00:00:32.640So hypergamy is the action of marrying or forming a sexual relationship with a person of a superior sociological or educational background.
00:00:59.120So would you guys as girls, what do you think of that? Do you think that's true with what you see?
00:01:04.760I think that's very true. I see it a lot or hear it a lot from girls like, my man's got to be making over six figures.
00:01:13.720They have to do this. They have to do that. But a lot of them aren't even making that.
00:01:18.260So, yeah, I hear that more than anything.
00:01:22.680Yeah. I do definitely agree on that. There are so many people who have a huge list of requirements when they try to find partners, especially financial status.
00:01:33.680Okay. And what about you guys? Have you guys ever found that women have rejected you for not making enough money or maybe not being, you guys are both pretty tall, but like another way is height that women reject men?
00:01:45.340Yeah. Back when I wasn't huge. Yeah. Back when I was a normal sized human being, right? I wasn't admirable by females. I wasn't really looked at as a prize in any way.
00:01:58.400But as soon as you have something that they like or you are something that they want to have, then yeah, you're going to get all the attention right then.
00:02:07.840And I think the attention comes with what they perceive as well. Like if you're around, you know, whoever you're around, if they're around, the guys that you're around, they've got swag and they'll automatically think that, yeah, you've got swag in it.
00:02:22.460Because birds of the same feather flock together kind of thing. So it depends on your circle. And if the girls are seeing that a lot of girls want you as well, they'll want a piece of that.
00:02:32.640Yeah. I mean, so have I experienced a time where girls rejected me? I mean, girls reject guys all the time. So like, yeah, it's just about what they see, to be honest.
00:02:44.280You know, so part of hypergamy is that women all want a very small percentage of men. So this is something that literally blew my mind when I first started, when I first started like watching this content.
00:03:00.640If you ask 80% of women what they want in a man, they list 20% of men. So the reason that girls say things like men are trash, men are the problem is because we're all sleeping with the same ones.
00:03:37.620And so it's kind of the curse of as, as like, as I'm tall, I'm six foot. So I understand, I understand it. But, but it's kind of a curse in a way, because if you're six foot or tall, or you're looking for a guy that's six foot or taller, you're competing with everyone, because all the girls want him, even the short girls.
00:04:05.540It doesn't make sense to me. I'm like, you're five, you're five foot. You can get somebody that's five, five, he's going to be five inches taller than you. You don't need nobody that's six foot. Leave it to the tall people.
00:04:14.340And it's, it's interesting because after I learned this stat, I would start to like walk into a room. Right. And I would just look at it differently. And there's a whole group of men that like women just don't, we do not see. Like the guy behind the checkout counter at McDonald's. Like, and I would, I would start to take notes in a room if there was like 10 guys in it, like how many I was actually attracted to. And I was like, damn.
00:04:38.100And the crazy thing is 20% is the high end. Like there are some studies that say it's 5%. There's some studies that say it's 10%. Like basically five to 20% of men are sleeping with all of the girls.
00:05:01.500It's actually pretty funny when, when you actually think about it because, um, you see it in school all the time. When you're growing up, you see these kind of like social hierarchies happening in school. You'll see that, you know, it's either the athlete, the guy that, you know, is playing football or, you know, the rapper, the guy that everyone knows as a rapper in school, like all the girls like him or the football player, all the girls like him or the funny guy, you know, the comedian, you get me? All the girls like him.
00:05:29.520But, um, it's like the boring guys at all, the more quiet guys are the, it's more the majority of boys in school anyway. When you see it, it's no majority. And the girls just won't go for them, them kind of guys.
00:05:43.580I have this one friend, I'm not going to say his name. He's one of my closest friends from like uni time. And, uh, he looks like, I always tell my friends, he looks like a Hollister model. Like he looks exactly what you would envision a Hollister model to look like in the face, right?
00:05:58.360Hollister. Yeah. Oh, like, uh, like the clothing brand. You know, you know, those guys used to stand outside the shop shirtless randomly? Yeah, yeah, yeah. He looks like one of those, right? So I've been with this guy all night, so, and he's drunk out of his mind, can't string two words together. He will lean, lean on a bar and a girl will come to him and it'll walk out together. And it's like, whoa.
00:06:19.360Hollister. Are you saying that's not the experience of the average man?
00:06:36.360But it's interesting because like, once you, once you see this, you can't unsee it.
00:06:41.900And so once as a girl, I think as a girl, we're shielded from reality a lot. So I think men are a lot more aware of hierarchies than women. So why do you think we have movements like fatphobic and ageist?
