What Every Woman That Did ABORTION Goes Through This
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In this episode, we discuss the importance of mental health and the role that mental health issues can play in our everyday lives and the impact they can have on our relationships with family and friends. We also discuss the issue of abortion and what it means to be mentally ill.
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do you know what i mean and like i don't know how to explain this to you but she really hates life
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you know there's only a few things in life that make her happy maybe music seeing her family
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food but then most of the time she's just suffering because she can see the world
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and she can see what she doesn't have and then again like this can be avoided at the very early
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stages and uh now like obviously i'm happy to have her in my life and i love her that's my cousin
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but you know i can see her suffering yeah and the family as well well i just think doctors can be
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wrong and that's like where i would have a hard time like if they say they'll have this disease
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and they might not yeah yeah so many so many situations where that's happened the rain man
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uh where where they yeah doctors have diagnosed something in the womb and the mothers have
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refused or they said the baby's going to live this long and the mothers have refused abortion
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and their children are healthy and fine you know there's doctors get it wrong so what would you
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guys do then if you're in that situation so i think paul gave me an answer what would you do if your
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daughter or son was born and then you have to make a decision whether they should live or not
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the same thing i could never i could never kill my child um i just i would hope and pray that
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my child got better i feel like oh sorry no no no go ahead are you finished no i was going to say
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i feel like happiness is also inside a lot of people get it confused where they're watching the
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outside too much and they're requiring all this temporary happiness like oh when i get money i'll
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be happy or when this or when i do this but actually it's just inside if we search for happiness
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inside we we will be happy but a lot of people compare themselves to other people's lives and things
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like that but i do like i would never understand someone who's obviously disabled or severely
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unwell you know it's quite difficult but again we don't know what the afterlife is no one knows but
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if they're alive here today maybe there'll be another sort of life for them no one actually knows
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because none of us has died so you know but but we just don't know it's a good point yeah yeah i was
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just going to say i've got two things i just want to go back to what cas said earlier on about
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having the right support um in place um because you work in mental health as you mentioned i did
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yeah oh you did before okay um and i think it's similar with the abortion issue and um for a woman
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that finds out that she's pregnant um i think a lot of it is based on being properly informed about
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the process you're going through um so that you can come to a um informed decision i feel like um
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from my experience um having an abortion when i was 19 i wasn't properly informed like abortion is
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something that is classified as a medical procedure and with most medical procedures that you do have
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and i've had a few um in my lifetime um nothing severe but you are informed about what the procedure is
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going to be you are informed about um you've shown images of what you're going to have done
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um and i feel like abortion is sidelined oh yeah it's not you don't you're not properly informed
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no so for me my experience i came out the other side and there was a lot of mental trauma um and there
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was a lot of healing there was a lot of healing process and the support i think is very important
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um if you do decide to have an abortion um as it was in my case and i didn't feel like i had that at
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that time um and just to go back to what ruby was saying um about your your family situation there's a
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guy i can't remember his name and he's literally he was born without no limbs like he has no arms no
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legs and he was actually well and he's on youtube is a big youtuber and i mean his life is phenomenal and
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it's going back again where where what does happiness look like how do we define happiness he's
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in this world and he's impacting this world and like leaps and bounds and he was born that way he
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did mention that when he was i think it was 10 or 12 that he wanted to commit suicide can't remember
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what he stated what got him over that hurdle but he's still here today and he's living a he's living
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a fulfilled life do you know what i mean so i think it's it's about having the right support
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it's about being well informed um and um yeah i just feel that there is other options do you know
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what i mean having the right mentality yeah it's it's key to life definitely definitely um but yeah
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i i must go back on that as well what you just said um i've had an abortion myself and again they
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they don't really inform me of the procedure they will say okay yeah you get a pill and then or you
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get the vacuum and then that's it but actually when when i did get the pill and they said it's all
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gonna come out don't worry you know and it will come out and it was a little baby you know and it's
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like whoa i wasn't ready for that you know and it was just it was shocking you got you got the pill
