JustPearlyThings - This Old Woman Gets ROASTED for Giving Bad Advice

00:00:00.000 The reason 18 and 19-year-olds are more attractive than 25-year-olds is because they've been through Les Dick. 0.99

00:00:04.980 I'll say this right here on the fucking internet. I don't give a shit. 1.00

00:00:07.600 People will sit there and go, oh, you can't say that. Yes, I can. 1.00

00:00:09.920 A 19-year-old is more attractive than a 26-year-old woman, and I'll tell you why. 0.98

00:00:13.060 Because that 26-year-old has talked to more guys, been to the club more times, been more places, been fucked and dumped more times, 0.99

00:00:18.680 more arguments, more heartbreak, more bullshit, more mess for me to clean up. 0.98

00:00:23.240 Whereas a 19-year-old might have had one guy from high school, just broke up, she's fresh, 0.99

00:00:26.620 and I can fucking put my imprint on her and make her a good person, 0.87

00:00:28.540 and without her having to go through all that detriment to learn about life. 0.97

00:00:32.560 Okay, so my first question.

00:00:35.440 How old are you, and what age range do you date?

00:00:41.920 I won't reveal my age, but I can tell you my most recent ex, I was with him on and off four years,

00:00:49.580 and there was a big age difference.

00:00:51.980 He, I think he was 27, 26, 27 this year, so, um, yeah, so I will, I would date between mid-20s,

00:01:01.740 and I'll go from 25 to 55.

00:01:05.340 Wow, that's a huge range.

00:01:07.640 You're enjoying it, huh?

00:01:08.600 Yeah, so I, I can either date you or your dad, or the other way around.

00:01:12.660 Uh, I am 29 minus a week, uh, no, 30 minus a week, apologies,

00:01:25.020 and I date probably up to five years older than me, max, I think.

00:01:32.860 So you won't go, like, if a guy's 40, that's too old?

00:01:36.740 He's a fine 40-year-old.

00:01:38.400 Um, um, five years.

00:01:45.560 Okay, that's a hard now.

00:01:47.460 Wait, but you also didn't mention younger, though.

00:01:49.320 Like, you just...

00:01:50.540 I don't, um, well, younger, maybe max two years younger.

00:01:55.560 Max.

00:01:57.380 It's a tight, tight window for me.

00:02:01.560 I'm 20, I'm 25.

00:02:03.580 I wouldn't do younger anymore, but max, I would do...

00:02:10.740 I think around 30s is good for me.

00:02:13.700 Um, maybe just a bit over, like, 32, 33.

00:02:19.380 Yeah.

00:02:20.320 Yeah, I'm 20.

00:02:21.480 I would date up to 25, just because I haven't got my life sorted yet,

00:02:24.420 and I don't want someone that's, that's got everything sorted out yet, yeah.

00:02:27.340 Um, I'm 20, and I would probably date from, like, 19 to, um, like, a hard cap, maybe, like, 35.

00:02:38.340 Okay.

00:02:39.280 Uh, I'm 34, and I would say, so my girlfriend, like, she's, like, mid-20s,

00:02:44.440 so the bottom end would be mid-20s, and top end would be around late 30s, 40?

00:02:52.080 Late 30s, 40?

00:02:53.100 Mm-hmm.

00:02:54.500 I'm 29, and the bottom, absolute bottom, is a 90s baby, so 99.

00:03:00.860 Um, um, and the top end just depends on the person and where I am in life.

00:03:09.560 Um, so, 45, you're in?

00:03:12.420 She looks good? 0.90

00:03:13.020 I'll be honest with you, I've seen some, I've, I've seen some, I've seen all sorts that look good, so.

00:03:19.180 Okay, so, so, 50, 55?

00:03:22.160 There's gotta be a rough cap.

00:03:23.440 I'm just saying a rough cap.

00:03:25.220 A rough cap?

00:03:25.860 Yeah, rough cap.

00:03:26.880 Um, obviously, J-Lo is an exception.

00:03:29.920 No, for me, it's a thing, it's a combination of things, of course, like, if I'm in the dating space,

00:03:35.860 and I don't know if she's 50, but she looks, she doesn't look like the 50s that society call 50-year-olds, 0.98

00:03:41.020 then, you know, I'm not gonna-

00:03:43.060 Okay, and so anyone, anyone that looks good?

00:03:45.380 Yeah.

00:03:45.740 Okay.

00:03:46.180 Okay.

00:03:46.560 But running off what Andrew Tate said, like, doesn't she have too much baggage?

00:03:50.400 Are we talking about dating or commitment here?

00:03:52.820 Well, um, so tell me both.

00:03:54.400 That's a big difference.

00:03:55.020 Tell me both.

00:03:55.660 Yeah.

00:03:55.880 So, someone you'd want to take seriously long-term, and someone you'd go for short-term.

00:04:01.820 Someone long-term?

00:04:03.380 No.

00:04:04.160 Um, I can't, I can't start a family with a 50-year-old.

00:04:06.880 Um, I know there's some, some 50-year-olds out there, but not for me.

00:04:11.600 It's not, it doesn't work for me.

00:04:13.140 But isn't the aim of dating, like, like, long-term relationships, or is it just, like, kind of fun?

00:04:18.260 Depends on your accent.

00:04:19.020 I don't, I'm not, I'm not, I don't, I don't personally date for fun.

00:04:23.300 I do, I do commitments.

