Traditional VS Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode I speak to a very special guest. She is a very well known and respected woman in the traditional world. She has been a long time member of the Traditional Women's movement and has been involved in the women's movement for a very long time. We talk about her views on modern women and how they need to go back to being traditional.
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I feel like over a certain age, modern women cannot have traditional outcomes anymore.
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I had the same conversation today with him indoors.
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And it was just like they get to this age after being so modern and they hit like the 35s and
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they think, you know what, it's not working for me. I want to be traditional. But then
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the men that are out there that want traditional, they don't want them because the women are coming
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with these modern values, trying to be traditional. And you know what? You either got it or you
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ain't. And you can't mix the two. You cannot mix the two. And women are out there. They're
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too busy trying to be modern, but traditional. But no, they're not even trying to be like
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a normal woman with traditional values. They want to be modern and traditional. And they're
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going to clash. They're going to clash because the two can't work together. No matter what
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they say, it can't work. I'm telling you, it cannot work. You cannot be modern.
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Modern and traditional at the same time. Modern is all about, look it up in the dictionary.
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Modern is all about me, me, me, me, me. Traditional is about us, the village, raising
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everybody together. So you can't turn around and say, oh, I'm going to be modern. It's all
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about me. And I'm going to do traditional because it does not work. It's impossible.
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You're fooling yourself if you think you could be modern with traditional values. If I turned
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around and I said, oh, I'm a traditionalist and I'm going to be modern, I'm going to go
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out there, I'm going to get my nails done, I'm going to wear a miniskirt, I'm going to
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get my hair done, I'm going to get makeup on my... They're thinking, you're kidding yourself.
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Look at her, old woman. Do you know what I mean? Or mutton dressed as lamb. They're not
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going to accept it from a traditional old person like me trying to be modern. So why do they
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think it's going to work the other way around? It don't.
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Yeah. How, how do you feel like we can return? Do you, do you think there is any returning
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to traditionalism for modern women? Like, is there any way they can do it?
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No, forget about modern women. I want to start with my grandchildren's age and the children
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because there's no hope for them. The only thing I can do is all the modern women, you
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try and sort yourself out for your children and raise the next generation because these
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people now, they're lost. They're lost. They're fighting against themselves. They're fighting
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to, they're fighting to hold on to something that is not good for them. That is, it's proven
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that it's not good for you. So all this modern-ness that they want, it's not working. There's
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nothing wrong with being traditional. And the thing is, it only hits them when they get
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to a certain age and they think, you know what? Shit, I've got this. I want this. I want
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Yeah. I think deep down they are. Deep down in the backbones of the men, they are. But
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it's finding a woman that would work with them. And the men are too busy trying to bend
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to this modern woman rather than dash them and leave them.
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Do you think from all cultures or specific cultures?
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All cultures, all cultures. Before you can say it's the, you can say like, it's the people
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in, it's spreading. It's like the plague. It's like a modern plague. Even places where
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you think it's not going to happen, all of a sudden, they've got people on Instagram and
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they live in a village where, they live in a village back wherever it is and you can see
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them and then, and they're doing the dances and everybody wants to, no, no, no, no, no.
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It's leaking into society. And if we don't stop it now, it's going to, you're going to
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end up with, it's going to end up with a mess really because sooner or later, they're going
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to be no children being born. They're going to be cutting down. They're going to be no
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children being born because the modern women are going to be too old to breed. And then
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the old, the, the, the, the people that they want, don't want them. And men quite happily
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after a certain age, they're going to think, you know what? I've got to the age where I don't
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want no crying kids in my head. I'd rather just chill, have my own place, live off my
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own wealth and forget about it. So I think now we need to work on the children that are
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in school now, because what we're showing them now is wrong. And the thing is, the modern
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woman knows it's wrong. And rather than turn around, like me, I have messed up my whole
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life. I have messed up my whole life. I'm not going to turn around and say, oh yes, I've
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had a perfect relationship. Oh yes, I've had a perfect life. But you know what? If I
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can avoid somebody else going through the crap that I have, I'm going to try my hardest.
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But too many people are out there. And rather than say, you know what? I've learned this.
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I'm going to pass it down. They're not passing it down. They're making it look as if it's
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all right. And I don't understand that because if it's not working for you, why not pass it
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on to the next generation so they can see that it's not working.
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But you know what? Just to say quickly, the solution is not really going back to traditionalism.
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The solution is instilling people with self-love so that they can value themselves and find
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What does that even mean? Modern women are obsessed with themselves. Look at fucking
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Instagram. But that's, there's a difference. There's a difference. There's obsession and
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there's like seriously true installation of confidence and self-love. And what I mean by
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that... Self-love is modern. What does that mean?
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No, no, no. I'll tell you what it means. Do you want me to tell you what it means?
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Okay. Okay. Okay. Tell me what it means. Okay. No stress. Self-love means that you are able
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to understand what you're good at, what you're bad at, what is ugly about you, which means
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that when you go for somebody, you're not going to let somebody make you feel less than, and
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you're not going to go for somebody that is way more than you. So you're going to stand
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But modern, modern women love themselves so much that they think they deserve the men that
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No, modern women. Stop, stop. Modern women love themselves so much that they think they deserve the
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men that they sleep with, even though those men do not commit to them. And then they come
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Do you think that the women that are showing off on social media doing a lot of these things,
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they think that's self-love or is that actually a lot of insecurity?
