JustPearlyThings - This Obsessed Lady Gets DESTROYED by Pearl with These Stats

00:00:00.000 I miss that one. That's a good one.

00:00:03.000 If they're like, oh, I'm six boosted and I believe everything the government says, please don't come to me.

00:00:09.000 Please don't come near me. Right away.

00:00:12.000 I have one. I'm a feminist. Like a guy that says he's a feminist. 0.98

00:00:16.000 If a guy says to me he's a feminist, I will throw up in my mouth. 0.99

00:00:23.000 I've been on a date like that. He told me that. I'm like, you were talking to the wrongs.

00:00:30.000 Wait, was that recently? Was that in the last few years?

00:00:33.000 No, this was a couple of years ago.

00:00:35.000 Oh, okay. So he wasn't aware.

00:00:37.000 No, no, no, no. But I was like, this is the wrong.

00:00:39.000 No, that's a big red flag.

00:00:41.000 Imagine. 1.00

00:00:42.000 Not only are you sick as shit, right? 1.00

00:00:47.000 But you're just not even a man at that point. 1.00

00:00:50.000 They're very feminine. All those men. 1.00

00:00:52.000 They're very feminine. 0.98

00:00:53.000 Preach, preach.

00:00:54.000 They have a, just, it's like a hive mind.

00:00:58.000 It's like they're just sort of robots.

00:01:01.000 Like they're not even people at that point.

00:01:03.000 NPCs.

00:01:04.000 NPCs, like you're just an NPC.

00:01:06.000 Men that wore masks.

00:01:07.000 I don't know.

00:01:08.000 I don't mess around with people like that.

00:01:10.000 That's an ick.

00:01:11.000 I'm liking this panel more and more.

00:01:14.000 That and an inability to see into the future.

00:01:17.000 And that just gives me an ick in people in general.

00:01:19.000 Like if, if you can't see what you want and be able to put things into place to execute it.

00:01:25.000 And that just tells me that you're, you have an inability to think critically and strategically about things,

00:01:29.000 which I think is a really masculine trait to be able to do that.

00:01:32.000 And I think you were talking about the whole, a woman when she's older, having to be in her masculine energy more. 0.88

00:01:38.000 Well, that's because then women have to think about, right. 1.00

00:01:40.000 I have no one to depend on who's going to do this for me.

00:01:42.000 So I have to use my brain myself, which means I need to think about where I'm going to get to and how I'm going to get there.

00:01:47.000 I think it's really attractive when you don't have to think around a man and you just know they're going to get you somewhere.

00:01:55.000 Um, but I, I do think women do need to have a level of, of being able to operate because again, you know, 1.00

00:02:02.000 if you have someone who can't operate, well then you end up with a liberal.

00:02:05.000 So I can't, you're.

00:02:09.000 I can't do not start on the ability to make scrambled eggs.

00:02:14.000 Scrambled eggs are an omelet basically chopped up.

00:02:18.000 No.

00:02:19.000 I get it though.

00:02:20.000 I get it.

00:02:21.000 I get it.

00:02:22.000 Are scrambled eggs supposed to be fluffy?

00:02:23.000 Yeah.

00:02:24.000 Thank you.

00:02:25.000 They are.

00:02:26.000 They're the best.

00:02:27.000 Okay.

00:02:28.000 Uh, what about you?

00:02:29.000 Ick.

00:02:30.000 Uh, Ick.

00:02:32.000 Probably somebody that's loud mouth, overweight.

00:02:35.000 Um, a dictator.

00:02:38.000 Uh, someone's like, Oh, I'm going to sit there.

00:02:40.000 I don't like the way that looks or complain about the weight or something like that.

00:02:43.000 Someone just doesn't make the whole night peaceful.

00:02:46.000 Have you been on a date recently where a girl did something and made you not want to talk to her again?

00:02:51.000 See, I'm more of a long term, my relationship has been long term, but in between those gaps.

00:02:56.000 Um, to me as well, I'm a bad responder as well.

00:03:02.000 Because what you're saying about responses and that, I'm the kind of guy that will message you and they won't message you back for like a good couple of hours.

00:03:07.000 And it's not that I'm doing it on purpose.

00:03:09.000 So I'm busy.

00:03:10.000 Do you know what I mean?

00:03:11.000 And for someone to keep consistently messaging me, consistently messaging me, that's kind of unique for me as well.

00:03:16.000 Okay.

00:03:17.000 I kind of like to be.

00:03:18.000 Oh, so if they're messaging you too much.

00:03:20.000 Yeah.

00:03:21.000 And just look after themselves.

00:03:22.000 Neediness.

00:03:23.000 They need to look after themselves.

00:03:24.000 Yeah.

00:03:25.000 I wake up in the morning.

00:03:26.000 I'm in the gym.

00:03:27.000 But she needs you.

00:03:28.000 She's like so excited.

00:03:29.000 Yeah.

00:03:30.000 He's like, no.

00:03:31.000 He's like, no.

00:03:33.000 I'm a busy person.

00:03:36.000 I don't know.

00:03:38.000 I mean, sometimes I find that that kind of neediness you're talking about.

00:03:41.000 Sometimes actually I find that attractive.

00:03:44.000 Yeah.

00:03:45.000 To a degree.

00:03:46.000 She's going to be obsessed with me.

00:03:48.000 Yeah.

00:03:49.000 Yeah.

00:03:50.000 Which is a good thing.

00:03:51.000 But I agree with you at the same time.

00:03:52.000 I ain't sitting there all day texting with you.

00:03:54.000 There's a level to it.

00:03:55.000 Do you know what I mean?

00:03:56.000 I've given a girl freedom before and it backfired us. 0.98

00:03:59.000 Yeah.

00:04:00.000 So I do agree with the, you know, paying attention to me and stuff.

00:04:04.000 But there's a level to it.

