JustPearlyThings - April 23, 2023


This Was The Most Honest Interview Ever

Topics
sleeping around differences
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Hannah Pearl Davis
All the Guests Were Asked To Do This... Pearl Tried Applying Logic On This Blue Pilled Man

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In this episode, we discuss the topic of sleeping with more than one person at a time, and whether or not it matters how many people you sleep with. We also talk about the fact that women tend to have a higher body count than men, and why that matters.

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00:00:01.000 Is sleeping around different for men and for women?
00:00:03.000 I don't know, I think whatever people want to do, like if they're sleeping,
00:00:07.000 if a woman's body count is higher than a guy's, it shouldn't matter. 0.98
00:00:12.000 It matters to a lot of guys though, for some reason.
00:00:15.000 It doesn't compute in my brain as to why it does, but they do view it differently.
00:00:19.000 It's just held to another standard where they can sleep with literally anyone, 0.99
00:00:23.000 and the minute a woman does, it's like, oh well you're a slag. 1.00
00:00:26.000 Or there's the massive discourse where it's like, your vagina gets massive, 1.00
00:00:30.000 which is a complete lie because you push a baby out and then it stretches back. 0.98
00:00:34.000 So it's like, if you push a baby out and your vagina can stretch back, 1.00
00:00:37.000 then why does it matter how many people you sleep with? 0.84
00:00:39.000 That doesn't change it, do you know what I mean? 0.89
00:00:41.000 Better than man, they can just go with whoever and it's like, oh you're a lad, that's sick.
00:00:45.000 No, 100%, I testified to that.
00:00:47.000 And I feel like a lot of, particularly in the straight community, 0.99
00:00:52.000 and the patriarchal ideals are very much like, keep this old Victorian ideology
00:00:58.000 where a woman has to be virginal to be attractive. 0.97
00:01:01.000 I agree with them.
00:01:02.000 No.
00:01:03.000 You don't think so?
00:01:04.000 No.
00:01:05.000 What about you?
00:01:06.000 Society says yes.
00:01:07.000 I say no.
00:01:08.000 But do you think?
00:01:09.000 No, no, I don't think so.
00:01:10.000 So if you were talking to a guy, is there a body count that would be too high for you to talk to?
00:01:14.000 Like if you said, I've slept with a thousand women. 1.00
00:01:17.000 Yeah, no, it's a no for me.
00:01:18.000 Yeah, it's a no.
00:01:19.000 A thousand women? 0.99
00:01:20.000 To be honest, you know like how men ask women like, how many people have you slept with?
00:01:26.000 That never comes into our question.
00:01:28.000 Yeah.
00:01:29.000 It's never a thing.
00:01:30.000 Yeah.
00:01:31.000 Because it's like, that's your past, that's whatever it is, it doesn't really matter.
00:01:35.000 No, I think it's, you view it differently.
00:01:37.000 No, no, no, they view it differently.
00:01:38.000 I don't think so.
00:01:39.000 Oh right, no, I don't think I view it differently.
00:01:40.000 If I had the same body count between a man and a woman, I think it would be, like I wouldn't 1.00
00:01:44.000 think anything of it, I don't think.
00:01:45.000 No.
00:01:46.000 No, I wouldn't.
00:01:47.000 As long as I sleep around a lot, I'd be like, as long as you're clean from STDs.
00:01:51.000 I do view it differently, but I'll tell you why.
00:01:53.000 I'll tell you why.
00:01:54.000 I'll tell you why.
00:01:55.000 I'll tell you why.
00:01:56.000 Because I think like women have to, in general, and I know there's exceptions, but by and large
00:02:00.000 like have to be more attached and like like a guy more.
00:02:03.000 And it's like easy for a woman to get sex where guys, they have to earn it. 1.00
00:02:06.000 Like a guy, a guy has to be a certain height for you to be attracted to him.
00:02:09.000 He has to be a certain level of income, certain level of like, every.
