Tiktok Feminist DEMOLISHES @JustPearlyThings
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about a clip I saw on TikTok about women leaving their marriages and why they should have left. I also talk about why women are more likely to be abused than men in long term relationships.
Transcript
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Sometimes I go on TikTok and TikTok's interesting.
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I've been following the Idaho murders case lately.
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But a lot of times on TikTok, I just see these like crazy conspiracy theories about me or
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just all these people just, you know, I'm not too popular on TikTok, I guess.
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But there was a woman that I guess destroyed me.
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I guess she gave me some logic and facts and I'm super excited to see it.
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The people that believe in divorce go be in long-term relationships.
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Leave marriage for the people that actually believe in for better or for worse, for richer
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or for poorer, in sickness and in health till death do us part.
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Do you know what drives me nuts about this clip?
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It's that she's operating off a premise that women are getting married with the intention
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But they're not making commitments with the intention of breaking them.
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They're just making commitments to men who are careful not to reveal themselves until
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And that happens because of how seriously women take their commitments.
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They fight so hard to keep their families together.
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And they've been conditioned to be the one who feels fault if it fails.
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And people can end up taking advantage of that.
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Women end up staying when they should probably leave because they've been sold the myth of the
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infamous rough patch and they keep telling themselves it will get better despite the fact that it keeps
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They sacrifice themselves for what they've been told is the good of the family.
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So these women end up being abused because of how sacred they hold their vows.
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And yet you have the audacity to act like they're just walking away like it means nothing.
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They're not just walking away because he's poorer than the day they met.
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In fact, she usually gets a second job if he loses his and continues to cook dinner nightly.
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And that's also why she hasn't had her nails done in seven years if you even bother to ask her.
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Marriage vows mean so much to so many people but you do not stand on an altar and say for better
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Women stay for the love they have for who that man used to be.
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Or because their family threatens to disown them.
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Or because a church told them that that's their duty.
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Or because they have a child who looks up at them and asks them where daddy is at bedtime.
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And you need to stop shaming people for living a life you've never lived.
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You don't get to interpret someone's vows unless you've walked in their shoes and lived with their
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Because for better or for worse should never mean staying in a situation that's worse than you ever
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For better or for worse should not mean staying in a situation that is worse than you imagined.
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Well, when women imagine that marriage is going to be this Disney fairy tale that's so amazing
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and awesome, of course, I expect them to stay together even if it's worse than they imagined.
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One, women are not getting abused left, right, and center.
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That is not the case and I will have to beat this out of you guys.
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No, stop saying that women are the more likely party to be abused.
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Most abusive situations, the parties are abusing each other.
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If you are constantly attracting abusive partners, it is possible that maybe you are abusive as well.
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When it comes to one-sided abuse, where one party is hitting the other and they are not reciprocating,
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even with the under-reporting that we know men under-report this stuff,
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women are more likely to be abusive than be abused.
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Women are just as abusive, if not more abusive than men.
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The second thing that she points out, I want you to see how women view commitment.
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I don't care if you took the vows and didn't intend to get divorced,
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if you still got divorced because you saw some TikToks.
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Sorry, this idea that women are leaving left and right for good reasons is just not true.
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Most of the time when women leave, it's because they are not submissive,
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they were not raised to be a wife, and they do not take their vows seriously.
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They were sold a Disney dream that their husband should have everything and will have no flaws,
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and are in a gynocentric social order that tells them they're amazing, special, and awesome all the time,
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and never talk about what they do wrong in a relationship.
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Women overwhelmingly do not fight for marriages.
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Men put up with fat wives, they put up with wives that do not sleep with them,
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and they put up with controlling wives, all because they care about the children.
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But women will divorce men because the man says,
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Or maybe you don't get your nails done for seven years.
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Notice how in her language she talks about how getting your nails done is something you're entitled to,
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even though she hasn't had her nails done in seven years.
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Why do you feel entitled to makeup, Botox, and getting your nails done?
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And they forget that really, when you have children,
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you're supposed to dedicate your life to those children.
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And women overwhelmingly do not get a second job.
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Even in relationships that are closer to 50-50, the man still out-earned the women, typically.
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So there were some comments, you know, of me just getting destroyed,
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saying Pearl's just saying things, to be honest.
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And you'll notice that most of the Maya critics and detractors are overweight or older single women.
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Pearl doesn't think through what she's even saying.
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No, guys, I've actually thought it through completely.
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If you take a vow that says you are going to do something, you should do it.
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But when it comes to actually doing the hard stuff, they don't stick it out.
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So there was a woman that actually had a divorce party.
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It is absolutely disgusting that you would celebrate the erosion of a family.
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Guys, when you grow up in a single mother home, you are more likely to go to prison.
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You are more likely to be enrolled in a mental institution.
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You are more likely to drop out of high school.
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Every negative thing in society is linked to single motherhood.
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And yet women parade and cheer each other on as they do it.
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it's not like women just do this for no reason.
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Yet we have women throwing parties about something that is genuinely sad.
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Something that you are supposed to take seriously.
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How can we say women are taking this seriously when we are having parties celebrating it?
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In no world should you be celebrating a divorce.
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Notice that the comments section, when it comes from men,
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Because women comments tend to cheer this shit on.
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Or male comments tend to really tell you how it is.
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it doesn't look like she's happy about the divorce.
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I need a follow-up in a year to see if she sounds like Tyrese's ex.
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thinking the grass is greener on the other side.
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They think that all the men that give them attention
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And if they remarry, they are more likely to divorce than they are to stay with their partner.
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Meaning 60%, the overwhelming majority, do not remarry.
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And why does every single mother think that she is special?
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Every child you have with a man decreases your sexual market value by at least a point.