00:04:05.000 You can't overdo it.

00:04:06.000 Because I'm not going to respond back to you and then you're not going to like that.

00:04:08.000 Yeah.

00:04:09.000 You can't expect it in return.

00:04:10.000 Yeah.

00:04:11.000 You can't expect it to be like equal amounts of attention given back and forth.

00:04:14.000 It's good that you're obsessed with me, but I understand I'm busy.

00:04:18.000 You know what I'm saying?

00:04:19.000 Like you're going to get the occasional hi, I love you.

00:04:22.000 That's it.

00:04:23.000 Like, and you have to, you have to learn to be okay with that.

00:04:26.000 Yeah.

00:04:27.000 Because otherwise this ain't going to work.

00:04:28.000 Yeah.

00:04:29.000 See that with my ex-girlfriend. 1.00

00:04:30.000 Fucking. 1.00

00:04:31.000 When she used to tell me that she loved me, that was enough for me for the rest of the day. 1.00

00:04:34.000 And you hear it over and over and over again.

00:04:36.000 Do you know what I mean?

00:04:37.000 So if I say to her I'm busy, she understands I'm busy for the whole day.

00:04:40.000 I'm not busy just for the next 20 minutes or so.

00:04:42.000 It's an understanding between you both.

00:04:44.000 I love that.

00:04:45.000 A lot of people don't understand that.

00:04:46.000 Because they're not at peace with themselves.

00:04:47.000 What are you doing now?

00:04:48.000 What are you doing now?

00:04:49.000 Are you on your way?

00:04:50.000 Who are you with?

00:04:51.000 They're not.

00:04:52.000 What's her name?

00:04:53.000 What's her name?

00:04:54.000 What's her name?

00:04:55.000 I'm with the guy.

00:04:56.000 What's her name?

00:04:57.000 No joke.

00:04:58.000 Okay.

00:04:59.000 Can I tell a funny story, Pearl?

00:05:00.000 I had a French ex who did basically exactly that.

00:05:02.000 I went out to play poker with the guys, right?

00:05:05.000 Friday night, just me and the boys.

00:05:07.000 Phone died while I was there.

00:05:09.000 Wrong.

00:05:10.000 I get home, plug the phone in.

00:05:12.000 I just start hearing bing bing.

00:05:15.000 Just coming through.

00:05:16.000 Just coming through.

00:05:17.000 It did that for about two minutes straight.

00:05:19.000 It wasn't relenting.

00:05:20.000 I'm like, what on earth?

00:05:23.000 I look at it as about 40 text messages, about 20 missed calls and about seven voicemails.

00:05:31.000 And it starts off, I'm like doing them in sequential order.

00:05:34.000 And it starts off with, hey, babe, what are you up to?

00:05:37.000 I'm free later on.

00:05:38.000 Let me know when you're finished.

00:05:40.000 And then it goes, what are you doing?

00:05:43.000 You can feel the text is getting angry.

00:05:46.000 Who is she? 0.99

00:05:48.000 Who is she was the last text.

00:05:50.000 And then it went, and the voice notes were like just her crying into the phone.

00:05:54.000 Like again and again and again and again.

00:05:56.000 I'm like, whoa, broke up with her right after that.

00:06:00.000 That's what you're going to do with a 24 year old.

00:06:02.000 That girl was older than 24. 1.00

00:06:07.000 I've learned my lesson.

00:06:11.000 No, the biggest misconception is somehow older women are more mature. 1.00

00:06:15.000 No, no, no, no, no.

00:06:17.000 I'm sorry.

00:06:18.000 Or somehow easier to deal with.

00:06:19.000 No, no, no, no, no, no.

00:06:21.000 I think 100% of the women I've kicked out of here and that have not listened to the rules 1.00

00:06:27.000 have been over the age of 25.

00:06:29.000 100%.

00:06:30.000 Like I can't even think.

00:06:31.000 Oh, no, there was one.

00:06:32.000 Sorry.

00:06:33.000 I thought of one.

00:06:34.000 But.

00:06:35.000 That was right.

00:06:36.000 I forgot about her.

00:06:39.000 But by and large, no.

00:06:41.000 Because when you think about it, when women like date, the more people women date, the 0.98

00:06:45.000 higher their standards get.

00:06:47.000 And when we admit this on social media, you'll see girls say, oh, I accepted all this treatment

00:06:52.000 in the past.

00:06:53.000 I'll never accept this treatment again.

00:06:55.000 It's basically making the men of the future pay for the mistakes of the past.

00:07:01.000 You disagree?

00:07:02.000 I feel like just in general, it seems like we're like taking every responsibility of the

00:07:08.000 relationship off of the man.

00:07:10.000 Like the women have the woman has to be understanding. 0.99

00:07:12.000 She has to conform to whatever you want to have going on in your household. 1.00

00:07:16.000 Like, I think maybe my idea of a relationship is just a little bit different.

00:07:21.000 Like, I don't know.

00:07:22.000 It kind of seems like you want a younger woman that you can like mold or like kind of make 1.00

00:07:27.000 a certain type of way or that will kind of like accept anything.

00:07:30.000 And I don't know if every woman is going to be that, but it's somebody for everybody.

00:07:34.000 So you think there's someone for everybody?

00:07:37.000 Somebody is going to like something about somebody.

00:07:40.000 No, it's not.

00:07:41.000 No.

00:07:42.000 That's not true.

00:07:43.000 There's a lot of very lonely, socially awkward men.

00:07:45.000 Yeah.

00:07:46.000 Maybe they just haven't been.

00:07:47.000 They haven't been everywhere in the world.

00:07:48.000 They probably haven't.

00:07:49.000 You know, that's how people find their second wind.

00:07:51.000 That's why people do get remarried. 1.00

00:07:52.000 But how do people get around the world by being rich, which means that they're the top

00:07:57.000 10, 20% of people, which most people aren't going to get to?