00:02:12.000 They have that too though, don't they?
00:02:13.000 Not, not really.
00:02:14.000 If you look at the data, you know what percent of the time women swipe right on dating apps? 0.89
00:02:18.000 I don't know.
00:02:19.000 I think I'll go picky.
00:02:20.000 Oh God.
00:02:21.000 Yeah.
00:02:22.000 Like women swipe right five to 10% of the time where men swipe right 50%. 0.97
00:02:27.000 Men are like, is she hot and there? 1.00
00:02:29.000 Yeah.
00:02:30.000 Is she hot there and willing? 1.00
00:02:32.000 Just like, okay, you guys are pretty girls, right? 0.98
00:02:34.000 You go out and you ask, ask 10 guys if they want to have sex, you're going to take her. 1.00
00:02:38.000 You're going to take her.
00:02:39.000 But him, it's not going to be the same. 0.98
00:02:41.000 If he goes up to 10, 10 girls and says, do you want to have sex with me? 1.00
00:02:44.000 They're going to look at him like he's nuts. 0.99
00:02:46.000 Or the guys will be like, when and where?
00:02:48.000 Well, men are probably more likely to do that though.
00:02:50.000 Like go up to someone and be like, hey, I don't know if, I, yeah.
00:02:54.000 I feel like you have a point with that.
00:02:55.000 What's the point?
00:02:56.000 What's the point?
00:02:57.000 I feel like, I don't know.
00:02:58.000 Men go up to girls a bit more than girls go up to men. 0.66
00:03:01.000 And I guess that kind of proves your point. 0.60
00:03:03.000 It's like harder for them to get sex. 0.80
00:03:05.000 Do you know one out of three men is either a virgin or hasn't had sex in the past year? 0.97
00:03:09.000 Oh really?
00:03:10.000 No way.
00:03:11.000 I actually, whoa, I want to say I refuse to believe that.
00:03:14.000 Maybe I shouldn't, I shouldn't be jumping to conclusions.
00:03:17.000 Do you think body count doesn't matter?
00:03:19.000 Of course not.
00:03:20.000 What's your body count?
00:03:21.000 I don't count.
00:03:22.000 Not that I'm saying it's a lot.
00:03:23.000 Roughly.
00:03:24.000 I don't count.
00:03:25.000 Like roughly.
00:03:26.000 I'd say it's under 20.
00:03:27.000 Yeah.
00:03:28.000 Okay.
00:03:29.000 You're more honest than, but everyone tells me virgin.
00:03:30.000 No, no, no.
00:03:31.000 Because for me, it's not like a show off thing.
00:03:33.000 And I'll say, oh yeah, like it's something to show off about.
00:03:36.000 It's just like a, you know, guys, mostly amongst men, like, oh yeah, I've slept with this
00:03:43.000 but with women, it's not that much. 1.00
00:03:44.000 I think it's more emotional than physical.
00:03:46.000 Don't ask me that question.
00:03:48.000 I would never answer that.
00:03:49.000 Like, even if God was standing in front of me.
00:03:51.000 No, no, no.
00:03:52.000 Even if God was standing in front of me.
00:03:55.000 The only reason I ask that is because if it doesn't matter, why doesn't everyone just
00:03:59.000 say?
00:04:00.000 I don't actually care what your body counts are.
00:04:02.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:03.000 But like.
00:04:04.000 Like, and so everyone today, I ask.
00:04:05.000 There's no context.
00:04:06.000 Because then like, where is that going to go if I like to randomly say my body count?
00:04:11.000 Like, it can go anywhere. 0.98
00:04:12.000 I have some shit to say, but we can talk about it after this is out of the way. 0.99
00:04:15.000 Yeah, yeah. 0.99
00:04:16.000 It's just interesting.
00:04:17.000 You know what I mean?
00:04:18.000 Like, it's like, if it really didn't matter, why don't we all just tell each other?
00:04:21.000 Yeah.
