This Obsessed Lady Gets DESTROYED by Pearl with These Stats
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In this episode, we discuss the red flags that we look out for in a potential partner and how to spot them. We also talk about our own red flags and what we look for in potential suitors. We hope you enjoy, sit down, and have a nice drink.
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If they're like, oh, I'm six boosted and I believe everything the government says, please don't come to me.
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I have one. I'm a feminist. Like a guy that says he's a feminist.
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If a guy says to me he's a feminist, I will throw up in my mouth.
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I've been on a date like that. He told me that. I'm like, you were talking to the wrongs.
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Wait, was that recently? Was that in the last few years?
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No, no, no, no. But I was like, this is the wrong.
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And that just gives me an ick in people in general.
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Like if, if you can't see what you want and be able to put things into place to execute it.
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And that just tells me that you're, you have an inability to think critically and strategically about things,
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which I think is a really masculine trait to be able to do that.
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And I think you were talking about the whole, a woman when she's older, having to be in her masculine energy more.
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Well, that's because then women have to think about, right.
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I have no one to depend on who's going to do this for me.
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So I have to use my brain myself, which means I need to think about where I'm going to get to and how I'm going to get there.
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I think it's really attractive when you don't have to think around a man and you just know they're going to get you somewhere.
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Um, but I, I do think women do need to have a level of, of being able to operate because again, you know,
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if you have someone who can't operate, well then you end up with a liberal.
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I can't do not start on the ability to make scrambled eggs.
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Scrambled eggs are an omelet basically chopped up.
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Probably somebody that's loud mouth, overweight.
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Uh, someone's like, Oh, I'm going to sit there.
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I don't like the way that looks or complain about the weight or something like that.
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Someone just doesn't make the whole night peaceful.
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Have you been on a date recently where a girl did something and made you not want to talk to her again?
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See, I'm more of a long term, my relationship has been long term, but in between those gaps.
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Um, to me as well, I'm a bad responder as well.
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Because what you're saying about responses and that, I'm the kind of guy that will message you and they won't message you back for like a good couple of hours.
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And for someone to keep consistently messaging me, consistently messaging me, that's kind of unique for me as well.
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I mean, sometimes I find that that kind of neediness you're talking about.
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I ain't sitting there all day texting with you.
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I've given a girl freedom before and it backfired us.
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So I do agree with the, you know, paying attention to me and stuff.
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Because I'm not going to respond back to you and then you're not going to like that.
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You can't expect it to be like equal amounts of attention given back and forth.
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It's good that you're obsessed with me, but I understand I'm busy.
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Like you're going to get the occasional hi, I love you.
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Like, and you have to, you have to learn to be okay with that.
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When she used to tell me that she loved me, that was enough for me for the rest of the day.
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So if I say to her I'm busy, she understands I'm busy for the whole day.
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I'm not busy just for the next 20 minutes or so.
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I had a French ex who did basically exactly that.
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I look at it as about 40 text messages, about 20 missed calls and about seven voicemails.
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And it starts off, I'm like doing them in sequential order.
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And it starts off with, hey, babe, what are you up to?
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And then it went, and the voice notes were like just her crying into the phone.
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I'm like, whoa, broke up with her right after that.
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That's what you're going to do with a 24 year old.
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No, the biggest misconception is somehow older women are more mature.
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I think 100% of the women I've kicked out of here and that have not listened to the rules
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Because when you think about it, when women like date, the more people women date, the
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And when we admit this on social media, you'll see girls say, oh, I accepted all this treatment
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It's basically making the men of the future pay for the mistakes of the past.
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I feel like just in general, it seems like we're like taking every responsibility of the
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Like the women have the woman has to be understanding.
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She has to conform to whatever you want to have going on in your household.
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Like, I think maybe my idea of a relationship is just a little bit different.
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It kind of seems like you want a younger woman that you can like mold or like kind of make
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a certain type of way or that will kind of like accept anything.
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And I don't know if every woman is going to be that, but it's somebody for everybody.
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Somebody is going to like something about somebody.
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There's a lot of very lonely, socially awkward men.
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You know, that's how people find their second wind.
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But how do people get around the world by being rich, which means that they're the top
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10, 20% of people, which most people aren't going to get to?
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I'm not saying that you have to be all around the world.
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But I do think, you know, if you put forth that effort, if that's what you want, if that's
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what you're seeking, if you're going to put every energy.
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Explore and meet people and date people and find people like you're, it's going to be,
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and it might not be your choice, but there might be somebody who is into you and wants
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So the difference between men and women is men already conform to what women want.
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They typically have to have a good job and make money.
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They typically have to be charismatic to get women to even talk to them.
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The difference is women don't know what men want because they'll still sleep with us
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So women are not forced to conform to what men want because we'll get the attention anyways.
