JustPearlyThings - What Is The Greatest Lie Your Mother Ever Told You？ (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.600 Most answered very quickly, no, because men are useless. 0.84

00:00:06.320 This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye.

00:00:09.220 Most young men are single, most young women are not.

00:00:12.220 Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.

00:00:16.920 It's a different world now, like we don't need men the way that they used to.

00:00:19.960 Nobody needs men! 1.00

00:00:21.200 The future is female. 1.00

00:00:22.740 Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it. 0.99

00:00:30.720 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.

00:00:34.020 You've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing.

00:00:36.720 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:00:40.280 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:00:44.380 Marriage is a bond, and it's a sacred bond.

00:00:46.840 It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.

00:00:49.980 Now, many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married. 0.99

00:00:54.880 It's Hannah Pearl Davis, or just pearly things.

00:00:58.580 One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.

00:01:02.240 She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:01:05.080 Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:01:10.320 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:01:12.440 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women. 0.53

00:01:15.920 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children. 0.81

00:01:18.700 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws. 0.73

00:01:21.600 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:26.560 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.

00:01:29.760 You need no evidence.

00:01:30.880 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for,

00:01:34.540 and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:01:37.920 I interviewed them on the other side.

00:01:40.180 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:01:42.900 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:01:44.980 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:01:47.160 Before you know it, you're homeless.

00:01:48.760 You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:01:50.680 We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women. 1.00

00:01:53.100 Wives are taught to leave their husbands, and then daughters grow up without their fathers.

00:01:57.340 Family is the foundation of society.

00:01:59.060 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes. 1.00

00:02:02.180 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness. 1.00

00:02:06.560 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women. 1.00

00:02:08.480 We tell women to date as many guys as possible.

00:02:10.280 We tell them to put off family into marriage. 0.99

00:02:11.780 You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.

00:02:14.840 You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.

00:02:19.240 Oh, freeze your ex. 0.93

00:02:20.020 Have an abortion.

00:02:21.040 What?

00:02:21.440 You're evil.

00:02:22.300 I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.

00:02:26.160 Right.

00:02:26.420 Like, if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic,

00:02:30.260 naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.

00:02:33.000 It's self-sabotage.

00:02:33.920 That's the thing.

00:02:34.480 Like, women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy. 1.00

00:02:37.680 This is not about happiness.

00:02:39.180 The most important thing is the children, and the problem is we have a modern society

00:02:43.920 where it's me, me, me, my feelings, leave when I feel like it, instead of doing what's

00:02:48.480 best for the kids.

00:02:50.480 This myth that we live in an age of male privilege, where's my male privilege?

00:02:54.200 They think, well, men have all the rights. 0.95

00:02:55.740 They have all the power.

00:02:57.000 Privileged patriarchal system that we have.

00:02:59.260 Why doesn't our society care about men's rights? 0.99

00:03:01.860 I have no friends, no wife, and no social life.

00:03:05.120 Men are alone in this situation.

00:03:07.040 Men are homeless.

00:03:07.660 Men are thinking about eating guns.

00:03:09.780 I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide, and they didn't do anything wrong.

00:03:14.160 How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?

00:03:19.560 The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.

00:03:23.460 Women are helplessly dependent upon men. 0.99

00:03:25.740 The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol, three times higher among

00:03:31.960 men than among women. 0.87

00:03:33.240 Culture is telling men, you are no good.

00:03:35.080 You've got to get your act together.

00:03:36.300 I think men have failed themselves.

00:03:37.920 What kind of a man are you?

00:03:39.160 What kind of a woman are you going to attract? 1.00

00:03:41.080 If men are in trouble, so are women. 0.66

00:03:43.740 Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.

00:03:47.300 Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man for a kid. 1.00

00:03:49.640 500K.

00:03:50.320 500K.

00:03:50.720 300K.

00:03:51.260 300K.

00:03:51.720 200K.

00:03:52.140 Am I crazy?

00:03:52.860 Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.

00:03:55.100 If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them. 1.00

00:03:58.700 So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?

00:04:02.620 Women. 0.81

00:04:02.980 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.

00:04:06.240 I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.

00:04:08.520 I'm over it.

00:04:09.680 When is it going to be my turn?

00:04:10.980 Where are we meeting the men that don't stop?

00:04:12.740 I can't keep having these same conversations.

00:04:15.520 The only simp here is you, Pearl.

00:04:16.800 You simp for men. 0.99

00:04:17.220 No, I think you simp for women. 1.00

00:04:18.820 She's a provocateur. 1.00

00:04:19.780 She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this.

00:04:22.240 It's already happening.

00:04:23.360 It's just not out in the open yet.

00:04:24.840 Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want 0.99

00:04:28.460 a wife and women can't find a husband. 1.00

00:04:30.280 The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.

00:04:34.820 We go into population decline and our economy goes into decline.

00:04:38.700 Civilization will crumble.

00:04:40.480 The American story does not end well.

00:04:43.040 This is an existential crisis failing young men.

00:04:50.040 What is up, guys?

00:04:52.400 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here on the Audacity Network.

00:04:56.840 Thank you guys for tuning in.

00:04:58.000 You can bring your time and attention anywhere.

00:05:00.280 But for some reason, you guys choose to tune in here.

00:05:03.880 I want to first say thank you to everybody that has donated to the Divorce documentary.

00:05:08.700 As you guys know, we're trying to hit $40,000 this month and we might actually hit it.

00:05:13.980 We're trying to get to 100K.

00:05:15.660 That's like my lowest quote.

00:05:16.860 So we got $37,547 total dollars raised.

00:05:23.080 Okay, let me, oh, no.

00:05:25.960 No, my computer just glitched.

00:05:28.540 Why, God?

00:05:30.540 Hold on.

00:05:31.220 Let me, let me, let me, how the hell does this, am I doing something to these computers?

00:05:39.600 All right, hold on.

00:05:40.460 Let me do it again.

00:05:41.960 It just zoomed in.

00:05:43.100 And I'm like, okay, okay.

00:05:47.900 Okay, here we go.

00:05:49.900 Thank you to Chris for the $5 donation.

00:05:53.760 Robert, $200.

00:05:56.000 So, you know, if someone donates another $500 this show, we can hit $38,000.

00:06:00.660 That'd be pretty exciting.

00:06:01.560 So thank you guys so much for tuning in.

00:06:04.460 So today we are going to be talking about mothers lying to their children. 0.82

00:06:12.580 So when I, um, when I first got into interviewing victims of divorce scrape, it actually amazed

00:06:23.900 me, um, how many children had been lied to about their fathers.

00:06:29.520 So welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.

00:06:34.100 Fathers are judged harshly in today's society.

00:06:37.020 And all we hear about is how fathers aren't needed.

00:06:39.840 They are deadbeats.

00:06:41.400 When they are in the house, women complain that he doesn't do enough.

00:06:45.320 He's like having another child, blah, blah, blah.

00:06:47.840 This is a smoke screen to keep society from pointing out the shortcomings of mothers. 1.00

00:06:53.500 Starting in generation X, mothers have gotten worse and worse. 1.00

00:06:57.020 There are women that put their own interests above their community, their husbands, and 1.00

00:07:02.380 their families.

00:07:03.360 These women lied and gaslit their way through life without caring about the consequences 1.00

00:07:08.200 and outcomes of their actions.

00:07:11.100 It's only when you are an adult that you realize how much your mother lied to you and gaslit

00:07:15.480 you.

00:07:16.200 Your mother lied about who your father was, the kind of man he was, how much he contributed

00:07:20.460 to the house and the sacrifices he made as a father.

00:07:23.240 Your mother lied to you about her contributions to the family, pointing herself as some kind

00:07:29.440 of super mom that held the fabric of the universe together.

00:07:32.900 Your mother lied to you about her virtue and her purity. 0.53

00:07:35.740 She lied to you about her career accomplishments and took credit for the things she didn't even 1.00

00:07:39.840 do.

00:07:40.600 These are the type of things that your mother lied about and told you when you were young

00:07:44.620 and you believed them.

00:07:45.760 It's a good day and a bad day when you figure out how much of a liar your mother was. 0.72

00:07:49.560 It's good because you can finally see her for the horrible person that she is and it's

00:07:53.560 bad because your perfect image of her is gone forever.

00:07:56.640 You also start to regret some of the things you did when you were little because of her

00:08:00.720 lies and you wonder how different your life would have been with the information that

00:08:05.200 you had back then.

00:08:06.840 So we're going to look at some ex posts about this.

00:08:10.380 The myth that mothers possess an inherent protective instinct to shield their children from harm

00:08:20.840 is a patriarchal fabrication, a lie that crumbles under scrutiny, especially when considering

00:08:26.460 the treatment of daughters.

00:08:28.180 In reality, mothers perpetuate the very misogyny that enslaves them, grooming their female children 1.00

00:08:33.380 into a lifetime of suffering and subjugation.

00:08:36.320 I asked my own mother about her severe phobia of blood and she recounted her four C-sections

00:08:42.120 in excruciating detail.

00:08:44.140 She described the complete paralysis she felt after each surgery, the lasting health problems

00:08:49.100 they caused, and the psychological trauma she endured.

00:08:52.000 Yet despite this litany of horror, she concluded with a chilling, you will understand all of this

00:08:58.920 when you get pregnant.

00:08:59.780 Mothers are as protecting and nurturing as a farmer preparing his livestock for slaughter.

00:09:07.560 They ensure that their daughters inherit the same suffering and abuse they endured.

00:09:11.620 This is not protection.

00:09:12.860 It is a transmission of torture to maintain the dominance of men. 0.99

00:09:16.480 Many of you have a problem.

00:09:18.060 Okay.

00:09:18.920 So that's the one.

00:09:19.940 The next we're going to go through is my mom made me believe I'm actually a useless human

00:09:30.440 being because everything I do for her is not good enough.

00:09:33.120 So I stopped doing anything at all.

00:09:34.600 Every single day.

00:09:35.460 She always reminds me of the stuff I didn't do instead of praising me for the stuff I did

00:09:39.700 do.

00:09:40.040 I am tired.

00:09:41.220 And by the way, guys, I understand there are good mothers.

00:09:44.240 This is not the show for that.

00:09:45.800 So please do not call in and tell me that wasn't your experience.

00:09:50.440 This was not the call-in show for you.

00:09:52.440 I hate it.

00:09:53.580 But we're doing a call-in show about a specific topic.

00:09:56.320 And they're like, well, that wasn't my experience.

00:09:58.560 Like, well, then why are you here?

00:10:00.500 Sorry.

00:10:01.480 Thank you, Gabe.

00:10:02.480 Gabriel for the $2 super chat.

00:10:05.380 That's why I wanted to impress someone hoping they'd recognize my effort.

00:10:08.640 I just wish my parents would recognize my effort, but they always pressure me 24 seven

00:10:12.460 because I'm not doing enough in life.

00:10:13.960 They can't use my depression as an excuse.

00:10:16.840 I'm just useless.

00:10:19.160 Mothers used to get away with this all the time, but now social media is giving sons and

00:10:23.280 daughters an outlet to share the lies that their mothers told them. 0.82

00:10:26.660 This is going to be a call-in show, and I want you to share what was the worst lie your

00:10:30.460 mother ever told you?

00:10:31.640 How did you find out it was a lie?

00:10:33.160 And what happened when you confronted your mother about the lie?

00:10:39.080 Hi, everybody.

00:10:42.680 Manny here.

00:10:43.960 Somebody asked me, what was the biggest lie my mother ever told?

00:10:50.820 Hang on to your hat.

00:10:54.620 When my mother became pregnant with me, she went to my grandmother and told her it was

00:11:02.000 my grandfather's.

00:11:03.080 And she wanted him out of the house, and she thought that would be the way to do it, to

00:11:16.920 get him out of the house.

00:11:17.960 She never told my grandmother the difference.

00:11:23.320 My grandmother from that day on hated my grandfather, but they still lived together because of financial

00:11:28.720 reasons.

00:11:29.340 And back then, you just didn't get a divorce.

00:11:31.300 And it ruined their marriage.

00:11:37.760 And when I turned 15, I think, I don't know why, but my grandmother felt she needed to tell

00:11:44.580 me that I was a product of incest.

00:11:46.600 And I felt like I was a freak, and even before I married my husband, I told him that, you know, there could be some abnormal children involved because of the DNA issues.

00:12:06.840 And it wasn't until I was in my 30s that my mother confessed that it was all a lie.

00:12:16.840 She just hated my grandfather and didn't want him in the house anymore because he was a drinker, and he was drunk a lot, and she did not like him, and he did not always give her her way.

00:12:29.900 So she ruined my grandmother's marriage. 1.00

00:12:35.520 And she didn't realize that my grandmother had told me this.

00:12:39.240 And that's when she confessed to my grandmother and my sister, never to me, that it was all a lie.

00:12:46.840 It was all a lie.

00:12:51.060 And for 15, maybe 20 years, I felt like I was an anomaly, that there was something wrong with me.

00:13:04.320 That's the biggest lie my mother ever told.

00:13:07.640 Wow.

00:13:09.760 Crazy.

00:13:11.100 Okay, let's see what's next.

00:13:14.400 Whoop.

00:13:16.840 What was the biggest lie that your mother told you as a child?

00:13:21.640 I have two major lies that my mother used to tell us when we were children.

00:13:24.800 I know, actually, one of them is more recently.

00:13:26.520 But the one we were kids is she used to tell us that she was a good mom.

00:13:29.500 And what kind of mom needs to tell her children that they're-

00:13:31.900 That's so true.

00:13:35.620 Good mom, unless they're a narcissist. 1.00

00:13:37.500 So, yeah, there's that one.

00:13:39.640 And we know that's not true now.

00:13:40.940 And as an adult, this one was very recent, actually, my mom has decided that she does not remember or doesn't want to remember our childhood abuse.

00:13:50.240 That's always the gaslighting.

00:13:51.980 Oh, I don't remember doing that.

00:13:53.360 Really, bitch? 1.00

00:13:55.540 How convenient that you don't remember all the bad things.

00:13:59.220 Abuse that she put us in.

00:14:01.300 And after many, many years of telling her, she's decided those conversations never happened.

00:14:06.920 We are like 99% sure my sister murdered her mother-in-law and made it look like a self-dealing.

00:14:12.120 Holy shit.

00:14:13.120 So, I'm hoping that one day when she passes and sheds that cloak of ego and narcissism, that we can actually have a healthy, decent conversation about what life was like with her.

00:14:24.340 Hmm.

00:14:26.500 Okay, let's see what's next.

00:14:28.560 What was the biggest lie that your mother told you as a child?

00:14:38.860 I was in my 20s.

00:14:39.760 My fiancé wanted to postpone our wedding.

00:14:42.600 It absolutely put me into a tailspin.

00:14:45.120 And I was given anxiety medication at the hospital because I had a complete emotional breakdown.

00:14:50.860 And I had to be transferred to a higher level of care because they couldn't take care of me in the facility that I was at.

00:14:58.560 And so my fiancé called my mom and asked her to please come and see if she could help get me out sooner.

00:15:04.220 When I got there, my mom told my fiancé to go to his motorcycle race and that she would see him on Monday.

00:15:10.360 I got out of the hospital and my mom told me that he did not want me, he did not want to get married, that he absolutely still wanted to keep the wedding called off and took away my phone and moved me back to Montana.