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i got the the pill yeah so and so how does that i i know um once it's surgical they like pull off the
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limbs and then vacuum yeah but i don't i don't actually know as much about the pill so so the pill so
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you get like a couple of them right um and the like first it wasn't even like i felt something was
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stuck so i had to go go back there and they had to like take out with um what's it called them
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forceps yeah yeah that was my first um abortion and i had a second one and um it was it was a pill
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and you know and um i decided to go ahead and it was the worst experience ever because they they did not
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inform me that a whole child would come out of there you know and i would think it would be in
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part so i wouldn't see it you know and it was a full little child it was the size of my palm but it was
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such a horrible experience you know and i've seen it i i seen it and and that mental picture again you
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have to train your mind to forget that you can't you know when people go through abortions and they have
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ptsd from it i say like the best thing you can do is to there's ways to forget about it ways to never
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think about it again ways to sort of you know erase that from your memory but but they don't tell you
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anything like that they they never did and i always tell the women you know that go for abortion
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i'm just just just telling you this is what it is you know and then i oh really you know and then
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they come back like i regret it so much you know but yeah they they should be more informative 100
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how far along were you i i was like four weeks you're only four no sorry no the uh this um escape the
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when that when the baby came out yeah oh that one was about six or eight weeks something really
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so it was six or eight weeks yeah and because they they say it's like a feed like a clump of cells
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basically no it was a full baby and it was like the side they had it had arms it had legs it had a
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head and it was intact so it wasn't like six wow and it wasn't like it was parts of it it was literally
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all of it and and so um because i what i understand about the pill and you guys you two know more than
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i do about this but it's like basically it starves the kid to death right and then it did like well
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did it happen at the hospital or were you at home uh no so this happened at the hospital yeah so you
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you take one at home and then like you said i didn't know it would starve the child right so but yeah
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you take one at home then you come i think it's the next day or in two days and then you have another
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pill and it's meant to come out of you and whatnot well and it is does it always come out at the
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hospital if you do the pills i think some people have done it at home and it they just it goes down
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the toilet you know okay that's what they say so since the pandemic um basically they allowed they
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changed the law to allow these abortion pills to be sent by post to people's homes which causes all
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sorts of issues because many women don't know how far along they are so you're only meant to have the
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pills up to about 10 weeks and um you know there's been stories of people having it uh 12 13 14 15
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weeks and ended up in hospital and hemorrhaging and things like that and so yeah just being sent
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and they yeah they're literally saying the instructions to flush the baby or the products of conception
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down the toilet so yeah i'm sorry you had to see that that must have been no it's all right like you have to
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sort of over that i did not know wow yeah um do you want to show the video i actually have not seen
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this video i don't know what it is what do you think about abortion each individual it's up to them
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what they want to do i think everybody should be allowed to write i'm not really for it or against it
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everyone has their right to kind of do what they call is right in their own life so what i want to show
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you now is a short one minute video of what an abortion procedure looks like at various stages from
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10 to 24 weeks oh sorry i don't think i can do it yeah i'm sorry i can't look at it sorry
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so that's the video that was those babies were fully formed they were saying like it was
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they had hands i didn't know it was like that that's a body that's just that's
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it's fully developed that shouldn't that really shouldn't be right that's technically even though
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the baby may not be out that's technically i'll relate that to murder i don't i don't think
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there's been cutting up babies like that no i'm a bit speechless actually it is a person and people
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don't realize that a lot people think oh it's just a bunch of cells and that to the point but you know
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three months and on you can really see the formation and everything so yeah
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so um is abortion like footage suppressed on google or something because i tried to do a show um
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like i haven't done abortion in a while but i did this in the summer i think
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and i like could not find a lot of images on it like at all yeah um well it's something yeah it's
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definitely suppressed somewhat they'll probably on social media they'll probably blur it out
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or because i mean in youtube we had an abortion video up and they took it down on youtube but then
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we kind of said well you know you say it's a medical procedure so why can't we have medical procedures
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on youtube so they reinstated it but covered it or it was only a few subscribed and over 18.
