JustPearlyThings - October 21, 2023


When Modern Women Hold Each Other Accountable


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

197.92601

Word Count

1,985

Sentence Count

130

Misogynist Sentences

9

Hate Speech Sentences

6


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 We always do this at the end of Pal Daily, there is a surprise Reddit story, we were
00:00:05.240 just having a conversation before the show, Nazrin didn't know what Reddit is, so I think
00:00:08.820 I've now got you up to date, it's just a forum, people tell their stories, and yeah, we get
00:00:15.440 to read those stories, so let's take a look.
00:00:18.180 My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a decade, and I genuinely love him.
00:00:22.240 He is the nicest person I know, but due to some differences between us during the past
00:00:26.660 two months, I used sex with other people as an outlet and cheated on him, he found out
00:00:32.320 and broke up with me, and I fully understand and respect his decision, I'm seriously not
00:00:37.440 this type of person, and I'm a good human being, I just happen to do something bad.
00:00:42.780 His mother and I have been close for a long time, she absolutely adores me and I love her
00:00:46.420 too, we have a very close relationship, she has taught me how to knit, and I have taught
00:00:50.800 her how to make presentations and stuff, we bond really well, we are really close, and
00:00:55.340 I asked my ex if he could hide my cheating, it is something between me and him, and no
00:00:59.840 one else needs to know about it, thankfully he agreed and told his mum that we had an
00:01:03.960 amicable breakup due to mutual differences, I still visit his mum at times, and he ignores
00:01:08.980 me, which hurts a lot, but he is friendly enough at times and even smiles at me when I am around
00:01:14.240 his mother, I explained to my friend the complex situation I am in and she told me that I am
00:01:18.100 being an arsehole by letting my ex not have any room to vent, since he has told everyone
00:01:21.900 that it was an amicable breakup and we are still friends. Honestly, it was a mutual decision
00:01:25.900 and he agreed to it, so I do not think I have done anything wrong when it comes to keeping
00:01:29.400 it between ourselves. Would love a fresh perspective, thanks.
00:01:32.740 This is crazy. I feel like when someone really needs to justify that they are a good person,
00:01:39.740 chances are they are probably not. If you have to constantly say, I promise I am good, chances
00:01:47.740 are you have done a lot of stuff that would suggest that you are not. Now we don't know
00:01:50.740 this lady, really and truly, this is all we know, but from this, I would not class her as
00:01:55.740 a good person. And I actually think that she is surrounded by amazing friends, because the
00:02:01.740 friends have told her the truth. The friends have said, you are being a dick. You have put
00:02:06.740 him in a position where he has to lie to everyone about what has actually happened, he can't
00:02:12.740 get the emotional support that he probably needs during this very distressing time, and
00:02:16.740 you are being out of order. And what a great friend to tell her that, because how many friends
00:02:21.740 in this day and age would actually be that brutal and honest with you.
00:02:25.740 Usually it's like, you go girl, well done for cheating.
00:02:28.740 Whoever this girl is, you've got an amazing friend. The friend who said this to you is
00:02:32.740 Keep her around.
00:02:33.740 Keep her around, because that is a very good friend.
00:02:36.740 I'm sorry, this isn't an accident, because it wasn't just once.
00:02:39.740 I used sex with other people.
00:02:41.740 People?
00:02:42.740 People!
00:02:43.740 What?
00:02:44.740 So, it wasn't an accident, it's not a mistake. Like if it just happened once, I would
00:02:47.740 be much more, I mean not understanding, because I still don't understand it, but
00:02:52.740 I'd be a little bit more understanding. But the fact that it's like multiple people, I
00:02:57.740 just can't, it's not an accident.
00:03:00.740 Also, this whole thing is about her. You know, there is nothing about him. So, the
00:03:04.740 only thing that she actually mentions as to why this happened, because I think we
00:03:08.740 all know, like if a woman cheats, chances are that that's because something was going
00:03:14.740 wrong for well down the line. And then she's, instead of being an adult about it and bringing
00:03:20.740 it up, she's gone and cheated on him because she's not able to have a conversation about
00:03:25.740 things. But, you know, she just seems to be overcompensating for a lot. He is the nicest
00:03:30.740 person I know, but due to some differences between us during the past few months, she
00:03:34.740 doesn't then go to clarify what those differences are. She doesn't tell us what's actually happened.
00:03:38.740 She wants a fresh perspective. Actually, what I think she wants is to be reinforced that,
00:03:44.740 don't worry, you're a good person, because she didn't get that from the friend. So now
00:03:48.740 she's come on the internet and aired out her dirty laundry. Gross. Because she wants someone
00:03:53.740 online to do it for her instead of just accepting, no, I messed up. I've been awful.
00:03:59.740 I'm very ashamed of myself. I should probably fix myself to make sure I don't hurt someone