00:04:25.280 Um, so, if I'm looking to get married to someone, then I'm gonna be thinking about my family,

00:04:31.200 and who I can build something with.

00:04:33.340 Yeah, so, like, you'll enjoy being with a 50-year-old, and, like, exchanging conversation,

00:04:36.520 but, like, you wouldn't, like, it wouldn't be serious.

00:04:39.140 Do you know what I mean?

00:04:39.540 Like, it would just be kind of, I don't know, like, understanding them, meeting them,

00:04:43.160 but not, like, it would never be long-term, yeah.

00:04:45.300 Maybe a little kiss here and there.

00:04:46.620 Yeah.

00:04:46.880 No, I feel like, just for the purpose of the question, it's just purely for the purpose

00:04:51.280 of the question, but I think if it came to a commitment scenario, um, couple years above

00:04:57.020 me at most, um, but I'll probably look down as opposed to up.

00:05:00.700 Yeah, fair enough.

00:05:01.160 That's just how I view dating, like, I view it as something that, like, I'm always seeing

00:05:04.820 if you can fit into my life, like, long-term, because otherwise it's just gonna hurt my feelings.

00:05:08.980 Yeah, I think that's typically more of a female view. 1.00

00:05:11.320 Yeah.

00:05:11.880 Can I qualify my answer that I just gave?

00:05:13.740 Yeah, go ahead, go ahead.

00:05:14.780 So, like, the upper end, I literally just said 40.

00:05:18.420 Like, romantically, if you look good, there's no reason why it can't even be beyond 40.

00:05:24.340 The only reason why I cap it at 40, because I presume you're probably in a different stage

00:05:28.980 of life that I'm in, and there might be a lifestyle mismatch.

00:05:33.180 That's the only reason, but even then, I could discover that's not the case, and then I'd be willing to, as long as I, you look good to me, I'm still attracted to you, we're all good.

00:05:42.740 I, sorry to interrupt, but I think ages are irrelevant.

00:05:46.500 I mean, there's, there's a limit to what I would go down to.

00:05:49.740 See, 25 is the lowest I will go.

00:05:51.500 But I think you could be, this is from a woman's point of view, to men, you could be missing out from a really great woman, just because you put these restrictions on ages, and it's not all about, you know, it's popping out babies.

00:06:06.240 It might be, you might find the woman, the love of your life at any, they could be any age.

00:06:11.000 You don't have to be popping babies out, but you could miss out for, for amazing long, you know, lifelong partner with all your restrictions.

00:06:19.820 That's just my personal point of view.

00:06:21.540 But you kind of contradicted yourself, because you said age is irrelevant, but then you said you wouldn't go under 25.

00:06:26.880 That's a good point.

00:06:28.280 Like, like what, what's wrong with a 24-year-old that's got his stuff together?

00:06:31.600 Okay, yeah, I said 25, but yeah, if it's a 24-year-old, but I'm not going to go, I'm not going to go really low, because that's not relevant for me, and I know I'm not saying how old I am, but yes.

00:06:41.000 I understand, I apologize for, if you felt, I contradicted myself, but yeah, there is a limit, but an upper limit, you could be missing out on a great man or a great woman.

00:06:50.920 I agree.

00:06:51.240 Would you name a guy that was 90?

00:06:54.840 Yeah, you're missing out on a great opportunity, depends on how rich he is, I guess.

00:06:58.600 Well, yeah, well, yeah, like you said.

00:07:01.620 It could be 110.

00:07:03.380 It could be 110, treats me well, just wants to take me out to dinner and have some company, buy me nice things, but you still have to be respectful.

00:07:11.700 Yeah, I agree with you to a certain extent, given I think ultimately it comes down to your intention.

00:07:18.820 So if your intention is to actually have a family, I think there's a biological plot that we can't necessarily overlook, and you may say that there's also, yeah, there are options, adoption and so forth, but not every man may necessarily want to take that route.

00:07:31.800 So my response was for an effect of my version of a commitment where I am in my life.

00:07:37.000 I need to be with a woman that I can have a family with, and with my age currently speaking, the higher up I go, I guess, if I want more than one child or so forth, that kind of has to be accelerated.

00:07:55.700 And as a man, you know, you've got to kind of plan these things up, but the planning also takes time.

00:08:02.340 So, you know, there's a point when, I'm not sure it's different for different women, but from what I've learned in school, there's a point when women can't provide families. 1.00

00:08:11.300 No, no, I understand that. And I have a very calm point of view when it comes to children. I'm not going to go there now.

00:08:21.300 I am a support person to my best friend, who's a foster carer, and I've seen the value of fostering and adoption.

00:08:27.940 There are thousands of children in this country who would benefit from having an amazing, loving home.

00:08:34.840 And when you look at things differently, this is just my personal point of view, and it's no attack on anyone here.

00:08:39.200 But when you look at the children that don't actually have a home, and you've got everyone popping out of these babies, I get it.

00:08:46.120 People say, oh, I want blood. It has to be my blood, my child.

00:08:50.260 But if you actually look into it, whether it's adoption or fostering, okay, fostering's different for a short time, but adoption, it doesn't matter whether it's blood or not.

00:09:00.020 The problem is, there's a lot of problems that come with adoption.

00:09:03.340 Like, there's a lot of issues. Like, if you don't get the kid before the age of three, like, it's fully developed.

00:09:07.980 And any issues that it had before the age of three, a lot of times you can't stop.

