JustPearlyThings - May 13, 2023


Toxic Woman Claims Men Should Spend This Amount On Dates...

Topics
£200 on dates money is in the eye of beholder unemployment
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Paul Brokey
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Length

8 minutes

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245.2

Word count

2,126

Sentence count

261

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Misogyny

6

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Toxicity

15

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9

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In this episode, we talk about who pays on a first date, who pays for a first time, and why a man should invest in you before you have even slept with him. We also talk about why a woman should pay for a man to invest in her before they even have sex.

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00:00:00.000 The thing is, there's an extent, there's a limit.
00:00:02.400 You can't do everything because you don't know if that man's serious yet.
00:00:05.300 You don't know what's going on.
00:00:06.320 So you can't do everything.
00:00:07.500 And you're not out here proving that.
00:00:10.100 Listen, he needs to prove to you that he's a good husband.
00:00:12.380 But that's fear, though.
00:00:13.380 No, he don't. 0.95
00:00:13.720 What the hell? 0.96
00:00:14.300 Yes? 0.97
00:00:14.920 That's fear, though.
00:00:16.220 Like, that's the thing.
00:00:16.820 Like, you're going into something in bad faith.
00:00:18.680 Oh, I can't do too much for him.
00:00:20.440 Otherwise, he might not pick me.
00:00:22.200 Why give him a tough anyway?
00:00:23.320 Yeah, but it's like you're going into things in fear. 0.99
00:00:25.860 And you don't get anything worth having if you go into shit scared. 0.99
00:00:29.540 Exactly. 0.99
00:00:30.000 Like, you can get your heart broke.
00:00:31.640 Like, it happens.
00:00:32.740 Scared money don't make no money.
00:00:34.100 Yeah, but it's like you have to.
00:00:35.600 In order to start this whole podcast, I had to invest first.
00:00:40.480 But women want all the outcomes without having to invest anything. 1.00
00:00:44.240 I feel like it's a two-way thing.
00:00:46.480 You didn't hear what she just said.
00:00:47.480 A husband has to come to her already. 0.99
00:00:49.500 So it's a two-way thing.
00:00:50.880 So then why does a wife have to come? 1.00
00:00:51.840 So don't you think, Paul, it's a two-way thing.
00:00:53.780 So if I'm 50-50, and then you're both on the same page, that's different.
00:00:58.360 Of course I can do that.
00:00:59.020 But if I'm not going to do the most and you're doing the least.
00:01:01.460 Okay, so I have a question.
00:01:02.600 When you go on dates, who pays?
00:01:04.860 He does, but I will pay.
00:01:06.020 I can pay.
00:01:06.620 No, I didn't say you can pay.
00:01:07.880 I said who pays?
00:01:08.960 The guy will.
00:01:09.940 Okay, so why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him?
00:01:13.440 But can I tell you something, Paul?
00:01:14.480 Why?
00:01:15.460 No, no, no.
00:01:16.260 We have to think about this.
00:01:17.640 Why does he have to invest in you before you've slept with him? 0.71
00:01:19.860 But I've done that before to men.
00:01:21.200 I've paid on first dates before.
00:01:22.500 I've offered.
00:01:23.240 You know, because I have the kindness of my heart.
00:01:24.700 I've done it.
00:01:27.640 Offered and done it.
00:01:28.260 I'm not talking about what you have done.
00:01:29.680 I'm talking about what typically happens.
00:01:31.460 You're a pretty girl.
00:01:32.240 I know these men pay for you.
00:01:34.020 I feel like men are in a stereotypical mindset where they feel like they're the big man.
00:01:41.140 They have to be responsible for paying for a first date and stuff like that. 1.00