00:08:00.000 I mean, I've traveled.

00:08:01.000 I live in another country.

00:08:02.000 I'm not rich.

00:08:03.000 So, I mean, I'm not saying that.

00:08:04.000 How have you traveled?

00:08:05.000 I'm not saying that you have to be all around the world.

00:08:07.000 But I do think, you know, if you put forth that effort, if that's what you want, if that's

00:08:10.000 what you're seeking, if you're going to put every energy.

00:08:13.000 Explore.

00:08:14.000 Yeah.

00:08:15.000 Explore and meet people and date people and find people like you're, it's going to be,

00:08:18.000 and it might not be your choice, but there might be somebody who is into you and wants

00:08:22.000 what you have to offer.

00:08:23.000 Yeah, but it's not the people that women want. 1.00

00:08:26.000 So the difference between men and women is men already conform to what women want. 0.59

00:08:32.000 So men know they have to be tall.

00:08:34.000 They typically have to be in good shape.

00:08:36.000 They typically have to have a good job and make money.

00:08:38.000 They typically have to be charismatic to get women to even talk to them. 0.86

00:08:42.000 The difference is women don't know what men want because they'll still sleep with us 1.00

00:08:45.000 and give us attention.

00:08:46.000 So women are not forced to conform to what men want because we'll get the attention anyways. 1.00

00:08:51.000 And there's evidence that suggests that 50% of women are never going to have kids or get married.

00:08:56.000 And then you take the women that do get married, 50% of them will divorce.

00:09:00.000 And that's by 2030.

00:09:01.000 So it's not even that far away.

00:09:03.000 So like if we take this room, for example, how many girls are there in this room? 1.00

00:09:07.000 Two, four, six, seven.

00:09:09.000 At least, at least, let's make it nicer than it is.

00:09:13.000 At least three of us will never get married and never have kids.

00:09:16.000 And that's a fact.

00:09:18.000 Yeah, and that might be true.

00:09:19.000 I'm not saying just because there is somebody for everybody that's going to find that person.

00:09:22.000 You might not have the opportunity.

00:09:23.000 Like I could go out in the street and get hit by a car and I can die tomorrow

00:09:26.000 and I didn't have my opportunity to meet my soulmate.

00:09:28.000 But just because that might not be everybody in this room's cup of tea,

00:09:32.000 that might not be my ratio.

00:09:34.000 That might not be my room to be in.

00:09:36.000 And you know, I actually agree.

00:09:38.000 There's always a guy that will date a woman. 0.99

00:09:40.000 Yeah, and there's a woman who will accept a man. 1.00

00:09:43.000 No, but that's the difference.

00:09:44.000 Women will not accept the men. 1.00

00:09:45.000 There are, and that's why there are so many divorces. 1.00

00:09:47.000 So I'll tell you, what percent, so they surveyed 5,000 men,

00:09:50.000 and they asked what percent of men have had more than one sexual partner in the past year.

00:09:55.000 What percent of men said that they did?

00:09:58.000 Guess.

00:09:59.000 I would say 80%.

00:10:01.000 10%.

00:10:02.000 So women, it's basically 100% of women are sleeping with 20% of men. 0.83

00:10:08.000 And it's the same when you look at dating apps.

00:10:10.000 That makes sense.

00:10:11.000 Women swipe no on men 80% of the time. 0.99

00:10:14.000 And they only swipe right 5%.

00:10:17.000 So that's the problem.

00:10:19.000 It's not that the women can't get anybody, but it's once we've hit a certain level, we can't go down. 1.00

00:10:24.000 And women admit this, right? 1.00

00:10:26.000 They go around and they say, raise your standards.

00:10:28.000 You're a queen.

00:10:29.000 You're amazing.

00:10:30.000 And then don't accept the treatment that you accepted before.

00:10:33.000 But the problem is, there's not enough men that women want to go around. 1.00

00:10:39.000 Well, I think that might have something to do with the way our culture and mindset around relationships have definitely changed.

00:10:48.000 Like, you guys are saying you are wanting a traditional relationship.

00:10:51.000 Well, nobody is moving in a traditional way these days.

00:10:55.000 So that's why you're not going to find people.

00:10:57.000 You have older men looking for someone half their age because, you know, they're clashing with the women who have these mindsets that they've gathered from pop culture or whatever that's going on today. 0.93

00:11:07.000 So, you know, if we have this imbalance of people who are agreeing on what they want out of a relationship or what they actually can provide in that relationship, because I think a lot of people also aren't realistic with themselves, then, of course, you're going to have some type of imbalance in the amount of people that want to be married and the people that will get married.

00:11:26.000 No, but the reality is women today don't even understand what traditionalism is, because when women say they want to be traditional, they always have this idea of the man pays for everything. 0.98

00:11:37.000 The man earns so much money that he can cater for the family.

00:11:40.000 But the reality is most people that were traditional back in the day weren't even living that kind of life.

00:11:45.000 The women were literally working alongside their husbands and still gave them the respect of being the man of the house. 1.00

00:11:52.000 They weren't living any soft life.

00:11:54.000 Most people were poor for most of humanity.

00:11:56.000 So every family you see that have come through time, there's only a few of them that actually lived a soft life.

00:12:03.000 So women today all want to live like the queens of the past. 1.00

00:12:07.000 I agree.

00:12:08.000 And so do the men.

00:12:09.000 That's why you have something called the sassy man apocalypse.

00:12:11.000 Like men are literally running around bragging about Vanessa and dates out of women.

00:12:16.000 I actually disagree because all throughout history, only 40% of men have ever reproduced.

00:12:20.000 So the reality is throughout history, men have never really been at the table like women think. 0.85

00:12:28.000 The only reason why you think men have been is because it's the men you see.

00:12:31.000 And those are the men that are actually desirable.