00:15:22.960 When he came home, I was gone and I never knew until, actually, it's been 13 years and I found out last year.

00:15:31.420 Oh my gosh.

00:15:32.460 Holy shit.

00:15:35.120 There's nobody that lies better than a woman. 1.00

00:15:41.160 Okay, let's see what's next.

00:15:42.660 You grew up...

00:15:46.460 Okay.

00:15:50.360 More conservative and obviously masturbation wasn't something you...

00:15:53.340 Yeah, I was blamed for it.

00:15:54.940 I remembered my mom planted a seed for me when I got my first period.

00:15:59.200 I got home.

00:16:00.180 As a mom, I think I had a miscarriage.

00:16:04.100 Were you like 12?

00:16:05.360 Yeah, because when I was 12, I watched all the Chinese soap operas of the king and the 20 concubines trying to get pregnant. 0.99

00:16:13.020 And then somebody would get poisoned and then they bleed.

00:16:15.740 Were you having sex?

00:16:16.860 I wasn't having sex.

00:16:18.140 I didn't know.

00:16:18.720 It's just so funny.

00:16:19.820 I said, Mom, I think Buddha put a seed on me.

00:16:22.140 So like a Virgin Mary, I got pregnant and then someone poisoned me.

00:16:25.560 And now I lost a baby.

00:16:26.820 I'm sorry, Mom.

00:16:27.460 And you weren't being funny.

00:16:28.460 I wasn't.

00:16:28.960 She goes, you lost a baby?

00:16:30.600 Did you...

00:16:31.180 What?

00:16:31.640 I said, it's the blood.

00:16:32.940 She goes, oh, you have your period.

00:16:34.380 I said, what is a period?

00:16:35.460 She goes, that means you are a woman now. 0.93

00:16:37.620 I said, doesn't mean that I'm a slut.

00:16:39.500 She goes, did you ever have sex with them?

00:16:41.520 I said, no, of course not.

00:16:42.780 I can't do that.

00:16:44.560 She said, nobody poisoned you.

00:16:46.560 You are a woman now. 0.96

00:16:47.540 Yeah.

00:16:48.040 Look at yourself in the mirror.

00:16:48.920 I said, yes.

00:16:49.520 She goes, I always tell you it's not possible for you to get uglier, but there is possibilities.

00:16:54.960 If you touch yourself, you will get uglier.

00:16:57.520 Yeah.

00:16:59.840 She said, everything is possible.

00:17:01.340 I didn't think you could get any uglier, but you could if you masturbate.

00:17:06.540 Oh, my God.

00:17:12.640 Let's see what else.

00:17:13.780 Okay, guys, let's talk about it.

00:17:17.920 I feel like it's so weird.

00:17:23.940 Because growing up, I never...

00:17:25.300 Okay, guys, let's talk about it.

00:17:26.700 I feel like it's so weird because growing up, I never realized how my mom used to just lie to me.

00:17:30.460 I remember when I was younger and I used to get money from birthday parties or get money from my grandparents or just anything.

00:17:38.020 And my mom really used to say, let me hold your money.

00:17:40.440 Let me put it up for you and keep it in savings.

00:17:42.760 Now I'm 20 years old.

00:17:44.100 And I'm like, where the hell that money went?

00:17:45.500 Like, where's my money?

00:17:47.160 I just could have sworn I made over at least $2,000 from all the money I made up until I was like five.

00:17:55.500 I feel like it's like 12.

00:17:56.760 Like, I could have made a lot of money.

00:17:58.020 Like, where's my money?

00:17:59.100 Yeah, they just take it.

00:18:00.620 All right, let's see.

00:18:06.200 What's the biggest...

00:18:08.300 I win.

00:18:11.960 I win this one.

00:18:13.600 So when I was younger, like elementary school, I would always have this fight every day with this kid.

00:18:17.560 And he would argue that I was Hispanic.

00:18:21.040 And I was getting so mad because I was like, my family is Italian and Polish.

00:18:26.700 That's where I, like, get tanner skin.

00:18:29.540 And he was like, I don't believe you.

00:18:32.580 You're Hispanic.

00:18:33.820 And I fought this kid for probably four years.

00:18:37.500 I'm 22 now.

00:18:39.020 One year ago.

00:18:40.120 One year.

00:18:40.660 I was 21 years old.

00:18:41.860 I get a DM from this random girl.

00:18:43.980 And she's like, your father is not your father.

00:18:46.540 Your sister is not your sister. 0.96

00:18:48.220 Your dad is blah, blah, blah.

00:18:49.300 Your mom met him when she was living in blah, blah, blah.

00:18:51.020 And it was like general information.

00:18:52.140 So I was like, this is like a trafficking scam.

00:18:53.820 Like, they happen sometimes.

00:18:55.160 And I was like, whatever, not falling for it.

00:18:56.600 So I told my dad about it.

00:18:57.800 And my family drove up to my college town the next day.

00:19:00.920 Turns out.

00:19:02.960 I am Hispanic.

00:19:04.500 For 21 years, they lied about my biological father.

00:19:08.500 Wow.

00:19:11.140 Holy crap.

00:19:12.740 Oh, my gosh.

00:19:13.680 Let's see this one.

00:19:14.640 She'd win the Oscar.

00:19:16.720 Okay.

00:19:19.200 Oscar.

00:19:20.340 And remembers exactly how her mother reacted.

00:19:23.980 I'd like to thank you, Academy.

00:19:24.900 When I won the Oscar for Misery, she said, I don't know what all the excitement about.

00:19:28.620 You didn't discover the cure for cancer.

00:19:31.020 I forgot to thank her that night.

00:19:33.420 You know, you did thank her.

00:19:35.240 At the end of your speech, you thank her.

00:19:36.920 No, I did not.

00:19:38.080 I did not.

00:19:38.920 You go back and look at it.

00:19:40.020 I didn't.

00:19:40.520 We did go back and look.

00:19:42.540 And we showed her.

00:19:43.340 And I would like to thank my family, my friends, my mom at home, and my dad, who I hope is watching somewhere.

00:19:56.760 What do you think of her?

00:19:59.000 Thank you.

00:19:59.700 Why did I think I didn't thank her?

00:20:04.820 Oh, what a relief.

00:20:07.920 Why does that mean so much to you?

00:20:11.500 Because she should have had my life. 0.85

00:20:15.280 When she died, I said, come into me.

00:20:18.680 She'd win the Oscar.

00:20:20.440 And remember.

00:20:22.760 Okay.

00:20:23.120 Okay, so we're going to do a call in, and I want to know what the craziest lie you guys' mother ever told you was. 0.98

00:20:34.780 So we're going to put a Zoom link in the chat.

00:20:37.540 I'm going to give it to the people on Twitter.

00:20:41.900 I have a few group chats I send.

00:20:44.940 All right.

00:20:45.560 So let me send this out.

00:20:49.160 Doug MPA.

00:20:50.000 I am here.

00:20:53.360 How are you, Doug?

00:20:55.880 I am fantastic, my friend.

00:20:57.500 How are you?

00:20:58.180 I'm good.

00:21:00.100 So tell me, what's the biggest lie your mom ever told you?

00:21:04.700 Well, I've shared multiple times about Mom 2.0, how my mom was a demon most of my life up until I was in my mid-30s,

00:21:12.380 and then she went to therapy, and now she's a different person.

00:21:16.780 But before that, man, it was just awful.

00:21:20.000 My mom did the thing where she painted herself as Superwoman, that she was carrying the universe on her shoulders. 1.00

00:21:28.420 And, you know, everything in this house and everything of my existence is because of her.

00:21:34.180 She said horrible things about my dad.

00:21:38.640 Just all of it.

00:21:39.580 And then the gaslighting.

00:21:43.260 Go ahead.

00:21:44.300 The worst part about my mother was probably that Kathy Bates clip. 1.00

00:21:49.820 My mom was just like that. 1.00

00:21:51.160 It wasn't the lies so much as the harsh language.

00:21:57.740 But my mom would tear you down if anything positive ever happened.

00:22:04.640 She would crap all over it. 0.71

00:22:05.900 I'm trying to think of the worst lie, the absolute worst lie that she, oh, yeah, she didn't come to my graduate school graduation because she said that my parents didn't have the money to be able to afford a ticket.

00:22:22.260 And they did have it, but she just didn't want to get on a plane and fly to my grad school graduation. 1.00

00:22:30.100 Oh, yeah.

00:22:32.480 So she didn't want to go.

00:22:35.540 So I walked across the stage in grad school and she wasn't there because she just couldn't be bothered.

00:22:42.020 And to this day, she just said, oh, we didn't have the money.

00:22:44.360 We didn't have the money.

00:22:45.380 So I couldn't go.

00:22:47.300 Oh.

00:22:48.200 So, yeah, that was pretty bad.

00:22:52.580 And my mom was awful.

00:22:54.460 Go ahead.

00:22:54.820 I'm sorry.

00:22:55.220 My mom used to call herself a single mom. 1.00

00:22:57.120 And I'm like, mom, we had nannies.

00:22:59.340 That's the worst.

00:23:00.840 I'm like, why would you say that?

00:23:04.220 I'm like, we live in a 10-bedroom mansion.

00:23:09.080 Yeah.

00:23:09.640 Why would you say that?

00:23:12.200 It's freaking gaslighting, man.

00:23:13.900 I know.

00:23:14.180 It's gaslighting.

00:23:14.720 All these women, the reputation is what's first and foremost. 1.00

00:23:20.900 And how dare you, you know, challenge them or make them look bad.

00:23:25.560 Yeah.

00:23:27.800 Is anyone on the line?

00:23:29.640 No, not yet.

00:23:30.820 Okay, I guess we'll do it.

00:23:33.420 Guys, make sure to like the videos.

00:23:35.580 Subscribe if you haven't already.

00:23:37.900 Hit that Zoom link and call in and tell us the biggest lie that your mother's ever told you.

00:23:42.920 You don't have to show your face.

00:23:44.720 Just come on in and let's all trauma bond.

00:23:50.600 You know what the worst part is?

00:23:51.600 Go ahead, Perley.

00:23:51.640 Is you don't know the stories that are like true and not true.

00:23:55.500 And like sometimes you'll repeat stories from your childhood.

00:23:58.860 And you'll say it out loud and you'll say it out loud and you're like, fuck, that sounds fake.

00:24:03.740 Yeah.

00:24:04.540 That sounds over-exaggerated.

00:24:06.460 Like you'll start telling it and you're like, god damn it.

00:24:10.160 Like this isn't real, is it?

00:24:11.980 Or you said things that your mothers have said to other people and they're like, their mother is sane.

00:24:19.500 And so they hear you say something about your mom that your mom's told you and they're just like, what?

00:24:26.360 Who'd you hear that from?

00:24:30.540 Yeah.

00:24:31.060 Okay.

00:24:31.820 I'm going to bring Mama Don Teal on. 0.91

00:24:35.680 Okay.

00:24:36.000 It says a connecting audio while Mama's coming on.

00:24:43.820 Smash that like button, everyone.

00:24:46.100 Really appreciate that.

00:24:48.340 It says connecting to audio.

00:24:55.000 Still connecting to audio.

00:24:56.960 Thank you to all the regulars in the YouTube chat.

00:25:05.740 And thank you for everyone in the Audacity chat.

00:25:08.520 I really appreciate it.

00:25:09.940 It says connecting to audio.

00:25:13.060 This technology.

00:25:15.020 It's great when it works.

00:25:19.300 It says connecting to audio.

00:25:25.220 Mama Don Teal.

00:25:26.960 Drop out and come back in.

00:25:29.240 And maybe that'll fix the issue.

00:25:32.300 Because it keeps trying to connect to this person's audio.

00:25:36.460 I'm going to take them out.

00:25:41.500 I think.

00:25:43.760 But yeah.

00:25:45.960 In your monologue.

00:25:47.900 You're talking about the generation.

00:25:49.820 This problem literally started with Generation X women. 1.00

00:25:53.920 And just got worse and worse and worse.

00:25:55.420 I disagree.

00:25:56.060 I think.

00:25:57.100 I think women have always been like this. 1.00

00:25:59.920 I just.

00:26:00.480 I don't.

00:26:02.280 Look.

00:26:02.820 I found writings from 1920 complaining about the same thing.

00:26:08.300 Women of the past. 0.99

00:26:09.500 They're not different.

00:26:11.760 They're not.

00:26:12.560 I mean, there's maybe different circumstances where they can't do as bad of stuff.

00:26:16.280 But women have always been women. 1.00

00:26:19.240 I think it's been like all of time.

00:26:21.740 Go ahead.

00:26:24.040 Mama Don Teal.

00:26:25.100 You are on mute.

00:26:26.580 Unmute.

00:26:27.720 Your.

00:26:28.660 Your audio is connected.

00:26:30.420 Unmute.

00:26:30.900 Okay.

00:26:32.860 Let me drop them.

00:26:34.620 And put them in the waiting room.

00:26:37.440 Fry, you are up next.

00:26:40.740 Fry is joining the call.

00:26:42.700 And let's make sure if you want to call, if you want to call in to click the zoom link at the top of the chat.

00:26:54.780 Click that and come on in and give us all the best stories of the worst lie that your mother ever told you.

00:27:01.540 Um, okay.

00:27:05.720 Fry, are you there?

00:27:08.160 Yes, I'm here.

00:27:09.880 Hey, Fry. 0.85

00:27:10.480 How are you?

00:27:12.280 I'm doing all right.

00:27:13.520 You know, with all things setter.

00:27:16.460 Um, so what's the worst lie your mother ever told you?

00:27:21.540 Uh, there's, there's quite a few stories, but there was one.

00:27:26.500 Do you remember when the government was furloughed?

00:27:29.600 Mm-hmm.

00:27:29.920 So I just finished nuclear power school at the time, and I was going to go to my duty station on the west coast.

00:27:39.540 Mm-hmm.

00:27:39.920 So drive all across country, won't be able to see my mom for a few years.

00:27:45.440 Mm-hmm.

00:27:46.420 And I called her up on a few weeks before I was going to head out.

00:27:51.540 And I knew what, I knew she wasn't working because she was furloughed. 1.00

00:27:55.380 She was in the government.

00:27:56.300 Mm-hmm.

00:27:56.840 And said, hey, I had some free time.

00:27:59.260 Do you mind if we come visit you?

00:28:01.780 And she said, well, unfortunately, I just don't have time to see you.

00:28:05.360 I'm busy with work.

00:28:06.460 And maybe, you know, after you get out of the Navy, we could probably talk and keep you come visit.

00:28:14.720 Wow.

00:28:15.280 Okay.

00:28:16.080 Mm-hmm.

00:28:16.460 And, you know, it's kind of how she was my entire life.

00:28:22.800 She just never wanted to, like, see you and spend time with you?

00:28:26.780 No, she did, but it wasn't that she wanted to see me.

00:28:34.480 So it was that she wanted me to be around so she could vent.

00:28:38.800 So she could what?

00:28:41.160 Vent.

00:28:41.740 So my, before I joined the Navy, she got divorced for a long time.

00:28:47.580 Oh, so she wanted you around just to trauma dump and just vent all the horrible things to you?

00:28:55.000 Yeah, well, she would try calling me and do that, but then when it came to, you know, saying goodbye to me or seeing me, like, she didn't come visit me during my Navy graduation or, you know, completing boot camp, completing my training.

00:29:10.880 She didn't want to see me at all because she knew I kind of talked to my brother instead.

