What Every OBESED Person Must Know About Weight Loss.
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In this episode I speak to a man who has an incurable eating disorder and is struggling to lose weight. He talks about his journey and how he has managed to get back on track with his diet and exercise. We talk about the dangers of eating disorders and how to overcome them.
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have a much healthier, and if they do well in the exam,
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like, I would never take them for a meal to celebrate that.
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I feel like it's child abuse only because the child has no control
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At the end of the day, your parent will cook for you,
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and then they'll be like, they have the food on the table, go and eat.
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So where you were saying that you were rewarded,
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like, when you were being, like, good or whatever,
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So the moment I started putting on weight, he would just say,
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nope, he used to make me do four laps around a track.
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And the slower I got, I would be reprimanded again.
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He would be like, oh, well, like, it wouldn't be good for me
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So for me, I feel like I've taken a lot of sacrifices.
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And then because of my diagnosis, I said to myself, listen,
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And then from that, that's where I started to lose more weight as well.
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I need to be as light as possible so that I can manage my condition
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So if I have a relapse tomorrow, and I'm like, what, 200 kilograms
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or 120 kilograms or whatever, I'm going to be a lot harder to manage
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So for me personally, you have to kind of think of the longevity of your life.
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If someone wanted to lose weight, which step do you, because I hear this a lot that you
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need to attack it from both sides, do everything, but I actually don't think that's correct.
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So if someone were to start, would you advise them to change their diet first or go to the gym first?
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If it's an obese person, I'm saying ease yourself into it.
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You don't have to go nuts in the gym straight off the bat.
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Like the guys have said, 80% diet, 20% exercise.
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Walking, then resistance training slowly, you know, other forms of equipment.
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Your body's going to react pretty suddenly to it.
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And the reason to that is the first thing I'll do to a client is I'll put them on the, most gyms have scales, right?
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When your clients see these numbers, now you have to explain to them what category they're in.
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Either this is healthy, this is heading into the danger zone, or this is alarming.
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There's not much that the gym could do with these numbers.
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So now you have to explain to this person, okay, yes, we're going to start training,
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and this is the particular type of training that you will be doing.
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But now, because of what, because of the lifestyle that you're doing right now, it needs to change.
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And because of the diet you have right now, it needs to change.
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Because whatever you're doing right now is causing these numbers to grow and to get into the alarming range.
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No, but 100%, no, I feel like it's more so diet first.
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But I was just really checking in what you were saying.
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And then after that, it would be like exercise.
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So, because you need to create some sort of sustainable lifestyle for yourself.
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So, you need to ease yourself into it and be able to, like, you know, micromanage yourself into, you know what I'm trying to say.
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You take one fat person, I'll take another fat person.
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But in terms of, like, the discussion, the reason why I say it, I think that's, well, I wouldn't say it's incorrect because there's no right way to anything.
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But the reason why I don't think that's the most optimal way is because, one, companies benefit from this whole ideology behind dieting.
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So, if you look at where the money goes, usually you should go in the opposite direction.
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If I have to pay money for anything, I would rather do the thing that's free.
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And the reason why I think working out is better first is because I think it's more sustainable and it gives you more of a feedback than dieting.
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It's like, it's almost like when you say dieting, most people are confused.
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They don't even know what you're talking about.
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But the reason why I think working out is actually more important is because if you go to the gym every day and you're able to stay consistent with that, your body will give you feedback.
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One, two, the harder it gets, it will get harder first before it gets easier, right?
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No, because the reason why I'm trying to make this point is because these days, when an era where people hammer so much on mental health and all this crap, which I actually agree that these are the things that are hindering people from achieving these goals.
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But the reality is you cannot have a strong mind without a strong body first.
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But you still have to build a strong body to get to the strong mentality.
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Yeah, but how are you going to, you got to get, you got to get yourself to a point to build the strong body.
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You can build the strong body even when you don't want to.
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You can have people force you to build a strong body.
