JustPearlyThings - October 22, 2023


This Trad Wife IMPRESSED Men When She Said She will Give up Everything for Men


Episode Stats

Length

39 minutes

Words per Minute

202.47144

Word Count

7,903

Sentence Count

915

Misogynist Sentences

56

Hate Speech Sentences

41


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 So, what do you give up in a relationship?
00:00:06.000 Well, I have a lot to give.
00:00:10.000 So, a lot to sacrifice because I'm a person of faith.
00:00:14.000 I do follow traditional values of faith.
00:00:17.000 So there's a lot of me on the line for me to give up.
00:00:21.000 And, yeah, it's obviously the sexual side.
00:00:28.000 So, you know, in the Christian faith, you wait until marriage.
00:00:33.000 Okay.
00:00:34.000 So, I'm willing to wait for that man, that high value man.
00:00:41.000 Yeah, and that's a lot to give up.
00:00:43.000 Okay, so you would give up waiting for marriage?
00:00:46.000 Or like not give, you would like have him wait?
00:00:49.000 Oh, I wouldn't give that.
00:00:51.000 Oh, okay.
00:00:52.000 I understood this wrong.
00:00:53.000 I'm so sorry.
00:00:54.000 I understood this wrong.
00:00:55.000 Let's trace back.
00:00:58.000 No, no, no.
00:00:59.000 I would never give up this for any high value man.
00:01:03.000 Waiting till marriage?
00:01:04.000 Yeah.
00:01:05.000 Okay.
00:01:06.000 Are you a virgin?
00:01:07.000 Yeah.
00:01:08.000 Oh, really?
00:01:09.000 Yeah.
00:01:10.000 I never thought I would disclose this so publicly, but yeah.
00:01:12.000 Oh, okay.
00:01:13.000 Okay.
00:01:14.000 So, you want to wait until you're married?
00:01:15.000 Yeah.
00:01:16.000 Okay.
00:01:17.000 Would you give up, let's say like social media?
00:01:20.000 Yeah.
00:01:21.000 That wouldn't be a problem?
00:01:22.000 Yeah.
00:01:23.000 I would give up.
00:01:24.000 Wait, hold on.
00:01:26.000 That's actually really good.
00:01:28.000 I think, I think in that culture is that's what they have to do.
00:01:32.000 So, I think when she has to do certain things that they have to give up social media, they
00:01:40.000 can't present themselves in certain ways.
00:01:43.000 So, I think when you say, would you give up a high end man, then we have to look at it
00:01:48.000 prospectively above board as how would we do that of women of different cultures?
00:01:53.000 Mm-hmm.
00:01:54.000 So, her culture, they wouldn't be able to do that.
00:01:57.000 Well...
00:01:58.000 You guys don't have social media?
00:01:59.000 No, I'm on social media.
00:02:01.000 But, yeah, I grew up in a Sudanese Arabic culture, which is very strict.
00:02:06.000 However, I lived most of my life in Germany.
00:02:08.000 I live here in a very modern society.
00:02:11.000 So, I did get influenced from here as well, not just from my background.
00:02:14.000 But, in terms of, I think it's not, it's high value men, we were speaking about this earlier,
00:02:21.000 Pearl, and I would love to have your perspective as well.
00:02:23.000 How do you define a high value man and how do you define a modern woman?
00:02:27.000 Because the way I define a high value man may be very different than you define it and
00:02:33.000 then they define it.
00:02:34.000 So, the way I define a high value man is somebody who is faith driven, who is respectable,
00:02:40.000 who's got, yeah, he's got integrity.
00:02:44.000 So, it's values, but it's also, he definitely has to have a job, for sure, make money.
00:02:50.000 But, there's other aspects that I look for in high value men.
00:02:53.000 For me to give up something, anything, what does he bring to the table as well?
00:02:59.000 Well, so, I would define high value men as the men that women pick.
00:03:03.000 So, like, the men that women routinely go after and choose.
00:03:07.000 And, Kevin Samuels actually is the one who coined that term.
00:03:10.000 So, he laid it out, it's 10k per month, he has to have had that for three to five years.
00:03:17.000 Other men must accept him as high value, he has to have a network of high value men,
00:03:22.000 he has to be linked in visibility level, and he must be useful to others in the group.
00:03:27.000 So, that's the definition.
00:03:29.000 Yeah.
00:03:30.000 Would you agree or disagree?
00:03:31.000 No, but we have to take into account different cultures, different people's lifestyles, how his is his lifestyle.
00:03:39.000 That's not my lifestyle, that's not her lifestyle, that's not his or his, or different cultures.
00:03:45.000 So, we can have a statistic that says that, but you can't truly say that.
00:03:50.000 And I think we need to be open when we ask that question, because we live in a very diverse world right now.
00:03:56.000 I can't truly say that, because women only swipe right five percent of the time on dating apps,
00:04:01.000 and we typically pick the same men.
00:04:03.000 So, I would say...
00:04:05.000 Well, I don't go on a dating app, and I would never pick my men on a dating app.
00:04:09.000 I mean, if you, even at a bar, you see women approach or, like, go after the same type of guys.
00:04:14.000 How would you know that unless you ask them?
00:04:16.000 Yeah, the average woman, yeah.
00:04:17.000 Absolutely.
00:04:18.000 No, no, no, I don't know.
00:04:19.000 How would you know that unless you ask that person that was going into the bar?
00:04:23.000 What type of guy are you approached to?
00:04:25.000 You can see it.
00:04:26.000 I can see who they go after in the bar.
00:04:27.000 So, where do your statistics come from?
00:04:29.000 So, where do my stats come from?
00:04:32.000 There's different studies that talk about this.
00:04:34.000 It's pretty cut and dry on, like, Tinder, Bumble, like, there's so many dating...
00:04:37.000 I'm 46 years old.
00:04:38.000 And even if you...
00:04:39.000 Wait, wait, I'm trying to answer your question.
00:04:41.000 So, and even if you go off of dating apps, like, I do it on the show,
00:04:44.000 where we could go through you guys one by one and put out what you want in a guy,
00:04:48.000 and it's usually less than 20% of men.
00:04:50.000 I think the highest...
00:04:51.000 So, you're assuming that I want in a guy X, Y, and Z.
00:04:54.000 Is that what you were saying?
00:04:55.000 No, it's the average.
00:04:56.000 No, I'm saying in general.
00:04:57.000 Not you personally.
00:04:58.000 In general.
00:04:59.000 I think that is the key point here.
00:05:00.000 Well, the average, is that your average?
00:05:02.000 Well, that's why she's saying in general.
00:05:04.000 Most people are average.
00:05:05.000 Okay.
00:05:06.000 Well, then I probably may have looked at it, but I don't average.
00:05:09.000 We're coming away from the topic of what people would give up.
00:05:11.000 And I think it's subjective in terms of...
00:05:13.000 So, how would we look at an average woman?
00:05:18.000 What would you say is an average woman then?
00:05:20.000 It's not who is average.
