JustPearlyThings - This Romania Lady Gets ROASTED for Being Clueless about Men

00:00:00.000 Women will look at themselves with makeup on and go, I'm a 10. 0.99

00:00:02.840 The minute that makeup comes off, they feel so insecure.

00:00:04.900 And that's why we are more like, that proves my point.

00:00:10.160 We are trying to help ourselves.

00:00:11.700 We are trying to improve ourselves.

00:00:12.900 We'll do anything.

00:00:13.780 I would say, me and me, it looks negative to me.

00:00:16.700 But I do it anyway. 1.00

00:00:17.940 We'll do anything but the hard shit. 1.00

00:00:20.340 Losing weight. 1.00

00:00:21.180 I agree.

00:00:22.040 They won't lose weight and things like that.

00:00:24.040 I would push back on the notion that guys aren't doing anything for self-improvement though.

00:00:28.120 Because I'm part of this whole space.

00:00:30.260 These guys are, I mean, maybe it's not the biggest space in the world.

00:00:32.640 It's a small percentage though, isn't it?

00:00:34.120 But yeah, I would agree with that.

00:00:36.560 But maybe you're in an echo chamber.

00:00:37.780 Who you're looking at on Instagram.

00:00:39.040 You're looking at a lot of girls. 0.82

00:00:40.140 Maybe they're into the self-improvement, the wellness stuff.

00:00:41.860 Fine.

00:00:42.520 But I also know a lot of guys who are also working hard.

00:00:45.760 I mean, what do guys have to work on?

00:00:46.860 Money, muscles, game, frame basically.

00:00:49.020 So are you leveling up financially?

00:00:51.360 Are you working on your career?

00:00:52.620 Are you on your mission?

00:00:53.480 Are you going to the gym?

00:00:55.620 Are you looking after your fashion?

00:00:56.800 Are you looking after your career?

00:00:57.380 So guys do need to do a lot.

00:00:58.840 And the truth is, if you are a reasonably attractive girl in her, say, 20s.

00:01:05.740 Okay.

00:01:05.960 And we're not even talking about a 10.

00:01:07.220 We're talking about like a girl who's a 6 or a 7 or whatever.

00:01:09.240 Fine.

00:01:11.480 You don't have to do very much to get validation from the dating market.

00:01:16.360 Or you don't have to do very much.

00:01:18.240 You have to be kind of cute, wear a summer dress, walk down the street.

00:01:21.500 And you're going to get guys, you know, who are sort of like complimenting you or whatever.

00:01:24.600 Except that's illegal now.

00:01:26.500 But, you know, back when we used to be allowed to talk to each other, that would, you know, you would get that positive validation.

00:01:32.180 Whereas dudes actually, for the most part, are invisible to women unless they've really worked on themselves.

00:01:37.720 Unless they've done the necessary things.

00:01:39.340 And I think if men aren't self-improving, it's women's fault. 1.00

00:01:42.360 Because men have to be motivated by something. 0.88

00:01:45.240 I agree.

00:01:45.700 So what do they, again, what do they get at the end of it?

00:01:48.280 They get women that think it's okay to leave. 1.00

00:01:51.580 So what kind of wife are they getting at the end of it? 1.00

00:01:54.440 Yeah.

00:01:54.700 Or you get the whole...

00:01:55.440 One meal a day.

00:01:56.420 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:01:57.220 Two of you lucky.

00:01:58.440 Or you get this whole bunch of guys who have sort of dropped out of the system because they think the dating is completely unfair.

00:02:02.400 Because they think they're invisible.

00:02:03.680 20, 80% of guys are invisible to women.

00:02:05.380 So they think, well, why should I bother?

00:02:06.660 What are they called?

00:02:06.960 Incels or something?

00:02:07.880 We did it on the last episode.

00:02:09.040 They're dangerous.

00:02:11.100 We learned about that last time.

00:02:12.900 I didn't even know that word.

00:02:14.920 Well.

00:02:16.100 They're a very small, small percentage of people.

00:02:18.520 They're very angry people, aren't they?

00:02:20.380 They're angry.

00:02:21.500 But they're angry.

00:02:22.220 I would say...

00:02:22.720 There's a much deeper psychological issue.

00:02:24.480 Oh, okay.

00:02:25.160 We weren't good at that.

00:02:27.160 I would say that...

00:02:32.400 Again, it's the fault of women. 1.00

00:02:35.760 Because, again, if there's incels, why is that? 0.95

00:02:39.120 It's because women are all sleeping with the same men. 1.00

00:02:41.340 I think, though, just based on psychological evidence, there's a lot going on there that's deeper than just societal means.

00:02:49.660 But I get what you're saying about, like, in retrospect, but incels themselves are...

00:02:54.440 But then I also don't agree...

00:02:55.240 There's much deeper psychological issues going on there.

00:02:57.400 I also don't agree with that because what you just said, I would say, but they all want us to be virgins.

00:03:02.940 But, yeah, we are sleeping with the same person or whatever, like...