00:12:33.000 What percent of men do you even think can finesse dates? 0.97

00:12:37.000 I think, like I said, it's somebody for everybody.

00:12:40.000 Like you literally have stuff like people that come out of prison and they find women on Facebook and now a woman is taking care of it and paying all their bills.

00:12:47.000 Women do. 1.00

00:12:48.000 Women do. 1.00

00:12:49.000 Women do. 1.00

00:12:50.000 Women do. 1.00

00:12:51.000 Women do. 1.00

00:12:52.000 You've been watching this.

00:12:53.000 Yeah.

00:12:54.000 No, no.

00:12:55.000 She's actually.

00:12:56.000 She's actually.

00:12:57.000 Love off the lockup.

00:12:58.000 Love off the lockup.

00:12:59.000 That's true.

00:13:02.000 So you're actually, you're not wrong about, you're not wrong about criminals.

00:13:07.000 Like violent criminals are more likely to reproduce, but that's because women are attracted to men that can protect them. 1.00

00:13:13.000 And there's some biology where women, you know, think that if a guy kills someone else, some reason that they can kill for her too. 1.00

00:13:21.000 And women hate to admit this. 1.00

00:13:23.000 Women absolutely hate to admit that that's what we find attractive. 1.00

00:13:26.000 But there is a reason that every single girl loves watching horror films and documentaries about serial killers.

00:13:33.000 I don't know if that's true.

00:13:34.000 Thank you.

00:13:35.000 It's not true.

00:13:36.000 I don't.

00:13:37.000 What percent of men do you think women find attractive?

00:13:39.000 What percent of men?

00:13:42.000 Probably like 25, 30 percent.

00:13:45.000 You're close.

00:13:46.000 20 percent.

00:13:47.000 But I also feel like that's an issue as well.

00:13:49.000 Like we think we have so many choices and we don't have everybody on the hinge.

00:13:53.000 It's not your choice.

00:13:54.000 Like you're not going to meet everybody in the world.

00:13:56.000 So you can't just base it off of who you're attracted to.

00:13:58.000 Like there's so many more things that go into a relationship.

00:14:01.000 Only a woman can say that. 1.00

00:14:02.000 You're right.

00:14:03.000 But the problem is that's what women select for in their 20s. 1.00

00:14:06.000 That's the number one thing women select for in their 20s is looks. 1.00

00:14:09.000 And money goes higher in their 30s.

00:14:12.000 And so when women have the most options, they're selecting for looks and they're only dating and sleeping with the top 20 percent of men. 1.00

00:14:19.000 And that's why the women will say men are trash, men are the problem, because they're all sleeping with 20 percent of men, 1.00

00:14:26.000 where 80 percent of men aren't really getting play at all. 1.00

00:14:29.000 No, I agree.

00:14:30.000 That means 80 percent of men are on the hunt for these women.

00:14:32.000 I agree.

00:14:33.000 You don't got as many choices as you mean.

00:14:34.000 Women should be very easy to get that 80 percent. 1.00

00:14:35.000 You need to settle down with the scrub with the bag.

00:14:41.000 Denzel is not coming.

00:14:42.000 Like he's not coming.

00:14:43.000 And that's why people think that women expire so early. 1.00

00:14:46.000 It's because you're looking for somebody who has this certain image that you've seen on Instagram, you've seen on social media,

00:14:51.000 where you're sleeping on, you know, every other aspect that is the important things in a relationship looks will fade.

00:14:56.000 Because if you ask me, if women have an expiration date, so do men. 0.79

00:15:00.000 Like, just because you can keep going, like...

00:15:03.000 But the difference is men don't expire the same way women do. 0.86

00:15:07.000 I would argue if men have an expiration date, it's maybe 55, 50.

00:15:12.000 But if you look on dating apps, what...

00:15:14.000 If you want the most swiped right age on, I think it's like Plenty of Fish or something.

00:15:19.000 For women, guess what it is? 1.00

00:15:21.000 18.

00:15:22.000 18.

00:15:23.000 18.

00:15:24.000 And guess what it is for men?

00:15:26.000 Probably 60 because she's not for love. 1.00

00:15:29.000 Not that.

00:15:30.000 No, no, no.

00:15:31.000 But it's what we're attracted to.

00:15:32.000 Okay, are you attracted to a guy that has a good career?

00:15:34.000 Yeah.

00:15:35.000 And he's hardworking.

00:15:36.000 Okay, what does that come with?

00:15:38.000 Age.

00:15:39.000 That's true.

00:15:40.000 Yeah, and are you attracted to a guy that's wiser than you?

00:15:44.000 That knows more about the world than you?

00:15:45.000 Yeah, in general.

00:15:46.000 Yeah, but men don't care about that. 1.00

00:15:48.000 They don't care about what you do for work.

00:15:51.000 They don't care about how wise you are about the world.

00:15:54.000 Men are kind of attracted to girls that are naive.

00:15:57.000 And that comes with youth.

00:15:59.000 So we're just not attracted to the same things.

00:16:01.000 This is true.

00:16:02.000 And I feel like...

00:16:03.000 I'd say teachable instead of naive.

00:16:05.000 Okay, yeah.

00:16:06.000 Mold.

00:16:07.000 Potato, potato.

00:16:08.000 Mold.

00:16:09.000 Moldable has like a manipulative flavor to it.

00:16:11.000 Yeah.

00:16:12.000 But like if I can teach her about the reality of the world and she's going to like learn it.

00:16:16.000 Conform.

00:16:17.000 Way better than someone.

00:16:18.000 If she's on my like...

00:16:19.000 If I can get her on my game plan, we're all going to win.

00:16:22.000 Right?

00:16:23.000 If she's like combating me and fighting it because she's got all this other programming in her head already.

00:16:26.000 Yeah.

00:16:27.000 We're going to be fighting each other the whole way.