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so yeah it's definitely suppressed definitely suppressed but you can see you know when people
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see it they really do change their minds and you know people can go to abortionreality.com
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and see abortion for themselves when you say we roof sorry i know we've never met before who do you
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represent or work for what is your oh i work for an organization called cbr uk so the center for
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bioethical reform uk so we're a human rights organization and does that represent like all
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humans of course i've never heard yeah we stand up for we educate on the humanity of the unborn child
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and the reality of abortion and we support women who've been through it yeah
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i'm just like i'm not i keep thinking about the kid that came out oh yes it was it was crazy because
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i'm just shocked at like six weeks like that's not far at all yeah like when i googled six weeks it
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didn't see what it didn't show me what i birthed basically um you know what i think some of the
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confusion with ages is that when you're pregnant they use lmp which is your last menstrual period
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yep so actually when you conceive so say my last menstrual period was you know mid-october um that's
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not when you conceive because you don't know when you've had sex and stuff so actually the the baby is
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normally conceived about two weeks after if that makes sense so so a lot of the the images that we use
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we date and your baby was this would have been from um conception yeah so you said you said six
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or eight weeks yeah yeah yeah it had everything yeah it had everything yeah would i have done it if
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i knew that no no but but it's like but again like i'm i'm for life right pro-life right but at the same
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time like it's someone's choice it's like even coming out of abortions and saying if someone wants to
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kill someone on the street they can it's their choice and that's sort of what i'm saying right
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but it's still not legal yeah it's not legal exactly yeah because people need to be protected right yeah
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do you do you guys um think that women that get abortions should be pursued to the fullest extent of
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the law something with me so if um for the pro-life people here i think we should prosecute the doctors
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because currently uh the as we've heard from the panel the doctors know full well what they're doing
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they know it's a human being and they know that they're what they're going to do to that human
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being is going to kill it so i think we should prosecute the doctors and the abortion um industry
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uh not the women because most of the women are not fully informed as we've already discussed okay
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um sorry you have to run that that question by me again um do you think that women if um they were
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to outlaw abortion do you think women that get abortions should be pursued to the fullest extent
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of the law um well that would put me in that category wouldn't it but um i meant moving so like
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if they if they pass a law tomorrow they can't hurt like put someone in jail from before the law was
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passed so it would just be like women in the future you know like if you change the speed
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limit to 50 and it was 40 last week they don't say you drove 45 last week no um i i
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doesn't have the full picture so therefore as it stands anyway so therefore
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similar to what ruth is saying the the doctors that are signing off these women to or permitting
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them to have these abortions um and those that are actively performing the abortions should be held
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to account now i'll just say something very quickly from my own experience was that from my understanding
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there should have been two signatures to permit my abortion and there wasn't what was the second one
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sorry so what signature they normally you normally have two signatures um so one doctor would um
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sign and another would counter sign to authorize the abortion it's a legal requirement yeah that's not
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so that wasn't the situation that wasn't my own personal experience it was very much
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in the hospital consultation i mean i'm pregnant and the first thing that was offered to me was an
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abortion um i just feel like they they should be other options given to that woman so yeah because
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you were 19 i was nice and so that was the first thing yeah okay yeah um yes you're very i can see
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it like still affects you it does it does um so it's just going back to what cas said you know you
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say you train your mind to forget but like we're here today it's it's part of my tapestry i can't forget
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like it i've moved on with my life i have been healed from my experience but like like most traumas
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you can't forget it it's just you learn to cope and you learn to forgive yourself for it that's what
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people say right that's what everyone says but the brain is capable of everything the brain is like a
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computer if you tell um like you know you have to organize it in certain folders if you don't want
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something on the computer you can move it to the bin folder and and people don't realize that i've had a
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lot of things happen to me and and most of the things i've actually forgotten about until i
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actually come and speak on these subjects and people bring these subjects up i'm like oh yeah
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that's happened to me oh oh yeah like i'm really good with those things um so what i would do is