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Yeah, but that's the thing, the more you keep exercising, the more the discipline comes.
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Because that's, if you're working hard at exercise and you're seeing that you're still putting on this effort, but you're not getting to your goals, and your body is still giving you that feedback of you do this and it's painful, you would want to improve in other areas to make that endeavor easier.
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Yeah, but you could burn 1,000 calories and eat 4,000 calories.
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I think you've got to start with your diet first.
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I was going to say I would disagree and agree is because if you start having that consistency and discipline, yes, you're going to get stronger.
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But then when you continue eating poor diet, then they're definitely not going to change.
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Start exercising or start with your diet first?
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I think the part that I agree on is because of that discipline and consistency, it is going to encourage you to eat healthier.
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Because even when I started working out again, I was saying for the longest time, I'm going to stop fizzy drinking.
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I didn't actually stop until I started going to the gym.
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And doing the stairs is actually the start of everything.
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Yeah, but I think now you're a little bit more conscious on your diet though, right?
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I find it much easier to eat better on days I've worked out that morning.
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Because I have this whole thing in my head of like, I don't want to undo it.
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Whereas if I haven't worked out that day, I'm like, well.
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But when I was skinnier, I used to do water fasts.
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Particularly for roles or for auditions when I was an actor.
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I would say that that's like, that takes a lot of discipline.
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Do you guys think that weight loss programs are toxic?
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If they include taking non-natural things, yeah.
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But if it's natural and if it's just using your own way and equipment, that is no harm to you.
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I think it's the execution of the weight loss program that makes it not necessarily toxic, but unhelpful.
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And they would see who would lose the most weight.
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But a lot of the personal trainers, we have one in Australia.
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But a personal trainer back in Australia who was on the show, Michelle Bridges, got cancelled
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because she would have a go at magazines, media, all pushing body positivity, and larger
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And I think the same thing happened with a US personal trainer on The Biggest Loser.
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Should she even be getting cancelled for saying this is unhealthy?
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I don't think she should be cancelled, but I think it's about sensitivity again, right?
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It's the fact that we want to sort of molly cuddle people into, we want to wrap them in
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And if a personal trainer is on a bit more of the brutal side and their approach is a little
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bit more bootcamp-esque, they are less palatable, less desirable to people who are essentially
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not as serious about their goals or people who just don't take kindly to being shouted
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So you're saying there's no watchers say as how?
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And how weight loss programs like approach things.
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I like it when my trainer's a little mean to me, just a little bit.
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Pearl, I've realized you like things in your own little ways.
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You like the one that's a bit strict, you know?
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There are clients that will come to you and be like, I want you to be happy.
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I just think, you know, otherwise I'll cancel the personal training.
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You know, if they don't yell at me, I'll be like.
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There are clients, if you're not hard on them, they will cancel you.
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Especially if you cancel and they're like, oh, it's okay.
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So Pearl, would you say generally in life, are you more dominant or like, would you say,
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would you say you're more dominant or you're more on the opposite of dominance?
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Yeah, but as an athlete, you would rather a coach that is strict and hard on the team.
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So when you bring up our workout routines, toxic, at the end of the day, it's up to the individual.
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If you don't like the way they're executing it, you can leave, go to the next personal trainer.
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But, you know, you want someone that's going to keep you accountable at the end of the day.
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Because as I said earlier, there are places like Slimming World, which are almost designed to keep you in them forever.
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They want you to leave and then gain weight and come back.
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Well, what's a non-toxic weight loss program to you guys?
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That's more healthy because you're going to keep that in the long term.
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But these like fast accountability weight loss things, they're all supposed to help each other,
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I think that they make a lot of money of the same people.
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People, you need to spend money on a certified nutritionist.
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We have a thing in Australia called the man shake for men that are overweight.
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The dad bods, they, instead of having a meal, they replace it with a shake.
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People have lost hundreds of kilos on the man shake.
