JustPearlyThings - This Trad Wife IMPRESSED Men When She Said She will Give up Everything for Men

00:00:00.000 So, what do you give up in a relationship?

00:00:06.000 Well, I have a lot to give.

00:00:10.000 So, a lot to sacrifice because I'm a person of faith.

00:00:14.000 I do follow traditional values of faith.

00:00:17.000 So there's a lot of me on the line for me to give up.

00:00:21.000 And, yeah, it's obviously the sexual side.

00:00:28.000 So, you know, in the Christian faith, you wait until marriage.

00:00:33.000 Okay.

00:00:34.000 So, I'm willing to wait for that man, that high value man.

00:00:41.000 Yeah, and that's a lot to give up.

00:00:43.000 Okay, so you would give up waiting for marriage?

00:00:46.000 Or like not give, you would like have him wait?

00:00:49.000 Oh, I wouldn't give that.

00:00:51.000 Oh, okay.

00:00:52.000 I understood this wrong.

00:00:53.000 I'm so sorry.

00:00:54.000 I understood this wrong.

00:00:55.000 Let's trace back.

00:00:58.000 No, no, no.

00:00:59.000 I would never give up this for any high value man.

00:01:03.000 Waiting till marriage?

00:01:04.000 Yeah.

00:01:05.000 Okay.

00:01:06.000 Are you a virgin?

00:01:07.000 Yeah.

00:01:08.000 Oh, really?

00:01:09.000 Yeah.

00:01:10.000 I never thought I would disclose this so publicly, but yeah.

00:01:12.000 Oh, okay.

00:01:13.000 Okay.

00:01:14.000 So, you want to wait until you're married?

00:01:15.000 Yeah.

00:01:16.000 Okay.

00:01:17.000 Would you give up, let's say like social media?

00:01:20.000 Yeah.

00:01:21.000 That wouldn't be a problem?

00:01:22.000 Yeah.

00:01:23.000 I would give up.

00:01:24.000 Wait, hold on.

00:01:26.000 That's actually really good.

00:01:28.000 I think, I think in that culture is that's what they have to do.

00:01:32.000 So, I think when she has to do certain things that they have to give up social media, they 1.00

00:01:40.000 can't present themselves in certain ways.

00:01:43.000 So, I think when you say, would you give up a high end man, then we have to look at it

00:01:48.000 prospectively above board as how would we do that of women of different cultures? 1.00

00:01:53.000 Mm-hmm.

00:01:54.000 So, her culture, they wouldn't be able to do that. 0.67

00:01:57.000 Well...

00:01:58.000 You guys don't have social media?

00:01:59.000 No, I'm on social media.

00:02:01.000 But, yeah, I grew up in a Sudanese Arabic culture, which is very strict. 0.99

00:02:06.000 However, I lived most of my life in Germany.

00:02:08.000 I live here in a very modern society.

00:02:11.000 So, I did get influenced from here as well, not just from my background.

00:02:14.000 But, in terms of, I think it's not, it's high value men, we were speaking about this earlier,

00:02:21.000 Pearl, and I would love to have your perspective as well.

00:02:23.000 How do you define a high value man and how do you define a modern woman?

00:02:27.000 Because the way I define a high value man may be very different than you define it and

00:02:33.000 then they define it.

00:02:34.000 So, the way I define a high value man is somebody who is faith driven, who is respectable,

00:02:40.000 who's got, yeah, he's got integrity.

00:02:44.000 So, it's values, but it's also, he definitely has to have a job, for sure, make money.

00:02:50.000 But, there's other aspects that I look for in high value men.

00:02:53.000 For me to give up something, anything, what does he bring to the table as well?

00:02:59.000 Well, so, I would define high value men as the men that women pick. 0.97

00:03:03.000 So, like, the men that women routinely go after and choose. 0.96

00:03:07.000 And, Kevin Samuels actually is the one who coined that term.

00:03:10.000 So, he laid it out, it's 10k per month, he has to have had that for three to five years.

00:03:17.000 Other men must accept him as high value, he has to have a network of high value men,

00:03:22.000 he has to be linked in visibility level, and he must be useful to others in the group.

00:03:27.000 So, that's the definition.

00:03:29.000 Yeah.

00:03:30.000 Would you agree or disagree?

00:03:31.000 No, but we have to take into account different cultures, different people's lifestyles, how his is his lifestyle.

00:03:39.000 That's not my lifestyle, that's not her lifestyle, that's not his or his, or different cultures. 0.94

00:03:45.000 So, we can have a statistic that says that, but you can't truly say that.

00:03:50.000 And I think we need to be open when we ask that question, because we live in a very diverse world right now.

00:03:56.000 I can't truly say that, because women only swipe right five percent of the time on dating apps, 1.00

00:04:01.000 and we typically pick the same men.

00:04:03.000 So, I would say...

00:04:05.000 Well, I don't go on a dating app, and I would never pick my men on a dating app.

00:04:09.000 I mean, if you, even at a bar, you see women approach or, like, go after the same type of guys.

00:04:14.000 How would you know that unless you ask them?

00:04:16.000 Yeah, the average woman, yeah. 0.97

00:04:17.000 Absolutely.

00:04:18.000 No, no, no, I don't know.

00:04:19.000 How would you know that unless you ask that person that was going into the bar?

00:04:23.000 What type of guy are you approached to?

00:04:25.000 You can see it.

00:04:26.000 I can see who they go after in the bar.

00:04:27.000 So, where do your statistics come from?

00:04:29.000 So, where do my stats come from?

00:04:32.000 There's different studies that talk about this.

00:04:34.000 It's pretty cut and dry on, like, Tinder, Bumble, like, there's so many dating...

00:04:37.000 I'm 46 years old.

00:04:38.000 And even if you...

00:04:39.000 Wait, wait, I'm trying to answer your question.

00:04:41.000 So, and even if you go off of dating apps, like, I do it on the show,

00:04:44.000 where we could go through you guys one by one and put out what you want in a guy,

00:04:48.000 and it's usually less than 20% of men.

00:04:50.000 I think the highest...

00:04:51.000 So, you're assuming that I want in a guy X, Y, and Z.

00:04:54.000 Is that what you were saying?

00:04:55.000 No, it's the average.

00:04:56.000 No, I'm saying in general.

00:04:57.000 Not you personally.

00:04:58.000 In general.

00:04:59.000 I think that is the key point here.

00:05:00.000 Well, the average, is that your average?

00:05:02.000 Well, that's why she's saying in general.

00:05:04.000 Most people are average.

00:05:05.000 Okay.

00:05:06.000 Well, then I probably may have looked at it, but I don't average.

00:05:09.000 We're coming away from the topic of what people would give up.

00:05:11.000 And I think it's subjective in terms of...

00:05:13.000 So, how would we look at an average woman? 1.00

00:05:18.000 What would you say is an average woman then? 1.00

00:05:20.000 It's not who is average.

00:05:21.000 But average to me is going to be different to what Alex thinks is average

00:05:26.000 to what Gary thinks is average.

00:05:27.000 It's not even who is the average woman. 1.00

00:05:29.000 It's an average.

00:05:30.000 Like, statistically, there is an average of, like, in general...

00:05:34.000 I get that, but who sets the statistics?

00:05:38.000 The people that need the studies.

00:05:39.000 The people that need the studies.

