JustPearlyThings - October 21, 2023


When Modern Women Hold Each Other Accountable

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Nazarene Pell
Women Are Manipulative And Spiteful This Unhinged Single Mother Gets Kicked Out For Saying This Trash

Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

197.93

Word count

1,985

Sentence count

148

Harmful content

Misogyny

9

sentences flagged

Toxicity

8

sentences flagged

Hate speech

6

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this week's episode, we're talking about cheating, cheating on a partner, cheating in a relationship and cheating on friends and family. We also hear about a woman who cheats on her partner and her friends, and how she deals with it.

Transcript

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Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
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00:00:00.000 We always do this at the end of Pal Daily, there is a surprise Reddit story, we were
00:00:05.240 just having a conversation before the show, Nazrin didn't know what Reddit is, so I think
00:00:08.820 I've now got you up to date, it's just a forum, people tell their stories, and yeah, we get
00:00:15.440 to read those stories, so let's take a look.
00:00:18.180 My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a decade, and I genuinely love him.
00:00:22.240 He is the nicest person I know, but due to some differences between us during the past
00:00:26.660 two months, I used sex with other people as an outlet and cheated on him, he found out
00:00:32.320 and broke up with me, and I fully understand and respect his decision, I'm seriously not
00:00:37.440 this type of person, and I'm a good human being, I just happen to do something bad.
00:00:42.780 His mother and I have been close for a long time, she absolutely adores me and I love her
00:00:46.420 too, we have a very close relationship, she has taught me how to knit, and I have taught
00:00:50.800 her how to make presentations and stuff, we bond really well, we are really close, and
00:00:55.340 I asked my ex if he could hide my cheating, it is something between me and him, and no
00:00:59.840 one else needs to know about it, thankfully he agreed and told his mum that we had an
00:01:03.960 amicable breakup due to mutual differences, I still visit his mum at times, and he ignores
00:01:08.980 me, which hurts a lot, but he is friendly enough at times and even smiles at me when I am around
00:01:14.240 his mother, I explained to my friend the complex situation I am in and she told me that I am
00:01:18.100 being an arsehole by letting my ex not have any room to vent, since he has told everyone
00:01:21.900 that it was an amicable breakup and we are still friends. Honestly, it was a mutual decision 0.96
00:01:25.900 and he agreed to it, so I do not think I have done anything wrong when it comes to keeping
00:01:29.400 it between ourselves. Would love a fresh perspective, thanks.
00:01:32.740 This is crazy. I feel like when someone really needs to justify that they are a good person,
00:01:39.740 chances are they are probably not. If you have to constantly say, I promise I am good, chances
00:01:47.740 are you have done a lot of stuff that would suggest that you are not. Now we don't know
00:01:50.740 this lady, really and truly, this is all we know, but from this, I would not class her as
00:01:55.740 a good person. And I actually think that she is surrounded by amazing friends, because the
00:02:01.740 friends have told her the truth. The friends have said, you are being a dick. You have put 1.00
00:02:06.740 him in a position where he has to lie to everyone about what has actually happened, he can't
00:02:12.740 get the emotional support that he probably needs during this very distressing time, and
00:02:16.740 you are being out of order. And what a great friend to tell her that, because how many friends
00:02:21.740 in this day and age would actually be that brutal and honest with you.
00:02:25.740 Usually it's like, you go girl, well done for cheating.
00:02:28.740 Whoever this girl is, you've got an amazing friend. The friend who said this to you is
00:02:32.740 Keep her around.
00:02:33.740 Keep her around, because that is a very good friend.
00:02:36.740 I'm sorry, this isn't an accident, because it wasn't just once.
00:02:39.740 I used sex with other people.
00:02:41.740 People? 1.00
00:02:42.740 People!
00:02:43.740 What?
00:02:44.740 So, it wasn't an accident, it's not a mistake. Like if it just happened once, I would
00:02:47.740 be much more, I mean not understanding, because I still don't understand it, but
00:02:52.740 I'd be a little bit more understanding. But the fact that it's like multiple people, I
00:02:57.740 just can't, it's not an accident.
00:03:00.740 Also, this whole thing is about her. You know, there is nothing about him. So, the
00:03:04.740 only thing that she actually mentions as to why this happened, because I think we
00:03:08.740 all know, like if a woman cheats, chances are that that's because something was going 0.99
00:03:14.740 wrong for well down the line. And then she's, instead of being an adult about it and bringing
00:03:20.740 it up, she's gone and cheated on him because she's not able to have a conversation about 1.00
00:03:25.740 things. But, you know, she just seems to be overcompensating for a lot. He is the nicest
00:03:30.740 person I know, but due to some differences between us during the past few months, she
00:03:34.740 doesn't then go to clarify what those differences are. She doesn't tell us what's actually happened.
00:03:38.740 She wants a fresh perspective. Actually, what I think she wants is to be reinforced that,
00:03:44.740 don't worry, you're a good person, because she didn't get that from the friend. So now
00:03:48.740 she's come on the internet and aired out her dirty laundry. Gross. Because she wants someone 1.00
