JustPearlyThings - When She Heard THIS

00:00:00.000 coming up next why would guys be afraid of divorce like on top of that so literally a girl can make 1.00

00:00:05.100 one phone call and get a restraining order on a guy and kick him out of a house that he pays for

00:00:09.680 and now he's pissed so then he this is like to the average guy he's paying for a mortgage on a

00:00:14.740 house that he does he's not even living in it takes him like six months to a year a lot of

00:00:18.840 times to even get to go to court yeah like and so now on top of that during that time she can

00:00:25.080 also with no evidence put him on child support so now he's on child support and he can't he's

00:00:29.780 paying a mortgage on a house that wasn't his but you're talking about rotten apples

00:00:33.520 no it's it's a lot more so i could see how on the outside looking and you might think that

00:00:41.620 because i mean probably because i've never been married and you know you kind of killing my dream

00:00:46.020 imagine imagine like would you agree that like women can be spiteful of course and like you are 1.00

00:00:53.080 the worst version of yourself when you feel really wronged by a guy right every girl like if she feels

00:00:59.140 really wronged by a guy like she does crazy things sometimes like why do you why do you hear girls

00:01:04.180 say oh he made me crazy right i wouldn't say that i'm not talking about you i'm talking about women 0.99

00:01:10.080 and so it's like you're giving women a ton of power when they're the worst version of themselves 0.99

00:01:16.640 today's today's um topic was inspired by mld

00:01:24.720 you know he went on a podcast and when he talked about you should endure in a relationship so today

00:01:33.660 we're going to talk about what should you endure in a relationship so my first question is um do you

00:01:41.820 believe in marriage and do you believe in divorce

00:01:44.040 i do believe in marriage um just haven't really had a chance to meet my person so divorce i believe

00:01:54.760 in anything that makes two people happy you know it's uh it's not something you pre-plan just sign

00:02:00.060 a contract agreement and that that's it so yeah well whatever happens as long as it works for both

00:02:06.720 okay so you do believe in divorce well i would prefer not to have a divorce that's probably why

00:02:12.900 i'm still choosing but uh if it happens it happens okay so i'm just i just want to know you do believe

00:02:19.380 in divorce in some situations yes in some situations okay fine so yeah i believe in marriage divorce not

00:02:27.360 so much okay it's that's not a fun thing i'm going through divorce okay so towards just finish completing

00:02:34.360 now so really i think with most guys we'll stick it out for the rough the troughs and the highs and

00:02:42.740 the lows but maybe uh the experience modern in the modern world is possibly uh women are less patient 0.99

00:02:51.460 okay stick it out so it sounds like it wasn't really your choice no it wasn't no it wasn't your choice

00:02:56.740 oh actually well it was a mutual it was in the end yeah yeah it was mutual okay now that i think

00:03:06.420 about it yeah wait how is it how is it mutual in the end so she brought it up and then like you

00:03:11.140 later like i don't know how i was just curious how is it one-sided then mutual well okay let's get

00:03:19.980 raw with it so every time we pretty much had an argument she she was calling an end to the

00:03:26.040 marriage each time and then after 50 times of saying i'm i don't want to be in this anymore i was like

00:03:33.280 okay okay like like i've done okay i've done with this okay yeah it's kind of an extreme version okay

00:03:42.140 but i've learned so much from it okay uh what about you do you believe in marriage and do you believe

00:03:47.580 in divorce i i grew up in a society that marriage was a must in order to be with someone and i

00:03:54.220 respect that and that's fine my parents have been together forever and that's good they're happy

00:03:58.980 and not sometimes but they're still together do i believe in divorce i believe in doing the right

00:04:06.480 thing what feels right for people because i was so into like no divorce it shouldn't happen

00:04:12.180 but then over the years and working with people that have come because can i just very quickly

00:04:18.160 give some background i i was you know i have a very sort of different way of looking at stories

00:04:24.780 because um i was uh kidnapped and then abused and so on you know and eventually when i made it through

00:04:32.800 to the uk uh after my kidnap it was very difficult for me to to to form those relationships whether it's

00:04:40.480 friendship trust or even getting married so eventually i got married and i'm happy and

00:04:46.020 everything is fine but then i work with people and they haven't gone through war they haven't gone

00:04:51.840 through kidnap but they they can relate to my story and i say why could you relate they said because i've

00:04:56.840 got war going on in the house so if there is war in the house it's completely unfair for children to be

00:05:04.580 exposed to something that is so toxic so if you recognize it's toxic you also have the the ability

00:05:12.440 to say no to what's happening to you and therefore you should go for what feels right so you should not

00:05:18.560 be selfish in terms of thinking by staying in that relationship that you are doing a favor by keeping