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I think it's narcissism. I think most modern women are very narcissistic. They're usually
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obsessed with themselves. They think that they're tense. They think that they're special.
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And narcissism comes from? When you're literally average.
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No. The narcissist is an extremely insecure person who feels rejected.
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I think this is like, I think this is modern women babble where they try to psychoanalyze
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everybody and they think that they think that they're, they psychoanalyze everybody and
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they think that they're a therapist and they think that they're a psychologist and they
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can just psychoanalyze. Narcissists literally think they're better than everyone. They think
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It's not a front. No, it's a psychological condition. There's literature on this.
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Everybody read Freud for narcissism. It is not insecure. Baby, that person is very, knows
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I like the fraud. It's literally a clinical condition.
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No, Freud, I did, I did that in my private school.
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Screw the definition. I think it's insecurity because that would mean you're right. I think
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it's need to be right right now. Excuse me? Okay. A narcissist, a person who has an excessive
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interest or admiration of themselves. It is not insecurity. Where does it stem from?
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Okay. Okay. You can't ask the individual person. I went deep into research about narcissism because
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I was very interested. Okay. Okay. But like this, like right here, this, this is a narcissistic trait.
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Like this, this interaction, because you think you know the definition better than the actual definition.
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You're like rewrite writing words so you can be right. Well, no, I'm not. Go search for it and
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go for all the psychology journals. You'll tell them that the narcissist is starts from youth where
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actually they're going through so many, so many, I don't even know what to tell. Which one?
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When I was going through my abuse, just Google, just Google how narcissists, just put like how
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narcissists might come about, just like that, just like that and go check. And actually narcissism actually
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stems from the fact that the child either was ignored when they were young and so they did
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everything to come from attention. Okay. Okay. Literally. Okay. This is, this is, this is from Mayo
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Clinic. Do we, do we agree Mayo Clinic? Yes or no? How do we feel about Mayo Clinic? I don't think so.
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Mayo Clinic feels a bit like you could with a PDM. I'm a scientist. I will take you with a pinch of
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salt. Go on. I can, I can pick a different one though. There's no peer reviews. That was just the first one.
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Yeah. Symptoms. Have an exaggerated self, exaggerated sense of self-importance.
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Have a sense of entitlement and require constant excessive admiration. Oh, actually go through this.
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I want you to think of if these describe modern women. Okay.
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As I, as I go through these. Expect to be recognized as superior, even without achievements
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that warrant it. Exaggerate achievements and talents. Be preoccupied with fantasies about success,
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power, brilliance, beauty, or the perfect mate. Believe that they are superior and can only
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associate with equally special people. Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people
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they perceive as inferior. Expect special, special favors and unquestioning compliance with their
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expectations. Take advantage of others to get what they want. Have an inability or unwillingness to
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recognize the needs and feelings of others. Be envious of others and believe others and be them.
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Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner coming from a conceited, boastful, and pretentious.
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Insist on having the best of everything. For instance, the best car, office, etc. Did that describe modern
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women? Yep. That sounded like, um, like that, like she said, that sounded like somebody really insecure.
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A little bit, but no, a little bit by no. All I wanted to say is that.
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Also, also, also, also, um, causes environment, genetics, neurobiology.
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Environment. Mismatches in parent-child relationships, either with excessive adoration
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or excessive criticism that is poorly attuned to the child's experience. Genetics. Inherited
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characteristics. Neurobiology. The connection between the brain and behavior and thinking.
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Risk factors. Narcissistic personality affects more males than females. Doubt it.
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No, no, no, no, no. I was about to say that. I'm so sorry.
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I wanted to say is that it sounds like the modern woman, but it sounds like the mother
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woman who's trying to catch up with the man. Oh, that's what it sounds to me. Do you understand?
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Because that's meant for you. Men that run companies, whatever, have they lift a finger,
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male privilege, white privilege. You understand? Like, uh,
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You think men that run companies don't have to lift a finger? No, no, no. I'm just saying,
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well, well, well, I don't, they may not work as hard as well. I said, may. I said, may. I said, may.
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Oh, girl. I said, may. I said, may. It depends.
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No, we now have to look at the companies. Okay. I'm talking, let's say the man of say 50,
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60 years ago, the modern woman of today is trying to catch up with that man.
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Yeah. The one that was very pompous, like full of himself, like the characteristics you read.
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What I see is not current men, because also what's funny is that we started this conversation,
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say what's wrong with the man. And then we now look at the woman and what's faulty with her.
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And that's what's funny here. That's what I'm trying to say. So it's like, the woman is faulty,
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but who's the woman trying to emulate? She's trying to catch up with the man.
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So really the women just need to know their place. Now they're women, they're not men,
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and they can't catch up with men. And they need to, as they say, hold their own lane and be women
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and allow the men to be men. Yeah. But when we say be in their lane, people should not get offended by,
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in your lane does not mean in the kitchen. You understand? In your lane doesn't mean in the house.
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In your lane could be like, okay, if you know that engineering is not for a female field,
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leave it for the man. Go find your field. That is the lane. That's like, find what you prosper in.
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I wouldn't say that. Yeah, but don't complain about it.
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No, no, no, but what I'm saying, stay in your lane. She's saying like, understand,
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understand your position. Don't overplay your position. And that is valid for everybody in life,
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