JustPearlyThings - December 24, 2022


When Men Should End A Relationship


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

194.73438

Word Count

2,500

Sentence Count

14

Misogynist Sentences

21

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the topic of leaving a home and the reasons behind it. We discuss the role of a single parent and the impact it can have on a child. We also discuss the importance of having a good relationship with your partner and how to deal with a partner who is not the father of your child.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I have a question for the panel. Since we talked a little bit about
00:00:04.960 earlier about what I thought was a good reason to break up a home, what do you
00:00:08.080 guys think is a good reason? I'm just going around. Mental abuse, physical
00:00:12.960 abuse, not really adultery. Yeah I'll say mental or physical abuse. Mental and physical abuse.
00:00:20.000 Okay what about you? I think DV, any sort of abuse and I do think
00:00:27.760 repeated adultery. Repeated adultery, okay. About the same abuse, anything that leaks
00:00:35.140 into the child's life and therefore affects the child, yeah it's good enough
00:00:40.240 reason for you to leave. Mine is solely mental abuse but only because I've seen
00:00:45.400 the impacts that it's had on people around me and how it affects not only the
00:00:50.640 child but their interactions with other people and potentially the difficulties
00:00:56.200 that they face finding a new person as well so definitely mental abuse. Yeah I
00:01:01.960 would say death. Death? Yeah. To death do I ask. Isn't that what we signed like isn't that what we said when we
00:01:09.000 was up there like do you know I mean it's like okay so my it's very easy for men to
00:01:14.140 be like you physically I mean you mentally abuse me like he mentally abused me like
00:01:19.120 women are the king of games bro from the minute from the minute we started this
00:01:22.600 relationship he was mentally abusing me so now now now we're even what type of
00:01:27.220 girls do you deal with? Don't get me wrong I'm the most empathetic to men's issues I'm
00:01:34.060 just so empathetic I'm on your side but like sometimes like I do think there's
00:01:39.040 some accountability on the guys for what the women that you pick. I love black
00:01:42.320 women I love black women okay I have to coordinate around in and around black
00:01:54.200 women pearls like with two different kettles of fish yeah highly lightly they're
00:02:01.160 coming from a single parent household themselves you're coming from a double
00:02:04.560 parent household who stayed together who's shown the successful work you're
00:02:09.080 different like you're like sometimes I look at you and think raw how is she is
00:02:15.380 she a female like do you know I mean I think are you a female like because and in
00:02:19.640 England or America or in the West because that is just not a normal mindset to
00:02:24.380 have the one that you have mm-hmm the one that I'm talking about in terms of the
00:02:27.980 girls that's the normal mindset I'm the BOSS you can't tell me not and you pay the
00:02:34.400 rent you go on the first date you still can't tell me that in this yard then and
00:02:38.780 then it's super it's super common but I'm telling you I know a good amount of
00:02:42.380 girls that don't have that mindset yeah and I'm saying like there has to be I'm
00:02:47.780 with it like I understand the struggles you guys go through but there has to be
00:02:51.620 some accountability right for the men to when it comes to the type of girls you
00:02:55.400 choose to deal with because I'm a big believer like as a girl every situation
00:03:01.140 I've been is my own damn fault like I've been cheated on before and that was my
00:03:04.020 own fault because I picked him like my fault so I just think it really is
00:03:08.280 because if I if I that's who I chose it's my fault and I'm just a big believer
00:03:12.300 and like the situations you choose to put yourself in if you got two children for
00:03:16.920 two quote-unquote crazy baby mamas okay fine they're not crazy but if you've got
00:03:22.500 two children for two women and it's not going the way that you want it to go then I
00:03:29.880 said and like Pearl said maybe look at the women you're choosing bro it's not
00:03:34.920 that it's not going the way I want it to go I am accommodating them they're not
00:03:38.880 accommodating me I'm accommodating them what do you mean what does that mean
00:03:42.100 what do you mean everyone like from the okay my seeds is like your egg is
00:03:49.700 irrelevant without my seeds so we are we are making the kid together it's not
