JustPearlyThings - Toxic Woman Contradicts Herself In Real Time

00:00:00.000 How did the shoving happen?

00:00:01.440 What led up to that?

00:00:02.800 Because he wanted me to leave.

00:00:04.180 He literally tried to drag me.

00:00:07.300 Were you refusing to leave?

00:00:09.680 Yeah, because I was in my feelings.

00:00:12.060 Because I knew he was lying.

00:00:13.760 Okay, okay.

00:00:14.940 You kind of framed this.

00:00:18.860 Why do a lot of women, 1.00

00:00:20.480 they accuse a man of being the bad guy,

00:00:22.780 the guy that hurts them, the guy that beats them.

00:00:24.920 But then the reason,

00:00:26.000 they caused the reason,

00:00:27.720 because if you physically don't move in certain spaces,

00:00:29.700 it's the way you speak to someone.

00:00:33.540 It's the way you conduct yourself in that situation.

00:00:35.740 But if you're in, this has happened to me before.

00:00:37.440 I've been, Esther.

00:00:40.600 You know, you know.

00:00:42.160 No, there was a girl here, 0.97

00:00:43.620 and I asked her to leave,

00:00:45.140 and she didn't like the way I asked her to leave. 0.97

00:00:47.400 And then she starts yelling at me. 1.00

00:00:50.040 And then, well, we didn't have security then,

00:00:52.920 but my security would have just picked her up 1.00

00:00:54.420 and taken her out.

00:00:55.520 But then it's like the way you're saying this,

00:00:57.560 it's like, what are the options you have?

00:00:59.020 I wouldn't have done that.

00:00:59.980 How do you say that?

00:01:00.380 See, the thing, I wouldn't have done that.

00:01:01.460 But when it's an emotional, sexual connection,

00:01:03.580 you've got other feelings.

00:01:04.540 Like, you feel rejection,

00:01:05.700 you feel like you're being violated.

00:01:07.060 It just feels, it's kind of different.

00:01:08.480 But I'm saying, like, you're kind of,

00:01:09.160 so you're kind of making yourself,

00:01:11.040 so basically, like, you were kind of overbearing,

00:01:13.580 because you thought he did something,

00:01:16.000 and you had no proof he did it.

00:01:17.140 No, I did, because he said what,

00:01:18.800 he changed his story, and...

00:01:20.420 But you've never said two things

00:01:21.760 that contradicted yourself ever.

00:01:23.560 I have.

00:01:25.140 It just happens when you talk.

00:01:27.680 It's very easy to say the wrong thing

00:01:30.200 if you're being cross-examined.

00:01:31.960 Because you know what?

00:01:32.540 When you say earlier on,

00:01:33.860 where men are analysing women

00:01:35.300 and women are analysing men,

00:01:36.880 he's looking at you like,

00:01:37.780 rah, so you're going to argue

00:01:39.300 against me picking up my kids.

00:01:40.800 But I knew he wasn't.

00:01:41.820 It don't matter whether you know

00:01:43.700 he's not, or he is, yeah?

00:01:45.120 In his head, right, hold on,

00:01:47.540 I'm telling you something about my kids,

00:01:49.240 and you're arguing against my kids.

00:01:51.600 To him, the kids are the main priority.

00:01:53.680 But even so, even so...

00:01:54.880 Does he have a right to privacy?

00:01:56.920 Of course.

00:01:57.860 I'm not a possessive person.

00:01:59.100 Maybe there is something

00:01:59.940 that he just didn't want you to know.

00:02:01.360 Maybe he was private with the mud. 0.70

00:02:02.740 Like, you know, I mean,

00:02:04.160 like, baby mama situations can be tricky. 0.98

00:02:06.680 Like, sometimes guys don't want to get you

00:02:08.580 in on all the drama.

00:02:10.000 But it's like, you're going into it

00:02:11.580 in bad faith,

00:02:12.440 so you're assuming the worst,

00:02:13.660 when maybe it wasn't the worst.

00:02:15.080 No, I'm saying.

00:02:15.360 But I also feel like

00:02:16.200 it's just the way you conduct yourself

00:02:17.420 in a sensitive situation as well.

00:02:19.300 Like, I just feel like...