00:04:03.740 like this in the future. And again, the whole middle section is just about her relationship
00:04:08.740 with his mum. She's not even recognising what her friend is saying. She's literally come
00:04:13.740 online and told the internet what her friend is saying. And she can't even say, do you know
00:04:18.740 what? I see, I do see what she's saying. There's no acknowledgement or responsibility here.
00:04:23.740 No, but also if you love him and you love his mum and you love being around his family, why
00:04:27.740 did you cheat on him? Because, you know, I mean, you would know that he's going to air
00:04:34.740 that to them if you have that much respect. But he hasn't even been able to do that.
00:04:38.740 I know, exactly. But he probably would have if she didn't tell him not to. Like it's so,
00:04:42.740 there's something not right there. She's put her own relationship with a guy's mother
00:04:48.740 before his relationship with his mother. But also he's not being strong enough to be like,
00:04:52.740 no. Yeah, I completely agree. F off. You did this to me. I'm now going to cut you out of my life
00:04:58.740 and my son's life and I'm going to tell her what you did because, you know, people deserve to know
00:05:03.740 what you're really like. Why is he even allowing her around his mum knowing that she's got the
00:05:08.740 capability to hurt people like that? No, that's very true. Manipulate people. That's very true.
00:05:13.740 No, he needs to completely get this girl out of his life completely. It's like they're both in the wrong.
00:05:18.740 Yeah, they are both in the wrong. It's just, I guess my heart just goes out to him because he's
00:05:22.740 already been through so much. But no, you are completely right. He needs to completely
00:05:28.740 bin this girl off and get her out of his life. Just straight up tell the mum because I can guarantee you
00:05:33.740 the mum would not be having this relationship with her if she knew what actually happened.
00:05:38.740 So it's almost like he's joining in on the manipulating side as well. Yeah, he's almost hurting himself further
00:05:43.740 by allowing this to happen and his mum because it's ultimately a lie, isn't it?
00:05:48.740 Yeah. Anyway, we have an edit on this story. So she's come back to give us all an update.
00:05:52.740 I feel like a lot of you are calling me a bad person because I cheated.
00:05:55.740 Oh my God. What? People are calling you a bad person because you cheated.
00:05:59.740 How could you? How could they?
00:06:01.740 If my boyfriend broke up with me, I think I have suffered the consequences.
00:06:06.740 I am a good person and I try to be a better one each day. It's complicated.
00:06:11.740 I genuinely want opinions on the mutual decision my boyfriend and I made not to tell his mother.
00:06:17.740 I did beg and plead. In the end, it was an agreement from both sides.
00:06:21.740 So I did use my tactics of feminine manipulation, which we all know are the tears and I'm just a weak, frail little girl that doesn't know any better.
00:06:32.740 So not only have I manipulated him into a situation, but I'm also going to sit here and say that it was mutual.
00:06:40.740 What? Look, Guy, if you happen to come across this and see us reading this story, please get rid of her.
00:06:53.740 Please tell your mum. Please tell your mum.
00:06:56.740 Tell your mum. Please tell your mum. And she'll get rid of her for you.
00:06:59.740 If you are not in the position to be a man right now, that is what your mum is for.
00:07:05.740 Use her.
00:07:07.740 It's just like I understand people are flawed. Like, yeah, we sin, we make mistakes, but not multiple times.
00:07:13.740 Like it's multiple people she's cheated with. It's not that.
00:07:17.740 And she says everyone has come back and said that she's a bad person.
00:07:21.740 And instead of listening to everyone, this is how you know that that a lot of modern women are narcissistic,
00:07:28.740 because if loads of people are screaming something at you, chances are it's true.
00:07:34.740 So instead of coming back to edit and try and justify again, I'm still a good person.
00:07:41.740 Why are you all saying I'm not? Maybe you should look and go, oh, shit.
00:07:46.740 Maybe I fucked up here.
00:07:48.740 But no, the delusion wins again.
00:07:52.740 Yeah, so much delusion. It's actually hard to, it's hard to live in this society when everyone's just like, it seems like everyone's crazy, but you sometimes.
00:08:02.740 Yeah. Yeah. And that's why it's great to have you here, Nazarene, because you remind me that there are other people who are not completely bewildered with delusion.
00:08:13.740 Delusion. So, yeah. What did you guys think of that? Why don't you let us know in the comments below?
00:08:19.740 Nazarene, thank you so much for joining me here today.
00:08:22.740 Thank you for having me.
00:08:23.740 Obviously, I'm covering for Pell, so it's always great to have someone else along by my side.
00:08:29.740 Where can people find you?
00:08:31.740 So I'm on Twitter and Instagram and YouTube as well, but I don't really use that as much.
00:08:36.740 But my username is at Nazarene Veronica.
00:08:39.740 Yeah. Go check her out. She's definitely got some interesting things.
00:08:44.740 I'll say no more. Go check it out for yourselves.
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00:10:00.740 Take care, we'll see you next time.