JustPearlyThings - October 11, 2023


This White Lady Gets DISMANTLED for Insulting Africans


Episode Stats

Length

41 minutes

Words per Minute

231.02806

Word Count

9,681

Sentence Count

824

Misogynist Sentences

42

Hate Speech Sentences

54


Summary

In this episode, I sit down with a group of friends to discuss some of the most common myths and misconceptions about African people. We talk about the differences between living in Africa and other developing nations, and how they impact our mental and physical health.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I'm healthier than most people I see walking around, even though I come from where I come from.
00:00:03.900 So the fact that you guys have this narrative of just because people are from Africa, they are not healthy, or they have...
00:00:09.480 I didn't say that. I didn't say just because...
00:00:11.360 It's weird.
00:00:11.860 Okay, I didn't say just because you're in Africa, you're automatically going to live an unhealthier life.
00:00:15.760 That's not what I said.
00:00:16.900 What I said is that there are African countries who have a lower quality of life, and not just African...
00:00:22.600 What I'll tell you is the places that have what you're speaking about are usually the minority.
00:00:26.920 It's not the majority.
00:00:27.740 You put it out as if it's something that's afflicting Africa.
00:00:32.220 Okay, and also your point was on mental health that, you know, these people are unhappier.
00:00:37.580 Well, I'm saying mental and physical.
00:00:39.460 It's actually the mental health point I'm actually trying to tackle.
00:00:42.500 The health one is completely false, but the mental health one is very laughable because there are more mad people in America than you find in Africa.
00:00:50.380 I can guarantee you that.
00:00:51.760 Okay.
00:00:52.180 You have people walking down the street, shooting people, going into school, shooting.
00:00:55.920 Things like that don't happen in Africa.
00:00:57.040 People don't just carry guns and start shooting up a school in Africa.
00:01:00.540 Do you think crime doesn't happen in Africa?
00:01:02.840 No, crime happens, but think about it.
00:01:06.180 What kind of madness do you have to have for you to pick up a gun and walk into a school with children and shoot up a school?
00:01:11.140 Yeah, there's definitely different types of madness.
00:01:13.580 Wait, has that ever happened in America?
00:01:15.300 It doesn't happen in Africa, bro.
00:01:16.360 Has that ever happened in Africa?
00:01:17.920 Has anyone, have you heard about shootings in Africa?
00:01:19.740 Someone walking into a school to shoot up a school with children?
00:01:23.000 Um, the main argument that I was...
00:01:25.260 Also, do people in Africa suddenly wake up and decide that they want to be a different gender?
00:01:29.960 Okay.
00:01:30.620 I don't think that happens.
00:01:31.680 Trying to go back to the main argument.
00:01:33.260 I think, um, what I was trying to say is that, yeah, developing nations tend to have, like, worse outcomes physically.
00:01:40.660 Um, I would say mentally as well.
00:01:42.500 That doesn't mean every single person has mental health issues or that, you know, it's all one or another.
00:01:47.080 I'm just saying that when you're in a less developed nation, you tend to have, like, a worse quality of life overall.
00:01:51.900 And I think that's messed up.
00:01:53.480 What makes a good quality of life?
00:01:55.740 Um, access to basic necessities, lower risk of, um, what is it?
00:02:00.280 So, like, money?
00:02:01.700 Like, food and water.
00:02:03.040 Okay, but you know what's interesting what you don't say?
00:02:05.680 A stable family?
00:02:07.300 I mean, I would agree with that, sure.
00:02:09.220 I think that's the most important thing.
00:02:10.920 Because I know rich kids that literally are so messed up mentally because their parents, like, didn't care.
00:02:18.140 Yeah, for sure.
00:02:18.800 So, it's, like, like, to me, like, the most important thing, like, kids need is parents.
00:02:23.020 Yeah.
00:02:23.220 I think that's, like, above access to all the stuff you're talking about.
00:02:26.760 I genuinely, like, think that the most messed up thing you can do to a kid is not have parents.
00:02:32.020 Yeah.
00:02:32.360 And I would, or I would respond with that, that one of the things that makes it hardest to have a stable family unit is being in poverty and not having access to those supplies.
00:02:42.660 And there's been, like, a couple of, like, studies about this that, yeah, guess what?
00:02:45.960 When you help get people out of poverty, when people are moved out of poverty, their home life situation improves because they're less stressed.
00:02:52.720 They can take more time to focus on the kids, to nurture them, instead of having to worry about, like, okay, where am I going to get clean water?
00:03:00.080 Where am I going to get good food?
00:03:01.080 I think, I think, but then why, why, why when the quality of life has gone up in the last hundred years have you seen more divorces?
00:03:08.080 That doesn't make any sense.
00:03:09.400 Like, 90, 90% of people were married 100 years ago.
00:03:12.240 Life was a lot harder now then.
00:03:14.420 But here's the thing.
00:03:15.180 She's conflicting, she's conflicting places that probably have issues that come from either war with normal African places.
00:03:23.980 So, for instance, the point I'm trying to make is, if you go to any village in Nigeria, you'll find way more healthy people than you'll find in America.
00:03:32.480 You'll see people that live until they're 90 because they eat natural food, they farm their food, they know that, they get their medicine straight from the ground.
00:03:41.220 They don't take drugs.
00:03:42.580 They don't take all of that.
00:03:43.940 You see people that understand, in Africa, you have people that they call herbalists.
00:03:47.860 These are medical doctors that, you call them medical doctors in the West, but there, we call them native doctors that understand plants that can heal your headaches, heal your menstrual issues, heal your fertility issues without having to go to a hospital.
00:04:03.100 And you find all these people there in Africa, and they live a very high quality of life because they don't have the problems of the Western world.
00:04:09.820 Can you, wait, wait, like, for example.
00:04:12.120 And they find solutions to most of the problems you think are problems.
00:04:15.160 For instance, you were saying something about dirty water.
00:04:17.860 You look at it as dirty water because you probably went to a place where there is water on.
00:04:22.080 Literally, they go to the river, fetch their water, go home and boil it.
00:04:25.880 So you're saying dirty water as if they're just going to pick up the water from the ground and drink it straight from there.
00:04:30.640 These people understand these things.
00:04:32.400 They've had systems that they have developed over centuries.
00:04:35.960 Just because they don't do it the way the Western people do it doesn't mean that they are wrong or you guys are better.
00:04:40.720 I have two things to say.
00:04:42.060 I would love it if you could give me the name of, like, these villages that have, like, a higher, you know, longevity of life compared to Western countries.
00:04:49.940 Like, that would be cool.
00:04:51.420 So that way I can, like, research it myself and I could see and learn more.
00:04:54.640 So if you can give me a list, that would be awesome.
00:04:56.500 She's on to you, King.
00:04:58.500 No, no.
00:04:59.060 I don't have to give you a, literally just search Nigeria and search any state you want to search and just look.
00:05:04.660 You can find information online.
00:05:06.040 Look for any state in Nigeria and look for a village.
00:05:08.580 Okay.
00:05:09.580 And then the second thing I would say is that you can boil water to make it cleaner in certain circumstances.
00:05:15.620 But there's other circumstances where, you know, a lot of people, the way that they get their water is from the ground, right?
00:05:21.100 And what happens sometimes is that depending on, like, the mineral composition of that area, it could be very salty.
00:05:27.340 So you can't really boil salt out of water, which makes the water, like, very hard to drink and makes it, like, kind of bad to drink.
00:05:33.980 This is the problem.
00:05:34.760 You're speaking about this from a Western point of view.
00:05:37.480 The people that are indigenous to those places know where to get their water from, not because they just happen to stumble on some...
00:05:44.260 Yeah, no.
00:05:44.880 The Waiyuanaki knew...
00:05:46.100 They've had generations of upon generations because most of them are indigenous to the place.
00:05:51.420 They know where they get their good water from.
00:05:53.200 They know where they get the water where it will probably be poisonous to you.
00:05:56.320 They're not just stomping into whatever ground to pick up whatever water.
00:05:59.840 I know.
00:06:00.260 But even then, like, the Waiyuanaki people still struggled because that was a problem.
00:06:04.120 Like, even though they knew where to get clean water, it was still, like, a limited supply.
00:06:07.980 So they had to get it from other sources as well.