00:09:12.800 And I'm not, like, against adoption, but I just think sometimes it can, a lot of people aren't aware of how hard it is when they go into it.

00:09:21.600 And this is as someone, like, I have three adopted siblings.

00:09:23.740 No, no, I totally understand that.

00:09:27.660 And I have friends who have adopted children as well.

00:09:32.600 But also it depends on the type of person you are, what parent you will be, the type of child.

00:09:40.740 There's so many different variations.

00:09:42.400 It's just kind of like, if a guy could avoid that headache of, like, you'd have to find the kid, hopefully it's, like, coming out of a not-too-bad situation, and, like, pay.

00:09:53.620 It's really expensive, too, in the U.S.

00:09:55.160 I don't know how it is here, but you have to pay $10,000-plus per kid.

00:09:58.840 It's like, why would he go through that headache?

00:10:00.520 No, you don't do that here.

00:10:02.080 Adoption goes through, obviously.

00:10:03.740 Oh, is it free here?

00:10:04.360 It is free.

00:10:06.560 You go through your local council or adoption services, and you don't have to pay for that.

00:10:12.240 No, but interject, you do have to make a certain amount of money to provide for the child.

00:10:15.940 You're not allowed to just adopt a child with no money.

00:10:19.420 Of course, of course.

00:10:20.940 Ideally, you're financially stable anyway for any child.

00:10:24.160 If you're going to get pregnant or you're going to adopt, money's in the equation because you have to provide a living.

00:10:28.820 So it's a complete deterrent for going for older women, for guys, I guess.

00:10:32.540 But what about the women that, like, scenario, like, you find that you're a dream girl, you're in love with her, 0.77

00:10:38.640 and then you find that, like, she can't provide a family for you.

00:10:40.800 No matter how old she is, then you have to go through adoption anyway.

00:10:43.680 So why is, like, age a hard cap?

00:10:46.220 I think it's just, like, likelihood.

00:10:48.700 I mean, like, geriatric pregnancy starts at 35.

00:10:52.220 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.

00:10:56.300 And so it's just, like, if you get a 25-year-old or 22-year-old, it's less likely to happen.

00:11:01.840 But there's, like, there's still that chance that she's, like, completely infertile, you know what I mean? 1.00

00:11:06.180 So, like, I don't know, in my eyes, like, age shouldn't matter on that.

00:11:10.320 It's a chance, though.

00:11:11.540 It's like, if you're going for an older woman, then it's more likely.

00:11:16.000 So why waste your time?

00:11:18.180 It's kind of like, okay, if you pick two roads on the highway and one has an accident every week

00:11:23.040 and one is usually fine, like, which one are you going to pick?

00:11:27.100 Yeah.

00:11:28.700 Okay, you two.

00:11:31.640 Okay, can you repeat the question?

00:11:33.920 So how old are you?

00:11:35.120 So you're 20.

00:11:35.940 And what's the age range you date?

00:11:37.680 So younger, by two years, older, three max.

00:11:46.920 Oh, wow.

00:11:47.480 Okay.

00:11:48.080 Three max, because it's taking me up just doing long term, so, yeah.

00:11:50.800 Okay.

00:11:52.080 I'm 28.

00:11:53.800 If I'm taking it serious and looking for something long term, then my market would be 21 to 32.

00:12:01.640 If I'm just outside in the field having fun, then 20 to 50, I'd say.

00:12:07.220 In the field?

00:12:09.020 Outside, shooting shots.

00:12:15.320 What's the oldest that you've dated, Virgang?

00:12:19.300 49.

00:12:19.700 What was that like?

00:12:23.500 Interesting, because I was, like, 21 at the time.

00:12:26.040 Yeah?

00:12:26.340 It was, yeah, it was a good experience.

00:12:27.900 Does the woman feel different at that age? 0.99

00:12:29.840 A lot different.

00:12:30.560 Yeah.

00:12:30.800 How?

00:12:32.280 I don't know, because I'm not that age yet, so I want to know.

00:12:35.560 I don't know if it was because I was young, but I'd say it's just a level of assurance, you know?

00:12:41.760 I've kind of dated around that age, and I would say they're just more interesting.

00:12:44.860 Like, they have a lot more life experience, and it's a different kind of relationship.

00:12:47.820 But they're, like, your guide, or, like, your mentor more.

00:12:50.920 Nah, for me, it was more like cougar vibes.

00:12:53.520 She wasn't trying to mentor me.

00:12:55.400 She was just taking advantage of a 21-year-old. 0.98

00:12:57.380 Yeah.

00:12:58.340 And what was your benefit in that?

00:13:00.340 Just the reassurance.

00:13:01.240 You felt like mummy.

00:13:01.980 Mummy's here, but she's a different type of mummy. 0.97

00:13:05.680 It was bonus points, innit?

00:13:07.440 It's just, like, something to go and tell your friends about at the time, do you know what I mean?

00:13:11.240 Ah, okay.

00:13:12.460 Now, I've done that before as well.

00:13:16.500 Like, when I was in my early 20s, I went out with, uh, I was seeing a woman who was, like, mid-30s.

00:13:21.320 Like, maybe, like, my age now, like, 34.

00:13:23.820 And, um, for me, the benefit was she was so emotionally mature, and she knew herself, and there was, like, this confidence in her.

00:13:34.720 And, like, I'm not, I wouldn't say I'm the most, I'm, I find it difficult to deal with just insecurities.

00:13:43.940 And the idea of making your insecurities something someone else has to wrestle with, and that's just a part of a relationship.