00:16:29.000 That's it.

00:16:30.000 And if she's like 30 going on 40, so many other people have tried to teach her stuff.

00:16:33.000 Yeah.

00:16:34.000 By the time she comes around to me.

00:16:35.000 But...

00:16:36.000 Oh, I've got to teach you.

00:16:37.000 You're going to tell me everything.

00:16:38.000 But then that also comes down to, obviously, we're not talking about age.

00:16:42.000 But when you're having a partner, one of my things is I say to my friends before we got here.

00:16:48.000 Do you have the desire to want to unlearn some of your BS behavior?

00:16:54.000 Do you have that desire as a friend, as a family member, as a whatever?

00:16:59.000 Because some things may not be serving you the way you think it does.

00:17:04.000 So, for example, the young lady over there said communication, effective communication,

00:17:10.000 the way she receives, the way she delivers, he may decide that, you know what?

00:17:15.000 I'm not saying he needs to conform to throwing her toys out the car to want an argument, whatever.

00:17:20.000 But he understands that maybe that means that she just wants a bit of attention.

00:17:25.000 So I'm not even going to feed into that.

00:17:26.000 I'm going to go and give her a hug.

00:17:29.000 Whatever it is that he knows gets her to a place of comfort where she feels safe.

00:17:35.000 Whatever it is that...

00:17:36.000 So that, again, you're understanding her communication.

00:17:38.000 That is the worst advice ever.

00:17:41.000 What?

00:17:42.000 To unlearn bad behavior?

00:17:44.000 No, like when you said if she's doing all of that, then he just...

00:17:49.000 I'm not saying he needs to give a hug. I'm just saying whatever works for her.

00:17:52.000 No, but whatever works for her is not what he should do.

00:17:55.000 Or whatever works for them.

00:17:56.000 Because what happens is just like the child analogy.

00:17:59.000 When a child throws a tantrum and then you suit their tantrum, you literally tell them that whenever they want something, they can get it by doing that.

00:18:09.000 So yeah, literally teaching her bad behaviors.

00:18:11.000 Right.

00:18:12.000 So then back to my original point was do we have the willingness to unlearn?

00:18:16.000 So perhaps it's the open conversation that needs to happen at a later stage or there and then if he wants to have that conversation.

00:18:23.000 Can he effectively communicate that?

00:18:26.000 Can they both take it in and understand?

00:18:28.000 Because you can listen and hear something, but you may not understand it.

00:18:31.000 So you can just say, yes, okay.

00:18:33.000 Did you hear me?

00:18:35.000 Yeah.

00:18:36.000 Did you understand me?

00:18:37.000 Mm-hmm.

00:18:38.000 But then if I drill that into you, then maybe that's what she meant.

00:18:41.000 It's a nag. 1.00

00:18:42.000 No.

00:18:43.000 You know?

00:18:44.000 So again, unlearning bad behavior or unlearning bad habits that were installed, programmed, society, outside social media, whatever it is.

00:18:51.000 That's one of the things we have to be willing to unlearn things that don't serve you or serve the purpose of whatever the relationship is.

00:18:58.000 I'll just say though, I'll just say though, there are some things that men can actually tolerate in women. 0.98

00:19:04.000 But the worst thing is, is that particular behavior of wanting to nag or argue.

00:19:08.000 It's even in the Bible, it's better for a man to live on the corner of his roof than to live in a house with a quarrelsome wife. 0.94

00:19:14.000 If that's in the Bible, then bruh. 0.93

00:19:17.000 Like, every religion on earth has actually have something to say about things like this.

00:19:23.000 So it goes to tell you that there are just some things that women should actually work on. 1.00

00:19:29.000 And this is the problem.

00:19:30.000 A lot of women don't want to work on some issues and they just want to, like we said, they feel entitled and they feel like they deserve this. 1.00

00:19:37.000 But the reality is you can only get what you earn and what you work for.

00:19:41.000 So I don't know.

00:19:43.000 King, could you pull up the video I sent you?

00:19:46.000 I don't know if you have it.

00:19:48.000 I'm going to ask them one more thing though.

00:19:50.000 Did you guys give your icks?

00:19:52.000 You did.

00:19:53.000 You did. 0.91

00:19:54.000 Did you give your ick? 0.99

00:19:55.000 It's mainly like a lady that is always negative and always moaning. 1.00

00:20:00.000 I'm a very positive individual, but you know what it is for me, it's all about understanding each other.

00:20:06.000 And I could be as happy as ever and be around someone that is so not at peace with themselves.

00:20:12.000 And they use another person to lean on for comfort.

00:20:16.000 And this is why I always try and tell people, even like with men and women, everybody like work on yourself from the core, from inside to then develop an understanding about yourself.

00:20:27.000 Have a relation with yourself to then put yourself out there to know that you're comfortable getting into a relationship because the negativity will consume.

00:20:34.000 And they always say when you're around somebody like you then become like that.

00:20:38.000 And I can't deal with it.

00:20:39.000 So I was like out with one lady one time and just nagging and talking about someone else and negative about the icks and what he did.

00:20:47.000 And I'm like, baby, you know what?

00:20:49.000 I think I've got to go home now.

00:20:52.000 I'm tired.

00:20:53.000 I've got a migraine.

00:20:54.000 You get it?

00:20:55.000 So yeah, that's it for me though.

00:20:56.000 That's the ick for me.

00:20:57.000 Just the negativity and the non-passion of wanting more for yourself and positivity.

00:21:03.000 So yeah.

00:21:04.000 What do you think men should get out of marriage?

00:21:07.000 Out of marriage.

00:21:10.000 I think they should get companionship.

00:21:13.000 Yes.

00:21:14.000 But you can get that out of a girlfriend. 1.00

00:21:17.000 What a wife. 1.00

00:21:18.000 Why a wife? 0.99

00:21:19.000 Okay.