00:05:21.000 But average to me is going to be different to what Alex thinks is average
00:05:26.000 to what Gary thinks is average.
00:05:27.000 It's not even who is the average woman.
00:05:29.000 It's an average.
00:05:30.000 Like, statistically, there is an average of, like, in general...
00:05:34.000 I get that, but who sets the statistics?
00:05:38.000 The people that need the studies.
00:05:39.000 The people that need the studies.
00:05:40.000 If you look at the statistics, what Paul will say, like, from the dating apps...
00:05:43.000 Which part?
00:05:44.000 Are you asking about the women or are you asking about the high-value men?
00:05:46.000 So, if I said to you, I looked at statistically a thousand men and they said to me, this is what they would prefer.
00:05:54.000 Are you going to prefer my report or are you going to prefer somebody that's going to say to you, well, you know what?
00:05:59.000 This is what I've done and this is what I've looked at and this is what I've found.
00:06:03.000 I would probably go by experience and studies, which are usually pretty similar.
00:06:09.000 Like, if I put up Lizzo, most guys will probably pass.
00:06:15.000 But if I...
00:06:16.000 On Lizzo?
00:06:17.000 Yes.
00:06:18.000 Yeah.
00:06:19.000 Yeah.
00:06:20.000 Over, over, oversized women are coming back right now and I probably...
00:06:26.000 For women, to who?
00:06:28.000 Well, for a man, maybe not you, but for a lot of men she does.
00:06:35.000 And we're sat here laughing and we're sat here laughing and like, do you know the percentage of the population about how many women are oversized?
00:06:46.000 I don't.
00:06:47.000 Too many.
00:06:48.000 Do you know?
00:06:49.000 Too many.
00:06:50.000 It's like...
00:06:51.000 There's more...
00:06:52.000 Well, listen, I work in medicine and weight and stuff and I see a lot more oversized women.
00:06:57.000 And they're trying...
00:06:58.000 And if you see the adverts that we see on TV from Marks and Spencer, Tescos, a lot of them now are promoting...
00:07:03.000 That doesn't mean that men want them.
00:07:05.000 That doesn't mean that they're the women that men desire.
00:07:07.000 And that doesn't mean that...
00:07:08.000 Okay, so are you guys sat here underweight with a six ab?
00:07:12.000 That's not a discussion here.
00:07:14.000 Well, that's what I'm asking you.
00:07:15.000 Oversized women.
00:07:16.000 Why are you asking them that?
00:07:18.000 No, stick to the comments...
00:07:19.000 What's your point?
00:07:20.000 Stick to the facts.
00:07:21.000 Because if you're commenting on oversized women...
00:07:24.000 You're trying to decide for men what they like.
00:07:26.000 You're not really in a position to do that.
00:07:27.000 No, I'm not.
00:07:28.000 I'm trying to say...
00:07:29.000 Not being a man.
00:07:30.000 They shouldn't be...
00:07:31.000 Stigmatic.
00:07:32.000 You don't think...
00:07:33.000 You don't think you should...
00:07:34.000 I'm not saying they should either.
00:07:35.000 You don't think you should discriminate in who you date?
00:07:37.000 I don't think you should discriminate against anybody.
00:07:40.000 Yeah, but when you...
00:07:41.000 So you want a short, broke guy?
00:07:44.000 Five foot?
00:07:45.000 No.
00:07:46.000 I choose...
00:07:47.000 Okay.
00:07:48.000 Here's what I do.
00:07:49.000 There's some crackheads down the street I can set you up with.
00:07:52.000 Should I tell you something?
00:07:53.000 I'm serious.
00:07:54.000 That might be your call.
00:07:55.000 I'm dead serious.
00:07:56.000 But let me tell you.
00:07:57.000 I make my choices.
00:07:58.000 So I decide to choose who I want to date.
00:08:00.000 And I think you decide you want to choose who you want to date.
00:08:03.000 You do and you do.
00:08:04.000 Right.
00:08:05.000 It doesn't matter what it bases on.
00:08:06.000 It's based on what I like.
00:08:08.000 Yeah, as a person, as an individual.
00:08:10.000 And we're talking about what men like.
00:08:12.000 Well, you just discriminated everyone right now.
00:08:15.000 But that was not the subject about the size of women at all.
00:08:18.000 Yeah, we're talking about what a man or a woman would give up for the man or woman in their life.
00:08:23.000 Do you think you and Lizzo have an equally attractive body?
00:08:26.000 Do you think you do?
00:08:28.000 I think I have a better body than Lizzo.
00:08:30.000 Do you think you and Lizzo...
00:08:31.000 You've ultimately just discriminated yourself from her.
00:08:35.000 How?
00:08:36.000 What?
00:08:37.000 You said you have a better body.
00:08:38.000 Yeah.
00:08:39.000 That's not discrimination.
00:08:40.000 That's common sense.
00:08:41.000 That is.
00:08:42.000 I mean, I don't think it takes much to be fair.
00:08:43.000 Oh, it's facts.
00:08:44.000 So when we do...
00:08:45.000 When we do...
00:08:46.000 When we talk about colour against white and black and black lives matter, do we not discriminate?
00:08:51.000 Or do we want to not have that conversation?
00:08:53.000 Or does it now suit you better because we're now talking about size?
00:08:56.000 Being overweight is not healthy.
00:08:58.000 Yeah.
00:08:59.000 It's only from that perspective.
00:09:00.000 It's not just about how she looks.
00:09:01.000 There is...
00:09:02.000 Now they are promoting and trying to say...
00:09:03.000 That's her choice.
00:09:04.000 That's fine.
00:09:05.000 That's fine.
00:09:06.000 Being overweight is healthy because it looks good and that...
00:09:09.000 No.
00:09:10.000 You're right.
00:09:11.000 It is her choice to be overweight, but then...
00:09:12.000 It's not a good choice for her health.
00:09:13.000 It's not a good choice.
00:09:14.000 So do you know...
00:09:15.000 It's also a man's choice to not choose her.
00:09:17.000 So let's look at healthy facts.
00:09:18.000 The slimmest person who you would think would look the healthiest could have the unhealthiest lifestyle.
00:09:26.000 And she might just have a percentage of body fat because she just eats differently.
00:09:31.000 Do you look at that?
00:09:32.000 Did you know that obesity drops after like the age of 65?
00:09:35.000 You know why that is?
00:09:37.000 How many people live till they're 65?
00:09:39.000 No, the obese people don't.
00:09:41.000 That's why it drops because they die.
00:09:43.000 Oh.
00:09:44.000 See, look at that.
00:09:45.000 Damn.
00:09:46.000 Stats.
00:09:47.000 No, I'm serious.
00:09:48.000 Stats.
00:09:49.000 That's a fact.
00:09:50.000 That's a stats.
00:09:51.000 Anyway, can I say I would not give up football.
00:09:52.000 It's pretty much the only thing I would do.
00:09:54.000 I wouldn't want you to either.
00:09:56.000 You know what?
00:09:57.000 I'm going to be...
00:09:58.000 I'm just sat here being real.
00:09:59.000 I'm not trying to show up to any...
00:10:01.000 I'm just being real and the facts are like...
00:10:03.000 My partner's cousin is a top cardiologist in El Paso.