00:05:40.000 If you look at the statistics, what Paul will say, like, from the dating apps...

00:05:43.000 Which part?

00:05:44.000 Are you asking about the women or are you asking about the high-value men?

00:05:46.000 So, if I said to you, I looked at statistically a thousand men and they said to me, this is what they would prefer.

00:05:54.000 Are you going to prefer my report or are you going to prefer somebody that's going to say to you, well, you know what?

00:05:59.000 This is what I've done and this is what I've looked at and this is what I've found.

00:06:03.000 I would probably go by experience and studies, which are usually pretty similar.

00:06:09.000 Like, if I put up Lizzo, most guys will probably pass.

00:06:15.000 But if I...

00:06:16.000 On Lizzo?

00:06:17.000 Yes.

00:06:18.000 Yeah.

00:06:19.000 Yeah.

00:06:20.000 Over, over, oversized women are coming back right now and I probably... 1.00

00:06:26.000 For women, to who? 0.74

00:06:28.000 Well, for a man, maybe not you, but for a lot of men she does.

00:06:35.000 And we're sat here laughing and we're sat here laughing and like, do you know the percentage of the population about how many women are oversized? 0.97

00:06:46.000 I don't.

00:06:47.000 Too many.

00:06:48.000 Do you know?

00:06:49.000 Too many.

00:06:50.000 It's like...

00:06:51.000 There's more...

00:06:52.000 Well, listen, I work in medicine and weight and stuff and I see a lot more oversized women. 1.00

00:06:57.000 And they're trying...

00:06:58.000 And if you see the adverts that we see on TV from Marks and Spencer, Tescos, a lot of them now are promoting...

00:07:03.000 That doesn't mean that men want them. 1.00

00:07:05.000 That doesn't mean that they're the women that men desire.

00:07:07.000 And that doesn't mean that...

00:07:08.000 Okay, so are you guys sat here underweight with a six ab?

00:07:12.000 That's not a discussion here.

00:07:14.000 Well, that's what I'm asking you.

00:07:15.000 Oversized women. 1.00

00:07:16.000 Why are you asking them that?

00:07:18.000 No, stick to the comments...

00:07:19.000 What's your point?

00:07:20.000 Stick to the facts.

00:07:21.000 Because if you're commenting on oversized women... 1.00

00:07:24.000 You're trying to decide for men what they like.

00:07:26.000 You're not really in a position to do that.

00:07:27.000 No, I'm not.

00:07:28.000 I'm trying to say...

00:07:29.000 Not being a man.

00:07:30.000 They shouldn't be...

00:07:31.000 Stigmatic.

00:07:32.000 You don't think...

00:07:33.000 You don't think you should...

00:07:34.000 I'm not saying they should either.

00:07:35.000 You don't think you should discriminate in who you date?

00:07:37.000 I don't think you should discriminate against anybody.

00:07:40.000 Yeah, but when you...

00:07:41.000 So you want a short, broke guy?

00:07:44.000 Five foot?

00:07:45.000 No.

00:07:46.000 I choose...

00:07:47.000 Okay.

00:07:48.000 Here's what I do.

00:07:49.000 There's some crackheads down the street I can set you up with.

00:07:52.000 Should I tell you something?

00:07:53.000 I'm serious.

00:07:54.000 That might be your call.

00:07:55.000 I'm dead serious.

00:07:56.000 But let me tell you.

00:07:57.000 I make my choices.

00:07:58.000 So I decide to choose who I want to date.

00:08:00.000 And I think you decide you want to choose who you want to date.

00:08:03.000 You do and you do.

00:08:04.000 Right.

00:08:05.000 It doesn't matter what it bases on.

00:08:06.000 It's based on what I like.

00:08:08.000 Yeah, as a person, as an individual.

00:08:10.000 And we're talking about what men like.

00:08:12.000 Well, you just discriminated everyone right now.

00:08:15.000 But that was not the subject about the size of women at all. 0.67

00:08:18.000 Yeah, we're talking about what a man or a woman would give up for the man or woman in their life.

00:08:23.000 Do you think you and Lizzo have an equally attractive body?

00:08:26.000 Do you think you do?

00:08:28.000 I think I have a better body than Lizzo.

00:08:30.000 Do you think you and Lizzo...

00:08:31.000 You've ultimately just discriminated yourself from her.

00:08:35.000 How?

00:08:36.000 What?

00:08:37.000 You said you have a better body.

00:08:38.000 Yeah.

00:08:39.000 That's not discrimination.

00:08:40.000 That's common sense.

00:08:41.000 That is.

00:08:42.000 I mean, I don't think it takes much to be fair.

00:08:43.000 Oh, it's facts.

00:08:44.000 So when we do...

00:08:45.000 When we do...

00:08:46.000 When we talk about colour against white and black and black lives matter, do we not discriminate?

00:08:51.000 Or do we want to not have that conversation?

00:08:53.000 Or does it now suit you better because we're now talking about size?

00:08:56.000 Being overweight is not healthy.

00:08:58.000 Yeah.

00:08:59.000 It's only from that perspective.

00:09:00.000 It's not just about how she looks.

00:09:01.000 There is...

00:09:02.000 Now they are promoting and trying to say...

00:09:03.000 That's her choice.

00:09:04.000 That's fine.

00:09:05.000 That's fine.

00:09:06.000 Being overweight is healthy because it looks good and that...

00:09:09.000 No.

00:09:10.000 You're right.

00:09:11.000 It is her choice to be overweight, but then... 1.00

00:09:12.000 It's not a good choice for her health.

00:09:13.000 It's not a good choice.

00:09:14.000 So do you know...

00:09:15.000 It's also a man's choice to not choose her.

00:09:17.000 So let's look at healthy facts.

00:09:18.000 The slimmest person who you would think would look the healthiest could have the unhealthiest lifestyle.

00:09:26.000 And she might just have a percentage of body fat because she just eats differently. 1.00

00:09:31.000 Do you look at that?

00:09:32.000 Did you know that obesity drops after like the age of 65?

00:09:35.000 You know why that is?

00:09:37.000 How many people live till they're 65?

00:09:39.000 No, the obese people don't.

00:09:41.000 That's why it drops because they die.

00:09:43.000 Oh.

00:09:44.000 See, look at that. 1.00

00:09:45.000 Damn. 1.00

00:09:46.000 Stats. 1.00

00:09:47.000 No, I'm serious.

00:09:48.000 Stats.

00:09:49.000 That's a fact.

00:09:50.000 That's a stats.

00:09:51.000 Anyway, can I say I would not give up football.

00:09:52.000 It's pretty much the only thing I would do.

00:09:54.000 I wouldn't want you to either.

00:09:56.000 You know what?

00:09:57.000 I'm going to be...

00:09:58.000 I'm just sat here being real.

00:09:59.000 I'm not trying to show up to any...

00:10:01.000 I'm just being real and the facts are like...

00:10:03.000 My partner's cousin is a top cardiologist in El Paso.

00:10:06.000 So he'll tell you with what pressure weight just does on your heart.

00:10:11.000 And if we want to go down that road, let's talk about medicine.

00:10:13.000 We'll talk about in a real world, not just on anybody's facts and show.

00:10:19.000 Let's talk about medicine.

00:10:20.000 Those are statistics.

00:10:21.000 What do you...

00:10:22.000 Can you tell something?