00:04:22.000 And we do.
00:04:23.000 You'd be surprised.
00:04:24.000 I think people do share it a lot.
00:04:25.000 It depends how many drinks you got.
00:04:26.000 Yeah, exactly.
00:04:27.000 You'd be surprised.
00:04:28.000 Would you say that because it's more emotional for us that sleeping around is different because we have
00:04:32.000 to have an emotional connection where men will just screw anything? 0.97
00:04:35.000 I mean, I don't.
00:04:36.000 I can't speak for all men. 0.76
00:04:38.000 Just like in general, right?
00:04:39.000 I'll say for myself.
00:04:40.000 Like, yeah, I think it's more like emotional rather than just physical.
00:04:45.000 Yeah.
00:04:46.000 If I connect with you, then I connect with you.
00:04:48.000 Well, I think that's why.
00:04:49.000 I think that's why like men say it's different is because like we have to like, 0.96
00:04:53.000 we have to like him in some way where a dude can screw a girl he hates. 0.99
00:04:57.000 That's it. 0.97
00:04:58.000 We need to have some type of physical, some kind of emotional.
00:05:01.000 We need to connect in some way.
00:05:02.000 So you kind of understand where they're coming from a little bit.
00:05:05.000 I think pretty reasonable.
00:05:06.000 I don't know if I understand, but I don't know.
00:05:09.000 I can't really answer that.
00:05:10.000 Okay.
00:05:11.000 Do you think body count matters?
00:05:12.000 Yeah.
00:05:13.000 It does.
00:05:14.000 Yes.
00:05:15.000 It does.
00:05:16.000 Yeah.
00:05:17.000 Why do you think so many people say it doesn't? 0.87
00:05:18.000 Because they're liars. 0.92
00:05:19.000 Because they're capping. 0.97
00:05:21.000 Would you say your body count?
00:05:23.000 I don't know.
00:05:24.000 No?
00:05:25.000 No.
00:05:26.000 The only reason I ask, usually people will say it doesn't matter.
00:05:30.000 And then I'll ask like, what's your body count?
00:05:32.000 Because they say it doesn't matter.
00:05:33.000 See, we're not liars.
00:05:34.000 At least you guys are honest.
00:05:36.000 I don't know if I believe the virgin thing.
00:05:38.000 No, I swear I would not mind.
00:05:40.000 It wouldn't affect me at all.
00:05:41.000 It wouldn't affect you.
00:05:42.000 If he's the one.
00:05:43.000 If he's the one.
00:05:44.000 Do you guys believe in the one?
00:05:45.000 Yeah.
00:05:46.000 I do.
00:05:47.000 I feel like that's like a Disney.
00:05:49.000 Like, I feel like there's just like, choices and trade-offs.
00:05:52.000 And you get to like, there's not one person that's like the one.
00:05:56.000 I think there is.
00:05:57.000 I know he's watching too.
00:05:58.000 So, if you're watching.
00:06:00.000 Put your IG.
00:06:01.000 Put your IG.
00:06:02.000 Oh, no, no, no, no.
00:06:03.000 How's it supposed to let you go?
00:06:05.000 No.
00:06:06.000 We'll find it.
00:06:07.000 Hey, come here real quick.
00:06:10.000 They're fake.
00:06:11.000 Boy!
00:06:12.000 Come on! 0.61
00:06:13.000 I know your channel.
00:06:14.000 Oh yeah?
00:06:15.000 Is this just funny thing?
00:06:16.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:17.000 I thought you were looking at me earlier.
00:06:18.000 I was like, I felt like he knows today.
00:06:21.000 Yeah, I did.
00:06:22.000 I did.
00:06:23.000 The question today is, is sleeping around different for men and for women?
00:06:27.000 Oh, definitely.
00:06:28.000 Because men hold no emotional attachment.
00:06:30.000 Women kind of like, will hold an emotional attachment. 1.00
00:06:32.000 If that makes sense.