00:13:51.820 We all do it.

00:13:52.660 But I feel like, with her, she had dealt with it, wrestled with it, and had coping mechanisms to, like, pull her through it. 0.99

00:14:01.840 And there was so much, I learned from her in that regard of, like, okay, this is what it looks like when you kind of take care of your own shit. 0.99

00:14:11.620 Can I swear? 1.00

00:14:12.360 Okay. 1.00

00:14:12.840 Yeah, yeah, when you take care of your own shit. 0.99

00:14:14.900 And so it was kind of, like, um, it was a really good experience in that regard for me. 0.99

00:14:18.840 I think for her, it was, like, great.

00:14:19.980 One question.

00:14:20.380 Yeah, I completely agree with you.

00:14:20.920 Why did that relationship work out?

00:14:22.740 Like, why did you end up leaving?

00:14:24.280 Oh, because, like, the, the, I think, like, I, I think for her, it was, there was a bit of a play aspect to it.

00:14:29.880 Like, she didn't take me that seriously.

00:14:31.480 And to be fair, I wasn't to be, I wasn't to be taken seriously at that age or time.

00:14:37.600 But, um, we vibed really well.

00:14:40.340 And she, I think, even just the idea of what a woman can contribute to your life outside of her being beautiful and looking good, like, just being stimulated mentally, like, by her and her life experiences, like you said.

00:14:56.040 Like, it kind of shaped what I look for dating going forward.

00:15:00.600 Can I say something, Katie?

00:15:02.180 Oh, go on.

00:15:03.400 I'll let you go, Demel.

00:15:04.820 So, basically, as a woman grows older, maybe past the age of, like, 26, 27, they start to have a better mentality, less insecurity, less headaches, a bit more maybe grounded and a bit more self-sufficient when it comes to emotional stability.

00:15:20.560 And yet, we're trying to say that it's easier, maybe, perhaps, or better for men to go for 19-year-olds.

00:15:25.980 With women over 30, generally, you're just way more calm. 1.00

00:15:29.300 Yeah.

00:15:29.560 Anyone over 30 is way more calm.

00:15:30.760 Well, I'm excited about turning 30.

00:15:32.620 So, to answer your question, I actually don't think it's just a woman thing. 0.90

00:15:36.340 I think it's everyone.

00:15:37.400 I think as you develop and you grow, you become more sure of yourself.

00:15:40.800 So, now I'm right for the picking type of thing.

00:15:42.560 Yeah, maybe.

00:15:43.380 For some people.

00:15:44.060 I'm not saying everyone in their 20s is immature or not ready or whatever, but I think, generally speaking, in your 20s, you're trying to figure it out.

00:15:50.940 In your 30s, you know who you are.

00:15:52.640 Because you know yourself and you've learned to like yourself and you've learned what you're struggling with.

00:15:56.800 Yeah.

00:15:57.160 I think when you reach that age, you just had so much experience.

00:15:59.760 And I'm just saying, like, as for me, I don't want to experience your experience.

00:16:03.980 So, I wouldn't, me personally, I wouldn't take anyone over that age seriously.

00:16:07.120 Because you come with a lot of baggage and me personally, if I'm going to take you seriously, if you're like 20 years plus more than me, you have a lot of experience that you're going to compare me to.

00:16:19.620 So, if I lack in one field, you're going to be like, in the back of your mind, you'll be like, oh, but when I was dating so and so, he used to buy me all these gifts.

00:16:26.740 I'm used to getting these.

00:16:28.260 So, it's like, I'm not really trying to go through all that.

00:16:30.140 It makes sense.

00:16:31.180 How old are you again?

00:16:32.140 I'm 20.

00:16:32.900 Yeah.

00:16:33.120 So, when I was your age, I used to feel guilty.

00:16:34.980 Like, if I was dragging it on for too long, because I'd feel like, you know what, I don't, I can't see this long term because of the age gap.

00:16:41.900 And then I feel guilty, like, dragging it on because I feel like I'm wasting your time.

00:16:45.300 Do you guys feel like older women, um, okay, I had a guy tell me once that if he dated a girl under the age of 25, he didn't have to worry as much about that because she wasn't, like, dying for commitment.

00:16:57.440 But if she was over the age of 25, like, they want to settle down, like, they want to lock you down quicker.

00:17:01.880 Would you say that's true?

00:17:02.780 Yeah, 100%.

00:17:03.420 No.

00:17:04.260 Same, no.

00:17:04.980 I'm asking the guys because they date women, so. 1.00

00:17:14.560 I mean, to be fair, I think, I think when it comes to older women, right, and I just think from my experience, like, when I, I, like, now I date long term, seriously.

00:17:23.240 But obviously, you know, back in the day, your boy had a little sprinkle around the field.

00:17:27.740 But, um, one thing I, oh, I was, I was, I was, I was sprouting very early from 16 onwards.

00:17:33.260 But one thing I realized about, um, these, uh, older women is that it, it's kind of, they're more on the, I, I don't see it on the side where they take it serious.

00:17:42.380 Because once they see a younger guy, I don't, they don't usually see me as a serious candidate as for a long term relationship.

00:17:48.620 They just want some quick action.

00:17:50.500 And they just want to feel young again.

00:17:51.500 They just want to feel young again.

00:17:53.140 You know what I mean?

00:17:53.760 So, like, I know when I used to get in those, um, situations, the fact that since I was so young, and I guess the way how I would compliment them, make them feel, make their body feel like there's a temple.

