In this episode, we discuss modern relationships, modern standards, modern dating, modern expectations and modern dating standards. We also discuss the dating apps and their impact on dating culture and the dating culture in the modern world.
00:00:00.000often hear the term a modern relationship what is a modern relationship to you i believe it's
00:00:08.480dysfunctional okay tell me why because men and women are different they're biologically different
00:00:15.520they were made that way and so they have different desires inherently of what they want
00:00:20.800and the modern standard in my opinion just doesn't work okay what do you think is a modern relationship
00:00:27.360uh it's a bit tricky to answer you know because it's like
00:00:35.840it depends on your age also your where you are as well background and then also religion comes into
00:00:47.360it as well so it kind of differs but i would say modern relationships now are i would agree with
00:00:54.480you linda they're dysfunctional unless you you're able to communicate and stuff but it's hard to
00:01:02.080say this is a modern relationship every relationship is complicated yeah okay what do you think of the
00:01:08.000modern relationship i would agree with that where this below a certain age it's possibly dysfunctional
00:01:16.240because there isn't defined roles and maybe there isn't discussions up front about you do this i do
00:01:23.280that you know and both of you picking up the slack and doing your part and i think some modern
00:01:31.760relationships are dysfunctional because people don't communicate those expectations up front
00:01:38.000okay what do you think um i think expectations there's a bit of a blurry line now nowadays i think sometimes women earn more they do more sometimes men do the same so i think sometimes it's not it's it's not it's not as it used to be um
00:02:04.000it was clearer before right in a way i think young people don't they don't want it to be clear i
00:02:16.000think it's just the way it is it's blurred that's an interesting point yeah how has dating changed over time
00:02:24.080i think it was quite i don't know if it was simpler meeting someone i think nowadays it's harder to meet someone
00:02:30.000mm-hmm although everyone does dating online but it seems harder still to to drum up communication
00:02:38.640for someone to speak to you people normally speak um through texting yeah so people don't although
00:02:44.800everyone's got inclusive minutes they're still texting so that is quite impersonal i find dating
00:02:52.560nowadays and i think back in the day was they say it was easier people more accommodating people more open
00:02:59.360i'm not sure people that open now would you say um because a common complaint i hear from men is that
00:03:05.280women's standards are too high would you say women's standards have gotten higher over time or has it
00:03:10.800always been like that they're unex i think they're unrealistic their expectations are unrealistic so
00:03:19.440we a young person might say i'm just going to say a young person might say i want a guy who
00:03:24.880i don't know drives he's got somewhere to live and he he should be earning xyz
00:03:34.400they want that for someone but they don't really want that for themselves so the guy has to level up
00:03:39.520but the girl doesn't have to level up yeah she just has to be available there would you would you guys
00:03:46.560say that the dating apps has exacerbated that progression so like i feel like the dating apps skew
00:03:55.600that to a large degree because like we have the stats right where only 20 percent of guys are seen
00:04:03.120as eligible whereas i think in real life you might chat to a guy you wouldn't swipe right to and there's
00:04:10.000that removal of like a human element you know and the biggest things for long-term relationship success
00:04:17.920pretty much has nothing to do with your looks yeah you know um i would say that yeah it's made it worse
00:04:26.640i don't i don't think social media has made relationships better which is interesting because
00:04:31.360we have more ways to talk to people than ever but it seems like we're more distant yeah it's weird because
00:04:37.920like we before um like i i had german nannies growing up and it would be really hard to keep
00:04:44.880in contact with them because of like you know like skype was kind of iffy and it just it just was harder
00:04:50.960when i was younger and now it's so easy but even with all this technology it's like we all talk less
00:04:57.200it seems like definitely and people's social skills like after all the craziness the last few years i think
00:05:04.800everyone's social skills just took a hit and even people who claim to be extroverted you know they
00:05:12.080would happily sit at home you know i have friends that were more sociable than me in a way and now