00:03:05.760 Yeah, but why aren't we virgins? 0.68

00:03:07.200 Because we chose to have sex outside of marriage. 0.88

00:03:09.380 And two guys do not expect a virgin. 1.00

00:03:11.660 That is the most bullshit shit I've ever heard in my life. 1.00

00:03:14.960 No. 1.00

00:03:15.620 Do you expect a virgin?

00:03:17.820 No.

00:03:18.020 I don't know.

00:03:19.540 I have never seen a single guy that says he expects a virgin.

00:03:22.840 I think that's an immature mindset.

00:03:24.440 I mean, I think that's the ideal, but they don't...

00:03:26.860 I think that's much younger people.

00:03:28.480 Yeah, that's an immature mindset.

00:03:29.540 Yeah, yeah.

00:03:30.680 It's much younger.

00:03:32.000 I don't think it's immature.

00:03:32.660 I think men are realistic.

00:03:34.260 No, no, no.

00:03:34.920 I mean, like, younger, actual age-wise, the younger...

00:03:38.620 Oh, you mean, like, teen guys who are stuff like that, are you?

00:03:41.400 Yeah, yeah.

00:03:41.660 Who technically reversions themselves.

00:03:43.540 You're saying, I'm so over the hill, I'm just going to take what I can get, really, to be honest.

00:03:47.060 Yeah.

00:03:49.220 It's like, like, 100 body count, fine, no worries, no worries.

00:03:52.200 I'll take it.

00:03:52.820 I think the whole thing is quite nuanced, though, because to counter what I've just said, you are right.

00:03:58.540 There's a lot of guys who are very, very lazy, and they don't want to do the work. 0.97

00:04:01.920 They don't want to fucking do anything. 0.99

00:04:03.320 They sit there, and this is, we complain about this a lot, you know, they sit there on the computer going, 0.99

00:04:07.540 oh, it's really unfair if I'm not a six-foot, if I'm not a seven-foot-five Chad with, you know, blah, blah, blah, then it's over for me.

00:04:13.960 They don't do anything.

00:04:15.000 They just sit there complaining, and, you know, that is on them, because also, they need to be going out,

00:04:20.540 and they need to be working on themselves, you know.

00:04:22.540 So, I think human beings, human beings in general are inherently lazy, most people, but if, again,

00:04:29.440 if you are a reasonably cute, you know, young woman, I think you get more breaks in society than a dude of the same level.

00:04:36.460 Yeah.

00:04:36.740 I hear that.

00:04:37.380 Yeah.

00:04:38.920 Okay, I'm going to take a second to read super chats.

00:04:41.980 Guys, make sure you like the video.

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00:04:48.020 Okay.

00:04:49.340 Geoff, thank you for the super chat.

00:04:50.860 Tomo, men improvement channels, VTOP 5%, women improvement channels, makeup, news, rules, fashion.

00:04:59.260 Carlos, all men can remember the day we could no longer get help from adults because we weren't a small kid anymore.

00:05:04.560 Men have to earn it on their own. 1.00

00:05:06.080 Fernando, in this world, there's only one thing that matters, hard facts.

00:05:10.460 People misguidedly choose to accept the truth.

00:05:12.760 They are comfortable with them.

00:05:14.340 Realizing things that may, things may not, we have had expected them to be unsettled unless it's overwhelming.

00:05:23.060 Jordy, if you're leaving for a better man, he will leave you for a better and younger woman.

00:05:27.760 That's a fact.

00:05:29.340 Tomo J.

00:05:30.120 Nora Vincent, self-made man.

00:05:31.980 Learn her name.

00:05:32.780 Tomo, Charles, Stone, compromise is something that can be used to find a solution where both parties win.

00:05:41.820 The Adam, Ant, these women are average looking at best. 1.00

00:05:45.580 The fact that they think and act like this is a testament to how screwed society is today. 0.96

00:05:49.500 Sorry.

00:05:50.040 Pearl, thank you for your content.

00:05:51.740 C. Dumbledore, wifey.

00:05:53.340 Sorry, girls. 0.99

00:05:53.940 That's not you, Erin.

00:05:56.040 Women select a man taller, stronger, faster, older, wiser, smarter, and higher income. 1.00

00:06:02.280 They want a level-headed, confident leader to protect, defend, and provide.

00:06:06.220 Then proclaim that we are equal.

00:06:08.980 Follow me question.

00:06:10.000 What do you think a husband is for? 1.00

00:06:11.900 Keep him in mind how much you have thrown around the word equality before you answer.

00:06:18.080 Dark Lane, Fruit, Freddie.

00:06:21.880 What women fail to understand is that they manage the home to a high-value man. 1.00

00:06:30.980 So it's managing day-to-day operations of the home.

00:06:34.400 He's outgathering resources that you can manage at home.

00:06:40.520 Blessing there, Madgie.

00:06:41.600 You didn't open up the chat.

00:06:43.540 D.

