This Was The Most Honest Interview Ever
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the topic of sleeping with more than one person at a time, and whether or not it matters how many people you sleep with. We also talk about the fact that women tend to have a higher body count than men, and why that matters.
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Is sleeping around different for men and for women?
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I don't know, I think whatever people want to do, like if they're sleeping,
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if a woman's body count is higher than a guy's, it shouldn't matter.
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It matters to a lot of guys though, for some reason.
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It doesn't compute in my brain as to why it does, but they do view it differently.
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It's just held to another standard where they can sleep with literally anyone,
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and the minute a woman does, it's like, oh well you're a slag.
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Or there's the massive discourse where it's like, your vagina gets massive,
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which is a complete lie because you push a baby out and then it stretches back.
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So it's like, if you push a baby out and your vagina can stretch back,
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then why does it matter how many people you sleep with?
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That doesn't change it, do you know what I mean?
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Better than man, they can just go with whoever and it's like, oh you're a lad, that's sick.
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And I feel like a lot of, particularly in the straight community,
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and the patriarchal ideals are very much like, keep this old Victorian ideology
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where a woman has to be virginal to be attractive.
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So if you were talking to a guy, is there a body count that would be too high for you to talk to?
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Like if you said, I've slept with a thousand women.
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To be honest, you know like how men ask women like, how many people have you slept with?
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Because it's like, that's your past, that's whatever it is, it doesn't really matter.
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Oh right, no, I don't think I view it differently.
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If I had the same body count between a man and a woman, I think it would be, like I wouldn't
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As long as I sleep around a lot, I'd be like, as long as you're clean from STDs.
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I do view it differently, but I'll tell you why.
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Because I think like women have to, in general, and I know there's exceptions, but by and large
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like have to be more attached and like like a guy more.
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And it's like easy for a woman to get sex where guys, they have to earn it.
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Like a guy, a guy has to be a certain height for you to be attracted to him.
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He has to be a certain level of income, certain level of like, every.
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If you look at the data, you know what percent of the time women swipe right on dating apps?
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Like women swipe right five to 10% of the time where men swipe right 50%.
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Just like, okay, you guys are pretty girls, right?
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You go out and you ask, ask 10 guys if they want to have sex, you're going to take her.
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If he goes up to 10, 10 girls and says, do you want to have sex with me?
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Well, men are probably more likely to do that though.
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Like go up to someone and be like, hey, I don't know if, I, yeah.
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Men go up to girls a bit more than girls go up to men.
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Do you know one out of three men is either a virgin or hasn't had sex in the past year?
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I actually, whoa, I want to say I refuse to believe that.
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Maybe I shouldn't, I shouldn't be jumping to conclusions.
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You're more honest than, but everyone tells me virgin.
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Because for me, it's not like a show off thing.
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And I'll say, oh yeah, like it's something to show off about.
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It's just like a, you know, guys, mostly amongst men, like, oh yeah, I've slept with this
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The only reason I ask that is because if it doesn't matter, why doesn't everyone just
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I don't actually care what your body counts are.
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Because then like, where is that going to go if I like to randomly say my body count?
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I have some shit to say, but we can talk about it after this is out of the way.
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Like, it's like, if it really didn't matter, why don't we all just tell each other?
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Would you say that because it's more emotional for us that sleeping around is different because we have
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to have an emotional connection where men will just screw anything?
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Like, yeah, I think it's more like emotional rather than just physical.
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If I connect with you, then I connect with you.
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I think that's why like men say it's different is because like we have to like,
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we have to like him in some way where a dude can screw a girl he hates.
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We need to have some type of physical, some kind of emotional.
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So you kind of understand where they're coming from a little bit.
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I don't know if I understand, but I don't know.
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Why do you think so many people say it doesn't?
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The only reason I ask, usually people will say it doesn't matter.
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And then I'll ask like, what's your body count?
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Like, I feel like there's just like, choices and trade-offs.
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And you get to like, there's not one person that's like the one.
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The question today is, is sleeping around different for men and for women?
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Women kind of like, will hold an emotional attachment.
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If you were to fuck with a guy, you wouldn't go in it to be like,
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You're gonna want him to know you, all of that shit.
