JustPearlyThings - October 27, 2023


Toxic EX Does The Unthinkable


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10 minutes

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193.03609

Word count

2,042

Sentence count

174

Harmful content

Misogyny

46

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Hate speech

28

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In this episode, we discuss the age difference between men and women when it comes to dating and relationships. We discuss the benefits and drawbacks of dating younger than 25 years old. We also talk about what it takes to be a good parent and how important it is to have a good relationship.

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00:00:00.000 Can I tell a funny story, Phil?
00:00:01.340 I had a French ex who did basically exactly that.
00:00:04.180 I went out to play poker with the guys, right?
00:00:07.520 Friday night, just me and the boys.
00:00:09.480 Phone died while I was there.
00:00:11.220 Wrong.
00:00:11.860 I get home, plug the phone in.
00:00:15.040 I just start hearing, bing, bing, bing.
00:00:17.480 Just coming through.
00:00:18.400 Just coming through.
00:00:19.360 It did that for about two minutes straight.
00:00:21.460 It wasn't relenting.
00:00:22.980 I'm like, what on earth?
00:00:25.520 I look at it.
00:00:27.220 It's about 40 text messages, about 20 missed calls,
00:00:31.440 and about seven voicemails.
00:00:33.360 And it starts off, I'm doing them in sequential order,
00:00:36.200 and it starts off with, hey, babe, what are you up to?
00:00:39.960 I'm free later on.
00:00:41.040 Let me know when you're finished.
00:00:43.080 And then it came, what are you doing?
00:00:46.200 You can feel the text is getting angry.
00:00:49.560 Who is she? 0.99
00:00:51.340 Who is she was the last text.
00:00:53.280 And the voice notes were just her crying into the phone.
00:00:56.620 Like, again, again, again, and again.
00:00:59.160 I'm like, whoa.
00:01:01.160 Broke up with her right after that.
00:01:02.800 That's what you're going to do with a 24-year-old.
00:01:05.380 Right.
00:01:06.940 That girl was older than 24. 1.00
00:01:11.960 I've learned my lesson.
00:01:13.560 The biggest misconception is somehow older women are more mature. 1.00
00:01:18.620 No.
00:01:19.180 No, no, no, no.
00:01:20.840 Or somehow easier to deal with.
00:01:22.140 No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:01:24.260 I think 100% of the women I've kicked out of here 1.00
00:01:27.640 and that have not listened to the rules
00:01:29.620 have been over the age of 25.
00:01:31.780 100%.
00:01:32.980 Like, I can't even think.
00:01:34.340 Oh, no, there was one.
00:01:35.500 Sorry.
00:01:35.820 I thought of one.
00:01:36.520 But.
00:01:37.540 That was one.
00:01:38.740 I forgot about her.
00:01:39.760 But by and large, no.
00:01:44.160 Because when you think about it, when women, like, date, 0.93
00:01:46.480 the more people women date, the higher their standards get. 1.00
00:01:49.940 And we admit this on social media.
00:01:52.060 You'll see girls say, oh, I accepted all this treatment in the past. 0.56
00:01:55.920 I'll never accept this treatment again.
00:01:58.300 It's basically making the men of the future pay for the mistakes of the past.
00:02:02.000 You disagree?
00:02:05.880 I feel like just in general, it seems like we're, like,
00:02:09.060 taking every responsibility of the relationship off of the men.
00:02:13.140 Like, the woman has to be understanding. 0.63
00:02:15.320 She has to conform to whatever you want to have going on in your household. 1.00
00:02:19.580 Like, I think maybe my idea of a relationship is just a little bit different.
00:02:24.600 Like, I don't know.
00:02:25.560 It kind of seems like you want a younger woman that you can, like, mold 1.00
00:02:28.400 or, like, kind of make a certain type of way or that will kind of, like,
00:02:31.680 accept anything.
00:02:32.780 And I don't know if every woman is going to be that. 0.97
00:02:35.500 But it's somebody for everybody, so.