00:06:10.180 But that's what I said.
00:06:10.580 That is just a minority.
00:06:11.920 You can't use that as a blanket to say, well, that means African people and Colombians are all suffering and they're all poisoned.
00:06:19.120 You can't say that about yours as well.
00:06:23.420 You're saying, like, oh, no, like, this is how the majority of people live.
00:06:26.420 And I feel like we would need, like, datas or studies.
00:06:28.760 No, because the majority of people in Nigeria actually live really good average lives.
00:06:33.320 Okay, well, I'm talking about Africa as a whole.
00:06:35.680 They have access.
00:06:36.260 No, my point is the majority of people in Africa live in cities.
00:06:41.360 We have cities in Africa just the way you have in America.
00:06:43.720 Yeah, sure.
00:06:44.560 The villages are there, obviously.
00:06:46.940 But most people live in cities just like we have skyscrapers.
00:06:51.160 We have elevators.
00:06:51.940 Yeah, absolutely.
00:06:53.120 Yeah.
00:06:53.320 Well, you didn't sound like you knew that, but I'm just trying to make sure that you did.
00:06:56.960 Well, yeah, what I was trying to convey is that, you know, you have global poverty in a lot of places in Africa, India, China, South America.
00:07:05.740 Like, I'm not trying to say, like, oh, Africa is the only place that has poverty.
00:07:08.620 Of course not.
00:07:09.260 I know that there's people who live a great quality of life there.
00:07:12.220 What I'm trying to say is that, hey, global poverty is a thing.
00:07:15.920 People are living lives that could be better, that could be improved, and we should try to do that.
00:07:20.640 But why do we assume Western is better?
00:07:24.120 I don't assume Western is better.
00:07:25.860 I assume access to basic supplies is better.
00:07:28.620 Yeah, so, sorry, yeah, I would just listen to this.
00:07:31.080 And as an African Cameroon, I wasn't born in this country.
00:07:34.240 Shout out to King Nigerian.
00:07:36.040 Shout out to, obviously, all the Africans.
00:07:38.280 Shout out to Vic as well, another Cameroonian brother.
00:07:40.140 So I think you're talking about this from a very Western way of looking at it.
00:07:43.020 I think it's quite offensive as well, how you're speaking.
00:07:45.440 It is not for us to tell you what the percentage of African countries that are living in.
00:07:50.000 It's for you to say, because you're coming out with a very brown statement right now.
00:07:53.400 We don't need to prove anything.
00:07:54.680 You need to prove what you're talking about.
00:07:56.200 And it seems that you have a very, very minute specimen and data to come from.
00:08:02.380 And you're talking about little tribes in South America.
00:08:04.660 That's not Africa.
00:08:05.900 No, I didn't just say.
00:08:06.980 No, no, wait, let me carry on.
00:08:08.240 So the reason why I'm saying this is because America as a whole,
00:08:11.780 there's parts of America that are literally like a third world country.
00:08:14.160 You have people, you have crack epidemics, you have, what's the other one?
00:08:18.720 What's that one they got?
00:08:19.780 Fentanyl.
00:08:20.240 Fentanyl.
00:08:20.640 All these types of things, right?
00:08:21.880 And to come out here and to speak and to say to somebody like King,
00:08:25.000 who came from nothing literally and is here now, you know,
00:08:28.800 as a producer of the Just Purley show,
00:08:30.480 how did he do that if he was struggling, if he was skinny?
00:08:32.960 How did he do that?
00:08:33.980 So this, I find it quite offensive.
00:08:36.800 I'll be honest with you.
00:08:37.700 Because in order for you to say these things,
00:08:39.580 you need to have data and you don't have data.
00:08:42.480 And when we ask you, it's kind of like, well, you know,
00:08:45.480 you tell me the countries.
00:08:46.620 No, you tell me the countries.
00:08:48.340 Because Africa is not, see, when people speak about Africa,
00:08:51.720 it's not a monolith.
00:08:52.320 Africa is a continent.
00:08:53.720 It's made up of so many different countries, right?
00:08:55.860 And let me speak about R.P.
00:08:58.440 R.P. Gaddafi.
00:08:59.620 See, Gaddafi.
00:09:00.120 Gaddafi was a great man, a very great man, Colonel Gaddafi.
00:09:03.360 Libya used to be, we used to fly through Tripoli,
00:09:05.860 we used to fly through Afriki Airlines to Cameroon.
00:09:08.200 Libya was a very, very developed country.
00:09:11.860 You know, none of the residents needed to pretty much do anything.
00:09:15.180 They used to, Gaddafi used to pay for a lot.
00:09:16.920 Gaddafi wanted to have a central Africa,
00:09:19.860 kind of like United States of America.
00:09:21.520 He also wanted to put a pipe through Africa
00:09:22.780 to run water across Africa.
00:09:25.200 The other nation didn't like this.
00:09:26.800 And they started a war in Africa.
00:09:28.280 And obviously now Libya destabilized.
00:09:30.260 And obviously, like, to the outside world,
00:09:32.160 you guys will think that Libya was, Libya was a war zone.
00:09:35.020 But Libya was never a war zone.
00:09:36.220 Libya was a beautiful place.
00:09:37.060 Now Libya's a war zone, and now they're trading their slaves.
00:09:39.700 And the reason why I say this is because
00:09:40.980 America has so much influence in Africa.
00:09:43.660 And you guys, and literally Africa is the backbone
00:09:46.000 to the modern society.
00:09:47.800 So when you speak like this,
00:09:49.260 it's quite offensive,
00:09:50.040 because we couldn't even be doing this show right now
00:09:51.940 without Africa.
00:09:52.760 You couldn't be using your phone without Africa.
00:09:54.600 You couldn't be using the computer we're using without Africa.
00:09:56.720 Africa is the bloodline of the world.
00:10:00.120 So when you speak, just get a little bit more education.
00:10:02.620 And if you want to speak about countries,
00:10:04.440 make sure you say some names.
00:10:05.800 Okay, I can pull up my phone right now.
00:10:07.660 Like, I'm feeling...
00:10:08.540 Please, please do, please do.
00:10:09.300 Okay, sure.
00:10:09.820 I'll pull up, like, the global poverty index.
00:10:11.740 But by the way, I just want to make it really clear.
00:10:14.120 I think it's insane that people are saying,
00:10:15.820 oh, access to basic food and water is a Western concept.
00:10:18.960 I think that's something that all nations strive for.
00:10:21.280 No, no, Western concept.
00:10:21.880 And wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:10:22.720 Let me add on top of that.
00:10:24.500 You guys asked me to name some places that have poverty.
00:10:28.440 I said some countries in Africa.
00:10:30.300 Obviously, Africa isn't the only place that has poverty.
00:10:33.080 Okay?
00:10:33.460 Like, I never said that.
00:10:34.680 I feel like you guys are twisting my words.
00:10:36.200 I know you guys are twisting my words.
00:10:36.900 Why was that your first thing to say?
00:10:38.680 Your go-to.
00:10:39.260 What was your first thing to say?
00:10:40.340 Because at least to my understanding and to my knowledge,
00:10:42.820 there are high rates of poverty in certain countries there
00:10:45.420 that are war-torn.
00:10:46.440 And yeah, a lot of it has been because of European
00:10:48.600 and United States influence in the past.
00:10:50.560 I'm not denying that.
00:10:51.500 I would never deny that.
00:10:53.220 But then I followed with the countries in South America.
00:10:56.340 India and China have also really high rates of poverty.
00:10:59.000 Like, I'm sorry if I came across saying like,
00:11:01.440 oh, no, just Africa, because that wasn't my full sentence
00:11:04.380 and that wasn't my full sentiment.
00:11:06.020 The point I was trying to get across is, yeah,
00:11:07.880 there's a lot of nations around the world that are poor.
00:11:10.400 And that sucks.
00:11:11.300 I think you attach.
00:11:12.260 You attach.
00:11:12.960 So see, what King was saying about Africa
00:11:14.760 has a big sense of family, family unit,
00:11:17.500 and that's what we promote over there.
00:11:18.680 So it seems to be a Western thing
00:11:20.260 where you attach monetary value of how happy you are.
00:11:22.980 And this is why we come here, people work so much.
00:11:25.680 They get, you know, they go get the mortgage,
00:11:27.340 they go get the kid, you know, they get the finance.
00:11:29.500 They get all of these things and they feel suffocated
00:11:31.120 because they were told that this is what's supposed
00:11:32.760 to make you happy.
00:11:33.780 But come to Africa and you're going to see people,
00:11:35.940 you're going to see kids literally just walking down the road
00:11:37.980 and playing with sticks
00:11:38.660 and they're going to be way more happier than you.
00:11:40.020 Do you know why?
00:11:40.520 Because it's quality of living versus what you think it is.
00:11:43.640 So you're talking about boiling water.
00:11:45.980 People do that every single day.
00:11:47.840 People do that every single day.
00:11:49.140 But to you, it seems like, wow, how could they do that?
00:11:51.900 Their life must be so hard.
00:11:53.400 I couldn't believe you said that.
00:11:54.740 If you don't have access to health,
00:11:56.040 that means basically you have mental health.
00:11:58.580 That's crazy to me.