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And there's evidence that suggests that 50% of women are never going to have kids or get married.
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And then you take the women that do get married, 50% of them will divorce.
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So like if we take this room, for example, how many girls are there in this room?
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At least, at least, let's make it nicer than it is.
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At least three of us will never get married and never have kids.
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I'm not saying just because there is somebody for everybody that's going to find that person.
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Like I could go out in the street and get hit by a car and I can die tomorrow
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and I didn't have my opportunity to meet my soulmate.
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But just because that might not be everybody in this room's cup of tea,
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Yeah, and there's a woman who will accept a man.
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There are, and that's why there are so many divorces.
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So I'll tell you, what percent, so they surveyed 5,000 men,
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and they asked what percent of men have had more than one sexual partner in the past year.
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So women, it's basically 100% of women are sleeping with 20% of men.
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And it's the same when you look at dating apps.
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It's not that the women can't get anybody, but it's once we've hit a certain level, we can't go down.
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They go around and they say, raise your standards.
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And then don't accept the treatment that you accepted before.
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But the problem is, there's not enough men that women want to go around.
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Well, I think that might have something to do with the way our culture and mindset around relationships have definitely changed.
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Like, you guys are saying you are wanting a traditional relationship.
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Well, nobody is moving in a traditional way these days.
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You have older men looking for someone half their age because, you know, they're clashing with the women who have these mindsets that they've gathered from pop culture or whatever that's going on today.
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So, you know, if we have this imbalance of people who are agreeing on what they want out of a relationship or what they actually can provide in that relationship, because I think a lot of people also aren't realistic with themselves, then, of course, you're going to have some type of imbalance in the amount of people that want to be married and the people that will get married.
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No, but the reality is women today don't even understand what traditionalism is, because when women say they want to be traditional, they always have this idea of the man pays for everything.
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The man earns so much money that he can cater for the family.
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But the reality is most people that were traditional back in the day weren't even living that kind of life.
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The women were literally working alongside their husbands and still gave them the respect of being the man of the house.
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So every family you see that have come through time, there's only a few of them that actually lived a soft life.
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So women today all want to live like the queens of the past.
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That's why you have something called the sassy man apocalypse.
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Like men are literally running around bragging about Vanessa and dates out of women.
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I actually disagree because all throughout history, only 40% of men have ever reproduced.
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So the reality is throughout history, men have never really been at the table like women think.
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The only reason why you think men have been is because it's the men you see.
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And those are the men that are actually desirable.
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What percent of men do you even think can finesse dates?
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I think, like I said, it's somebody for everybody.
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Like you literally have stuff like people that come out of prison and they find women on Facebook and now a woman is taking care of it and paying all their bills.
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So you're actually, you're not wrong about, you're not wrong about criminals.
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Like violent criminals are more likely to reproduce, but that's because women are attracted to men that can protect them.
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And there's some biology where women, you know, think that if a guy kills someone else, some reason that they can kill for her too.
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Women absolutely hate to admit that that's what we find attractive.
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But there is a reason that every single girl loves watching horror films and documentaries about serial killers.
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What percent of men do you think women find attractive?
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Like we think we have so many choices and we don't have everybody on the hinge.
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Like you're not going to meet everybody in the world.
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So you can't just base it off of who you're attracted to.
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Like there's so many more things that go into a relationship.
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But the problem is that's what women select for in their 20s.
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That's the number one thing women select for in their 20s is looks.
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And so when women have the most options, they're selecting for looks and they're only dating and sleeping with the top 20 percent of men.
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And that's why the women will say men are trash, men are the problem, because they're all sleeping with 20 percent of men,
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where 80 percent of men aren't really getting play at all.
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That means 80 percent of men are on the hunt for these women.
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Women should be very easy to get that 80 percent.
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You need to settle down with the scrub with the bag.
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And that's why people think that women expire so early.
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It's because you're looking for somebody who has this certain image that you've seen on Instagram, you've seen on social media,
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where you're sleeping on, you know, every other aspect that is the important things in a relationship looks will fade.
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Because if you ask me, if women have an expiration date, so do men.
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But the difference is men don't expire the same way women do.
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I would argue if men have an expiration date, it's maybe 55, 50.
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If you want the most swiped right age on, I think it's like Plenty of Fish or something.
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Okay, are you attracted to a guy that has a good career?
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Yeah, and are you attracted to a guy that's wiser than you?
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They don't care about how wise you are about the world.
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Men are kind of attracted to girls that are naive.
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So we're just not attracted to the same things.
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But like if I can teach her about the reality of the world and she's going to like learn it.
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If I can get her on my game plan, we're all going to win.
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If she's like combating me and fighting it because she's got all this other programming in her head already.