00:02:20.100 But couldn't we say that to you, though?

00:02:21.940 Because it's the way, like,

00:02:22.720 you didn't listen when he said leave.

00:02:24.380 Mm-hmm.

00:02:24.900 So it's kind of like, as women,

00:02:26.100 like, we kind of have this double standard

00:02:27.460 where we make him the bad guy

00:02:28.820 when it's like, you kind of started it.

00:02:30.420 But then, oh yeah, I remember now.

00:02:31.920 Also, the reason was, like,

00:02:33.200 I've stayed in the house by myself before,

00:02:34.740 and at this point, he, like,

00:02:35.800 he didn't want me to stay.

00:02:36.680 So it's like, if you love me,

00:02:38.740 why can't I stay here while you go

00:02:39.940 and pick up your child,

00:02:40.800 do what you need to do,

00:02:41.440 and I'll stay here tonight,

00:02:42.220 and you come back.

00:02:42.840 Because you don't want me there.

00:02:43.880 Because that's entitlement.

00:02:45.640 It's not your house.

00:02:46.340 It's the same.

00:02:47.600 Like, if I own this apartment,

00:02:50.460 if I want anyone to leave at any time,

00:02:53.320 I have the right to do that.

00:02:55.560 Absolutely.

00:02:56.260 But that wasn't the issue.

00:02:57.540 Honestly, I didn't have an issue with that.

00:02:58.860 It was just the way it happened

00:02:59.920 and the things that he was saying

00:03:01.200 and the way he was speaking to me.

00:03:02.280 No, okay, but this is, like,

00:03:03.440 a lot of problems with women in relationships. 1.00

00:03:05.320 We want men to emote, like, women. 0.92

00:03:07.400 But he's not a woman. 0.64

00:03:08.400 He's a man.

00:03:09.120 Men don't speak like women do. 1.00

00:03:10.580 Like, they're much more stern.

00:03:12.500 And so a lot of times, like,

00:03:13.260 we think something's aggressive,

00:03:14.500 but men are just more aggressive than women.

00:03:16.820 Maybe you might want to call him.

00:03:17.980 But we're not aggressive.

00:03:18.480 He seems like a hard man to replace.

00:03:20.040 Can we just say that?

00:03:21.000 And say sorry.

00:03:21.840 And you said in the beginning

00:03:23.080 that the men that like you,

00:03:24.500 you don't want.

00:03:25.460 So that means the men you want 0.55

00:03:26.440 don't want you.

00:03:27.420 Wow.

00:03:27.840 I haven't met the one, I think.

00:03:28.860 No, but that's, like,

00:03:29.500 that's what any girl that's single, 1.00

00:03:30.860 it just means the men you want 0.62

00:03:31.840 don't want you.

00:03:32.920 And it's not meant to be offensive.

00:03:33.900 The thing is,

00:03:34.240 it's actually crazy

00:03:34.960 because there's no one

00:03:35.540 I actually want.

00:03:37.460 Apart from...

00:03:38.220 There's, okay, but, okay,

00:03:39.440 come on.

00:03:40.020 There's nobody in the world

00:03:41.140 that you'd want.

00:03:41.900 I'm attracted to, like,

00:03:43.040 someone, but he's,

00:03:43.820 but he's like a celebrity.

00:03:45.820 You know, like, sex appeal,

00:03:47.180 but there's no one

00:03:47.760 I actually want.

00:03:48.580 Okay, do you think

00:03:49.100 you're on, like,

00:03:49.560 the level of a celebrity?

00:03:51.380 Yeah.

00:03:52.940 You're not on the level

00:03:53.720 of a celebrity.

00:03:54.720 I think I am.

00:03:56.240 You're just delusional, man.

00:03:57.420 I think I am.

00:03:58.340 I think I am.

00:03:58.460 I think I'm...

00:03:59.620 No, you're a pretty girl, but... 1.00

00:04:00.620 I think I'm an amazing person

00:04:01.880 from being lost.

00:04:02.580 Celebrity's, like,

00:04:04.360 top 10, 20% of beauty.

00:04:06.300 Like, that's...

00:04:06.660 Yeah, but remember,

00:04:07.360 I think I'm beautiful

00:04:08.140 without the Botox,

00:04:10.480 without the money,

00:04:11.780 without all that money

00:04:12.540 to do myself up.

