JustPearlyThings - May 26, 2023


TrueGeordie Said This About Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

207.08401

Word Count

2,095

Sentence Count

170

Misogynist Sentences

24

Hate Speech Sentences

16


Summary

In this episode, the lads discuss the difference between being a man and a woman in the modern dating world, and why women bring less to the table than their male counterparts. The lads also discuss why women are more likely to cheat than men, and how to deal with it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I could be wrong here, the lads may pick us up on this,
00:00:02.160 but in terms of when I got to the point where I felt like I'm a man,
00:00:05.800 I'm ready for the woman, I'm in that right frame of mind,
00:00:08.920 I met a couple of girls where I was like, I'm bringing up,
00:00:12.760 I'm bringing to the table a lot, and they're still coming at me
00:00:15.940 with the same attitude that they came at me,
00:00:18.360 that these other geezers with, who aren't on my level,
00:00:21.220 and you think that that's going to fly with me,
00:00:23.060 and you don't realise, when I say, I can't believe I'm going to say this,
00:00:26.600 but when I say jump, you should be saying how high,
00:00:28.500 because that's actually, like, I'm going to change your life,
00:00:31.080 I'm going to make it so you don't have to work anymore,
00:00:33.400 I'm going to buy you a car, I'm going to buy you a dress,
00:00:34.880 I'm going to buy you everything you need.
00:00:35.980 Talk to a big dog.
00:00:36.960 If I'm going to make it so that you don't have anything to worry about,
00:00:42.840 then what the fuck are you doing for me?
00:00:44.960 Because if you're not free Friday, don't expect me to call you Saturday,
00:00:48.660 because that ain't happening, and that's what I was experiencing
00:00:51.180 a little bit of, is like, if you're going to treat me
00:00:53.380 like another one of these fuckboys, then goodbye.
00:00:56.280 That's not going to happen.
00:00:56.820 Yeah.
00:00:57.440 I get back.
00:00:58.500 I totally understand that, but I'm going to play devil's advocate here.
00:01:03.720 Good.
00:01:04.120 Those individuals hasn't actually healed.
00:01:07.620 They're bringing in, and this is where women...
00:01:09.680 But why does he have to deal with their trauma?
00:01:11.420 No, no, no, no, and I don't expect him to.
00:01:14.680 What I was actually trying to say is,
00:01:16.840 those individuals are bringing in baggage from their past relationships,
00:01:21.420 and they haven't actually...
00:01:23.640 or some of them were in this, I don't know if you guys have experienced this,
00:01:27.060 but some women, because of the modern-day women thing,
00:01:29.940 modern women, they go to uni, they live on pot noodles,
00:01:32.980 they're messy, they're slobs.
00:01:34.120 They're not old-school women who would...
00:01:36.200 old-school women are fucking organized.
00:01:38.980 They know how to cook.
00:01:39.820 They know how to clean.
00:01:40.740 Everything that I'm not good at,
00:01:42.380 they come into your life, and they're like,
00:01:43.800 Mary fucking...
00:01:44.760 That's your personality, right?
00:01:46.880 That's what you've experienced.
00:01:48.720 But I'm saying the majority of modern women,
00:01:53.680 because of this uni lifestyle,
00:01:55.420 they're like more lad than what I am.
00:01:57.400 I'm more fucking cleaner and organized than they are,
00:01:59.760 so obviously I'm generalizing,
00:02:01.880 and I will continue to generalize,
00:02:03.220 but you get the point.
00:02:05.640 Yeah, but maybe that's why men have now a tendency or propensity to cheat,
00:02:09.300 because the quality of women are no longer like my mum,
00:02:12.340 but I get that, but the difference is...
00:02:16.020 I think men are more likely to cheat.
00:02:17.360 Women choose non-monogamy.
00:02:19.440 We choose non-monogamy because when we have the most sexual power,
00:02:23.820 which is like 21, 22, 23, we choose non-monogamy.
00:02:27.740 It's not like there's a man...
00:02:28.620 That's true, though.
00:02:29.420 Women have experience.