00:29:15.980 Oh, so she was mad because you were close with your dad, and so she would, like, take it out on you.

00:29:22.920 Got it.

00:29:23.660 Did, when you were younger, did she ever tell you something about your dad that just wasn't true?

00:29:29.340 It's, every single time she would talk to me, she said, well, I know I wasn't a great mother, but your dad was never there for us.

00:29:36.460 He was always out of the house because my mom picked her, picked him out because she had to work, you know, in order to pay off her bills.

00:29:43.360 So, what did, like, what was the real story?

00:29:47.020 Was, did he, like, was he actually not around, or what was the real story?

00:29:52.280 Uh, I guess the best way would be talking about when I was in high school, I had those issues where I was kind of suicidal, like, I would have, I was breaking my bones, I was, you know, cutting myself, and just really unsafe behavior.

00:30:08.180 And my dad lived, uh, two hours away from us at the time because of his job.

00:30:16.160 Oh, I see.

00:30:17.300 When I, when I told my mom I wasn't feeling well, and I, you know, I'm, you know, I'm kind of worried about, you know, constantly cutting the wall, the wall was just filled with cold for me, just anger.

00:30:29.120 And she said, well, you know, and she said, well, you just need to grow up, no one cares about you or your mom being.

00:30:36.140 And then, because it got to a really bad point where at the high school, um, you know, I had to go to an emergency room because of an attempt I did.

00:30:49.700 And my mom said, oh, I couldn't leave work.

00:30:53.100 But my dad and me, when he found out, he immediately left his job, drove two hours, and was with me the whole night at the emergency room.

00:31:01.880 Wow.

00:31:03.520 And so she basically said all this stuff, and then, um, he was the one who showed up.

00:31:09.760 Yeah.

00:31:10.580 Well, thanks for sharing that.

00:31:12.340 Um, Doug MP, you got any questions for him?

00:31:15.100 No, I don't.

00:31:16.560 Thanks for sharing.

00:31:17.820 Call anytime, okay?

00:31:19.760 Yeah, no problem.

00:31:21.980 Okay.

00:31:23.000 Next up, we have Chad.

00:31:30.260 Make sure you hit that Zoom link.

00:31:32.180 Hey, Chad.

00:31:33.220 We'd love to hear.

00:31:35.000 Hey, Chad.

00:31:35.800 How are you?

00:31:42.340 He's listening to the Zoom.

00:31:44.160 We've got to figure something out for this, because we can't keep doing this.

00:31:47.960 Like, I don't know if it's a different platform or what.

00:31:51.080 Make sure you hit that Zoom link.

00:31:53.040 Hey, Chad.

00:31:54.740 Can you all hear me?

00:31:55.800 Yeah, I can hear you.

00:31:56.840 Turn off the YouTube in the background.

00:31:58.180 Yeah, I just did.

00:31:59.840 Hey, Chad.

00:32:01.860 How was it?

00:32:02.800 What was the biggest lie your mother ever told you?

00:32:06.800 Uh, yeah, it's been nonstop lies pretty much my whole life.

00:32:15.560 Um, but the biggest one?

00:32:17.880 Uh, well, my, uh, biological sperm donor, because I refused to call him my father, split before

00:32:29.640 I, uh, uh, was born.

00:32:31.200 Mm-hmm.

00:32:31.820 Uh, and, uh, ever since I was one, two years old, my mom would just tell me he's dead.

00:32:39.880 Not, not he's gone.

00:32:42.220 He's dead.

00:32:43.240 And this continued on until I was about five or six.

00:32:48.000 And in school, uh, you know, the teacher's just like, okay, tell us, uh, what your mom's

00:32:55.380 name is and, and what she does and tell us what your dad's name is and what she does.

00:33:00.440 And when they got to me, I said, oh, my mom's name is this and she does this.

00:33:05.560 And my dad is dead.

00:33:08.160 And what I didn't know was that the teacher actually knew my biological sperm donor

00:33:15.980 and contacted my mother and brought her into the principal's office.

00:33:23.780 Oh, wow.

00:33:24.720 And yeah.

00:33:26.260 And, uh, that was the first time, like when I was five or six, she finally admitted, uh,

00:33:34.340 you got to stop saying your dad's dead.

00:33:36.420 And I'm like, why?

00:33:37.840 Uh, because he isn't.

00:33:41.320 And I mean, that just, that just started off.

00:33:45.980 The, so many lies down the road.

00:33:51.280 It just, uh, the, the amount of lies she's told to me has ruined, uh, several of my careers.

00:34:00.540 Um, my, my marriage, uh, several long-term friends she lied to about me that I often wondered

00:34:10.420 why and later to find out years later.

00:34:14.060 Oh, well, your mom told me this.

00:34:15.720 And I'm just like, uh, like, what did she say you said or did?

00:34:21.120 Oh, I don't even know everything, but she would just lie about me. 1.00

00:34:26.400 My mom is, uh, and I've studied sociopathy and, uh, sociopathy and, uh, psychopathism.

00:34:36.460 And unfortunately, my mom is what they call a low-level sociopath. 1.00

00:34:41.140 She's not a psychopath, but a low-level sociopath, narcissistic.

00:34:45.700 Uh, has, she's had probably 30 surgeries to change herself. 1.00

00:34:50.400 Like one of the key signs she's not happy with herself.

00:34:53.560 She never was, uh, the, uh, the amount of lies she told my family.

00:35:02.380 What just, I was a horrible person.

00:35:04.660 I was a drunk.

00:35:05.580 I was a druggie.

00:35:06.620 I couldn't be trusted.

00:35:07.840 I blah, blah, blah.

00:35:08.780 I mean, you name it.

00:35:09.740 She told them.

00:35:10.600 And one of my cousins was like at a party.

00:35:14.720 She was telling everyone similar stories to this.

00:35:20.080 And my cousin was the one that finally brought it to my attention.

00:35:23.860 And I was wondering why all my aunts and uncles and certain people in my family were treating

00:35:28.580 me like shit and comes to find out she's been lying to them my entire life about me. 0.83

00:35:35.580 And the good news is, is that only in the past year or two, they, uh, actually have caught

00:35:44.860 her in the lies and the majority of them have gotten to know me as a person better and have

00:35:53.500 just realized that everything they've ever heard about me was pretty much untrue.

00:35:57.160 Um, but the, the biggest one, yeah, the biggest one was your dad's dead.

00:36:01.940 And, uh, that was, uh, eyeopening experience for a five to six year old boy to find out.

00:36:08.480 Oh, she wouldn't tell me his name until I got to be like an older teenager and stuff like

00:36:14.060 that.

00:36:14.440 So, but, uh, I'm sorry.

00:36:18.040 Go ahead, bro.

00:36:18.980 Were any of the stuff that she was saying, like half true?

00:36:22.480 Cause she said she did drugs, alcohol. 1.00

00:36:24.200 Did you like, I don't, I have to ask cause I don't know you, right.

00:36:27.920 You know, was there normal teenage and young 20 year old stuff, but I'd never been in jail

00:36:35.400 because of it.

00:36:36.180 I never lost jobs because of it.

00:36:37.980 I did normal smoking and joking and drinking here and there partying, but I wasn't a party

00:36:43.160 boy.

00:36:43.900 It wasn't every night of the week.

00:36:45.400 I didn't get drunk and lose my jobs or something like that.

00:36:48.420 No, it was just the, the, I got to make him look worse than me so I can look better.

00:36:54.320 And that like, I've noticed the pattern all my life and it just took me 30 years to realize

00:37:00.380 what she was doing, you know?

00:37:02.580 Yeah.

00:37:03.120 Yeah.

00:37:03.520 So it was like, it was something small and she just timesed it by 10.

00:37:07.940 It was like normal, like college young adults.

00:37:11.020 50 to a hundred.

00:37:11.720 Yeah.

00:37:12.020 She, she had to make her, the, the other thing was she, I mean, bottom line is 95% of 0.98

00:37:22.240 women should not be single mothers. 1.00

00:37:25.100 Yeah, I agree.

00:37:26.960 Period.

00:37:28.160 And I've known too many single mothers to, I've met a couple really incredible single mothers, 1.00

00:37:34.500 but boy, the, the amount of stuff that they have to do to keep that in line is, I mean,

00:37:41.380 you got to be a responsible adult, 95.

00:37:44.080 Oh yeah.

00:37:44.520 Okay.

00:37:44.760 I'll go 90, 90% of them just don't have the capability of raising healthy children.

00:37:51.200 And I've read the studies too, single, single mother, children of single mothers, 80% of

00:37:58.260 them fall in worse circumstances after the age of 18 than 80% of single or single fathers that

00:38:05.920 raise children, boy or girl.

00:38:07.440 And living it my whole life and seeing it in the dating scale, cause I've dated a lot

00:38:14.360 of single mothers in my day.

00:38:16.920 You know, five to 10% of them had their shit together and were really solid people, much

00:38:23.280 less mothers, but people, the rest, just their kids suffered for it. 0.71

00:38:28.580 I mean, it just, it, it did, whether it was the discipline, there was either no discipline

00:38:33.520 or too much discipline and I'm sorry.

00:38:37.000 I'm, I thank God I had an incredible grandfather.

00:38:39.920 And since I didn't have a father around, he was like a father to me and taught me what a

00:38:44.720 father should be.

00:38:45.540 And he was my only reprieve from her actually, because I mean, the emotional and physical

00:38:51.540 and mental abuse that you take from a bipolar, sociopathic, narcissistic mother who has an 0.95

00:38:59.980 incredibly intelligent son.

00:39:03.340 And I just, like I said, I started noticing patterns in my twenties and thirties and it

00:39:08.060 really clicked in my thirties.

00:39:09.460 What she did to me the, the whole time was to keep her thumb on me the whole time because 1.00

00:39:14.740 she didn't want me to be a better person than she thought she should be. 0.84

00:39:18.960 So how old, how old were you when you figured it out?

00:39:23.920 Uh, I'd say early thirties, mid twenties.

00:39:27.900 I didn't talk to her for three years.

00:39:30.940 It got that bad.

00:39:32.180 I didn't talk to my mother for three years in my twenties.

00:39:34.460 I kept my son, my baby son away from her for eight months until my wife begged me and 0.85

00:39:40.260 convinced me to at least let her see her grandchild.

00:39:43.580 I conceded to that, but I still didn't talk to her for two years after that.

00:39:47.700 Then being the bigger person I've always been and, and forgiving everything I all forgiven

00:39:53.320 without any apology because narcissists, sociopaths can't admit they ever did anything wrong.

00:39:59.080 And even if it's blatantly obvious and you have proof, they can't admit it to this day,

00:40:04.060 my mother has never said she was sorry to me to this day.

00:40:09.580 They can't do anything.

00:40:11.100 They can't.

00:40:11.820 It's impossible.

00:40:12.620 They're, they're, they're, it's impossible.

00:40:15.500 The good news is between my grandfather who taught me to be a good man, uh, and everything

00:40:21.860 not to do that.

00:40:23.300 My mother did raising me.

00:40:24.740 I have an incredible relationship with my adult grown son who loves me to death.

00:40:29.600 And we have, we have the kind of relationship a father and son should have when the son gets

00:40:35.080 to be 18.

00:40:35.780 So, um, thank you, Corey, for the documentary super chat.

00:40:40.140 Um, Doug MPa, do you have anything to add?

00:40:43.100 Did you ever have a conversation with your biological father or no?

00:40:48.260 Uh, at 36, it was getting to me, it was starting to get to me like bad for the, uh, um, abandonment

00:40:56.420 issues and stuff like that.

00:40:57.860 Uh, so yeah, I reached out to him, uh, 36 years old.

00:41:03.140 Uh, he, he believed it, but didn't believe it.

00:41:09.340 Had me had to take a paternity test, even though everyone in the town knew that was my dad.

00:41:14.080 And I looked like my cousins on that side, even though I didn't know any of them, but

00:41:18.400 he made me take a paternity test.

00:41:20.120 I say, yeah, it's cool.

00:41:21.080 Whatever.

00:41:21.520 So it came back 99.9999.

00:41:24.520 He paid for that after fourth nine.

00:41:26.860 Um, and I met him, uh, found out where I got my nose and my eyebrows and my ears from,

00:41:34.580 uh, I met my half brother and half sister, which I didn't know I had.

00:41:40.300 That was a real shocker at 36 years old.

00:41:43.340 And they knew nothing about me.

00:41:47.060 Uh, uh, even though he 50% was sure I was his child.

00:41:52.460 Um, uh, he, he never mentioned it or anything.

00:41:58.940 And his wife that he knew again, everyone was from a small town where we grew up.

00:42:02.540 So they, everyone knew, but no one talked about it.

00:42:06.360 So his, his wife did know, but they never talked about it.

00:42:10.320 So here I have a, a 26 year old, this is 30 when I was 36.

00:42:14.700 So he's 10 years younger.

00:42:16.080 My brother was 26 and my sister was, uh, 19.

00:42:19.800 And they were, this was the first time they're ever hearing about, uh, an older half sibling.

00:42:24.320 So they not, not only were pissed at, you know, their parents for not just mentioning it like,

00:42:30.820 Oh, you could have a half brother out there, uh, and, and stuff like that.

00:42:36.000 So I did meet them once or twice, but after that they wanted nothing to do with me.

00:42:40.660 And I really, I mean, I mean, look, I wanted a brother and sister so bad growing up.

00:42:46.060 I had great cousins that were like brothers and sisters, but I never had a brother and

00:42:49.440 sister growing up.

00:42:50.440 And I was really like, Oh my God, I'll, I'll get a half brother and half sister out of this.

00:42:55.520 Even if it's just for a, Hey, how you doing every now and then?

00:42:58.740 Um, and my brother Ixnayed me in about six months after I met him. 0.86

00:43:02.960 And then my sister Ixnayed me about a year and a half after.

00:43:06.800 And I'm just, and then he, he barely talks to me.

00:43:11.100 So it just is what it is.

00:43:15.000 Well, you, you got the ultimate revenge and you have a good relationship with your son.

00:43:20.400 So I have an amazing, I have an amazing relationship with my son and you know what?

00:43:26.020 I couldn't have done it if I didn't have that shitty of a mom raising me, but that good 0.89

00:43:31.280 of a grandfather, her dad raising me and showing me what it is to be a good man, a good parent

00:43:37.160 and a good father.

00:43:38.320 So you're absolutely right, Doug.

00:43:40.320 I treasure, in fact, anyone who ever knew me for five minutes will, if you ask them,

00:43:46.180 what's the most important thing in my life without hesitation, they'd be like his son.

00:43:50.260 And he was, he always was and always will be.

00:43:52.860 So very, very thankful for that.

00:43:55.100 Well, thanks for calling in, calling anytime, but thank you for, for sharing your story.

00:44:00.900 We really appreciate it.

00:44:02.140 I wanted to help other people and let them know that, you know, your situation might be

00:44:06.920 just as bad or not as bad, but there's other people out there that go through this every

00:44:11.580 day and you're not alone.

00:44:12.880 So there's, and you can also be a better person.

00:44:15.980 You don't have to take that low road of being that lying piece of shit parent that, you know,

00:44:21.800 beat you emotionally, abuse you, whatever they did to you, you can be a better person

00:44:26.720 after 18.

00:44:27.600 You can be a better person and you can raise good children and not do what they do if

00:44:33.000 you learn the right lesson.