00:10:23.000 I'm a personal trainer, so I've been in fitness industry for 15 years.

00:10:27.000 And most of my clients are moms after having a baby and they're overweight. 1.00

00:10:33.000 And we always...

00:10:34.000 I'm a health coach, so I always talk about that.

00:10:36.000 But the only thing is they are very upset about their weight

00:10:40.000 because they think most of them are single because they're overweight

00:10:44.000 and they just want to lose weight because of, you know, they want to look good.

00:10:47.000 They want to look confident and therefore they want to find a good looking guy.

00:10:52.000 So I don't think there is any problem when we talk about, you know,

00:10:57.000 people with, you know, overweight people because they are actually...

00:11:03.000 They love to talk about it because they think because of social media,

00:11:06.000 because of let's say even Victoria's Secret right now having like overweight,

00:11:10.000 beautiful ladies advertising bikinis. 0.76

00:11:13.000 And I love it because I feel like now it's all the women around the world

00:11:18.000 with any size, any color, any shape, they can, you know, be seen.

00:11:23.000 I hate it. 0.95

00:11:24.000 I hate it. 0.64

00:11:25.000 Do you think it's...

00:11:26.000 I feel like...

00:11:27.000 Why do you hate it?

00:11:28.000 Why when they have overweight women as models? 1.00

00:11:30.000 Because I want to be inspired when I see a model.

00:11:32.000 I don't want someone that like is bigger than me.

00:11:34.000 I get what you're saying.

00:11:36.000 Can you finish my conversation?

00:11:38.000 But imagine if I was overweight, I mean, I used to think like you.

00:11:42.000 I used to think, oh, but I think we need to be inspired.

00:11:45.000 Like as a personal trainer, I had a colleague who was very overweight

00:11:49.000 and I was always thinking I didn't want to be mean and say,

00:11:52.000 you're a personal trainer.

00:11:53.000 You're supposed to inspire people.

00:11:56.000 You're supposed to be really fit.

00:11:57.000 I would agree.

00:11:58.000 Yeah.

00:11:59.000 You are very like you have a percentage of fat that is not acceptable.

00:12:03.000 as a trainer.

00:12:04.000 But now I'm coming to a point.

00:12:07.000 Maybe I'm getting older with lots of experiences.

00:12:09.000 Some people really can't lose weight.

00:12:11.000 You can't assume people, you can't stereotype them.

00:12:15.000 I don't believe that.

00:12:16.000 What do you mean they can't lose weight?

00:12:17.000 They can reduce them.

00:12:18.000 Oh my God.

00:12:19.000 I can't believe we're going back into like the 60s and 70s.

00:12:22.000 You sound like me.

00:12:23.000 I don't want to go back to the 60s and 70s.

00:12:24.000 You don't understand about genetics.

00:12:25.000 I don't want to go back to the 60s and 70s.

00:12:26.000 I don't want to go back to the 60s and 70s.

00:12:27.000 What don't I understand?

00:12:28.000 What?

00:12:29.000 So you don't understand about genetics, health weight, how the body.

00:12:31.000 Yeah.

00:12:32.000 I do understand.

00:12:33.000 100%.

00:12:34.000 Well, if you did, then you wouldn't have made that comment.

00:12:35.000 Yes, I would.

00:12:36.000 You still would.

00:12:37.000 I still make that comment because nothing's impossible.

00:12:39.000 You can't because then you have to look at what are your genetics.

00:12:42.000 And you need to go to these women that can't do that and ask them the real ones. 1.00

00:12:45.000 Yeah, I do help these women. 1.00

00:12:46.000 Have you asked them?

00:12:47.000 I do help these women. 0.99

00:12:48.000 Have you asked them?

00:12:49.000 And I have had loads of women lose weight. 1.00

00:12:50.000 Absolutely.

00:12:51.000 No, have you asked these women that can't lose weight? 1.00

00:12:53.000 Have you asked them that question?

00:12:54.000 It's not true that they can't.

00:12:55.000 If they work with me, they can.

00:12:56.000 It's not true that they can't.

00:12:58.000 How can you say that?

00:12:59.000 That's like saying it's not possible for someone to be healthy.

00:13:01.000 I refuse to believe that.

00:13:03.000 That's just not right.

00:13:04.000 That's just giving up on so many people.

00:13:06.000 So in our room, who we're sat with now, who do you think is the unhealthiest?

00:13:11.000 I don't know.

00:13:12.000 Look around at the room.

00:13:14.000 I don't know and I'm not going to do that.

00:13:15.000 I thought you said a minute ago, it doesn't necessarily come down to how they look.

00:13:20.000 Someone that could be slim or could be unhealthier.

00:13:24.000 You just said that all people that are overweight, that you can...

00:13:29.000 You know what?

00:13:30.000 I would say mentally you.

00:13:31.000 You know what I'm going to say to you people out there?

00:13:33.000 All of you who are overweight, come to her and let her train you and show you,

00:13:38.000 regardless of your ages, regardless of your sizes.

00:13:40.000 And let's put it out there.

00:13:41.000 Are you a trainer?

00:13:42.000 Are you a trainer?

00:13:43.000 No, I'm not a trainer.

00:13:44.000 I'm a life coach.

00:13:45.000 What do you do?

00:13:46.000 You do life coach?

00:13:47.000 Yeah.

00:13:48.000 First of all, I'm a sports therapist.

00:13:49.000 I'm a business therapist.

00:13:50.000 I don't buy me anything possible.

00:13:52.000 What?

00:13:53.000 A promo.

00:13:54.000 Plug the socials.

00:13:55.000 I don't do social media.

00:13:56.000 Recommendations.

00:13:57.000 I've been doing it for over 20 years.

00:13:58.000 Word of mouth.

00:13:59.000 She was telling me her story.

00:14:01.000 I don't know how you can stereotype against social media.

00:14:04.000 You just did.

00:14:05.000 Okay.

00:14:06.000 Okay.

00:14:07.000 Okay.

00:14:08.000 Okay.

00:14:09.000 You can't ask men what they want. 0.76

00:14:11.000 And when they say not Lizzo, you say you're stereotyping.

00:14:14.000 But women don't like broke men.

00:14:18.000 We don't like short men.

00:14:19.000 We discriminate. 0.96

00:14:20.000 Why can't men have standards? 0.52

00:14:22.000 I don't care about if you're broke.

00:14:24.000 Because I make my own money.

00:14:26.000 All right.

00:14:27.000 So first of all, what does that have to do with anything?

00:14:29.000 So I make my own.

00:14:30.000 So I don't need to rely if he's broke, if he's nothing or if he's that.

00:14:33.000 Okay.

00:14:34.000 Date bums.

00:14:35.000 Have fun.

00:14:36.000 No.

00:14:37.000 Date bums.

00:14:38.000 Have fun.

00:14:39.000 Go ahead.

00:14:40.000 You said you make your own money. 0.60

00:14:41.000 Date bums.

00:14:42.000 Okay.

00:14:43.000 Let me finish my question.

00:14:44.000 But let me finish my answer, please.

00:14:45.000 I like somebody to just treat me right.

00:14:47.000 And if that's wrong, then a lot of women are wrong. 1.00

00:14:51.000 But what you define as being treated right will vary because of the story of life that you're used to.

00:14:56.000 If you go on Netflix right now, there's this program called Rich Life or whatever.

