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Summary
In this episode, we talk about what we look for in a man, what we like and what we don't like in a partner and how to find the right one for you. We also talk about the importance of hygiene and how important it is to be nice to your mother.
Transcript
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You know treat treat his the women in his family how they should be treated because I've seen a lot of guys and
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They they're horrible to their parents. Who was your last boyfriend?
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My only boyfriend. Okay, was he nice to his mom?
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So let's say listen to what women do and not say
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But why he was nice to his mom? Yeah, he was nice to his mom, but he also liked to
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Do a lot of really bad things. So that didn't do it for me
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But that is definitely a big thing though still the parents your mom okay looking at hygiene
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So you want to be nice to your mother and shower all right hygiene
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I'm gonna say it because I need to feel stable as well, you know, and women like to be looked off
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And I feel like you there's a lot of times where how much?
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Give me a number a lot wet so I've been single for quite a while now and I feel like I'm looking after myself all the time
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It gets to a point you get fed up with that and you actually just want a nice masculine man to take care of you and put you in
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His arms I like that and everyone's different, but that's what I like
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How much as long as I've got a nice house? I've got a nice car. What is it was a nice house go for in London?
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Oh, I wouldn't live in England anyway, I'd live abroad definitely
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No, that would want to move so hopefully he's got his businesses all set old and we can go
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You know what? I might never get a rich man in my life, but that's what I like so hopefully it get there
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Well, okay, you might never get taking steps to get there at the moment. I'm healing on myself
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I've got a lot of issues. I need to sort out before I can never get a partner. Okay, and that's how are you healing them therapy?
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Oh, yeah, I think therapy makes you crazier. No, you know what? I think all the women I know that go to therapy get worse
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But the only reason I'm getting this therapy because it's free at the moment and I do actually need some sort of help
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Is it a male or a female? It's a female. I'm gonna just you should go to a male therapist. Really? Yeah
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Women shouldn't be therapists. It's just my opinion. I'm in I'm in the psychology program at the school
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I promise you these women that are giving you they're horrible. Yeah horrible
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Yeah, guys gonna tell you if I have this problem. So you solve it women are just gonna say oh, it's okay
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I also have had men therapists that have made me feel really uncomfortable and flat with me
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And that didn't solve any of my problems. Well, I felt uncomfortable at my therapy session. So to me
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I'll feel more comfortable with a woman. I have a more natural. How do you flirt?
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Just making comments with your social media and things like that, you know making me feel uncomfortable because everyone he knew that I'm a SA
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Do you think that helps or hurts with your mental health?
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Because at that moment, I mean like a bit of a loophole
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Where it's a bit hard to come out of it where I'm just used to money being thrown at me
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I'm scared to go back into a normal job routine
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How how much in savings do you have savings? Um, do I really have to answer that you do you have more than like, okay
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And yeah, I'd say maybe not on I left but all together. Maybe I'd say about 50 K
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50 K. Yeah, that's the sex work. Yeah, you said you think you're worth 50 K a year?
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No, but I don't work a lot though with it. I do, you know
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I don't overdo it because when I was a bit younger I overworked and that's when I was in a really bad place
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I overdid it. So I've taken a bit of a step back. I don't even do my OnlyFans anymore
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I'm more do like dominatrix and come in and that just keeps me steady for now
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Yeah, well, I'm just thinking if you want to get out
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Right, so like it might help to get some savings so then you can
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Yeah, no, I've got savings. I've got savings. Don't get me wrong. I've got savings
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And I also had to go for a court case on spending money on solicitors
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You know things happen in life life's one big journey and I feel like everyone's journey is different
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Some people have a really good life and some people don't have a good life. So what made you get into that?