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Couldn't you argue that everything, like 80% of people gain the weight back?
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So, like, I don't think there's any weight loss program that's not successful.
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Which, my next question is, why do you think that is?
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Because it shouldn't be a short-term, eight-week weight loss program.
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It should be a lifestyle, and that's what it is.
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Yeah, it'd be probably dieting, fad dieting, intermittent fasting,
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It's really just about consistency and doing it over a long period of time.
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The body starts to adapt to the diet that you're consistently having.
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As soon as you change adaptation, like, as soon as you break that, it changes.
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Now, what John said, it is literally, you need to change the mindset of wanting to...
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Wanting to actually be, like, aware of what you're eating, drinking.
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Like, you can't say someone should eat the same thing for...
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Because if you lose your weight on diets, then you're going to have to maintain it with that diet.
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And you can't stay on that same diet for the rest of your life.
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So, the idea is, if you lose the weight on this diet,
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eventually you're going to go back to eating whatever you liked eating.
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The reality is, if you build your body to the point where...
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The reason why I'm able to stay and keep my body fit is because I've played sports all my life.
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And even for, like, the past three, four years that I didn't step in the gym for a single hour,
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all the work I've done prior to that is what is sustaining me.
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The reason why people stay obese is because their metabolism slows down.
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And the only way to kick start on metabolism is to move.
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But at the end of the day, it's personal accountability.
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And keeping yourself in a calorie deficit for a long period of time.
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But when you said the average, like, job, are you sacrificing your health?
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You kind of are because you're sitting for eight hours a day.
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But that's why they bring in the standing desks.
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But I'd say, like, the average person, in a way, in corporate America, you do.
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Why is it that everyone always has the sniffles?
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The corporate nine to five has a standardry lifestyle, I think it's called, where you're just behind a desk.
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I think with weight loss programs like Weight Watchers and Slimming World, they actually ultimately end up disempowering people because I can't remember which one it is.
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And I don't know if they still do it, but they attribute what they call sins to like good foods and bad foods.
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So the person who's on the weight loss program becomes attached to this concept of sins.
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But that's really unhelpful because you might say an orange has two sins, but chocolate bar has one.
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And it doesn't actually help you evaluate the nutritional profile of either one.
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And so where these programs become, I don't know if I'd say toxic, but unhelpful is where you're not actually giving people the numbers and you're not giving them the data.
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If you have the knowledge, then you can make the choices.
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Well, I think the question was sort of like, what was it, workout programs and stuff?
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And I think that some of them can be unhelpful if it's something like Weight Watchers.
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Why do we skip nutritionists to go to weight loss programs?
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I can't answer that question because I haven't done that.
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Why do we skip the right people to go to the people that bullshit and everyone?
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You want things to be, you know, pun intended, but you want it to be, yeah, sugar-coated, right?
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Because a nutritionist is like a long-term solution.
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It's also cheap to go to Weight Watchers and Slimming World.
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It's not that cheap to get a personal nutritionist in comparison to going to these weekly groups.
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The nutritionist is a little bit more personalized.
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Yeah, you get what you pay for, but it is more expensive.
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It is more expensive, but I think it's a little bit more expensive.
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I know, like, we were talking about smoking and drug addiction, and being obese is, like, a food addiction.
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You know what, my aunt joined something like that.
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They go around the room, oh, I've been fat for this one.
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I just know my aunt actually said something to me.
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At least it's fat people keeping each other accountable.
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It's, um, gosh, I wish I could remember the name.
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I don't know if they're in-person meetings, though.
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I think people would get scared if they saw a group of 12 fat people, like, huddled together.
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I mean, I think that's, like, the average American woman.
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I was in South Beach last week, and, like, coming from Australia and going into Florida,
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seeing the amount of people that are overweight is crazy.
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And it's just, like, just the average person looks overweight.