00:06:33.000 So, he says it matters.
00:06:35.000 He says it's different.
00:06:36.000 What do you say?
00:06:37.000 How's it different?
00:06:38.000 Women hold more emotional attachment. 0.99
00:06:40.000 Like, generally. 1.00
00:06:41.000 If you were to fuck with a guy, you wouldn't go in it to be like, 1.00
00:06:44.000 Oh yeah, I'm just having sex. 1.00
00:06:45.000 You're gonna want him to know you, all of that shit. 1.00
00:06:47.000 Compared to like, I'm just being serious. 0.99
00:06:49.000 I think we can generalize.
00:06:50.000 It's different for everyone.
00:06:51.000 Yeah, it's different.
00:06:52.000 It's different for everyone. 0.99
00:06:53.000 I know there's girls out there that don't ever, like, wanna do all that shit. 1.00
00:06:56.000 Yeah. 0.98
00:06:57.000 But then, majority of girls would have feelings towards the guy.
00:06:59.000 You're not gonna pick up some random guy that looks like a 4 over 5 out of 10 and just be like,
00:07:04.000 Yeah, yeah, no, I'll allow him to smash.
00:07:05.000 I think the question was, sorry, I'm like taking your spot as an interviewer.
00:07:09.000 The question was, how do you see it differently between men?
00:07:12.000 Well, I said that men have no, like, if a guy wants to mess with a girl, he has no emotional attachment.
00:07:17.000 You do see it differently.
00:07:18.000 I generally see most men have no emotional attachment when it comes to sex.
00:07:21.000 Like, okay, if you, if me or you wanted to get sex, all we'd have to do is go around and say anyone wanna have sex, we'd have people lined up.
00:07:28.000 What? 0.64
00:07:29.000 If he, if he, if he did this right now, he would, he's, he's a good look, he's a good looking guy.
00:07:33.000 If he went, he went around and did that.
00:07:35.000 Are you planning it?
00:07:36.000 I'm saying, I'm saying, I'm saying, look at, look at, look at, I'm just saying, I'm being real. 1.00
00:07:39.000 Like, if he goes around asking girls for sex, they're gonna be like, no, get the fuck away from me. 1.00
00:07:42.000 Yeah. 1.00
00:07:43.000 But me and you, me and you, all we'd have to do is ask.
00:07:45.000 Yeah.
00:07:46.000 Yeah.
00:07:47.000 But I personally don't see it different.
00:07:48.000 If a girl told me she has a thousand bodies. 1.00
00:07:50.000 So people like me, a guy that looks like me.
00:07:52.000 What do you mean by everybody?
00:07:54.000 We should hold like the same standards.
00:07:56.000 Yeah.
00:07:57.000 That's what you mean.
00:07:58.000 Yes.
00:07:59.000 But like, in reality, it's not the same.
00:08:01.000 Yeah.
00:08:02.000 Yeah, like.
00:08:03.000 No, in reality, it's not.
00:08:04.000 But the question was, what do I think?
00:08:05.000 And I wouldn't think of a woman less than I do a man if they have the same body count is what I was saying.
00:08:10.000 I'm about to say this.
00:08:11.000 If it's an average looking guy, do you think he would have as much success to a guy that's way more good looking in a general sense?
00:08:18.000 To get a woman or if he's trying to get her in bed or relationship status, whatever it is.
00:08:22.000 Do you think that will happen?
00:08:23.000 No.
00:08:24.000 But I think it's the same way with women. 0.99
00:08:25.000 An average looking girl and.
00:08:26.000 An average girl would have a better chance with any type of guy she would want. 1.00
00:08:30.000 Yeah, I'm just going to put this in perspective.
00:08:32.000 I consider myself average.
00:08:34.000 I literally do.
00:08:35.000 No, no, no.
00:08:36.000 I know girls will always correct me, but like, I'm just being real.
00:08:39.000 Like, I feel like most people are normal looking.
