In this episode, we talk about the things we've done that have made us feel a little ick and the experiences we've had in the dating world. We talk about how we've dealt with some of the most awkward dating situations we've ever had and how we dealt with them.
00:00:00.000Icks. So, icks would be bad manners, the way someone holds themselves, how they treat others, eating with their mouth open would be a massive ick. That would be a no.
00:00:17.900Straight up, ick. I haven't done a lot of dating or anything. I've only ever had long-term relationships, really, so I don't have a major experience in my relationships.
00:00:28.300I don't think arguing is a good thing. I don't think, so, you know, in my last relationship, I didn't argue or anything like that because, you know, you're there to actually complement each other.
00:00:40.040You're there to make each other's life advance. You want to actually, you know, your man advancing advances your life too.
00:01:12.380Yeah, just the last ick. The last time you were, maybe you went on a date or two or you and you thought, I can never see this guy again ever.
00:01:20.280I feel like so bad saying it though. But the last ick that I had was someone asked me out for a coffee and he's like, come and meet me for a coffee. So there I was happy to go meet him for a coffee. And he turned up with his friend.
00:01:38.000So I was like, oh, what's going on here?
00:01:41.880Who does that at the age we're at now?
00:02:00.860Honestly, I did. I think so. I thought some of my friends were setting me up. And then I thought, no, he's, he's not joking. So the lady in Starbucks, am I allowed to say that? The lady knows me there. So she's like coconut mocha.
00:02:14.440And I'm like, so I look behind me and he's then gone and ordered his drink and his mates drink. But I've got my app ready to pay. And I'm like, no way am I paying for him and his mates coffee?
00:02:30.840I swear to God, I paid and left. I swear, I paid and left. I paid and left because, yeah, because, listen, it's my local. I couldn't do that to myself.
00:02:43.740It's my local. It was too shameful. Plus my points were nearly collected from my three new ones.
00:02:51.760I was like, that's all right. But that was a big ick for me. And some of my friends were like, that's really shallow. What was it? Shallow or.
00:03:00.300It's not at all. Because I felt so violated and disrespected in that instance of him just showing up with his friend in the first place.
00:03:33.340I am ultimately quite bossy though. Like I was going to lead on to. If it was a meeting, a business meeting, fair enough. I'm used to sitting on boards with all people and buying the coffee. That's all right. I don't mind that. But he was asking me out to get to know me. That's why I was shocked.
00:03:51.900Did he even, did he mention that at all? Why the guy was there?
00:03:55.220He's completely, he's completely lost over the situation.
00:03:59.180No, no, no, he did. To be fair. They're not. He wasn't from the area. Right. To be fair. And he was like, my friends. I was like, why have you, why have you bought your mate? And he's like, well, he was just, you know, in the area.
00:04:11.060And I was like, it was getting worse. How did you meet him? So we was talking for like, I would say about a year or two. On Instagram? We met, yeah. So we met through other friends and yeah, it continued through Instagram. So I would say Instagram relation. Wow, two years leading up to this date. What a legend. Exactly. Can you imagine? You will never get that time back. Exactly. Wow. Time is a currency boy. To be fair, in all fairness, it was an invested time on my part.
00:04:38.900But I'm just saying in general, for about two years, we had been in communication and hadn't met up in person. So when it come to that time, I was so upset. Like, I couldn't believe it. But that was an ick. Yeah, cut me off. You dropped the ball.
00:04:52.600Cut me off. I get it, dog. I get it. I get it. Weird. Yeah, that was my end. What about you? Last ick?
00:05:00.280The inability to lead. Yeah. What is, like, can I have an example of that?
00:05:13.940I like, I, okay, it's about what I like. Obviously, this is about me. So I like a man, a masculine man that's not intimidated by somebody else or the next person next to me. If you're into me, I want to feel your aura, your presence around me.
00:05:30.660Because I'm, clearly, I'm into you and I'm all about you. And I don't need you to be all about me, like, drooling on me.
00:05:42.240Energy. And if I don't feel that, it's just such a, you don't have to do the grandest gestures.
00:05:48.600But the lead, like, in a restaurant, not being able to open the menu.
00:05:54.940Yes, you're getting to know me. But what would be nice and what would be good is after you've gotten to know me, I would like you to place my order.
00:06:03.560I think that's what my man should be able to do. So the inability to do that is a big it.
00:06:09.520Okay. So if he doesn't place your order, then?
00:06:12.300I want a traditional man. So if you're not traditional, you're in it.
00:06:15.720Okay. Do you think you're traditional?