00:06:43.960 I got my kitchen done recently, and two women did the measurements. 0.62

00:06:47.300 The men built the kitchen, but realized before we were starting the measurements were wrong.

00:06:57.240 Greatness.

00:06:57.740 There's no benefit to be a man in a relationship with a woman with no plan of marriage. 0.99

00:07:02.760 You say relationships are okay, but they're an excuse to marry. 0.92

00:07:07.200 Ladies.

00:07:07.740 Would you marry a man just like your father?

00:07:10.480 Follow me.

00:07:11.160 Tyrese would have been canceled if the roles were reversed. 0.74

00:07:13.400 Nathan asked the panel what type of cat they want in the future.

00:07:17.080 Question for the panel.

00:07:18.060 If being obese is being acceptable as body positive, should people that are anorexic be accepted too?

00:07:23.540 It's their choice.

00:07:25.920 That's actually a good question.

00:07:27.500 St.

00:07:27.840 Man, do good wives fart and then laugh? 1.00

00:07:31.540 Nathan Arber.

00:07:33.000 The lady is getting—oh, I've read that one already. 0.99

00:07:35.580 I'm going to refresh it real quick, guys.

00:07:37.060 Also, guys, make sure you sign up for our Google forum for our next event.

00:07:41.880 I think we're going to do a meetup in London.

00:07:43.820 It's going to be a lot of fun.

00:07:44.660 The last one we did, you went to it, right?

00:07:47.100 Yes.

00:07:47.360 Yeah, yeah.

00:07:47.780 It was fun.

00:07:50.240 What was the question that I read up here that I thought was decent?

00:07:55.200 What do you guys think a husband is for?

00:07:57.060 I would say a provider.

00:08:04.860 I would say also a man of the house.

00:08:09.500 As I said before, companion to be your best friend.

00:08:14.200 Also, honestly, to push you to be that better person that is so important.

00:08:18.880 And a good father.

00:08:22.280 I feel like a lot of—no offence—a lot of men haven't been taught what a good father is

00:08:30.400 because they didn't have that experience.

00:08:33.040 And that's unfortunate.

00:08:34.560 And that's just being passed down to the next generation, to the next generation,

00:08:37.800 to the next generation.

00:08:38.620 And that's something that I think is really important.

00:08:41.880 Someone that is a good father, has good morals.

00:08:45.560 What do you think?

00:08:46.520 Um, I think he's a protector, definitely.

00:08:53.180 Someone who is—I don't want to say, like, shield me from the world,

00:09:00.380 but someone who is going to have my back, um, make sure that I'm safe at all times,

00:09:08.500 um, emotionally, like, mentally, financially.

00:09:13.680 Um, and someone that I can just do life with, like, my life partner.

00:09:20.240 Someone that can be by my side and face these challenges that we face in life together.

00:09:26.820 Okay, what do you think?

00:09:28.080 What's a husband for? 0.55

00:09:29.540 I think—I don't know, to be honest.

00:09:35.260 I don't know.

00:09:37.660 You don't know?

00:09:38.280 No.

00:09:39.000 It's an honest answer.

00:09:40.780 I don't know.

00:09:42.720 Honestly, I don't know.

00:09:44.860 But you are—you're from Romania, though, which is quite—

00:09:47.360 Yeah.

00:09:47.760 Still quite, um, what's the word?

00:09:50.980 Traditional.

00:09:51.760 It is.

00:09:52.820 Does that not have an effect on how you think about—

00:09:55.080 Not really.

00:09:56.380 Okay.

00:09:57.000 Not really.

00:09:57.480 But, um, I think we should be friends, first of all.

00:10:03.500 We should get support for each other.

00:10:06.880 We should be equal.

00:10:09.360 I think that's important.

00:10:10.660 You think men and women can be equal?

00:10:13.880 Mm-hmm.

00:10:14.660 There's an intruder coming into the house.

00:10:17.000 Are you guys equally going to fight him?

00:10:18.500 No.

00:10:19.100 Yes.

00:10:19.400 I'm going to run and call the police.

00:10:31.020 You deal with him.

00:10:33.220 So, no.

00:10:33.940 So, no.

00:10:34.380 Okay.

00:10:37.440 Anything else?

00:10:38.360 Or, no, you said you don't know.

00:10:39.600 No.

00:10:39.880 Okay.

00:10:40.220 But you want it to be equal.

00:10:42.120 So, when you say equal, do you mean equal sex? 0.86

00:10:43.940 Because a lot of girls say that, and I'm like, I don't really know what they mean by that.

00:10:47.420 Like, they want a partner, equal.

00:10:49.400 I think it's about support and how you understand each other.

00:10:57.200 And when someone has a bad day, you just have to be there for them and push them up.

00:11:03.080 Don't push them down.

00:11:04.960 I think that's important.

00:11:07.880 But what does that have to do with being equal?

00:11:13.580 I mean, like, I know we shouldn't push each other down in a row, but what is that?

00:11:17.220 I don't know.

