JustPearlyThings - November 01, 2023


This Woman BROKE DOWN After Being REJECTED


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Length

12 minutes

Words per minute

207.71472

Word count

2,495

Sentence count

234

Harmful content

Misogyny

29

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Hate speech

16

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Summary

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In this episode, I'm reacting to women who date out of their league and how to deal with it. I've been single for a year and I'm here to tell you why it's so hard being a woman in today's society.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I can't even begin to explain it to you. I'm 33 this year, and honestly, I thought...
00:00:04.640 Oh, look at that. I guess too young. Probably a filter.
00:00:08.440 And at least if I hadn't met someone, I would have been close to meeting someone.
00:00:12.940 And honestly, it is so, so bad out there.
00:00:16.880 So this is translation. I date out of my league. She's like a idiot. Five, six, you know, five. 1.00
00:00:24.460 She's 33. Five. Dating eight.
00:00:26.720 I, last year, got ghosted ongoing by so many different men.
00:00:32.740 Yeah, they probably hurt your age. Sorry, ladies. 1.00
00:00:35.580 What up, guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel, and welcome to my reaction series.
00:00:41.540 Before I start, don't forget to subscribe to the channel and ring that notification bell the way you're going to be notified of my daily videos.
00:00:48.420 Like the video on your way in, and get yourself a Women Shouldn't Vote t-shirt today if you want to be the ultimate alpha male. 1.00
00:00:54.980 Get yourself a Women Shouldn't Vote t-shirt. The women will be coming up to you left, right, and center. 1.00
00:01:00.120 Anyways, today I'm going to be reacting to women regret being strong and independent when women hit the wall. 0.60
00:01:07.080 We love a good Women Hit the Wall series. Just wall-in. Wall, wall. Anyways, let's go. 1.00
00:01:12.120 Reality is often disappointing.
00:01:14.500 Can't even make it up. Can't even make it up. Can't even make it up.
00:01:16.800 That is, it was. Can't even make it up. Can't even make it up.
00:01:20.880 Now, reality can be whatever I want.
00:01:26.960 I've been single for a year and deleted and re-downloaded the apps at least a million times.
00:01:32.380 I finally said yes to a date, and I'm going to tell you why I said yes to that date.
00:01:37.060 I loved that this man was like, okay, that's your favorite restaurant? Great, I'm going to make reservations for us at this time on this night.
00:01:43.400 Like, yes, please! Why is it so hard to find somebody to do that?
00:01:47.600 Everyone else is like, hey, what's up? What's your schedule? Maybe we can go for a walk.
00:01:52.140 Or like, I don't know, what do you want to do?
00:01:53.920 Like, show me that you want to do something. Like, take charge. Be a man.
00:01:58.720 I know I'm going to get hate for saying that. Call me old-fashioned, but let's talk about it.
00:02:05.400 I am no longer scared to say it. I don't want to be by myself anymore.
00:02:10.020 I am a strong, independent woman.
00:02:12.880 I've done everything by myself for the last few years.
00:02:16.420 I know I can do it, and I don't want to anymore.
00:02:19.500 I want to share it with somebody. Life is meant to be shared.
00:02:23.040 The apps have failed me, so if you need me, I will be here posting until I find my soulmate.
00:02:29.240 It's like, soulmate. Even that sounds like a fairy tale.
00:02:32.580 So again, the last reaction I did was with Sandman, and he was talking about how women speak in, like, magical thinking. 0.80
00:02:38.640 Weird, you grow up hearing all these terms. You don't even realize that a lot of these kind of just sound like nonsense.
00:02:43.700 Series where I share things my guy friends have said or done that have completely altered my brain chemistry.
00:02:47.560 You just went on a first date with a guy, and you really like him.
00:02:50.420 Like, you think he's the one.
00:02:52.040 You delete the dating apps.
