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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with a good friend of mine who is a second generation Zimbabwean. We talk about what it's like being a Zimbabwean in the 21st century and how the culture has changed in the past 20 years.
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So why do you think, like, what's with the second generation Zimbabweans?
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Like, why do they have this negative picture of Zimbabwe?
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I think it's just, you know, the westernized ones, especially the girls,
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I think when you come to the western world, it's a bit more liberal here than Zimbabwe.
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We're more of, like, a conservative nation, you know,
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So when they come over here and they start getting all these ideas,
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like, oh, I can think for myself and I can do all this stuff,
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Now, it's so interesting because it's, like, you're leaving a culture where, like, family,
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I mean, I don't know much about the stats from Zimbabwe in particular,
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but it seems like families, just from talking to you, like, family is super important there.
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And it's, like, we'll leave a culture that worked and go to a culture that's,
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But it's, like, they'll shit on it later and it's so weird to me.
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You heard herself, like, when she went to Zimbabwe and they're asking all these questions.
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They're all based, so they'll be, like, you know, you have to stay.
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If anything goes wrong in a marriage, you have to stay.
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If anything goes wrong in this, you have to stay because they understand the importance of family as well.
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So, but as much as, you know, we would like that to happen as well.
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There was a mass, like, exodus from Zimbabwe because of our financial situation.
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So, a lot of people left Zimbabwe and went to Canada, UK, USA, and a lot of that.
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So, there's a lot of, like, second-generation Zimbabweans that are Westerners.
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So, yeah, the relationship dynamic right now, it's a big crazy.
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Well, I didn't even get to the point of the show.
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I freaking tweeted the other day something that broke Twitter.
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I think it's on track to get because I tweeted, I tweeted, let me ask my wife with, like, a barfing emoji.
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And the reason I tweeted this, a lot of people, you know, didn't understand why I tweeted this,
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is I had this epiphany the other day that we don't really have traditional relationships anymore
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because even in the more traditional relationships on paper, the woman still runs it
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because the man is constantly doing what the woman wants because they don't want her to freak out
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and men just want, like, what's easy and they're like, I'll just go with what she wants.
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And I realized, like, a lot of men, when they want to make a decision, they'll say, let me ask my wife.
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And it's not in a way, like, I want to consult her.
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And I was thinking of, like, a boss, like, employee relationship.
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And I'm like, a boss wouldn't go to his superior and say, or what's it, superior below you?
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And say, like, you, I need you to make this decision for me.
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But as inferior and ask for their permission, they might ask for information,
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but there's a difference between information and permission.
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And I'm like, there's a difference between asking for information and asking for her permission.
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Yeah, that's, like, a modern perspective now that people have, like, let me ask my wife for things, you know.
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You know, I know my girl is watching this, but I don't care.
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But there's a thing of, like, I think it's, like, infected society in general now.
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Like, if you see all the TV movies, you see, like, the dramas, whatever.
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The husband has to go to, like, the wife, like, Simpsons.
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So it's programming people from young, from young age, that as much as you get a happy wife, happy life from a young age,
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you're just going to think that your wife is going to be smarter than you.
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So I think that's, you know, I think you can ask for information, yeah,
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but when they ask for permission, it's a bit more, it's not godly.
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As a Christian man, I don't think that's godly.
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And I'm so tired of hearing Christians say we have to submit to each other.
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Like, you guys are supposed to submit to each other.
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No, they take one verse out of context that says that give each other to yourself.
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When it's talking about giving your body, like, your body doesn't belong to you.
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And that's the verse that people take in terms of submitting each other.
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But the Bible says that the husband is the head of the family, just as Christ is the head of the church.
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So as the head, that means that you are the decision maker.
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So if people want to pivot towards that verse, that's a bit more of a liberal kind of approach to it,
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to say that because this verse says that I should give my body to my wife,
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that means that we need to submit to each other.
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Well, and I started thinking about other things, right?
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Like I saw, can we play the pastor one that, blessing, you sent this to me.
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But I started thinking about other things in context of like an employee, like employer-employee relationship.
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And I'm like, if they're arguing, like that's a sign that the, like, you wouldn't argue with your boss.
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Yeah, that happens a lot now, especially in this modern society.
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If every man and every woman married at 30, companies would go bankrupt.
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Fashion surgery, fitness, online dating companies, push the narrative that women can have it all.
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When I was in Dubai, Elet said, what if the words that were spoken were spoken by my husband
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I said, number one, why were you arguing with your husband?
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So arguments should never be there because there should not be an argument.
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Because there's nobody who should be arguing with the leader of the house.
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Now, that means in marriage, if you are the sacrifice to God, you will follow God's plan.
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In marriage, if you are the sacrifice of God, you have to follow the plan of God.
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And that's the message no one wants to hear right there.
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And you men, don't just say because the wife went this direction.
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The fact that women spend 80% of the time, it's like unbiblical when you think about it
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because that means she's in charge of the finances in the house.
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But she's not supposed to be making the decisions.
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That's why even if you look in the Bible, the Bible is quite right on a lot of these things.
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But, you know, as feminism gained destruction, it infiltrated the church as well.
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So, you get a lot of things that bring a lot of equality in the Bible in terms of women.
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But not to say that women don't have a place, but their place is just no leadership.
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And, you know, I know a lot of Christians are going to be beefing me on this one.
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But, and I go to a church that has female pastors.
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Well, in a way, it's not, I mean, I haven't done too much studies,
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but I don't think it's biblical to have female pastors, right?
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But at the same time as well, it's not really like I can leave my church
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So, I'm not going to become too westernized to the point where I'm just like, just because.
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I'm asking what you think about the pastor's blessing.
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You know, when you become an adult, you have to make a decision for yourself sometimes, you know.
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But I think it's a decision that you make when you get married.
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Because when you get married, the Bible says you leave your father and your mother
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And I think that's when you can make a decision of where your family is going
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because now you are not the head of the family.
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But now as I stand as a single person, I'm not the head of the family.
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I'm still in submission to the authority in my family because I can't leave the family yet.
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You know, when people leave their family religion or ideology,
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sometimes I have a bit of disagreement with that because.
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Didn't, like, someone have to have left their families?
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Because the way I was raised, I was raised Christian already.
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And I think, you know, if you are fortunate enough to have that culture in your family, embrace it.
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Now, I was just wondering if you thought the same thing, like, because I just thought Christianity came to Africa.
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But, again, again, there is also the Ethiopian Orthodoxy Church.
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So, there is conspiracies about this, whether Christianity was introduced to Africa or reintroduced to Africa.