JustPearlyThings - December 24, 2022


When Men Should End A Relationship

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Pearl
Modern Women DON'T Look At BIG PICTURE

Episode Stats


Length

12 minutes

Words per minute

194.73

Word count

2,500

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

21

sentences flagged

Toxicity

32

sentences flagged

Hate speech

14

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the topic of leaving a home and the reasons behind it. We discuss the role of a single parent and the impact it can have on a child. We also discuss the importance of having a good relationship with your partner and how to deal with a partner who is not the father of your child.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I have a question for the panel. Since we talked a little bit about
00:00:04.960 earlier about what I thought was a good reason to break up a home, what do you
00:00:08.080 guys think is a good reason? I'm just going around. Mental abuse, physical
00:00:12.960 abuse, not really adultery. Yeah I'll say mental or physical abuse. Mental and physical abuse.
00:00:20.000 Okay what about you? I think DV, any sort of abuse and I do think
00:00:27.760 repeated adultery. Repeated adultery, okay. About the same abuse, anything that leaks
00:00:35.140 into the child's life and therefore affects the child, yeah it's good enough 0.99
00:00:40.240 reason for you to leave. Mine is solely mental abuse but only because I've seen
00:00:45.400 the impacts that it's had on people around me and how it affects not only the
00:00:50.640 child but their interactions with other people and potentially the difficulties
00:00:56.200 that they face finding a new person as well so definitely mental abuse. Yeah I
00:01:01.960 would say death. Death? Yeah. To death do I ask. Isn't that what we signed like isn't that what we said when we
00:01:09.000 was up there like do you know I mean it's like okay so my it's very easy for men to
00:01:14.140 be like you physically I mean you mentally abuse me like he mentally abused me like 0.88
00:01:19.120 women are the king of games bro from the minute from the minute we started this 1.00
00:01:22.600 relationship he was mentally abusing me so now now now we're even what type of
00:01:27.220 girls do you deal with? Don't get me wrong I'm the most empathetic to men's issues I'm
00:01:34.060 just so empathetic I'm on your side but like sometimes like I do think there's
00:01:39.040 some accountability on the guys for what the women that you pick. I love black 0.63
00:01:42.320 women I love black women okay I have to coordinate around in and around black 1.00
00:01:54.200 women pearls like with two different kettles of fish yeah highly lightly they're 1.00
00:02:01.160 coming from a single parent household themselves you're coming from a double 0.99
00:02:04.560 parent household who stayed together who's shown the successful work you're
00:02:09.080 different like you're like sometimes I look at you and think raw how is she is
00:02:15.380 she a female like do you know I mean I think are you a female like because and in 1.00
00:02:19.640 England or America or in the West because that is just not a normal mindset to
00:02:24.380 have the one that you have mm-hmm the one that I'm talking about in terms of the
00:02:27.980 girls that's the normal mindset I'm the BOSS you can't tell me not and you pay the
00:02:34.400 rent you go on the first date you still can't tell me that in this yard then and
00:02:38.780 then it's super it's super common but I'm telling you I know a good amount of
00:02:42.380 girls that don't have that mindset yeah and I'm saying like there has to be I'm
00:02:47.780 with it like I understand the struggles you guys go through but there has to be
00:02:51.620 some accountability right for the men to when it comes to the type of girls you
00:02:55.400 choose to deal with because I'm a big believer like as a girl every situation 0.79
00:03:01.140 I've been is my own damn fault like I've been cheated on before and that was my 0.64
00:03:04.020 own fault because I picked him like my fault so I just think it really is 0.91
00:03:08.280 because if I if I that's who I chose it's my fault and I'm just a big believer
00:03:12.300 and like the situations you choose to put yourself in if you got two children for
00:03:16.920 two quote-unquote crazy baby mamas okay fine they're not crazy but if you've got 1.00
00:03:22.500 two children for two women and it's not going the way that you want it to go then I
00:03:29.880 said and like Pearl said maybe look at the women you're choosing bro it's not 0.98
00:03:34.920 that it's not going the way I want it to go I am accommodating them they're not
00:03:38.880 accommodating me I'm accommodating them what do you mean what does that mean
00:03:42.100 what do you mean everyone like from the okay my seeds is like your egg is