00:03:54.720 your it's not it's not your baby yes right but a lot of women come with that
00:04:00.540 mentality of it's my baby and it's true you are the father of my baby that's
00:04:05.480 because they have the leverage as a yeah in the court like the courts back them on
00:04:09.060 this yeah yeah but I mean in terms of like the attitude so it's like it's um it's my
00:04:13.760 baby but you're the father but I'm saying like you could you could pick girls that
00:04:16.580 don't have this attitude no I'm just I'm just being honest like again like it's
00:04:24.980 twice right you have to be like two baby moms with two different kids so that's
00:04:28.520 two families that aren't gonna be together yeah and and like it has to say
00:04:32.240 something about your ability to pick no no because because I'll tell you why
00:04:37.460 how many how many women how many women leave America relationships again what was
00:04:42.800 this this this this this this 70 to 80 percent oh my gosh right no I'm not so
00:04:47.060 I'm not leaving the relationship she's leaving the relationship were you in a
00:04:51.140 relationship yes no I don't even want to go into why as to okay I'll bust it again
00:04:58.460 first one first one first one I'll give to you right first like okay you had
00:05:03.800 nothing to do with it but you you it's like what what is the best predictor of
00:05:07.800 future behavior past behavior what the second one was an essay it was an essay
00:05:13.860 there we go so I did not I don't agree to to have intercourse with her what
00:05:22.560 happened she took your spam no I was I was drunk and I was sleeping and I woke up
00:05:26.460 with her on top okay yeah but you still gotta finish yeah that's why I take
00:05:34.380 responsibility for it but at the end of the day okay you're drunk you're drunk and
00:05:50.880 you're sleeping and you wake up with me in you no no no we're not dating okay you
00:05:58.080 got an erection while you were sleeping no you'd never hooked up with her no so
00:06:07.560 the first time you met this girl you were drunk and then you she found herself on
00:06:11.220 top of you and then pregnant and then yeah at the same time pretty much stop
00:06:16.440 the cap no rubber rule stuff like I find it I find it very embarrassing when you
00:06:21.520 woke up and then when you woke up and she was on top of you you did not stop you
00:06:25.020 didn't say oh my god what you doing get off me you said actually keep going and
00:06:28.620 I'm gonna go till I finish no as I said I was drunk so I'm okay yeah exactly but
00:06:34.980 you're already on me and it's I'm not gonna lie it's feeling good you're you
00:06:37.800 know I'm gonna say but it's now after I'm click like you know I'm gonna say I'm
00:06:41.460 clicking in now wait hold on a minute hold on hold on like how did you wait
00:06:45.220 what and it's like after but me as like so you look great did you tell the
00:06:52.800 police no no no no you know we don't you know we don't inform you know so it's
00:06:58.680 not it's not great if I don't inform police no no no no no no no no no no
00:07:02.160 let's not stop the story just sounds I'm just being honest where it very well
00:07:10.560 could have happened like that but it's just the story sounding like kind of
00:07:13.900 funny like it sounds like like it'd be tough for you to claim that that happened
00:07:22.480 purely because when you had the opportunity to stop yeah you did not
00:07:27.940 yeah but bro if I if it was my choice I would have put a condom on are you not
00:07:31.780 just like I'm not saying I'm not saying you wasn't I'm like I'm thinking of the
00:07:37.000 equivalent right if a guy I was seeing like that happened to me right and I
00:07:40.660 woke up and then I was like oh yeah let's keep going and then we finish then
00:07:44.100 I say after oh I was great like I think a lot of people would kind of look at me
00:07:47.500 funny right you know I'm saying like if I if I got on top and started riding
00:07:50.980 right like like and then people be like how can you say you were great if you
00:07:55.600 finished it that's why I didn't answer when you said was I great because I like okay I
00:08:00.440 I was violated SA though I was right that's what I think it was it was it
00:08:05.840 was SA and it was it wasn't great it was SA but you enjoyed it but like I mean
00:08:12.120 okay wait hold on you're drunk and I have sex with you yeah just because you
00:08:20.780 enjoy it does that mean that you agree to it well does she wake up and say stop
00:08:25.880 like get off me or does she say oh shit like and then start riding like there's
00:08:30.180 two different there's two different no you lot you lot you lot are stunting