00:15:03.000 The woman earns the most money. 1.00

00:15:05.000 She's being cussed because she just cussed her husband because he stays at home and looks after the kids. 0.89

00:15:09.000 That's less than 5% of relationships.

00:15:11.000 That's not a high percentage of relationships.

00:15:13.000 A lot of women stay at home and look after the kids. 1.00

00:15:16.000 Do you have children?

00:15:17.000 That's more common.

00:15:18.000 Do you have children?

00:15:19.000 No, I don't have kids.

00:15:20.000 And when you do, then we can probably make a decision.

00:15:23.000 I have a 24-year-old daughter.

00:15:25.000 I've been down that road.

00:15:26.000 Okay.

00:15:27.000 You've been down what road?

00:15:28.000 Of bringing up a child.

00:15:29.000 I don't even think I need to explain that.

00:15:32.000 No.

00:15:33.000 You're being very random.

00:15:34.000 So I don't know what that has to do.

00:15:35.000 We're talking about obesity.

00:15:36.000 And now you're saying I had a kid.

00:15:38.000 No, I'm...

00:15:39.000 No, no, no.

00:15:40.000 Don't try and switch it.

00:15:41.000 What I'm saying to you is when we're looking at...

00:15:43.000 We just change the...

00:15:45.000 You know what?

00:15:46.000 I'm not even going to go down the road with you.

00:15:47.000 There is no conversation.

00:15:48.000 Yeah.

00:15:49.000 Okay.

00:15:50.000 Let's hear the men and see what they actually...

00:15:51.000 It was so funny because when I was getting married...

00:15:53.000 So the men will stick up for you.

00:15:54.000 When I was getting married about when I was 22, the first two things I said to my mom,

00:16:00.000 the guy I'm going to be married to, first of all, it shouldn't be short, fat and bold.

00:16:07.000 And I got married to the same person who was short, who was fat and who was bold.

00:16:13.000 And I got divorced after three years, obviously.

00:16:17.000 But I'm just saying, I think that was my...

00:16:20.000 I think everyone is allowed to choose whether they want to be with someone tall.

00:16:25.000 Obviously, I love to be with a man who is tall, good looking.

00:16:28.000 Yeah, everyone's allowed to choose.

00:16:30.000 But we all know that women prefer men with good jobs.

00:16:33.000 We all know that women prefer men that are tall.

00:16:35.000 No, they don't.

00:16:36.000 No, they don't.

00:16:37.000 No, they don't.

00:16:38.000 She's speaking generally.

00:16:39.000 That's your perspective, right?

00:16:40.000 You've got four women on this panel. 1.00

00:16:42.000 Okay, so let's do the experiment.

00:16:44.000 What's your perspective?

00:16:45.000 What would you like out of a man?

00:16:47.000 Okay, okay.

00:16:48.000 This isn't your show.

00:16:49.000 I'm not putting on my show.

00:16:50.000 That's not your question.

00:16:51.000 What would you like to a man?

00:16:53.000 What would I like?

00:16:54.000 What would you like?

00:16:55.000 I'm not going to keep you happy because it's your show.

00:16:59.000 I'll help you.

00:17:00.000 I'll help you.

00:17:01.000 Here you go.

00:17:02.000 You don't need to help me.

00:17:03.000 Okay, okay.

00:17:04.000 So couch, just raise a hand.

00:17:05.000 I'm just curious.

00:17:06.000 Do you prefer men with jobs or no jobs?

00:17:09.000 So, raise your hand for jobs.

00:17:11.000 Jobs, okay.

00:17:12.000 She's difficult.

00:17:13.000 We don't care about that.

00:17:14.000 So, okay.

00:17:15.000 Do you prefer men five foot or six foot?

00:17:17.000 Oh, so you're being prejudiced now.

00:17:18.000 Raise your...

00:17:19.000 I mean, you're annoying.

00:17:20.000 So, okay.

00:17:21.000 So, five foot or six foot?

00:17:22.000 Six.

00:17:23.000 Six?

00:17:24.000 Okay.

00:17:25.000 You don't...

00:17:26.000 Five foot?

00:17:27.000 It doesn't matter to me anymore.

00:17:28.000 I'm just saying, if you had to pick one of the two.

00:17:30.000 Five foot or six foot.

00:17:31.000 Six foot, yeah.

00:17:32.000 I mean, this is fine.

00:17:33.000 See, they're not offended.

00:17:34.000 Are you guys offended?

00:17:35.000 Just answer those questions.

00:17:36.000 No.

00:17:37.000 They're not offended right now because you're on your show, but they'll be offended when

00:17:39.000 they leave outside.

00:17:40.000 Who's going to be offended?

00:17:41.000 Why don't you just answer her questions?

00:17:42.000 I'm not six foot now.

00:17:43.000 I'm going to be six foot after the show.

00:17:44.000 Oh, don't worry.

00:17:45.000 You can just add on to the...

00:17:46.000 Why don't you...

00:17:47.000 I'm not going to wear this so that I won't be offended.

00:17:48.000 It's fine.

00:17:49.000 Why wouldn't you want us to answer her questions?

00:17:51.000 She's just asking honest questions, man.

00:17:53.000 Five foot or six foot.

00:17:54.000 About six foot.

00:17:55.000 How tall are you?

00:17:56.000 Why does it matter?

00:17:57.000 Just answer the question.

00:17:58.000 How tall are you?

00:17:59.000 Just answer the question.

00:18:00.000 I don't need to.

00:18:01.000 You answer that, I'll answer it.

00:18:02.000 But it wasn't directed to me.

00:18:03.000 If he's over six foot, are you going to be interested?

00:18:04.000 It wasn't directed to me.

00:18:05.000 I'm 5'7".

00:18:06.000 How tall are you?

00:18:07.000 I'm taller than you.

00:18:08.000 How tall is that?

00:18:09.000 Over 5'7".

00:18:10.000 How tall are you?

00:18:11.000 Taller than 5'7".

00:18:13.000 What shall happen?

00:18:14.000 Well, you won't answer my question.

00:18:15.000 I won't answer yours.

00:18:16.000 I think you should answer the question.

00:18:17.000 Let's move on.

00:18:18.000 Exactly.

00:18:19.000 I think he should answer...

00:18:20.000 He doesn't want to because he wants to try and play games.

00:18:21.000 I'll answer your question.

00:18:22.000 She'll ask you a question, but you don't want to answer it.

00:18:24.000 So when you answer that, I'll answer that.

00:18:27.000 That's not crazy.

00:18:28.000 How tall are you?

00:18:30.000 5'6".

00:18:31.000 How tall are you?

00:18:32.000 Why wouldn't you answer her question?

00:18:34.000 She was 5'6".

00:18:35.000 It's not even my show.

00:18:36.000 Why are you asking me?

00:18:37.000 Let's go.

00:18:38.000 No, I didn't ask your height.

00:18:39.000 I said, would you date a guy that was 5'6", if you had to pick?

00:18:42.000 Two guys, same guy.

00:18:43.000 Okay, look.

00:18:44.000 You don't.

00:18:45.000 I'm asking you 5'6".

00:18:46.000 No, because I don't date people on that.

00:18:48.000 If you're not going to answer the questions, you can go.

00:18:50.000 Because it's very disruptive.

00:18:51.000 I don't...

00:18:52.000 5'6", or 5'7".