00:10:06.000 So he'll tell you with what pressure weight just does on your heart.
00:10:11.000 And if we want to go down that road, let's talk about medicine.
00:10:13.000 We'll talk about in a real world, not just on anybody's facts and show.
00:10:19.000 Let's talk about medicine.
00:10:20.000 Those are statistics.
00:10:21.000 What do you...
00:10:22.000 Can you tell something?
00:10:23.000 I'm a personal trainer, so I've been in fitness industry for 15 years.
00:10:27.000 And most of my clients are moms after having a baby and they're overweight.
00:10:33.000 And we always...
00:10:34.000 I'm a health coach, so I always talk about that.
00:10:36.000 But the only thing is they are very upset about their weight
00:10:40.000 because they think most of them are single because they're overweight
00:10:44.000 and they just want to lose weight because of, you know, they want to look good.
00:10:47.000 They want to look confident and therefore they want to find a good looking guy.
00:10:52.000 So I don't think there is any problem when we talk about, you know,
00:10:57.000 people with, you know, overweight people because they are actually...
00:11:03.000 They love to talk about it because they think because of social media,
00:11:06.000 because of let's say even Victoria's Secret right now having like overweight,
00:11:10.000 beautiful ladies advertising bikinis.
00:11:13.000 And I love it because I feel like now it's all the women around the world
00:11:18.000 with any size, any color, any shape, they can, you know, be seen.
00:11:23.000 I hate it.
00:11:24.000 I hate it.
00:11:25.000 Do you think it's...
00:11:26.000 I feel like...
00:11:27.000 Why do you hate it?
00:11:28.000 Why when they have overweight women as models?
00:11:30.000 Because I want to be inspired when I see a model.
00:11:32.000 I don't want someone that like is bigger than me.
00:11:34.000 I get what you're saying.
00:11:36.000 Can you finish my conversation?
00:11:38.000 But imagine if I was overweight, I mean, I used to think like you.
00:11:42.000 I used to think, oh, but I think we need to be inspired.
00:11:45.000 Like as a personal trainer, I had a colleague who was very overweight
00:11:49.000 and I was always thinking I didn't want to be mean and say,
00:11:52.000 you're a personal trainer.
00:11:53.000 You're supposed to inspire people.
00:11:56.000 You're supposed to be really fit.
00:11:57.000 I would agree.
00:11:58.000 Yeah.
00:11:59.000 You are very like you have a percentage of fat that is not acceptable.
00:12:03.000 as a trainer.
00:12:04.000 But now I'm coming to a point.
00:12:07.000 Maybe I'm getting older with lots of experiences.
00:12:09.000 Some people really can't lose weight.
00:12:11.000 You can't assume people, you can't stereotype them.
00:12:15.000 I don't believe that.
00:12:16.000 What do you mean they can't lose weight?
00:12:17.000 They can reduce them.
00:12:18.000 Oh my God.
00:12:19.000 I can't believe we're going back into like the 60s and 70s.
00:12:22.000 You sound like me.
00:12:23.000 I don't want to go back to the 60s and 70s.
00:12:24.000 You don't understand about genetics.
00:12:25.000 I don't want to go back to the 60s and 70s.
00:12:26.000 I don't want to go back to the 60s and 70s.
00:12:27.000 What don't I understand?
00:12:28.000 What?
00:12:29.000 So you don't understand about genetics, health weight, how the body.
00:12:31.000 Yeah.
00:12:32.000 I do understand.
00:12:33.000 100%.
00:12:34.000 Well, if you did, then you wouldn't have made that comment.
00:12:35.000 Yes, I would.
00:12:36.000 You still would.
00:12:37.000 I still make that comment because nothing's impossible.
00:12:39.000 You can't because then you have to look at what are your genetics.
00:12:42.000 And you need to go to these women that can't do that and ask them the real ones.
00:12:45.000 Yeah, I do help these women.
00:12:46.000 Have you asked them?
00:12:47.000 I do help these women.
00:12:48.000 Have you asked them?
00:12:49.000 And I have had loads of women lose weight.
00:12:50.000 Absolutely.
00:12:51.000 No, have you asked these women that can't lose weight?
00:12:53.000 Have you asked them that question?
00:12:54.000 It's not true that they can't.
00:12:55.000 If they work with me, they can.
00:12:56.000 It's not true that they can't.
00:12:58.000 How can you say that?
00:12:59.000 That's like saying it's not possible for someone to be healthy.
00:13:01.000 I refuse to believe that.
00:13:03.000 That's just not right.
00:13:04.000 That's just giving up on so many people.
00:13:06.000 So in our room, who we're sat with now, who do you think is the unhealthiest?
00:13:11.000 I don't know.
00:13:12.000 Look around at the room.
00:13:14.000 I don't know and I'm not going to do that.
00:13:15.000 I thought you said a minute ago, it doesn't necessarily come down to how they look.
00:13:20.000 Someone that could be slim or could be unhealthier.
00:13:24.000 You just said that all people that are overweight, that you can...
00:13:29.000 You know what?
00:13:30.000 I would say mentally you.
00:13:31.000 You know what I'm going to say to you people out there?
00:13:33.000 All of you who are overweight, come to her and let her train you and show you,
00:13:38.000 regardless of your ages, regardless of your sizes.
00:13:40.000 And let's put it out there.
00:13:41.000 Are you a trainer?
00:13:42.000 Are you a trainer?
00:13:43.000 No, I'm not a trainer.
00:13:44.000 I'm a life coach.
00:13:45.000 What do you do?
00:13:46.000 You do life coach?
00:13:47.000 Yeah.
00:13:48.000 First of all, I'm a sports therapist.
00:13:49.000 I'm a business therapist.
00:13:50.000 I don't buy me anything possible.
00:13:52.000 What?
00:13:53.000 A promo.
00:13:54.000 Plug the socials.
00:13:55.000 I don't do social media.
00:13:56.000 Recommendations.
00:13:57.000 I've been doing it for over 20 years.
00:13:58.000 Word of mouth.
00:13:59.000 She was telling me her story.
00:14:01.000 I don't know how you can stereotype against social media.
00:14:04.000 You just did.
00:14:05.000 Okay.
00:14:06.000 Okay.
00:14:07.000 Okay.
00:14:08.000 Okay.
00:14:09.000 You can't ask men what they want.
00:14:11.000 And when they say not Lizzo, you say you're stereotyping.
00:14:14.000 But women don't like broke men.
00:14:18.000 We don't like short men.
00:14:19.000 We discriminate.
00:14:20.000 Why can't men have standards?
00:14:22.000 I don't care about if you're broke.
00:14:24.000 Because I make my own money.
00:14:26.000 All right.
00:14:27.000 So first of all, what does that have to do with anything?
00:14:29.000 So I make my own.
00:14:30.000 So I don't need to rely if he's broke, if he's nothing or if he's that.
00:14:33.000 Okay.
00:14:34.000 Date bums.
00:14:35.000 Have fun.
00:14:36.000 No.
00:14:37.000 Date bums.
00:14:38.000 Have fun.
00:14:39.000 Go ahead.
00:14:40.000 You said you make your own money.
00:14:41.000 Date bums.