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i would like if the memory comes back again it's very good to start off with forgiveness forgiving
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yourself forgiving whatever the doctors no signatures or all those things yeah absolutely that's the
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first step but the second step is working with your brain your brain communicates to you through your
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imagination therefore you should respond with your imagination so when that memory comes you can
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imagine scrunching it putting into the bin folder your brain will adapt your brain will know you are
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the engineer of of of that computer you are the engineer of your life your brain thinks it can
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control you only because you haven't taken that power but no one knows that you know everyone
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just lets the brain do everything the amount of thoughts that we get every day and it could be so
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random like random thoughts that don't even belong to our personality you know but but we can control
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that we can and and things like that's happened to us we don't need to think about it we don't need
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to feel the pain every time like this it's happened to you so long ago and i can feel it in in your chest
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in in your emotions it's still there and it's still resurfacing you know so if you just practice this
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i'm scrunching up putting into the bin folder um trust me the brain will adapt quicker than you think
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and eventually it will stop showing up like the whole memory will just disappear um in my case i
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don't want it to disappear only because i share my experience with other women um so it allows them
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to understand that there is hope there is healing so although i'm emotive when i speak about it it's not
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because i'm like holding on or dwelling to it dwelling yeah on it it's because i allow myself and i told
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myself that because of what i experienced and because i wasn't well informed and because i knew
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how long it took me to heal the trauma that i had from it i want to be able to share my experience with
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other people so i do share it on a lot of platforms okay i mean yeah like i share my experiences as well
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right but it's like that memory really just disappears and it's only when i want it to
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return it returns it's like the brain doesn't just give it to me like it used to no not on the daily
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but i mean they walk around daily thinking oh gosh i had an abortion day i've noticed i've noticed there's
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like two types of girls that like after abortions like one gets like really caught up about it and
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one doesn't even seem to care and i don't maybe she's just fronting but i wonder if it's like an
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evolutionary adaptation because historically um if if you got like taken by another tribe they would
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kill the women and the like they would take the women and kill the children and that that's like
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why i think it's like might be an evolutionary adaptation um do you think that women should be
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prosecuted if they have an abortion um yeah i think if um i i think that the information should be out
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there but if i think if they outlawed abortion moving forward they should because a full like
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life sentence in jail yeah um if they because to me it's you either believe it's a life or you believe
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it's not a life and if you believe it's a life if we like under the law if we recognized uh like
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i don't want to say fetus but like the baby as like a life i just think it would only make sense to
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prosecute it to the fullest extent of the law but that life can't look after itself like if you're not
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able as a life to look after another life how are you to be expected to do that i mean neither can a
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two-day-old baby but you get prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law if you kill the baby what
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about um like children like young girls that have been like great so essayed like say you're 11 or 12 and
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you know you fall pregnant what happens if a 11 or a 12 year old had an abortion would you put here in
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jail or murder um i mean i try to avoid like the worst case scenarios because 40 of abortions um they've
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had one or more so it's not like a one-time i would like a one-time situation and less than
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one percent of abortions are for great um but i think it's kind of the similar to if um but it can happen
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what's it no okay i'm gonna answer don't worry um it's kind of similar to if a kid is too young
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like they can go to juvie um but no i mean it it's really like sad but i just think that if you're
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gonna recognize it as a life like it has to be consistent legally can i ask you that question back
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because i can see you've got like a real heart of compassion you know but um in terms of if you if we
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were to make abortions illegal except for grape sexual abuse i say sorry um and all of these
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difficult cases this disability then would you agree that we make it illegal for for just say
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contraception using it as contraception or just because no still no i still say it's the woman's
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choice up until the day that you're allowed to it it has to be what human it is it is interesting
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because people often hide behind these difficult cases um when actually you know you're the reason
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is that you you'd be quite happy for a woman to have an abortion just because maybe she wants to go