00:21:20.000 So for me, I'm kind of with her on the fact of like marriage is kind of like a gray area because that's kind of determined by the person.

00:21:27.000 Because some people consider like relationships.

00:21:30.000 Some people consider like a marriage as just a legal document.

00:21:33.000 So I think it's based on like kind of what you believe or feel about that sort of thing.

00:21:39.000 But I just feel like in a serious relationship or like y'all are in a household together, married, whatever.

00:21:46.000 That's what I'm kind of referring to.

00:21:48.000 So I guess like the difference of companionship in a relationship versus a marriage is like you're being a homemaker.

00:21:55.000 You know, we're making decisions together about children.

00:21:58.000 Do you think men should make decisions with the wife? 0.91

00:22:01.000 I think that there should be a conversation, but I definitely I think like I personally I would like a man who can lead.

00:22:08.000 So yeah, like but I do want somebody who is not just going to like because I'm not your child.

00:22:13.000 So I don't want somebody who's like making making decisions for me.

00:22:16.000 Why would he consult you if he's going to make the final decision anyway?

00:22:19.000 Because maybe as your wife, I could offer you a different insight, different perspective.

00:22:25.000 You know, I'm a grown woman, too.

00:22:27.000 So, you know, I have some wisdom.

00:22:29.000 What if he doesn't want your advice?

00:22:31.000 He just he wants to make the decision.

00:22:33.000 Is that OK?

00:22:35.000 Yeah, I would have to respect that.

00:22:36.000 But, you know, from there, then you will understand that there might be a conversation or communication had to follow up.

00:22:43.000 It's just like any other decision that's made.

00:22:45.000 OK, so he gets someone he can talk to about decisions.

00:22:49.000 He gets companionship.

00:22:50.000 He gets someone who's nurturing, going to take care of your kids, you know, handle the business at home.

00:22:57.000 So then by that logic, the older women couldn't do the kids thing like over 35. 1.00

00:23:02.000 It's geriatric pregnancy. 0.73

00:23:03.000 So should that be out for women over 35 then? 0.74

00:23:07.000 Should what be out?

00:23:08.000 Marriage.

00:23:09.000 Everybody don't want kids.

00:23:10.000 No, but I said the like he would not get marriage from or he would not likely get children from a woman woman that's over the age of 35. 0.94

00:23:18.000 So she can't offer that in a marriage. 0.61

00:23:20.000 Yeah.

00:23:21.000 OK.

00:23:22.000 But I'm saying by that logic, then the older woman couldn't offer that, right? 0.99

00:23:26.000 Correct.

00:23:27.000 Yeah.

00:23:28.000 OK.

00:23:29.000 So what else does a guy get?

00:23:30.000 A vibe, you know, like somebody to lay down with at night, you know, that's just yours that you're not sharing with anybody else on the streets.

00:23:44.000 Yeah.

00:23:45.000 That whole married vibe.

00:23:46.000 No, a vibe, like something that you're not going to get from being out with your boys at the poker game, like that kind of vibe, like a different type of feeling.

00:23:57.000 OK.

00:23:58.000 What do you think a man should get out of marriage? 0.86

00:24:01.000 Um, I'm not sure because I don't think a man can really gain anything from a marriage. 0.81

00:24:07.000 Oh.

00:24:08.000 Very well spotted.

00:24:09.000 Oh.

00:24:10.000 Yeah, I just, I don't, I don't, yeah, I just, I don't think, yeah, they, they don't actually benefit because anything they can get in a marriage they can get without being married.

00:24:21.000 Yeah.

00:24:22.000 Honest answer.

00:24:23.000 All right.

00:24:24.000 What do you think a man, what do you think a man can get out of marriage? 0.56

00:24:26.000 Well, I think they get a loyal woman. 0.99

00:24:28.000 I think they get a woman that is, no, if they choose right, they get a loyal woman because, you know, our choices are down to us and vice versa with men.

00:24:42.000 If a man chooses the wrong woman, then that's. 1.00

00:24:44.000 What is the right woman? 1.00

00:24:45.000 Wouldn't you say a woman under the age of. 1.00

00:24:48.000 No, I'm not going to say age.

00:24:50.000 Okay.

00:24:51.000 I'm not going to say age.

00:24:52.000 So what is the right woman? 1.00

00:24:53.000 Because some people.

00:24:54.000 No kids.

00:24:55.000 No kids.

00:24:56.000 No.

00:24:57.000 It depends.

00:24:58.000 Is the man, is, is the man divorced or did he have a previous where he had children as well?

00:25:02.000 And now he's looking for something different.

00:25:05.000 Well, but, but the reason, the reason I'm saying is we know the body count stats.

00:25:10.000 If a girl slept with two people, it's like 50, 50 on if she, if it will be a successful marriage. 1.00

00:25:17.000 If you slept with four people, it's like you may be of a 20% chance of having a happy marriage.

00:25:22.000 So, so my question is, what does the right woman look like with these numbers? 0.99

00:25:26.000 Okay.

00:25:27.000 So the right woman is someone who's peaceful.

00:25:29.000 Who's got, got like, who's there for her man when needed.

00:25:33.000 And how do you measure that?

00:25:35.000 How do you measure that?

00:25:36.000 Yeah.

00:25:37.000 How do you measure it?

00:25:38.000 You know, cause men need help emotionally as well. 0.74

00:25:40.000 And I know a lot of men would say they don't, but I've been in long-term relationships.

00:25:43.000 They do.

00:25:44.000 They definitely do.

00:25:45.000 They definitely confide in their woman and, um, need that. 1.00

00:25:50.000 Um, so all I can say is when I was in a long-term relationship,

00:25:55.000 I would be running around making sure that when he gets in from work, that the house is peaceful.

00:26:00.000 So, um, that would look like running a bathroom, making sure his food was done when he got in,

00:26:05.000 you know, all those kinds of things.