00:04:13.360 So, I think I'm great.

00:04:14.780 This is, like, a cope

00:04:15.960 I see women do. 1.00

00:04:17.040 Like, it's, like,

00:04:17.820 you think because

00:04:18.960 they have money,

00:04:19.920 they're beautiful

00:04:20.540 when they got there.

00:04:22.120 Money helped.

00:04:22.840 But if you look at

00:04:23.340 Margot Robbie before Fame,

00:04:24.660 that girl was a 10. 0.94

00:04:25.700 I don't know who that is.

00:04:26.600 But then you're doing

00:04:27.100 selectiveness

00:04:27.680 because there's enough

00:04:28.420 girls that go there 1.00

00:04:29.220 and the money

00:04:29.800 glows them up only.

00:04:30.820 I disagree.

00:04:32.420 Not the girls 0.89

00:04:32.880 that get there

00:04:33.300 for looks alone.

00:04:34.640 Top 20% of beauty.

00:04:36.260 You can look at exceptions

00:04:37.440 like that,

00:04:38.600 like Kylie Jenner.

00:04:40.320 She's not beautiful.

00:04:42.240 She wasn't beautiful before.

00:04:43.780 No, she was cute, 1.00

00:04:44.560 but yeah.

00:04:44.920 I mean,

00:04:45.260 she wasn't that beautiful.

00:04:46.140 No, she gets fixed up. 0.99

00:04:46.880 She wasn't.

00:04:47.220 But, like,

00:04:47.820 I'm just saying,

00:04:48.380 in general, guys,

00:04:49.520 like, can we just talk

00:04:50.340 in general

00:04:50.800 instead of exceptions?

00:04:51.780 Most celebrities

00:04:52.320 are top 20% of beauty

00:04:53.620 in general.

00:04:54.420 Like, we could talk

00:04:56.240 about, there's some

00:04:56.920 exceptions, like Kylie

00:04:58.220 Jenner did her lips,

00:04:59.140 whatever, but most

00:04:59.880 people in Hollywood

00:05:01.300 were the top 20%

00:05:02.400 of beauty

00:05:02.780 wherever they're from.

00:05:04.980 I still don't agree,

00:05:06.020 but yeah.

00:05:06.460 Okay, I feel you.

00:05:07.340 I feel you.

00:05:08.900 I don't know.

00:05:09.380 Maybe you should call him.

00:05:10.420 No, definitely not.

00:05:12.660 He might.

00:05:13.300 Oh, I'm an apology.

00:05:14.440 I don't know.

00:05:15.000 No, we had a closure,

00:05:16.880 but he's not the one for me.

00:05:18.160 He's not my soulmate.

00:05:19.140 What's the definition

00:05:19.460 of the one?

00:05:20.940 I just feel like

00:05:21.580 there's a difference

00:05:22.260 in behavior,

00:05:23.640 and the way you feel

00:05:24.520 as well.

00:05:25.240 I can accept,

00:05:25.840 I'm not a possessive person.

00:05:27.020 I can accept,

00:05:27.720 I really like my independence,

00:05:29.000 but I just know

00:05:30.220 there's a certain way

00:05:31.260 that you will handle

00:05:31.840 someone in those situations.

00:05:33.780 Are you your only child?

00:05:34.260 That just wasn't,

00:05:35.160 I'm not,

00:05:35.420 no, I've got

00:05:35.840 loads of brothers and sisters.

00:05:36.020 You know what it is, though?

00:05:36.980 You know what it is?

00:05:37.400 Sorry, I just know

00:05:38.180 within myself.

00:05:38.940 Sorry, are you your only child?

00:05:40.180 No, I've got brothers and sisters.

00:05:41.120 Are you the youngest?

00:05:42.040 I'm in the middle.

00:05:43.260 Oh, okay.

00:05:44.300 So, growing up,

00:05:47.700 did your mum have a partner?

00:05:49.780 Did you have a stepdad around?

00:05:51.040 None.

00:05:51.140 Yeah, yeah,

00:05:52.060 like, no,

00:05:52.980 but not permanently.