00:11:59.420 No, I'm saying there are higher correlations.
00:12:02.500 No way, because that means...
00:12:03.520 I'm sorry.
00:12:05.200 You're pretending like if access or lack of access
00:12:07.780 doesn't add stress to your life.
00:12:09.380 You're talking about stress.
00:12:10.880 Everyone has stress versus a mental health condition.
00:12:14.020 That's completely different.
00:12:14.880 No, stress absolutely affects your mental health.
00:12:16.880 This is well documented.
00:12:18.680 It's not cause.
00:12:19.600 You're talking about correlation versus cause.
00:12:20.940 So what I'm talking about is,
00:12:22.100 end of the day is,
00:12:23.100 across the world, people have stress.
00:12:25.460 People are poor everywhere.
00:12:27.080 People are poor.
00:12:28.100 Come around London.
00:12:29.780 I'll show you some poor people too.
00:12:31.400 Yeah, and the more stressed you are
00:12:34.200 because of those situations,
00:12:35.540 the harder it is to deal
00:12:37.120 and to create a healthy family dynamic.
00:12:39.220 I'm not saying it's impossible.
00:12:40.800 It's definitely not impossible.
00:12:42.620 I never said that.
00:12:43.920 But I am saying like,
00:12:45.000 hey, yeah, it is hard to maintain a happy family
00:12:47.620 when your family's struggling in general
00:12:49.760 to get basic food or supplies.
00:12:52.080 This is what I was saying.
00:12:52.660 You literally don't know where you're speaking.
00:12:53.560 You're speaking from a Western perspective.
00:12:55.060 No, I'm speaking from facts.
00:12:56.340 I'm sorry.
00:12:57.040 That's not Western.
00:12:58.140 Do you have a big family?
00:13:00.040 Yes, I have a big family.
00:13:01.100 Do you have any people in your family?
00:13:01.700 Absolutely.
00:13:02.420 At least 17 first cousins.
00:13:04.380 I'm Hispanic.
00:13:05.360 I'm talking about your immediate family.
00:13:07.480 Siblings, direct siblings.
00:13:08.540 Okay.
00:13:08.900 How many siblings do you have?
00:13:09.760 I have a, what is it?
00:13:11.420 Mom, dad, and brother.
00:13:13.020 But I consider...
00:13:13.940 Dude, I'm sorry, but Hispanic...
00:13:16.880 No, now I'm going to tell you about my culture.
00:13:18.640 I'm going to tell you about Hispanic culture.
00:13:20.180 I'm trying to make a point about Hispanic culture.
00:13:20.700 Okay, the point that I'm trying to make
00:13:22.380 is that when you say,
00:13:23.340 oh, direct family is the only thing that matters.
00:13:25.460 That's bullshit.
00:13:26.220 I never said direct family is the only thing that matters.
00:13:27.180 Okay, then why are you being like,
00:13:28.520 oh, you know, like, how many direct siblings do you have?
00:13:31.660 I asked you for a reason, but you didn't let me land.
00:13:33.480 Okay.
00:13:33.800 I asked you for a reason.
00:13:34.540 Let me show that to you.
00:13:35.480 So, for instance, I would say,
00:13:37.500 obviously, the whole family thing
00:13:39.600 has started being destroyed all around the world.
00:13:41.820 It's just not even in the West.
00:13:42.820 It's not even affecting Africa.
00:13:44.100 My point is, our generation,
00:13:46.480 we live in a selfish generation.
00:13:48.660 Everybody's all about me, me, me.
00:13:50.420 If you go back two generations ago,
00:13:52.460 if you go to, like, for instance, my mom's generation,
00:13:54.720 my mom had 12 siblings.
00:13:57.360 Now, my mom came from a family that had 12 siblings.
00:14:01.700 There's no issue on earth that she could be going through
00:14:04.060 that she wouldn't have someone to go and speak to.
00:14:06.640 There's nothing she could have gone through,
00:14:09.460 no matter how stressful her life is,
00:14:10.900 that she wouldn't have someone in her corner
00:14:12.940 that she could speak to.
00:14:14.300 But now, what will you guys do?
00:14:15.280 You are sourced things that your family should do to you,
00:14:17.560 to, like, a therapist.
00:14:18.520 You are sourced to a doctor.
00:14:19.780 You are sourced to your friends.
00:14:20.920 You are sourced to all other people,
00:14:22.960 people that don't actually care about you.
00:14:24.980 And that is the culture that has been perpetrated in the West.
00:14:27.880 The point is, when you have families,
00:14:29.840 you literally have a place you can run to
00:14:32.720 in your time of need.
00:14:34.500 And these are people that you are sure,
00:14:36.280 at least for the most part,
00:14:37.820 that have your best interest at heart.
00:14:39.660 That was my point.
00:14:40.340 So when you say things like,
00:14:41.980 oh, it's hard to have a good family
00:14:43.740 when you guys are in poverty,
00:14:44.980 that's not true because I can literally point
00:14:46.880 to many people that are living in poverty
00:14:48.780 and they have tons of brothers and sisters
00:14:50.660 and they are all happy.
00:14:51.640 They all sleep in the same room.
00:14:53.060 They all sleep side by side with each other.
00:14:55.120 They all eat from the same plate
00:14:56.220 and they are all happy.
00:14:58.000 But you wouldn't know that
00:14:58.920 because obviously you think that
00:15:00.820 you have to have a certain amount of money
00:15:03.620 in your bank to be able to raise a family.
00:15:04.980 Can I say something?
00:15:06.040 Can I say something?
00:15:07.080 So my family, my dad is from Nepal,
00:15:10.580 which is a poor country in Asia.
00:15:12.480 So I understand what you're saying.
00:15:14.060 So for example, when we go there,
00:15:15.740 there's no clean water.
00:15:17.600 You can boil the water,
00:15:19.140 but then there's problems with that.
00:15:21.000 And so coming from a Western society
00:15:22.620 and then going and see how they live there,
00:15:24.480 it is hard for me to see how they're living like that.
00:15:27.660 And I understand what you're saying.
00:15:29.120 Like in terms of like access to health,
00:15:32.440 they say, for example,
00:15:33.220 yes, it's true that these people can have big families.
00:15:35.780 But in my family,
00:15:37.380 where there's lots and lots of people,
00:15:39.160 my grandmother had,
00:15:41.200 she lost two babies
00:15:42.280 because she had no access to health.
00:15:44.140 So like, I understand what everybody's saying,
00:15:46.740 but I also, I think that access to clean water,
00:15:50.440 access to healthcare,
00:15:51.360 where you can go to a doctor,
00:15:52.320 you can get help.
00:15:53.020 I'm not saying,
00:15:53.980 obviously I'm against like the general health society
00:15:56.900 where we're like go to pump drugs and all that stuff.
00:15:59.300 I'm not saying that,
00:16:00.260 but that does affect your life.
00:16:02.240 It doesn't, because like, for example,
00:16:04.460 my granddad taking care of all these kids,
00:16:07.200 you think he wasn't stressed.
00:16:08.240 You think their lives weren't hard.
00:16:09.440 Of course, yes, having a big family,
00:16:10.840 they had the support,
00:16:11.980 they had each other and they were happy.
00:16:13.920 And like, for example,
00:16:14.760 in Nepal, you go up to the mountains
00:16:16.080 and you go trekking.
00:16:17.300 Those people have nothing and they're happy.
00:16:19.620 But when there's a problem,
00:16:21.440 when somebody gets sick,
00:16:22.740 that person could die
00:16:23.760 because there's no doctor there.
00:16:25.800 So it goes both ways.
00:16:27.960 And I, like,
00:16:29.640 I think maybe what you said
00:16:30.560 it was taken out of potentially slightly out of context.
00:16:33.200 Like, I understand why everybody got upset
00:16:34.760 because it could be taken one way.
00:16:36.060 But the fact is that
00:16:37.460 having no access to health care is a problem.
00:16:40.360 That is a problem.
00:16:41.020 And it happens in this world.
00:16:42.960 Like,
00:16:43.300 Can I, can I,
00:16:44.100 let me give you a fact, right?
00:16:45.840 So,
00:16:46.680 I've never been to a hospital
00:16:48.380 for any illness my whole life.
00:16:50.260 And I grew up in the circumstances
00:16:51.400 you guys are speaking of.
00:16:52.720 I've never,
00:16:53.360 not for one illness,
00:16:54.840 not for nothing ever.
00:16:56.200 And I grew up in a village
00:16:58.120 with no running water,
00:16:59.560 no electricity.
00:17:00.360 We had to walk to the springs.
00:17:01.440 So if you look at this,
00:17:01.900 Vic, tell her, tell her.
00:17:02.600 If you look at these bottles of water
00:17:03.540 you're drinking,
00:17:04.280 any,
00:17:04.540 any water company,
00:17:05.620 what is it trying to show you
00:17:06.660 of why they put a price point in the water?
00:17:08.800 We got it from a spring.
00:17:09.960 You know where springs are?
00:17:11.280 Yeah, I know.
00:17:12.120 Exactly.
00:17:12.640 So naturally,
00:17:13.840 you should,
00:17:14.540 like what the brother was saying over there,
00:17:15.980 it's like,
00:17:16.800 naturally,
00:17:17.180 the people that are living
00:17:17.800 in this indigenous part,
00:17:19.420 they know how to source water
00:17:20.820 because I come from one of those villages.
00:17:22.280 So I think it's a dangerous assumption.
00:17:23.840 And I'll tell you why it's dangerous.
00:17:24.740 When I first came to England,
00:17:26.080 the representation of Africa
00:17:27.160 was this Oxfam adverts on TV
00:17:28.960 that everywhere in Africa,
00:17:30.460 that's how it is.