00:18:53.000 Matt's got his gloves on.

00:18:54.000 I like personalities.

00:18:55.000 No, I said 5 foot or 6 foot?

00:18:58.000 6 foot.

00:18:59.000 Okay.

00:19:00.000 Okay.

00:19:01.000 So you like taller...

00:19:02.000 What a surprise.

00:19:03.000 Okay.

00:19:04.000 Job or no job?

00:19:05.000 It depends what they can provide.

00:19:09.000 No.

00:19:10.000 Job or no job?

00:19:11.000 Would you rather have a guy that's unemployed, on benefits, or a guy with a job?

00:19:15.000 Come on.

00:19:16.000 What if he's got no job and he's doing it?

00:19:18.000 It depends when you say no job.

00:19:19.000 Your man's got a job.

00:19:20.000 Unemployed.

00:19:21.000 Yeah, my man's got a job. 0.94

00:19:22.000 The crackhead's on the street. 0.80

00:19:23.000 I got one for you.

00:19:24.000 Okay.

00:19:25.000 Thank you.

00:19:26.000 So women do prefer men with money and... 1.00

00:19:27.000 Okay.

00:19:28.000 Thank you.

00:19:29.000 Now the men.

00:19:30.000 Men.

00:19:31.000 Okay.

00:19:32.000 Would you rather have a girl that was 300 pounds or 120 pounds? 1.00

00:19:33.000 120 pounds.

00:19:34.000 Okay.

00:19:35.000 Okay.

00:19:36.000 Thank you.

00:19:37.000 And the whole couch agreed.

00:19:38.000 Okay.

00:19:39.000 Thank you.

00:19:40.000 So what would you give up for the right guy?

00:19:43.000 What would I give up for the right guy?

00:19:45.000 Yeah.

00:19:46.000 Because we all agree that you have to make sacrifices in relationships, right?

00:19:48.000 So what sacrifices are you willing to make in a relationship?

00:19:52.000 You know what?

00:19:53.000 We just had the conversation before you came.

00:19:55.000 And we were talking about if we see ourselves as modern women and independent women.

00:19:59.000 And I made a transition.

00:20:00.000 I used to think I was a Miss Independent, modern woman.

00:20:05.000 But the recent years, I've made a transition and I never thought I would give up my career.

00:20:14.000 You know, just like being in a higher position.

00:20:17.000 I was looking when I was younger, I was always looking for status.

00:20:20.000 I was looking to go up the career ladder, making money.

00:20:23.000 But over time it has changed.

00:20:25.000 I think now I'm getting older and I'm like, hey, have I been wasting some years?

00:20:30.000 Do you think you have?

00:20:32.000 Now looking back, no.

00:20:34.000 I don't like to think so.

00:20:37.000 But if I were to go back and do some things different, I would.

00:20:40.000 But I don't regret it because that has added to my experience now.

00:20:43.000 What would you do different?

00:20:45.000 Well, don't listen to songs like Neo, Miss Independent, first of all.

00:20:48.000 Yeah, it's a good song.

00:20:50.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.

00:20:52.000 Right?

00:20:53.000 And I think it's like this music culture and yeah, society.

00:20:56.000 So I would have gone back and gone, spoke to my aunties more, spoke to my mom more from Sudan, the traditions.

00:21:04.000 Because I see my parents are still married.

00:21:06.000 My grandparents are still married.

00:21:08.000 And I would have, I wanted to rebel against that when I was younger.

00:21:13.000 Now I made that transition and I'm thinking, I'm not that independent woman.

00:21:17.000 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.

00:21:20.000 So I would, if it's the right man, I believe that the right man, we have aligned visions and missions.

00:21:27.000 So I'm willing to give up everything I had in my career to go for what God has put us together as a mission together.

00:21:36.000 I would do that.

00:21:37.000 I would do that.

00:21:38.000 So you would give up your career for a family, say?

00:21:41.000 I would.

00:21:42.000 If God wants me to do that, I would.

00:21:43.000 Yeah.

00:21:44.000 So one thing you said, you said you don't regret it.

00:21:47.000 Or you do, like...

00:21:49.000 If I were to go back, I would do some things different, but I am grateful for where I am at right now.

00:21:54.000 So I'm grateful that I had this experience.

00:21:56.000 Now I have a little niece.

00:21:58.000 I can teach her those things so she doesn't go the road that I went to.

00:22:02.000 But...

00:22:03.000 I just never understand when women say they don't regret it, if they would change it. 1.00

00:22:08.000 Because then wouldn't you regret it?

00:22:10.000 I don't understand your question.

00:22:12.000 I've heard girls say that and it doesn't compute to me.

00:22:15.000 Because me, if I would change something, then I regret a certain decision.

00:22:19.000 Well, it's...

00:22:20.000 If you don't like the outcome, don't you regret it?

00:22:25.000 To be honest, Pearl, I don't...

00:22:28.000 Again, like, I'm not going to apologize for it.

00:22:31.000 I'm very faith-driven, so I speak from that perspective.

00:22:34.000 And regret is a very...

00:22:37.000 It's a very bad feeling.

00:22:39.000 And I don't believe that we're meant to live with regret.

00:22:42.000 So before, I was regretting it, for sure.

00:22:45.000 I was feeling those regrets and I was feeling those, oh, I shouldn't have done.

00:22:49.000 But then, because I'm safe now, because I have a different life now,

00:22:52.000 I don't carry those feelings anymore.

00:22:55.000 I'm set free from that.

00:22:56.000 So, yeah, if I was...

00:22:58.000 Why would anyone want to live with regret?

00:23:01.000 And why would that be comfortable for anybody to live with regret?

00:23:05.000 And why would anybody see that?

00:23:08.000 I don't mean it in a way that shames.

00:23:11.000 But to me, like, when I hear that, it just sounds like the same thing.

00:23:15.000 That was my question.

00:23:16.000 Because if I would change something, then I regret it.

00:23:18.000 Well, regret, if you're living in regret, it's like you're holding on to something.

00:23:21.000 Then you can't, at the same time, be grateful for who you are now, what you've got.

00:23:25.000 Oh, so it's kind of like just not living in, like, the shame of the decision.

00:23:28.000 Yeah, in the past.

00:23:29.000 It's like, okay, I did that.

00:23:30.000 And like, sorry, was it Carmen?

00:23:33.000 Yeah.

00:23:34.000 Yeah, she was saying it's what she's learned from it.

00:23:36.000 So how can you regret that?

00:23:37.000 It's like, wow, I've learned from it.

00:23:39.000 If I didn't go through this path, I wouldn't even know.

00:23:42.000 No, I mean, I could absolutely look at certain decisions that I've learned from and be like, well, I regret it.

00:23:48.000 Yeah, I wish I didn't do that.

00:23:49.000 Yeah, 100%.

00:23:50.000 There are things I've done.

00:23:51.000 And I'm not saying you should wallow in it.

00:23:53.000 You can't change it.

00:23:54.000 Yeah, but yeah, I get what you're saying.

00:23:55.000 There are certain things that, yeah, I wish I did not do that.

00:23:58.000 I did not need to learn in that way.

00:23:59.000 I could have learned from other people.

00:24:01.000 So, yeah, so you mentioned you went from being more modern to being more traditional.

00:24:05.000 What did you do specifically to make that change?

00:24:10.000 Yeah, so when I came here, when I went to Germany, I lived in Germany most of my life.