00:02:37.960 You think there's someone for everybody?
00:02:40.560 Somebody's going to like something about somebody.
00:02:43.040 No, that's not true.
00:02:44.880 There's a lot of very lonely, socially awkward men.
00:02:48.260 Yeah, maybe they just haven't been.
00:02:49.540 They haven't been everywhere in the world.
00:02:50.660 They probably haven't.
00:02:51.320 You know, that's how people find their second wind.
00:02:53.820 That's why people do get remarried. 1.00
00:02:55.020 But how do people get around the world by being rich,
00:02:57.620 which means that they're the top 10, 20% of people,
00:03:00.800 which most people aren't going to get to?
00:03:02.360 I mean, I've traveled.
00:03:03.500 I live in another country.
00:03:04.400 I'm not rich.
00:03:05.800 So, I mean, I'm not saying that.
00:03:06.920 How have you traveled?
00:03:07.480 I'm not saying that you have to be all around the world,
00:03:09.520 but I do think, you know, if you put forth that effort,
00:03:12.260 if that's what you want, if that's what you're seeking,
00:03:13.820 if you're going to put every energy.
00:03:16.340 Yeah, explore and meet people and date people and find people.
00:03:19.260 Like, it's going to be, and it might not be your choice,
00:03:22.120 but there might be somebody who is into you
00:03:24.560 and wants what you have to offer.
00:03:25.840 Yeah, but it's not the people that women want. 1.00
00:03:29.460 So the difference between men and women 0.92
00:03:31.680 is men already conform to what women want.
00:03:34.460 So men know they have to be tall.
00:03:36.520 They typically have to be in good shape.
00:03:38.580 They typically have to have a good job and make money.
00:03:41.080 They typically have to be charismatic
00:03:42.380 to get women to even talk to them. 0.99
00:03:44.380 The difference is women don't know what men want 1.00
00:03:46.540 because they'll still sleep with us and give us attention. 0.67
00:03:49.160 So women are not forced to conform to what men want
00:03:52.200 because we'll get the attention anyways.
00:03:53.780 And there's evidence that suggests that 50% of women 0.85
00:03:57.160 are never going to have kids or get married.
00:03:59.620 And then you take the women that do get married, 1.00
00:04:01.660 50% of them will divorce.
00:04:03.340 And that's by 2030, so it's not even that far away.
00:04:06.460 So, like, if we take this room, for example,
00:04:08.300 how many girls are there in this room? 1.00
00:04:10.020 Two, four, six, seven.
00:04:12.240 At least, let's make it nicer than it is.
00:04:16.560 At least three of us will never get married
00:04:18.260 and never have kids.
00:04:20.100 And that's a fact.
00:04:21.160 Yeah, and that might be true.
00:04:22.120 I'm not saying just because there is somebody for everybody
00:04:23.940 that's going to find that person.
00:04:25.160 You might not have the opportunity.
00:04:26.400 Like, I could go out in the street and get hit by a car
00:04:27.920 and I can die tomorrow
00:04:28.600 and I didn't have my opportunity to meet my soulmate.
00:04:31.520 But just because I might not be everybody in this room's cup of tea,
00:04:35.340 that might not be my ratio.
00:04:36.840 That might not be my room to be in.
00:04:38.940 And, you know, I actually agree.
00:04:40.800 There's always a guy that will date a woman. 0.99
00:04:43.500 Yeah, and there's a woman who will accept a man. 1.00
00:04:45.240 No, but that's the difference.
00:04:46.740 Women will not accept the man. 1.00
00:04:48.040 There are, and that's why there's so many divorces. 1.00
00:04:49.500 So, I'll tell you, what percent?
00:04:50.900 So, they surveyed 5,000 men
00:04:52.640 and they asked what percent of men
00:04:54.440 have had more than one sexual partner in the past year.
00:04:57.820 What percent of men said that they did?
00:05:00.480 Guess.
00:05:01.860 I would say 80%.
00:05:03.680 10%.
00:05:04.700 So, women, it's basically 100% of women 1.00
00:05:08.540 are sleeping with 20% of men.
00:05:10.880 And it's the same when you look at dating apps.