00:08:34.140 because if I if a girl says she's drunk yeah and I had and I had intercourse
00:08:38.580 with her while she was sleeping that's automatic me cancelled bro why are you
00:08:42.240 not even trying to make excuses for the guy bro like I don't care like if she did
00:08:46.320 that to me like if I'm drunk enough to if you said stop and you like oh shit
00:08:51.180 like what are you doing I didn't say what you're doing I didn't say stop I'm
00:08:54.060 like we did we did and then what what do you mean like I'm drunk and you're on me
00:08:59.400 right in there like I would keep it the same with a girl like I would keep it the
00:09:06.300 same with a girl if she was seeing a dude and she was in a situation when
00:09:09.660 they're in bed together so I'm assuming there's some history and she wakes up
00:09:13.300 and he he's in her and if she says what the like get off of me that's one
00:09:17.400 thing but if if she finishes like then how am I gonna say that's not consensual
00:09:22.560 yeah yeah but then there's no one witness in it so they can easily turn
00:09:25.780 that around if they regret afterwards that's the thing that women do yeah I
00:09:28.460 mean don't get me there's a lot of issues in the justice system like that
00:09:31.680 definitely favorite women but I'm saying I'm keeping a stack with you I would
00:09:35.820 keep it the same a man or a woman so you're saying that if I went took like we
00:09:42.320 had like drinks or whatever we're chilling and we go back to mine and you fall to
00:09:46.620 sleep and you wake up with me on top of you pearl you're like your first fool as
00:09:53.220 a woman anyway is like raw what you doing right but you're talking about a
00:09:56.520 man now so right you can't go I'm not saying she was butters I didn't say she
00:10:01.260 was not were you planning to do it no otherwise I was planning to have sex with
00:10:05.760 her but not without a condom on right okay do you understand what I'm trying to
00:10:09.940 say like yeah she's nice and whatever but I wanted to have sex with a condom on
00:10:14.220 because of my previous no reactions though you can send it because you
00:10:18.100 didn't tell her to stop exactly so now I'm drunk now if I was in my head level
00:10:23.980 headed I would have said get off because when I when I did come around to my head
00:10:27.620 I'm like what the hell like what are you doing tell women the same thing right we
00:10:31.380 say listen if you if you go back to a guy's place right and your intention is to
00:10:37.680 have sex right and it happens and then after the fact now you're saying all of
00:10:44.440 these things people speculate as to what really happened to that mmm is that
00:10:48.840 really happened why'd you go back to his place like what were you doing on the
00:10:51.620 bed of him well if you didn't want to do it why are you that we speculate and
00:10:54.900 that's all we're doing with you this is because it just sounds a little bit
00:10:58.120 sketchy bro that's all no it's not sketchy bro I didn't mind having sex with her
00:11:03.160 but you just didn't want to do it with a condom right and I don't know you could
00:11:05.720 have stopped her before it was time to finish no you see this is this is this
00:11:08.900 is the gray area now so now this is the gray area I'm drunk I can't I'm not in
00:11:14.400 control I'm not in control just like how women say I'm not in control I'm not in
00:11:19.120 control because I'm not in my right state of mind to decide whether or not I
00:11:23.040 want to have all right when I talk to girl like I say the same thing right I say if I
00:11:28.560 get drunk and rob a store I'm still liable for robbing that store if I get drunk and
00:11:32.820 have sex like I'm not gonna put that on the guy personally I know some girls do
00:11:37.260 but this is just I'm just keeping it drunk and asleep how long between you
00:11:42.180 wait did you get it up yeah how long between you waking up realizing oh she's
00:11:47.140 on me to you finishing not very long oh so it was oh my god oh my god well not
00:11:54.320 like it was it was like I would say give it 20 30 seconds bro I'm not in my right
00:11:59.520 statement that I'm not like pre I don't like coming for I'm not I'm not one
00:12:06.660 minute man but if I'm not prepared if I'm not in my like frame to hold it out
00:12:10.760 like and I'm drunk I'm not like do you know I'm gonna say bro I'm even back the
00:12:14.940 day after I'm like did that even happen bro you know you don't understand how
00:12:18.900 drunk I was bro like I don't like hmm okay I'm not saying you're lying I'm not
00:12:25.000 gonna say you're lying I just sound sketchy that's okay I'm gonna take a
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