00:02:53.680 You stop talking to all those other guys that you are flirting with.
00:02:56.600 You start Pinteresting wedding inspo.
00:02:58.540 What the hell are you doing? Stop!
00:03:00.480 Do you think he is doing the same?
00:03:02.300 Okay, we don't actually know what he's doing.
00:03:04.380 But that doesn't matter. It's irrelevant.
00:03:06.480 You don't know this guy, and technically, you are still single.
00:03:10.140 Just because you like him does not mean he is your boyfriend.
00:03:13.940 I've consistently seen my girlfriends do this, and I don't see my guy friends doing the same.
00:03:18.040 They meet someone that they really like, and they get tunnel vision.
00:03:21.140 Until he is your boyfriend, you are not.
00:03:23.780 So, this is basically a translation for, she said her friends do it.
00:03:29.580 So, her friends go for men out of their league, and those guys kind of treat them like an option.
00:03:36.840 And I mean, yeah, I mean, that typically happens when, and usually friend groups are kind of within the same attractiveness,
00:03:43.240 minus like maybe one, two points at most.
00:03:45.940 So, this chick's like five, six, so let's say her friends, seven, sleeping with a nine. 1.00
00:03:52.000 Yeah, that's kind of what it's going to get you.
00:03:54.620 Girlfriend, so do not act like one, because what you will do is stay hyper-fixated on a man. 1.00
00:03:58.380 And this is wrong.
00:03:59.380 So, they say don't act like his girlfriend. 0.99
00:04:01.200 Well, how, it's like, how would you ever expect to, if you applied for a job, and you interned for a summer,
00:04:07.820 you would want to demonstrate that you have the skills for the job.
00:04:11.180 But women don't want to demonstrate that we have wife skills, we have girlfriend skills, 1.00
00:04:17.040 and then we expect to get the girlfriend or wife title. 1.00
00:04:20.820 And I saw a psychologist break down how bad girl gaming is, and it was so interesting.
00:04:27.740 He was like, if you go on a date, and a guy says, I don't want to go on a date with you unless I'm going to get sex,
00:04:33.020 you would think that was crazy.
00:04:34.340 But women go on first dates and say, well, I don't want to go on a date unless I'm going to get a relationship. 1.00
00:04:39.920 And just how, like, crazy that sounds to a guy.
00:04:42.740 Let me see what else she says.
00:04:44.660 That will just end up breaking your heart.
00:04:46.260 So, keep those options open until he is 100% sure.
00:04:49.080 So, yeah, this is how women say, be whores, just be a whore until he's sure about you. 1.00
00:04:56.040 And then be surprised when he's not.
00:04:58.060 A lot of times we spoke about how atrocious the dating scene is throughout what seems to be Melbourne,
00:05:06.000 but I'm sure it is other areas as well.
00:05:08.960 I had a friend send me a TikTok from a fellow Melbourne girl talking about this.
00:05:14.140 And honestly, the amount that this resonated with me and my other girlfriends who are also single going through this,
00:05:18.680 is I can't even begin to explain.
00:05:20.600 28, 29, my guess, 29.
00:05:23.380 Poop earrings equals whore. 1.00
00:05:25.520 Sleeve tattoos equals whore. 1.00
00:05:27.200 It was heavy makeup.
00:05:29.080 So, so spot on.
00:05:30.800 It is honestly, sure.
00:05:32.080 Like, I can't even begin to explain it to you.
00:05:34.140 I'm 33 this year.
00:05:35.800 And honestly, I thought by this age I would have met someone.
00:05:38.540 Oh, look at that.
00:05:39.980 I guess too young.
00:05:41.200 Probably a filter.
00:05:41.880 And at least if I hadn't met someone, I would have been close to meeting someone.
00:05:46.700 And honestly, it is so, so bad out there.
00:05:50.840 So this is translation.
00:05:52.660 I date out of my league.
00:05:54.400 She's like a 5, 6, you know, 5.
00:05:58.540 She's 33, 5. 0.68
00:05:59.980 Dating 8.
00:06:00.840 Um, I, last year, got ghosted ongoing by so many different men.
00:06:08.160 Yeah, they probably hurt your age.
00:06:09.820 Sorry, ladies. 1.00
00:06:11.040 Um, not saying that I...
00:06:12.800 I think if you're 30, if I was 33, you should date 50-year-olds.
00:06:16.880 Yes, 45 to 50.
00:06:18.900 Because then you're young to them, you know.