00:06:57.140Because everyone wants to be coddled, right? It's easy to say, don't be fatphobic. It's harder to actually put the work in to lose the weight, right? Because everyone, when people say, you should just go to the gym and lose weight. I think people on the other side of that phrase, what they hear is, it's easy. It's easy. No one said it was going to be easy. Just because I said go to the gym doesn't mean it's going to be easy. You're going to have to go to the gym pretty much every day for like a year.
00:07:24.920It's for like a few months to even see any sort of changes. But it's the action of going to the gym that will help you.
00:07:31.400Yeah. And there's a lot of people who just like, they'll push it down the road, push it down the road, push it down the road. And when you push it down the road that much, it builds. So by the time you decide to actually face it, it's too big for you to deal with.
00:07:44.620Like, you know those 100 pound sisters?
00:07:50.320Yeah, one of them's lost a bunch of weight. One of them has put on an enormous amount of weight, right? Because she just kept pushing it down, pushing it down, pushing it down.
00:07:57.040Wait, she got over 600 pounds? She got fatter?
00:08:24.140Like, genuinely. And it's like, because then you watch the show and it's like, she just kept pushing it, pushing it, pushing it to the point where now she doesn't even want to tackle it because it's too much of a big task.
00:08:34.120Because now, instead of just going to the gym to lose 10 pounds, whatever, now you have to go to the gym to be able to walk first.
00:08:42.600And then from there, you can then jog or speed walk and then jog and then run because you've been neglecting it for so long.
00:08:51.060So, personally, I feel like that's basically what's going on. People just don't want to deal with their issues.
00:08:55.640And they want to blame other people for not wanting to deal with their issues.
00:08:59.360Do you think as women, we're honest to each other?
00:10:14.600So, like, I feel like girls do it in a form of like venting and then they get it out and then they, we come back down to earth and we're like, okay, that's rational enough to like bring it up to her.
00:10:23.100Where men, I think men are just more like rooted in logic.
00:10:26.740Yeah, but then if you find out that your emotional friend said X, Y, and Z about you when she was quote unquote venting.
00:11:12.640And it adjusts how I am in like the relationship with them.
00:11:19.540No, I think the same thing, like, especially if they're like, yeah, she told me not to tell anyone this, but I'm telling you, I'm like, that is the last time I share anything ever.
00:11:31.520Well, for me, it's because when I was in sixth form, I became really good friends with this girl.
00:11:43.960So having a female best friend, which is, I advocate for everyone to have a really close friend from the opposite sex because it benefits you in more ways than one.
00:11:52.420So you think that 100% I got, I got, I got to, I got, yeah, I think men and women can be friends, but it's down to how mature you are as individuals.
00:12:01.080Do you find, so if she, if she tried to sleep with you, would you say no?
00:12:03.900Yeah, I mean, I'm in a relationship right now.
00:12:08.060So obviously that's no, but like, yeah, so, so if you wasn't in a relationship, you'll sleep with her.
00:12:14.720I think, I think personally, right, from, from having a, we've been so close for so long that I now see you as a sister.
00:12:42.380I'm playing, I'm playing in a relationship.
00:12:43.980I think it's going to be, because the thing is, like, like I said, it's down to the, the individuals themselves, right?
00:12:48.580It's not, it's like, it's one of those things where like, I can't make a blanket statement of all males and could be friends with all females, because it's not true.
00:12:54.600It depends on the female, it depends on the male.
00:12:56.900Me and my friend have got to a point where we now see each other as just family members rather than friends.
00:13:02.620So, I think for us, personally, just for our situation, which I know we hate doing, we're talking about niche situations in the grand scheme, but like, it really comes down to how you guys communicate with each other.
00:13:16.480And like, yeah, because the thing is, she knows that I fancied that when we first started.
00:13:22.000Do you know, I think, like, my opinion on your situation, it's, uh, you've got to a point with that girl where, you know, you don't want to ruin the friendship.
00:13:32.880And, but I think if there was, she gave you some sort of hall pass where you don't ruin the friendship, but you can still hit, I think you'll take that, bro.
00:13:43.360But isn't maturity knowing when to do things and when not to do things?
00:13:49.880I'm going to say my, but yeah, I really do generally think that it's, it's really a thing where like, it's, it's an individual bit because not everyone's coming in there.
00:14:14.520I think what I would say is, is there a possibility that in that dynamic of your friendship with that female, the roles changed and where it was once upon a time you liked her, the fact that you're still friends and you're now in a relationship, maybe she likes you.
00:14:29.440And that's what's holding that friendship together.