00:01:44.320 So I feel like that's why they do it automatically.
00:01:46.160 Because men are traditional.
00:01:48.880 You're right.
00:01:49.580 Men are in more traditional roles than women.
00:01:52.620 So it's like the men are coming to you in a traditional role.
00:01:55.260 They're taking you on a date.
00:01:56.160 They're paying.
00:01:57.140 But you're saying, I can't be a traditional woman for him.
00:01:59.820 I can't give him wifely duties. 0.96
00:02:01.040 When off the bat, before he even knows if he's going to get sex from you, 0.95
00:02:05.680 which is what men want, right? 0.84
00:02:07.640 He's paying.
00:02:08.840 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:02:10.560 Let's be honest.
00:02:11.320 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:02:12.880 Yes, yes, yes.
00:02:13.340 Let's be honest.
00:02:14.760 £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:02:17.420 Hold on, hold on.
00:02:18.040 Let me just show of hands here.
00:02:20.320 Is £200 nothing to you guys?
00:02:23.560 Raise your hand if £200 is nothing to you.
00:02:25.080 If the investment goes right, it's great.
00:02:26.560 If it doesn't go right, it's a lot.
00:02:28.140 Okay, okay.
00:02:28.260 If one is £200 is nothing, so none of these men are men?
00:02:33.840 Of course they're men, but there's different calibers of men.
00:02:36.020 Okay, they're not the right calibers of men?
00:02:38.060 Yeah, what's the calibers?
00:02:38.860 Yeah, what's the calibers?
00:02:39.980 What's that about?
00:02:40.660 No, but I just, you know, I have a certain type of man.
00:02:44.740 Like, I like a man that's, you know, I want a man that's like a leader in a high position.
00:02:50.160 That can teach me because I want to be in that place too.
00:02:52.500 And you're willing to show him nothing.
00:02:55.200 No, listen, like I said, £200 ain't nothing to a man.
00:02:58.880 You could show him everything and he will just, and he could possibly not be serious of you
00:03:02.980 and be speaking to another girl or sleeping with someone else.
00:03:05.440 And that's the only reason.
00:03:07.520 Until I know that you're serious, I can surrender to you, period.
00:03:11.940 So you're not even respecting a man's pocket on the first day? 0.84
00:03:14.340 Like I said, £200 is nothing to a man that has to be. 0.77
00:03:17.060 Yeah, exactly, you don't respect the money because you just said it's nothing.
00:03:19.540 Because you're looking at it like, bro, my man's going to show the money.
00:03:21.520 Unless he states he's not able to afford to go on a date or whatever.
00:03:25.360 No man is going to state anything.
00:03:27.780 A man could have his last £200 and spend that dose.
00:03:29.680 Bro, you don't date when you're broke.
00:03:30.560 No, no.
00:03:31.160 You don't date when you're broke.
00:03:32.100 Wait, one second, one second.
00:03:32.560 You can't say that because men are dating when they're broke.
00:03:35.040 Well, that would never be me.
00:03:36.960 What do you mean?
00:03:37.380 You would have known that.
00:03:37.880 If he doesn't want to spend £200 on a date, like, what?
00:03:41.260 No, I mean.
00:03:41.940 You need £200 on a first date?
00:03:43.960 For what?
00:03:45.580 But that's, I didn't ask.
00:03:47.260 No, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, you said, no, you said £200 ain't
00:03:51.920 nothing to a man.
00:03:52.820 To a man, yeah.
00:03:53.280 And then when, and then when all of these guys said, no, that is something to me, you 0.99
00:03:57.580 shat on them. 0.96
00:03:58.560 You said, you said they're not a high enough calibre of man. 0.97
00:04:01.320 No, no, no, personally, but I'm saying from my experience, um, they, people have paid
00:04:06.520 and I've been on dates and I've never spoke to a person again after and they spent a lot
00:04:09.860 of money.