00:44:34.060 Awesome.

00:44:35.060 Thanks for calling.

00:44:36.860 Hey, great talking with you.

00:44:38.860 Sorry.

00:44:39.860 That's okay.

00:44:40.860 Thanks for calling in.

00:44:41.860 I appreciate it.

00:44:42.860 Great talking with y'all.

00:44:43.860 Y'all have a blessed night guys.

00:44:44.860 Take care.

00:44:45.860 You too.

00:44:46.860 Man, what a good call.

00:44:48.860 Wow.

00:44:49.860 Yikes.

00:44:50.860 Oh, these small towns, man.

00:44:53.860 Okay.

00:44:55.660 Next up we have Daniel, Daniel, are you there?

00:45:05.860 Daniel, Daniel SR.

00:45:09.660 If you listening to the YouTube too, Daniel, take Daniel out and I'll bring in Ernie.

00:45:22.660 Ernie.

00:45:23.660 Ernie.

00:45:24.660 Yeah.

00:45:25.660 Are you there?

00:45:26.660 Hmm.

00:45:27.660 Okay.

00:45:28.660 Uh, yeah.

00:45:29.660 Uh, can you guys hear me?

00:45:32.660 I can hear you.

00:45:33.660 How are you?

00:45:34.660 Uh, yeah.

00:45:35.660 Uh, you know, you're doing all right.

00:45:36.660 Where are you calling out?

00:45:37.660 What state?

00:45:38.660 Oh shit.

00:45:39.660 We're doing that.

00:45:40.660 Uh, yeah.

00:45:41.660 Yeah.

00:45:42.660 Uh, I'm in, I'm in, uh, Texas.

00:45:44.660 Oh, cool.

00:45:45.660 All right.

00:45:46.660 So nice.

00:45:47.660 Nice.

00:45:48.660 Nice.

00:45:49.660 So what is the biggest lie your mother ever told you?

00:45:51.660 Uh, basically, um, how her and my dad broke up, like they were never married or anything.

00:45:57.660 It was like the common law thing or whatever.

00:45:59.660 But, uh, yeah, it was like, she said that he just kind of like approached her one day and

00:46:05.660 was like, all right, I'm, I'm leaving.

00:46:06.660 I'm, I'm leaving.

00:46:07.660 And she said, oh, well, when you, you know, on your way back, do you think you can pick

00:46:11.660 up some diapers or whatever?

00:46:14.660 And, and he said, no, I'm, I'm just leaving.

00:46:16.660 I'm leaving you.

00:46:17.660 I found another woman that I'm interested in and I'm, I'm done here. 0.98

00:46:20.660 I'm done here.

00:46:21.660 And she said, oh, okay.

00:46:22.660 See you later.

00:46:23.660 Don't let the door hit you on the way out.

00:46:26.660 And see that, that story does two things that I know you're familiar with Pearl.

00:46:30.660 Uh, on the one hand, it, uh, paints her like the first part of that story paints her as

00:46:35.660 just the big doe eyed, innocent young girl who just, you know, it was like, oh, okay.

00:46:39.660 Well, on your way back, oh, you know, plain innocent and all that bullshit.

00:46:42.660 And then on the other hand, it turns her into the, you know, the strong independent woman.

00:46:47.660 Like, yeah, whatever.

00:46:48.660 All right.

00:46:49.660 I got this.

00:46:50.660 It's all good.

00:46:51.660 It's the female friendly version of the story.

00:46:53.660 She's the hero and the victim in the story at the same time.

00:46:56.660 Absolutely.

00:46:57.660 Damn right, man.

00:46:58.660 So yeah.

00:46:59.660 So what was, what actually happened?

00:47:01.660 Uh, well, uh, according to my dad who, uh, you know, you know, years later, he would

00:47:06.660 tell me that, uh, what happened was that she, um, I don't know, like they, they got into

00:47:11.660 like a, a big fight and she ended up just like snatching me and my brother, like away 1.00

00:47:17.660 from him and just started walking down the street with us while he's like trying to trail

00:47:21.660 her, you know, in his car.

00:47:23.660 Uh, I don't know if he cheated or what the hell happened.

00:47:26.660 Like, you know, he, he gets really cagey when he talks about his infidelities, even though

00:47:30.660 I know it's like, I called a motherfucker out on it and like, dude, I know you cheat.

00:47:33.660 Don't be a bitch. 1.00

00:47:34.660 Tell me.

00:47:35.660 Anyway.

00:47:36.660 But, uh, no, like, uh, I'm, I'm assuming that he probably cheated.

00:47:39.660 She, uh, snatched us both, uh, my brother and I away from him.

00:47:42.660 She walked down the street.

00:47:43.660 He was trailing behind her in his car, you know, begging her to come back.

00:47:47.660 And I guess she just took the bus to, uh, her mom, you know, my grandma's house and, um,

00:47:52.660 just pretty much cut him off like that.

00:47:54.660 And then, uh, eventually he, he actually got married.

00:47:57.660 He wasn't married to her, but yeah, he got married later.

00:47:59.660 But, uh, no, it was just, you know, like.

00:48:02.660 Okay.

00:48:03.660 I feel like he laughed, but really she laughed.

00:48:05.660 She laughed.

00:48:06.660 Yeah.

00:48:07.660 He cheated, but like.

00:48:08.660 Yeah.

00:48:09.660 Yeah.

00:48:10.660 Okay.

00:48:11.660 Yeah.

00:48:12.660 Was there any other, was there any other lies that she told throughout your childhood?

00:48:15.660 Or was that the extent of it?

00:48:17.660 Uh, you know, just that she loves me.

00:48:19.660 No, uh, no, you know, I, no, uh, basically, uh, it's mostly just like every, and then,

00:48:27.660 uh, sorry, go ahead.

00:48:28.660 It's basically like every other fucking, uh, dude that come.

00:48:32.660 Oh, oh, you know what?

00:48:33.660 This is a good one too.

00:48:34.660 Damn.

00:48:35.660 I'm glad she doesn't fucking listen to this.

00:48:36.660 Uh, yeah.

00:48:37.660 The only other one was like, she, uh, she called, uh, my stepdad out on his supposed infidelity,

00:48:44.660 but it turns out that she was also fucking around. 1.00

00:48:47.660 Like she had actually.

00:48:48.660 Yeah.

00:48:49.660 Uh, had my, had my grandma on my dad's side, uh, funnily enough, uh, take her to a fucking, 1.00

00:48:56.660 uh, car show so she can meet up with some dude that she was like, I think she was kind

00:49:01.660 of inching towards eventually cheating.

00:49:03.660 I don't know if she actually did go through with it, but yeah, just, uh, mostly just also

00:49:07.660 lying about that.

00:49:08.660 Like, no, I would never do that.

00:49:09.660 I've never cheated.

00:49:10.660 I've never even entertained that, but nah, I like bitch. 1.00

00:49:13.660 Yes, you have.

00:49:14.660 Shut up. 0.95

00:49:15.660 Eventually admit they're bad people.

00:49:17.660 Like the loan up to the, like, yeah, I did it.

00:49:19.660 But women it's like, you could have like print out texts of them cheating and they'll 1.00

00:49:24.660 still gaslight you.

00:49:26.660 Yeah.

00:49:27.660 And stepdad owned up to that shit.

00:49:29.660 She never did.

00:49:30.660 She never did.

00:49:31.660 And even my grandma told me like, yeah, no, I took her to that car show.

00:49:34.660 Like she wanted to meet up with some guy and I called her out.

00:49:36.660 Like, dude, you're married.

00:49:37.660 She was like, yeah, but you know, he's old.

00:49:39.660 I was like, bitch.

00:49:41.660 Seriously, man.

00:49:43.660 Horrible.

00:49:44.660 Horrible.

00:49:45.660 Horrible.

00:49:46.660 Yeah.

00:49:47.660 It's just, we, like Pearl said in the monologue, we judge fathers so harshly and we don't judge

00:49:53.660 mothers at all.

00:49:54.660 I think we're finally starting to see a little bit of a turnaround, but it's going to take

00:49:58.660 a while, man.

00:49:59.660 It's going to take a long time for society to, because there are too many scumbag mothers. 1.00

00:50:04.660 And I always say mothers inflict infinitely more damage on their children than fathers 0.93

00:50:09.660 do.

00:50:10.660 Because guys, honestly, think about it, especially the women, the girls, to the one or two girls

00:50:17.660 in the chat, who was the first person to say you were too tall, too short, too thin,

00:50:23.660 too fat.

00:50:24.660 Your boobs are too big. 0.91

00:50:25.660 They're not big enough.

00:50:26.660 Your hair is stringy.

00:50:27.660 Your skin is terrible. 1.00

00:50:28.660 You dress like a whore. 1.00

00:50:30.660 Who's the first person that most kids here call a woman a slut or a whore?

00:50:36.660 It's your mom.

00:50:37.660 Yup.

00:50:38.660 Yup.

00:50:39.660 I agree.

00:50:40.660 Yeah.

00:50:41.660 She was pretty bad, man.

00:50:42.660 In the beginning, she didn't know what the hell she was doing.

00:50:43.660 She, there was one point where she fucking had me on the floor and kicked me so hard 1.00

00:50:49.660 and so repeatedly that she broke her own fucking toe. 0.99

00:50:52.660 Dumb bitch. 1.00

00:50:53.660 Oh my gosh.

00:50:55.660 Holy shit.

00:50:56.660 Yeah, man.

00:50:57.660 It got pretty bad at times.

00:50:58.660 But, you know, she's a little more chill now that she's old and she needs my help.

00:51:01.660 But, yeah.

00:51:02.660 Yeah.

00:51:03.660 I got pretty bad at times.

00:51:04.660 You still deal with her?

00:51:06.660 Wow.

00:51:07.660 Yeah.

00:51:08.660 Yeah.

00:51:09.660 She's old.

00:51:10.660 Yeah.

00:51:11.660 Yeah, I know.

00:51:12.660 Men are such good people.

00:51:13.660 You can have your mother abuse you and you'll still take care of her when she's old.

00:51:17.660 You know, and it's funny that you use that word, Pearl, because like, you know, whenever

00:51:21.660 I have called her out or like in the past when I called her out on the way she disciplined, 1.00

00:51:25.660 quote unquote us, she would say like, well, then that's the way my mom treated me. 0.81

00:51:30.660 Are you calling your grandma, my mother, an abuser?

00:51:34.660 Yeah.

00:51:35.660 And she puts my grandma on a pedestal.

00:51:36.660 Like, she could do no wrong.

00:51:38.660 You know, she never did anything wrong.

00:51:39.660 It's like, like, no, don't you dare.

00:51:41.660 Because if you call me an abuser, you're calling your grandma an abuser.

00:51:44.660 How dare you?

00:51:45.660 I almost think the more, I almost think the more someone's put on a pedestal, like by

00:51:50.660 the kid, the more crazy they are.

00:51:52.660 Because I feel like the pedestal half the time it's there because the mother is putting

00:51:57.660 herself on the pedestal and just in the kid's ear.

00:51:59.660 Oh yeah.

00:52:00.660 And the kid knows if they go against the narrative, then the mom's going to crash out. 0.92

00:52:06.660 Oh yeah, for sure.

00:52:09.660 Yeah.

00:52:10.660 And in some weird way, she kind of puts herself on the pedestal too.

00:52:13.660 She's actually said that too.

00:52:14.660 Like mothers should be held to a higher standard. 0.99

00:52:17.660 Like, all right, bitch. 1.00

00:52:18.660 Well, I think, I mean, you know, it's only you who says our, maybe Norman Bates too.

00:52:23.660 But yeah, bitch, like, I don't fucking, not a lot of people, whatever. 1.00

00:52:26.660 Yeah.

00:52:27.660 Okay.

00:52:28.660 Keep telling yourself that, whore. 1.00

00:52:29.660 Anyway.

00:52:30.660 Cool.

00:52:31.660 Cool.

00:52:32.660 Well, thanks for calling it.

00:52:33.660 Call it anytime.

00:52:34.660 Okay.

00:52:35.660 Oh, I appreciate that, bro.

00:52:36.660 You're kicking ass, man.

00:52:37.660 Thanks.

00:52:38.660 You're doing a great job.

00:52:39.660 Thank you.

00:52:40.660 Bye.

00:52:41.660 Oh, all right.

00:52:42.660 Except Daniel.

00:52:44.660 I saw him drop in, drop back out.

00:52:51.660 Well, no, nevermind.

00:52:54.660 We will bring up, Daniel, you're not there.

00:52:58.660 Okay.

00:52:59.660 Sean.

00:53:04.660 Guys, make sure to like the video if you haven't already.

00:53:07.660 Subscribe to the channel if you haven't already.

00:53:09.660 We're on our way to 3 million.

00:53:10.660 So hit that subscribe button.

00:53:12.660 And all the super chats go to the Divorce documentary.

00:53:16.660 Sean, what's up, buddy?

00:53:17.660 Hey, how's it going?

00:53:18.660 Can you hear me?

00:53:19.660 Hey, Sean.

00:53:20.660 How are you?

00:53:22.660 I'm doing well.

00:53:24.660 So what's the biggest lie your mother ever told you?

00:53:27.660 Oh, that's interesting.

00:53:28.660 So there are lies that she tells me that she's just completely oblivious about.

00:53:34.660 Okay.

00:53:35.660 Because she's like the equivalent of like a 1920, 1930s housewife. 0.99

00:53:39.660 Okay.

00:53:40.660 Lies that she knows, but she tells me or like sort of lies of omission she won't tell me about.

00:53:47.660 Okay.

00:53:48.660 But it's more to like sort of protect the honor of her family, if that makes sense.

00:53:52.660 Like.

00:53:53.660 Okay.

00:53:54.660 I'll give you the examples of both.

00:53:55.660 So as far as like lies she tells me that she's completely ignorant about is just.

00:54:00.660 So she grew up sort of in a society where like you don't have sex before marriage and

00:54:04.660 you basically live with your parents until you get married off, if that makes sense.

00:54:08.660 Yeah.

00:54:09.660 And so she still thinks the girls my age are like virgins until they're married. 1.00

00:54:14.660 If that makes sense.

00:54:15.660 Like she thinks you're not like getting their backs blown out in college or they're not getting

00:54:18.660 fucked on in high school and stuff like that.

00:54:20.660 So she still tells me that like all the girls are still like that, but that's because she's 0.73

00:54:26.660 never really stepped outside the house.

00:54:27.660 She's only raised kids.

00:54:28.660 She's never worked in the workforce, never went to college.

00:54:31.660 So like, that's what she still believes still happens.

00:54:35.660 And that the girls who don't do that are in the minority. 0.88

00:54:38.660 So, uh, it is funny to sort of hear that because like only someone who's that sheltered their

00:54:44.660 entire life would basically believe that if that makes sense.

00:54:47.660 Uh, as far as the lies she's told me that like, she knows is going to be like, you know,

00:54:53.660 uh, that my, like my dad was actually married to like an American girl before he got married

00:54:58.660 to my mom and then that didn't like turn out well.

00:55:01.660 Uh, and then I only found out about that because like, I looked up into like my, my county's,

00:55:07.660 uh, marriage records and I saw that he was married to somebody else for a little bit.

00:55:11.660 And I was just like, I asked her about it.

00:55:13.660 Like, uh, I kind of confronted her about it and she's like, yeah, don't tell your siblings

00:55:17.660 about that.