00:11:20.840 You mean, like, your views are equal kind of thing?

00:11:23.380 Yeah.

00:11:23.560 Like, he respects you, you respect him.

00:11:25.820 Like, the discipline between us.

00:11:27.900 Like, all the respect.

00:11:29.300 He shouldn't tell you what to do and you don't tell him what to do kind of thing.

00:11:32.940 No.

00:11:33.120 You just mutually agree.

00:11:34.880 We should, yeah, we should have a conversation about everything and just agree.

00:11:41.000 Yeah, but what about when you disagree?

00:11:42.740 What happens?

00:11:43.940 We will find a way.

00:11:45.360 Then, are you going to listen?

00:11:46.860 If he says that like you're...

00:11:48.060 Yeah, of course.

00:11:48.240 If I'm wrong, I'm going to say I'm wrong.

00:11:50.600 If I'm wrong, I'm wrong.

00:11:51.580 Yeah, but then, so then you wouldn't be equal, right?

00:11:54.920 If you guys disagree and then you have to trust him to make a decision.

00:12:02.980 I think she just means that she doesn't want to like a dictatorship type of relationship.

00:12:07.620 No, I feel like we need to agree.

00:12:11.700 We need to have the conversation.

00:12:13.600 We need to talk about our problems.

00:12:16.380 See, I don't think you realize how this sounds to men.

00:12:20.260 And I used to say something similar, so I'm not judging you.

00:12:22.980 But when you're like, oh, we need to talk about our problems and talk about every issue and like until we can come to a conclusion.

00:12:28.680 We don't really want to talk.

00:12:28.960 That's true.

00:12:29.600 No, they just want...

00:12:30.360 Yeah, they don't want to talk.

00:12:31.020 Like men just want a girl to listen. 0.57

00:12:32.900 Yeah.

00:12:33.240 Okay, we're going to do this.

00:12:34.200 And then she says, but why do we do it?

00:12:35.840 Why?

00:12:36.460 But why?

00:12:37.320 Like men hate that, but why?

00:12:39.320 It's like a trick.

00:12:39.900 Like they hate it.

00:12:41.300 Yeah, that's true.

00:12:42.220 Yeah.

00:12:42.560 You're right.

00:12:43.000 But I was just curious how you expected that to go.

00:12:48.340 Because when girls say equal, I don't know if they'd actually want a guy. 1.00

00:12:52.480 Because when I hear equal, it just sounds like girls want a guy that like follows what they want.

00:12:58.060 I feel like it works more like an equilibrium rather than equalness.

00:13:02.400 It's more of a wave.

00:13:03.680 It kind of goes back and forth.

00:13:04.760 It is a wave.

00:13:05.300 Yeah.

00:13:05.780 I think equality maybe is the wrong termed reason.

00:13:09.080 More of an equilibrium is right.

00:13:11.140 Because it goes back and forth and it's never a straight line.

00:13:15.380 To have equalness is where you will have problems.

00:13:18.800 To say that you're equal isn't right.

00:13:20.960 Because you won't work as a relationship if you're both equal.

00:13:25.480 Because nothing's ever going to get resolved.

00:13:27.640 Maybe the equal is not the right word.

00:13:29.560 But yeah, that's what I meant.

00:13:30.960 I'm curious.

00:13:31.680 Just show of hands.

00:13:32.880 And then I'll go to you.

00:13:33.860 I'm just curious.

00:13:34.720 Who here would submit to their husband's authority?

00:13:40.340 I would.

00:13:41.080 You would?

00:13:42.240 Okay, so it wouldn't be equal then.

00:13:43.800 Yeah, but...

00:13:44.160 He'd be above you.

00:13:45.500 No.

00:13:46.280 Yeah.

00:13:46.920 To submit, you do need to be willing to back down and not be equal anymore.

00:13:52.060 Okay, so you say you would though.

00:13:56.260 You would submit?

00:13:57.160 Well, I don't know.

00:13:58.620 It's a tricky one.

00:14:01.300 Maybe not.

00:14:01.960 I would.

00:14:02.280 Okay, no.

00:14:03.060 I would.

00:14:03.620 You would?

00:14:04.360 Okay.

00:14:05.180 Is that what you do now in your relationship?

00:14:06.880 He makes all the decisions?

00:14:10.200 No.

00:14:12.800 Is that just going to change when you guys get married or what?

00:14:17.920 If he's a provider, yes.

00:14:20.000 So if he pays all the bills, he can decide everything?

00:14:23.880 He's my boss.

00:14:24.960 Okay.

00:14:25.560 What about you?

00:14:26.820 You said you would?

00:14:28.840 To some extent.

00:14:29.960 Yeah.

00:14:30.800 What do you mean?

00:14:31.560 I don't know.

00:14:32.840 Like, it feels tricky.

00:14:35.160 Yeah.

00:14:37.060 I'd say to some extent.

00:14:40.240 Well, I think either way, women... 1.00

00:14:43.440 Well, anyway, it's about me.