00:05:24.780 the kids in that relationship or even if the kids are not involved do you want to be in a relationship

00:05:30.220 that's toxic so i believe in marriage and i believe in divorce and i stand by it because

00:05:36.080 only for the right reasons i don't mean changing partners i don't mean you know just just just

00:05:42.520 divorce because you feel like it because the grass looks greener but the grass is not greener on the

00:05:47.380 other side okay so you you do believe in divorce i believe in divorce for those reasons yes okay so

00:05:53.400 what what reasons do you believe for example if there is violence if you've drifted away and you're

00:06:00.400 really genuinely unhappy okay so if you drifted apart yeah feel like you did before well i mean

00:06:07.600 we all don't feel the same as we do at the beginning but i mean more like in a sense that

00:06:12.620 one has grown and the other one has stayed stagnant okay so therefore if you feel like you're not on the

00:06:18.300 same page anymore so that no longer you are friends because relationships is friendship

00:06:23.260 how does one grow and one stay stagnant like what does that mean um well for example if one grows

00:06:29.480 in terms of following their dreams or following that what they want to do with their career

00:06:34.560 and the other one just decides to be forever the same but they then go against the other person hold

00:06:42.120 the other person back or they get a bit funny about it i mean isn't that usually isn't that usually

00:06:47.380 what happens like one person goes for their career one watches the kids usually i think she's what i think

00:06:51.480 she means like when you're too because this happened to me when you're in a relationship with someone

00:06:55.980 and one person is a little bit more focused on self-development and the other person is kind of

00:07:00.500 content with their life um when you start when you start to ascend and level up as a person like you're

00:07:05.960 it's up to you in my particular experience as a man to pull your woman up with you

00:07:11.780 and you guys level up together because eventually if you don't level up there is going to be a gap

00:07:16.880 between two of you and eventually you're going to grow apart over the years i think is that what

00:07:21.560 you mean or am i wrong absolutely i was getting there but i'm aware of time and everybody should

00:07:26.040 have their say but having been in a marriage and having been for me took a lot to be in a marriage

00:07:31.920 and trust a man and create life again because i was you know really badly bruised in so many ways

00:07:41.920 because i don't you know i don't want to get into it but you can read the book about it but

00:07:45.780 it takes courage to to give yourself fully in a relationship so i think both parties should

00:07:54.280 appreciate the fact that we are both vulnerable when you open up and you say you love each other

00:07:59.840 and love means a lot more a lot not just like you know yeah i just don't yeah i just don't

00:08:07.020 if we're talking about like kids i just don't know if you should get divorced over self-development

00:08:13.240 like one person develops one doesn't no so yeah i'm talking more as a two people

00:08:18.580 because i'm married and i have seen i had my husband live in singapore for a while on his own

00:08:25.220 and i raised the boys and i've sacrificed my career so many times and i even moved to singapore and had

00:08:32.180 to set up a business from scratch so you you do those things because you you love each other and

00:08:39.020 you support each other i'm not saying just because you're growing apart and and you should get divorced

00:08:44.260 but if you are miserable and the kids can feel it i mean it's it's a good idea to to get divorced

00:08:51.180 to speak about it and decide what's best okay what do you think yeah i definitely believe in marriage

00:08:59.180 i'm a muslim and it's a big part of our religion to get married um getting married actually completes

00:09:04.460 half our faith that's how the importance of marriage in islam so i definitely believe in it i

00:09:08.840 also believe in divorce and uh like it is a last resort um divorce is the most hated thing by allah

00:09:16.020 that's that's legal so it should be a last resort but in certain situations yeah divorce is needed

00:09:21.800 in some situations if a man's beating his wife for example she should not definitely stay stay in a

00:09:27.300 marriage but as a whole yeah i think um you should you should try and work through things i think we're

00:09:41.360 living a uh a generation now where we're just quitters whether it be it work something hard

00:09:46.360 relationships just life i think we're um a nation of quitters at the moment and i think life life's

00:09:52.760 not easy marriage definitely isn't easy and i think you should really really work through things and

00:09:58.660 really try your best to try and get through things before divorce but i think as a last resort yeah

00:10:02.540 i think divorce is sometimes needed but i think marriage is a beautiful thing okay what do you think

00:10:07.560 i definitely believe in marriage i want to get married without getting the state and my assets

00:10:12.840 what's involved but um when it comes to divorce i'm half indian and i like to refer back to my indian

00:10:19.100 people with the less than one percent divorce rate uh i definitely just think that a lot of people

00:10:27.840 right now they would rather point the finger at somebody and pull the rug on a relationship and

00:10:38.140 want to get a divorce quickly compared to working it out sitting down taking accountability on both