00:14:42.000 Okay.
00:14:43.000 Let me finish my question.
00:14:44.000 But let me finish my answer, please.
00:14:45.000 I like somebody to just treat me right.
00:14:47.000 And if that's wrong, then a lot of women are wrong.
00:14:51.000 But what you define as being treated right will vary because of the story of life that you're used to.
00:14:56.000 If you go on Netflix right now, there's this program called Rich Life or whatever.
00:15:03.000 The woman earns the most money.
00:15:05.000 She's being cussed because she just cussed her husband because he stays at home and looks after the kids.
00:15:09.000 That's less than 5% of relationships.
00:15:11.000 That's not a high percentage of relationships.
00:15:13.000 A lot of women stay at home and look after the kids.
00:15:16.000 Do you have children?
00:15:17.000 That's more common.
00:15:18.000 Do you have children?
00:15:19.000 No, I don't have kids.
00:15:20.000 And when you do, then we can probably make a decision.
00:15:23.000 I have a 24-year-old daughter.
00:15:25.000 I've been down that road.
00:15:26.000 Okay.
00:15:27.000 You've been down what road?
00:15:28.000 Of bringing up a child.
00:15:29.000 I don't even think I need to explain that.
00:15:32.000 No.
00:15:33.000 You're being very random.
00:15:34.000 So I don't know what that has to do.
00:15:35.000 We're talking about obesity.
00:15:36.000 And now you're saying I had a kid.
00:15:38.000 No, I'm...
00:15:39.000 No, no, no.
00:15:40.000 Don't try and switch it.
00:15:41.000 What I'm saying to you is when we're looking at...
00:15:43.000 We just change the...
00:15:45.000 You know what?
00:15:46.000 I'm not even going to go down the road with you.
00:15:47.000 There is no conversation.
00:15:48.000 Yeah.
00:15:49.000 Okay.
00:15:50.000 Let's hear the men and see what they actually...
00:15:51.000 It was so funny because when I was getting married...
00:15:53.000 So the men will stick up for you.
00:15:54.000 When I was getting married about when I was 22, the first two things I said to my mom,
00:16:00.000 the guy I'm going to be married to, first of all, it shouldn't be short, fat and bold.
00:16:07.000 And I got married to the same person who was short, who was fat and who was bold.
00:16:13.000 And I got divorced after three years, obviously.
00:16:17.000 But I'm just saying, I think that was my...
00:16:20.000 I think everyone is allowed to choose whether they want to be with someone tall.
00:16:25.000 Obviously, I love to be with a man who is tall, good looking.
00:16:28.000 Yeah, everyone's allowed to choose.
00:16:30.000 But we all know that women prefer men with good jobs.
00:16:33.000 We all know that women prefer men that are tall.
00:16:35.000 No, they don't.
00:16:36.000 No, they don't.
00:16:37.000 No, they don't.
00:16:38.000 She's speaking generally.
00:16:39.000 That's your perspective, right?
00:16:40.000 You've got four women on this panel.
00:16:42.000 Okay, so let's do the experiment.
00:16:44.000 What's your perspective?
00:16:45.000 What would you like out of a man?
00:16:47.000 Okay, okay.
00:16:48.000 This isn't your show.
00:16:49.000 I'm not putting on my show.
00:16:50.000 That's not your question.
00:16:51.000 What would you like to a man?
00:16:53.000 What would I like?
00:16:54.000 What would you like?
00:16:55.000 I'm not going to keep you happy because it's your show.
00:16:59.000 I'll help you.
00:17:00.000 I'll help you.
00:17:01.000 Here you go.
00:17:02.000 You don't need to help me.
00:17:03.000 Okay, okay.
00:17:04.000 So couch, just raise a hand.
00:17:05.000 I'm just curious.
00:17:06.000 Do you prefer men with jobs or no jobs?
00:17:09.000 So, raise your hand for jobs.
00:17:11.000 Jobs, okay.
00:17:12.000 She's difficult.
00:17:13.000 We don't care about that.
00:17:14.000 So, okay.
00:17:15.000 Do you prefer men five foot or six foot?
00:17:17.000 Oh, so you're being prejudiced now.
00:17:18.000 Raise your...
00:17:19.000 I mean, you're annoying.
00:17:20.000 So, okay.
00:17:21.000 So, five foot or six foot?
00:17:22.000 Six.
00:17:23.000 Six?
00:17:24.000 Okay.
00:17:25.000 You don't...
00:17:26.000 Five foot?
00:17:27.000 It doesn't matter to me anymore.
00:17:28.000 I'm just saying, if you had to pick one of the two.
00:17:30.000 Five foot or six foot.
00:17:31.000 Six foot, yeah.
00:17:32.000 I mean, this is fine.
00:17:33.000 See, they're not offended.
00:17:34.000 Are you guys offended?
00:17:35.000 Just answer those questions.
00:17:36.000 No.
00:17:37.000 They're not offended right now because you're on your show, but they'll be offended when
00:17:39.000 they leave outside.
00:17:40.000 Who's going to be offended?
00:17:41.000 Why don't you just answer her questions?
00:17:42.000 I'm not six foot now.
00:17:43.000 I'm going to be six foot after the show.
00:17:44.000 Oh, don't worry.
00:17:45.000 You can just add on to the...
00:17:46.000 Why don't you...
00:17:47.000 I'm not going to wear this so that I won't be offended.
00:17:48.000 It's fine.
00:17:49.000 Why wouldn't you want us to answer her questions?
00:17:51.000 She's just asking honest questions, man.
00:17:53.000 Five foot or six foot.
00:17:54.000 About six foot.
00:17:55.000 How tall are you?
00:17:56.000 Why does it matter?
00:17:57.000 Just answer the question.
00:17:58.000 How tall are you?
00:17:59.000 Just answer the question.
00:18:00.000 I don't need to.
00:18:01.000 You answer that, I'll answer it.
00:18:02.000 But it wasn't directed to me.
00:18:03.000 If he's over six foot, are you going to be interested?
00:18:04.000 It wasn't directed to me.
00:18:05.000 I'm 5'7".
00:18:06.000 How tall are you?
00:18:07.000 I'm taller than you.
00:18:08.000 How tall is that?
00:18:09.000 Over 5'7".
00:18:10.000 How tall are you?
00:18:11.000 Taller than 5'7".
00:18:13.000 What shall happen?
00:18:14.000 Well, you won't answer my question.
00:18:15.000 I won't answer yours.
00:18:16.000 I think you should answer the question.
00:18:17.000 Let's move on.
00:18:18.000 Exactly.
00:18:19.000 I think he should answer...
00:18:20.000 He doesn't want to because he wants to try and play games.
00:18:21.000 I'll answer your question.
00:18:22.000 She'll ask you a question, but you don't want to answer it.
00:18:24.000 So when you answer that, I'll answer that.
00:18:27.000 That's not crazy.
00:18:28.000 How tall are you?
00:18:30.000 5'6".
00:18:31.000 How tall are you?
00:18:32.000 Why wouldn't you answer her question?
00:18:34.000 She was 5'6".
00:18:35.000 It's not even my show.
00:18:36.000 Why are you asking me?
00:18:37.000 Let's go.
00:18:38.000 No, I didn't ask your height.
00:18:39.000 I said, would you date a guy that was 5'6", if you had to pick?
00:18:42.000 Two guys, same guy.
00:18:43.000 Okay, look.
00:18:44.000 You don't.
00:18:45.000 I'm asking you 5'6".
00:18:46.000 No, because I don't date people on that.
00:18:48.000 If you're not going to answer the questions, you can go.