00:14:44.540 So if I was a wife, I'd like the leadership role on his end.

00:14:53.040 Okay.

00:14:53.820 You know, but when it comes to...

00:14:55.920 I think equality is the wrong word, but decision-making, I'd like to be part of it.

00:15:02.480 Or he respects me enough to be like, oh, babe, you know, and discuss about certain things.

00:15:10.500 But I would respect his word for things.

00:15:13.280 But I think just being on a general level that we respect each other on certain things, on most things, just to keep it leveled and to make it work, then it's like, oh, no, I've got this power over you.

00:15:31.760 Or it's like me arguing back, you know, if that makes sense.

00:15:35.840 But answering your question at the start, I like a partner in crime and a best friend.

00:15:42.640 I think everyone thrives to get that.

00:15:47.840 Do you think that's normal in history that men and women were best friends?

00:15:54.600 I think men was... 0.99

00:15:55.840 Good question.

00:15:56.860 No.

00:15:57.440 The man was just the boss, wasn't he?

00:15:59.360 Yeah, the head of the family.

00:16:00.500 Oh, yeah.

00:16:00.900 When do you think that's switched?

00:16:04.380 Probably with this generation.

00:16:07.040 I don't know.

00:16:07.680 Was it like the 1970s or something?

00:16:10.300 Do you think that has good outcomes, being best friends with your husband?

00:16:15.060 Yes, I do.

00:16:17.640 Who said yes?

00:16:18.680 Yeah.

00:16:19.700 Who said yes?

00:16:20.820 You did.

00:16:21.660 You did.

00:16:23.380 Then why are we more divorced than ever before?

00:16:25.660 But maybe that's where my point comes in of not wanting to get married.

00:16:28.780 So if you're really going to want to get married, I'm like, you have to be friends with them, whether you like it or not.

00:16:35.060 Look at this is the right crowd to be talking to this channel.

00:16:39.540 Well, she makes it, you make a very good point because where all of this is going is kind of what I was trying to say to articulate at the beginning, which is that, is the marriage certificate fit for purpose anymore?

00:16:49.520 Given we've got all these dynamics going on in society, given there's all these divergent wants and needs and people trying to wiggle out, you know, not wanting to be submit or whatever.

00:16:57.940 Does it actually work anymore?

00:16:59.100 I'm not convinced that it does work anymore.

00:17:00.980 And I think the reason it works for, you know, for better or worse, and there's arguments in both cases, but the reason it worked before was because society and religion kept it in place.

00:17:10.760 And there were certain expectations for what you did.

00:17:12.660 And now those expectations aren't there.

00:17:14.620 So everyone goes and says the lines that Pearl read out in the church, but nobody really means it.

00:17:18.920 And then 10 years later, they're just like, oh, so that, you know, and that is not a good basis for marriage.

00:17:24.480 So do we need something else or do we?

00:17:26.240 I mean, you know, there's a personal choice here as well.

00:17:27.900 I haven't chosen to get married up to this point, largely because of this stuff, you know, to be honest.

00:17:34.140 Or maybe you just haven't met the right woman.

00:17:36.480 Well, yeah.

00:17:37.320 Who makes you want to get married.

00:17:38.840 No, I mean, look, I mean, I wouldn't, I never rule anything out entirely.

00:17:42.180 But like I said, I'm not, I'm not champing at the bit.

00:17:44.620 Oh my God, I really want to get married.

00:17:46.060 I really want to sign up to this contract where I can get half of my stuff taken away on a whim.

00:17:49.400 I mean, it's just not, do you know what I mean?

00:17:51.240 Like I'm happy being in sort of long-term relationships or more casual relationships, whatever.

00:17:56.680 But marriage, I mean.

00:17:57.620 I mean, would you sign a contract where you only have a 10% chance of getting your kids if he takes them?

00:18:05.560 And he can take half your stuff in the house and you'd have to move out?

00:18:11.800 Would you sign it?

00:18:13.780 And you only get one and a half meals a day.

00:18:15.700 I think if their value was very high in my life, then I would take that risk.

00:18:27.820 I'm a risk taker anyway.

00:18:29.700 And I feel like if I'm going to get something out of that, which is what I really want and which is what I've always wanted in life, which is love and to be loved.

00:18:37.880 I'll take that risk.

00:18:40.460 Because that's the purpose of life, to be loved.

00:18:42.800 Everybody here is searching to be loved, to be wanted and to be appreciated by someone.

00:18:48.420 That is what everyone wants.

00:18:49.680 That's not everyone's perfect.

00:18:50.820 Do you need marriage for that?

00:18:52.300 Sorry, but I think everybody is searching for that.

00:18:55.640 Like, everybody in the end just wants to be loved and find that person who accepts them for who they are.

00:19:00.280 But why would you need marriage for that?

00:19:02.300 Yeah.

00:19:02.720 Yeah.

00:19:02.980 You can still be in a wrong relationship.