00:05:12.820 Women swipe no on men 80% of the time. 0.99
00:05:17.400 And they only swipe right 5%.
00:05:19.400 So, that's the problem.
00:05:21.920 It's not that the women can't get anybody, 1.00
00:05:23.580 but it's once we've hit a certain level,
00:05:25.260 we can't go down.
00:05:26.960 And women admit this, right? 1.00
00:05:28.860 They go around and they say,
00:05:30.260 raise your standards.
00:05:31.280 You're a queen.
00:05:31.860 You're amazing.
00:05:32.400 And then, like, don't accept the treatment
00:05:34.700 that you accepted before.
00:05:35.780 But the problem is,
00:05:38.060 you, there's not enough men
00:05:40.200 that women want to go around. 1.00
00:05:42.900 Well, I think that might have something to do
00:05:45.220 with the way our culture and mindset
00:05:48.080 around relationships have definitely changed.
00:05:51.060 Like, you guys are saying
00:05:52.180 you are wanting a traditional relationship.
00:05:54.500 Well, nobody is moving in a traditional way these days.
00:05:58.060 So, that's why you're not going to find people.
00:05:59.740 You have older men looking for someone half their age 1.00
00:06:02.700 because, you know, they're not,
00:06:04.600 they're clashing with the women 1.00
00:06:05.560 who have these mindsets
00:06:06.780 that they've gathered from pop culture
00:06:08.800 or whatever that's going on today.
00:06:10.660 So, you know, if we have this imbalance
00:06:13.160 of people who are agreeing on
00:06:14.600 what they want out of a relationship
00:06:15.820 or what they actually can provide
00:06:18.080 in that relationship,
00:06:18.940 because I think a lot of people
00:06:20.200 also aren't realistic with themselves,
00:06:22.500 then, of course, you're going to have
00:06:24.200 some type of imbalance
00:06:25.380 in the amount of people
00:06:26.220 that want to be married
00:06:26.940 and the people that will get married.
00:06:28.540 No, but the reality is women today 1.00
00:06:30.740 don't even understand
00:06:32.020 what traditionalism is
00:06:34.140 because when women say 1.00
00:06:35.840 they want to be traditional,
00:06:36.900 they always have this idea
00:06:38.020 of the man pays for everything,
00:06:39.680 the man earns so much money
00:06:41.180 that he can cater for the family.
00:06:42.440 But the reality is
00:06:43.220 most people that were traditional
00:06:44.520 back in the day
00:06:45.540 weren't even living that kind of life.
00:06:48.060 The women were literally 1.00
00:06:49.900 working alongside their husbands
00:06:51.380 and still giving them the respect
00:06:52.760 of being the man of the house.
00:06:54.460 They weren't living any soft life.
00:06:56.000 Most people were poor
00:06:57.460 for most of humanity.
00:06:59.240 So every family you see
00:07:01.020 that have come through time,
00:07:03.020 there's only a few of them
00:07:03.960 that actually lived a soft life.
00:07:06.160 So women today 1.00
00:07:07.380 all want to live like
00:07:08.680 the queens of the past.
00:07:10.480 I agree.
00:07:11.000 And so do the men.
00:07:11.900 That's why you have something
00:07:12.520 called the sassy man apocalypse.
00:07:14.120 Like men are literally 0.86
00:07:14.760 running around
00:07:15.520 bragging about
00:07:16.820 finessing dates out of women. 1.00
00:07:18.540 I actually disagree
00:07:19.240 because all throughout history
00:07:20.720 only 40% of men
00:07:21.940 have ever reproduced.
00:07:23.740 So the reality is
00:07:24.760 throughout history
00:07:26.640 men have never really been
00:07:29.220 at the table
00:07:30.200 like women think. 1.00
00:07:31.220 The only reason why
00:07:31.720 you think men have been 0.71
00:07:32.720 is because it's the men you see.
00:07:34.640 And those are the men
00:07:35.160 that are actually desirable.
00:07:37.480 Like what percent of men
00:07:38.660 do you even think
00:07:39.360 can finesse dates?
00:07:41.520 I think, like I said,
00:07:42.760 it's somebody for everybody.
00:07:43.740 Like you literally have stuff
00:07:44.800 like people that come out of prison