00:18:50.000 Because it's very disruptive.
00:18:51.000 I don't...
00:18:52.000 5'6", or 5'7".
00:18:53.000 Matt's got his gloves on.
00:18:54.000 I like personalities.
00:18:55.000 No, I said 5 foot or 6 foot?
00:18:58.000 6 foot.
00:18:59.000 Okay.
00:19:00.000 Okay.
00:19:01.000 So you like taller...
00:19:02.000 What a surprise.
00:19:03.000 Okay.
00:19:04.000 Job or no job?
00:19:05.000 It depends what they can provide.
00:19:09.000 No.
00:19:10.000 Job or no job?
00:19:11.000 Would you rather have a guy that's unemployed, on benefits, or a guy with a job?
00:19:15.000 Come on.
00:19:16.000 What if he's got no job and he's doing it?
00:19:18.000 It depends when you say no job.
00:19:19.000 Your man's got a job.
00:19:20.000 Unemployed.
00:19:21.000 Yeah, my man's got a job.
00:19:22.000 The crackhead's on the street.
00:19:23.000 I got one for you.
00:19:24.000 Okay.
00:19:25.000 Thank you.
00:19:26.000 So women do prefer men with money and...
00:19:27.000 Okay.
00:19:28.000 Thank you.
00:19:29.000 Now the men.
00:19:30.000 Men.
00:19:31.000 Okay.
00:19:32.000 Would you rather have a girl that was 300 pounds or 120 pounds?
00:19:33.000 120 pounds.
00:19:34.000 Okay.
00:19:35.000 Okay.
00:19:36.000 Thank you.
00:19:37.000 And the whole couch agreed.
00:19:38.000 Okay.
00:19:39.000 Thank you.
00:19:40.000 So what would you give up for the right guy?
00:19:43.000 What would I give up for the right guy?
00:19:45.000 Yeah.
00:19:46.000 Because we all agree that you have to make sacrifices in relationships, right?
00:19:48.000 So what sacrifices are you willing to make in a relationship?
00:19:52.000 You know what?
00:19:53.000 We just had the conversation before you came.
00:19:55.000 And we were talking about if we see ourselves as modern women and independent women.
00:19:59.000 And I made a transition.
00:20:00.000 I used to think I was a Miss Independent, modern woman.
00:20:05.000 But the recent years, I've made a transition and I never thought I would give up my career.
00:20:14.000 You know, just like being in a higher position.
00:20:17.000 I was looking when I was younger, I was always looking for status.
00:20:20.000 I was looking to go up the career ladder, making money.
00:20:23.000 But over time it has changed.
00:20:25.000 I think now I'm getting older and I'm like, hey, have I been wasting some years?
00:20:30.000 Do you think you have?
00:20:32.000 Now looking back, no.
00:20:34.000 I don't like to think so.
00:20:37.000 But if I were to go back and do some things different, I would.
00:20:40.000 But I don't regret it because that has added to my experience now.
00:20:43.000 What would you do different?
00:20:45.000 Well, don't listen to songs like Neo, Miss Independent, first of all.
00:20:48.000 Yeah, it's a good song.
00:20:50.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.
00:20:52.000 Right?
00:20:53.000 And I think it's like this music culture and yeah, society.
00:20:56.000 So I would have gone back and gone, spoke to my aunties more, spoke to my mom more from Sudan, the traditions.
00:21:04.000 Because I see my parents are still married.
00:21:06.000 My grandparents are still married.
00:21:08.000 And I would have, I wanted to rebel against that when I was younger.
00:21:13.000 Now I made that transition and I'm thinking, I'm not that independent woman.
00:21:17.000 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.
00:21:20.000 So I would, if it's the right man, I believe that the right man, we have aligned visions and missions.
00:21:27.000 So I'm willing to give up everything I had in my career to go for what God has put us together as a mission together.
00:21:36.000 I would do that.
00:21:37.000 I would do that.
00:21:38.000 So you would give up your career for a family, say?
00:21:41.000 I would.
00:21:42.000 If God wants me to do that, I would.
00:21:43.000 Yeah.
00:21:44.000 So one thing you said, you said you don't regret it.
00:21:47.000 Or you do, like...
00:21:49.000 If I were to go back, I would do some things different, but I am grateful for where I am at right now.
00:21:54.000 So I'm grateful that I had this experience.
00:21:56.000 Now I have a little niece.
00:21:58.000 I can teach her those things so she doesn't go the road that I went to.
00:22:02.000 But...
00:22:03.000 I just never understand when women say they don't regret it, if they would change it.
00:22:08.000 Because then wouldn't you regret it?
00:22:10.000 I don't understand your question.
00:22:12.000 I've heard girls say that and it doesn't compute to me.
00:22:15.000 Because me, if I would change something, then I regret a certain decision.
00:22:19.000 Well, it's...
00:22:20.000 If you don't like the outcome, don't you regret it?
00:22:25.000 To be honest, Pearl, I don't...
00:22:28.000 Again, like, I'm not going to apologize for it.
00:22:31.000 I'm very faith-driven, so I speak from that perspective.
00:22:34.000 And regret is a very...
00:22:37.000 It's a very bad feeling.
00:22:39.000 And I don't believe that we're meant to live with regret.
00:22:42.000 So before, I was regretting it, for sure.
00:22:45.000 I was feeling those regrets and I was feeling those, oh, I shouldn't have done.
00:22:49.000 But then, because I'm safe now, because I have a different life now,
00:22:52.000 I don't carry those feelings anymore.
00:22:55.000 I'm set free from that.
00:22:56.000 So, yeah, if I was...
00:22:58.000 Why would anyone want to live with regret?
00:23:01.000 And why would that be comfortable for anybody to live with regret?
00:23:05.000 And why would anybody see that?
00:23:08.000 I don't mean it in a way that shames.
00:23:11.000 But to me, like, when I hear that, it just sounds like the same thing.
00:23:15.000 That was my question.
00:23:16.000 Because if I would change something, then I regret it.
00:23:18.000 Well, regret, if you're living in regret, it's like you're holding on to something.
00:23:21.000 Then you can't, at the same time, be grateful for who you are now, what you've got.
00:23:25.000 Oh, so it's kind of like just not living in, like, the shame of the decision.
00:23:28.000 Yeah, in the past.
00:23:29.000 It's like, okay, I did that.
00:23:30.000 And like, sorry, was it Carmen?
00:23:33.000 Yeah.
00:23:34.000 Yeah, she was saying it's what she's learned from it.
00:23:36.000 So how can you regret that?
00:23:37.000 It's like, wow, I've learned from it.
00:23:39.000 If I didn't go through this path, I wouldn't even know.
00:23:42.000 No, I mean, I could absolutely look at certain decisions that I've learned from and be like, well, I regret it.
00:23:48.000 Yeah, I wish I didn't do that.
00:23:49.000 Yeah, 100%.
00:23:50.000 There are things I've done.
00:23:51.000 And I'm not saying you should wallow in it.
00:23:53.000 You can't change it.
00:23:54.000 Yeah, but yeah, I get what you're saying.
00:23:55.000 There are certain things that, yeah, I wish I did not do that.