00:18:05.020 They, they, they, they live off of that stimulation because I'm, I'm overly praising them in such a sense.

00:18:11.040 So the fact that I made them feel younger, they know that I'm not going to get this as a long term relationship.

00:18:15.720 And I made that clear from the start, but they just really enjoyed the fun they was getting, let me put it like that.

00:18:20.840 And I think the, the common denominator of every story is that you were young and in your twenties, you're in your early twenties.

00:18:26.440 So I think that shows a level of manipulation was maybe that like, they know that you're young and naive and you'll like latch on cause it's fun.

00:18:33.800 You know, you know, you think it's a manipulation, but like they know you're young and you're like, like you're impressionable.

00:18:43.720 Yeah, you'll enjoy the validation of being with them almost like, cause like no one said, oh, when I was in my, like late, like when I was in my, like late twenties or early thirties, I was with someone that was like 50 because, because you know yourself better and you know that that's not something you could maybe commit to.

00:18:57.320 And so who, who has manipulated him or her?

00:19:00.520 Not like, not manipulated, but like you, as your younger self, you don't know yourself as well.

00:19:05.280 Maybe so like, you're kind of like, oh, like this older person likes me.

00:19:08.280 Like, oh, like that's cool.

00:19:09.520 Like, I think that might be slightly different.

00:19:12.000 Cause I think, I think when in the woman's perspective, cause she's the younger one and she's dating the older guy, maybe.

00:19:16.720 Yeah. Maybe from my perspective.

00:19:17.880 I know that when I was in that stage, trust me, I just, I wanted to release one.

00:19:21.120 Yeah, I didn't feel manipulated.

00:19:25.000 I have a question for you guys.

00:19:29.320 Is it wrong for, what age do I want to do, a 32 year old man to date an 18 year old?

00:19:38.880 No.

00:19:39.880 Nope.

00:19:40.880 I judge him for it.

00:19:41.880 Okay.

00:19:42.880 If anyone said, raise your hand if you think yes.

00:19:44.880 All right.

00:19:45.880 I'm going to raise my hand.

00:19:46.880 No, I need a yes or no.

00:19:47.880 Yes or no.

00:19:48.880 Come on, you got to pick one.

00:19:49.880 Everyone grows up at different ages.

00:19:50.880 Okay.

00:19:51.880 Okay.

00:19:52.880 It depends what she looks like. 0.97

00:19:53.880 I don't know what 18, some of them look like they're 18 when they're 13, but you kind of got to put it in context.

00:20:07.520 Cause you're like, how old did you say he was?

00:20:09.480 He's 32.

00:20:10.200 She's 18.

00:20:10.920 All right.

00:20:12.040 At 32, when you sit down with an 18 year old, what are you talking about?

00:20:17.720 Like, what is she like?

00:20:19.360 No, for real.

00:20:20.360 Like generally, what is she offering you?

00:20:22.360 Like, um, I mean, if she's okay, I mean, you're just, I feel, yeah, you're just talking about one dimension and I look at you and

00:20:31.360 I'm like, all right, you as a man, let's say you have stuff in common.

00:20:34.480 Let's say like, maybe, maybe you're into the same stuff.

00:20:37.240 Maybe they're both gamers.

00:20:38.360 I don't know.

00:20:39.360 Okay.

00:20:40.360 And that's, that's what off the top of my head.

00:20:42.360 I'm like, it's not in of itself wrong, but I do raise an eyebrow because I do wonder like, like, you question the guy a little bit.

00:20:50.000 I questioned the guy a little bit.

00:20:52.000 Like, what do you like, cause all right, and he's seriously dating or is he just having fun, like in your scenario?

00:20:58.000 Uh, let's say, let's say seriously dating.

00:20:59.760 Okay.

00:21:00.240 So you've looked at this 18 year old.

00:21:02.000 He's looking for a wife. 0.65

00:21:02.800 All right, cool.

00:21:03.560 And so I'm here and I'm like, so in this 18 year old, who is like a few years off from being a child, you're like, in you, I see a partner and someone I want to build and someone I want to model my potential daughters after all of that really.

00:21:16.640 And I'm like, bro, like off an 18 year old, you got that?

00:21:19.760 It kind of depends though, if, if, if, if she's like someone that's been like working out there enough, like living by herself, independent, then you kind of, cause a lot of women mature a lot quicker as well. 0.98

00:21:29.760 Oh, but I don't think they mature.

00:21:30.760 Like you could have an 18 year old that literally acts like a 25 year old.

00:21:33.760 You wouldn't even know any difference.

00:21:34.760 Completely.

00:21:35.760 So it depends on it.

00:21:36.760 Like some 18 year olds are in uni.

00:21:37.760 Yeah.

00:21:38.760 And they're basically kids.

00:21:39.760 Yeah.

00:21:40.760 That's what I'm thinking.

00:21:41.760 It's like, you're right.

00:21:42.760 It does depend.

00:21:43.760 That's why I struggled to put my hand up on that.

00:21:45.760 It does depend.

00:21:46.760 Yeah.

00:21:47.760 It's because sometimes you're like, oh, she's 18 and she's in uni and she's only lived with her parents and she's coming out and you're visiting her dorm in uni and you're a big man.

00:21:59.760 Maybe she's 18 and she wants a family.

00:22:01.760 Maybe she's 18 and she wants to be a mother. 0.91

00:22:03.760 Okay.