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We're going to be fighting each other the whole way.
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And if she's like 30 going on 40, so many other people have tried to teach her stuff.
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But then that also comes down to, obviously, we're not talking about age.
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But when you're having a partner, one of my things is I say to my friends before we got here.
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Do you have the desire to want to unlearn some of your BS behavior?
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Do you have that desire as a friend, as a family member, as a whatever?
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Because some things may not be serving you the way you think it does.
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So, for example, the young lady over there said communication, effective communication,
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the way she receives, the way she delivers, he may decide that, you know what?
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I'm not saying he needs to conform to throwing her toys out the car to want an argument, whatever.
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But he understands that maybe that means that she just wants a bit of attention.
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Whatever it is that he knows gets her to a place of comfort where she feels safe.
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So that, again, you're understanding her communication.
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No, like when you said if she's doing all of that, then he just...
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I'm not saying he needs to give a hug. I'm just saying whatever works for her.
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No, but whatever works for her is not what he should do.
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Because what happens is just like the child analogy.
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When a child throws a tantrum and then you suit their tantrum, you literally tell them that whenever they want something, they can get it by doing that.
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So then back to my original point was do we have the willingness to unlearn?
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So perhaps it's the open conversation that needs to happen at a later stage or there and then if he wants to have that conversation.
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Because you can listen and hear something, but you may not understand it.
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But then if I drill that into you, then maybe that's what she meant.
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So again, unlearning bad behavior or unlearning bad habits that were installed, programmed, society, outside social media, whatever it is.
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That's one of the things we have to be willing to unlearn things that don't serve you or serve the purpose of whatever the relationship is.
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I'll just say though, I'll just say though, there are some things that men can actually tolerate in women.
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But the worst thing is, is that particular behavior of wanting to nag or argue.
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It's even in the Bible, it's better for a man to live on the corner of his roof than to live in a house with a quarrelsome wife.
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Like, every religion on earth has actually have something to say about things like this.
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So it goes to tell you that there are just some things that women should actually work on.
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A lot of women don't want to work on some issues and they just want to, like we said, they feel entitled and they feel like they deserve this.
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But the reality is you can only get what you earn and what you work for.
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It's mainly like a lady that is always negative and always moaning.
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I'm a very positive individual, but you know what it is for me, it's all about understanding each other.
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And I could be as happy as ever and be around someone that is so not at peace with themselves.
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And they use another person to lean on for comfort.
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And this is why I always try and tell people, even like with men and women, everybody like work on yourself from the core, from inside to then develop an understanding about yourself.
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Have a relation with yourself to then put yourself out there to know that you're comfortable getting into a relationship because the negativity will consume.
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And they always say when you're around somebody like you then become like that.
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So I was like out with one lady one time and just nagging and talking about someone else and negative about the icks and what he did.
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Just the negativity and the non-passion of wanting more for yourself and positivity.
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What do you think men should get out of marriage?
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So for me, I'm kind of with her on the fact of like marriage is kind of like a gray area because that's kind of determined by the person.
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Because some people consider like relationships.
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Some people consider like a marriage as just a legal document.
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So I think it's based on like kind of what you believe or feel about that sort of thing.
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But I just feel like in a serious relationship or like y'all are in a household together, married, whatever.
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So I guess like the difference of companionship in a relationship versus a marriage is like you're being a homemaker.
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You know, we're making decisions together about children.
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Do you think men should make decisions with the wife?
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I think that there should be a conversation, but I definitely I think like I personally I would like a man who can lead.
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So yeah, like but I do want somebody who is not just going to like because I'm not your child.
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So I don't want somebody who's like making making decisions for me.
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Why would he consult you if he's going to make the final decision anyway?
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Because maybe as your wife, I could offer you a different insight, different perspective.
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But, you know, from there, then you will understand that there might be a conversation or communication had to follow up.
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OK, so he gets someone he can talk to about decisions.
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He gets someone who's nurturing, going to take care of your kids, you know, handle the business at home.
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So then by that logic, the older women couldn't do the kids thing like over 35.
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No, but I said the like he would not get marriage from or he would not likely get children from a woman woman that's over the age of 35.
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But I'm saying by that logic, then the older woman couldn't offer that, right?
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A vibe, you know, like somebody to lay down with at night, you know, that's just yours that you're not sharing with anybody else on the streets.
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No, a vibe, like something that you're not going to get from being out with your boys at the poker game, like that kind of vibe, like a different type of feeling.
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What do you think a man should get out of marriage?
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Um, I'm not sure because I don't think a man can really gain anything from a marriage.
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Yeah, I just, I don't, I don't, yeah, I just, I don't think, yeah, they, they don't actually benefit because anything they can get in a marriage they can get without being married.