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on holiday and if she doesn't if she has a baby will interrupt her planned holiday
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is that a good is that a good reason obviously that's not a good reason but but i'm not saying
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just use abortion as like a form of contraception but i'm saying like what but why not well what's
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wrong with it why why not use it as a form of contraception is it's not like it kills a child
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well no but i just think that's just like irresponsible if you were like going out every weekend
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getting pregnant and then like the next week or next month just going to the clinic and getting an abortion
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like but why not what's wrong what's wrong with abortion that you've recognized that it shouldn't
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be used as contraception well i mean it probably just wouldn't would that even be healthy for a
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woman if she was getting an abortion like i mean neither are plan b's but girls be taking those every
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other day it's quite like just something to think about you know yeah it is but like i said i don't
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think my opinion would change contraception is a prevention yeah yeah and abortion isn't
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i think men should have these pills because they can get 365 women pregnant in a year and a woman
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can only get pregnant well easier i think that's supposed to spread our seed i think
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i feel like there's a like i don't know why they haven't come up with that yet they have they have
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they have but men decline they won't take it no like it had too that one that's what they say but
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it had too many side effects like it wasn't like the women's one no i'm talking like it's sterilized
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i got like it was actually like too much yeah it was i don't remember off the top of my head but it
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was actually really bad um i don't remember one guy there got sterilized or died like something really
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serious happened and it wasn't that big of a sample size so like if it was one out of 20 you know that
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that might happen to you you probably aren't going to take it but i'm butchering that that's just like
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off the top of my head um do you guys think that men should have a say in abortion so um for the for
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the pro-choice people so if you get pregnant and um the father of the kid wants you to keep it should
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he have any say like if i was in a serious relationship um i mean of course he can have
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his opinion but i think like i said it's down to the woman to do whatever she wants to do so even if
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he said no i don't want you to get an abortion i think even if she wants to get one she should still
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be able to get one because at the end of the day it's hey let's carry in the baby um yeah yeah let's
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give him birth so yeah i think it's her choice yeah i would agree with you and also like whose human
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rights are we thinking about here you know your whole life changes if you have a baby like if you're
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yeah for men and for women yeah for all parties involved and not even just the man and the woman
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the superior the wider family and the child so what if what if the dad says like uh you don't
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once you give birth like you don't have to i'll take care of it i don't i don't need you to do
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anything else like i got it can you carry it for me can you birth it for me can you change your body
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for me do you know how many times you hear about like dad's running out on like single like mums and
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they're like oh i swear it took two of us to make this kid like come back here and like look after the
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kid so that is acceptable for the women to say but when it comes to like deciding on who's like
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gonna have the baby no no it's definitely my choice do you see what i mean and then like
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ah like i didn't even expect us to go into the whole men and women's type of debate and i thought
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we were gonna stick to abortion but it's again like it's just two double standards isn't it you know
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you guys want basically everything and then more you don't carry it you don't have to you don't
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you don't carry it but what's worse though carrying it all paying for it for the rest of its life
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and paying non-stop child support paying everything you're saying that women don't pay for their
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children well i'm saying no most of the time if the man's involved he's paying for pretty much
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everything right if he's a support no if he's a supporting dad if he's a supporting dad supporting
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means supporting the person who's actually doing so if i'm in the kid's life i'm gonna have to make
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sure i'm working to look after that kid you subjectively yeah not objectively wait hold on
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say that again that's you subjectively yeah well i'm just talking about what a high value man would
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want to do for their wife i don't want personally for a high value man would want to do but statistically
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is that what happens well yeah so why are there so many single mothers in this country or they're not
00:26:50.000
high value men no they're single mothers because women are irresponsible in terms of what do you mean
00:26:56.960
like irresponsible sexually you're in control of who you have sex with you are so if you've chosen
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to have sex with a man that isn't someone that would actively support you that makes you what exactly
00:27:09.360
irresponsible you're responsible for making a choice yeah because yeah you have you have 10 choices the
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men have one you you have the choice like you know when you're ovulating you have the choice to get an