00:22:04.760 But that's still the same dimension we're talking about.

00:22:06.760 Looks and fertility. 0.88

00:22:07.760 That's it.

00:22:08.760 That's what you pick your partner on.

00:22:09.760 I said they got something in common.

00:22:11.760 That's what I said.

00:22:12.760 I said they got something in common.

00:22:13.760 They got something in common.

00:22:14.760 I just struggled with the idea that an 18 year old girl in uni is stimulating your mind and spirit.

00:22:21.760 Like, and if she is, I kind of...

00:22:22.760 I just think like when I was 18 versus 21, like I wasn't that different.

00:22:27.760 Like, I'm just, I'm just thinking like mentally, I don't think I was that different at 18 from 21.

00:22:31.760 I don't think there is that much difference.

00:22:32.760 Yeah.

00:22:33.760 And no one would really bat an eye at 21.

00:22:35.760 No, I moved out when I was 18 and I was working.

00:22:38.760 So I was, I was, you know, pretty much a full grown adult at 18.

00:22:42.760 All right.

00:22:43.760 Denelva, tell me why, why is it now?

00:22:44.760 And then you go next.

00:22:45.760 Why, why is the problem for an older man? 0.50

00:22:48.760 I think it's really down to the different stages of emotional maturity and growth.

00:22:53.760 When you're 18, although, yes, you can be mature in this and that, but you've not experienced the, how many extra, 14 years ago.

00:23:00.760 14 years extra of life that he has experienced.

00:23:03.760 He has that over you.

00:23:04.760 And I think that is not about manipulation.

00:23:06.760 It's just about the point to the fact that there'll be a certain moment in both of their lives where you're just going to realize we're not on the same level.

00:23:14.760 We're not in the same frequency.

00:23:16.760 And that's really important.

00:23:17.760 What do you mean in the same?

00:23:18.760 Because a lot of times we use these words.

00:23:19.760 I don't even know what they mean.

00:23:20.760 In the same frequency?

00:23:21.760 Yeah.

00:23:22.760 The same frequency, meaning like, okay, when you're now 40, I'm just about to turn 30.

00:23:28.760 And like, every five years, I feel like every five years I go through quite a lot of change.

00:23:32.760 You know, you, especially then with decades, you look back on your life and you think about so many things you reflect.

00:23:37.760 And your mind may change.

00:23:38.760 That's why you can see the difference between a 20-year-old woman and a 30-year-old woman. 1.00

00:23:42.760 But I just think it's a bit dangerous when you're kind of dealing with somebody that's so far away from where you're at at your age.

00:23:47.760 So, for example, for me, that's why I say I'll date somebody that is younger than me by two years max and max five years older.

00:23:53.760 Because I don't want it to be too far away.

00:23:55.760 Do you think that, like, limits your pool a little bit?

00:23:58.760 I think that at this point I'm more just looking for the right person.

00:24:03.760 And from what I know about myself, I feel like what I need is that limit.

00:24:08.760 Okay, what do you think?

00:24:10.760 Yeah, I think an 18-year-old, obviously there's different kinds of 18-year-olds, but they've got a lot of experiences to go through.

00:24:21.760 I think a 32-year-old is a bit old.

00:24:23.760 I think, like, 28, 29 is fine, but why would a, and maybe you guys can answer, you men, why would a 32-year-old want an 18-year-old?

00:24:34.760 Is it just because she's more likely to be a virgin?

00:24:38.760 And is that the main reason why you would go for one?

00:24:42.760 Because I wouldn't, like, be like, uh, but I'd be a bit confused.

00:24:47.760 Like, why wouldn't you go for someone who's maybe, like, mid-20s or, like, even 21?

00:24:52.760 Like, what's the reason?

00:24:53.760 I don't know.

00:24:54.760 I think it's wild, to be honest.

00:24:55.760 I wouldn't, like, legit, so I can't answer that.

00:24:57.760 Can I just make a side note on this?

00:24:59.760 Um, not that I agree with the 32 and the 18-year-old, but I feel like it comes down to the individual.

00:25:07.760 I've come across 40-year-olds, 50-year-olds that are, in many cases, less mature than 18-year-olds.

00:25:14.760 So, and I think it goes both way, irrespective of your gender.

00:25:18.760 Um, but what was your question?

00:25:20.760 Just in terms of why would...

00:25:21.760 Yeah, I just wanted to know what would be the reason for that?

00:25:24.760 Would it just be because she's likely to have less bodies? 0.73

00:25:27.760 Is that the main reason?

00:25:29.760 If I could jump on that, cool.

00:25:31.760 Um, because, like, initially, when I do think of it, 30 to 18, yeah, that is a pretty big, like, gap.

00:25:36.760 And I would, like, look at it a type of way.

00:25:39.760 But I feel like, if we come to a common agreement on what a guy is usually looking for,

00:25:45.760 or what a girl is usually looking for, they kind of meet each other where they need. 0.91

00:25:49.760 You know what I mean?

00:25:50.760 Because, um, I hope you guys can agree real well, but, um, you know, men very...

00:25:55.760 I value beauty.

00:25:56.760 And I value youth, fertility.

00:25:58.760 So, if I'm at the age of 32, sure, I could go with someone 25, 26.

00:26:05.760 But I think, like, nowadays, most of those women already, they're very, like, career-driven. 0.98

00:26:12.760 They're very, they have, like, this boss-babe mentality. 1.00

00:26:15.760 So, I feel like they're gonna be way more combative than the 18-year-old.