00:03:49.700 irrelevant without my seeds so we are we are making the kid together it's not
00:03:54.720 your it's not it's not your baby yes right but a lot of women come with that 1.00
00:04:00.540 mentality of it's my baby and it's true you are the father of my baby that's
00:04:05.480 because they have the leverage as a yeah in the court like the courts back them on
00:04:09.060 this yeah yeah but I mean in terms of like the attitude so it's like it's um it's my
00:04:13.760 baby but you're the father but I'm saying like you could you could pick girls that 0.98
00:04:16.580 don't have this attitude no I'm just I'm just being honest like again like it's
00:04:24.980 twice right you have to be like two baby moms with two different kids so that's 1.00
00:04:28.520 two families that aren't gonna be together yeah and and like it has to say
00:04:32.240 something about your ability to pick no no because because I'll tell you why
00:04:37.460 how many how many women how many women leave America relationships again what was 0.89
00:04:42.800 this this this this this this 70 to 80 percent oh my gosh right no I'm not so
00:04:47.060 I'm not leaving the relationship she's leaving the relationship were you in a
00:04:51.140 relationship yes no I don't even want to go into why as to okay I'll bust it again
00:04:58.460 first one first one first one I'll give to you right first like okay you had
00:05:03.800 nothing to do with it but you you it's like what what is the best predictor of
00:05:07.800 future behavior past behavior what the second one was an essay it was an essay
00:05:13.860 there we go so I did not I don't agree to to have intercourse with her what 0.99
00:05:22.560 happened she took your spam no I was I was drunk and I was sleeping and I woke up 0.95
00:05:26.460 with her on top okay yeah but you still gotta finish yeah that's why I take
00:05:34.380 responsibility for it but at the end of the day okay you're drunk you're drunk and
00:05:50.880 you're sleeping and you wake up with me in you no no no we're not dating okay you 0.96
00:05:58.080 got an erection while you were sleeping no you'd never hooked up with her no so 0.98
00:06:07.560 the first time you met this girl you were drunk and then you she found herself on 0.86
00:06:11.220 top of you and then pregnant and then yeah at the same time pretty much stop 0.99
00:06:16.440 the cap no rubber rule stuff like I find it I find it very embarrassing when you
00:06:21.520 woke up and then when you woke up and she was on top of you you did not stop you
00:06:25.020 didn't say oh my god what you doing get off me you said actually keep going and
00:06:28.620 I'm gonna go till I finish no as I said I was drunk so I'm okay yeah exactly but
00:06:34.980 you're already on me and it's I'm not gonna lie it's feeling good you're you
00:06:37.800 know I'm gonna say but it's now after I'm click like you know I'm gonna say I'm
00:06:41.460 clicking in now wait hold on a minute hold on hold on like how did you wait
00:06:45.220 what and it's like after but me as like so you look great did you tell the
00:06:52.800 police no no no no you know we don't you know we don't inform you know so it's
00:06:58.680 not it's not great if I don't inform police no no no no no no no no no no
00:07:02.160 let's not stop the story just sounds I'm just being honest where it very well
00:07:10.560 could have happened like that but it's just the story sounding like kind of
00:07:13.900 funny like it sounds like like it'd be tough for you to claim that that happened
00:07:22.480 purely because when you had the opportunity to stop yeah you did not
00:07:27.940 yeah but bro if I if it was my choice I would have put a condom on are you not
00:07:31.780 just like I'm not saying I'm not saying you wasn't I'm like I'm thinking of the
00:07:37.000 equivalent right if a guy I was seeing like that happened to me right and I
00:07:40.660 woke up and then I was like oh yeah let's keep going and then we finish then
00:07:44.100 I say after oh I was great like I think a lot of people would kind of look at me
00:07:47.500 funny right you know I'm saying like if I if I got on top and started riding
00:07:50.980 right like like and then people be like how can you say you were great if you
00:07:55.600 finished it that's why I didn't answer when you said was I great because I like okay I
00:08:00.440 I was violated SA though I was right that's what I think it was it was it
00:08:05.840 was SA and it was it wasn't great it was SA but you enjoyed it but like I mean 1.00
00:08:12.120 okay wait hold on you're drunk and I have sex with you yeah just because you 0.99
00:08:20.780 enjoy it does that mean that you agree to it well does she wake up and say stop 1.00
00:08:25.880 like get off me or does she say oh shit like and then start riding like there's 1.00
00:08:30.180 two different there's two different no you lot you lot you lot are stunting 1.00