00:24:15.000 And then I came to the UK.

00:24:17.000 So I was more, the culture has changed.

00:24:21.000 So I wasn't into very traditional.

00:24:23.000 I wasn't so close to my Sudanese background.

00:24:25.000 So I was more around people who were living a very modern life.

00:24:30.000 And just a lot of my friends were single parents.

00:24:33.000 So in my culture, this is not happening.

00:24:36.000 And that has shaped who I was becoming.

00:24:40.000 So you didn't surround yourself with modern people?

00:24:43.000 No, I did.

00:24:44.000 I did.

00:24:45.000 No, I'm saying now you chose to switch it to more traditional.

00:24:47.000 No, now I have empathy.

00:24:48.000 Okay.

00:24:49.000 Now I can understand why they're living this way.

00:24:53.000 And why I rebelled against my roots and who I came from.

00:24:58.000 But I made that transition because I saw this freedom.

00:25:04.000 I saw this empowered woman. 0.59

00:25:06.000 I can be everything.

00:25:07.000 I can do everything.

00:25:08.000 But that comes with a price.

00:25:10.000 Could it be because you moved from your country to a more Western and more free country?

00:25:17.000 Could it be that?

00:25:18.000 Yeah.

00:25:19.000 Yeah, for sure.

00:25:20.000 For sure.

00:25:21.000 Yeah.

00:25:22.000 Western country has definitely shaped me.

00:25:23.000 And I have to be honest, not for the best way.

00:25:26.000 How old were you when you came to the UK from Germany?

00:25:29.000 Three years.

00:25:30.000 Three years old?

00:25:31.000 Three years.

00:25:32.000 Yeah.

00:25:33.000 No, when I came from Sudan to Germany.

00:25:34.000 I was three years old.

00:25:35.000 From Germany to the UK.

00:25:36.000 How old was he?

00:25:37.000 I think 18, 19.

00:25:38.000 Okay.

00:25:39.000 Yeah.

00:25:40.000 So I still don't understand what you did to become more traditional.

00:25:44.000 Oh, yes.

00:25:45.000 I'm so sorry.

00:25:46.000 I lost myself.

00:25:47.000 Did you take cooking classes?

00:25:48.000 What specifically did you do?

00:25:49.000 So I had examples and I didn't see successful marriages.

00:25:54.000 I didn't see successful relationships.

00:25:55.000 So then I started to surround myself around Christian communities when I became a person of

00:26:01.000 faith and I got baptized in 2019.

00:26:04.000 That completely transitioned my life.

00:26:05.000 So as a result, I started to see successful, healthy marriages.

00:26:09.000 I didn't see that before.

00:26:11.000 That's why I didn't even have the desire to be married.

00:26:13.000 You didn't see it.

00:26:14.000 I thought you said your parents and your grandparents were married.

00:26:16.000 Yes.

00:26:17.000 But that's the only example that I had.

00:26:19.000 That's a very limited example.

00:26:21.000 But I didn't.

00:26:23.000 I did.

00:26:24.000 Okay.

00:26:25.000 They're married.

00:26:26.000 But do I want to have their love life?

00:26:27.000 No.

00:26:28.000 They're still together.

00:26:30.000 Their values are amazing when, when hard times hit.

00:26:33.000 Yeah.

00:26:34.000 They stick together, but I wanted more.

00:26:36.000 So I didn't have those examples.

00:26:37.000 But when I, I, I started to surround myself in the right environments and I started to

00:26:42.000 see that I can have healthy relationships and healthy marriages and yeah, with the right

00:26:47.000 vibe.

00:26:48.000 So that has changed surrounding myself with the right people who I can see an example.

00:26:52.000 All I needed was just an example and role models and I didn't see it.

00:26:56.000 So, yeah.

00:26:57.000 So this, it still doesn't make sense to me and I hear this a lot.

00:27:01.000 So it's not just you, but like when I hear girls talk about how they were modern and

00:27:04.000 then they became traditional.

00:27:05.000 Yeah.

00:27:06.000 Like, I don't hear anything that you actually did.

00:27:07.000 Like I hear that I surrounded, I got baptized, which is great.

00:27:10.000 Yeah.

00:27:11.000 You know, pro faith here.

00:27:12.000 And, and, and like that you surrounded yourself with people that were married, but it's like,

00:27:18.000 I can watch people that play basketball.

00:27:20.000 That doesn't mean I learned to play.

00:27:21.000 So I was just wondering like what specifically you did to become, because if, if women want 1.00

00:27:25.000 to know you were modern before, then you became traditional.

00:27:28.000 Like what specifically did you do?

00:27:30.000 Well, there's for something new to come in, the old has to go. 0.80

00:27:34.000 My old self had to die.

00:27:36.000 So that means my old belief.

00:27:38.000 So because you said you, you, you know, of faith, right?

00:27:42.000 Do you know something called the Holy Spirit?

00:27:45.000 So when the Holy Spirit convicts someone on something, when, you know, you have a conviction,

00:27:51.000 people call it intuition.

00:27:53.000 We call it the Holy Spirit.

00:27:55.000 So, but it's, it's stronger.

00:27:57.000 It speaks so clearly.

00:27:58.000 It's, it's like this thoughts feels wrong.

00:28:01.000 The person like, I remember the day, this was crazy.

00:28:05.000 I remember the day before I got baptized.

00:28:07.000 This was crazy.

00:28:08.000 I was with a atheist guy.

00:28:10.000 I was dating an atheist guy and I, I was like, yeah, I can change him, whatever. 1.00

00:28:16.000 And the day after I got baptized and I had this inner conviction, I had to break up with

00:28:21.000 this person, of course, for obvious reasons, but did someone from outside come and tell me

00:28:26.000 this?

00:28:27.000 No, it was an inner conviction.

00:28:28.000 I knew that I had to let go of certain people, certain beliefs, because my faith is, is now

00:28:34.000 the priority.

00:28:35.000 I'm fully sold out.

00:28:36.000 No.

00:28:37.000 And I think faith is great.

00:28:38.000 Right.

00:28:39.000 I think, I think that's genuinely great for you, but faith, like getting baptized, being

00:28:43.000 taken over with the Holy Spirit, like I've been baptized.

00:28:46.000 That didn't make me traditional.

00:28:47.000 Yeah.

00:28:48.000 Right.

00:28:49.000 Yeah.

00:28:50.000 So what did you physically do?

00:28:51.000 Can you just define traditional?

00:28:52.000 Maybe I don't understand.

00:28:53.000 I would say traditional is like our grandmothers and our great grandmothers.

00:28:57.000 That's, that's like what they traditionally did.

00:29:00.000 Is there a hybrid version of that?

00:29:02.000 Like, cause I don't see myself traditional, traditional, but I don't see myself modern.

00:29:06.000 So is there like a middle definition or hybrid?

00:29:10.000 I don't, I don't really think so.

00:29:13.000 I think it's like a lot of, no offense to you, but modern women pretending to be traditional 1.00

00:29:19.000 and some of them don't really know they're not, but I think, I think once you like are

00:29:23.000 around like a truly traditional woman, you just know it when you see it. 0.99

00:29:27.000 I think there's differences because you can be around like you're saying traditional and

00:29:31.000 you can, you can not be.