00:08:41.000 And I feel like I'm normal looking.
00:08:42.000 And I've had, I've had NBA players slide in my DMs.
00:08:45.000 That's a, it's not, it's not a flex.
00:08:47.000 It's not a flex.
00:08:48.000 They're looking, it's not, it's not.
00:08:49.000 Look at, look at, look at, we're not gonna.
00:08:51.000 I'm saying, I'm saying like that's not a flex though. 0.89
00:08:53.000 They're just looking for easy sex. 1.00
00:08:54.000 Okay. 0.67
00:08:55.000 And so I'm saying like that would never happen like to a guy.
00:08:58.000 Or like a blue checkmark girl is going to slide in his DMs of just a normal guy. 0.93
00:09:02.000 I have a question.
00:09:03.000 Would you say body count doesn't matter?
00:09:05.000 I don't care at all.
00:09:07.000 So what's your body count?
00:09:10.000 If it doesn't, if it doesn't, if it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter.
00:09:13.000 Um, 15.
00:09:14.000 15?
00:09:15.000 No, one five, not five.
00:09:17.000 Oh, 15, 15, 15, 15.
00:09:19.000 15, okay.
00:09:20.000 14.
00:09:21.000 14.
00:09:22.000 14.
00:09:23.000 Mine's one.
00:09:24.000 One, really?
00:09:25.000 I have a boyfriend.
00:09:26.000 Okay, okay.
00:09:27.000 For a long time.
00:09:28.000 You know what's crazy?
00:09:29.000 You guys are the most honest.
00:09:30.000 We're like, everyone else have asked virgin.
00:09:31.000 I'm a virgin.
00:09:32.000 Why do you care? 1.00
00:09:33.000 I don't give a shit. 0.99
00:09:34.000 Do you know what I mean? 0.99
00:09:36.000 The only reason I ask is because if it doesn't matter, then everyone should just say it.
00:09:39.000 Yeah, 100%.
00:09:40.000 And that's why I hesitated a bit because I was like, oh my God.
00:09:43.000 But then it's like, do you actually care?
00:09:45.000 Like, if it doesn't matter, like why?
00:09:47.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:48.000 It makes no difference to my life.
00:09:49.000 It doesn't change me as a person.
00:09:51.000 Like, it has nothing to do with my personality or anything.
00:09:53.000 So, devil's advocate.
00:09:55.000 Do you think that sex is different for men and for women in like the way we experience
00:09:59.000 sex?
00:10:00.000 So like, we have to have more of an emotional connection with a guy?
00:10:02.000 I wouldn't say much of an emotional connection.
00:10:04.000 I say it's different in the sense of like amounts of effort that are put in.
00:10:08.000 And I think a lot of the industry and like the sexual industry is based around a man's pleasure and not a woman's. 0.95
00:10:14.000 And like there was a statistic and it was like literally 65% of women. 1.00
00:10:19.000 I'm just saying ballpark here.
00:10:20.000 I can't remember it.
00:10:21.000 But they were like, they watch lesbian because it's based around like women's pleasure. 0.72
00:10:25.000 So people get off easy to it.
00:10:27.000 Like most of the marketing is geared towards women, not men.
00:10:29.000 So not for corn, you're correct.
00:10:31.000 Like for the corn is definitely geared towards men, but 70 to 80% of consumer buying decisions are made by women.
00:10:37.000 Like women have more debt, even though they make less money because we spend more money than men do by and large. 0.99
00:10:42.000 So like society actually isn't really geared towards men.
00:10:45.000 It's geared towards women. 0.57
00:10:46.000 So like, that's why we have like, like plus size models, for example, like men typically like they date smaller girls.
00:10:52.000 You're like, just by and large.
00:10:53.000 Right.
00:10:54.000 Not trying to, you know, but like that's for the women. 1.00
00:10:56.000 It's not for the men.
00:10:57.000 Yeah.