00:23:58.000 I did not need to learn in that way.
00:23:59.000 I could have learned from other people.
00:24:01.000 So, yeah, so you mentioned you went from being more modern to being more traditional.
00:24:05.000 What did you do specifically to make that change?
00:24:10.000 Yeah, so when I came here, when I went to Germany, I lived in Germany most of my life.
00:24:15.000 And then I came to the UK.
00:24:17.000 So I was more, the culture has changed.
00:24:21.000 So I wasn't into very traditional.
00:24:23.000 I wasn't so close to my Sudanese background.
00:24:25.000 So I was more around people who were living a very modern life.
00:24:30.000 And just a lot of my friends were single parents.
00:24:33.000 So in my culture, this is not happening.
00:24:36.000 And that has shaped who I was becoming.
00:24:40.000 So you didn't surround yourself with modern people?
00:24:43.000 No, I did.
00:24:44.000 I did.
00:24:45.000 No, I'm saying now you chose to switch it to more traditional.
00:24:47.000 No, now I have empathy.
00:24:48.000 Okay.
00:24:49.000 Now I can understand why they're living this way.
00:24:53.000 And why I rebelled against my roots and who I came from.
00:24:58.000 But I made that transition because I saw this freedom.
00:25:04.000 I saw this empowered woman.
00:25:06.000 I can be everything.
00:25:07.000 I can do everything.
00:25:08.000 But that comes with a price.
00:25:10.000 Could it be because you moved from your country to a more Western and more free country?
00:25:17.000 Could it be that?
00:25:18.000 Yeah.
00:25:19.000 Yeah, for sure.
00:25:20.000 For sure.
00:25:21.000 Yeah.
00:25:22.000 Western country has definitely shaped me.
00:25:23.000 And I have to be honest, not for the best way.
00:25:26.000 How old were you when you came to the UK from Germany?
00:25:29.000 Three years.
00:25:30.000 Three years old?
00:25:31.000 Three years.
00:25:32.000 Yeah.
00:25:33.000 No, when I came from Sudan to Germany.
00:25:34.000 I was three years old.
00:25:35.000 From Germany to the UK.
00:25:36.000 How old was he?
00:25:37.000 I think 18, 19.
00:25:38.000 Okay.
00:25:39.000 Yeah.
00:25:40.000 So I still don't understand what you did to become more traditional.
00:25:44.000 Oh, yes.
00:25:45.000 I'm so sorry.
00:25:46.000 I lost myself.
00:25:47.000 Did you take cooking classes?
00:25:48.000 What specifically did you do?
00:25:49.000 So I had examples and I didn't see successful marriages.
00:25:54.000 I didn't see successful relationships.
00:25:55.000 So then I started to surround myself around Christian communities when I became a person of
00:26:01.000 faith and I got baptized in 2019.
00:26:04.000 That completely transitioned my life.
00:26:05.000 So as a result, I started to see successful, healthy marriages.
00:26:09.000 I didn't see that before.
00:26:11.000 That's why I didn't even have the desire to be married.
00:26:13.000 You didn't see it.
00:26:14.000 I thought you said your parents and your grandparents were married.
00:26:16.000 Yes.
00:26:17.000 But that's the only example that I had.
00:26:19.000 That's a very limited example.
00:26:21.000 But I didn't.
00:26:23.000 I did.
00:26:24.000 Okay.
00:26:25.000 They're married.
00:26:26.000 But do I want to have their love life?
00:26:27.000 No.
00:26:28.000 They're still together.
00:26:30.000 Their values are amazing when, when hard times hit.
00:26:33.000 Yeah.
00:26:34.000 They stick together, but I wanted more.
00:26:36.000 So I didn't have those examples.
00:26:37.000 But when I, I, I started to surround myself in the right environments and I started to
00:26:42.000 see that I can have healthy relationships and healthy marriages and yeah, with the right
00:26:47.000 vibe.
00:26:48.000 So that has changed surrounding myself with the right people who I can see an example.
00:26:52.000 All I needed was just an example and role models and I didn't see it.
00:26:56.000 So, yeah.
00:26:57.000 So this, it still doesn't make sense to me and I hear this a lot.
00:27:01.000 So it's not just you, but like when I hear girls talk about how they were modern and
00:27:04.000 then they became traditional.
00:27:05.000 Yeah.
00:27:06.000 Like, I don't hear anything that you actually did.
00:27:07.000 Like I hear that I surrounded, I got baptized, which is great.
00:27:10.000 Yeah.
00:27:11.000 You know, pro faith here.
00:27:12.000 And, and, and like that you surrounded yourself with people that were married, but it's like,
00:27:18.000 I can watch people that play basketball.
00:27:20.000 That doesn't mean I learned to play.
00:27:21.000 So I was just wondering like what specifically you did to become, because if, if women want
00:27:25.000 to know you were modern before, then you became traditional.
00:27:28.000 Like what specifically did you do?
00:27:30.000 Well, there's for something new to come in, the old has to go.
00:27:34.000 My old self had to die.
00:27:36.000 So that means my old belief.
00:27:38.000 So because you said you, you, you know, of faith, right?
00:27:42.000 Do you know something called the Holy Spirit?
00:27:45.000 So when the Holy Spirit convicts someone on something, when, you know, you have a conviction,
00:27:51.000 people call it intuition.
00:27:53.000 We call it the Holy Spirit.
00:27:55.000 So, but it's, it's stronger.
00:27:57.000 It speaks so clearly.
00:27:58.000 It's, it's like this thoughts feels wrong.
00:28:01.000 The person like, I remember the day, this was crazy.
00:28:05.000 I remember the day before I got baptized.
00:28:07.000 This was crazy.
00:28:08.000 I was with a atheist guy.
00:28:10.000 I was dating an atheist guy and I, I was like, yeah, I can change him, whatever.
00:28:16.000 And the day after I got baptized and I had this inner conviction, I had to break up with
00:28:21.000 this person, of course, for obvious reasons, but did someone from outside come and tell me
00:28:26.000 this?
00:28:27.000 No, it was an inner conviction.
00:28:28.000 I knew that I had to let go of certain people, certain beliefs, because my faith is, is now
00:28:34.000 the priority.
00:28:35.000 I'm fully sold out.
00:28:36.000 No.
00:28:37.000 And I think faith is great.
00:28:38.000 Right.
00:28:39.000 I think, I think that's genuinely great for you, but faith, like getting baptized, being
00:28:43.000 taken over with the Holy Spirit, like I've been baptized.
00:28:46.000 That didn't make me traditional.
00:28:47.000 Yeah.
00:28:48.000 Right.
00:28:49.000 Yeah.
00:28:50.000 So what did you physically do?
00:28:51.000 Can you just define traditional?
00:28:52.000 Maybe I don't understand.
00:28:53.000 I would say traditional is like our grandmothers and our great grandmothers.
00:28:57.000 That's, that's like what they traditionally did.
00:29:00.000 Is there a hybrid version of that?
00:29:02.000 Like, cause I don't see myself traditional, traditional, but I don't see myself modern.
00:29:06.000 So is there like a middle definition or hybrid?