00:29:32.000 And I think that put that individual person grows up to believe and do what they believe

00:29:38.000 in their faith and whatever they choose.

00:29:40.000 But, but you can like believe things and that's, that's great, but it's about what you,

00:29:43.000 what you do.

00:29:44.000 Yeah.

00:29:45.000 Right.

00:29:46.000 Exactly.

00:29:47.000 I see a traditional woman like would dress a certain way. 1.00

00:29:50.000 Like.

00:29:51.000 I agree with that.

00:29:52.000 Yeah.

00:29:53.000 Models, you know, wouldn't show off and wouldn't go out party and drinking. 1.00

00:29:56.000 Yeah.

00:29:57.000 Would be at home.

00:29:59.000 Traditional women are usually married. 1.00

00:30:01.000 They usually submit to their husbands.

00:30:03.000 They usually are the one that's cooking for everyone at the party.

00:30:06.000 I think the greatest thing would be, how do you see traditional women?

00:30:09.000 Because in different, even in the UK of different parts, there's different parts of,

00:30:13.000 if you look at Liverpool, if we look at travellers, everyone has a traditional type of how they 0.93

00:30:19.000 bring, if you look at any culture, they all have a different traditional way.

00:30:25.000 And, and in their life.

00:30:26.000 They have different traditions.

00:30:27.000 Yeah.

00:30:28.000 But I would still say the archetype of a traditional woman is the same.

00:30:31.000 It's the same.

00:30:32.000 Yeah.

00:30:33.000 So.

00:30:34.000 No.

00:30:35.000 If you look at, if you look at, no, no, no, no, no.

00:30:37.000 And if you look at travellers, they're very crisp.

00:30:40.000 No, no, no.

00:30:41.000 No, no, no.

00:30:42.000 They're very strict.

00:30:43.000 They're very prominent.

00:30:44.000 They're, they are.

00:30:45.000 Travelers.

00:30:46.000 That is nothing.

00:30:47.000 What does that have to do with anything?

00:30:48.000 I'm just saying, when you look at, they're part of traditions.

00:30:50.000 They're part of traditional women. 1.00

00:30:52.000 Of course they are.

00:30:53.000 They're travellers.

00:30:54.000 Yes.

00:30:55.000 Yes, they are. 0.93

00:30:56.000 They're gypsies. 1.00

00:30:57.000 Okay.

00:30:58.000 I don't know anything about gypsies.

00:30:59.000 We don't really have those in the US.

00:31:00.000 We actually have loads of them here.

00:31:02.000 We don't, we actually don't, actually, we don't call them that.

00:31:05.000 No, no, no.

00:31:06.000 They're not allowed to get an education.

00:31:07.000 They literally have to like get married at a very young age and have children.

00:31:10.000 Oh, okay.

00:31:11.000 Yeah.

00:31:12.000 Okay.

00:31:13.000 No, we don't.

00:31:14.000 Yeah, I know.

00:31:15.000 But we don't call, let's not get this.

00:31:16.000 We don't call them that.

00:31:17.000 Let's be very.

00:31:18.000 Call them what?

00:31:19.000 Gypsies. 0.99

00:31:20.000 Because they're not gypsies. 1.00

00:31:21.000 They call themselves gypsies. 1.00

00:31:22.000 They call themselves gypsies. 1.00

00:31:23.000 They call themselves gypsies. 1.00

00:31:24.000 They call themselves gypsies. 1.00

00:31:25.000 I'm just saying that they're also, they, they're very strategic in their belief.

00:31:28.000 They're very, in their faith and how they're brought up and what they believe in as the

00:31:34.000 same as a Muslim woman, a Muslim culture is, a Catholic culture is, a Hindu culture is, 0.98

00:31:40.000 a Buddhism culture is.

00:31:41.000 There's different types of traditional women. 1.00

00:31:42.000 Yes.

00:31:43.000 Okay.

00:31:44.000 And they're all falling to the same.

00:31:46.000 So we can't, we can't sit here and say, okay, so what would yours be?

00:31:49.000 Okay.

00:31:50.000 Yeah.

00:31:51.000 We're going to have to go back and forth all night.

00:31:52.000 If you're going to talk about, there's different types of people.

00:31:55.000 Like that's the general argument you keep making.

00:31:56.000 I just think you're stereotyping one person.

00:31:57.000 Yeah.

00:31:58.000 I stereotype a lot.

00:31:59.000 So we'll get over it.

00:32:00.000 Okay.

00:32:01.000 So, um, I, I don't need to get over that.

00:32:03.000 It's not me.

00:32:04.000 You do have to get over it if you want to stay.

00:32:06.000 So.

00:32:07.000 Okay.

00:32:08.000 I stereotype on the show.

00:32:09.000 Yes.

00:32:10.000 Okay.

00:32:11.000 Yeah.

00:32:12.000 Men, men do like thin women. 1.00

00:32:13.000 That's yeah.

00:32:14.000 Thank you.

00:32:15.000 Okay.

00:32:16.000 So, um, what did you say what you did?

00:32:19.000 Did you say what you did to become traditional?

00:32:21.000 I, sorry, the only thing that stuck to my head, you said something really interesting,

00:32:25.000 which is submission.

00:32:26.000 And I think this is the big difference in the Western culture with other traditional cultures 0.78

00:32:30.000 because traditional cultures are more receptive to this concept of submission.

00:32:35.000 And I think a lot of times in the Western culture, we are, um, they don't really know

00:32:39.000 what that means.

00:32:40.000 And this is why there's the conflict.

00:32:42.000 That's, that's just what I wanted to say.

00:32:44.000 Okay.

00:32:45.000 But to add on that, what submission is, is, you know, we see like sometimes the love as

00:32:52.000 it's one sided, you know, I want to, I'm going to give him this so I can get this.

00:32:56.000 But actually true love is not, I'm going to give this to get this.

00:33:00.000 A true love is sacrificial love.

00:33:02.000 And I love that.

00:33:03.000 We agree.

00:33:04.000 I thought we're going to disagree.

00:33:05.000 No, I think that the most like selfless people get the most in general.

00:33:10.000 Yeah.

00:33:11.000 Yeah.

00:33:12.000 And this is, I think this is the, and it's sacrificial love.

00:33:14.000 So submission, if a man is submitted to his cause, to his purpose, to his mission, to God,

00:33:19.000 you know, a woman can submit to him, can feel comfortable to submit to him. 0.69

00:33:22.000 But the problem that we're facing right now in culture is that women don't feel safe to 1.00

00:33:27.000 submit to man because men are not submitted to a cause or to a purpose.

00:33:31.000 And this is the reason why women don't feel, you know, safe to be submissive. 0.92

00:33:37.000 Oh, because of the men?

00:33:39.000 Could you say that one more time?

00:33:41.000 The part about the men are not what?

00:33:43.000 Sorry, go ahead.

00:33:44.000 So when we talk about submission, you know, we women, our natural desire is to submit.

00:33:51.000 Our natural desire, no matter how much a woman wants to fight about it, we want to submit. 0.94

00:33:55.000 But the reason why women don't submit, because I know I was like this as well.

00:34:00.000 And I'm still like this, actually, a man needs to be submitted to. 0.99

00:34:04.000 And man doesn't need to be submitted to a woman, but a man needs to be submitted to a cause, 0.97

00:34:08.000 to a purpose and to faith or to God.