00:10:58.000 Well, I think women want that as well. 1.00
00:10:59.000 Like women want to see that you don't want to go and buy an item of clothing that's shown on like a size four model because you don't know how it's going to look on your body type. 1.00
00:11:06.000 Yeah.
00:11:07.000 So I think the brands that show like, say even just three different body types, it's like so much better because at least people know what kind of ballpark they're going to, especially with buying online and how big it's become.
00:11:18.000 No, you're right.
00:11:19.000 But like the only point I was making is that it's geared for women. 0.96
00:11:22.000 It's not geared for men.
00:11:23.000 So like a lot of times we'll say like we're in a patriarchy where everything's like geared towards men, but it's not because women are spending the money.
00:11:29.000 Yeah.
00:11:30.000 Which we don't even have because there's a gender pay gap in the first place. 1.00
00:11:33.000 It's like, ah.
00:11:34.000 That's a whole other con ball.
00:11:36.000 I know it's closing, but you know.
00:11:38.000 Yeah.
00:11:39.000 No, it's like based on the industries we pick.
00:11:41.000 Yeah.
00:11:42.000 So like women pick jobs that make less money, like by and large. 1.00
00:11:45.000 Like for example, do you want to be a plumber?
00:11:46.000 No.
00:11:47.000 No.
00:11:48.000 A thousand bodies is too many bodies for someone you want to date.
00:11:50.000 Like if they said a thousand, would you be cool?
00:11:52.000 A thousand?
00:11:53.000 I'd just be shocked. 0.99
00:11:54.000 I'd be like, how the fuck do you have the time to sleep with all these people? 0.99
00:11:57.000 You must be sleeping with like one person a day and different people all the time. 0.99
00:12:00.000 Like just how do you have the time in your personal space?
00:12:02.000 Yeah.
00:12:03.000 I just think as long as you're up to date with your sexual health and as long as you care
00:12:06.000 about your body and care about the people you are sleeping with and have respect for
00:12:09.000 them, I don't care how many people you've slept with as long as you just have respect
00:12:13.000 for my sexual health on your own.
00:12:15.000 That's it.
00:12:16.000 A thousand you'd be chilling. 1.00
00:12:17.000 A thousand I'd just be like, what the fuck? 1.00
00:12:20.000 Like how on earth could you possibly get to that point? 0.99
00:12:23.000 That would be my only reservation.
00:12:25.000 But I'd be like, look, have you been to the clinic?
00:12:28.000 Like, do you, you know, look after yourself?
00:12:30.000 If you look after yourself, I don't care who you've slept with, how many people, whatever,
00:12:34.000 as long as you're, you know, just respectful of us in like an intimate space.
00:12:38.000 Okay.
00:12:39.000 That's it.
00:12:40.000 No, I agree.
00:12:41.000 I don't think like for me, it's not really a factor that I consider.
00:12:43.000 If I'm in a relationship, like as long as I'm like the only person, that's fine.
00:12:48.000 What they did in the past, like it's their body.
00:12:50.000 It's their life. 1.00
00:12:51.000 They could do what the fuck they want. 1.00
00:12:52.000 Yeah. 0.99
00:12:53.000 I think, I don't think it'd be like a deal breaker, but again, I'd be shocked.
00:12:56.000 I probably question.
00:12:57.000 And I just think like, as well, it's also nobody else's business.
00:13:00.000 How many people you've slept with?
00:13:02.000 I think the person that you're sleeping with that's new, their only business with you is 0.77
00:13:06.000 to be like, well, are you like, are you within sexual health or are you sexually ill in that sense? 0.79
00:13:12.000 Yeah.
00:13:13.000 I don't think it's anyone's business to even ask you like, how many people have you slept
00:13:17.000 with?
00:13:18.000 Because like you're, that's a new partner.
00:13:19.000 Like you shouldn't be talking about past sexual experience.
00:13:21.000 I mean, you can talk about past sexual experience.