00:02:31.000 When I was in this situation,
00:02:32.620 they were coming at me with this casual attitude.
00:02:35.880 It's like, I'm ready to go.
00:02:36.800 And the thing is, men, when they're in their peak,
00:02:40.040 which is like 35, more are married,
00:02:42.340 because the average age of first marriage is like 32 for men
00:02:45.140 and 31 for women.
00:02:46.560 So women choose non-monogamy in their 20s,
00:02:49.320 and in their 30s ask for monogamy.
00:02:51.640 But what's the problem is we bring less to the table
00:02:54.100 because now you have a body count.
00:02:56.020 Now you have trauma from your exes that cheated on you.
00:03:00.080 And the thing that they don't tell women is by 30,
00:03:03.920 your chance of having a kid...
00:03:05.020 If you're single at 30,
00:03:06.120 your chance of having a child is below 50%.
00:03:08.780 That means we are more likely to not have a kid than have one.
00:03:11.660 No, and I understand that.
00:03:13.360 And, you know, what I'm saying is,
00:03:15.620 it's like, I get it.
00:03:17.340 Like you said,
00:03:18.780 you would like somebody to match
00:03:20.440 what you are bringing to the table, so to speak.
00:03:23.980 Like, you know,
00:03:25.060 and I believe in a relationship,
00:03:27.420 you're there to instill and uplift each other.
00:03:31.500 So if it's a case of...
00:03:34.000 Well done, by the way,
00:03:34.940 because there's a lot of...
00:03:35.940 Like, in modern-day relationships,
00:03:37.640 it's like who can take the most,
00:03:39.700 whereas the reality...
00:03:40.900 It should be a competition of who can give them.
00:03:42.540 Exactly.
00:03:43.460 I believe it should be a case of
00:03:45.940 you're uplifting me,
00:03:47.720 I'm uplifting you.
00:03:48.620 And you bring both...
00:03:49.360 And we're elevating together.
00:03:52.540 It shouldn't just be,
00:03:53.660 oh, well,
00:03:54.200 what are you bringing to the table?
00:03:56.040 But like they're saying,
00:03:57.720 with the generation now,
00:03:59.220 it's not like that.
00:03:59.940 They're in competition with each other.
00:04:01.700 And that needs to stop.
00:04:03.260 And the competition is the same.
00:04:04.860 That's why a lot of things don't work.
00:04:07.380 Because of the competition.
00:04:08.960 But the issue is the quality of woman has gone down.
00:04:11.840 And because there's a very small percentage of men
00:04:14.280 that we would even consider.
00:04:16.020 So it's a very...
00:04:16.880 There's less than like 20% of men
00:04:18.560 that we would even consider give a chance to.
00:04:21.220 So it's like...
00:04:22.220 And those men,
00:04:23.400 like the quality of woman is still low.
00:04:25.220 No, and I get that.
00:04:26.320 I mean, I'm a very old school woman.
00:04:28.280 Like, I'm not going to sit here and say,
00:04:29.880 oh, I'm a virgin and I'm this and I'm that.
00:04:31.780 Okay, that's just...
00:04:33.060 Yeah, anyway.
00:04:34.180 But I'm very much old school.
00:04:36.220 Like, I'm sometimes a little bit more...
00:04:40.680 I don't know how to put it.
00:04:42.340 More mature than my age,
00:04:43.860 if however you want to put it.
00:04:45.080 Like, I believe if we're together,
00:04:48.460 I'm going to bring as much as I can,
00:04:51.560 as well as you can.
00:04:52.420 And if it means that we're going to start this road
00:04:54.700 of life together,
00:04:55.620 where we build each other,
00:04:57.460 build our empire,
00:04:58.680 have our tribe,
00:05:00.000 and do what we need to do,
00:05:01.400 I'm about that.
00:05:02.340 And yes, I can cook,
00:05:03.700 I can clean,
00:05:04.700 I can keep a house tidy,
00:05:06.160 and I can keep you satisfied.
00:05:07.720 But the question is, again,
00:05:09.600 why do you still feel
00:05:11.500 that that's still not enough for you?
00:05:14.760 Like you say...
00:05:15.440 Can I ask you a question?
00:05:16.540 See, that's the question.
00:05:17.360 What do you think women bring to the table
00:05:19.200 that a guy couldn't get with a cook,
00:05:21.040 a cleaner,
00:05:21.580 and a hooker?
00:05:22.760 Facts.
00:05:23.280 Wow.