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I used to work in a care home and I was actually very like depressed very low and I wasn't making a lot of money
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And I had my ex-boyfriend at the time that used to
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He used to really make me feel low, you know, and even like we'd go out for meals and he'd say
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He used to always make me split and I used to think to myself like like I care for you
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And he never gave me that back and then I worked in the care home and I was sitting there one day
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And I thought I can't do this anymore. Like my man don't even want to help like help
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Speaking to one of the old guys that used to look after in the care home
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And I told him my whole plan about starting the OnlyFans, you know
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Why are you not doing it? You're gonna be old like me one day sitting in a chair
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You're gonna like die basically one day just do it
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Yeah, you know, but he didn't make it till that time because he passed away a few months after but I started it and
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I was 19. So you're 19 you're working in a care home. Sorry, it gets hot. It gets very hot
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Probably about a year and a half then I stopped
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Yeah, so I was working in the care home and then I started it and I knew that if I started the OF
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My ex would leave me alone because he hated things like that and I knew that he'd really leave me alone because we were so toxic together
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And then I was I was in work. I checked my phone. I think I made maybe like 2k in that day
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And to me, that's a lot. I haven't come from a big family. I haven't come from
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A stable family at all. I think 2k in a day is a lot
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And for me it was because I was getting 400 pound a week from the care home and I was working 12 hour shifts and five days a week
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Okay, so you've been doing it for like three years. Yeah, and then I said to my manager
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Like I don't really want to be here and I told him my situation with the OnlyFans. She said to me just go
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So I went and I just never looked back. So why did you pick that route instead of like, I don't know marrying rich?
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You know what it was. You're a pretty girl. You were 19. Thank you. You were with the guy for three years
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I mean, you probably weren't street in that much if you're with a guy for three years, were you?
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Maybe you were okay. Yeah, I was a mess. I was a mess. I had no control over my emotions
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But when you're in a young relationship, you don't even know who you are as a person at that point
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Why ruin your own life you could have got married ruin someone else's too
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I don't want to get married. I'm against marriage. I don't ever want to get married. Thank you
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Not everyone wants to get married and not everyone wants children
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I know I just I just think it's like a shame because there's way to utilize female beauty in a different way and still get the outcomes that
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Like now now you're in a position where it's gonna be tough to ever be with a guy long term
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Yeah, but maybe I don't want to be with a guy long term
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Maybe I want to live with three cats at my home with all my cactuses. What do you want your life to look like? It's 65?
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I'll probably be dead by then. So I don't know. I don't think that far ahead because life
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Yeah, it's just you really sure I don't plan that hard head. I live in the moment
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Yeah, it probably will but if it does it does I don't really care. Yeah, you do. No, I don't
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Maybe it will hit me, but it's gonna hit me up and I'm here. I'm healthy
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Like you still get it like I don't think women like we realize how much we like need attention from men
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Yeah, like we need like we need I agree with that and so like right now you're still young
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You're still attractive. You're still gonna get attention from men, but like at 40 to 50 women become basically invisible
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I thought about that and so and so if you don't if you don't get a husband before then like
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What does life look like your your parents will pass away at some point?
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Yeah, your siblings will have their own families like if you don't start thinking long-term like what what does your life look like?
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If you're in the position you're in already, you can't do anything to like yeah
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To change it. Yeah, but it's like you know if you want to be in a position where you're happier
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Like wouldn't it make sense to maybe start put that away?
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I'm trying to sort out first like my mental health and my family issues and a lot of my childhood trauma that I still have to deal with daily
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So I'm trying to sort that out first because I feel like I can't think straight at the moment my head
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So trauma like what do you mean you need to go through like because I never understand when people say childhood trauma
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Like when I was younger, I was essayed and um, it was my mom's boyfriend. So
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I'm not getting upset. It's just a bit, you know
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Um, yeah, so how long have you been going to therapy for it?