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abortion you have 41 forms of birth control to choose from the man has condom or no condom that's a choice
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right you're right but i'm saying i'm saying the women have more choice than the men so it's more
00:27:32.480
on us we're in control of who who we have sex with so coming back to the original question was like
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should man have a choice when it comes to abortion 100 based on that opinion 100 right i mean you guys
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are for equality right so why can't we get pals pals just literally said with her home words that it's our
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responsibility so why would you get a say if it's our responsibility i said it's um we have more
00:27:56.400
choices so we are more responsible so if we're more responsible why do we not have the same percentage
00:28:00.800
of choice okay but you're only having that large percentage of choice while it's in your stomach
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right and that's all you're debating but what happens when it comes out yeah i said who's who's
00:28:09.840
responsible for birth yeah pregnancy birth both plus i feel like it's hot like it's the egg and the sperm
00:28:16.000
it's not just yeah it's like half half right so it's like it takes two to tango but if it's 50 50
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then why are we more responsible because we have to carry it no i'm saying i'm saying i'm saying if
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there's an unplanned pregnancy like we as women we have so much more choice than the men so like we can
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we can do abstinence if we want like we all could have waited till we were married you know we we can
00:28:39.120
also um we also have the choice to require the men that we sleep with wear condoms we could do that we
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could also we also have the choice to get on birth control you can get an iud you can get a pill
00:28:48.800
that thing in your arm i know there's side effects but that's that's our choice right um
00:28:53.360
on top of that we also can be wise with who we sleep with and not sleep with anyone that wouldn't be
00:28:57.760
not a good father we also have the choice to get an abortion we also have the choice to put a man on
00:29:02.560
child support we also have the choice to get married and leave leave and then take half um we also
00:29:08.720
get more child support if we take away the kids from the dad so we're financially incentivized to take away
00:29:14.560
the children um so they have all of the we have all of this choice and the men have condom or no
00:29:20.240
condom so it's like if we have 10 choices that's a pre-pregnancy choice that the man has post-pregnancy
00:29:26.000
choice it would depend a lot a lot of the things yeah of course we have that choice but divorce
00:29:30.880
doesn't just get you don't just automatically get half based on absolutely nothing like if you're a
00:29:35.040
woman that's like worked and earned certain amount of money it does come down to yeah and there's
00:29:40.080
there's a small percentage of women but women don't typically make more than men that we we make
00:29:44.880
less and we spend more and there's also um i just learned about this the other day there's um lawsuits
00:29:50.800
going on in the u.s where they overestimate how much it costs to raise a child basically just so
00:29:57.680
they can get more child support in court so they'll say like it costs this much to raise a child even
00:30:01.920
though like for example let's do kanye west and kim kardashian like why does that girl and and she
00:30:07.360
out earns him and he's a billionaire and he still has to pay how much in child support 200 000 yeah
00:30:12.880
200k a month and that's a billionaire woman so what happens to the average man if if a multimillionaire
00:30:19.680
that married a billionaire can't escape child support so you believe that a man shouldn't have any say
00:30:25.040
in an abortion or should based on the fact that you acknowledge that women have all the responsibility
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no i'm saying like we are more responsible for an unplanned pregnancy like it's more of our fault
00:30:35.200
and we actually avoid the responsibility after because we can we make the men pay for our poor
00:30:41.120
choices so you think that they should have more say in abortions or not um i think that abortion if it
00:30:47.040
was up to me it would be illegal yeah so um i don't think anyone should have to say but if it was to be
00:30:52.960
that what would be your like if if that if abortions were not illegal and you were on the side of uh pro
00:31:00.640
if i was pro-choice you would think that it would have to be a signature from the man and the woman
00:31:05.360
for unable to enable the actual like surgical or procedure to continue based on the facts
00:31:12.240
um that's a good question um but see that's hard because i wouldn't even i wouldn't be pro-choice to
00:31:18.000
begin with so why is the question like relevant why because you're pro-choice that's what i was asking
00:31:24.880
yeah um but if if you're pro-life like you don't believe in abortion to begin with so you wouldn't
00:31:29.680
even get there so it's not about the masculine and feminist purely based on it's just like like
00:31:35.040
feminists fought for equality here it is well guys guys that are pro-life right so when i got pregnant
00:31:41.520
twice i was actually on um anti-contraception um how would you how would you react to that like
00:31:47.520
obviously what i was um i was on pills okay yeah and i was taking them regularly and both of
00:31:54.720
of the times i even changed my pills just to make sure you know it's a different one and and both of
00:32:00.080
the times i actually got pregnant so it's it's kind of difficult like when you actually don't want
00:32:05.280
it after the first time um what do you mean after the first like pregnancy you didn't switch birth
00:32:10.080
control i did i did that's why i said i tried different ones yeah and then the the other one
00:32:14.240
yeah it's a different one and it still didn't work and i looked specifically just to check like i
00:32:19.360
made sure that i took one i even had an alarm set you know and it is what would you say to that
00:32:24.240
i'm curious why don't you get an iud that's like that's the most effective one what's that um what
00:32:29.680
the coil i don't know oh is that what you guys call it here the coil i had a coil um but it went um
00:32:37.360
it got stuck um under i couldn't breathe i had to they didn't even know that it um it was that it was
00:32:44.560
stuck under it was attached to one of the womb tissues or something it was so painful and i kept saying
00:32:50.880
like something's wrong and they were like no nothing's wrong you ain't had children so it's
00:32:55.120
it's not that you know and i had to actually go privately pay for x-rays and then they told me no
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it's that and they had to to get it out i mean i just think um you also only ovulate three days a
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month so i think you can track your ovulation um i think you can wear condoms and i think you can
00:33:10.400
not have sex yeah that's another thing but yeah and i just think like i'm just a big fan of like
00:33:17.280
you kind of made your bed lie in it and at some point like something went wrong yeah um but you
00:33:23.360
you can see as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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