00:10:45.880 parties for the for their actions and no i'm not saying that if a woman is getting beaten in a

00:10:52.720 relationship she should stay or a man because that's what the detractors like to say they like 1.00

00:10:58.160 to take the most extreme example and act as if it's a blanket statement to all people who are having

00:11:05.860 troubles in a relationship but i do believe the majority of people who get divorces i believe

00:11:13.360 that the majority of those people could work through their differences however we live in this

00:11:19.160 gigantically selfish narcissistic culture nowadays around the world and i think everybody's talking

00:11:25.700 about me me me me but the thing about focusing on me me me me that's who you end up with you end up

00:11:32.540 alone and you need to be more mature as a human as an individual and you need to focus on we not me

00:11:39.280 so you should fucking endure

00:11:41.140 what do you what do you think do you believe in um do you believe in marriage and do you believe in

00:11:53.040 divorce well i've recently got engaged so congratulations i do believe in marriage i think

00:12:06.400 marriage is it's one of those things where like it's part of everyone well it should be a part of

00:12:11.580 most people's like life cycles is one of those it's two souls coming together to make one story

00:12:16.560 and make one future together which is beautiful in its own sense divorce on the other hand um it's

00:12:22.780 tricky one because no fault divorces i don't believe in and i think that's kind of the crux of a lot of

00:12:28.040 people's arguments because no fault divorce is just i i we're not into each other as much as we used to be

00:12:33.780 i'm a dip and but i'm still going to take off your stuff as i leave that side of it i'm not really

00:12:40.260 a fan of i do i do believe in divorce in diet in like you like said earlier it as a last resort

00:12:46.100 in a stage of like like a lot of going on because life is a lot of going on and life is a lot of

00:12:52.480 things but like if it was a last resort and and your life is in danger then leave but like

00:12:57.420 whatever like if it's one of those things but even in that in that situation not to

00:13:01.580 join on too much you always have it's also even trickier because bringing up the abuse thing

00:13:07.160 there are two sides of this a he was always kind of abusive and you let it go which then i have to

00:13:13.080 ask you why did you marry this person or b he wasn't abusive and he became abusive in the

00:13:19.720 relationship at some point in which i have to ask what happened because people who don't aren't

00:13:24.440 aren't aggressive and then suddenly turn aggressive that's a case study right it should be a case study

00:13:30.620 at least because not every people who aren't violent don't have the propensity for violence so if they

00:13:34.880 start doing that there has to be a underlying reason as to why that happened i saw i saw a video

00:13:40.320 of a guy a girl that was taunting a guy about his dead son and then he hit her who abused too she did 1.00

00:13:47.680 yeah emotional abuse both people emotional abuse is the same yeah i mean the reason i i steer a little

00:13:55.660 bit away from both people are wrong answer which is 100 right but he shouldn't have hit her but it's like

00:14:01.120 it's the product it's the product the bear thing you know i mean like if you put like okay if you're

00:14:07.020 in the woods and you see a bear sleeping and you poke that bear is just to wake up and it kills you

00:14:12.260 whose fault is it yeah the bear's fault for waking up and killing you and realizing it's a bear and you're

00:14:17.020 a human and why are you bugging me or you for bugging that bear continuously until it woke up and

00:14:21.340 realized you were there i think it's just like kind of a difference between like men understanding

00:14:25.660 men like i would never talk shit to this guy oh god because this guy would fuck me up but you know 0.97

00:14:33.540 some girls would be like fuck you and your tattoos and your ripped jeans or whatever you know like we 1.00

00:14:39.020 talked about it yesterday and it was funny because that girl actually she did it we say like in an

00:14:43.840 argument a woman will make a conversation personal and she started to take personal shots against me 1.00

00:14:50.680 and then you don't understand like in man world if you do certain things that it could lead to

00:14:57.840 violence i'm not saying violence is is an okay thing but when you're doing certain things to

00:15:03.680 provoke violence you shouldn't be shocked when violence happens it's an understanding that we

00:15:08.060 have between us exactly understanding yeah underlying understanding between well i just i just genuinely

00:15:13.600 believe if you're in a toxic relationship both people are playing a part you're right and i just think

00:15:18.100 it's very rare in my opinion that it's just one-sided he's hitting her with no provoke no provoking

00:15:25.620 yeah it's not like he just walks into the kitchen like what is this tuna casserole i'm not saying it

00:15:31.280 doesn't happen but i just think that the the default should be try to work it out always that should be

00:15:36.280 the default because it goes back to it goes back to the two questions was he hitting you from the

00:15:40.340 beginning or did he just start both of things that you need to figure out why and and the reasons that

00:15:45.840 you're in the situation and i think the main question sorry and i want to add it to what you