00:26:06.000 Okay.

00:26:07.000 Um, but then mentioning that I wasn't married.

00:26:10.000 Yeah.

00:26:11.000 But I was living as if I was married.

00:26:13.000 I was playing that role.

00:26:14.000 But that's the, that's the question is like, what, what can a guy get out of marriage that he couldn't get from a girlfriend?

00:26:19.000 Cause you can have a loyal girlfriend.

00:26:21.000 Yeah.

00:26:22.000 Yeah.

00:26:23.000 Yeah.

00:26:24.000 So I, when I was younger and obviously would have had the opportunity to get married.

00:26:29.000 Um, I didn't, I didn't really believe in the piece of paper.

00:26:33.000 I believed in loyalty.

00:26:35.000 I believed in, you know, I'm here and I'm not going anywhere.

00:26:38.000 But we can, you can do a church marriage.

00:26:39.000 That's fine.

00:26:40.000 But I don't believe in, I didn't, I'm not talking about you.

00:26:44.000 What I'm saying is it's hard to speak sometimes without basing it on yourself.

00:26:48.000 I think everyone's done that here so far.

00:26:50.000 It's the easiest way to speak on a subject.

00:26:53.000 And that's like a female thing. 1.00

00:26:54.000 No.

00:26:55.000 Yeah, it is.

00:26:56.000 It's more of a, no, I'm saying it's much more of a, it's much more, no, it's much more of a female. 0.68

00:27:01.000 No, because that was an individual question.

00:27:03.000 Well, where the second question is more general.

00:27:05.000 Women tend to interpret information more individually, where men will answer questions more like logically, typically. 0.98

00:27:12.000 Yeah, because we have, there's benefits to each sex, that's why we complement each other.

00:27:18.000 Which is, I'm not saying it's a bad thing.

00:27:20.000 That's what, I'm just, you're kind of arguing with me about it.

00:27:23.000 I'm just saying they're different.

00:27:24.000 But my question more is, like, what does a guy get out of marriage?

00:27:29.000 Like, what should he get out?

00:27:30.000 I think those were good answers though, the house peaceful.

00:27:32.000 Yeah.

00:27:33.000 I think nothing then.

00:27:34.000 Yeah.

00:27:35.000 Because, you know, when the.

00:27:36.000 Yeah, because the girlfriend's messing up the game. 1.00

00:27:38.000 Yeah, but.

00:27:39.000 Definitely.

00:27:40.000 Right.

00:27:41.000 I'm not, I'm not sure that's the conclusion.

00:27:46.000 Yeah.

00:27:47.000 It is the conclusion.

00:27:48.000 All the boys are getting dumped.

00:27:51.000 I don't, wouldn't it be to offer more value?

00:27:54.000 No?

00:27:55.000 Okay.

00:27:56.000 What was that?

00:27:57.000 No?

00:27:58.000 Offer more value to the guys?

00:28:00.000 No?

00:28:01.000 No?

00:28:02.000 Okay, still easy.

00:28:03.000 Alright, next.

00:28:04.000 No, no, no.

00:28:05.000 Do you have anything else you want to add?

00:28:07.000 Yeah, I did have something, but I'll come back to it.

00:28:12.000 Okay.

00:28:13.000 Okay.

00:28:14.000 Thank you.

00:28:15.000 Go ahead.

00:28:16.000 Leading on from what you said as well, peaceful home.

00:28:18.000 Yeah.

00:28:19.000 But they do get the contract, the promise, ultimately, with the marriage, which is different from the long-term relationship where you're playing housewives.

00:28:28.000 I would say they get, as well, the, right, okay, so they get the contract, right?

00:28:36.000 It's the promise.

00:28:37.000 The contract.

00:28:38.000 Yeah.

00:28:39.000 Because it comes with punishment, doesn't it?

00:28:41.000 Mm-hmm.

00:28:42.000 Yeah.

00:28:43.000 So that's what they get.

00:28:44.000 For the guy, yeah.

00:28:45.000 Yeah, wait, for who?

00:28:46.000 Ah, no, whoa, whoa, whoa.

00:28:47.000 For who?

00:28:48.000 No, no, not always.

00:28:49.000 That's not fair.

00:28:50.000 The contract.

00:28:51.000 The contract.

00:28:52.000 Yeah, no, it depends what's in the contract.

00:28:53.000 I wonder.

00:28:54.000 Yeah, absolutely.

00:28:55.000 We're seeing the contract, but that's what it is.

00:28:56.000 It's a promise.

00:28:57.000 Who typically gets child support, men or women?

00:29:00.000 Um, it depends on what family you're growing up in, but most women probably get it, right? 1.00

00:29:05.000 So then how do you-

00:29:06.000 I don't know.

00:29:07.000 I don't.

00:29:08.000 So couldn't we argue that women actually get a reward for leaving? 1.00

00:29:10.000 No, but you can't-

00:29:12.000 Not if you don't have any give.

00:29:13.000 Is it about the money?

00:29:14.000 Because it's most women that will bring up the children, so- 1.00

00:29:16.000 Yeah.

00:29:17.000 The women are having to bring them up. 1.00

00:29:18.000 Right, but that's like a catch-

00:29:19.000 The man was bringing them up.

00:29:20.000 That's a catch-22 though, because they're punishing traditional men.

00:29:24.000 If the man does what he's supposed to do, which is protect and provide for the family,

00:29:29.000 then they say, oh, gotcha.

00:29:31.000 Now you don't get the kids because you didn't spend enough time with the kids.

00:29:35.000 But if he was at home with the children, they would say, why don't you have a job?

00:29:40.000 Yeah, you get penalized.

00:29:41.000 So you think that men would prefer to bring the children up? 0.99

00:29:44.000 I think that most men would prefer to bring the kids up. 0.94

00:29:49.000 I think most men would prefer to have the authority on the decision.