00:29:10.000 I don't, I don't really think so.
00:29:13.000 I think it's like a lot of, no offense to you, but modern women pretending to be traditional
00:29:19.000 and some of them don't really know they're not, but I think, I think once you like are
00:29:23.000 around like a truly traditional woman, you just know it when you see it.
00:29:27.000 I think there's differences because you can be around like you're saying traditional and
00:29:31.000 you can, you can not be.
00:29:32.000 And I think that put that individual person grows up to believe and do what they believe
00:29:38.000 in their faith and whatever they choose.
00:29:40.000 But, but you can like believe things and that's, that's great, but it's about what you,
00:29:43.000 what you do.
00:29:44.000 Yeah.
00:29:45.000 Right.
00:29:46.000 Exactly.
00:29:47.000 I see a traditional woman like would dress a certain way.
00:29:50.000 Like.
00:29:51.000 I agree with that.
00:29:52.000 Yeah.
00:29:53.000 Models, you know, wouldn't show off and wouldn't go out party and drinking.
00:29:56.000 Yeah.
00:29:57.000 Would be at home.
00:29:59.000 Traditional women are usually married.
00:30:01.000 They usually submit to their husbands.
00:30:03.000 They usually are the one that's cooking for everyone at the party.
00:30:06.000 I think the greatest thing would be, how do you see traditional women?
00:30:09.000 Because in different, even in the UK of different parts, there's different parts of,
00:30:13.000 if you look at Liverpool, if we look at travellers, everyone has a traditional type of how they
00:30:19.000 bring, if you look at any culture, they all have a different traditional way.
00:30:25.000 And, and in their life.
00:30:26.000 They have different traditions.
00:30:27.000 Yeah.
00:30:28.000 But I would still say the archetype of a traditional woman is the same.
00:30:31.000 It's the same.
00:30:32.000 Yeah.
00:30:33.000 So.
00:30:34.000 No.
00:30:35.000 If you look at, if you look at, no, no, no, no, no.
00:30:37.000 And if you look at travellers, they're very crisp.
00:30:40.000 No, no, no.
00:30:41.000 No, no, no.
00:30:42.000 They're very strict.
00:30:43.000 They're very prominent.
00:30:44.000 They're, they are.
00:30:45.000 Travelers.
00:30:46.000 That is nothing.
00:30:47.000 What does that have to do with anything?
00:30:48.000 I'm just saying, when you look at, they're part of traditions.
00:30:50.000 They're part of traditional women.
00:30:52.000 Of course they are.
00:30:53.000 They're travellers.
00:30:54.000 Yes.
00:30:55.000 Yes, they are.
00:30:56.000 They're gypsies.
00:30:57.000 Okay.
00:30:58.000 I don't know anything about gypsies.
00:30:59.000 We don't really have those in the US.
00:31:00.000 We actually have loads of them here.
00:31:02.000 We don't, we actually don't, actually, we don't call them that.
00:31:05.000 No, no, no.
00:31:06.000 They're not allowed to get an education.
00:31:07.000 They literally have to like get married at a very young age and have children.
00:31:10.000 Oh, okay.
00:31:11.000 Yeah.
00:31:12.000 Okay.
00:31:13.000 No, we don't.
00:31:14.000 Yeah, I know.
00:31:15.000 But we don't call, let's not get this.
00:31:16.000 We don't call them that.
00:31:17.000 Let's be very.
00:31:18.000 Call them what?
00:31:19.000 Gypsies.
00:31:20.000 Because they're not gypsies.
00:31:21.000 They call themselves gypsies.
00:31:22.000 They call themselves gypsies.
00:31:23.000 They call themselves gypsies.
00:31:24.000 They call themselves gypsies.
00:31:25.000 I'm just saying that they're also, they, they're very strategic in their belief.
00:31:28.000 They're very, in their faith and how they're brought up and what they believe in as the
00:31:34.000 same as a Muslim woman, a Muslim culture is, a Catholic culture is, a Hindu culture is,
00:31:40.000 a Buddhism culture is.
00:31:41.000 There's different types of traditional women.
00:31:42.000 Yes.
00:31:43.000 Okay.
00:31:44.000 And they're all falling to the same.
00:31:46.000 So we can't, we can't sit here and say, okay, so what would yours be?
00:31:49.000 Okay.
00:31:50.000 Yeah.
00:31:51.000 We're going to have to go back and forth all night.
00:31:52.000 If you're going to talk about, there's different types of people.
00:31:55.000 Like that's the general argument you keep making.
00:31:56.000 I just think you're stereotyping one person.
00:31:57.000 Yeah.
00:31:58.000 I stereotype a lot.
00:31:59.000 So we'll get over it.
00:32:00.000 Okay.
00:32:01.000 So, um, I, I don't need to get over that.
00:32:03.000 It's not me.
00:32:04.000 You do have to get over it if you want to stay.
00:32:06.000 So.
00:32:07.000 Okay.
00:32:08.000 I stereotype on the show.
00:32:09.000 Yes.
00:32:10.000 Okay.
00:32:11.000 Yeah.
00:32:12.000 Men, men do like thin women.
00:32:13.000 That's yeah.
00:32:14.000 Thank you.
00:32:15.000 Okay.
00:32:16.000 So, um, what did you say what you did?
00:32:19.000 Did you say what you did to become traditional?
00:32:21.000 I, sorry, the only thing that stuck to my head, you said something really interesting,
00:32:25.000 which is submission.
00:32:26.000 And I think this is the big difference in the Western culture with other traditional cultures
00:32:30.000 because traditional cultures are more receptive to this concept of submission.
00:32:35.000 And I think a lot of times in the Western culture, we are, um, they don't really know
00:32:39.000 what that means.
00:32:40.000 And this is why there's the conflict.
00:32:42.000 That's, that's just what I wanted to say.
00:32:44.000 Okay.
00:32:45.000 But to add on that, what submission is, is, you know, we see like sometimes the love as
00:32:52.000 it's one sided, you know, I want to, I'm going to give him this so I can get this.
00:32:56.000 But actually true love is not, I'm going to give this to get this.
00:33:00.000 A true love is sacrificial love.
00:33:02.000 And I love that.
00:33:03.000 We agree.
00:33:04.000 I thought we're going to disagree.
00:33:05.000 No, I think that the most like selfless people get the most in general.
00:33:10.000 Yeah.
00:33:11.000 Yeah.
00:33:12.000 And this is, I think this is the, and it's sacrificial love.
00:33:14.000 So submission, if a man is submitted to his cause, to his purpose, to his mission, to God,
00:33:19.000 you know, a woman can submit to him, can feel comfortable to submit to him.
00:33:22.000 But the problem that we're facing right now in culture is that women don't feel safe to
00:33:27.000 submit to man because men are not submitted to a cause or to a purpose.
00:33:31.000 And this is the reason why women don't feel, you know, safe to be submissive.
00:33:37.000 Oh, because of the men?
00:33:39.000 Could you say that one more time?
00:33:41.000 The part about the men are not what?
00:33:43.000 Sorry, go ahead.
00:33:44.000 So when we talk about submission, you know, we women, our natural desire is to submit.