00:04:10.280 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:10.740 What I'm saying is, yeah, you're not valuing their time and money because you think that
00:04:14.940 every single one of them that's spending that money, whether it's £100 or £200, you think
00:04:18.580 all of them have got it.
00:04:19.720 There's some man that probably have taken you out on a date and that's their last name
00:04:22.080 of money.
00:04:22.100 Probably, but I would never know.
00:04:23.060 Exactly.
00:04:23.600 So then, but you're still not respecting their money.
00:04:25.520 I don't think about it like that.
00:04:27.100 Exactly.
00:04:27.400 Because you're still saying that you, you can't give them too much, but they're spending
00:04:31.680 £200 on you on a first date.
00:04:33.560 But I don't think, the way guys go on, they act like money's nothing to them and they're,
00:04:37.520 do you know what I mean?
00:04:38.060 So why would I be so conscious?
00:04:39.800 Like, unless I love you and I know about your financial situation, it'll be completely different.
00:04:43.240 No, okay, but this is the thing, you're just not appreciative.
00:04:45.640 Because you're saying, oh, no, you're not, I'm listening to you speak.
00:04:48.780 Does she come off appreciative to anyone?
00:04:50.660 No.
00:04:50.880 I'm not an ungrateful person, like for real, for real.
00:04:53.540 Okay, but we're, I'm listening to you speak.
00:04:55.540 If I liked a guy and I spoke to him on a level and he came to me and said, I can't even afford
00:04:59.920 to take you out in a certain place, I would not have a problem with that.
00:05:02.720 Believe me.
00:05:03.120 No man is going to do that.
00:05:03.700 Believe me.
00:05:04.160 But you just, but you just, you just said it ain't nothing to a man.
00:05:07.420 And when all the guys in here said, right.
00:05:09.880 But I said, when all the guys in here said, no, that is something to me.
00:05:12.640 You said, you said they are not the caliber of man.
00:05:15.940 You insulted them.
00:05:17.080 No, not really.
00:05:18.260 No, I said broke men don't date.
00:05:21.500 That's what I said.
00:05:22.060 Okay, so a man's broke if he doesn't want to spend 200 pounds.
00:05:25.040 Again, I'm from, I'm from a 1% like top earning family.
00:05:28.860 My, like broke men can just not want to spend 200 pounds on someone they don't know.
00:05:33.200 They don't have to.
00:05:33.800 Yeah, but I don't ask for it.
00:05:34.980 It's not that bad.
00:05:35.340 But you know what?
00:05:36.120 If a man really likes you and he's into you, he would spend his last 200 pound on you without
00:05:40.600 you knowing.
00:05:41.080 But I would not have known that.
00:05:42.100 Because they go on like, they have money and they go on like, oh, like everything's fine.
00:05:45.320 No, but it's not like a man's going on like anything.
00:05:48.640 A man's just not going, we're not going to openly say, oh, we're going to the dinner table. 0.95
00:05:52.040 The bill comes out.
00:05:52.800 Oh, you know what?
00:05:53.220 I can't afford this.
00:05:54.040 But some man, I don't know.
00:05:54.960 I've never been in a situation.
00:05:55.800 You're never going to be in that.
00:05:56.820 I've never been.
00:05:57.520 So I can't relate to that.
00:05:58.460 What's your name?
00:05:59.100 Royal.
00:05:59.700 Royal.
00:06:00.460 You're never going to be in that situation where a man's going to be at the table and 1.00
00:06:02.860 tell you, yo, I've got money to pay for this.
00:06:03.660 I've had one guy say to me that, like, go for coffee.
00:06:06.440 And, you know, he's, I think he's, I think he was testing me, but I was fine with that
00:06:09.620 because I actually liked him.
00:06:10.640 Like, it's not an issue.
00:06:11.300 I don't care about the money.
00:06:12.980 No, he never.
00:06:13.420 But he said that, you know, I'm not in a great position right now.