00:34:11.000 And this is where a woman feels safe to be submitted.

00:34:15.000 Yeah, but there are men that do that. 0.99

00:34:17.000 And I guess the question is like, why are you picking men?

00:34:19.000 I mean, not you, but if you're in that situation, why are you picking men that don't have that?

00:34:24.000 This is really good.

00:34:25.000 And you know what?

00:34:26.000 I put my hands up and I do this mistake as well.

00:34:29.000 Wouldn't you guys agree that men will do anything to get laid?

00:34:32.000 Yes.

00:34:33.000 Yeah.

00:34:34.000 Yeah.

00:34:35.000 So it's like if the men, if the men are a certain way, it's like, because we're not rewarding good behavior.

00:34:40.000 Yeah.

00:34:41.000 But you know what?

00:34:42.000 We're in a, we're in a society now where women will do the same. 1.00

00:34:46.000 Women do what? 1.00

00:34:47.000 We'll do anything to have fun, have sex. 0.81

00:34:51.000 A lot of women now, I don't know if you realize, how old are you? 1.00

00:34:55.000 I'm 26.

00:34:56.000 Okay.

00:34:57.000 So I'm 20 years older than you.

00:34:58.000 A lot of women now in their forties plus don't really kind of want that whole thing. 1.00

00:35:03.000 They just want to go out and have fun, play the game.

00:35:06.000 Yeah.

00:35:07.000 It's really sad actually.

00:35:08.000 They, they should be married and like at home, but they're in the streets.

00:35:11.000 Well, when you get to that age, tell me how sad you are.

00:35:13.000 No, I, if I, if I, if I'm, if I'm in the streets at 40, so yeah, I will be sad.

00:35:19.000 I'm not in the streets.

00:35:20.000 I have a very good lifestyle.

00:35:21.000 I wasn't talking about you.

00:35:22.000 I wasn't talking about you.

00:35:23.000 No, I didn't think you were, but you said he was very sad.

00:35:28.000 So I'm saying to you, if you feel that's very sad, then when you get to our age, then

00:35:33.000 that's what I'm saying.

00:35:35.000 Yeah.

00:35:36.000 I would be sad.

00:35:37.000 I was 46 and not married.

00:35:39.000 Well, let's revisit that when you're 46 years old.

00:35:42.000 It doesn't necessarily mean you, if you're 46 or 50 or 55, if you're not, if you're single,

00:35:48.000 you're not going to be happy.

00:35:49.000 I don't believe that.

00:35:50.000 Yeah.

00:35:51.000 I agree with that.

00:35:52.000 True.

00:35:53.000 Yeah.

00:35:54.000 You, you might not, but I would, I would be really sad because, I mean, I'd either be

00:35:59.000 childless or divorced.

00:36:00.000 So maybe because, yeah, maybe because maybe I'm just counting.

00:36:05.000 But there's women that choose not to be married, that choose not to have children. 1.00

00:36:10.000 You're not single.

00:36:11.000 There are, you said there's women that choose not to be married and they choose not to have 1.00

00:36:15.000 children.

00:36:16.000 I've got 24, yeah.

00:36:17.000 I don't think it's a choice.

00:36:18.000 I actually don't think it's a choice.

00:36:19.000 I've got a beautiful 24 year old daughter.

00:36:22.000 That should have been on your, our show tonight.

00:36:25.000 And I think we could have addressed that, but she's not here.

00:36:27.000 Unfortunately.

00:36:28.000 You could always get a cat.

00:36:29.000 What?

00:36:30.000 You could always get a cat.

00:36:31.000 About a little 24.

00:36:32.000 Yeah.

00:36:33.000 But I don't think, I don't think.

00:36:34.000 I'm allergic to cats.

00:36:35.000 Well, there you go.

00:36:36.000 But I don't think women actually choose to be single and not have children. 0.85

00:36:41.000 I think they end up being mis-educated.

00:36:42.000 Yeah.

00:36:43.000 It's like, would you, would you rather be with a guy that, okay, show of hands.

00:36:44.000 Would you rather be with a guy that, okay, show of hands.

00:36:45.000 Would you rather be with a guy you love, respect, with, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,

00:36:46.000 I'm asking the four on my couch.

00:36:47.000 Sorry.

00:36:48.000 Seven billion actually.

00:36:49.000 Okay.

00:36:50.000 So, all right, all right.

00:36:51.000 So, so, would you rather be with a guy that you love, respect and admire and are attracted

00:37:04.000 to or would you rather be single?

00:37:05.000 I'd rather be on my own.

00:37:06.000 If I can't fit, take all of those boxes.

00:37:07.000 Okay.

00:37:08.000 Okay.

00:37:09.000 Okay.

00:37:10.000 Lady, lady, lady.

00:37:11.000 This is a hand.

00:37:12.000 This is a hand.

00:37:13.000 Okay.

00:37:14.000 Okay.

00:37:15.000 I'm not going to raise my hand.

00:37:16.000 If you don't raise your hand for one, you can go.

00:37:18.000 You can either cooperate with the show or you can not cooperate.

00:37:20.000 I'm going to, I'll give you the reasons why I'm not cooperating because I don't think that.

00:37:24.000 Because this isn't, this isn't your show.

00:37:25.000 It's not my show.

00:37:26.000 I don't want to be your show, but I'm just saying that's my perspective.

00:37:29.000 Okay.

00:37:30.000 So, you can, you can cooperate or you can not cooperate.

00:37:32.000 What you're telling me is I have to agree with you.

00:37:34.000 She wants to go.

00:37:35.000 No, I'm saying you have to answer questions.

00:37:36.000 Pick one of two options.

00:37:37.000 I'm on, I'm on a show.

00:37:38.000 I would understand if it's something personal, but this isn't crazy.

00:37:40.000 So, if I don't agree with it, I can put my hand up or I can say no.

00:37:43.000 She wants to go.

00:37:44.000 You have to choose one or the other.

00:37:45.000 You have to choose one.

00:37:46.000 Okay.

00:37:47.000 Okay.

00:37:48.000 All right.

00:37:49.000 Would you, okay.

00:37:50.000 I feel like I'm talking to like a 10 year old right now.

00:37:52.000 I feel like I'm listening to one.

00:37:53.000 Okay.

00:37:54.000 She wants to go.

00:37:55.000 She wants to go.

00:37:56.000 All right.

00:37:57.000 So, would you rather be with a man that you love, respect and admire and are attracted to?

00:38:01.000 Raise your hand.

00:38:02.000 Yeah.

00:38:03.000 Okay.

00:38:04.000 No brainer.

00:38:05.000 Would you rather be alone?

00:38:06.000 Raise your hand.

00:38:07.000 Thank you.

00:38:08.000 So, so by that logic, women over a certain age, it's not a choice to be said. 0.97

00:38:13.000 Like most women over a certain age would rather be with somebody. 1.00

00:38:16.000 Honey, I think you're going to get a lot of flack on that one.

00:38:18.000 I really do.

00:38:19.000 So many of you know, I was just banned on Tik Tok and we are demonetized on a daily basis

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00:38:41.820 People have had its job as you want.

00:38:45.460 There's a lot of them.

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00:38:56.460 My entire life is not happening there.

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00:38:58.460 Sorry.

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JustPearlyThings - October 22, 2023

This Trad Wife IMPRESSED Men When She Said She will Give up Everything for Men

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