00:13:23.000 I always, I always ask.
00:13:24.000 I always ask.
00:13:25.000 But like, it's like the only thing I'd ask someone is like, have you got anything?
00:13:29.000 Are you sexually safe?
00:13:30.000 You know, whatever.
00:13:31.000 And like, I would never be like, oh, how many people have you slept with? 0.99
00:13:34.000 That's disgusting. 0.93
00:13:35.000 You know what I mean? 0.75
00:13:36.000 When I'm asking, like, I ask a guy that sometimes.
00:13:39.000 But the reason I do is because I'm trying to gauge if he's ready to settle down.
00:13:42.000 Yeah.
00:13:43.000 Because to me, like, I really want to get married and have a family.
00:13:46.000 And like, if a dude's slept with a thousand girls, I'm like, I'm going to be a thousand 0.97
00:13:49.000 and one and lock you down.
00:13:51.000 Yeah.
00:13:52.000 Honestly, like I was single for a really long time and I'm just really picky with relationships.
00:13:56.000 So like, I should be.
00:13:57.000 Yeah, exactly.
00:13:58.000 And like, everyone was just kind of like, and there was a lot of boys that were like, oh,
00:14:02.000 she sleeps around. 0.98
00:14:03.000 And I don't even like sleep around that much based on like, say the general population.
00:14:08.000 Not that I care if I did, but they were kind of like, oh, well, she like, it's almost
00:14:12.000 like the connotation that you'll cheat on them because you're sexually active.
00:14:15.000 Yeah.
00:14:16.000 And it's like faithfulness in a relationship has no correlation to how many people you've
00:14:21.000 slept with, like within, you know.
00:14:23.000 But divorce rate does. 1.00
00:14:25.000 Really?
00:14:26.000 Yeah.
00:14:27.000 Yeah.
00:14:28.000 It's like if a girl's a virgin, she has an 80% chance of a happy marriage. 0.80
00:14:30.000 Where if she slept with more than five, it drops to 25%. 0.60
00:14:33.000 But also men too, they don't talk about this, but like men, like the, the longest, the best
00:14:38.000 results are when both are virgins.
00:14:39.000 Is that not the sense of like kind of the science of it when it's like, did it say it releases
00:14:44.000 like oxytocin or something like that.
00:14:46.000 And then you become like attached to that person.
00:14:49.000 So if you're a virgin and you marry someone and then they take a virginity, like you have 0.52
00:14:53.000 that like mental attachment literally through science.
00:14:57.000 Yes.
00:14:58.000 So that's my only explanation for it.
00:15:00.000 Well, I think it's the psychology of choice.
00:15:02.000 Yeah.
00:15:03.000 Like if you'd slept with a hundred guys, like you're, you're going to, there's going
00:15:06.000 to be a lot of them that you liked.
00:15:07.000 Yeah.
00:15:08.000 And so it's like when you with the new guy, like you can't help but compare in some
00:15:11.000 way.
00:15:12.000 People act like they don't, but like, I'm sorry.
00:15:14.000 You're, you're going.
00:15:15.000 I think it's also good to have a comparison though, because you kind of, as you're going
00:15:18.000 along and as you're growing up and as you're with different people, like you get to know
00:15:22.000 what you like and what you deserve as well, which is I think is really important.
00:15:26.000 Yeah.
00:15:27.000 And like, you know, like the kind of personality you want.
00:15:29.000 And like, it's not even down to like, a lot of the time it's not, for me, it's not
00:15:32.000 a down to like attractiveness or anything.
00:15:34.000 Cause like somebody, we could be absolutely gorgeous and be boring or not have the same
00:15:39.000 music taste as me or not like the same events as me.
00:15:41.000 And like, do you know what I mean?
00:15:43.000 I'd rather go for someone that I'm necessarily not like, Oh my God, I love you. 0.99
00:15:47.000 Like you're so attractive, but more like, Oh my God, you have a sick personality.