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I know there's girls out there that don't ever, like, wanna do all that shit.
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But then, majority of girls would have feelings towards the guy.
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You're not gonna pick up some random guy that looks like a 4 over 5 out of 10 and just be like,
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I think the question was, sorry, I'm like taking your spot as an interviewer.
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The question was, how do you see it differently between men?
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Well, I said that men have no, like, if a guy wants to mess with a girl, he has no emotional attachment.
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I generally see most men have no emotional attachment when it comes to sex.
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Like, okay, if you, if me or you wanted to get sex, all we'd have to do is go around and say anyone wanna have sex, we'd have people lined up.
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If he, if he, if he did this right now, he would, he's, he's a good look, he's a good looking guy.
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I'm saying, I'm saying, I'm saying, look at, look at, look at, I'm just saying, I'm being real.
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Like, if he goes around asking girls for sex, they're gonna be like, no, get the fuck away from me.
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But me and you, me and you, all we'd have to do is ask.
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And I wouldn't think of a woman less than I do a man if they have the same body count is what I was saying.
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If it's an average looking guy, do you think he would have as much success to a guy that's way more good looking in a general sense?
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To get a woman or if he's trying to get her in bed or relationship status, whatever it is.
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An average girl would have a better chance with any type of guy she would want.
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Yeah, I'm just going to put this in perspective.
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I know girls will always correct me, but like, I'm just being real.
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Like, I feel like most people are normal looking.
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And I've had, I've had NBA players slide in my DMs.
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I'm saying, I'm saying like that's not a flex though.
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And so I'm saying like that would never happen like to a guy.
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Or like a blue checkmark girl is going to slide in his DMs of just a normal guy.
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If it doesn't, if it doesn't, if it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter.
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The only reason I ask is because if it doesn't matter, then everyone should just say it.
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And that's why I hesitated a bit because I was like, oh my God.
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Like, it has nothing to do with my personality or anything.
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Do you think that sex is different for men and for women in like the way we experience
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So like, we have to have more of an emotional connection with a guy?
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I wouldn't say much of an emotional connection.
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I say it's different in the sense of like amounts of effort that are put in.
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And I think a lot of the industry and like the sexual industry is based around a man's pleasure and not a woman's.
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And like there was a statistic and it was like literally 65% of women.
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But they were like, they watch lesbian because it's based around like women's pleasure.
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Like most of the marketing is geared towards women, not men.
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Like for the corn is definitely geared towards men, but 70 to 80% of consumer buying decisions are made by women.
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Like women have more debt, even though they make less money because we spend more money than men do by and large.
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So like society actually isn't really geared towards men.
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So like, that's why we have like, like plus size models, for example, like men typically like they date smaller girls.
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Not trying to, you know, but like that's for the women.
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Like women want to see that you don't want to go and buy an item of clothing that's shown on like a size four model because you don't know how it's going to look on your body type.
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So I think the brands that show like, say even just three different body types, it's like so much better because at least people know what kind of ballpark they're going to, especially with buying online and how big it's become.
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But like the only point I was making is that it's geared for women.
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So like a lot of times we'll say like we're in a patriarchy where everything's like geared towards men, but it's not because women are spending the money.
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Which we don't even have because there's a gender pay gap in the first place.
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So like women pick jobs that make less money, like by and large.
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A thousand bodies is too many bodies for someone you want to date.
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Like if they said a thousand, would you be cool?
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I'd be like, how the fuck do you have the time to sleep with all these people?
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You must be sleeping with like one person a day and different people all the time.
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Like just how do you have the time in your personal space?
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I just think as long as you're up to date with your sexual health and as long as you care
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about your body and care about the people you are sleeping with and have respect for
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them, I don't care how many people you've slept with as long as you just have respect
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Like how on earth could you possibly get to that point?
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But I'd be like, look, have you been to the clinic?
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If you look after yourself, I don't care who you've slept with, how many people, whatever,
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as long as you're, you know, just respectful of us in like an intimate space.
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I don't think like for me, it's not really a factor that I consider.
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If I'm in a relationship, like as long as I'm like the only person, that's fine.
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What they did in the past, like it's their body.
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I think, I don't think it'd be like a deal breaker, but again, I'd be shocked.