00:05:23.560 Okay, right.
00:05:24.720 Because everything you listed,
00:05:26.160 you've got to be outsourced.
00:05:26.820 You've got to acknowledge your own.
00:05:27.780 No, no, no.
00:05:28.860 I get all of that.
00:05:30.100 Okay.
00:05:30.780 No, I'm asking, like, what?
00:05:32.460 Me, personally,
00:05:33.500 like I said,
00:05:34.440 I've had people ask me,
00:05:35.900 well, what are you bringing to the table?
00:05:37.720 First of all,
00:05:38.500 I'm bringing myself.
00:05:40.160 Second of all,
00:05:40.940 I'm bringing my intelligence,
00:05:42.840 whether I'm a spiritual person...
00:05:44.280 If you have a higher IQ,
00:05:46.100 you're less likely to get married,
00:05:47.360 so intelligence, yeah.
00:05:49.700 Men don't like women who are smart.
00:05:50.820 No, no, no.
00:05:52.100 But intelligence,
00:05:53.160 but intelligence...
00:05:54.400 Is that Andrew speaking?
00:05:55.220 Hold on.
00:05:55.940 But intelligence could be taken
00:05:57.420 in a different form of way.
00:05:59.060 Emotional intelligence,
00:05:59.900 you're talking about.
00:06:00.320 There you go.
00:06:00.760 I'm not talking about,
00:06:01.900 oh, my IQ is a million.
00:06:03.380 I'm not talking about it like that.
00:06:04.740 I'm talking about it is,
00:06:05.920 I'm bringing myself to the table.
00:06:08.960 I'm bringing what I know that I've got,
00:06:11.900 whether it's my qualifications,
00:06:13.220 my intellect,
00:06:15.740 you know,
00:06:16.120 yes, like you said,
00:06:17.040 all of those things can be sourced,
00:06:18.840 and I get that.
00:06:20.420 But my point is like,
00:06:22.140 the point I'm having is like,
00:06:24.140 we don't have a resume
00:06:25.200 like our grandmothers
00:06:26.340 and our great-grandmothers did.
00:06:28.000 And so my point is like,
00:06:29.180 when you're dealing with
00:06:29.900 these top percent of men,
00:06:31.240 which most men that you deal with
00:06:32.760 are going to be top 20%,
00:06:34.200 because if we show you 10 men,
00:06:37.160 you're going to find eight of them
00:06:38.000 as ugly,
00:06:38.600 just in general.
00:06:39.900 So it's like,
00:06:40.780 when we're dealing with those men,
00:06:41.800 they have so much more leverage
00:06:43.400 than we do.
00:06:45.580 And the issue is a lot of times,
00:06:47.980 like the women don't realize,
00:06:49.540 like in order to be with those guys,
00:06:50.760 you have to give up monogamy.
00:06:52.620 And you know,
00:06:53.160 there's some people
00:06:54.000 that may sell you a dream.
00:06:56.480 But don't sign up tonight.
00:06:59.220 I personally do believe it,
00:07:01.060 but like you say,
00:07:02.220 like no disrespect to yourself,
00:07:03.920 like you're a beautiful woman,
00:07:05.080 but obviously you're saying
00:07:06.180 you bring something stuff to the table.
00:07:07.980 or you're bringing like your education,
00:07:10.340 your this,
00:07:10.780 you can clean,
00:07:11.120 but okay,
00:07:13.000 cool,
00:07:13.160 but you're bringing that stuff,
00:07:14.200 but you're still single.
00:07:15.480 I feel not single.
00:07:16.160 You're still in a situation.
00:07:17.140 I never stated that I was single,
00:07:18.240 nor did I state that I was in a situation,
00:07:20.320 but continue.
00:07:21.280 Okay,
00:07:21.540 so what are you currently in?
00:07:22.820 Okay,
00:07:22.840 but you're not answering the question.
00:07:24.680 So it's like,
00:07:25.900 she put the hand up.
00:07:28.260 No,
00:07:28.540 no,
00:07:28.840 I was saying,
00:07:30.080 no,
00:07:30.480 I'm saying,
00:07:31.080 I'm saying like,
00:07:31.700 it's like,
00:07:31.980 how is he,
00:07:32.440 he doesn't know,
00:07:33.060 because you don't answer,
00:07:33.880 like you won't answer the question.
00:07:34.820 I don't know why is it a secret for marriage?
00:07:38.500 No,
00:07:38.940 I just don't want to read that out.
00:07:41.460 Okay,
00:07:41.880 cool.
00:07:42.220 But it's like a relationship podcast.
00:07:44.280 I would say,
00:07:45.420 I feel like you'll be proud to say that I'm married.
00:07:48.620 I'm in a relationship,
00:07:49.180 I'm off the market,
00:07:49.840 I'm taken,