00:06:21.360 Anyways.
00:06:22.240 Had so many on the go.
00:06:24.420 But obviously when you do want to meet someone, you want to try and put yourself out there.
00:06:27.960 So I thought I would jump on here and do a follow-up video or another video relating
00:06:32.560 to my last one because it seemed to get a lot of comments.
00:06:35.480 People had a lot to say about this situation.
00:06:37.280 There was a lot of women agreeing with me saying it's not only Melbourne, which I'm so
00:06:40.940 glad it's everywhere.
00:06:42.160 Yeah.
00:06:42.940 Yeah.
00:06:43.480 We're delusional everywhere.
00:06:45.660 But, um, it's really like sad and disheartening to hear that other women are going through this
00:06:49.760 and yeah, I don't.
00:06:51.420 Yeah, I just want to give you guys a, a, a, to show you what the market is.
00:06:55.020 Half of my generation will be single and childless.
00:06:57.700 The other half will get married or have kids and even on the ones that get married, half
00:07:03.140 will be divorced.
00:07:04.320 So like hearing those things, but it is, I guess, comforting, comforting in a way.
00:07:08.120 But see, she's admitting misery loves company.
00:07:10.260 Yes.
00:07:10.700 Yes.
00:07:11.140 Thank God I'm not alone.
00:07:12.240 Women love to keep other women miserable. 1.00
00:07:14.000 People can kind of relate to what you're going through.
00:07:16.260 Um, I had a lot of comments claiming that because of my tattoos or potential body count
00:07:22.920 that.
00:07:23.360 Um, yeah, yeah, that would probably lower my value to a man.
00:07:32.540 See, it's like, it's like the guys will say, look at this is what we care about.
00:07:36.440 And then she, it's like, they do the air quotes.
00:07:38.300 Well, what men care about.
00:07:39.980 Yeah, it is.
00:07:41.100 Don't shoot the messenger.
00:07:42.560 And to be honest, if any or person thinks that my value.
00:07:46.900 Imagine a man says this.
00:07:48.240 A man says, well, um, money doesn't matter.
00:07:51.960 And if any woman cares about my money and my job, then I don't want her. 1.00
00:07:57.640 Or imagine you could do the same thing.
00:07:59.140 You could do the same thing.
00:08:00.160 Charisma.
00:08:01.140 Is lesser than because I have tattoos.
00:08:03.960 I could potentially have a higher body count.
00:08:06.620 That's not a person that I want to be associated with anyway.
00:08:09.360 And it's not a guy that I would be dating.
00:08:11.000 So die alone.
00:08:12.620 Yeah.
00:08:13.220 Women can either care about what men want and adapt. 0.99
00:08:16.600 Um, or they can die alone.
00:08:18.980 So I would rather for the rest of my life than end up with a person like that.
00:08:23.300 There are so many beautiful women everywhere. 1.00
00:08:27.180 And I have, I don't remember the last time I've seen an attractive guy.
00:08:31.080 It's been months.
00:08:33.040 If he blocked you, that means you have so much power over him.
00:08:35.620 Like, I want you to think about it for a second.
00:08:37.400 To go through the action of going on someone's profile.
00:08:39.480 Okay.
00:08:40.040 Women will often put the way, what it means if a woman does something onto a guy. 1.00
00:08:45.160 So she's saying, if he blocks you, then you have so much power over him.
00:08:50.120 Men are much more simple.
00:08:51.500 He probably blocked you because he doesn't want to deal with you and you're annoying.
00:08:55.100 Where when women block a guy, it's generally more to get attention. 1.00
00:08:59.220 So she's pushing the way that women are onto men. 1.00
00:09:02.760 To select the option to block them.
00:09:04.500 Like that takes a lot of energy and like thought process.
00:09:07.500 No, it doesn't.
00:09:08.600 It doesn't have like two buttons.
00:09:10.020 Like, you know what?
00:09:10.960 This person bothers me so much that I need to block.
00:09:13.700 See, the guys, this is how a woman thinks. 1.00
00:09:16.600 Like a woman will go through the thought process of block, don't block. 1.00
00:09:19.820 Guys are just like, well, that's annoying.
00:09:22.220 They're pretty, they're more simple.
00:09:24.240 I need to put boundaries in place because they affect me.