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Um, I was going when I was 16 for a year and then I stopped before I didn't need it anymore
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And then I've only been going for about five months now
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The the sad thing about this therapy is it just seems like they just kind of make money off of their patients instead of
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And I think a lot of times that's like women doing it
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I know I know maybe you had the bad experience with the guy, but it might make sense to try to find a different
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Yeah, I guess so, you know that just because like what what does your future look like you have to figure out how to move on
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And sometimes there are things that you can't actually get over so looking at it endlessly you it makes you live in the moment
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Yeah, I always feel like I'm I wake up and I'm still living in the past still like my head just keeps living in the past
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But you know, and I've just found that if I focus more on the future you don't live as much in the past
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Yeah, you know, like right now you're not even thinking like long term. Yeah
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Also, if you had a partner one that was good for you not just any old partner if you were focused on them
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Yeah, and they're focused on you then you also wouldn't have to I feel like that is why I do hate my job because I don't glamorize
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Sex work at all. I think don't start it. It does ruin your life
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Ruins your mentality and it ruins how you view men and how men should view you so
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Yeah, I if I could sit here and regret doing sex work
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I probably would regret it only because the stuff I put on the internet as well because that's not me
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That's just what I've done for money and you shouldn't have to do them things for money
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To you know, you're losing your not morals, but it could have been private
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Yeah, it could have been private and I feel like where I was a bit younger and I was getting too excited because of the money
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I had no parents to guide me. I kind of lost the control and now I'm in this situation
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But um, yeah, I'm just thinking there's like steps you could take to get out of it because you know, it's like you can
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Because I'm just thinking like you're you're a pretty girl
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There's ways to monetize your beauty in a different way. You can start a youtube channel. Yeah reaction. Yeah, you could do you could do
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What would sales people hundred percent sex work?
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Well, it's what's interesting to me and this is actually something like I said when I was dating a gal that turned out to be a
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A stripper and like a really popular one apparently
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She was probably the best person i've ever met at just reading men and just understand
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Like I don't believe that anybody really knows human nature like sex workers do
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That's so they really like these girls learn that yeah
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She can look she can look at a guy and I guarantee it
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We were gonna show it's like she can look at a guy and immediately know
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How much money he has would he cheat on his wife and how quickly?
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And like and she knows she would you know, you know, right?
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She's like yeah, of course because the gal I was with she was like she would look at a guy
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I'm like, oh that guy's my friend. He was married
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She's like, oh, he would cheat on his wife in a minute
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I'm like really she's and she would just know she's like I know the look I know
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I know the feel I know the energy like they just
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Understand that so yes, it definitely is good for sales, but coming I know that you did not like sales and that's fine
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I loved sales. I'll tell you. No, no, no, I don't mind sales. I hate selling copiers. Yes
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We had a guy in our company. We had a guy in our company. That's like one of our top sales people
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He used to sell copiers came to us. He likes his life now
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But there is something to sales that I think is really really important tying into this
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How you feel and like all the emotional stuff. I mean, obviously like that's that's a battle you have to you have to
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You have to fight that's a battle you have to win. It is what it is. Everybody has some
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Trauma not at the same level, you know, we're different, but everybody comes everybody's family is left up in some way or another
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And one thing i'm really glad about like when I was 20 years old and I felt like I was a victim of the world
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And I think a lot of people, you know at a young age feel like they're victims like no
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I'm not the best looking no, I'm not the smartest no
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I'm not this the that I don't have a big brother to teach me things
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If I was 20 the internet wasn't like a huge thing, which is kind of crazy
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So we didn't have these podcasts to learn about life
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Which is why I appreciate what pearl does so much because you know, we get to learn about life
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I was really really lucky to to take a sales position where people probably cared about the money
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I was making them more than they cared about me
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But at least the steps that I needed to take to build myself included a significant amount of discipline
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A significant amount of accountability and being honest with myself because I didn't get paid if I didn't sell anything
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So so I was had to be very brutally honest with myself and extremely disciplined
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But what really helped was getting around another group of people around me that were disciplined and growing and they didn't resent my success
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They celebrated my success and I celebrated their success and when I failed they didn't crap on me
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Let's work together to make you better if you want to be better, you know
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And so one of the things actually we we do in our company is and I think tate and those guys have the war room
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People like the war was I think that's brilliant. I think just giving men men a place to meet other ambitious successful or striving men
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Yeah, and that's we need that we do the same thing in our company
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Like we bring guys in and and we literally mold them and work with them to make them more accountable to grow and do some guys resent it?
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Yes, they leave and they resent it because they don't like to be in an environment where they feel like they're not enough
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But other guys flourish in that environment and as a man i'm talking from a man's perspective
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You don't have like a woman can cry and still move into another man's life a couple years later men don't have that option
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Like we need to be building all the time and if you feel like you're a dude and you're a little bit victimized
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It's time to step up and get around people that will help you grow