00:07:46.140 and they find women on Facebook
00:07:47.680 and now a woman is 0.99
00:07:48.680 taking care of them
00:07:49.400 and paying all their bills.
00:07:50.780 Women do love... 1.00
00:07:52.300 Women do... 1.00
00:07:53.160 You've been watching FBI.
00:07:54.940 Girl.
00:07:55.320 No, no.
00:07:55.640 She's actually...
00:07:59.940 Love off the look up.
00:08:03.640 That's true.
00:08:05.460 So you're actually...
00:08:06.500 You're not wrong about...
00:08:07.640 You're not wrong about criminals.
00:08:10.000 Like violent criminals
00:08:11.020 are more likely to reproduce
00:08:12.300 but that's because women 1.00
00:08:13.340 are attracted to men
00:08:14.400 that can protect them
00:08:15.380 and there's some biology
00:08:17.000 where women, you know, 1.00
00:08:18.380 think that if a guy
00:08:19.220 kills someone else
00:08:20.380 for some reason
00:08:20.860 that they can kill for her too.
00:08:23.060 Yeah, that's not...
00:08:23.980 And women hate to admit this. 1.00
00:08:25.640 Women absolutely hate to admit 1.00
00:08:27.240 that that's what we find attractive
00:08:28.640 but there is a reason
00:08:29.780 that every single girl 0.81
00:08:31.320 loves watching horror films
00:08:33.480 and documentaries
00:08:34.280 about serial killers.
00:08:35.540 No, no, that's true.
00:08:36.500 Thank you.
00:08:37.020 It's absolutely true.
00:08:38.400 What percent of men
00:08:39.880 do you think women find attractive? 0.99
00:08:41.980 What percent of men?
00:08:42.880 Um, probably like 25, 30 percent.
00:08:47.300 You're close, 20 percent.
00:08:48.660 But I also feel like
00:08:49.760 that's an issue as well.
00:08:51.260 Like, we think we have
00:08:52.380 so many choices
00:08:53.060 and we don't have
00:08:54.020 everybody on the hinge.
00:08:55.340 It's not your choice.
00:08:56.560 Like, you're not going to meet
00:08:57.780 everybody in the world
00:08:58.580 so you can't just base it off
00:09:00.180 of who you're attracted to.
00:09:01.200 Like, there's so many more things
00:09:02.120 that go into a relationship.
00:09:03.400 Only a woman can say that. 1.00
00:09:04.360 You're right,
00:09:05.460 but the problem is
00:09:06.380 that's what women select for 1.00
00:09:07.740 in their 20s.
00:09:08.680 That's the number one thing
00:09:09.740 women select for in their 20s 0.98
00:09:11.260 is looks.
00:09:12.140 And money goes higher
00:09:13.380 in their 30s.
00:09:15.060 And so when women 1.00
00:09:16.000 have the most options
00:09:17.060 they're selecting for looks
00:09:18.380 and they're only dating
00:09:19.780 and sleeping with the top 0.94
00:09:20.800 20 percent of men.
00:09:21.920 Wow.
00:09:22.580 That's why they know
00:09:23.060 And that's why
00:09:23.500 that's why the women 1.00
00:09:24.740 will say men are trash, 1.00
00:09:26.040 men are the problem
00:09:26.680 because they're all sleeping
00:09:27.580 with 20 percent of men
00:09:28.680 where 80 percent of men
00:09:29.680 aren't really getting play at all.
00:09:31.320 No, I agree.
00:09:32.100 Yeah.
00:09:32.520 80 percent of men
00:09:33.240 on the hunt for these women.
00:09:34.400 I agree.
00:09:35.260 You don't got as many
00:09:35.980 places as you think.
00:09:38.060 You need to settle down
00:09:38.760 with the scrub
00:09:39.340 with the bag.
00:09:40.080 Benzo is not coming.
00:09:44.900 Like, he's not coming.
00:09:46.080 And that's why people
00:09:46.900 think that women expire
00:09:47.800 so early
00:09:48.300 is because you're looking
00:09:49.180 for somebody
00:09:49.760 who has this certain image
00:09:51.320 that you've seen
00:09:51.780 on Instagram
00:09:52.200 you've seen on social media
00:09:53.240 where you're sleeping
00:09:54.320 on, you know,
00:09:55.100 every other aspect
00:09:55.880 that is the important things
00:09:57.400 in a relationship
00:09:57.960 looks will fade
00:09:58.920 because if you ask me
00:10:00.600 if women have an expiration date 1.00
00:10:01.980 so do men.
00:10:03.240 Like, just because
00:10:03.760 you can keep going
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