00:09:27.380 Avoid women that talk about boundaries. 1.00
00:09:29.660 Yes, guys, please.
00:09:31.020 It means they've been in some feminist therapy that makes them crazy. 1.00
00:09:34.840 The women that talk about boundaries, it's like, okay, I'm going to have a bunch of rules 1.00
00:09:39.200 for you to jump through in order to be in a relationship with me.
00:09:42.120 Does that sound appealing to a man?
00:09:43.820 Much that I need to block them.
00:09:46.120 Okay, I'm going to give you a little bit of a mindset switch here, okay?
00:09:48.960 In the past, I have blocked certain guys because after the breakup, it was so painful.
00:09:54.000 And my friends were always like, just block the guy, like do your thing.
00:09:56.940 And I never really had my own opinion.
00:09:58.760 So I just did it because I was like, oh yeah, like that just seems like the thing to do, right?
00:10:03.260 So after I blocked.
00:10:04.400 Do you have a nose job?
00:10:05.460 That looks like a botched nose job.
00:10:07.820 You kind of like instantly go into this feeling of like, oh my God, like they're gone forever.
00:10:11.380 Like, like that's, that's it.
00:10:12.720 Like the story is literally done.
00:10:14.080 Like I blocked them.
00:10:14.720 Like there's nothing else you can do.
00:10:15.860 Like that's literally it.
00:10:16.960 Like I've cut them out of my life forever.
00:10:18.460 So I've been on the apps a lot this week because I'm trying to set up dates because meeting
00:10:23.180 someone is a priority to me, even though it's exhausting and I'm really happy by myself.
00:10:27.420 I know that I need to like do it.
00:10:28.740 So I'm like actively swiping, trying to like set up a few dates for next week, right?
00:10:32.020 And I just got this match or like this message from a guy in Hinge and he said,
00:10:35.720 Amanda, it's been six months that I've seen you on the apps and like you seem perfect.
00:10:39.420 What's happening?
00:10:40.040 Why can't you find someone?
00:10:42.120 And I was like, damn, that is, that is, I was not prepared for that ice cold cup of reality
00:10:46.320 today, but fair.
00:10:47.740 But like, the thing is, I know why I'm still single.
00:10:49.480 It's because bathing is exhausting.
00:10:51.160 So I'll like, I'll go on like one or two dates.
00:10:53.460 They'll be bad.
00:10:54.020 And I'm like, oh my God, I'm so tired.
00:10:55.600 And then you know what ends up happening?
00:10:57.040 I end up prioritizing my friends and my alone time.
00:11:00.180 Like I'm so happy to just be at home by myself or with my, the question is why did the dates
00:11:05.400 go bad?
00:11:06.100 You know what I mean?
00:11:06.800 Cause it's kind of, okay.
00:11:08.100 Friends.
00:11:08.700 And then second, this is the second reason why I haven't met someone yet.
00:11:11.780 Tonight I'm meeting up with an old coworker who I haven't seen in a long time.
00:11:15.000 We were supposed to go out or something.
00:11:16.320 And then I was like, do you want to just come over to my house?
00:11:18.360 Cause like, it's cold outside.
00:11:19.500 I can make apero.
00:11:20.360 And he was like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:11:21.320 Like every time I have the chance to go outside, if there's even like the slightest way to make
00:11:26.260 this be an inside thing, I'm always doing that.
00:11:29.060 Like I'm always trying to scam people into my home.
00:11:31.800 Male friends.
00:11:32.720 Yeah.
00:11:33.080 Cause I don't want to be outside.
00:11:34.740 But do you know what the problem with that is?
00:11:36.520 The men are outside.
00:11:37.960 Yeah.
00:11:38.240 It's going to get more antisocial.
00:11:40.060 Well, and she talks about why she's single and one, you know, she didn't make it a priority. 1.00
00:11:45.640 And two, uh, she kind of, you know, puts it on the guys. 0.50
00:11:49.940 You know what I mean?
00:11:50.620 Like the dates were bad.
00:11:51.960 Well, maybe you're a bad dater.
00:11:53.360 I don't know.
00:11:53.800 But let me know what you guys think in the comments, like the video on your way out, subscribe
00:11:58.440 to the channel, and I'll talk to you next time.