying all alone and 0.67

00:04:44.400 she has all these health problems what happens to all that energy then and it is really heartbreaking

00:04:50.160 as soon and and i've seen plenty of people who have been obese and they've uh you know they've made

00:04:56.080 tick tocks and stuff and they say um on the tick tock uh i've done this to myself or i'm going to

00:05:02.240 take responsibility and then you see their progression and they're so much happier and they're

00:05:06.960 not in that delusion and somebody who genuinely cares about you will tell you the ugly truth but

00:05:12.400 they are telling you they're not telling you a beautiful lie and that's what you want from a

00:05:16.240 friend and that's what we should have in society if we have everybody's like oh yeah you're fine

00:05:20.160 yeah you're fine yeah you're fine um it's actually really unfair and i'm just thinking like in a way

00:05:26.880 i think it's really sinister because if i was fat and my friend told me you're fine i'm like she

00:05:31.360 doesn't give a shit about me she really doesn't she would have told me this is you're actually ill 0.94

00:05:35.920 you're not well and the moment i get on that treadmill and she's there by my side you know 0.98

00:05:40.640 championing me on i'm like well that is a friend so the moment i see people are like encouraging

00:05:45.760 very unhealthy behavior uh it really does genuinely break my heart and i i just like my genetics or

00:05:52.480 whatever is you know people say oh you're slim you can afford to say that no i genuinely care about

00:05:59.120 people and i encourage them and when i see people obviously are yeah it really questions um it makes

00:06:05.200 me question their motives like you have an agenda why are you you know encouraging clearly unhealthy

00:06:10.560 behavior and is that why you don't agree you don't think the body positivity team movement is

00:06:15.840 positive no i i well it's false body positivity because it's saying you're fine the way you are

00:06:23.440 and there is no you know improve there is no uh they're not we're not championing improvement

00:06:29.280 is what i'm saying okay i think that's a good point that you made um but i would like to like draw

00:06:34.480 upon like the opposite side of that like obviously with body positivity it's not just about

00:06:38.080 um like weight it's about like skin texture skin color yeah but that's like one of the biggest 0.98

00:06:42.800 things i've seen you you've seen more between like weight yeah i don't i don't really see skin

00:06:48.320 texture or skin color that kind of thing or like people that don't shave people are hairier

00:06:55.040 yeah i mean i don't want to see that like why are they putting that i miss the days when models would 1.00

00:07:03.360 make me feel bad about myself and i would put their picture on the treadmill and i'd start running

00:07:09.520 i didn't bring them back i think you've got to find a balance because if you go to the other end

00:07:14.560 of the spectrum and someone's really underweight and it's being advertised it's it's not gonna

00:07:21.040 that's not so great i think you are you are ultimately ultimately you are fine the way you are

00:07:26.400 because i don't think no one can tell you anything obviously if you're having these health issues

00:07:30.560 then definitely needs to be addressed but um yeah to be honest with you so you think you're fine the

00:07:37.440 way you are at 300 pounds not necessarily you're not i do think you should you should definitely do

00:07:44.640 something about that but i think it's about being realistic if these types of things are being shown

00:07:51.280 on media then i think it should be shown in a way to show that listen whether it's bad or good

00:07:57.440 uh there are people like this and they're still part of society etc etc it doesn't it doesn't un

00:08:02.720 it doesn't deem you uh a certain way in a negative way if that makes sense don't you think it normalizes

00:08:10.560 it because shouldn't obesity not be normal shouldn't it be abnormal isn't that what we should want i think

00:08:16.480 obesity shouldn't be the norm but i do feel like there are people that are just going to be bigger

00:08:21.120 there's people are going to be smaller regardless like if we put everyone on the same diet

00:08:24.880 people will still be different sizes but not like morbidly obese i did say like not obese i said

00:08:30.640 like people are going to be different sizes i think um it'd be interesting if body positivity went in

00:08:34.800 the in the way in the direction that we're like okay they're going to be people that are different

00:08:38.480 sizes and they're still a part of society they still should be respected we still need to treat

00:08:42.960 them like humans i think that's kind of what the direction it should have gone in instead of like

00:08:47.040 normalizing um being morbidly obese i think that's what your point but i but i think people will say when

00:08:51.680 you say all shapes and sizes they will put in morbidly obese like that's fine unless you

00:08:55.680 explicitly say accept morbidly obese but then you will be you know shamed for fat shaming no like i

00:09:01.120 mean like genetically like you're going to be shorter i might be taller someone might be i don't i don't

00:09:07.200 want to say that use the term big boned because it doesn't really make sense but some people are going

00:09:10.640 to be broader and have wider shoulders like this is like the reason why a lot of people pursue different

00:09:14.560 sports um you just built different you know regardless of diet and how how you train you

00:09:20.240 can't really change your genetics by that much certain people achieve certain muscle formations

00:09:25.600 that certain people won't have you know as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are

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JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023

This Modern Woman Said THIS On Air

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