00:26:20.760 Because I feel like, if she comes into this, um, space, she's gonna value that I reached this point.

00:26:29.760 And then, she's gonna be more agreeable with me.

00:26:32.760 Because then, like, I can also, like, teach her.

00:26:35.760 Okay, I won't say teach her, but you can guide her.

00:26:38.760 Because someone that's older is more set in their ways, basically.

00:26:40.760 Exactly, yeah.

00:26:41.760 100%.

00:26:42.760 So, I just feel like, this 18-year-old, maybe she has, she's as mature as a 20-year-old.

00:26:45.760 I mean, I would say it's the same thing, like, if you date an older guy and you try to change him, you're mad.

00:26:49.760 Like, why would you, if you, if I dated a 50-year-old, am I expecting him to change after 50 years of living his life one way?

00:26:57.760 Exactly, that's all they know.

00:26:59.760 So, it's like, the younger you go, because, obviously, most of the time, an 18-year-old is gonna look better than 26, 28-year-old.

00:27:07.760 So, it's like, if I value that, then, and I see that they can agree to me what I want to do long-term.

00:27:14.760 It's like, why, why not choose that instead of...

00:27:16.760 Okay, so I have a question.

00:27:17.760 So, you know, we're talking about changing people.

00:27:20.760 So, in this scenario, in the scenarios I usually posed, we're talking about the fact that there's a need to change a woman. 0.98

00:27:27.760 Because, obviously, he's older, he's gonna be setting his way.

00:27:30.760 So, the man is cool, we always just have to assume that the man that is 30 is mature and doing his thing all the time,

00:27:35.760 and he can take care of an 18-year-old woman and mold her to be what he wants,

00:27:39.760 when, in fact, he probably doesn't even know what he wants exactly.

00:27:42.760 So, I think it's really quite dangerous to play that game.

00:27:44.760 And if we were to twist, to turn the story and make it be...

00:27:48.760 You don't think it's good to influence the person you're with?

00:27:50.760 Like, you don't want a guy that you can follow?

00:27:53.760 Yeah, but I also want a guy that can also follow me, too, because I'm not just gonna be adapting to someone on my own.

00:27:59.760 So, you wanna follow, and then he follows.

00:28:02.760 Yeah, I want us to grow together.

00:28:03.760 Yeah, I want it to be like this.

00:28:05.760 But I think it's a dangerous game playing with the idea we wanna change people.

00:28:08.760 Like, you're dating someone because you like them.

00:28:10.760 You're not dating them because you see potential and you wanna manipulate them into the person you want.

00:28:13.760 I mean, yeah, but I think relationships compromise.

00:28:15.760 Yeah, yeah, that's true.

00:28:16.760 So, I just think, like...

00:28:17.760 That didn't sound awesome.

00:28:18.760 I just think if you're the person...

00:28:19.760 I looked up political ideologies.

00:28:22.760 This seems off-topic, but I have a point.

00:28:24.760 When I was younger, because I was curious, like, what makes people change their minds and, like, what things influence them?

00:28:29.760 And the number one thing that influences your political ideology over time is your partner.

00:28:34.760 Like, you kind of rub off on the person you're with.

00:28:36.760 Yeah, and I agree.

00:28:37.760 The longer you're with someone, the more you become like them and you agree because you wanna be familiar.

00:28:41.760 You wanna be the same to them.

00:28:42.760 It's not necessarily a good thing, but...

00:28:44.760 Yeah, it's not a good thing.

00:28:45.760 But to answer my girl's question, that would be the reason why a guy that's 32 is gonna go for an 18-year-old so he can mould her into the girl that he wants.

00:28:52.760 More submissive, agreeable.

00:28:53.760 Exactly, yeah.

00:28:54.760 Don't you think that people should, like, as they're, like, so young, they're 18, like, don't you think they should find their own way in life?

00:29:01.760 Like, yeah, like, dating a 32-year-old might be helpful for them and, like, working out these life, like, problems and stuff.

00:29:06.760 And, like, they can guide them in their way.

00:29:08.760 But, like, I think trying to change someone that's so young, it's just, like, backwards. 0.51

00:29:11.760 Like, they need to find their own way in life.

00:29:13.760 They need to find who they are.

00:29:14.760 And I don't think they should depend on somebody else to find that way in life.

00:29:17.760 I don't think they should, like, like, I don't know, it's just, like, they're so young and impressionable.

00:29:21.760 Like, a year ago, they were 17, like, and you wouldn't date a 17-year-old, so.

00:29:25.760 I don't know.

00:29:26.760 I just think back to when I was 18 and I don't think I was that crazy different than the way I am now.

00:29:31.760 I don't know.

00:29:32.760 But I just think, like, in general, I mean, 18's a bit young for, like, I don't know if I would push, like, 18-year-olds to get married.

00:29:41.760 But, I don't know, I just think, like, as women, you kind of avoid a lot of, like, heartbreak and trauma if you get married earlier.

00:29:50.760 Like, I have a friend that got married at, like, 21, 22, and she's probably the happiest, like, person I know that's married.

00:29:55.760 How old is she now? 0.92

00:29:56.760 Uh, 27, 28.

00:29:58.760 Oh, that's nice.

00:29:59.760 Yeah.

00:30:00.760 Or don't get married.

00:30:01.760 See?

00:30:02.760 Um, I, I was just waiting patiently because, obviously, I'm listening to the guys behind me.