00:17:31.040 And I was like,
00:17:32.260 completely traumatized.
00:17:33.040 I know that's not what it is.
00:17:34.160 And having grown up here,
00:17:35.280 I'll be completely honest with you.
00:17:37.360 Yeah.
00:17:37.880 I grew up thinking Africa,
00:17:39.360 everyone lives in a mud hut.
00:17:40.920 No one has any.
00:17:41.640 Wow.
00:17:41.880 Because that's,
00:17:42.420 that's just,
00:17:42.780 no,
00:17:43.040 it's all right.
00:17:43.560 It's all right.
00:17:44.260 That's a stereotype.
00:17:46.540 That's a stereotype.
00:17:47.440 This is what's shown to us
00:17:48.620 and it's the truth of it.
00:17:49.820 And it's only through,
00:17:51.000 you know,
00:17:51.220 talking to people like,
00:17:52.420 for example,
00:17:52.780 working here,
00:17:53.240 speaking to people like King,
00:17:54.200 but I've,
00:17:54.560 I've learned,
00:17:55.760 I've seen our other producer,
00:17:58.060 Blessing has shown me like
00:17:59.700 places in Zimbabwe,
00:18:01.120 like they literally have houses
00:18:02.880 that look like what we would imagine
00:18:04.360 are five star hotels.
00:18:06.660 But we don't get shown that
00:18:07.880 because they want you to think,
00:18:09.620 oh,
00:18:09.820 in Africa,
00:18:10.640 like that they're all starving
00:18:11.900 and they're all struggling
00:18:13.000 and they could never possibly
00:18:14.440 be happy with that.
00:18:15.680 And I think that's the problem
00:18:17.000 is thinking that
00:18:17.860 they all have,
00:18:19.360 because they don't have
00:18:20.080 this standard of living.
00:18:20.880 I agree with you,
00:18:21.540 like not having access to health
00:18:22.800 is a bit of a different issue.
00:18:24.660 However,
00:18:25.880 to think that just because
00:18:27.500 they go through
00:18:28.120 all of these struggles
00:18:28.820 that we couldn't possibly get
00:18:30.360 in our ignorant Western lives,
00:18:31.940 we couldn't possibly understand that.
00:18:33.260 To think that just because
00:18:34.500 they have different issues
00:18:36.040 and stresses from us,
00:18:37.700 that they therefore
00:18:39.060 then have mental health problems
00:18:40.760 that probably aren't diagnosed.
00:18:42.180 Like,
00:18:42.900 no,
00:18:43.100 I think you're ignoring the fact
00:18:44.180 that we just overdiagnose,
00:18:45.340 we overdiagnose everything
00:18:47.040 in the West
00:18:47.580 because we just,
00:18:48.540 we like to make problems
00:18:49.580 because we have
00:18:50.360 our basic necessities met
00:18:51.740 so we make problems.
00:18:52.840 Well,
00:18:53.020 we're just a bunch of whiners
00:18:54.700 in the West.
00:18:55.500 Oh my God,
00:18:56.220 it's like complain about everything.
00:18:58.560 Yeah,
00:18:58.720 but at the same time,
00:18:59.560 like say for example,
00:19:00.500 somewhere like
00:19:01.080 a developing country,
00:19:05.060 something like,
00:19:06.280 for example,
00:19:06.780 postnatal depression
00:19:07.700 won't be recognized
00:19:08.840 because they don't have
00:19:10.100 that kind of mindset
00:19:11.280 when it comes to things.
00:19:12.160 So,
00:19:12.460 people will be suffering
00:19:13.820 in silence
00:19:14.280 and we can't just say
00:19:15.200 that those things
00:19:15.860 don't happen
00:19:16.280 and for example,
00:19:17.120 like say for example,
00:19:18.020 you said that you've never been,
00:19:19.200 you'd never been to a doctor
00:19:20.060 when you were living
00:19:20.560 in your village
00:19:21.040 and things like that
00:19:21.880 but women die in childbirth
00:19:24.940 because there's complications
00:19:26.580 and there's no one there.
00:19:28.000 Yeah,
00:19:28.080 but here's the issue though.
00:19:28.900 If you're going to bring up
00:19:29.560 isolated situations,
00:19:30.820 which obviously is very real
00:19:32.160 and it is happening,
00:19:33.360 right,
00:19:33.880 like make sure you specify
00:19:35.360 you're talking about
00:19:35.880 isolated incidents
00:19:36.580 but when you generalize
00:19:37.540 a statement,
00:19:38.640 that's the thing
00:19:39.280 I'm talking about.
00:19:39.860 So,
00:19:39.960 I understand like
00:19:40.700 there's an element
00:19:41.200 of trying to apply empathy
00:19:42.280 and I get that.
00:19:44.280 However,
00:19:45.400 there's also sensitivity
00:19:46.420 when you speak of these things
00:19:47.680 and say for example,
00:19:48.760 if you were speaking of it
00:19:49.540 and you said,
00:19:49.900 you know,
00:19:50.480 I've traveled around
00:19:51.160 15, 20 countries
00:19:52.180 and this is what,
00:19:52.900 this was my experience.
00:19:53.900 I can respect that
00:19:54.900 and accept that.
00:19:55.500 Okay,
00:19:55.620 that's my experience
00:19:56.300 that I'm trying to say to you.
00:19:57.560 But when you say
00:19:58.240 there's an element
00:19:59.180 of presumption and assumption
00:20:00.600 based on what the general thought is
00:20:03.220 or the general perspective.
00:20:04.600 Well,
00:20:04.760 I'll tell you why,
00:20:05.400 I only asked it
00:20:06.340 because what I found
00:20:07.320 is like people will go
00:20:08.360 on like three mission trips,
00:20:09.640 a couple mission trips
00:20:10.660 and then come back
00:20:11.640 with like the rest of the world
00:20:12.780 needs saving.
00:20:13.640 Oh,
00:20:14.180 okay,
00:20:14.780 wait,
00:20:14.960 wait,
00:20:15.120 wait.
00:20:16.420 Like I just find this phenomenon
00:20:18.360 because where I'm from
00:20:20.560 like people do that.
00:20:21.420 They go on a couple mission trips
00:20:22.660 and like be like,
00:20:23.560 but you know what,
00:20:24.080 yeah,
00:20:24.400 but you know what,
00:20:25.200 wait,
00:20:25.880 I'm taking a bit.
00:20:27.400 I just find this phenomenon.
00:20:30.320 I don't know.
00:20:30.720 But then I like talk to the people
00:20:32.460 like from this place
00:20:33.540 and they're like,
00:20:34.060 no,
00:20:34.300 we're okay.
00:20:35.200 But you know what it is,
00:20:36.880 yeah?
00:20:37.140 You know what it is?
00:20:37.620 They're like,
00:20:38.280 no,
00:20:38.420 no,
00:20:38.540 no,
00:20:38.620 they like build this stuff
00:20:39.940 for you to build
00:20:40.780 and then knock it down.
00:20:41.860 You know what it is?
00:20:43.360 See,
00:20:43.940 it's like,
00:20:44.480 it's like,
00:20:45.400 okay,
00:20:45.620 so how many,
00:20:46.940 we have like 200,000,
00:20:48.640 is it 200,000 years
00:20:49.820 of recorded human history,
00:20:50.960 right?
00:20:51.320 You guys have to understand
00:20:52.420 that people have been
00:20:53.680 given birth in caves.
00:20:55.120 Like,
00:20:55.400 there's a Western notion
00:20:56.780 that if you don't have
00:20:57.760 every single thing,
00:20:58.860 you're not going to be okay.
00:21:00.320 You do realize
00:21:00.880 in certain parts of the world,
00:21:02.380 we're not going to have
00:21:03.100 certain diseases
00:21:03.660 because we can't have
00:21:04.600 those diseases.
00:21:05.500 We haven't,
00:21:05.820 I'm not going to say
00:21:06.340 people can't be depressed,
00:21:07.280 but I promise you this,
00:21:08.020 depression is not going to be
00:21:08.780 the same way
00:21:09.240 because people have
00:21:09.960 to get to work.
00:21:10.780 There's no time to be depressed
00:21:11.780 when you have to feed.
00:21:12.520 Africa's not the same here.
00:21:13.800 You can have 10 kids over there.
00:21:15.360 If you can't feed them,
00:21:16.500 no one's going to give you a house.
00:21:17.620 No one's going to give you
00:21:18.100 no benefits.
00:21:19.180 It's not the same type
00:21:20.100 of things over there.
00:21:20.880 So,
00:21:21.540 is it,
00:21:21.860 so is it,
00:21:22.200 China,
00:21:23.420 nice to meet you.
00:21:25.400 What you're talking about,
00:21:27.020 what you thought of Africa
00:21:27.880 is when I went to school,
00:21:29.180 some people thought the same
00:21:30.280 because of the images
00:21:30.900 that got put in them.
00:21:32.220 So,
00:21:32.380 that's all you see.
00:21:33.340 That's all you can make.
00:21:33.800 That's fine.
00:21:34.280 But let me give you
00:21:34.920 slightly different,
00:21:35.960 like,
00:21:36.240 my upbringing,
00:21:37.980 so I came to this country
00:21:39.260 when I was probably about three,
00:21:40.620 like three and a half
00:21:41.280 or what have you know.
00:21:41.840 My dad was a diplomat
00:21:42.640 for the Cameron Embassy
00:21:43.440 and my dad is a professor
00:21:45.540 with two PhDs
00:21:46.620 and he's a very learned man.
00:21:50.360 He's a smart guy.
00:21:51.200 He's also a professor.
00:21:52.180 Yeah,
00:21:52.340 yeah,
00:21:52.520 yeah,
00:21:52.660 yeah.
00:21:52.980 He's also a doctor as well
00:21:54.220 and my mom's got a PhD as well.
00:21:56.640 I have three sisters,
00:21:57.980 a brother.
00:21:58.960 They're all educated,
00:22:00.200 all married,
00:22:00.560 all with a child,
00:22:01.100 right?
00:22:01.940 I grew up in a seven bedroom home.
00:22:03.400 My sister went to private school.
00:22:04.540 I had a very good upbringing.
00:22:06.240 And
00:22:07.320 if you really want to know
00:22:11.300 about Africa,
00:22:12.120 speak to Africans.
00:22:13.480 Like,
00:22:13.740 seriously,
00:22:14.220 it's okay not to know something
00:22:16.280 but to come on a platform
00:22:17.840 and to make a blanket statement
00:22:19.240 when you haven't,