00:55:18.660 But like, yeah, that kind of happened.

00:55:20.660 Like, so it's just things like that, that she'll kind of keep from me unless she knows

00:55:25.660 that like, okay, it's time to tell me when like other people's honor can be preserved.

00:55:30.660 So that's what I usually get from my mom is like more, uh, lies to like protect other people.

00:55:36.660 Uh, but not really like blatant lies.

00:55:39.660 Uh, but I think to some extent she does know what women are really like. 1.00

00:55:43.660 Uh, you know, now that she's like lived a lot of years in this country and it's just,

00:55:48.660 uh, I guess she just doesn't want people to have a negative reputation of women. 1.00

00:55:52.660 And I think that's why most women do it. 1.00

00:55:53.660 Like if they were to tell their sons from a young age, yeah, women are sluts. 1.00

00:55:57.660 They're going to go for the best they can get.

00:55:59.660 You know what I mean?

00:56:00.660 Like all that's really going to do is really red pill their kids from like, you know, age

00:56:04.660 13.

00:56:05.660 I don't know if that's going to have a good outcome either.

00:56:07.660 You know what I mean?

00:56:08.660 At this point, I don't believe, hold on Doug.

00:56:11.660 Um, at this point I don't believe most mothers possess a maternal instinct.

00:56:15.660 Yeah.

00:56:16.660 I agree.

00:56:17.660 Go ahead.

00:56:18.660 You know, it's a sad part about it.

00:56:20.660 It's the age old thing where, um, especially single mothers will tell their sons the opposite

00:56:28.660 of what their father did to get their mother in bed.

00:56:32.660 Yeah.

00:56:33.660 And I think part of it is just cause like it is somewhat of a selfish nature.

00:56:38.660 Like I think women, they, they have to deal with reputation in a, in a different way that 1.00

00:56:43.660 sort of shapes their view that men don't really have to, right?

00:56:46.660 If a guy goes out and says he, you know, slept with a bunch of girls or, you know, uh, just

00:56:50.660 hooked up and stuff like that.

00:56:51.660 No one's really going to turn.

00:56:52.660 Like it doesn't really do anything to his reputation the same way for a girl.

00:56:56.660 Like if she goes and says things like that instantly people will view her in a very negative light.

00:57:01.660 Right.

00:57:02.660 So I think they have more incentive to lie, to sort of protect their reputation because

00:57:07.660 they know it has more adverse consequences for them.

00:57:10.660 So I think everything kind of goes back to incentives, if that makes sense.

00:57:13.660 Yeah, totally.

00:57:14.660 Yep.

00:57:15.660 Makes sense.

00:57:16.660 Yeah.

00:57:17.660 All right, buddy.

00:57:18.660 We have a full call line.

00:57:19.660 So we'll move on to the next call, but thanks for calling and we really appreciate it.

00:57:22.660 Absolutely.

00:57:23.660 Thanks guys.

00:57:24.660 Actually, I want to, I want to riff for a second before the next caller.

00:57:27.660 So it's interesting because I was always told growing up till, to wait till you're married.

00:57:33.660 Right.

00:57:34.660 And then when I got older, I found out my mom got pregnant by my dad three months after

00:57:39.660 they met.

00:57:40.660 And I'm like, mom, why didn't you just tell me to download Tinder and get pregnant? 0.74

00:57:44.660 I'm like, that worked for you.

00:57:49.660 I'm like 30 years.

00:57:54.660 You didn't want to tell me what you actually did.

00:57:57.660 I was like, come on.

00:58:01.660 I don't know how long it was, but it wasn't that long.

00:58:04.660 I'm like, why didn't you tell me that?

00:58:07.660 You told me to withhold the one thing they want.

00:58:10.660 Like, okay, go ahead.

00:58:14.660 Yeah.

00:58:15.660 I knew a good woman that was, um, she was 57 and her and her husband had been married

00:58:22.660 for 40 years.

00:58:23.660 Oh, wow.

00:58:25.660 Right.

00:58:26.660 Because, uh, no, she was 56.

00:58:28.660 He was 57.

00:58:29.660 They haven't made for 40 years.

00:58:30.660 Cause they were from Alaska and he was 16.

00:58:34.660 She was 15.

00:58:35.660 And guess what happened?

00:58:36.660 He got her pregnant, but they were made for 40 years. 0.99

00:58:39.660 And they're, and I knew them 15 years ago.

00:58:43.660 So they're still married.

00:58:44.660 So they've been married.

00:58:45.660 No, go ahead.

00:58:46.660 Go ahead.

00:58:47.660 Keep going.

00:58:48.660 They've made a 55 years now.

00:58:51.660 And because he got her pregnant and they made him get married. 0.90

00:58:55.660 So that's exactly what you're talking about.

00:58:57.660 Cause women want to be with the men for the genetic material. 1.00

00:59:00.660 So the guys you let get pregnant immediately are the guys you actually like, like that's,

00:59:05.660 that's, that's, that's who women want. 1.00

00:59:07.660 So it's like, and it was, it was funny.

00:59:11.660 I was with my sister the other day and we're like, get tinned.

00:59:15.660 I was like, um, my little sister, she's like 21.

00:59:17.660 I'm like, Eva get Tinder right now.

00:59:20.660 Like, we're kidding.

00:59:21.660 We're kidding.

00:59:22.660 But like, and then this lady that like lived, lives near us. 1.00

00:59:26.660 She's like a housewife. 1.00

00:59:27.660 She's like, she's like, what?

00:59:29.660 That's not what we said.

00:59:30.660 I'm like, but that's what worked.

00:59:32.660 I'm sorry.

00:59:34.660 Go ahead.

00:59:35.660 Um, okay.

00:59:36.660 Uh, okay.

00:59:37.660 Let me bring on cause Nathan was in the chat, putting down a good story in the chat.

00:59:44.660 I told him to call in.

00:59:45.660 Okay.

00:59:46.660 Nathan.

00:59:47.660 Hey.

00:59:48.660 Hey, Nathan.

00:59:49.660 How are you?

00:59:51.660 Uh, been better.

00:59:53.660 I mean, I've been listening to a lot of your content lately on everything.

00:59:58.660 And today just resonated with me more than anything because of my childhood that I had

01:00:06.660 of about 15 years of neglect and child abuse by the hands of my biological mother.

01:00:13.660 That's as I explained to Doug earlier, she knows better than to call me, no matter how

01:00:20.660 old she is, whether she needs help or not, cause she's dead to me. 1.00

01:00:25.660 And that's me being nice.

01:00:27.660 So cause I almost went to prison because of her.

01:00:31.660 No, sorry.

01:00:32.660 Hey, what happened?

01:00:34.660 Okay, go ahead.

01:00:35.660 I was in high school and she had been abusing me by this point for years. 1.00

01:00:42.660 And she actually started as far back as elementary school.

01:00:49.660 Even when I was six years old in the first grade, she would just cause she had a bad day 0.94

01:00:54.660 at work.

01:00:55.660 She would backhand me across the face.

01:00:58.660 She would punch me, insult me every way possible, slam my head into the staircase at home, all 1.00

01:01:08.660 that sort of stuff.

01:01:09.660 And eventually I got to the point in high school that I couldn't take it anymore.

01:01:14.660 And I started saying I wanted to commit, pardon my language, murder.

01:01:21.660 I wanted to kill her as we were at each other's throats. 1.00

01:01:25.660 And I had to verbalize that it would have been a double cause her idiot husband would have defended her.

01:01:31.660 Cause he's the king of simps because my bio mom is the kind of woman that she insults her older sister. 1.00

01:01:46.660 And my grandmother for mistreating their husbands. 1.00

01:01:50.660 She treats her husband the exact same way.

01:01:53.660 And she'd have the audacity to do this in their house. 1.00

01:01:58.660 So here we are at Christmas.

01:02:01.660 And it's around the time of my great of my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary.

01:02:07.660 She goes into the guest bedroom, calls her idiot husband, my stepsister and myself,

01:02:15.660 and proceeds to bad mouth my grandmother and say that my grandfather needed to grow a backbone 50 years ago.

01:02:22.660 And her husband's just standing there going, yes, dear, you're right, dear.

01:02:27.660 He's so miserable. She's so terrible. You're so wonderful.

01:02:31.660 And I'm looking at him like, dude, she does this crap to you.

01:02:35.660 In fact, she just flipped you off and embarrassed you in public last week. 1.00

01:02:39.660 But she also does things like throw my dad under the bus and say we had to spend a night in a shelter and he abused me. 0.99

01:02:50.660 No, you abused him by having him work two jobs while you were spending the money like no tomorrow.

01:02:59.660 Then while he's doing those two jobs and taking care of a newborn, you can't even throw away a pot roast.

01:03:07.660 So you put your foot in his back and shove your husband out of bed to make him go deal with the pot roast. 1.00

01:03:15.660 And then you're having an affair on him with a coworker. Really?

01:03:19.660 Holy crap.

01:03:21.660 What?

01:03:23.660 Yeah.

01:03:24.660 So you almost.

01:03:26.660 Go ahead.

01:03:27.660 Go ahead.

01:03:28.660 So you almost you said you almost like tried to murder her.

01:03:31.660 How close did you get?

01:03:33.660 I talked about it and a couple of times I threw just dull little punches at her, but I'm a I'm a Christian guy.

01:03:44.660 So it's like, OK, I didn't want to do that.

01:03:47.660 And so I was constantly telling the schools, my middle school, bless their hearts, tried as they might.

01:03:53.660 But the thing was, she has a degree in social work, so she knew how the laws read. 0.89

01:03:59.660 She knew how to skate that line to where it was my word versus hers.

01:04:05.660 And the high school was stupid.

01:04:07.660 They took her side every time.

01:04:09.660 But the middle school in the elementary school said, hold on, something's up here.

01:04:14.660 But she's not giving us enough for us to get CPS involved.

01:04:21.660 Got it. Wow.

01:04:23.660 Yeah.

01:04:24.660 The only physical evidence she ever left was one time she messed up and she sent me to my dad's house.

01:04:33.660 And my dad was took the day off.

01:04:37.660 To spend with me and my I just call her my mom and she's my stepmom.

01:04:42.660 And I had fingernail marks in my arm.

01:04:45.660 Oh, my gosh.

01:04:46.660 From her.

01:04:47.660 And what was her reputation like at school, at her job?

01:04:52.660 Was it known that she was crazy or did she kind of put on a good front?

01:04:56.660 Oh, she put on a good front to where the only people that knew who she really was, was anyone at the house.

01:05:04.660 But ever since I left when I turned as soon as I turned 18, I said, F it, I'm gone.

01:05:12.660 I don't care.

01:05:13.660 I'm if I'm a junior in high school.

01:05:15.660 And I left.

01:05:17.660 I left my stepsisters and my stepfather through the blinders on everyone in the family through the blinders on.

01:05:27.660 And it took years to where my aunt in Arizona finally admitted, look, I knew something was going on.

01:05:38.660 I didn't physically witness it.

01:05:40.660 But clearly something's going on because what happened, because otherwise he wouldn't just do this.

01:05:46.660 He would not have to leave half of his family for dead because they take her side and he doesn't want to deal with her.

01:05:56.660 She left me with a brain condition called hydrocephalus.

01:06:01.660 That's water on the brain. 0.78

01:06:02.660 So my brain was being crushed by its own brain fluid because it wasn't recycling into my body like it was supposed to for 19 years.

01:06:11.660 It took my mom and my dad figuring out he's got a migraine for a week.

01:06:17.660 Something's wrong.

01:06:19.660 And they figured it out.

01:06:21.660 It was was it from her hitting you?

01:06:23.660 Very likely in my book.

01:06:27.660 Holy crap.

01:06:28.660 So how long has it been since you talked to her?

01:06:32.660 The last time I spoke to her was in May of 2018 for my high school or for my college graduation because I wanted to be the bigger person so that her side and her idiot husband's side couldn't tarnish my name and say, oh, he's so horrible.

01:06:52.660 And they don't even say I'm horrible.

01:06:55.660 They say my dad brainwashed me into hating her.

01:06:59.660 Oh, wow.

01:07:01.660 And did she lie about your dad?

01:07:03.660 I'm guessing, too.

01:07:04.660 Oh, yeah.

01:07:05.660 She she lied and said that he abused her because he grabbed her hands because she was assaulting him. 0.59

01:07:14.660 And he was just like going, what is wrong with you?

01:07:17.660 Calm down.

01:07:18.660 It's just the the pot roast story.

01:07:21.660 She actually charged at him like an angry bull and tried to start punching him. 1.00

01:07:26.660 And he stopped her and was like, what is wrong with you?

01:07:30.660 Mm hmm.

01:07:31.660 And then she wants to say that was abuse and that we spent the night in a shelter never happened.

01:07:36.660 Oh, wow.

01:07:37.660 And Pierce County Police Department found that out for us when we moved into my childhood home, my dad, my mom and myself.

01:07:48.660 And they found that on his record and they just whitewashed it because they said there it was a report, but it was never officially filed.

01:07:57.660 There was no anything.

01:08:00.660 It was just she made that claim and that was it.

01:08:03.660 Are you talking like Pierce County, Washington?

01:08:07.660 Yeah.

01:08:08.660 Yeah.

01:08:09.660 I grew up in Thurston County.

01:08:10.660 So what you're talking about is par for the course in Pierce County.

01:08:16.660 Yeah.

01:08:17.660 Cool.

01:08:18.660 Wow.

01:08:19.660 Well, I'm sorry you went through that.

01:08:21.660 That's an insane story.

01:08:23.660 She gave you brain damage. 0.94

01:08:24.660 That's mad.

01:08:26.660 How old were you?

01:08:27.660 Did you ever get to did you have to leave the house at 18 or could you get out sooner?

01:08:32.660 I had to at 18.

01:08:34.660 It was literally two weeks after my 18th birthday, because while I was in high school, even my family had shared custody to where my father would get me every other weekend.

01:08:47.660 And so the first weekend, because I was terrified to drive on my own, I was still learning how to drive.

01:08:53.660 I was terrified to drive on the freeways alone.

01:08:56.660 And we lived in Gig Harbor.

01:08:58.660 My dad lived on the other side of the bridge.

01:09:01.660 So, of course, I had to get used to driving on the freeways.

01:09:04.660 So instead, just treated it like a normal weekend.

01:09:08.660 But I had smuggled out a bunch of personal items in my duffel bag of clothes for the weekend.

01:09:15.660 And then I just told her on Sunday, yeah, I'm not coming back.

01:09:19.660 How did she react?

01:09:21.660 Did she crash out?

01:09:22.660 Oh, big time.

01:09:24.660 And then she got idiot involved and tried to say, I don't like the way you're talking to your mother.

01:09:29.660 And I told him the hard truth of going, dude, let me tell you something.

01:09:34.660 She's wanted to divorce you twice. 1.00

01:09:36.660 And I had to beg her not to because I like that she uses you as a punching bag instead of me every day just because she had a crap day at work. 1.00

01:09:46.660 She cusses you out and wants to beat you up instead of it always being me. 1.00

01:09:50.660 What did he say to that?

01:09:53.660 Why does he stay?

01:09:54.660 How do you guys stay in that?

01:09:55.660 I will never understand it.

01:09:57.660 I don't understand why he does.

01:09:59.660 How the hell?

01:10:00.660 I mean, she is literally she's a hippo.