00:30:07.760 There's a lot of things I think you can see from my face that are actually winding me up.

00:30:11.760 And I thought, am I going to take a break here or just be polite and sit quietly?

00:30:15.760 Because you talked about, uh, women, I think the word you used was combat, combative?

00:30:21.760 Combative.

00:30:22.760 Yeah.

00:30:23.760 Something like that.

00:30:24.760 They were, yeah.

00:30:25.760 That was, I was sitting here and that was winding me up constantly.

00:30:28.760 The way that you and others were talking about older women or, you know, it could be vice 0.84

00:30:34.760 versa and older men.

00:30:35.760 And I was just getting more and more angry.

00:30:37.760 And I thought, well, just sit quietly and see what you've all got to say.

00:30:40.760 And we all have personal opinions, but it doesn't mean that just because you're with an older

00:30:46.760 woman that, um, they are taking advantage of you and you're just having fun.

00:30:52.760 How about consider that somebody a little bit older than you might actually be interested

00:30:58.760 in you.

00:30:59.760 It's not always for fun.

00:31:00.760 I mean, you can ask that to me personally.

00:31:02.760 If I'm in getting involved with someone, I'm not interested in fun.

00:31:06.760 You know, I've got personal views, self-respect.

00:31:09.760 I don't need to go around dropping my pants like all these other girls. 0.99

00:31:14.760 I don't need to do all that.

00:31:15.760 So it doesn't matter who I date.

00:31:18.760 I'm interested in something proper.

00:31:22.760 I think the word is proper.

00:31:24.760 Something proper and not to play around.

00:31:26.760 So obviously I'm not going to date you.

00:31:28.760 Sorry.

00:31:29.760 Yeah, I just, I think that's just how guys view it.

00:31:31.760 Like, and I don't mean any offense personally.

00:31:34.760 I just think when guys typically, if they date girls that are significantly older than

00:31:38.760 them, like long-term guys look at family and they prefer to have kids of their own.

00:31:42.760 And I just think over a certain age, you're kind of out of the equation.

00:31:45.760 No, no, I totally understand that.

00:31:47.760 And, um, you also have to take into account that a lot of, a lot of men and women already

00:31:54.760 have children when you meet them.

00:31:56.760 And if you have a good heart and you're a good person, um, you will actually embrace

00:32:02.760 that.

00:32:03.760 And I will be really open about that.

00:32:04.760 And I will say that to anyone I meet.

00:32:06.760 If I meet a man now, I don't care how old you are. 0.66

00:32:09.760 You know, you could be a single dad, whether you're 25, 45 and bringing these kids up on

00:32:15.760 your own.

00:32:16.760 I'm going to embrace that.

00:32:17.760 Uh, if I could just touch on that, I like, like that's, I think it's very, like correct

00:32:24.760 me if I'm wrong.

00:32:25.760 I think it's very easy for like a woman to say that, but I just feel like me, I'm losing

00:32:30.760 a lot if I'm dating an older woman who already has kids. 1.00

00:32:36.760 Like that's baggage.

00:32:37.760 I do not want to carry.

00:32:38.760 It's not baggage.

00:32:39.760 That's the word that I didn't like you using.

00:32:41.760 It's not baggage.

00:32:42.760 You're using really, I don't know.

00:32:45.760 Let me tell you why I said baggage.

00:32:46.760 That's how men view it.

00:32:48.760 And it's not, it's not fun.

00:32:49.760 It's not nice, but it's just true.

00:32:50.760 That's how men view it.

00:32:51.760 Not all men. 0.61

00:32:52.760 Not all men. 0.61

00:32:53.760 Men could have baggage too.

00:32:54.760 I would, I would not call anything you have baggage.

00:32:57.760 So I'm talking to the guys behind me.

00:32:59.760 So say, um, you're, you're 20.

00:33:01.760 Say if right now, as a 20 year old, you'd already got two or three kids.

00:33:08.760 It's just how it is.

00:33:09.760 I would not, even though you're young and you've had kids at an early age, I would not

00:33:13.760 call that baggage.

00:33:14.760 Why would you call kids and life experiences baggage?

00:33:17.760 Let me tell you what.

00:33:18.760 It's wrong.

00:33:19.760 It's wrong.

00:33:20.760 That's a woman's point of view. 1.00

00:33:21.760 Yeah.

00:33:22.760 I agree with that.

00:33:23.760 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

00:33:24.760 More typically, because it fulfills our mating strategy.

00:33:28.760 Because in history, like if a guy could impregnate multiple people, it showed he could take

00:33:32.760 care of them where men wanted to ensure paternity and pass on resources to the kids that are 0.86

00:33:36.760 there.

00:33:37.760 I'm not saying every single person and every single guy, but it's just how in general

00:33:41.760 they view it.

00:33:42.760 Yeah.

00:33:43.760 I was just gonna say, I think we're throwing around the word baggage too loosely.

00:33:47.760 Yeah.

00:33:48.760 How is somebody's past experiences and their children that they've had from those past

00:33:52.760 experiences?

00:33:53.760 How is that baggage?

00:33:54.760 Because now I have to carry on.

00:33:55.760 If you're dating older women, there's the probability that they have a past marriage 0.99

00:33:58.760 and they have past children.

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00:34:20.760 Yeah thanks a lot.

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JustPearlyThings - October 30, 2023

This Old Woman Gets ROASTED for Giving Bad Advice

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