00:29:53.000 Because men tend to be better people.

00:29:55.000 And they actually don't hold the kids.

00:29:57.000 They don't take away the kids out of spite.

00:29:59.000 That's something women do. 1.00

00:30:00.000 A lot.

00:30:01.000 Single father homes turn out significantly better than single mother homes. 0.99

00:30:06.000 That's true.

00:30:07.000 And if you believe in patriarchy, if you believe in men having authority in the household,

00:30:12.000 why would they not have authority over their children?

00:30:14.000 Yeah.

00:30:15.000 And I just say, everyone said they wanted the leader and stuff.

00:30:17.000 Wouldn't the father be a better person to raise the kid if he's a leader?

00:30:20.000 Yep.

00:30:21.000 Yeah, but does he have the time to raise them if he's the leader?

00:30:24.000 He'd still be the better.

00:30:25.000 He's got to earn all the money.

00:30:26.000 No, but the point is men will still give the kid to the mother. 1.00

00:30:31.000 That's what women do. 1.00

00:30:32.000 They're the ones that keep the kid away from the dad.

00:30:35.000 I don't know.

00:30:36.000 Where did they learn this?

00:30:37.000 What?

00:30:38.000 Where did they start teaching this?

00:30:39.000 Where did they start doing that?

00:30:40.000 When did women start doing that? 1.00

00:30:42.000 Where did they learn this from?

00:30:43.000 Where do they learn to keep the kids from the dad? 0.99

00:30:46.000 Each other.

00:30:47.000 They learn it from each other.

00:30:48.000 They tell each other, call someone up.

00:30:50.000 All you have to say is, he abused you.

00:30:51.000 And then you get the kids.

00:30:52.000 And then you'll get money as well.

00:30:54.000 But didn't you say to call your friend if you're having an argument?

00:30:57.000 Isn't that the same friend?

00:30:58.000 No, no, no, no.

00:30:59.000 I did not say call your friend if you have an argument.

00:31:01.000 Absolutely not.

00:31:02.000 You don't tell people outside of your relationship about arguments.

00:31:05.000 I said if you have something that you're nagging about.

00:31:07.000 When I hear nagging, I think that that's something insignificant.

00:31:10.000 So for example, she gave the example of dishes.

00:31:13.000 If it's something like the dishes, ultimately that's her problem.

00:31:17.000 She's letting dishes annoy you. 1.00

00:31:18.000 If they annoy you that much, do it yourself.

00:31:20.000 So you could go and call your mum or tell your friend.

00:31:23.000 He didn't do the dishes and it drove me nuts because that's her issue.

00:31:26.000 An argument is an issue within the relationship.

00:31:28.000 That shouldn't go outside of the relationship.

00:31:30.000 Yeah.

00:31:31.000 I would never ever tell anyone to take issues that are within a relationship outside of a relationship

00:31:36.000 because that's wrong on all levels.

00:31:38.000 This fuels it more.

00:31:40.000 Where are women learning? 1.00

00:31:41.000 I just think when women get power, we're bad people. 1.00

00:31:44.000 Yeah.

00:31:45.000 I don't know what it is.

00:31:46.000 Whenever.

00:31:47.000 Why?

00:31:48.000 Emotions.

00:31:49.000 Why?

00:31:50.000 Emotions.

00:31:51.000 Yeah.

00:31:52.000 I think, I mean I'm Catholic.

00:31:54.000 I think there's a natural order in the world.

00:31:56.000 So I think it's supposed to go God, men, women, children. 0.70

00:32:00.000 Arguably government in there too.

00:32:02.000 But let's just stick to the family unit.

00:32:04.000 God, men, women, children.

00:32:05.000 I think evil happens when you tell women that they're equal to men. 1.00

00:32:09.000 And that's typically, like the last hundred years, what policies have women passed since 1.00

00:32:13.000 they've gotten the most political power?

00:32:15.000 They've passed policies that oppress men.

00:32:18.000 Bob Powell.

00:32:19.000 Go ahead.

00:32:20.000 What King said earlier, that there was an equilibrium going on before where the women 0.99

00:32:27.000 would have to go out, go get her dinner, and then build the home. 1.00

00:32:30.000 Is that what he said?

00:32:32.000 Yeah, I said that, but she was still under the authority of her man, even when she was 0.99

00:32:36.000 working alongside him.

00:32:37.000 So she could do everything.

00:32:39.000 No.

00:32:40.000 I'm not saying she has to do everything.

00:32:42.000 The man was still providing for the family, but the woman was working alongside him.

00:32:47.000 Yeah.

00:32:48.000 Now this idea that women, now to, oh, it was way harder before. 0.77

00:32:52.000 Oh my gosh.

00:32:53.000 Have you Googled like, have you heard of Amish people anyone?

00:32:56.000 Yeah.

00:32:57.000 Google like a day in the life of the Amish and tell me if most women could do that over 1.00

00:33:01.000 a desk job.

00:33:02.000 I couldn't.

00:33:03.000 Most women couldn't. 1.00

00:33:04.000 No, I couldn't.

00:33:05.000 No, but that's like this idea that women were just at home, like sitting, doing nothing. 1.00

00:33:09.000 I'm like, life was hard for most of history.

00:33:12.000 Like, I promise you, your desk job is not harder than what the women of times past did. 1.00

00:33:19.000 Physically.

00:33:20.000 Yeah.

00:33:21.000 Mentally.

00:33:22.000 Well, I would say it's harder on women to be away from the family, right? 1.00

00:33:25.000 That's what we got, like work husbands. 1.00

00:33:27.000 You know, it's tough when you're around people all the time, you know, to not mix that stuff.

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JustPearlyThings - October 28, 2023

This Obsessed Lady Gets DESTROYED by Pearl with These Stats

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