00:22:20.400 because you haven't traveled
00:22:21.480 enough countries
00:22:22.080 to make a statement
00:22:22.780 and it's okay,
00:22:23.540 but it's ignorance.
00:22:24.300 Also,
00:22:24.600 okay,
00:22:24.820 wait,
00:22:25.080 wait,
00:22:25.100 wait,
00:22:25.500 wait,
00:22:25.520 wait,
00:22:25.700 wait,
00:22:26.120 wait,
00:22:26.740 wait,
00:22:26.860 wait,
00:22:26.960 wait,
00:22:27.460 wait,
00:22:27.640 wait,
00:22:27.960 wait,
00:22:28.060 can I just say something?
00:22:28.800 Can I just say something?
00:22:29.920 And the problem with ignorance
00:22:31.020 is when you meet the people
00:22:32.140 that are trying to educate on the matter,
00:22:33.460 you keep trying to interrupt.
00:22:34.580 You think you know more
00:22:35.760 than the African person
00:22:36.620 that was born in Africa
00:22:37.600 that grew up in Africa
00:22:38.520 that came here.
00:22:39.680 You have several Africans here
00:22:40.820 that are giving you
00:22:41.780 their experience.
00:22:42.920 You're not an adult.
00:22:43.500 We have three Africans here.
00:22:44.660 I literally moved here in 2019.
00:22:46.180 Yeah.
00:22:46.500 And he's looking all right.
00:22:49.960 He don't look like he's starving to me,
00:22:51.320 you know what I mean?
00:22:52.260 So it's like-
00:22:52.820 Wait,
00:22:53.040 no,
00:22:53.180 wait,
00:22:54.420 you guys are being very-
00:22:56.340 African.
00:22:56.940 Hey,
00:22:57.160 okay.
00:22:59.120 Because you don't want to listen.
00:23:00.580 No,
00:23:00.800 I am listening.
00:23:01.460 No,
00:23:01.620 you're not.
00:23:02.220 This is-
00:23:02.620 And this is-
00:23:03.160 Okay,
00:23:03.720 you know what?
00:23:04.080 This is bullshit,
00:23:04.840 honestly.
00:23:04.980 Of course it is.
00:23:05.600 No,
00:23:06.000 you can literally scroll back,
00:23:07.500 look at what I said
00:23:08.320 and see that you're trying to like
00:23:09.640 twist my words into this idea.
00:23:11.580 You're twisting my words.
00:23:12.900 You're not listening.
00:23:13.480 You prove my point.
00:23:14.460 Hey,
00:23:14.640 let me finish my sentence,
00:23:15.660 okay?
00:23:15.820 You can finish your sentence,
00:23:17.000 but I can't.
00:23:17.220 No,
00:23:17.320 you know what?
00:23:17.900 Wow.
00:23:18.020 I let you finish your sentence
00:23:19.220 multiple times.
00:23:19.960 You actually didn't.
00:23:20.620 Okay,
00:23:20.940 well,
00:23:21.440 right now I'm addressing to the people
00:23:22.740 who are actually listening.
00:23:23.880 Wow.
00:23:24.120 First,
00:23:24.280 I want to apologize.
00:23:25.900 I don't-
00:23:26.460 I didn't mean to come off as saying like,
00:23:28.160 oh,
00:23:28.460 all Africans are poor.
00:23:30.020 I didn't-
00:23:30.660 I thought it was general knowledge
00:23:32.120 that Africa has cities
00:23:33.340 and that,
00:23:33.980 you know,
00:23:34.500 not-
00:23:34.840 like it's not all a destitute place.
00:23:36.920 Like,
00:23:37.140 obviously it's not.
00:23:38.140 I didn't know that that's a
00:23:39.340 experience that you guys had
00:23:40.960 growing up here
00:23:41.640 or being here
00:23:42.320 that you got a lot of people
00:23:43.600 thinking that way.
00:23:45.660 I just want to state-
00:23:46.520 I just want to say something.
00:23:47.420 I've never heard something.
00:23:48.300 I'm not-
00:23:48.720 I'm not African.
00:23:49.420 I'm Caribbean.
00:23:49.780 I just feel like-
00:23:50.240 Oh,
00:23:50.320 don't do that.
00:23:50.920 Don't do that.
00:23:51.400 Don't do that.
00:23:52.400 Don't do that.
00:23:53.680 Don't-
00:23:54.160 I listen.
00:23:55.080 I listen.
00:23:55.700 I listen.
00:23:56.060 I feel like-
00:23:56.580 Can I just say something?
00:23:57.300 I feel like everything is ganging-
00:23:58.560 Everyone is ganging up on this girl
00:23:59.920 and I feel like it's unfair.
00:24:01.080 To be honest,
00:24:01.940 I feel like it's unfair
00:24:02.800 because I just looked at a statistic.
00:24:05.160 1.1 billion out of 6.1 billion people
00:24:08.220 in this world
00:24:09.160 live in acute,
00:24:10.500 multidimensional poverty
00:24:11.760 across 110 countries
00:24:13.300 and I feel like that's what she was trying to say
00:24:14.960 and it's just being taken out of context.
00:24:16.220 It's really unfair.
00:24:17.200 If that's what she said,
00:24:17.900 none of us would have said that.
00:24:19.060 That's not what she said.
00:24:19.860 You weren't listening to me.
00:24:21.120 Wow.
00:24:21.600 Did she not list other countries?
00:24:23.180 Did she not say other countries as well?
00:24:25.260 It's not fair.
00:24:26.300 She didn't just say-
00:24:27.000 Do you know what's not fair?
00:24:27.860 Do you know what's not fair?
00:24:28.620 Do you know what's not fair?
00:24:29.340 You have three African people here
00:24:30.920 that wasn't born in this country
00:24:32.200 that are giving you their experience
00:24:33.680 and you're choosing-
00:24:34.820 She said-
00:24:35.160 I just read a statistic.
00:24:36.140 She said Colombia.
00:24:37.600 Because she said she listed so many questions.
00:24:39.040 She said Colombia and Africa.
00:24:40.760 No, I said some African countries.
00:24:43.160 What ones?
00:24:43.660 Okay, I'm pretty sure Sudan, Ethiopia, I believe.
00:24:49.080 It's not this super out there idea.
00:24:52.880 As I said before,
00:24:54.860 there are countries in Africa,
00:24:56.360 obviously not all of them,
00:24:57.720 obviously not all of Africa,
00:24:59.580 that do suffer from poverty.
00:25:01.500 So is the countries in South America.
00:25:02.960 Do states in America suffer from poverty?
00:25:04.860 Yeah, but it's a different degree
00:25:06.160 and different level.
00:25:07.120 And the reason why it's a different level
00:25:08.320 is because it goes back to access
00:25:10.080 to basic health care.
00:25:11.440 But I think their point,
00:25:12.980 I think the point they're trying to make
00:25:14.500 is that a lot of it's like misrepresented
00:25:16.400 by the media.
00:25:17.860 And so they'll go to these places
00:25:19.380 and say they're living in this terrible,
00:25:21.360 terrible poverty.
00:25:22.660 And then they'll say,
00:25:23.980 well, no, we're not.
00:25:25.900 And then oftentimes,
00:25:27.640 like when they say that,
00:25:29.140 they're like, well, where are your studies?
00:25:30.580 And then they're like,
00:25:31.100 well, I'm from Africa.
00:25:33.080 Yeah.
00:25:33.280 You know what I'm saying?
00:25:33.820 So I think that's their point.
00:25:35.380 Yeah, I could tell.
00:25:36.020 It's not that like they don't have,
00:25:37.240 like there's certain things that,
00:25:39.000 you know,
00:25:39.520 but it's like it goes back to like
00:25:41.340 who has a lower standard of living,
00:25:42.840 like the people like us
00:25:44.500 who have the birth control water
00:25:45.860 or them who has to boil it,
00:25:47.480 you know?
00:25:48.040 Well, it's like.
00:25:49.200 Yeah, I think like what I was trying to say
00:25:51.420 is that like,
00:25:52.020 oh, you know,
00:25:52.760 there's a lot of data showing
00:25:54.060 that there's countries in Africa,
00:25:55.940 South America,
00:25:56.500 around the world
00:25:57.580 that when you have like lower access
00:25:59.720 to food, water, health care,
00:26:02.160 it can cause a lot of tragedy
00:26:03.460 and it can cause a lot of stress
00:26:05.000 within families.
00:26:05.940 That doesn't mean
00:26:06.620 that there's no happy families.
00:26:08.000 It doesn't mean it's impossible
00:26:08.940 to have a good family.
00:26:09.560 I think like what I was trying to say
00:26:11.240 is like a lot of,
00:26:12.140 a lot of times we like equate
00:26:13.800 that that's going to break up the family,
00:26:15.340 but it's like the West,
00:26:16.440 we have a higher standard of living
00:26:17.700 than ever before
00:26:18.420 and we have more divorces.
00:26:19.560 We have more marital problems.
00:26:20.760 We have more,
00:26:21.360 we have more issues,
00:26:22.420 like mental health issues.
00:26:23.500 And I don't think it's just
00:26:25.260 that we have more people
00:26:26.280 to diagnose it.
00:26:27.280 Like, I don't think that's true.
00:26:29.020 I think we just have more issues
00:26:30.640 because of single mother homes,
00:26:32.240 which we reward in the West.
00:26:33.340 I mean, it's the cultural issues
00:26:34.420 in the West, isn't it?
00:26:35.460 That's underlying it really.
00:26:36.820 It's the cultural,
00:26:37.580 the fact that, you know,
00:26:39.960 the, the family is less respected,
00:26:42.460 the fact that, you know,
00:26:44.160 religion's eroded,
00:26:45.240 so therefore there are less
00:26:46.320 societal controls on, you know,
00:26:48.300 divorce and all the rest of it.
00:26:49.420 It's, it's those things.
00:26:50.300 It's those cultural things,
00:26:51.220 I think that.
00:26:51.880 Matt, I think also something
00:26:53.360 what Pearl was alluding to earlier
00:26:54.480 on that we didn't even go into.
00:26:55.660 I think is this idea of poor,
00:26:57.520 like people don't want
00:26:58.360 to say the truth about
00:26:59.180 you either have money
00:26:59.860 or you don't, right?
00:27:01.060 So when you,
00:27:01.540 when people say poor,
00:27:02.280 they normally think of money
00:27:03.340 or rich, you think of money, right?
00:27:05.200 But it's such a thing
00:27:05.900 as being rich in support,