00:19:06.080 Well, for me, it's like, I don't know, it's like religion and things like that.

00:19:09.600 Like, that's something. 0.73

00:19:11.460 Another thing is, you say except for who they are, but what if it's the guy who you are is somebody who wants to sleep around every couple of weeks, you know, and sort of have sex with the barista or the girl who's working at the nightclub. 0.69

00:19:21.480 Do you know what I mean? 0.91

00:19:22.360 And this is a whole other area, because obviously male sexuality is, you know, by and large, you know, they like Pearl said, I think earlier, you know, they want to have sex with as many people as possible.

00:19:32.180 Women have a slightly different sort of agenda for the most part. 1.00

00:19:36.360 And then you get into this whole area where, and I've seen other, you know, other podcasts where they talk about this, but like, you know, a guy can really, truly love a woman and still go and have sex with somebody else.

00:19:49.420 And that's purely by, that's purely physical.

00:19:52.020 And it doesn't detract from his love from the woman.

00:19:53.920 But for many women, you would say, well, tell me, tell me about you, honestly, what is it?

00:19:57.660 What is your, your makeup? 0.80

00:19:59.120 It's like, well, I like shagging around.

00:20:00.380 I mean, a lot of women are not going to accept that. 1.00

00:20:03.020 You know what I mean?

00:20:04.240 But that's not, that's not like, that's not like by force.

00:20:08.520 That's just like a preference for a man. 0.52

00:20:10.860 There are men who can actually be loyal.

00:20:14.460 Like they can.

00:20:15.180 They can, but come on.

00:20:16.720 It's not like something that's wrong with them or it's like, this is who they are.

00:20:21.160 If most men were in Tiger Woods position, come on.

00:20:26.080 Well, you studied.

00:20:27.200 That's like me saying, well, I want a Hermes back, you know.

00:20:30.720 Well, she said, you studied zoology, didn't you?

00:20:32.600 Have you got any input on this?

00:20:33.680 I mean, do you think the males generally, they look, you know, they want to get their end away?

00:20:36.580 I mean, men naturally, in like, if you look at the other primates that exist, so we are a primate.

00:20:47.180 Um, sorry to anyone that doesn't believe in evolution, but we are a primate.

00:20:51.320 And other male primates, like chimpanzees, will mate with several females.

00:20:57.300 And it's the biological makeup is to breed.

00:21:00.780 Are they monogamous? 0.66

00:21:02.420 No.

00:21:03.300 And I don't, from looking back in the evolution of hominins, which is what we are, we're a hominin,

00:21:12.260 they weren't monogamous.

00:21:13.920 And it's not necessarily the way we're made up, it's society that's done that.

00:21:18.580 So, for you to say that someone should always be with the same person for the rest of their lives,

00:21:24.860 huh, if that's not what they want, then so be it.

00:21:29.360 Don't judge someone because that's what they're saying.

00:21:31.880 But, you know, on the other side of it, you're right, you're, again, to counter what I've just said,

00:21:35.880 you are right, because if the guy is also signing up for that marriage contract,

00:21:39.380 then he should also abide by that contract.

00:21:41.400 Do you know what I mean?

00:21:42.480 But then it comes back to my question, which is, well, is it in the guy's,

00:21:46.980 is it in my best interest to sign up for it, then?

00:21:49.340 I do, I hear your point, I really do, and I do hear your point, like,

00:21:53.160 why would a man want to sign up for that paper? 0.83

00:21:56.840 And I really feel like it just comes down to the individual and what they believe in,

00:22:03.260 and I feel like, yeah, it is to do with religion, definitely.

00:22:07.020 I honestly think if most men knew what they were signing, I don't think most men would do it.

00:22:11.160 And I think if you took religion out of it as well, it's a lot of, I know, like, a lot of Muslim men,

00:22:16.420 you know, they wouldn't get married.

00:22:18.240 During this documentary, I just, I can't even believe, like, the stories I've heard so far, they're crazy. 0.96

00:22:23.580 They're crazy, like, guys get screwed over, especially, I think it's worse here than the U.S. 0.87

00:22:27.620 Really? 0.99

00:22:29.560 That's shocking.

00:22:30.840 It depends on the state.

00:22:32.060 States, yeah, yeah.

00:22:32.880 Yeah, but I don't, I don't know enough about, I've actually, I've learned more about the laws here than the U.S.

00:22:38.140 now, but, I think we're going to close out the show.

00:22:41.660 So, thank you guys all for coming.

00:22:43.500 We're going to do final thoughts.

00:22:45.280 So, any final thoughts you want to say, speak your piece on, start here, go around.

00:22:50.180 Instagram, social medias, you want to shout, go ahead.

00:22:53.320 Okay, um, Instagram, I think I said that in the beginning, but I'll just say it again, um, Kiki underscore Chi on Instagram.

00:23:02.060 And I do have a hair page as well, touch by Chi underscore, um, but final thoughts, um, I would just say, honestly, get married if you want to get married.