00:05:17.600they're just like happy to chill at home and i think i think you can actually set yourself apart
00:05:24.400like in previous experiences i've had just going up to someone having a conversation is almost unheard of
00:05:30.800now that obviously we can get into all the expectations to get into a relationship but
00:05:36.400just to open the door and speak to someone i actually think is easier than people would let
00:05:42.400themselves on now initial attraction is obviously a factor in that but i still think that you can set
00:05:49.040yourself apart just by being nice being interested in someone which um would you girls agree like i i think
00:05:56.720as a girl like if a guy actually approaches you in person i'm more likely to say yes than if he like
00:06:03.200dm's me on instagram or on a dating app or something like to giving him my number would you agree or
00:06:08.000disagree depending i agree for sure you agree i mean i don't use dating apps i only go based in person
00:06:14.960because um like for me it's it's the aura that they have it's the way they approach you are they
00:06:21.760overtly sexual right away are they asking interesting questions uh what do they choose to
00:06:27.040ask about me sort of thing and just it's it's easier to kind of explore their mind on a dating
00:06:32.880app if i didn't like how someone looked i could be swiping uh what's the direction
00:06:39.120left left i could be rejecting like my future husband that i have like so much in so much in common
00:06:46.000intellectually and and values when guys don't take good pictures i think in general so i on this point
00:06:53.200i uh said someone close to me swipe right on five guys not that you find really unattractive but just
00:07:00.160you have a kind of type but just bend the rules a little bit swipe right on five guys and just see
00:07:05.840where it goes just do it because you never know and i think everyone that's been in a relationship here
00:07:14.560i think could agree that yes looks are important yes you need to be attracted to your partner
00:07:19.680but there is so much more that everyone requires to stay in a long-term commitment money did you say
00:07:27.760money just started yeah no i wanted to make a point from the or because i didn't have a chance to speak
00:07:35.840so many things i just wanted to say um yeah as she said i feel like no relationship are just
00:07:42.320mostly like super like superficial and toxic for a certain fact that social media is there now so
00:07:48.720obviously now everyone got a fake expectation like not realistic expectations because of what you see
00:07:53.520but i was also how people what people showed you now if a guy that always shows me like rich and millie
00:07:58.880jewelry money big cars approach me i am expecting you living that kind of lifestyle now if i'm seeing you
00:08:06.080and then you're just a normal guy having a nine to five you're not entrepreneur you don't own what you
00:08:10.080claim your own i'm not gonna date you anymore because you're lying so why would i date you it's
00:08:15.200like me if i will go on my instagram and just photoshop my pictures like i got big like nice
00:08:20.240body bbl big everything now i'm going and i'll complete a different person the guy will like why
00:08:24.880you lie but at the same thing would you say women are lying when they use filters then i believe they
00:08:30.720got to the point where they get so like insecure but they look because they keep like constantly like
00:08:36.240compete with people that they see they're not realistic beauty standards if that makes sense
00:08:42.480like you cannot compete for like a king kardashian or some alexis sky for example and then i don't
00:08:48.560really see the point on doing that personally but um going back on the dating thing i feel like it was
00:08:53.840really really bad before especially after covid yeah people don't they have like social anxiety i see
00:08:58.880they got any more introvert because they got used to stay home but at the same time i don't know i feel
00:09:05.440there's no like there's no willing to communicate anymore to be honest anymore not even to personally
00:09:12.000i'm gonna become probably unpopular opinion i like a guy they can provide for me like they have actually
00:09:16.960a good job stable job because as a man you are actually meant to provide for the woman you need to
00:09:21.840make me feel like i can count on you if i want to open a family i have a family right i can't be with
00:09:26.320someone that got no job live with their mom no money why would i do that but on the same point i believe
00:09:32.960it got so toxic to the level that you can't be like honest anymore if that makes sense because
00:09:38.160everyone lies a lot maybe thanks to social media as well i don't know if that makes sense so even
00:09:44.080dating apps as well as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demon