00:08:34.140 because if I if a girl says she's drunk yeah and I had and I had intercourse 1.00
00:08:38.580 with her while she was sleeping that's automatic me cancelled bro why are you
00:08:42.240 not even trying to make excuses for the guy bro like I don't care like if she did 0.99
00:08:46.320 that to me like if I'm drunk enough to if you said stop and you like oh shit 0.97
00:08:51.180 like what are you doing I didn't say what you're doing I didn't say stop I'm 0.98
00:08:54.060 like we did we did and then what what do you mean like I'm drunk and you're on me
00:08:59.400 right in there like I would keep it the same with a girl like I would keep it the 1.00
00:09:06.300 same with a girl if she was seeing a dude and she was in a situation when
00:09:09.660 they're in bed together so I'm assuming there's some history and she wakes up
00:09:13.300 and he he's in her and if she says what the like get off of me that's one
00:09:17.400 thing but if if she finishes like then how am I gonna say that's not consensual
00:09:22.560 yeah yeah but then there's no one witness in it so they can easily turn
00:09:25.780 that around if they regret afterwards that's the thing that women do yeah I 1.00
00:09:28.460 mean don't get me there's a lot of issues in the justice system like that
00:09:31.680 definitely favorite women but I'm saying I'm keeping a stack with you I would 1.00
00:09:35.820 keep it the same a man or a woman so you're saying that if I went took like we
00:09:42.320 had like drinks or whatever we're chilling and we go back to mine and you fall to 1.00
00:09:46.620 sleep and you wake up with me on top of you pearl you're like your first fool as 0.99
00:09:53.220 a woman anyway is like raw what you doing right but you're talking about a 1.00
00:09:56.520 man now so right you can't go I'm not saying she was butters I didn't say she 0.99
00:10:01.260 was not were you planning to do it no otherwise I was planning to have sex with 0.98
00:10:05.760 her but not without a condom on right okay do you understand what I'm trying to 0.99
00:10:09.940 say like yeah she's nice and whatever but I wanted to have sex with a condom on 0.99
00:10:14.220 because of my previous no reactions though you can send it because you 0.95
00:10:18.100 didn't tell her to stop exactly so now I'm drunk now if I was in my head level
00:10:23.980 headed I would have said get off because when I when I did come around to my head
00:10:27.620 I'm like what the hell like what are you doing tell women the same thing right we
00:10:31.380 say listen if you if you go back to a guy's place right and your intention is to 0.98
00:10:37.680 have sex right and it happens and then after the fact now you're saying all of
00:10:44.440 these things people speculate as to what really happened to that mmm is that
00:10:48.840 really happened why'd you go back to his place like what were you doing on the
00:10:51.620 bed of him well if you didn't want to do it why are you that we speculate and
00:10:54.900 that's all we're doing with you this is because it just sounds a little bit 0.99
00:10:58.120 sketchy bro that's all no it's not sketchy bro I didn't mind having sex with her 0.98
00:11:03.160 but you just didn't want to do it with a condom right and I don't know you could 0.98
00:11:05.720 have stopped her before it was time to finish no you see this is this is this
00:11:08.900 is the gray area now so now this is the gray area I'm drunk I can't I'm not in
00:11:14.400 control I'm not in control just like how women say I'm not in control I'm not in 0.97
00:11:19.120 control because I'm not in my right state of mind to decide whether or not I
00:11:23.040 want to have all right when I talk to girl like I say the same thing right I say if I
00:11:28.560 get drunk and rob a store I'm still liable for robbing that store if I get drunk and
00:11:32.820 have sex like I'm not gonna put that on the guy personally I know some girls do 1.00
00:11:37.260 but this is just I'm just keeping it drunk and asleep how long between you 0.98
00:11:42.180 wait did you get it up yeah how long between you waking up realizing oh she's
00:11:47.140 on me to you finishing not very long oh so it was oh my god oh my god well not
00:11:54.320 like it was it was like I would say give it 20 30 seconds bro I'm not in my right
00:11:59.520 statement that I'm not like pre I don't like coming for I'm not I'm not one 0.99
00:12:06.660 minute man but if I'm not prepared if I'm not in my like frame to hold it out
00:12:10.760 like and I'm drunk I'm not like do you know I'm gonna say bro I'm even back the
00:12:14.940 day after I'm like did that even happen bro you know you don't understand how
00:12:18.900 drunk I was bro like I don't like hmm okay I'm not saying you're lying I'm not
00:12:25.000 gonna say you're lying I just sound sketchy that's okay I'm gonna take a
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