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But when I see a group of big people together, it does genuinely scare me,
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And so when I see a group of big people, although I don't discriminate,
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because I know how much I weigh in the things that I've broken,
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Also, I'll have another fear of big women in heels.
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I'm scared for them just in case it snaps, and it's not even that.
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And I actually saw someone, and it happened to me on the bus,
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and I felt the weight of the shoulder on my feet,
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And now when I see big person, I'm always that kind of, like,
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oh, I want to try and catch you just in case you fall.
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Like, I have no idea if you're a character or, like, a real person.
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You know, like, imagine wearing, like, a party or something,
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No, but if I saw the stick was just like a pencil,
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This is, like, literally health and safety for myself
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like, you're not going to catch me in a stiletto
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I've learned so much about the plus-size world.
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It's the accommodations that have to be made, right?
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Just imagine if you guys couldn't buy clothes anywhere,
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I'm saying, if I couldn't buy clothes anywhere,
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You'd get some cloths and then you'd start losing weight
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It's like, I want someone to work out with me so bad.
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My, we were talking about what the tipping point is
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And I was like, wait, I could do that before with no issue.
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And now like, I can still do it, but it's an effort.
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But then I went to the gym yesterday and worked out.
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I let it go for so long that I didn't lift weights.
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And then I thought I did something really easy.
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I was doing like 18 kilos on various weight machines.
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A lot of people think, yeah, I'll just gain a bit of weight.
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But actually it gets harder and it's there comes a point where it's I won't say
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that, you know, you're too far gone because people have been 600 pounds
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and and gone the other way, but it definitely becomes harder.
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And I think a lot of people develop this mindset that they are too far gone
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And I've seen loads of posts recently about famous people having heart attacks.
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And like, I look in the comments because I'm like, well, this person's 400 pounds.
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I feel like I know why they had a heart attack.
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I look in the comments and people are like, you know, it's because they had this.
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And, you know, it's like, you're never, you're never, you're never too far gone.
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You see that pain you felt, it does, it doesn't happen to only people that overweight.
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And when I went to the gym, the next day, I felt like I was going to die.
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That is normal, even when I'm at my fittest, I still feel that pain.
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The difference is fit people understand that that pain equals growth.
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Some other people would look at it like, ah, okay, now this is painful.
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No, if you don't feel that pain, then you probably didn't even work out as much.
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So basically, Pearl, you keep on talking about that 11 a.m.
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So if you're watching earlier, I was like to put Pearl, you're really gorgeous.
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You know, I'm telling you, you need to like wear like some fashionable clothes.
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And then she told me to send her a DM with the clothes that I think she should wear.
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What do they want to watch you getting dressed in a new outfit and feeling on fly and looking cool?
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I think you should ask your followers that because I'm Paul, put a pull in the chat.
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Who would want to watch Pearl being dressed up in good fashion, actually celebrating herself and getting her features.
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And getting her features out because she just wears plain clothes.
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And I feel like there's nothing wrong with it because that's her.
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It's not about me trying to change her fashion.
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It's just adding little cuteness and a pop of color because she comes across as this mean person or whatever, very opinionated.
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But I see right through her and she needs some love.
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I'm sure all of Pearl's followers want her to take fashion advice from Sugar Puff.
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No, Pearl, I'm telling you, you're going to look.
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And if they do the workout one, are you coming?
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But if they choose, if they choose the fashion one, are you going to go?
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And I'm not buying them because you're buying them.
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A hundred percent says losing weight with Pearl.
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Look, at the end of the day, I'm not scared of exercising.
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Pearl getting a makeover or Sugar Puff exercising?
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No, they have to have a long vote, maybe on something else.
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She's going to be, she's going to look like a material girl.
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It's just me seeing you and the way I see you and what the goodness that I see in you.
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Not to change you, to enhance just the things that you like.
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No, you put some serious energy into that, yeah.
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Well, here's the part in the show where we do final thoughts.
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Final thoughts, go around, and then we'll do second row.