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And I just think like, as well, it's also nobody else's business.
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I think the person that you're sleeping with that's new, their only business with you is
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to be like, well, are you like, are you within sexual health or are you sexually ill in that sense?
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I don't think it's anyone's business to even ask you like, how many people have you slept
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Like you shouldn't be talking about past sexual experience.
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I mean, you can talk about past sexual experience.
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But like, it's like the only thing I'd ask someone is like, have you got anything?
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And like, I would never be like, oh, how many people have you slept with?
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When I'm asking, like, I ask a guy that sometimes.
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But the reason I do is because I'm trying to gauge if he's ready to settle down.
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Because to me, like, I really want to get married and have a family.
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And like, if a dude's slept with a thousand girls, I'm like, I'm going to be a thousand
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Honestly, like I was single for a really long time and I'm just really picky with relationships.
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And like, everyone was just kind of like, and there was a lot of boys that were like, oh,
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And I don't even like sleep around that much based on like, say the general population.
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Not that I care if I did, but they were kind of like, oh, well, she like, it's almost
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like the connotation that you'll cheat on them because you're sexually active.
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And it's like faithfulness in a relationship has no correlation to how many people you've
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It's like if a girl's a virgin, she has an 80% chance of a happy marriage.
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Where if she slept with more than five, it drops to 25%.
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But also men too, they don't talk about this, but like men, like the, the longest, the best
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Is that not the sense of like kind of the science of it when it's like, did it say it releases
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And then you become like attached to that person.
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So if you're a virgin and you marry someone and then they take a virginity, like you have
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that like mental attachment literally through science.
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Like if you'd slept with a hundred guys, like you're, you're going to, there's going
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And so it's like when you with the new guy, like you can't help but compare in some
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People act like they don't, but like, I'm sorry.
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I think it's also good to have a comparison though, because you kind of, as you're going
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along and as you're growing up and as you're with different people, like you get to know
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what you like and what you deserve as well, which is I think is really important.
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And like, you know, like the kind of personality you want.
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And like, it's not even down to like, a lot of the time it's not, for me, it's not
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Cause like somebody, we could be absolutely gorgeous and be boring or not have the same
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music taste as me or not like the same events as me.
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I'd rather go for someone that I'm necessarily not like, Oh my God, I love you.
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Like you're so attractive, but more like, Oh my God, you have a sick personality.
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You're like the same events me, the same music as me.
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Like we're going to have so much fun and you know, I'm curious, how old are you?
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I hear that from girls when they say that usually they're like 27, 28, where they like,
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Like I don't mind a bad boy if it's not going to be a long-term thing.
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Cause then I'm like, I don't have to deal with your shit.
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But if they're like, Oh, do you want to go on a date?
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I'm like, no, like I can read you straight away.
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And I know exactly what kind of person you're like without being judgmental,
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I'm like, this is not going to be a relationship.
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Would you sleep with a bad boy quicker than you would sleep with a nice guy?
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Cause it takes this big discourse about like women sleeping with someone on the first date.
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And it's like, Oh, you're not desirable anymore.
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The man's also set with somebody on the first date.
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Like, Oh, as if I turn around and be like, Oh, you set me on the first date.
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At the end of the day, sex is such a natural thing.
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Like if you want to, if you're like on a date with someone, you're having such a good time and you get to that stage.
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Because the end of the day, if you want to be together, you're going to end up having sex along the line.
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Like that's, I mean, that's one like trade of thought I've heard a lot of people say is because like, it's like, he's either going to stay or go after you sleep with him.
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But then at the same time, it's like, you also don't know him that well.
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I think I've never slept with a total stranger.
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I've met people even on dating apps, but like we've had mutual friends.
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So like out of a point of safety, maybe if I completely didn't know someone, I wouldn't sleep with him.
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But only out of a point of safety, not out of a point of being like, Oh, I slept with him on the first date.
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Like I've literally only like kind of say gone back after a first day with people that like, I know have mutual friends with me.
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I've asked my friends about the mutual friends.
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If he tries to steal you, like they'll know where you were.
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If I met a random guy on a date, I'd be like, Oh yeah, maybe we'll chat a bit more.
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