00:03:53.740 online to do it for her instead of just accepting, no, I messed up. I've been awful.
00:03:59.740 I'm very ashamed of myself. I should probably fix myself to make sure I don't hurt someone
00:04:03.740 like this in the future. And again, the whole middle section is just about her relationship
00:04:08.740 with his mum. She's not even recognising what her friend is saying. She's literally come
00:04:13.740 online and told the internet what her friend is saying. And she can't even say, do you know
00:04:18.740 what? I see, I do see what she's saying. There's no acknowledgement or responsibility here.
00:04:23.740 No, but also if you love him and you love his mum and you love being around his family, why
00:04:27.740 did you cheat on him? Because, you know, I mean, you would know that he's going to air
00:04:34.740 that to them if you have that much respect. But he hasn't even been able to do that.
00:04:38.740 I know, exactly. But he probably would have if she didn't tell him not to. Like it's so,
00:04:42.740 there's something not right there. She's put her own relationship with a guy's mother
00:04:48.740 before his relationship with his mother. But also he's not being strong enough to be like,
00:04:52.740 no. Yeah, I completely agree. F off. You did this to me. I'm now going to cut you out of my life
00:04:58.740 and my son's life and I'm going to tell her what you did because, you know, people deserve to know
00:05:03.740 what you're really like. Why is he even allowing her around his mum knowing that she's got the 0.80
00:05:08.740 capability to hurt people like that? No, that's very true. Manipulate people. That's very true.
00:05:13.740 No, he needs to completely get this girl out of his life completely. It's like they're both in the wrong.
00:05:18.740 Yeah, they are both in the wrong. It's just, I guess my heart just goes out to him because he's
00:05:22.740 already been through so much. But no, you are completely right. He needs to completely
00:05:28.740 bin this girl off and get her out of his life. Just straight up tell the mum because I can guarantee you 1.00
00:05:33.740 the mum would not be having this relationship with her if she knew what actually happened. 1.00
00:05:38.740 So it's almost like he's joining in on the manipulating side as well. Yeah, he's almost hurting himself further
00:05:43.740 by allowing this to happen and his mum because it's ultimately a lie, isn't it?
00:05:48.740 Yeah. Anyway, we have an edit on this story. So she's come back to give us all an update.
00:05:52.740 I feel like a lot of you are calling me a bad person because I cheated.
00:05:55.740 Oh my God. What? People are calling you a bad person because you cheated.
00:05:59.740 How could you? How could they?
00:06:01.740 If my boyfriend broke up with me, I think I have suffered the consequences.
00:06:06.740 I am a good person and I try to be a better one each day. It's complicated.
00:06:11.740 I genuinely want opinions on the mutual decision my boyfriend and I made not to tell his mother.
00:06:17.740 I did beg and plead. In the end, it was an agreement from both sides.
00:06:21.740 So I did use my tactics of feminine manipulation, which we all know are the tears and I'm just a weak, frail little girl that doesn't know any better.
00:06:32.740 So not only have I manipulated him into a situation, but I'm also going to sit here and say that it was mutual.
00:06:40.740 What? Look, Guy, if you happen to come across this and see us reading this story, please get rid of her.
00:06:53.740 Please tell your mum. Please tell your mum.
00:06:56.740 Tell your mum. Please tell your mum. And she'll get rid of her for you. 1.00
00:06:59.740 If you are not in the position to be a man right now, that is what your mum is for. 1.00
00:07:05.740 Use her. 0.97
00:07:07.740 It's just like I understand people are flawed. Like, yeah, we sin, we make mistakes, but not multiple times.
00:07:13.740 Like it's multiple people she's cheated with. It's not that.
00:07:17.740 And she says everyone has come back and said that she's a bad person. 0.90
00:07:21.740 And instead of listening to everyone, this is how you know that that a lot of modern women are narcissistic, 1.00
00:07:28.740 because if loads of people are screaming something at you, chances are it's true.
00:07:34.740 So instead of coming back to edit and try and justify again, I'm still a good person.
00:07:41.740 Why are you all saying I'm not? Maybe you should look and go, oh, shit. 1.00
00:07:46.740 Maybe I fucked up here. 1.00
00:07:48.740 But no, the delusion wins again. 0.99
00:07:52.740 Yeah, so much delusion. It's actually hard to, it's hard to live in this society when everyone's just like, it seems like everyone's crazy, but you sometimes.
00:08:02.740 Yeah. Yeah. And that's why it's great to have you here, Nazarene, because you remind me that there are other people who are not completely bewildered with delusion.
00:08:13.740 Delusion. So, yeah. What did you guys think of that? Why don't you let us know in the comments below?
00:08:19.740 Nazarene, thank you so much for joining me here today.
00:08:22.740 Thank you for having me.
00:08:23.740 Obviously, I'm covering for Pell, so it's always great to have someone else along by my side.
00:08:29.740 Where can people find you?
00:08:31.740 So I'm on Twitter and Instagram and YouTube as well, but I don't really use that as much.
00:08:36.740 But my username is at Nazarene Veronica.
00:08:39.740 Yeah. Go check her out. She's definitely got some interesting things.
00:08:44.740 I'll say no more. Go check it out for yourselves.
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00:09:39.740 Yeah, if you like my coverage of Pearl Daily, don't worry, she's coming back.
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00:10:00.740 Take care, we'll see you next time.