00:15:52.000 You're really funny. 0.87
00:15:53.000 You're like the same events me, the same music as me.
00:15:55.000 Like we're going to have so much fun and you know, I'm curious, how old are you?
00:15:59.000 21.
00:16:00.000 Okay.
00:16:01.000 Okay.
00:16:02.000 I hear that from girls when they say that usually they're like 27, 28, where they like, 0.90
00:16:06.000 don't want the, like the bad boys anymore.
00:16:08.000 Like the hot guys.
00:16:09.000 But I'm just, so you're, you're, you're early.
00:16:11.000 I'm over it.
00:16:12.000 Like I'm bored.
00:16:13.000 Like I don't mind a bad boy if it's not going to be a long-term thing. 0.99
00:16:16.000 Cause then I'm like, I don't have to deal with your shit. 1.00
00:16:19.000 They don't make good boyfriends. 1.00
00:16:20.000 Yeah.
00:16:21.000 And I'm like, I don't care about a bad boy.
00:16:23.000 Like I'll sleep with them.
00:16:24.000 But if they're like, Oh, do you want to go on a date?
00:16:26.000 I'm like, no, like I can read you straight away.
00:16:29.000 And I know exactly what kind of person you're like without being judgmental,
00:16:32.000 but how they speak and how they act.
00:16:34.000 I'm like, this is not going to be a relationship.
00:16:36.000 I'm curious.
00:16:37.000 Would you sleep with a bad boy quicker than you would sleep with a nice guy?
00:16:41.000 It depends.
00:16:42.000 Like a guy that you want to date.
00:16:43.000 It depends like personality wise.
00:16:46.000 I like sleeping on the first date.
00:16:47.000 I don't care.
00:16:48.000 Cause it takes this big discourse about like women sleeping with someone on the first date. 0.89
00:16:52.000 And it's like, Oh, you're not desirable anymore.
00:16:54.000 But it's like, it takes two to tango.
00:16:55.000 The man's also set with somebody on the first date.
00:16:57.000 Like, does it matter?
00:16:59.000 Like, Oh, as if I turn around and be like, Oh, you set me on the first date. 0.92
00:17:02.000 What the hell? 0.95
00:17:03.000 At the end of the day, sex is such a natural thing. 0.98
00:17:06.000 Like if you want to, if you're like on a date with someone, you're having such a good time and you get to that stage.
00:17:12.000 Why not?
00:17:13.000 Because the end of the day, if you want to be together, you're going to end up having sex along the line.
00:17:17.000 So why does it matter the amount of time?
00:17:19.000 Like that's, I mean, that's one like trade of thought I've heard a lot of people say is because like, it's like, he's either going to stay or go after you sleep with him.
00:17:26.000 So it's like, I don't care.
00:17:28.000 Yeah.
00:17:29.000 But then at the same time, it's like, you also don't know him that well.
00:17:32.000 So like, I don't know.
00:17:34.000 Yeah.
00:17:35.000 I think I've never slept with a total stranger.
00:17:38.000 I've met people even on dating apps, but like we've had mutual friends.
00:17:42.000 So like out of a point of safety, maybe if I completely didn't know someone, I wouldn't sleep with him.
00:17:48.000 But only out of a point of safety, not out of a point of being like, Oh, I slept with him on the first date.
00:17:52.000 That's the only reason.
00:17:53.000 Like I've literally only like kind of say gone back after a first day with people that like, I know have mutual friends with me.
00:18:01.000 And I know that they're like, fine.
00:18:02.000 I've asked my friends about the mutual friends.
00:18:04.000 If he tries to steal you, like they'll know where you were.
00:18:06.000 Like you have to think about that.
00:18:08.000 If I met a random guy on a date, I'd be like, Oh yeah, maybe we'll chat a bit more.
00:18:12.000 And then I'll let you know my address. 0.99
00:18:13.000 But until then, fuck no. 0.98
00:18:15.000 You know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform. 0.94
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