01:10:07.660 His ex-wife treated him exactly the same, but at least was good looking.

01:10:12.660 And it is to this day still far better looking than my bio.

01:10:18.660 And yet he stays with her.

01:10:20.660 I'm like, what the hell is wrong with you?

01:10:24.660 But yeah, somehow she's still with him.

01:10:26.660 Sorry.

01:10:27.660 And just like torture.

01:10:28.660 No, it's okay.

01:10:29.660 Okay.

01:10:30.660 Well, thanks for calling in.

01:10:31.660 I appreciate you telling the story.

01:10:32.660 Sorry.

01:10:33.660 You had a crazy mom.

01:10:34.660 But how old are you now?

01:10:35.660 How long has it been since you've seen her?

01:10:37.660 That was 18, so 19, 20.

01:10:42.660 About seven years and I'm 30 now.

01:10:47.660 So I was about 23, 24.

01:10:50.660 And I actually she was mad at me because I had a recovered drug addict that I had met through a mobile gaming app, mobile strike that Arnold Schwarzenegger used to advertise for that I actually met online.

01:11:05.660 And she was like a surrogate mother to me.

01:11:08.660 Have you have you forgiven her or do you think you're still mad?

01:11:13.660 Oh, I won't forgive her until I'm dead.

01:11:16.660 Yeah.

01:11:17.660 Yeah.

01:11:18.660 Is if it wasn't for the fact that I finally told her at my graduation that I had the hydrocephalus, my initial plan was I was going to take that to the grave and the hospital screwed up and actually gave them my discharge.

01:11:34.660 gave her my discharge date in a survey from a third party, even though I had a do not disclose order with her name, his name and their house address on it.

01:11:47.660 Wow.

01:11:48.660 So I could have sued Tacoma General for giving out information I told them not to.

01:11:54.660 Wow.

01:11:55.660 Well, thanks so much for calling in and telling me your story.

01:11:59.660 I'm sorry you went through that.

01:12:00.660 That's brutal.

01:12:01.660 So thanks so much.

01:12:03.660 Thank you for everything.

01:12:05.660 Yeah.

01:12:06.660 Thank you for everything that you guys do.

01:12:09.660 I really support you guys.

01:12:12.660 Keep up the good work.

01:12:13.660 Thank you.

01:12:14.660 Thanks, buddy.

01:12:15.660 Okay, as we actually have a lot of callers.

01:12:19.660 So we're going to keep it to four and a half minutes or less.

01:12:24.660 Okay, because we have one, two, three, four, five, six callers right now.

01:12:28.660 Yeah, guys.

01:12:30.660 So try when you try when you get here to think of the beginning, the middle and the end of the story.

01:12:36.660 So when you get on the line, I might say hi, but just say, okay, so this is what happened.

01:12:42.660 These are the things she lied about.

01:12:43.660 This was what actually happened.

01:12:45.660 Any other details you think are relevant and then we'll maybe ask some follow up questions.

01:12:50.660 So, yeah, go ahead.

01:12:53.660 All right.

01:12:54.660 Daniel, I'm letting you in.

01:12:56.660 Your sound better be hooked up this time.

01:12:58.660 Daniel.

01:13:02.660 Daniel.

01:13:03.660 You were in the chat saying that you're ready.

01:13:07.660 Apparently not.

01:13:08.660 And there is another Daniel too.

01:13:10.660 Why don't you let like three people up and the first one that figures out their sound gets to go.

01:13:17.660 Daniel, no name.

01:13:18.660 You're on mute.

01:13:20.660 Okay.

01:13:21.660 Daniel, no name.

01:13:22.660 You're on mute.

01:13:23.660 I'm going to bring in James Owen.

01:13:25.660 I'm sorry.

01:13:26.660 Okay.

01:13:27.660 He gets to go.

01:13:28.660 Is that James or Daniel?

01:13:29.660 Daniel.

01:13:30.660 Okay.

01:13:31.660 Hi, Daniel.

01:13:32.660 Thanks for calling in.

01:13:33.660 Hey guys.

01:13:34.660 Well, I'll just get to it.

01:13:35.660 Cool.

01:13:36.660 The biggest lie my mom told me was that, well, my, apparently my dad had died and I didn't

01:13:51.660 find out till about nine months later.

01:13:53.660 Oh my gosh.

01:13:56.660 How old were you?

01:13:58.660 This happened like two years ago.

01:14:01.660 What did he die of?

01:14:03.660 Like, how did you, did you not have a good relationship with him?

01:14:06.660 Like you guys didn't talk or like what?

01:14:08.660 Well, I'll give you the short version.

01:14:10.660 Basically my mom's crazy and she was convinced that my wife slept with my dad. 1.00

01:14:16.660 She was just convinced of it.

01:14:18.660 She even claimed that I told her, I told her out of my mouth that I said that my wife slept with my dad.

01:14:22.660 Then, so she had something against my wife. 1.00

01:14:27.660 Big deal.

01:14:28.660 Okay.

01:14:29.660 So then she would tell my dad.

01:14:32.660 Oh, why?

01:14:33.660 Because that, that bitch told me that you were sleeping with her. 1.00

01:14:36.660 What the hell was wrong with that?

01:14:37.660 What's wrong with you?

01:14:38.660 Why were you sleeping with her? 0.95

01:14:39.660 Like, like what's wrong with you?

01:14:40.660 Like, and my mom would literally beat up on my dad. 1.00

01:14:42.660 My dad was already at this point.

01:14:43.660 He was like, you know, he was like disabled at this point.

01:14:45.660 He was suffering from kidney failure.

01:14:47.660 And I had no idea about the spongy.

01:14:49.660 And so the last time I saw my dad, I went over to my mom's house.

01:14:57.660 And see, I live in, I live in San Antonio now and she lives in Dallas.

01:15:02.660 And what happened was I went to my mom's house.

01:15:04.660 My dad was there.

01:15:05.660 As soon as he found out I was there, he came out, started screaming at me.

01:15:08.660 Tell that bitch to quit fucking with me. 1.00

01:15:10.660 Tell that bitch to quit fucking with me. 1.00

01:15:12.660 And I'm just like, I didn't know what to say.

01:15:14.660 And I just, I ended up walking in my car and my dad followed me outside and he screamed at me the whole time.

01:15:20.660 And I said, I just said, bye dad.

01:15:23.660 I'll talk to you later.

01:15:25.660 And I didn't hear from my dad for a while.

01:15:28.660 And she told me things.

01:15:29.660 She told me, she just told me, oh, oh, by the way, your dad went to Mexico.

01:15:32.660 He went to visit his family in Mexico.

01:15:34.660 And I'm like, okay, cool, whatever.

01:15:36.660 And the next thing you know is, it's like, I was with my son, you know, he's like four years old.

01:15:45.660 And I was just playing with him on the computer.

01:15:46.660 I said, look, son, this is how you look up your name on Google.

01:15:49.660 And me and my dad have the same name.

01:15:51.660 So I typed my name into Google thinking it's going to, you know, pull up my Facebook and all that good stuff.

01:15:55.660 And next thing you know, I see obituary, a potassium commercial senior.

01:15:59.660 What?

01:16:00.660 I'm sorry, I didn't mean to say that a lot, my name a lot.

01:16:03.660 We can trim it after the show if you want it out.

01:16:06.660 Yeah, go ahead.

01:16:08.660 I've never been so heartbroken.

01:16:12.660 And yeah, that's what happened.

01:16:18.660 Do you think your mom had something like to do with it because of what he was saying?

01:16:23.660 Yeah, my mom was, we'd be picking at him.

01:16:26.660 Like she, all my life, my mom would be antagonizing my dad. 0.99

01:16:30.660 You know, my dad, my dad was the kind of guy that, you know, let's put it this way.

01:16:39.660 I understand how my dad, I understand what my dad did.

01:16:43.660 I understand the way he was fighting because I'm kind of the same way as him.

01:16:47.660 And he did everything he could to keep the family together.

01:16:53.660 And my mom would just sit there trying to take it down. 1.00

01:16:56.660 There was times when she cheated on him.

01:16:58.660 And she had us with him while she went to go see her boyfriend.

01:17:02.660 There'd be plenty of times we'd be in the car waiting while she was over there seeing her boyfriend,

01:17:06.660 doing whatever she's doing with him.

01:17:08.660 But we were like, I was like maybe eight, nine years old at the time.

01:17:11.660 And yeah.

01:17:15.660 So what I, when I say she had something to do with it, I meant, do you think she like poisoned him or something like that?

01:17:22.660 I don't think she poisoned him, but I think she may have hurt him.

01:17:25.660 And he may have somehow got some kind of infection and kind of made things worse.

01:17:29.660 That's just, that's just what I'm thinking.

01:17:31.660 But my dad was, he ended up dying of kidney failure.

01:17:35.660 Cause it's just, it's, it's just a weird thing.

01:17:38.660 Oh, sorry.

01:17:39.660 Go ahead.

01:17:40.660 I just, I didn't know what, I didn't find out until like a year and a half later that what happened, how my dad died.

01:17:46.660 And what did she say when you confronted him?

01:17:49.660 Oh, I'm so happy that you know.

01:17:51.660 Oh, I feel like a weight's off my shoulders.

01:17:53.660 Gaslighting.

01:17:55.660 Dude, that's exactly what she said to me. 1.00

01:17:57.660 And like, did you, did no one else in the family tell you about the funeral?

01:18:02.660 Like that's.

01:18:03.660 Nobody told me anything, not even my brother.

01:18:05.660 Why?

01:18:06.660 The thing is my brother was, my brother is, was the product of my mom's cheating.

01:18:12.660 What?

01:18:13.660 And my brother was there when my dad died, but I wasn't there.

01:18:19.660 Why would they, do they not like, like you or what?

01:18:23.660 I just can't.

01:18:24.660 My mom.

01:18:26.660 That's so weird.

01:18:27.660 Go ahead.

01:18:28.660 I can't explain my mother.

01:18:30.660 I can't explain her.

01:18:31.660 I don't understand her half the time, but she's the person, she's who she is.

01:18:36.660 Yeah.

01:18:37.660 No, I, I understand.

01:18:39.660 She was crazy.

01:18:40.660 I just, I don't understand how all the mutual relatives.

01:18:43.660 Um, my mom, my mom is the queen bee, basically the family.

01:18:48.660 Oh, okay.

01:18:49.660 And when I, I called my brother, I said, Hey brother, what's going on?

01:18:53.660 Why didn't you tell me?

01:18:54.660 He goes, Oh, well, that's what mom wanted.

01:18:56.660 Mom didn't want you to know.

01:18:58.660 And he's just so, so blase about it.

01:19:02.660 Wow.

01:19:03.660 And then I called my sister.

01:19:05.660 I called my oldest, my oldest sister.

01:19:07.660 She's just like, well, you know how mom is.

01:19:10.660 Holy crap.

01:19:11.660 You, you have to be so, I would be so angry at everybody.

01:19:16.660 Holy shit.

01:19:17.660 That's why I left out.

01:19:18.660 That's why I moved to San Antonio.

01:19:19.660 Get away from them for a little bit.

01:19:20.660 Just give me that space.

01:19:22.660 You ever wonder, I'm sorry, go ahead.

01:19:25.660 I would, I would never talk to them again.

01:19:27.660 If I was in your show, I would be so pissed.

01:19:29.660 And that's the thing.

01:19:30.660 I would literally, I'm listening to this.

01:19:32.660 That's the thing about it.

01:19:33.660 I still want to talk to my, I still love my mother.

01:19:36.660 As much as I hate to say it, I still love her.

01:19:39.660 Um, did she do that kind of stuff when you were a kid too?

01:19:46.660 Like, why do you about a bunch of stuff?

01:19:48.660 She used to be at it. 0.98

01:19:49.660 My mom used to beat us a lot. 1.00

01:19:50.660 She, my mom was on drugs. 1.00

01:19:52.660 She used to tell us that my mom was always gaslighting us about everything. 0.53

01:19:55.660 Like she literally, we would get up in the morning on Saturday mornings.

01:19:59.660 Like we would be very quiet not to wake my mom up.

01:20:01.660 And we'd be watching little cartoons or whatever.

01:20:04.660 And as soon as she'd wake up, it's just like a hurricane came into the house.

01:20:07.660 She would literally start screaming at her. 0.94

01:20:09.660 I started whipping us with the bell.

01:20:10.660 We'll cry.

01:20:11.660 I'm like, do all this, blah, blah, blah.

01:20:14.660 I'm six years old.

01:20:15.660 You want me to clean the house?

01:20:16.660 I'm six years old.

01:20:18.660 How old, how long has it been since you talked to her?

01:20:22.660 I talked to her a couple of days ago, but I keep it very short.

01:20:26.660 I just like, I do.

01:20:27.660 I keep it very short.

01:20:28.660 Like as soon as I start hearing that tangent in her voice, when she starts going on about

01:20:35.660 something else, I say, okay, mom, I'll talk to her.

01:20:37.660 Love you.

01:20:38.660 Bye.

01:20:39.660 What makes you not just cut her off all the way?

01:20:41.660 Like, I just, what do you get out of this relationship?

01:20:43.660 I don't know, I don't know what to tell you, bro.

01:20:48.660 Like I said, just the fact that she, I don't know if it's just the fact that she's my mother

01:20:51.660 or what it is, but just like, I, I don't know what to say.

01:20:57.660 It's, it's okay.

01:20:58.660 I mean, I'm not, I'm not judging.

01:20:59.660 I'm just wondering.

01:21:00.660 Cause it just, it just seems like you're not getting much out of it, you know?

01:21:06.660 No, but you're allowed to cut her off. 1.00

01:21:12.660 You know, it doesn't make you like a bad person or anything.

01:21:15.660 I know a lot of family members try to guilt you, but it really doesn't.

01:21:20.660 Like I said, I appreciate that you let me talk about this.

01:21:25.660 No, thanks for calling in.

01:21:27.660 Yeah.

01:21:28.660 I was, sometimes you got to wonder cause your brother and sister, it seems like they, cause

01:21:36.660 I was like that, my, my other siblings could just let certain things that my mom did just

01:21:43.660 like slide off their back.

01:21:44.660 And I'm like, how do you do it?

01:21:45.660 Like, how do you not care?

01:21:47.660 Cause like my mother constantly hurt me like all the time and I just had to get away.

01:21:53.660 But you know, I have siblings where they get to sit there and just like, let it slide

01:21:57.660 off.

01:21:58.660 And I'm like, how do you do that?

01:21:59.660 How, how do you not let it bother you?

01:22:02.660 You know?

01:22:03.660 And you, you don't owe your mom anything, man.

01:22:06.660 Like a lot of women, a lot of mothers. 0.98

01:22:08.660 Oh yeah.

01:22:09.660 You know, I, I gave birth to you.

01:22:10.660 I carried you for nine months.

01:22:11.660 And what would you be without me?

01:22:13.660 I'm telling you, like I said, we'll cut her off, man.

01:22:15.660 You know, well the, the best thing you did was move away because those whole queen bees 0.75

01:22:20.660 where they have, not only do they control your life, uh, and your family's life, but

01:22:25.660 you used to control a lot of other people in the community's lives too.

01:22:29.660 Understand what I'm saying?

01:22:30.660 Yeah.

01:22:31.660 So yeah.

01:22:32.660 Good thing you moved away, man.