00:27:06.920 being rich with family,
00:27:07.780 being rich,
00:27:08.040 because you can have
00:27:08.500 all the money you want
00:27:09.200 and not have all those other things.
00:27:10.220 Does it make you,
00:27:11.300 does it give you a better quality
00:27:12.180 than another person?
00:27:13.260 So I think.
00:27:14.040 Right, which,
00:27:14.520 which is why I was saying,
00:27:15.480 like, why do we assume
00:27:16.140 the West is better?
00:27:17.120 When a lot of times,
00:27:18.060 like in these places,
00:27:18.960 they'll have a lot
00:27:19.720 like tighter knit family units.
00:27:21.980 Yeah.
00:27:22.300 You know,
00:27:22.920 I think the main argument
00:27:24.740 that I was trying to get across
00:27:26.060 was that like,
00:27:26.760 hey, you know,
00:27:27.740 there is a chance
00:27:28.520 that a lot of these places
00:27:30.180 are suffering from things
00:27:31.440 that aren't diagnosed.
00:27:32.500 There's a chance
00:27:33.140 that they aren't.
00:27:34.000 But I think we all overall
00:27:35.720 can agree that,
00:27:36.560 hey, these people
00:27:37.580 should have access
00:27:38.400 to like healthy food,
00:27:40.300 clean water,
00:27:41.540 health care in general.
00:27:42.700 Do you think,
00:27:43.000 do you think we have access to,
00:27:44.600 like, because we're,
00:27:45.060 it's just,
00:27:45.420 it just contradicts
00:27:46.640 a little bit
00:27:47.060 what you said earlier
00:27:47.940 where we have all these
00:27:48.660 like hormones
00:27:49.300 in the food and the water.
00:27:50.980 Yeah, but the point is
00:27:51.920 that when we compare
00:27:52.760 like the water quality
00:27:53.880 to certain places
00:27:54.980 to that of America,
00:27:55.900 like there are places
00:27:57.260 that have significantly
00:27:58.640 worse water quality.
00:28:00.260 So even though
00:28:00.880 you can argue that
00:28:01.560 like our water quality
00:28:02.440 isn't perfect,
00:28:03.560 it is still better
00:28:04.280 than like getting
00:28:05.080 a potential parasite.
00:28:06.300 But I,
00:28:06.660 I think my,
00:28:07.740 my whole point
00:28:08.840 is that in the West,
00:28:09.820 even though we have
00:28:10.560 all these amenities,
00:28:11.360 like the family unit
00:28:12.580 is, it's terrible.
00:28:13.820 Like I think like what,
00:28:14.640 a third,
00:28:15.040 half of kids
00:28:15.740 are born out of wedlock
00:28:16.760 into single mother homes
00:28:17.960 because we reward
00:28:18.940 all of these
00:28:19.360 terrible decisions.
00:28:20.620 Yeah.
00:28:20.900 More kids in the UK
00:28:21.820 are likely to have an iPhone
00:28:23.060 than they are
00:28:23.640 to have a dad
00:28:24.200 in their lives.
00:28:25.120 Wow.
00:28:25.600 That's a real statistic.
00:28:26.960 Wow.
00:28:27.560 Yeah.
00:28:27.880 Say that again.
00:28:28.580 I had the same reaction.
00:28:29.900 This was actually in 2013.
00:28:31.700 So chances are
00:28:32.440 that the numbers
00:28:32.960 have gone drastically up
00:28:33.920 by now.
00:28:34.260 But in 2013,
00:28:35.300 kids who were sitting
00:28:36.380 their GCSEs
00:28:37.480 were more likely
00:28:39.320 to have an iPhone
00:28:39.840 than they were to have a dad.
00:28:41.180 That's mad.
00:28:41.900 I mean,
00:28:42.300 it's probably,
00:28:42.900 some of these iPhones
00:28:43.480 are probably more useful
00:28:44.480 than some of these dads
00:28:45.180 out here,
00:28:45.460 to be honest with you.
00:28:46.840 I just mean,
00:28:47.400 have you known it?
00:28:48.820 Oh, come on.
00:28:49.880 What do you mean?
00:28:50.460 Than these dads out here?
00:28:51.720 Yeah.
00:28:52.220 No, like,
00:28:52.680 what's your finger
00:28:53.860 against the dads?
00:28:54.520 You already know
00:28:55.500 every single problem
00:28:56.700 is linked to single mother homes.
00:28:58.300 Yeah, 100%.
00:28:58.840 But at the same time,
00:29:00.080 like,
00:29:00.380 I have to,
00:29:01.120 I have to,
00:29:01.660 I hold women account
00:29:02.340 every single day
00:29:03.060 and I have no problem
00:29:03.680 with doing it.
00:29:04.400 But part of holding
00:29:04.980 women account
00:29:05.460 is that I see men
00:29:06.440 that are not holding
00:29:06.880 themselves account.
00:29:07.740 And, you know,
00:29:08.740 part of doing
00:29:09.200 the man's voice
00:29:09.860 is that I see men
00:29:11.320 that go out there
00:29:12.340 and create these homes.
00:29:13.560 Yeah, you know what I'm saying?
00:29:14.400 So it's like,
00:29:15.400 Yeah, but the women
00:29:16.020 open up their legs.
00:29:16.840 I understand the women
00:29:17.580 open up their legs,
00:29:18.380 but anyone that's got game
00:29:19.840 and anyone that gets girls
00:29:21.000 understand that
00:29:21.580 you can make a woman
00:29:22.300 open up her legs per se,
00:29:23.780 right?
00:29:24.080 Do you get me?
00:29:24.520 Yeah?
00:29:24.620 And if I do that one
00:29:26.180 where I say,
00:29:27.140 okay, no,
00:29:28.080 100%,
00:29:28.580 then I'm doing a little bit
00:29:30.320 where I'm,
00:29:30.940 come on, man,
00:29:31.480 Romeo,
00:29:31.880 come on,
00:29:32.220 you know what I'm saying?
00:29:33.020 There's that little bit
00:29:34.200 where men can twang,
00:29:35.820 they can do the bars,
00:29:36.580 they can do all of that stuff.
00:29:37.960 Yeah, I understand.
00:29:38.780 But that's the point
00:29:39.720 where women have to say
00:29:40.520 is that men always
00:29:41.520 want to sleep with you.
00:29:42.380 They're always going to do this.
00:29:43.720 Yeah?
00:29:43.960 They're always going to lie to you.
00:29:45.440 So if you choose
00:29:46.640 to believe the lie
00:29:47.720 then that's up to you.
00:29:49.080 No one's forcing you
00:29:49.800 to you.
00:29:50.000 But men,
00:29:50.440 we know we got the twang.
00:29:51.400 We know we got...
00:29:51.720 In China, man,
00:29:52.240 that always is like
00:29:53.340 a strong word.
00:29:54.760 Like,
00:29:55.020 sometimes maybe,
00:29:56.380 not always.
00:29:56.880 Okay, okay, okay.
00:29:57.960 Sometimes, right?
00:29:58.700 Do you know what it is?
00:29:59.600 Because it's because
00:30:00.360 like, I always...
00:30:02.000 I'm very hot on the women.
00:30:03.460 You know,
00:30:03.780 everyone that's seen the content
00:30:04.600 knows I am.
00:30:05.620 But I keep seeing men
00:30:06.800 that are doing certain things
00:30:08.520 and I can't really cosign it.
00:30:10.520 Like what, bro?
00:30:11.780 Like...
00:30:12.260 Shit, man,
00:30:13.420 it's about to get done.
00:30:14.800 It's like...
00:30:15.180 Oh, you want to say something?
00:30:16.920 Like what?
00:30:17.400 Backing out of a fight?
00:30:19.240 Huh?
00:30:19.860 Oh, no, no, no, no, no.
00:30:21.140 What have you done?
00:30:23.020 What have you done, China, bro?
00:30:24.100 Nah, nah, nah, nah.
00:30:24.940 China, what have you done, bro?
00:30:26.500 What have you done?
00:30:27.300 I ain't done nothing.
00:30:28.260 Hey, Pearl Walker,
00:30:28.880 nah, I ain't done nothing.
00:30:29.480 Let me get back to business.
00:30:30.340 Let me get back to business.
00:30:30.960 Yeah, go back.
00:30:31.300 Yeah, get back to business.
00:30:32.460 China...
00:30:33.080 What was I saying?
00:30:39.740 He's talking about men.
00:30:40.480 Sorry, we're talking about the guys.
00:30:41.860 The bad dads.
00:30:43.420 The bad dads, yeah.
00:30:44.160 Yeah.
00:30:44.560 Yeah, like...
00:30:45.840 Like...
00:30:46.520 What's the statistic?
00:30:49.240 What?
00:30:49.400 Have you ever been a stepdad before?
00:30:52.080 What stepdad?
00:30:52.620 Come on, you know I don't play those games.
00:30:54.740 So you wouldn't be...
00:30:55.920 What's wrong with being a stepdad, though?
00:30:57.360 Nah, I'll never be a stepdad.
00:30:58.580 Why not?
00:30:58.940 Why not?
00:30:59.780 Huh?
00:31:00.280 Why not?
00:31:01.460 Because...
00:31:02.180 So, no, but if you really love the girl, yeah?
00:31:05.060 And she's got kids.
00:31:07.320 Okay.
00:31:08.940 What are you going to move?
00:31:09.960 The guy...
00:31:10.620 What if your girl can't have children?
00:31:12.920 Would you be an adult did that?
00:31:13.960 Then I'll get a girl that can have kids.
00:31:15.880 Oh, shit.
00:31:16.920 I appreciate the honesty.
00:31:17.660 It's the truth.
00:31:18.900 Men, why would I be with a woman that couldn't give me...
00:31:21.000 So check this out.
00:31:21.740 Do you agree that stepdads have held down a lot of homes that real fathers left?
00:31:25.920 I wouldn't say real fathers.
00:31:28.060 Women choose the men they choose to be with.
00:31:29.640 And if you choose to lay down with a man that chooses to leave you, that's all new.
00:31:32.760 You should have picked a man that would have stayed.
00:31:33.980 There's lots of men that would have stayed.
00:31:35.240 So you're saying the woman should know what the man's going to do?
00:31:37.340 The woman should...
00:31:38.000 Listen...
00:31:38.600 I really think most of the time it's the woman being spiteful and not letting the dad see the kid.
00:31:43.820 That's like my opinion on it.
00:31:45.440 That does happen a lot.
00:31:46.700 So for me, this is what it comes down to, right?
00:31:48.740 Is...
00:31:49.160 Is...
00:31:49.480 Is...
00:31:50.280 Is...
00:31:50.860 Is...
00:31:51.160 I don't know.
00:31:52.420 If you have kids...
00:31:53.000 Okay, let me change this.