00:33:51.000 Our natural desire, no matter how much a woman wants to fight about it, we want to submit.
00:33:55.000 But the reason why women don't submit, because I know I was like this as well.
00:34:00.000 And I'm still like this, actually, a man needs to be submitted to.
00:34:04.000 And man doesn't need to be submitted to a woman, but a man needs to be submitted to a cause,
00:34:08.000 to a purpose and to faith or to God.
00:34:11.000 And this is where a woman feels safe to be submitted.
00:34:15.000 Yeah, but there are men that do that.
00:34:17.000 And I guess the question is like, why are you picking men?
00:34:19.000 I mean, not you, but if you're in that situation, why are you picking men that don't have that?
00:34:24.000 This is really good.
00:34:25.000 And you know what?
00:34:26.000 I put my hands up and I do this mistake as well.
00:34:29.000 Wouldn't you guys agree that men will do anything to get laid?
00:34:32.000 Yes.
00:34:33.000 Yeah.
00:34:34.000 Yeah.
00:34:35.000 So it's like if the men, if the men are a certain way, it's like, because we're not rewarding good behavior.
00:34:40.000 Yeah.
00:34:41.000 But you know what?
00:34:42.000 We're in a, we're in a society now where women will do the same.
00:34:46.000 Women do what?
00:34:47.000 We'll do anything to have fun, have sex.
00:34:51.000 A lot of women now, I don't know if you realize, how old are you?
00:34:55.000 I'm 26.
00:34:56.000 Okay.
00:34:57.000 So I'm 20 years older than you.
00:34:58.000 A lot of women now in their forties plus don't really kind of want that whole thing.
00:35:03.000 They just want to go out and have fun, play the game.
00:35:06.000 Yeah.
00:35:07.000 It's really sad actually.
00:35:08.000 They, they should be married and like at home, but they're in the streets.
00:35:11.000 Well, when you get to that age, tell me how sad you are.
00:35:13.000 No, I, if I, if I, if I'm, if I'm in the streets at 40, so yeah, I will be sad.
00:35:19.000 I'm not in the streets.
00:35:20.000 I have a very good lifestyle.
00:35:21.000 I wasn't talking about you.
00:35:22.000 I wasn't talking about you.
00:35:23.000 No, I didn't think you were, but you said he was very sad.
00:35:28.000 So I'm saying to you, if you feel that's very sad, then when you get to our age, then
00:35:33.000 that's what I'm saying.
00:35:35.000 Yeah.
00:35:36.000 I would be sad.
00:35:37.000 I was 46 and not married.
00:35:39.000 Well, let's revisit that when you're 46 years old.
00:35:42.000 It doesn't necessarily mean you, if you're 46 or 50 or 55, if you're not, if you're single,
00:35:48.000 you're not going to be happy.
00:35:49.000 I don't believe that.
00:35:50.000 Yeah.
00:35:51.000 I agree with that.
00:35:52.000 True.
00:35:53.000 Yeah.
00:35:54.000 You, you might not, but I would, I would be really sad because, I mean, I'd either be
00:35:59.000 childless or divorced.
00:36:00.000 So maybe because, yeah, maybe because maybe I'm just counting.
00:36:05.000 But there's women that choose not to be married, that choose not to have children.
00:36:10.000 You're not single.
00:36:11.000 There are, you said there's women that choose not to be married and they choose not to have
00:36:15.000 children.
00:36:16.000 I've got 24, yeah.
00:36:17.000 I don't think it's a choice.
00:36:18.000 I actually don't think it's a choice.
00:36:19.000 I've got a beautiful 24 year old daughter.
00:36:22.000 That should have been on your, our show tonight.
00:36:25.000 And I think we could have addressed that, but she's not here.
00:36:27.000 Unfortunately.
00:36:28.000 You could always get a cat.
00:36:29.000 What?
00:36:30.000 You could always get a cat.
00:36:31.000 About a little 24.
00:36:32.000 Yeah.
00:36:33.000 But I don't think, I don't think.
00:36:34.000 I'm allergic to cats.
00:36:35.000 Well, there you go.
00:36:36.000 But I don't think women actually choose to be single and not have children.
00:36:41.000 I think they end up being mis-educated.
00:36:42.000 Yeah.
00:36:43.000 It's like, would you, would you rather be with a guy that, okay, show of hands.
00:36:44.000 Would you rather be with a guy that, okay, show of hands.
00:36:45.000 Would you rather be with a guy you love, respect, with, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
00:36:46.000 I'm asking the four on my couch.
00:36:47.000 Sorry.
00:36:48.000 Seven billion actually.
00:36:49.000 Okay.
00:36:50.000 So, all right, all right.
00:36:51.000 So, so, would you rather be with a guy that you love, respect and admire and are attracted
00:37:04.000 to or would you rather be single?
00:37:05.000 I'd rather be on my own.
00:37:06.000 If I can't fit, take all of those boxes.
00:37:07.000 Okay.
00:37:08.000 Okay.
00:37:09.000 Okay.
00:37:10.000 Lady, lady, lady.
00:37:11.000 This is a hand.
00:37:12.000 This is a hand.
00:37:13.000 Okay.
00:37:14.000 Okay.
00:37:15.000 I'm not going to raise my hand.
00:37:16.000 If you don't raise your hand for one, you can go.
00:37:18.000 You can either cooperate with the show or you can not cooperate.
00:37:20.000 I'm going to, I'll give you the reasons why I'm not cooperating because I don't think that.
00:37:24.000 Because this isn't, this isn't your show.
00:37:25.000 It's not my show.
00:37:26.000 I don't want to be your show, but I'm just saying that's my perspective.
00:37:29.000 Okay.
00:37:30.000 So, you can, you can cooperate or you can not cooperate.
00:37:32.000 What you're telling me is I have to agree with you.
00:37:34.000 She wants to go.
00:37:35.000 No, I'm saying you have to answer questions.
00:37:36.000 Pick one of two options.
00:37:37.000 I'm on, I'm on a show.
00:37:38.000 I would understand if it's something personal, but this isn't crazy.
00:37:40.000 So, if I don't agree with it, I can put my hand up or I can say no.
00:37:43.000 She wants to go.
00:37:44.000 You have to choose one or the other.
00:37:45.000 You have to choose one.
00:37:46.000 Okay.
00:37:47.000 Okay.
00:37:48.000 All right.
00:37:49.000 Would you, okay.
00:37:50.000 I feel like I'm talking to like a 10 year old right now.
00:37:52.000 I feel like I'm listening to one.
00:37:53.000 Okay.
00:37:54.000 She wants to go.
00:37:55.000 She wants to go.
00:37:56.000 All right.
00:37:57.000 So, would you rather be with a man that you love, respect and admire and are attracted to?
00:38:01.000 Raise your hand.
00:38:02.000 Yeah.
00:38:03.000 Okay.
00:38:04.000 No brainer.
00:38:05.000 Would you rather be alone?
00:38:06.000 Raise your hand.
00:38:07.000 Thank you.
00:38:08.000 So, so by that logic, women over a certain age, it's not a choice to be said.
00:38:13.000 Like most women over a certain age would rather be with somebody.
00:38:16.000 Honey, I think you're going to get a lot of flack on that one.
00:38:18.000 I really do.
00:38:19.000 So many of you know, I was just banned on Tik Tok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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