00:23:15.040 If you don't want to get married, no one's forcing you, don't get married.

00:23:17.800 It's, it's, it's, it's as easy as that, um, and obviously, like, culture definitely does play a, play a part.

00:23:25.560 Um, for example, like, I'm Nigerian, so our culture is very much get married, then have kids, and this, this, that.

00:23:35.300 Like, there's not really a, I wouldn't say, like, your career or, like, career isn't really, like, a big thing.

00:23:42.640 Like, as much as education is pushed onto us to go and get that degree and everything like that, at the end of the day, the end goal, um, in my type of culture is to get married, is to have kids.

00:23:55.320 And it just depends on different cultures, and, um, when you have different cultures, you're going to have different interpretations and different views, and everyone has different views.

00:24:03.760 That's fine.

00:24:04.260 If you don't want to get married, that's fine.

00:24:05.720 But, yeah, that's my last thought.

00:24:09.020 Um, yeah, uh, Instagram, SukainaTV, S-U-K-A-I-N-A-TV.

00:24:17.520 Um, you can also find me on TikTok, SukainaLouisa.

00:24:21.180 So, yeah.

00:24:22.340 Um, final thoughts.

00:24:25.120 Final thoughts, final thoughts.

00:24:26.640 Um, I would say, let's not forget that marriage is a beautiful thing and a very sacred thing.

00:24:32.920 I know it's kind of losing its value and a lot of people don't agree with it anymore, but please don't let that deter you from finding the love of your life and making that important decision that you will ever, ever make in your life and have that experience, um, that a lot of people wish for.

00:24:51.720 Please don't let that deter you from getting that.

00:24:53.400 Can I ask you a question really quick?

00:24:55.080 I just feel like what you're saying is conflicting.

00:24:58.080 What do you mean?

00:24:58.600 Because you're saying it's a beautiful thing.

00:25:00.400 And it's a, it's a, you said something with religion, right?

00:25:03.940 Like, it's a beautiful thing.

00:25:05.840 It's, yeah, it's linked to a lot of people, like, yeah, link it to religion.

00:25:09.140 But it, like, doesn't compute to me if you believe in leaving, if you're not happy.

00:25:14.840 Well, I said leaving based off, like, a very extreme situation.

00:25:19.060 I didn't say leave just because you don't have butterflies anymore.

00:25:22.360 I thought you said because you argue.

00:25:24.020 No.

00:25:24.740 Okay.

00:25:25.220 No, no, no, no.

00:25:26.040 I'm, I'm talking, like, extreme stuff, like abuse and things like that.

00:25:30.520 Um, but yeah, no, I don't think you should leave.

00:25:33.240 Of course, you should try everything that you can to make your marriage work.

00:25:37.900 And, um, I do believe in sticking it out with someone and supporting someone.

00:25:45.040 And I think, you know, our generation do just want to move on to the next thing.

00:25:49.960 But I feel like it's important to remember that really the grass is not greener on the other side.

00:25:55.600 The grass is greener where you actually nurture it and you water it.

00:25:59.620 I agree with that.

00:26:00.400 Yeah.

00:26:00.580 And, you know, this whole idea that, you know, you're going to move on to the next best shiny thing.

00:26:05.600 That's just a complete fix.

00:26:08.020 It's not real.

00:26:09.100 If you find someone that is genuine, is, has a good soul, has a beautiful soul, who looks after you, takes care of you, that is the most important thing in life.

00:26:17.900 So stop looking at social media.

00:26:20.280 Stop wishing that you had this and that.

00:26:22.740 Because I feel like a lot of women are wanting that nowadays. 1.00

00:26:25.100 And we all sit here and we talk about sick figures and things like that.

00:26:28.360 But the reality is social media is pushing that narrative.

00:26:32.820 Like we're looking at women who are like, but you shouldn't be with your man. 1.00

00:26:36.360 You should be with this man who buys you a Hermes bag and flies you out to Monaco and Paris and all these places.

00:26:42.700 And I feel like that is literally just a fix.

00:26:45.820 And if you start to look into that, you are never truly going to be happy within yourself.

00:26:49.960 You're never going to be fulfilled.

00:26:51.780 Because in the end, we're all going to die.

00:26:53.460 And, you know, yeah, we are.

00:26:56.140 I'm sorry to be very, like, morbid, but it's true, you know.

00:27:00.380 And in the end, all you really have is your memories and, you know, the kind of impact that someone leaves.

00:27:09.320 And that is the things that we remember, you know, being in love with someone, sharing those beautiful moments.

00:27:15.080 And those things don't cost money, you know.

00:27:17.500 They don't.

00:27:18.080 You don't need money to create those things.

00:27:19.920 So, yeah, I think really and truly just, you know, if you find someone who's genuine, please don't trade that in for just someone who looks good on Instagram.

00:27:30.160 That's what I'm trying to say, like, really look at someone and who they are inside, because that is who's going to be with you for life.

00:27:38.720 That's the person that's going to lift you up when you don't believe in yourself anymore.