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What do you think a man, what do you think a man can get out of marriage?
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I think they get a woman that is, no, if they choose right, they get a loyal woman because, you know, our choices are down to us and vice versa with men.
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Is the man, is, is the man divorced or did he have a previous where he had children as well?
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Well, but, but the reason, the reason I'm saying is we know the body count stats.
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If a girl slept with two people, it's like 50, 50 on if she, if it will be a successful marriage.
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If you slept with four people, it's like you may be of a 20% chance of having a happy marriage.
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So, so my question is, what does the right woman look like with these numbers?
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Who's got, got like, who's there for her man when needed.
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You know, cause men need help emotionally as well.
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And I know a lot of men would say they don't, but I've been in long-term relationships.
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They definitely confide in their woman and, um, need that.
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Um, so all I can say is when I was in a long-term relationship,
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I would be running around making sure that when he gets in from work, that the house is peaceful.
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So, um, that would look like running a bathroom, making sure his food was done when he got in,
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But that's the, that's the question is like, what, what can a guy get out of marriage that he couldn't get from a girlfriend?
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So I, when I was younger and obviously would have had the opportunity to get married.
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Um, I didn't, I didn't really believe in the piece of paper.
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I believed in, you know, I'm here and I'm not going anywhere.
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But I don't believe in, I didn't, I'm not talking about you.
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What I'm saying is it's hard to speak sometimes without basing it on yourself.
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It's more of a, no, I'm saying it's much more of a, it's much more, no, it's much more of a female.
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Well, where the second question is more general.
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Women tend to interpret information more individually, where men will answer questions more like logically, typically.
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Yeah, because we have, there's benefits to each sex, that's why we complement each other.
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That's what, I'm just, you're kind of arguing with me about it.
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But my question more is, like, what does a guy get out of marriage?
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I think those were good answers though, the house peaceful.
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Yeah, because the girlfriend's messing up the game.
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Yeah, I did have something, but I'll come back to it.
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Leading on from what you said as well, peaceful home.
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But they do get the contract, the promise, ultimately, with the marriage, which is different from the long-term relationship where you're playing housewives.
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I would say they get, as well, the, right, okay, so they get the contract, right?
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We're seeing the contract, but that's what it is.
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Who typically gets child support, men or women?
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Um, it depends on what family you're growing up in, but most women probably get it, right?
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So couldn't we argue that women actually get a reward for leaving?
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Because it's most women that will bring up the children, so-
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That's a catch-22 though, because they're punishing traditional men.
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If the man does what he's supposed to do, which is protect and provide for the family,
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Now you don't get the kids because you didn't spend enough time with the kids.
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But if he was at home with the children, they would say, why don't you have a job?
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So you think that men would prefer to bring the children up?
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I think that most men would prefer to bring the kids up.
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I think most men would prefer to have the authority on the decision.
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Single father homes turn out significantly better than single mother homes.
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And if you believe in patriarchy, if you believe in men having authority in the household,
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why would they not have authority over their children?
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And I just say, everyone said they wanted the leader and stuff.
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Wouldn't the father be a better person to raise the kid if he's a leader?
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Yeah, but does he have the time to raise them if he's the leader?
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No, but the point is men will still give the kid to the mother.
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They're the ones that keep the kid away from the dad.
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Where do they learn to keep the kids from the dad?
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But didn't you say to call your friend if you're having an argument?
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I did not say call your friend if you have an argument.
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You don't tell people outside of your relationship about arguments.
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I said if you have something that you're nagging about.
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When I hear nagging, I think that that's something insignificant.
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So for example, she gave the example of dishes.
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If it's something like the dishes, ultimately that's her problem.
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So you could go and call your mum or tell your friend.
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He didn't do the dishes and it drove me nuts because that's her issue.
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An argument is an issue within the relationship.
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I would never ever tell anyone to take issues that are within a relationship outside of a relationship
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I just think when women get power, we're bad people.
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So I think it's supposed to go God, men, women, children.
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I think evil happens when you tell women that they're equal to men.
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And that's typically, like the last hundred years, what policies have women passed since
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What King said earlier, that there was an equilibrium going on before where the women
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would have to go out, go get her dinner, and then build the home.
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Yeah, I said that, but she was still under the authority of her man, even when she was
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The man was still providing for the family, but the woman was working alongside him.
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Now this idea that women, now to, oh, it was way harder before.
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Have you Googled like, have you heard of Amish people anyone?
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Google like a day in the life of the Amish and tell me if most women could do that over
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No, but that's like this idea that women were just at home, like sitting, doing nothing.
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Like, I promise you, your desk job is not harder than what the women of times past did.
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Well, I would say it's harder on women to be away from the family, right?
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You know, it's tough when you're around people all the time, you know, to not mix that stuff.
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