00:05:53.960 So, what,

00:05:55.540 in terms of looking up,

00:05:56.900 do you know how to look

00:05:57.640 after a man?

00:05:58.280 Of course.

00:05:59.220 No, because you're saying

00:06:00.040 certain things that

00:06:00.860 in a relationship,

00:06:01.780 it's like,

00:06:03.060 if you saw a relationship

00:06:04.720 with your mum and dad

00:06:05.360 growing up,

00:06:05.880 then there's certain things

00:06:06.760 you wouldn't do

00:06:07.760 in a relationship,

00:06:08.640 you know what I'm saying,

00:06:09.200 to keep the man.

00:06:10.820 Listen,

00:06:11.400 every man,

00:06:12.180 every man that's been

00:06:13.480 my boyfriend

00:06:13.940 has returned,

00:06:15.220 and they haven't found

00:06:16.720 better.

00:06:17.360 No, it's not the same.

00:06:18.020 Definitely not.

00:06:18.580 Have you ever been married?

00:06:20.380 Have you proposed to you?

00:06:21.420 Yeah.

00:06:22.300 You've been proposed

00:06:23.220 to be in a gate?

00:06:23.900 Well, not like on one knee.

00:06:26.040 I haven't had that experience yet,

00:06:27.160 but I've had similar.

00:06:28.200 He bought you a ring?

00:06:28.780 Yes.

00:06:29.200 Oh, promise ring.

00:06:29.660 I've had similar,

00:06:30.380 but not like that.

00:06:31.240 He was young, so.

00:06:32.080 A promise ring?

00:06:33.300 Basically, kind of like that.

00:06:34.280 Do you know what I mean?

00:06:35.140 He promised.

00:06:35.860 Okay.

00:06:36.560 It is what,

00:06:37.080 it's the same thing.

00:06:37.860 It's rare for a man to do that.

00:06:39.520 No, promise rings don't count.

00:06:40.680 No, it does,

00:06:41.180 because it's rare,

00:06:41.800 because that does not count.

00:06:42.420 Do you think that men

00:06:43.240 go out and buy promise rings?

00:06:45.120 Just a lie with a gift.

00:06:46.220 I'll be honest.

00:06:47.640 Girl, I've had one.

00:06:48.820 It's not that big.

00:06:49.440 I fell, fell.

00:06:50.080 Let me have the...

00:06:51.120 But he has to really like you

00:06:52.300 to be,

00:06:52.720 because he's not going

00:06:53.240 to do that to everyone.

00:06:54.060 No, no, I'm not going to lie.

00:06:54.880 Man will buy promise rings still.

00:06:56.520 It's never going to happen.

00:06:58.100 It doesn't count.

00:06:58.940 You need a wedding date.

00:07:00.000 Yeah, hundreds.

00:07:00.820 A wedding date,

00:07:01.540 not a little ring.

00:07:03.360 But I was young anyway.

00:07:04.280 No, okay,

00:07:04.800 so it wasn't a real,

00:07:05.880 it wasn't a real proposal.

00:07:07.640 No, no, no.

00:07:08.640 Okay, so the whole point

00:07:10.000 is like you're counting

00:07:10.900 things that don't count.

00:07:12.160 It doesn't count

00:07:13.080 if they don't want to marry you.

00:07:14.180 No, I feel you.

00:07:14.780 Well, they do.

00:07:15.520 Their intention is to,

00:07:16.280 but, you know.

00:07:16.800 No, men say things.

00:07:17.920 When they mean it,

00:07:18.500 they do it.

00:07:19.900 Like, you can't,

00:07:21.040 you can't count it like...

00:07:22.320 I know what you mean,

00:07:22.980 but, you know,

00:07:24.020 shit happens.

00:07:24.540 You know,

00:07:24.980 I've had guys say,

00:07:25.860 I want to marry you.

00:07:26.880 It doesn't count

00:07:27.420 unless he goes by the ring,

00:07:29.320 ask my dad.

00:07:30.320 This is,

00:07:30.900 we can't like,

00:07:31.980 like, I don't know

00:07:32.480 why as women, 1.00

00:07:32.940 we count things that don't count.

00:07:34.380 You know it don't count.

00:07:35.960 So, you've been proposed to

00:07:36.960 a couple of times.