00:31:53.700 If you have kids, blend family.
00:31:54.900 You guys that got kids.
00:31:55.800 If you got one, I got one.
00:31:57.200 Let's get together and make a blend of family.
00:31:58.640 That's all cool.
00:31:59.580 But what we tend to have is women out here with kids that, that, you know, that don't understand that.
00:32:04.940 Most men, men don't really want to be a stepdad.
00:32:06.900 Most men will lie to you.
00:32:08.080 They just want to, you know, blow your back out.
00:32:09.480 I'm not trying to...
00:32:10.360 You're being harsh right now, you know?
00:32:11.860 No, I'm not being harsh.
00:32:12.480 I'm just being honest, bro.
00:32:13.460 Men, men, men are not trying to...
00:32:14.760 And the reason why girls would be like, oh, you know what?
00:32:17.140 But I've never had a problem.
00:32:18.220 Men, I always date me with the kids.
00:32:19.160 I'll say, where are they now?
00:32:20.160 Of course men are going to date you because they don't going to be around for the time.
00:32:22.680 But what if you love the woman so much?
00:32:23.900 Well, actually, no, the chance of a single...
00:32:25.560 And I'm butchering it, but it's like the chance of a single mom getting a guy to marry her,
00:32:30.100 it's like 13 to 18, roughly, percent.
00:32:33.240 Live with her, 22%.
00:32:34.460 So it's pretty much over for single mothers.
00:32:37.180 Would a high-value man marry a single mother?
00:32:39.160 Why would he do that?
00:32:39.960 Why?
00:32:40.700 That would make him low-value.
00:32:42.060 Exactly.
00:32:42.700 Okay, and I'm glad you guys...
00:32:44.420 I mean, miracles happen, but they usually don't.
00:32:47.580 I'm glad you guys brought that up.
00:32:48.880 I've been holding this back, waiting to...
00:32:50.080 So, okay, high-value men, what's that?
00:32:53.060 Oh, yeah, this is what we came here to talk about.
00:32:55.560 Oh, yeah, I forgot what we came here to talk about.
00:32:57.500 Who decides this definition?
00:32:59.640 What's a high-value man?
00:33:00.560 You tell me your definition, China.
00:33:01.740 Don't tell me what you think.
00:33:02.620 Tell me what you class as a high-value man.
00:33:05.180 Let me hear your opinion.
00:33:06.380 Bro, see, if you...
00:33:10.280 No, do you know what it is?
00:33:11.640 Because I can give the definition of a high...
00:33:13.320 There's a definition.
00:33:14.160 No, I mean, yours.
00:33:14.880 Your definition.
00:33:15.840 My definition is...
00:33:17.260 Unless you're telling me your definition don't matter.
00:33:18.640 You're going to go with the crowd.
00:33:19.680 No, it's not the crowd.
00:33:21.240 See, we all can't have...
00:33:22.860 This is what happens when women do,
00:33:23.800 I'm a 10, I'm a 10, I'm a 10.
00:33:25.000 If everyone's a 10, then no one's a 10.
00:33:26.680 So there's only going to be one high-value,
00:33:28.760 because if not, then we can always bend it to...
00:33:30.820 I'm high-value.
00:33:31.180 What's your definition?
00:33:32.160 So my definition is the original definition.
00:33:34.660 You need to be a man that's, you know, earning...
00:33:37.080 We'll say in this country, probably about 70K.
00:33:39.260 You need to...
00:33:39.800 Well, you need to be...
00:33:41.080 Yeah, earning 70K or so.
00:33:42.620 You need to be...
00:33:43.240 And earning that over for like four to five years.
00:33:45.980 You need to be...
00:33:46.880 Wow.
00:33:47.220 You can't be a lone wolf,
00:33:48.120 so you need to be somebody that's, you know...
00:33:49.760 You sold to others in the group.
00:33:51.040 Yeah, you sold to others in the group.
00:33:52.360 So just saying that,
00:33:53.040 yo, I get money by myself,
00:33:54.080 but no one around yourself doesn't get money,
00:33:56.080 that's, you know what I mean?
00:33:57.140 You can't be someone that's out there being loose with your seed.
00:33:59.020 So ideally, you wouldn't have any kids already.
00:34:01.080 You wouldn't be divorced.
00:34:03.140 Yeah, man, just...
00:34:04.180 Yeah, but you know,
00:34:04.560 can you see why that's a dangerous rhetoric?
00:34:06.040 Why?
00:34:06.460 For like, I've got a teenage son, for example.
00:34:09.120 Yeah.
00:34:09.540 Right?
00:34:10.080 I wouldn't say to him,
00:34:11.060 okay, son, this is a definition of a high-valued man,
00:34:13.160 and this is what you need to like measure up yourself up to,
00:34:15.480 because society says that's what you should do.
00:34:16.780 Don't you see how dangerous that is?
00:34:17.660 No, he's a good man.
00:34:18.740 Good man, high-valued, different.
00:34:19.740 Also, do you not see that your definition is quite westernized,
00:34:21.500 because you're taking the word value and determining it through life?
00:34:23.500 No, because where are we?
00:34:24.480 I'm not in...
00:34:24.960 See, here's the thing, right?
00:34:26.000 I know, this is the problem with this convo.
00:34:27.980 It always gets derailed, because everybody...
00:34:30.000 So where are we, right?
00:34:30.820 Even if I went to Africa,
00:34:32.200 I would tailor it slightly different,
00:34:33.600 but it would still come down to be a man that could be...
00:34:36.440 A man that was useful,
00:34:37.760 a man that had access to tools,
00:34:38.960 a man that was other stuff.
00:34:39.700 So it will always come around resources,
00:34:42.180 who you are, finances.
00:34:43.540 It's not all...
00:34:43.920 But can I just tell you the way I see it for a second?
00:34:46.620 So what you're saying about the money side of it,
00:34:49.960 the way I see it,
00:34:51.000 once you get to a certain level of wealth,
00:34:52.980 more money,
00:34:54.040 it just means you're still going to have the same problems
00:34:56.020 as when you had, perhaps, say, slightly less,
00:34:57.760 say, 40 grand to, say, 70 grand here, right?
00:35:00.580 40 grand, like, you basically,
00:35:02.300 you're able to provide, no problem, right?
00:35:04.500 And you can provide for wife, children,
00:35:06.260 and you can have a certain quality of life.
00:35:08.040 70 grand, your quality of life, you know,
00:35:10.560 goes up in terms of materialistic possessions,
00:35:12.860 things like that.
00:35:13.300 But so does your house bills.
00:35:16.020 So does your car insurance.
00:35:17.320 So at a certain level, it's like,
00:35:19.280 okay, you have more money,
00:35:20.140 but your problems have also grown as well.
00:35:22.060 So I personally wouldn't take the whole,
00:35:25.060 you know, top 10%, 1% earners
00:35:27.160 into being high value,
00:35:28.180 because I think you just need
00:35:29.560 to have a certain amount of value.
00:35:31.460 I guess my problem with what you said
00:35:32.840 is the whole 70 grand.
00:35:34.180 No, okay, so I'm not talking about the money.
00:35:35.920 I'm just trying...
00:35:36.420 So here's the thing, right?
00:35:37.200 If we don't say anything,
00:35:38.540 then anyone is high value.
00:35:39.680 Yeah, that's the problem.
00:35:40.540 So what I'm trying to say to you...
00:35:41.660 We though, when you say we, he's we.
00:35:43.080 Well, no, I agree with him, right?
00:35:44.500 Because when Rollo Tomasi got cornered on this,
00:35:47.380 on pressure and fear,
00:35:48.440 exactly the same thing happened.
00:35:49.800 What Rollo Tomasi said,
00:35:51.500 author of The Rational Mail,
00:35:52.380 he was like,
00:35:53.340 well, it depends on culturally.
00:35:55.940 So the high value man in a small village
00:35:58.020 in some remote place,
00:35:59.340 he's going to have different characteristics
00:36:00.480 to the dude who's in Miami, whatever.
00:36:02.580 And that is broadly speaking true.
00:36:04.360 But at the same time,
00:36:05.300 I think there's a certain amount of...
00:36:06.320 Like, when I get into these conversations
00:36:07.360 with guys on Twitter
00:36:08.460 and they live in the UK
00:36:09.800 or they live in America or something,
00:36:11.280 there's a certain amount of disingenuousness
00:36:12.500 because I think the reality is...
00:36:14.040 And also as well,
00:36:15.040 my tweet in particular,
00:36:15.880 we're talking about this
00:36:16.360 kind of from a dating perspective, right?
00:36:17.760 We kind of know what we're talking about,
00:36:19.480 don't we?
00:36:20.100 We kind of basically know what we're talking about.
00:36:21.520 And you're right, it is those things.
00:36:23.060 It's like, are you in decent shape?
00:36:25.360 Do you present well?
00:36:26.660 Do you have financial resources?
00:36:28.300 Do you have the ability
00:36:29.500 to command the respect of others around you?
00:36:31.200 Do you have some kind of social sex?
00:36:32.340 Those things, broadly speaking,
00:36:35.080 equate to high value.
00:36:36.380 And I think sometimes people try to chip away
00:36:37.860 at the definitions around it.
00:36:38.940 Be like, well...
00:36:39.480 Well, you know what it is?
00:36:40.380 I can look at a man
00:36:41.180 and I can say to him,
00:36:41.920 like I said it to him before,
00:36:42.680 I look at a man,
00:36:43.300 I know he gets girls.
00:36:44.600 I just...
00:36:45.040 And this is...
00:36:45.620 When women do these things
00:36:46.520 where they pretend like...
00:36:47.320 I can look at a guy straight away
00:36:49.080 and I can assess him,
00:36:49.960 especially if we're out.
00:36:50.660 I can look at the car he drives.
00:36:51.700 I can look at his watch.