00:07:50.660 I'm off the market,
00:07:51.900 well,
00:07:52.140 good.
00:07:52.680 Okay,
00:07:53.100 but I'll leave that there.
00:07:54.560 But I'm saying like,
00:07:55.640 even so,
00:07:56.360 just like on paper,
00:07:57.380 right?
00:07:57.880 It's like,
00:07:58.340 you're 35,
00:07:59.500 there's no purity,
00:08:00.340 there's no youth there.
00:08:01.340 It's gone.
00:08:02.260 Like by 35,
00:08:03.040 you can't argue,
00:08:03.780 you bring,
00:08:03.940 and that's the two most important things to men.
00:08:05.900 like I said,
00:08:06.760 I'm in a relationship,
00:08:08.400 and we're good,
00:08:09.600 and we're stable.
00:08:11.180 I'm not saying that.
00:08:13.740 Even if we take you out of it,
00:08:15.200 the average woman,
00:08:16.000 31 at first marriage,
00:08:17.660 and overweight.
00:08:18.560 Okay,
00:08:18.840 no,
00:08:19.140 no,
00:08:19.580 no,
00:08:20.100 not in shape,
00:08:21.080 and not young.
00:08:22.140 Women don't realize the urgency that they should be operating with,
00:08:25.360 by the way,
00:08:25.840 like as in like,
00:08:26.840 a friend of mine was in a wedding the other day,
00:08:29.860 it was an Indian wedding,
00:08:30.820 and like there was several girls there who were like late 20s,
00:08:36.060 not in a relationship,
00:08:37.380 not married,
00:08:38.000 and we're thinking like women from that background,
00:08:40.180 usually they're the quickest to get married,
00:08:41.780 you know what I mean?
00:08:42.280 So I don't think,
00:08:43.500 and when I'm dealing with,
00:08:44.840 when I've been dealing with women,
00:08:46.480 it's,
00:08:46.680 they don't realize like the competition that they're up against.
00:08:49.920 They have no clue.
00:08:51.240 That's why they look at me and they're like,
00:08:52.940 like,
00:08:53.480 I'm a pretty girl,
00:08:54.780 you know,
00:08:55.020 what's he going to do?
00:08:55.860 They don't realize it's like,
00:08:57.000 oh,
00:08:57.200 you're like,
00:08:57.940 I'll just spin the wheel,
00:08:58.900 and just pick a name out if I want.
00:09:00.300 I'm not that guy now,
00:09:01.320 I'm just saying that's the way I want,
00:09:02.620 just to be fucking clear.
00:09:04.080 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:05.360 I think if women realize the reality that Pearl is trying to get across,
00:09:09.000 yeah,
00:09:09.180 people think Pearl is like,
00:09:10.720 trying to rub people's nose.
00:09:11.740 No,
00:09:11.840 no,
00:09:12.020 she's actually,
00:09:13.260 no,
00:09:13.440 but I'm just saying like,
00:09:14.540 if people were aware of how I would cut throat in competition,
00:09:17.480 it wouldn't be,
00:09:18.480 because you are competing for a small amount of men.
00:09:21.080 there's competition out there.
00:09:22.000 But that's,
00:09:22.640 that's the thing,
00:09:23.180 it's like every guy that we're interested in is probably top 20% of men,
00:09:27.060 meaning he's talking to five other chicks.
00:09:29.660 So wait,
00:09:29.960 how are these other 80% of guys in a relationship?
00:09:32.400 They're not.
00:09:32.860 They're not.
00:09:33.020 They find one person,
00:09:34.140 stick with them for life.
00:09:34.960 You know,
00:09:35.260 you're only five.
00:09:36.840 They're the subscribers.
00:09:38.900 No,
00:09:39.180 so this is the thing,
00:09:40.140 when women are in their 20s,
00:09:41.580 they choose non-monogamy,
00:09:43.220 right?
00:09:43.760 So,
00:09:44.160 so what do,
00:09:44.820 when women,
00:09:45.440 we take out the men,
00:09:46.340 what do women pick for?
00:09:47.860 Butterflies.
00:09:48.480 Right?
00:09:48.860 Tingles.
00:09:49.280 He makes me feel a certain way.
00:09:50.840 So what is that?
00:09:51.800 What does that mean?
00:09:52.300 It's looks.
00:09:53.020 Okay.
00:09:53.380 Let's just call it space.
00:09:54.560 So in our 20s,
00:09:55.680 we go for looks,
00:09:56.640 meaning we share men in our 20s.
00:09:58.360 And then at 30s,
00:09:59.220 when we need a child,
00:10:00.740 it switches.
00:10:01.580 So the guys that are in relationships are getting the leftover women.
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