00:06:16.140 And that's fine because I knew he was intelligent.
00:06:17.940 And I knew that he was someone I could build with because he's very smart.
00:06:20.820 He just wasn't in the right place at the time.
00:06:22.740 Now, I didn't have an issue with that.
00:06:24.140 Unfortunately, it didn't work out.
00:06:25.400 Why didn't it work out?
00:06:26.120 Well, he's, he's Muslim.
00:06:29.320 Bro, it's not about money.
00:06:30.360 Like, I'm not a shallow person.
00:06:32.120 So, please, let's not do that.
00:06:33.560 Like, I know I'm not a shallow person.
00:06:34.660 We're just repeating back what you're saying.
00:06:36.420 Yeah, what you're saying.
00:06:36.740 But I'm speaking from my own experience so far.
00:06:38.800 I can't say anything else but what I've experienced.
00:06:40.320 Yeah, but there could have been at least two of them.
00:06:41.820 So, I've never had a man that's not been able to pay for something that he, I'm aware
00:06:45.140 of, and he has.
00:06:46.100 I've never had that.
00:06:46.620 Yeah, no, that you're aware of.
00:06:47.920 There could have been at least one man that took you on that date that was his last dime.
00:06:51.120 Probably, yeah.
00:06:51.720 And I would never have knew.
00:06:52.800 So, and I'm compassionate about that.
00:06:54.140 No, you have to respect that.
00:06:55.160 I do respect that.
00:06:56.600 But I.
00:07:00.360 I just don't know if we have the same energy.
00:07:07.940 Do you know what it is?
00:07:08.460 I feel like beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
00:07:10.560 So, sorry, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, period.
00:07:14.280 So, there's a guy that might be attracted to an overweight woman. 0.98
00:07:16.640 Money is in the eye of the beholder.
00:07:19.380 Um, listen.
00:07:20.320 Money is in the eye of the beholder. 1.00
00:07:21.860 Listen, if your mentality is above average and you're broke, I fuck with you. 1.00
00:07:26.840 Because I know you've got potential and that we can build together. 1.00
00:07:29.340 We can be power couples.
00:07:30.240 Well, what is potential?
00:07:31.680 It's money later.
00:07:32.720 Like, that's all it is.
00:07:33.940 Potential is money later.
00:07:35.180 No, no, no.
00:07:35.200 It's more about, like, life.
00:07:36.760 Just God.
00:07:37.400 Okay, okay.
00:07:37.620 If you meet Brokey at 25 and you're with him for five years, he's still Brokey, unemployed.
00:07:44.220 What, you're staying?
00:07:45.060 Say that again, sorry.
00:07:45.900 Brokey.
00:07:46.360 He meet a Brokey guy, 25, and he's unemployed. 0.99
00:07:49.360 And now he's 30.
00:07:51.800 You're still with him.
00:07:52.740 He's unemployed.
00:07:53.340 Are you staying or going?
00:07:54.600 No.
00:07:55.120 Because you're not pushing me to my limit.
00:07:56.320 No.
00:07:56.760 I wouldn't.
00:07:57.300 What, five years?
00:07:57.840 You wouldn't ride out five years?
00:07:58.760 If he is unemployed and broke for five years and doesn't want to make a move, I can't be
00:08:02.800 with you.
00:08:03.100 How long does it take to create a proper business and be successful in life?
00:08:05.720 But if you're unemployed, not doing nothing.
00:08:08.000 Girl, I don't think you should.
00:08:10.200 Like, don't let him.
00:08:10.900 I forgot I'm unemployed for five years now.
00:08:13.300 You should do something else.
00:08:14.080 Not, not, not unemployed.
00:08:14.900 That's what I said, I said unemployed.
00:08:15.820 Oh, you said unemployed.
00:08:16.460 Okay, yeah.
00:08:16.900 So if he's stagnant.
00:08:17.620 All right.
00:08:17.860 So if he's stagnant.
00:08:18.500 I'm with you, I'm with you, but my, my, my point is you're, you're lying.
00:08:23.600 Like, it's, it's lying.
00:08:24.820 You know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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