00:36:53.220 I can look at...
00:36:54.180 I can look at where he stays.
00:36:55.600 I can look at the business he does.
00:36:56.740 And all through that already,
00:36:57.540 I already know.
00:36:58.000 I look at his friendship circle.
00:36:59.620 I look at who follows him.
00:37:00.780 And from that already,
00:37:01.480 I know who he is.
00:37:02.500 Can I ask you a question?
00:37:03.200 What about the guy
00:37:03.800 that's using all those things
00:37:04.940 just to control the environment?
00:37:06.280 What do you mean?
00:37:07.040 Using those metrics
00:37:07.840 to control the environment.
00:37:09.060 Obviously,
00:37:09.520 because they know what you think of
00:37:10.560 when you see a man with a nice car
00:37:11.660 or what people think of
00:37:12.620 when they see a guy with a watch.
00:37:13.920 What about the people
00:37:14.680 that are using it
00:37:15.220 just to control the environment?
00:37:15.920 No, but at the same time,
00:37:16.840 they still...
00:37:17.360 No, but...
00:37:18.040 So here's the thing.
00:37:18.740 You're still finessing the way to it.
00:37:20.120 And if that gets you
00:37:20.800 to where you need to be,
00:37:21.800 it's still going to get you in the room.
00:37:23.360 If you are faking it,
00:37:24.740 it will get exposed later on.
00:37:26.220 If you're faking the lifestyle,
00:37:27.660 trust me, you'll get exposed.
00:37:28.740 But if the watch is fake,
00:37:30.820 if the car is on,
00:37:32.300 if the car ain't yours,
00:37:33.480 if the place is at Airbnb,
00:37:35.020 trust me, bro,
00:37:35.580 you'll get found out.
00:37:36.360 But if it's not,
00:37:37.500 then you are high value
00:37:38.520 and then it's going to only
00:37:39.320 open access to more things.
00:37:41.200 Like, even the network
00:37:42.260 that you surround yourself with,
00:37:43.520 like, you know when you...
00:37:44.520 You know when you go to places,
00:37:46.300 if you can get into places
00:37:47.380 and people invite you to places,
00:37:49.420 it's because you're somebody.
00:37:50.660 That already makes you somebody.
00:37:51.900 So you go to a lot of press events,
00:37:53.240 you go to a lot of things, right?
00:37:54.260 That means you're somebody.
00:37:56.380 That means you're not a nobody.
00:37:57.400 You're high value man.
00:37:58.560 Well, trust me.
00:37:59.280 Okay, I wouldn't say...
00:38:00.700 Here's the thing.
00:38:01.360 I just wanted to...
00:38:02.060 Where I'm from,
00:38:03.280 the real definition of a high value man
00:38:05.340 is down to two things.
00:38:06.880 One is his character
00:38:08.000 and two is his usefulness to others.
00:38:10.400 Thank you.
00:38:10.740 Yeah, the group.
00:38:11.260 Thank you.
00:38:11.920 No, but you see,
00:38:12.680 usefulness to others
00:38:13.620 is different from the way
00:38:15.320 they put it in these,
00:38:16.780 like, Western...
00:38:18.320 So they always make it about money.
00:38:19.760 But the reality is
00:38:20.500 anyone can get and lose money
00:38:22.860 at any point in life.
00:38:23.800 But what is most important
00:38:25.580 is the man's character
00:38:27.720 because with good character...
00:38:30.200 Nah, bro.
00:38:30.860 These girls don't want no character, bro.
00:38:32.840 Bro, these girls don't want no character.
00:38:34.320 Character can't pay the bills, bro.
00:38:35.760 You see, this is the problem.
00:38:37.800 Being a high value man
00:38:38.920 has nothing to do with what women want.
00:38:41.100 Thank you.
00:38:42.100 I'm shaking.
00:38:43.420 Bro, you cannot be a high value man
00:38:45.880 if you cannot provide for what women want.
00:38:47.640 You cannot be a high value man
00:38:49.060 if you cannot provide for what...
00:38:50.300 You cannot.
00:38:50.800 No, it's impossible.
00:38:51.740 If you are not providing
00:38:52.680 for what your woman wants,
00:38:53.620 you are not high value.
00:38:54.580 You are low value.
00:38:55.500 China, let me break it down.
00:38:56.360 It's impossible.
00:38:57.260 If you can...
00:38:57.820 If your missus wants something
00:38:59.180 and you cannot provide for it,
00:39:00.640 you are low value, bro.
00:39:02.180 100%.
00:39:02.840 So you have to be rich, bro.
00:39:04.020 No, that's true.
00:39:04.580 You don't have to be rich.
00:39:05.860 Guys, guys, guys.
00:39:06.580 Okay, I'm going to let him finish
00:39:08.020 and then you can go.
00:39:09.320 I never said provisioning
00:39:10.700 is not part of it.
00:39:11.500 I said being a high value man
00:39:13.500 has nothing to do with...
00:39:15.240 What women want.
00:39:15.900 What women want.
00:39:16.740 It has everything to do with
00:39:18.340 what your purpose as a man is.
00:39:19.940 Thank you.
00:39:20.700 Preach.
00:39:21.660 It also has everything to do
00:39:22.960 with what women need.
00:39:23.740 No, it's the vasectomy.
00:39:25.320 China.
00:39:26.020 Just get a vasectomy, guys.
00:39:27.540 China, are you a high value man?
00:39:30.020 What'd you say?
00:39:30.380 Are you a high value man?
00:39:31.360 No, I'm not.
00:39:32.160 Okay.
00:39:32.440 Yeah, because, you know what
00:39:34.760 I was saying to you, like...
00:39:35.740 I'm gone.
00:39:37.460 Go on.
00:39:38.020 Go on.
00:39:38.420 Go on.
00:39:38.940 I'm not.
00:39:40.300 I'm not.
00:39:40.680 Okay.
00:39:41.180 Wait, wait, wait.
00:39:42.420 The way it was not different.
00:39:44.280 Can I make my point?
00:39:44.880 Go on.
00:39:45.560 The reason why I can floor
00:39:47.080 your argument very easily
00:39:48.040 is because...
00:39:49.040 No, I'll tell you what.
00:39:51.080 The high value man
00:39:52.040 has nothing to do with women.
00:39:53.380 Women are usually part of
00:39:56.360 the things that you could get
00:39:57.640 when you're a high value man.
00:39:58.380 Thank you.
00:39:59.000 It has nothing to do with
00:39:59.720 being a high value man.
00:40:00.400 Cause.
00:40:01.000 Hold on.
00:40:01.480 Are you trying to tell me
00:40:02.640 that there are not priests
00:40:03.840 in the Catholic church
00:40:04.580 that are not high value?
00:40:05.200 Cause, cause, cause, cause.
00:40:06.180 First of all, first of all...
00:40:07.000 Wait, wait, wait.
00:40:07.500 My point is,
00:40:08.340 there are people
00:40:08.880 that don't ever get married,
00:40:11.620 e.g. Catholic priests,
00:40:13.380 that are of way more importance
00:40:15.920 to society
00:40:16.620 than most of these rich men
00:40:17.740 that are running around.
00:40:18.020 Okay, okay.
00:40:18.860 So, I think it's jumping around
00:40:21.040 a little bit, bro.
00:40:21.820 It's jumping, it's jumping.
00:40:22.820 We're talking about Catholic priests
00:40:23.860 being high value, bro.
00:40:24.740 No, I just...
00:40:26.080 Wait, wait, wait.
00:40:26.720 Not all Catholic priests
00:40:28.420 are high value.
00:40:28.860 No, King.
00:40:31.580 Hey, listen.
00:40:32.500 So, it comes down to the...
00:40:33.460 Hey, King, look.
00:40:34.500 Sorry, Po, can I say something?
00:40:36.020 He provides to society.
00:40:37.620 Yeah.
00:40:37.860 It's not necessarily a woman.
00:40:38.580 Guys.
00:40:38.900 Okay, okay.
00:40:39.600 I need...
00:40:40.040 I'm gonna let him go
00:40:41.420 and then you go.
00:40:42.260 Okay, so go China.
00:40:43.120 I think we're focusing
00:40:44.000 too much on money,
00:40:45.900 on money, right?
00:40:46.880 When I said
00:40:47.400 for what a woman wants,
00:40:48.340 like, you should not
00:40:49.140 even be marrying
00:40:49.840 if you can't provide
00:40:51.640 for your women.
00:40:52.260 This is the problem.
00:40:53.500 Men are supposed
00:40:53.920 to be leaders
00:40:54.480 and providers, yeah?
00:40:55.260 And one of the things
00:40:56.820 that women keep saying
00:40:57.420 is these men want me
00:40:58.100 to do this and do this
00:40:58.900 but they don't want to provide.
00:40:59.720 They don't want to do nothing.
00:41:00.440 You expect women
00:41:01.000 to do something
00:41:01.540 but you can't even lead them.
00:41:02.920 So, I'm not saying that,
00:41:04.320 oh, you're supposed
00:41:04.760 to bend to your wife's whim.
00:41:05.840 No, but she needs a house, bro.
00:41:07.420 She needs a house.
00:41:08.100 Wait, hold on a second.
00:41:08.840 Goodbye, house together, no?
00:41:09.720 No, no.
00:41:10.200 Just together stuff,
00:41:11.480 you're supposed to be the man.
00:41:12.260 Together.
00:41:13.320 Together.
00:41:14.320 Hold, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:41:15.760 You might not want this 50-50.
00:41:18.820 No, because you might not
00:41:19.460 want this 50-50 team.
00:41:20.440 This is why we're here.
00:41:21.480 What happened to people?
00:41:25.260 We grew up in a seven-bedroom home
00:41:27.380 and we came from nothing.
00:41:28.440 My dad didn't do this.
00:41:29.220 You might not want wives.
00:41:30.700 You might not want...
00:41:31.360 No, wait, hold on a second.
00:41:32.840 You might not want wives.
00:41:33.520 You want mothers.
00:41:34.020 That's what you want.
00:41:34.540 You don't want wives.
00:41:35.100 You want mothers.
00:41:35.520 You see me?
00:41:36.220 You see me?
00:41:36.820 I'm a provider, bro.
00:41:37.820 As many of you know,
00:41:39.120 I was just banned on TikTok
00:41:41.180 and we are demonetized
00:41:42.880 on a daily basis
00:41:44.140 on this platform.
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