01:22:34.660 And the thing about it is, is you gotta stop hoping for something that you're never

01:22:38.660 going to get.

01:22:39.660 I know.

01:22:40.660 I don't expect the relationship of my mom to ever be perfect at all.

01:22:44.660 Like I said, I, I see her maybe once a year in person and that's it.

01:22:48.660 Yeah.

01:22:49.660 Well, thanks for calling in.

01:22:51.660 Um, that's the problem.

01:22:52.660 That's the craziest story I've heard in a while.

01:22:55.660 What the hell?

01:22:56.660 That's insane.

01:22:57.660 Yeah.

01:22:58.660 Yeah.

01:22:59.660 I win.

01:23:00.660 Bye guys.

01:23:01.660 Have a good one.

01:23:02.660 I didn't tell your dad died.

01:23:05.660 I would never talk to a single person in my family ever again.

01:23:08.660 Especially if you're close with your dad.

01:23:11.660 Oh my God.

01:23:12.660 I'm just putting myself in like, Oh, I would be so mad.

01:23:17.660 Yeah.

01:23:18.660 You find out on Google that your father died.

01:23:21.660 What the hell?

01:23:23.660 And he's a junior.

01:23:25.660 So he saw his name senior was the obituary.

01:23:29.660 Gosh.

01:23:30.660 Oh, okay.

01:23:32.660 Okay.

01:23:33.660 Next step.

01:23:34.660 Mike Johnson.

01:23:35.660 And then L Wayne.

01:23:38.660 I saw you talked up, but you can come back in and you'll be next.

01:23:42.660 Mike.

01:23:43.660 Can you hear me?

01:23:46.660 I can hear you.

01:23:47.660 Thanks for calling in Mike.

01:23:49.660 Um, tell me what is the craziest lie your mother ever told you? 0.90

01:23:53.660 This is actually Daniel senior.

01:23:55.660 I finally got my damn phone to work.

01:23:57.660 Okay.

01:23:58.660 Cool.

01:23:59.660 Um, I just wanted to say shout out to you.

01:24:02.660 Um, you, I've seen you on AB first.

01:24:05.660 Antoine Daniels.

01:24:06.660 And then I see you on Jesse Lee Peterson.

01:24:08.660 Oh, thank you.

01:24:09.660 Um, so, um, story.

01:24:10.660 And so you're the type of woman that, uh, a man needs your type of thinking, but there's 0.96

01:24:16.660 not many out there, but my, my mother, the biggest thing about my mother is that I realized

01:24:23.660 she was the narcissistic first.

01:24:26.660 And, uh, it's important to realize if you have a narcissistic mother and what those characters

01:24:33.660 are.

01:24:34.660 And then, like you said, we got to let them go.

01:24:37.660 Don't stay in that.

01:24:38.660 Let them go.

01:24:39.660 They'll torture you forever.

01:24:41.660 God, you got to let them go.

01:24:43.660 Go ahead.

01:24:44.660 I, um, I let her go four years ago.

01:24:46.660 I'm 54 and I've had the greatest time of my life.

01:24:49.660 The most freedom I've ever had.

01:24:50.660 I, I am done with her and all my family, but my mother, a lot of things she did. 0.57

01:24:56.660 I look at now and I laugh.

01:24:58.660 One of the things she would always do and lie to me about was she would, the funny thing 1.00

01:25:05.660 is she would get mad at me when I wasn't even in the room and she'd be cussing at me 1.00

01:25:09.660 in other rooms.

01:25:11.660 The shit was, it was crazy.

01:25:14.660 Like she would drop something in the kitchen and then she would yell and scream at me. 1.00

01:25:18.660 And then she'd call me in there and she'd try to hit me and I, I wouldn't let her do 0.99

01:25:22.660 it.

01:25:23.660 But my mother hates men. 1.00

01:25:24.660 I also realized that for 50 years that she hates men.

01:25:28.660 She tried to emasculate me. 1.00

01:25:30.660 She couldn't do it.

01:25:31.660 She hated me for that.

01:25:32.660 And I'm very thankful to this day that it wasn't able to, that she wasn't able to complete

01:25:37.660 the job.

01:25:38.660 She's done it with the rest of the family.

01:25:40.660 Everybody hates me.

01:25:41.660 And she's made it very much known to everybody that I'm the most worst person in the world.

01:25:46.660 I cut everybody off Pearl.

01:25:48.660 There isn't one family member I have in my life and my life is amazing.

01:25:53.660 That's all I wanted to say.

01:25:54.660 So if you fellows out there or can't let go, do your best to let go.

01:26:00.660 Do not hold onto it anymore.

01:26:01.660 It's just, you will not be free until you let go.

01:26:04.660 Yeah.

01:26:05.660 Cause it's just endless fighting like it's, and then they send everyone against you.

01:26:09.660 It never ends.

01:26:10.660 So yeah.

01:26:11.660 Thanks so much for calling in.

01:26:12.660 We love you girl.

01:26:13.660 Keep going.

01:26:14.660 Thank you.

01:26:15.660 And that is everybody.

01:26:21.660 Wow.

01:26:22.660 The death.

01:26:23.660 That was a crazy one.

01:26:25.660 The dead.

01:26:26.660 Oh my God.

01:26:27.660 That's the thing.

01:26:28.660 Mothers are just, they're like a different type of evil. 1.00

01:26:33.660 Truly.

01:26:34.660 So.

01:26:35.660 Yeah.

01:26:36.660 I told you society, it just keeps giving women a pass and the pass has gotten bigger ever 1.00

01:26:44.660 since the whole single mother thing.

01:26:45.660 Cause here's the thing.

01:26:46.660 You know how, um, I still have to find that stat cause I swear multiple sources have said

01:26:54.660 that 75% of abuse towards children and the elderly is women.

01:26:58.660 I know that 80% of workplace bullying.

01:27:00.660 Bullying.

01:27:01.660 Oh, let me bring in this person cause they're back.

01:27:04.660 Which person?

01:27:05.660 Uh, L Wayne is coming in.

01:27:10.660 Okay.

01:27:11.660 L Wayne is on mute.

01:27:15.660 L Wayne.

01:27:16.660 Are you there?

01:27:17.660 Um, what I'm saying is, um, yes.

01:27:21.660 Hey, how's it going?

01:27:22.660 Hi.

01:27:23.660 Hi.

01:27:24.660 Um, so what's your thoughts on the topic?

01:27:28.660 Yes.

01:27:29.660 I'm here.

01:27:30.660 Yeah.

01:27:31.660 Hi.

01:27:32.660 So what's the biggest lie your mother ever told you?

01:27:34.660 Hey, how you doing?

01:27:35.660 Good.

01:27:36.660 I think you're listening to the YouTube in the background.

01:27:37.660 You have to turn the YouTube off.

01:27:38.660 Ah, okay.

01:27:39.660 Am I still here?

01:27:40.660 You're here.

01:27:41.660 Yes.

01:27:42.660 Oh, okay.

01:27:43.660 Well, this is weird.

01:27:44.660 All right.

01:27:45.660 So the best way I can describe my childhood and going on is that when I was growing up,

01:27:59.660 my mom, you know, I was a kid and I was a kid and I was a kid and I was a kid and I

01:28:04.660 she's been mentally disabled my entire life. 0.78

01:28:19.660 And my dad being the wonderful person that he is, he did the best that he could to uphold

01:28:29.660 my family and keep things going.

01:28:32.660 But after a while, when I turned a teenager, things got bad and there was a nasty divorce.

01:28:40.660 They got into a horrible fight and that was it.

01:28:44.660 It was over.

01:28:45.660 Well, shortly after that, probably it'd been about, it was almost a year, about eight or

01:28:57.660 nine months after the divorce.

01:29:00.660 I got woken up in the middle of the night by my mom with a large butcher knife. 0.99

01:29:07.660 Oh, what?

01:29:09.660 Yes.

01:29:10.660 And she told me to get up and that we were going to get in the car and she was going to 0.59

01:29:21.660 put the family back together.

01:29:22.660 My mom was having a psychosis episode and we got into the car and the plan was to drive

01:29:35.660 to get my brother who was about, you know, he was in college and we're going to go down

01:29:43.660 the car.

01:29:44.660 And she was going to get in the car.

01:29:45.660 Well, we started to run out of gas in the car.

01:29:48.660 And she still had the knife driving, by the way.

01:29:50.660 She was driving with one hand all over the place. 1.00

01:29:52.660 It was crazy.

01:29:53.660 And I had to dive out of the car still moving and walk to a gas station and call the family

01:30:09.660 that I could depend on to come help and convince her to take medical help. 0.80

01:30:22.660 How old were you?

01:30:23.660 I was 11.

01:30:24.660 Wow.

01:30:25.660 Wow.

01:30:26.660 So at 11 years old, you woke up to a knife in your face and your mom saying she wants

01:30:39.660 to get the family together.

01:30:41.660 She drives you and during the drive, you convince her to get help on the way to get your brother.

01:30:47.660 Is that right?

01:30:48.660 Yes.

01:30:49.660 It took me diving out of the car while it was still moving, but yes.

01:30:53.660 Oh my.

01:30:54.660 And walking to the nearest gas station.

01:30:57.660 So what happened after that?

01:31:00.660 Did you have to go back?

01:31:02.660 Did your mom lose custody of you or something?

01:31:04.660 Yeah.

01:31:05.660 After that, I went back for a little bit and the episodes continued.

01:31:11.660 And then I had to go into state custody for a little bit.

01:31:18.660 And eventually I ended up getting in contact with my dad and going to live with him in a

01:31:28.660 different state from where we lived.

01:31:31.660 Do you still have contact with your mom?

01:31:34.660 Yeah.

01:31:35.660 Actually, I live with her right now and I help take care of her.

01:31:41.660 What is she?

01:31:42.660 Is she like five? 0.87

01:31:43.660 I don't know what mental illness causes someone to go into psychosis.

01:31:47.660 It would be paranoid, schizophrenia and bipolar.

01:31:52.660 Are you ever scared she's going to do that again?

01:31:54.660 Like does she ever go into episodes now? 0.94

01:31:57.660 Yes.

01:31:58.660 I dealt with one recently.

01:32:00.660 Wow.

01:32:01.660 What it-

01:32:02.660 It's been-

01:32:03.660 It's been most of my life.

01:32:06.660 Wow.

01:32:07.660 What makes you still like take care of her?

01:32:09.660 Do you just feel like it's your responsibility to?

01:32:12.660 At the moment, yes, but I would like to-

01:32:24.660 Get her more professional help because, you know, as she ages, it tends to get worse.

01:32:33.660 Yes.

01:32:34.660 So, so I'm going to ask you.

01:32:37.660 So, do you ever want to live some type of symptoms of a regular life?

01:32:43.660 Like, do you want to, because you know that you can't live a regular life if you're taking

01:32:47.660 care of your mother with who's a paranoid schizophrenic, right? 0.92

01:32:51.660 Oh, yeah.

01:32:52.660 Yeah.

01:32:53.660 So, I mean, do you just, are you going to spend the rest of your life just taking care

01:32:57.660 of a schizophrenic?

01:32:59.660 Do you want to like live your own life?

01:33:02.660 Maybe have a relationship, have kids or something like that?

01:33:05.660 Definitely.

01:33:06.660 Wow.

01:33:07.660 What are your choices?

01:33:10.660 Can you put her in a home or something? 1.00

01:33:13.660 That's, that's still kind of in the works.

01:33:16.660 Yeah.

01:33:17.660 Wow.

01:33:18.660 Yeah.

01:33:19.660 I don't, you know, I don't want to have to live with Kathy Bates forever.

01:33:24.660 Yeah.

01:33:25.660 What was it?

01:33:26.660 Telling me they didn't know.

01:33:27.660 What was the recent episode?

01:33:30.660 Did, like, did she threaten to hurt you again?

01:33:34.660 Actually, I'm sure at this point you've taken all the weapons out of the house, right?

01:33:39.660 Oh, yeah.

01:33:40.660 Yeah.

01:33:43.660 Wow.

01:33:44.660 Wow.

01:33:45.660 You might've, you might've beat the other guy in these mother stories.

01:33:49.660 Yeah.

01:33:50.660 What'd you say?

01:33:51.660 The other guy called in and I said, that's the worst story I've heard in a while, but

01:33:54.660 I think you just topped it.

01:33:56.660 Sorry.

01:33:57.660 Oh, man.

01:33:58.660 I don't mean to laugh.

01:33:59.660 I do apologize, but.

01:34:01.660 Hey, you know, Ben Franklin is the devil, right?

01:34:04.660 What do you do?

01:34:05.660 Yeah.

01:34:06.660 And you're still in it too.

01:34:07.660 You know, I'm hoping that the situation can change, man, because, you know, time's going

01:34:12.660 to go by, you don't want to look back on your life with a whole bunch of what ifs and woods

01:34:18.660 and coulds and shoulds, you know?

01:34:20.660 Yeah.

01:34:21.660 Oh, yeah.

01:34:22.660 I've done my share.

01:34:24.660 I still live.

01:34:25.660 I'm a fighter.

01:34:27.660 Yeah.

01:34:28.660 Well, thanks so much for calling and telling your story.

01:34:31.660 Um, call it again.

01:34:32.660 Keep us posted.

01:34:33.660 Um, all right.

01:34:34.660 Will do.

01:34:35.660 Thanks guys.

01:34:36.660 How old are you?

01:34:37.660 If you don't mind me asking.

01:34:39.660 I'm 36.

01:34:40.660 Oh my gosh.

01:34:41.660 You spent your whole life dealing with this.

01:34:43.660 Wow.

01:34:44.660 Okay.

01:34:45.660 She's been sick my entire life.

01:34:46.660 Yeah.

01:34:47.660 It's been a rough ride, but somebody's got to do it.

01:34:50.660 Yeah.

01:34:51.660 Yeah.

01:34:52.660 You're such good people.

01:34:53.660 Thank you for calling in.

01:34:54.660 Have a good one.

01:34:56.660 Thank you.

01:34:57.660 Wow.

01:34:58.660 Oh my gosh.

01:35:00.660 My goodness.

01:35:01.660 And he has to take care of a woman that would do that kind of thing. 0.99

01:35:04.660 And that's your mom. 0.99

01:35:06.660 See, that's the thing.

01:35:07.660 No guys don't ever look.

01:35:09.660 These women keep painting men to be these horrible people, but there's men more often 0.87

01:35:16.660 than not.

01:35:17.660 Men will do what he's doing where he'll sacrifice his life for the benefit of his mother or women 0.91

01:35:23.660 around him.

01:35:24.660 But women will not do the same thing. 1.00

01:35:25.660 You ever see that story Pearl where, um, this guy, this woman was dating, was married

01:35:31.660 to this guy.

01:35:32.660 He got cancer and then she divorced him because he had cancer.

01:35:37.660 And then he actually got remarried and lived his new life with a wife and live his last

01:35:44.660 days with his new wife.

01:35:46.660 And this, his new wife married him knowing he had cancer.

01:35:49.660 And then she had the nerve to do, I do cancer half marathons and marathons in memory of my

01:35:54.660 ex-husband that I left because he had cancer.

01:35:58.660 He got women.

01:36:01.660 Oh my goodness.

01:36:03.660 All right.

01:36:04.660 We have one last caller.

01:36:05.660 We're going to let in Dan as make sure to like the video.

01:36:09.660 If you haven't already subscribed, if you haven't already hit that super chat button.