00:07:38.320 No, it don't count.

00:07:42.540 That's what I just said.

00:07:44.000 Like, yeah.

00:07:44.180 So, no one's

00:07:45.020 boot a ring and said...

00:07:46.960 No, no, no.

00:07:48.200 It doesn't,

00:07:48.780 it don't count.

00:07:50.320 Like,

00:07:51.020 it's like I had a promise ring,

00:07:52.540 but is a promise ring

00:07:53.320 or a wedding ring?

00:07:53.940 No, it's not.

00:07:55.380 I don't count that.

00:07:56.620 But any time we feel like it.

00:07:57.680 But did he say

00:07:58.160 it was a promise ring

00:07:58.920 or did he say

00:07:59.400 it's an engagement ring?

00:08:00.700 No, he said

00:08:01.320 it was a promise ring

00:08:02.280 and then he said

00:08:03.140 he was trying to...

00:08:04.760 He said,

00:08:06.060 it doesn't count.

00:08:06.840 That's what I'm saying.

00:08:07.340 Financially,

00:08:07.820 he was trying to get

00:08:08.580 the property.

00:08:10.500 I'm not going to do it.

00:08:11.620 It doesn't count.

00:08:14.360 Okay,

00:08:14.860 so everyone went,

00:08:16.600 right?

00:08:16.780 How does a guy

00:08:17.400 identify a good woman?

00:08:18.500 Yeah,

00:08:19.060 mandem time.

00:08:19.960 Okay.

00:08:21.080 All right,

00:08:21.560 men,

00:08:22.020 if you want to say

00:08:22.640 how do I...

00:08:23.940 One,

00:08:24.560 are any of you

00:08:25.080 with a good woman? 0.69

00:08:26.940 Like,

00:08:27.180 anyone married?

00:08:28.340 Anyone married?

00:08:29.000 We're not married yet.

00:08:29.820 No,

00:08:30.300 no,

00:08:30.680 no married.

00:08:31.200 Okay,

00:08:31.360 I just wanted to get...

00:08:32.180 Okay.

00:08:32.520 How do you find a good woman? 1.00

00:08:34.020 How do I find one?

00:08:35.120 Yeah,

00:08:35.400 identify one.

00:08:37.180 I think a good woman...

00:08:39.640 I can't tell a good woman 1.00

00:08:41.200 straight away.

00:08:42.420 It has to be

00:08:43.000 along the course of time.

00:08:44.500 She needs to be 0.93

00:08:45.300 how I want,

00:08:46.740 when I want,

00:08:47.840 when I need her to be.

00:08:49.440 And I won't get that

00:08:50.620 from the first look basis.

00:08:52.660 Do you know what I mean?

00:08:53.460 So I think a first...

00:08:55.160 A good woman,

00:08:55.860 to me,

00:08:57.180 is a woman that has

00:08:58.820 good family values,

00:09:00.960 that know how to

00:09:01.580 be around her family,

00:09:04.020 that has a good relationship

00:09:05.000 with her dad,

00:09:06.180 submissive,

00:09:11.200 caring,

00:09:11.900 nurturing,

00:09:14.620 healthy.

00:09:20.120 That's about it.

00:09:21.200 All right,

00:09:21.740 caring.

00:09:22.360 Yeah,

00:09:22.640 that's about it for me.

00:09:23.780 And how do you know

00:09:24.780 a good one?

00:09:25.360 So right now,

00:09:26.160 this is what you have to do.

00:09:27.120 You have to see her

00:09:27.720 for three months,

00:09:28.960 ask her to make you

00:09:30.080 a coffee.

00:09:31.000 No,

00:09:31.280 I'm...

00:09:31.980 Yeah, yeah, yeah,

00:09:32.120 go for it.

00:09:32.500 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:09:32.840 The three month thing.

00:09:34.020 Yeah, yeah.

00:09:34.620 Three months.

00:09:35.280 This is for the woman 0.96

00:09:38.420 you pick to marry,

00:09:39.500 so like, okay.

00:09:40.560 And you can make edits,

00:09:41.700 so it's okay.

00:09:42.380 Many of you know

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JustPearlyThings - May 12, 2023

Toxic Woman Contradicts Herself In Real Time

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