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I'm not a body positivity warrior just because I am a fat person.
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It doesn't mean I can be the spokesperson for all fat people.
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I believe that there are ways and means to do it that don't endanger the health of the individual.
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But all in all, I'm for being healthy, and that's something that I'm prioritizing myself.
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I believe people should be happy in their bodies.
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I don't believe in unhealthy body positivity where you eat junk and you're going to have a heart attack and you're going to die.
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I don't believe in that message is Instagram tick rock is sugar puff official, s-u-g-a-p-u-f-f-official.
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And today, the hundred pound egg dropped on pop.com.
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It's by James Abadi, who's worked on Big Brother.
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And I think you all will really enjoy a hundred pound egg.
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So, I'm working on my celebrity one-to-one chats.
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I am so sick and tired of celebrities not actually promoting the good side.
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Like, for example, a lot of them are big pop stars.
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They use qualities and skills that are actually life skills that you need, but things like that aren't promoted.
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If you think I should interview a certain celebrity, let me know.
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If you want to watch my interviews, my first world-wide viral was with Ariana Grande when she came to the UK.
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And, yeah, I'm working on my one-to-one interviews.
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Pearl, did I put you to sleep with my long-long...
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I was like, did he really interview Ariana Grande?
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I've interviewed lots of Hollywood A-listers, movie stars.
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And I'm mostly a TikToker, but I also stream on Twitch.
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Follow my Instagram to see my fat body in a bikini.
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while still aiming to be the best version of yourself you can be.
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Catch me on all socials, TikTok, Instagram, YouTube,
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It's a pleasure coming all the way from Australia to London.
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I just think that, again, you live in your body before you live on land.
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If you need support, you need guidance, seek it.
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It's going to give you all the answers you need.
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Just want to say big up to Region London Croydon.
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We're having our grand opening on the 3rd of July.
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Yeah, you can find me on all socials, work.works.
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I feel all together, you should need to prioritize everything.
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You can't really be putting your mental health behind your physical health.
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In all of this, you always need to find a balance in both.
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But again, your physical health will affect your mental health.
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So assuring you have the balance ready and having a happy, healthy life.
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So we do have a couple super chats to end the show.
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Mark Rose, I went on Pia's socials and she does look great in a bikini.
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Adventurous Filmmaker, high protein, 10,000 steps, vitamin D, calorie deficit,
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multiply goal weight by 12 to start with your calorie intake.
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Adventurous Filmmaker again, enter Black Dragon.
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When you are trying to lose belly, going to the gym won't work.
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Puffy Vegas, cardiologist told me 20 years ago,
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there's only two things you do, drink lots of water and 10,000 steps a day.
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Everything else you don't like so much, diet, stress, etc.
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Adam Sutton, this is my collection of nickels for each one of Stevia Puffs excuses.
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You can tell a bra hasn't picked up a weight, for real.
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Anon, Pia Blossom is the best thing to happen to this podcast.
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Biggie has said it best, four in the back, two if you fat.
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Puffy Vegas, OB is a terrible, please do some research.
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Dragon Stallion, Pearl, can we drop the three on the couch
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and the three trainers in a forest for three months
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Dr. David Baker, according to the Journal of Environmental Medicine,
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the reasons why poor people in Western countries are fatter
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compared to third world countries are high unemployment,
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lower education level, and lack of physical activity,
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Let me refresh it really quick before we end the show
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Also, guys, seriously, like the video on your way out.
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A like is free, so I do not, all you people that just watch
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and don't like, get it to 1,000 likes on your way out.
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Sign up to our Google form for events in London.
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Also, you know, former show guests might be there,
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so your fan favorites will come to our meetups in London.
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Subscribe to the channel, and I'll talk to you next time.
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Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel,
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Good evening, and hi, and welcome to Auntie Jenny's Village,
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But I've been coffee-free for four months, okay?
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How can everyone have someone out there for them
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Most men want a woman that has some degree of femininity,