01:36:13.660 All super chats go towards the divorce documentary.

01:36:16.660 Dan, are you there?

01:36:17.660 Yeah.

01:36:18.660 Can you guys hear me?

01:36:19.660 I can.

01:36:20.660 Oh, that was so nice.

01:36:21.660 You came in ready to go.

01:36:23.660 No YouTube in the background.

01:36:25.660 That was great.

01:36:26.660 Awesome.

01:36:27.660 Awesome.

01:36:28.660 Yeah.

01:36:29.660 Separate devices.

01:36:30.660 So yeah, all good.

01:36:31.660 Okay.

01:36:32.660 So, um, yeah.

01:36:33.660 What is the worst, um, lie your mother ever told you?

01:36:38.660 Very similar to the, uh, Mexican guy that called.

01:36:41.660 Okay.

01:36:42.660 Um, you know, my parents divorced when I was two and all growing up, I heard, you know,

01:36:48.660 Oh, your dad cheated.

01:36:50.660 He's, you know, he, you know, I, I came home and he was, you know, he left me and, you know,

01:36:58.660 he ruined the family, blah, blah, blah.

01:36:59.660 You know, I was too, I didn't know what happened in my mid forties.

01:37:03.660 I caught her.

01:37:04.660 You know, she just basically told on herself that she was the one that filed for divorce.

01:37:09.660 And, um, I was like, you never told me that.

01:37:13.660 Like, and then my dad was the one who said, like, you know, let's figure it out.

01:37:17.660 Like, don't do this, blah, blah, blah.

01:37:20.660 And, um, I was like, damn.

01:37:22.660 All right.

01:37:23.660 I just thought that was like, I guess, like lying by omission type of thing.

01:37:29.660 So how old were you when you found out?

01:37:32.660 Uh, 45.

01:37:34.660 Okay.

01:37:35.660 Oh my gosh.

01:37:36.660 You didn't find out till your, did you have a relationship with your dad the whole time?

01:37:40.660 Or did you get into contact when you were older?

01:37:43.660 Um, so he got custody, uh, majority custody during the divorce.

01:37:48.660 So, um, but I was kind of like, she like kind of turned me against him a little bit.

01:37:53.660 So, which was kind of toxic.

01:37:55.660 Cause I was with him most of the time.

01:37:58.660 Yeah.

01:37:59.660 Yeah.

01:38:00.660 Like when I'd have weekends with her.

01:38:03.660 People don't understand how strong like mother's propaganda is.

01:38:08.660 Like, it's just so strong because it takes you years to figure it out because it's like,

01:38:15.660 um, it's like, you're listening to a podcast in your ear about how terrible your dad is.

01:38:21.660 And it takes years for you to like notice that way that I don't think he would do that.

01:38:26.660 You know what I mean?

01:38:27.660 Yeah.

01:38:28.660 It's now the, my relationship with my dad is way better.

01:38:31.660 Um, but it suffered for a long time.

01:38:33.660 Like when I was in high school, because, or even when I was little as kind of like what

01:38:37.660 you were saying, like earlier about like the mom puts themselves on the pedestal and then

01:38:41.660 you just kind of like, believe everything she says.

01:38:43.660 Then in a way it's kind of like out of self preservation.

01:38:46.660 It's like, okay, if I say anything, you know, it's like, she's going to get pissed.

01:38:50.660 Like she's going to get pissed off.

01:38:51.660 So you just kind of like go along with her narrative.

01:38:54.660 And, um, yeah, so that, I mean, it was, it took me a while.

01:38:59.660 What actually happened?

01:39:00.660 Was she cheating also or she just divorced? 1.00

01:39:03.660 I don't think so.

01:39:04.660 Um, I, I think that he was cheating.

01:39:08.660 Um, but knowing my mom, she's super emotional.

01:39:11.660 She just like, you know, um, I don't know if she forced him to move out or she took her stuff.

01:39:19.660 I still don't really know to this day, like the actual story.

01:39:23.660 Um, my dad ended up getting like remarried, like immediately after the divorce.

01:39:28.660 And then my mom got remarried and then they both got divorced and it just created like a downward spiral type of thing.

01:39:35.660 I mean, they're both fine, but you know, ended up having like a lot of step parents coming in and out of the house.

01:39:42.660 So I really don't to this day, don't know if he cheated or how bad or if she cheated.

01:39:48.660 So it's my dad doesn't like to talk about it.

01:39:51.660 That's the thing.

01:39:52.660 The dads will actually preserve the mother's reputation where the women will just. 1.00

01:39:57.660 Oh, totally.

01:39:58.660 He never said anything bad about her.

01:40:00.660 He never said anything bad about her.

01:40:02.660 And then the moms get mad when you come to your own conclusions based off of their behavior. 1.00

01:40:08.660 And then they blame the dads.

01:40:10.660 And you're like, no, it's your personality actually.

01:40:14.660 Go ahead.

01:40:15.660 Yeah, no, it's just exactly what you're saying.

01:40:17.660 It's like even just stating the obvious of like you, you objectively did this.

01:40:22.660 It's like, what are you trying to say that I'm a bad person?

01:40:24.660 I'm like, like, I'm just stating like a sequence of like historical events.

01:40:30.660 Like, yeah, what are you saying?

01:40:32.660 So, yeah, I kind of quit talking to her after, you know, you know, I just needed a break because it's like too much drama.

01:40:40.660 Yeah.

01:40:41.660 And then I just got like a really big job offer.

01:40:44.660 I was like, oh, this maybe is the universe telling me something.

01:40:47.660 I shouldn't just like talk, not talk to my mom and I'll make more money.

01:40:51.660 Yeah.

01:40:52.660 Yeah.

01:40:53.660 Yeah.

01:40:54.660 Actually, I'm like, there's no drama in my life.

01:40:57.660 And so it's kind of like, okay, things more fell into place, you know?

01:41:01.660 Yeah.

01:41:02.660 Yeah.

01:41:03.660 No, it's like when you cut them off, it's like the best feeling in the world.

01:41:08.660 You just don't have to deal with it anymore.

01:41:11.660 Yeah, no.

01:41:12.660 Yeah, no.

01:41:13.660 And it's just like you get the emails.

01:41:14.660 It's like, no, you must contact me now.

01:41:16.660 I'm like, actually, I don't must do anything.

01:41:18.660 I'm just going to like go get a massage or something.

01:41:21.660 You know, it's like they try to guilt you like you're a bad person if you don't like do exactly what they say.

01:41:31.660 You know what my favorite one is?

01:41:33.660 It's like, I gave birth to you and you're like, you wanted to do that.

01:41:37.660 Oh, so many times.

01:41:38.660 So many times.

01:41:39.660 You're like, you're the one who chose that.

01:41:41.660 Nine months.

01:41:42.660 Yeah.

01:41:43.660 Yeah.

01:41:44.660 Nine months you were inside of me.

01:41:45.660 I was like, dude, I didn't, that wasn't like, I didn't sign up for that, dude.

01:41:48.660 Yeah, it was nine months, not five years.

01:41:51.660 You know?

01:41:52.660 Yeah.

01:41:53.660 It wasn't like, that's not that long.

01:41:55.660 Like, why are we acting like that's that long of a time?

01:41:59.660 It's, yeah.

01:42:00.660 Well, the other part of the story actually you guys might find interesting was that my dad got child support.

01:42:06.660 Oh, that's awesome.

01:42:07.660 Because my mom did have, yeah, yeah.

01:42:10.660 He took me to like Europe twice in middle school because he had all this extra money from child support.

01:42:17.660 Oh, yeah.

01:42:19.660 Um, yeah, but she had.

01:42:21.660 How much, how much did he get a month?

01:42:24.660 I don't know.

01:42:25.660 It was, it was not small.

01:42:27.660 I know he had her wages garnished a couple of times, which is hilarious.

01:42:31.660 That was another thing.

01:42:36.660 That was another thing my mom was just like. 1.00

01:42:38.660 We should get him on.

01:42:40.660 Tell him to go.

01:42:41.660 Does he want to do a show on how to put your wife on child support?

01:42:45.660 Yeah.

01:42:46.660 Yeah.

01:42:47.660 Um, yeah, you, well, it just depends on the woman. 1.00

01:42:51.660 Like my mom did have serious anger, anger management problems. 1.00

01:42:55.660 Yeah.

01:42:56.660 Um, she disowned me like a couple of times due to like just academic performance and things like that.

01:43:02.660 Um, you know, just like.

01:43:04.660 You know, it's funny when they disowned you and you're like, all right, see ya.

01:43:09.660 Yeah.

01:43:10.660 Oh darn.

01:43:12.660 Yeah.

01:43:13.660 Um, but I was younger though.

01:43:15.660 So it, I mean, to me, I was, it was really, um, I was hurt by it to be honest at that point in my life.

01:43:21.660 How old were you?

01:43:22.660 You know, um, 21.

01:43:25.660 Oh, okay.

01:43:27.660 Okay.

01:43:28.660 Yeah.

01:43:29.660 At that age, you don't know how crazy they are.

01:43:32.660 I feel like it's like your mid to late twenties, early thirties when you're like, I think she's insane. 0.99

01:43:39.660 Yeah.

01:43:40.660 Yeah.

01:43:41.660 You think that it's like, oh, it's your parent.

01:43:43.660 Like their opinion should matter.

01:43:44.660 Like you should weigh it into your life.

01:43:46.660 You know, it's like, oh, if your parent says that they, you know, they disowned you, I must have done something wrong.

01:43:51.660 You know?

01:43:52.660 Yeah.

01:43:53.660 But yeah.

01:43:54.660 Then I like read all the court documents.

01:43:56.660 I was like, no, the, actually the judge said she's crazy too.

01:43:59.660 So what did your mother do for work? 0.80

01:44:02.660 They're asking.

01:44:03.660 And what about your dad?

01:44:04.660 Uh, my dad was a corporate attorney.

01:44:08.660 Um, so he was like really smart guy, like top of his class, um, like Ivy league.

01:44:13.660 And, uh, well, so this goes, this goes back to like, um, previous conversations she had.

01:44:18.660 Um, she was an immigrant from Asia.

01:44:21.660 Uh, so it was kind of like a passport bro situation, but she was like, um, uh, like an accountant, you know, accounts payable.

01:44:28.660 So she, um, yeah, she got her like citizenship and everything through my dad.

01:44:34.660 And, um, yeah, so just be careful with it.

01:44:38.660 That's so funny.

01:44:39.660 Be careful with the passport bro stuff.

01:44:41.660 You know, it's like, as soon as they get a credit card, it's like game over.

01:44:46.660 Okay.

01:44:47.660 Well, thanks for calling it.

01:44:48.660 Call it anytime.

01:44:49.660 Okay.

01:44:50.660 Yeah.

01:44:51.660 Thanks guys.

01:44:52.660 Really appreciate you.

01:44:53.660 Uh, hearing my story.

01:44:54.660 Be.

01:44:55.660 A little too early on that one, but that's everybody.

01:45:00.660 Cool.

01:45:01.660 That was funny.

01:45:03.660 I love it when they come in with the, we gotta figure out a way around waiting for each caller.

01:45:09.660 Cause it just takes too long.

01:45:11.660 We'll think about this next show, but okay.

01:45:14.660 Um, my final thoughts is that whenever women, um, 1.00

01:45:19.660 um, are wrong, they'll just gaslight you to eternity.

01:45:22.660 And that includes mothers. 0.99

01:45:24.660 And so, um, what I would say is cut off your moms, cut them off. 1.00

01:45:29.660 I look at, they're going to drag you into their drama forever.

01:45:32.660 And I would just cut them off and you can make a prerequisite to be in your life that they

01:45:37.660 have to be drama free.

01:45:39.660 And if they're not, I'm nice to you, which are two pretty minimal, easy things.

01:45:43.660 And if they don't want to do the bare minimum, I would just cut them.

01:45:47.660 So what about you, Doug MPA?

01:45:49.660 One of the ultimate gas lights.

01:45:51.660 I think I've told this story on the show before, but I'll say it again.

01:45:54.660 Um, I had a friend and, uh, she went to, uh, Catholic school, elementary school, middle school, high school.

01:46:04.660 Right.

01:46:05.660 And, um, you know, all of the teachers were Catholic, you know, priests or whatever.

01:46:10.660 And when she was in fifth and sixth grade, she had the same teacher.

01:46:13.660 And this guy was like straight up, like sleeping with the fifth graders and the sixth grade girls,

01:46:18.660 like her and like two of her friends, like, like in the classroom.

01:46:23.660 Right.

01:46:24.660 And so she went to tell her mom and her mom, uh, cause all she cared about,

01:46:29.660 all her mom cared about was how she was seen in the church.

01:46:32.660 And she was a woman of, of status in the church, whatever.

01:46:37.660 And, um, so she was like, oh no, what are you saying these horrible things about this man for?

01:46:42.660 He's a good man.

01:46:43.660 Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

01:46:44.660 She's like, no mom.

01:46:45.660 Like this guy's doing this stuff to me and my friends.

01:46:48.660 And she's like, how dare you say that?

01:46:50.660 And how dare you say, don't tell anybody, blah, blah, blah.

01:46:53.660 Right.

01:46:54.660 So she had to go through fifth grade and sixth grade with this happening to her.

01:46:58.660 Right.

01:46:59.660 And so when she was in high school, that guy messed around with one of the daughters of someone in the city that was like rich and powerful.

01:47:11.660 Right.

01:47:12.660 So that girl told the dad and that guy got criminally, the priest got criminally prosecuted and got arrested and convicted and sent to prison for like a long time.

01:47:24.660 Right.

01:47:25.660 Cause once that case started, a bunch of other girls spoke up. 0.96

01:47:28.660 And so he got like a bunch of time in prison and she said, mom, look, I told you.

01:47:34.660 And her mom just gaslights her to this day. 0.98

01:47:37.660 You know, I have, if you would've just told me and you know, I had so much going on.

01:47:44.660 And what about me?

01:47:45.660 What about me?

01:47:46.660 What about me and my feelings?

01:47:48.660 And, and to this day, she's just like, mom, I just want you to say.

01:47:52.660 Just say I was wrong.

01:47:53.660 That's it.

01:47:54.660 And we'll forgive you.

01:47:55.660 That's the crazy thing.

01:47:56.660 The kids will forgive the mother.

01:47:57.660 If you just say, Hey, I was wrong for doing that.

01:48:01.660 That's it.

01:48:02.660 That's all you have to do.

01:48:03.660 I was wrong.

01:48:04.660 And I'm sorry.

01:48:05.660 She, she said, all you have to do mom is say, I wasn't there to protect you.

01:48:10.660 I didn't believe you.

01:48:11.660 I'm sorry, but she can't even do that. 1.00

01:48:13.660 They never can.

01:48:15.660 That's modern women, everybody. 1.00

01:48:18.660 So yeah.

01:48:19.660 All right, guys.

01:48:20.660 Thank you so much for tuning in tonight.

01:48:22.660 If you want, please donate to the divorce documentary.

01:48:25.660 I would love to hear your thoughts.

01:48:26.660 Like the video, subscribe to the channel, ring that notification bell, and I'll see you next time.

01:48:31.660 Bye bye.

01:48:35.660 Bye bye.

JustPearlyThings - August 14, 2025

What Is The Greatest Lie Your Mother Ever Told You？ (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

Episode Stats

Summary

Transcript