00:27:44.820 That was very long.

00:27:46.020 Yeah, I loved it.

00:27:47.140 I loved it.

00:27:47.880 Sorry.

00:27:48.480 I know we all want to go home.

00:27:52.740 So, my Instagram is deya, D-E-Y-A-2, how are they called?

00:28:02.020 Underscore.

00:28:02.420 Underscore and X from X-Ray.

00:28:06.080 Final thoughts.

00:28:07.580 Well, you know, I think you should follow your own feelings.

00:28:14.160 And if you feel like you want to be with that person, just be with that person.

00:28:20.160 Don't let anyone change your mind.

00:28:23.200 Don't let Instagram change your mind.

00:28:25.620 And if you're generally happy, get married, get two kids.

00:28:32.300 I think all this matter is to be happy.

00:28:36.380 And, yeah, that's it.

00:28:42.600 Okay.

00:28:44.160 Instagram is lauralakova, underscore X.

00:28:47.920 Lakova is L-A-C-K-O-V-A.

00:28:51.620 Very confusing.

00:28:53.520 I think in general, just like, just enjoy life, live life.

00:28:57.600 If you want to get married, don't get married.

00:28:59.140 I like it.

00:29:00.640 I think it's quite nice to spend the rest of your life with just that one person.

00:29:08.940 Like, 30, 40 years.

00:29:11.060 I think it's really heartwarming.

00:29:12.480 But, again, I understand that the world is different now.

00:29:16.120 But, yeah, that's it, really.

00:29:19.760 Be yourself.

00:29:21.880 Be in the present moment.

00:29:23.440 Make memories, as a few people said.

00:29:26.280 There you go.

00:29:26.780 So, social media, at realtryfrancis on Instagram, at realtryfrancis on Twitter, at realtryfrancis on YouTube, and at realtryfrancis on TikTok as well.

00:29:40.420 And, final thoughts.

00:29:41.940 I actually got a wedding marriage proposal when I was last on this show, which was the other day.

00:29:45.700 It says, somebody sent me this, right?

00:29:47.200 So, it says, Troy is handsome, thank you, put together and socially intelligent.

00:29:51.100 I wonder if he'd choose to marry an average-looking, traditional, feminine wife, or if he'd prioritise hotness and looks above her upholding the traditional standard.

00:29:59.260 I'd love a husband like him.

00:30:00.980 So, if you're out there.

00:30:02.240 No.

00:30:02.740 I think I would.

00:30:04.580 Could be just pearly things first, couldn't it?

00:30:08.040 Okay.

00:30:09.160 I'd probably prioritise hotness, really.

00:30:12.660 I don't know, can't she be hot and traditional? 1.00

00:30:14.640 I mean...

00:30:14.960 I like the honesty there.

00:30:15.960 I respect that.

00:30:18.820 You actually can get the best of both worlds.

00:30:20.680 You can, you can get the best of both worlds.

00:30:22.160 You can, I think the same.

00:30:22.940 You can, I think the same.

00:30:22.960 Yeah, 100%.

00:30:24.080 100%.

00:30:24.520 Exactly.

00:30:25.140 You know, there's someone out there.

00:30:26.400 Yes.

00:30:27.140 Maybe.

00:30:29.140 Can I come to the wedding?

00:30:30.540 I really want a wedding to go to.

00:30:31.840 We'll stream it.

00:30:32.800 We'll stream it.

00:30:32.920 Oh, is it me?

00:30:37.400 Yeah.

00:30:38.940 So, my Instagram is Lucy underscore Campbell one.

00:30:45.240 But my final thoughts are just...

00:30:48.840 Don't...

00:30:50.480 We're all going to die.

00:30:52.120 Not literally.

00:30:53.140 I said it to him before the show.

00:30:54.420 We're all going to die one day.

00:30:55.780 So, live it up large now.

00:30:57.700 Don't worry too much about things that happen in life.

00:31:00.340 Because what's the point?

00:31:01.540 And don't get married unless you really have thought about it. 1.00

00:31:07.540 Because too many people rush into that shit. 1.00

00:31:09.820 And then they're fucking destroyed by the end of it. 1.00

00:31:12.940 Too many people don't believe in the religious aspects of it. 0.99

00:31:16.140 Which is where marriage comes from. 0.97

00:31:18.360 If you're not religious, what are you really doing it for? 0.92

00:31:21.320 Are you doing it for financial gain?

00:31:23.300 Are you doing it for yourself?

00:31:24.740 Are you doing it for that other person?

00:31:25.960 Then, think about it.

00:31:28.220 Just actually think about things before you do it.

00:31:31.620 Like, you know what I mean?

00:31:33.060 But yeah, that's about the end of my thoughts.

00:31:36.640 I'm very opinionated.

00:31:37.740 And I apologize.

00:31:39.180 Thanks.

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JustPearlyThings - November 09, 2023

This Romania Lady Gets ROASTED for Being Clueless about Men

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