00:00:00.000Icks. So, icks would be bad manners, the way someone holds themselves, how they treat others, eating with their mouth open would be a massive ick. That would be a no.
00:00:17.900Straight up, ick. I haven't done a lot of dating or anything. I've only ever had long-term relationships, really, so I don't have a major experience in my relationships.
00:00:28.300I don't think arguing is a good thing. I don't think, so, you know, in my last relationship, I didn't argue or anything like that because, you know, you're there to actually complement each other.
00:00:40.040You're there to make each other's life advance. You want to actually, you know, your man advancing advances your life too.
00:01:12.380Yeah, just the last ick. The last time you were, maybe you went on a date or two or you and you thought, I can never see this guy again ever.
00:01:20.280I feel like so bad saying it though. But the last ick that I had was someone asked me out for a coffee and he's like, come and meet me for a coffee. So there I was happy to go meet him for a coffee. And he turned up with his friend.
00:01:38.000So I was like, oh, what's going on here?
00:01:41.880Who does that at the age we're at now?
00:02:00.860Honestly, I did. I think so. I thought some of my friends were setting me up. And then I thought, no, he's, he's not joking. So the lady in Starbucks, am I allowed to say that? The lady knows me there. So she's like coconut mocha.
00:02:14.440And I'm like, so I look behind me and he's then gone and ordered his drink and his mates drink. But I've got my app ready to pay. And I'm like, no way am I paying for him and his mates coffee?
00:02:30.840I swear to God, I paid and left. I swear, I paid and left. I paid and left because, yeah, because, listen, it's my local. I couldn't do that to myself.
00:02:43.740It's my local. It was too shameful. Plus my points were nearly collected from my three new ones.
00:02:51.760I was like, that's all right. But that was a big ick for me. And some of my friends were like, that's really shallow. What was it? Shallow or.
00:03:00.300It's not at all. Because I felt so violated and disrespected in that instance of him just showing up with his friend in the first place.
00:03:33.340I am ultimately quite bossy though. Like I was going to lead on to. If it was a meeting, a business meeting, fair enough. I'm used to sitting on boards with all people and buying the coffee. That's all right. I don't mind that. But he was asking me out to get to know me. That's why I was shocked.
00:03:51.900Did he even, did he mention that at all? Why the guy was there?
00:03:55.220He's completely, he's completely lost over the situation.
00:03:59.180No, no, no, he did. To be fair. They're not. He wasn't from the area. Right. To be fair. And he was like, my friends. I was like, why have you, why have you bought your mate? And he's like, well, he was just, you know, in the area.
00:04:11.060And I was like, it was getting worse. How did you meet him? So we was talking for like, I would say about a year or two. On Instagram? We met, yeah. So we met through other friends and yeah, it continued through Instagram. So I would say Instagram relation. Wow, two years leading up to this date. What a legend. Exactly. Can you imagine? You will never get that time back. Exactly. Wow. Time is a currency boy. To be fair, in all fairness, it was an invested time on my part.
00:04:38.900But I'm just saying in general, for about two years, we had been in communication and hadn't met up in person. So when it come to that time, I was so upset. Like, I couldn't believe it. But that was an ick. Yeah, cut me off. You dropped the ball.
00:04:52.600Cut me off. I get it, dog. I get it. I get it. Weird. Yeah, that was my end. What about you? Last ick?
00:05:00.280The inability to lead. Yeah. What is, like, can I have an example of that?
00:05:13.940I like, I, okay, it's about what I like. Obviously, this is about me. So I like a man, a masculine man that's not intimidated by somebody else or the next person next to me. If you're into me, I want to feel your aura, your presence around me.
00:05:30.660Because I'm, clearly, I'm into you and I'm all about you. And I don't need you to be all about me, like, drooling on me.
00:05:42.240Energy. And if I don't feel that, it's just such a, you don't have to do the grandest gestures.
00:05:48.600But the lead, like, in a restaurant, not being able to open the menu.
00:05:54.940Yes, you're getting to know me. But what would be nice and what would be good is after you've gotten to know me, I would like you to place my order.
00:06:03.560I think that's what my man should be able to do. So the inability to do that is a big it.
00:06:09.520Okay. So if he doesn't place your order, then?
00:06:12.300I want a traditional man. So if you're not traditional, you're in it.
00:06:15.720Okay. Do you think you're traditional?