00:15:50.640 said pearl like people should work it work it through because what happens in today's modern

00:15:54.560 culture right when they when you break up with somebody they say oh yeah the best way to get over

00:15:59.880 someone is to get under someone else right because we have all these modern devices that let us cope

00:16:05.560 with avoiding responsibility for the relationship failure like back in the 90s you know 80s 90s

00:16:13.600 whatever pre-internet when someone dumped you you had to sit at home like damn i suck like what did i do 0.70

00:16:19.320 wrong now you're like it wasn't my fault you get on tinder you get on bumble you get on hinge and you're

00:16:24.080 just looking for someone else to tell you you're great instead of taking a moment to reflect on why

00:16:30.020 you fucked up in this relationship and then guess what you just carry your trauma your bad shit into 0.92

00:16:36.100 the next relationship and people do that they monkey branch you know they go from relationship to

00:16:40.300 relationship relationship next thing you know you're in your late 30s you're single you're like

00:16:43.820 damn what the fuck did i do with my life and sometimes some people in the 40s 50s i see this 0.75

00:16:48.960 happen over lifetimes you know in my in my experience it it all comes down to choices so you may have got

00:16:55.340 you may be in a relationship where you're suffering abuse you chose that person originally and there

00:17:01.140 would have been clues to the red flags yes yeah which you ignored when you were feeling you know

00:17:07.100 something oh i feel love for this person it's so cute and i just feel fluffy never mind that he's rude

00:17:12.340 to the the the the the waiter never mind that it you know is instantly jealous never mind you know

00:17:19.160 ignore all those things and then later on down the line they all these red flags come flying out and

00:17:25.500 you're like oh my god where did this come from i can't believe this oh my god i'm being attacked but

00:17:29.480 but you made the choice originally and you chose to ignore i work with a lot of clients

00:17:34.760 and they discover when i work them i say were the clues there at the beginning oh my god yes

00:17:40.060 it was there but their experiences i i everything was fine we got together and then it just went

00:17:47.080 started to turn bad because that goes back to the narcissism of today's time everybody thinks

00:17:52.640 they're the exception to the rule they're like i see these red flags but i got i got this i got this

00:17:58.820 everybody thinks they can crowbar i can change him i genuinely have no sympathy for girls that tell 0.98

00:18:05.120 me they're in a toxic relationship there is no way it was one-sided i don't believe you when you say

00:18:10.200 oh i had no idea he was a cheater it just came out of nowhere no i don't believe you

00:18:14.920 no your last three boyfriends weren't toxic it's probably you i just don't believe it

00:18:20.300 yeah but they generally believe it until you start to pinpoint and point out all the clues

00:18:25.460 that join the dots we're like oh yeah yeah you're right yeah but i think i think actually raising a

00:18:30.640 hand against a woman is a hard red line though to be to be honest yeah and look i mean then you could

00:18:36.040 say well there were indications there before and she should have picked up on them and etc etc but

00:18:40.400 ultimately the dude who does that i think he's a scumbag and i think that i think that's you know

00:18:44.640 do you think do you think even in the situation that i was saying do you think he's like just a

00:18:48.900 scumbag when because that's what we don't we don't talk about because we never have the conversation

00:18:53.440 about like women that verbally abuse men and one day they just snap i think yeah no i know what 0.99

00:18:58.420 you're saying i still restraint i can understand but actually like striking a woman it can like it's

00:19:03.420 not i think i think i mean it's it's such a tenor because i mean it's it's funny isn't it because

00:19:07.760 toxic masculinity gets talked about a lot and you know men are you know increasingly demonized and

00:19:13.180 everything else but i mean it seems to me i mean i was brought up like in the uk right and

00:19:16.840 you know it was instilled in everybody you do not raise a hand against a woman do you know what i

00:19:21.420 mean and so i think firstly that the number of guys who actually do that is incredibly small you know

00:19:26.400 subject contrary to what the belief in the culture seems to be that men are these kind of like violent

00:19:30.740 beasts who are sort of just on the rampage the whole time i think that's an incredible minority

00:19:35.120 but i do think that that ultimately yeah i mean she shouldn't have talked to the guy like that it's

00:19:39.680 absolutely horrendous but ultimately you shouldn't raise your hand against a woman i do think that's

00:19:43.160 wrong in terms of do i do i believe in marriage absolutely not it's a terrible idea

00:19:46.820 just become a passport bro what are you doing no no no i think i think the problem with legal

00:20:00.320 marriage as a few people have said i think there's a big problem with that and i think fundamentally

00:20:04.500 you are putting a legal contract to contain something that is this romantic emotional thing

00:20:10.420 as we have it now and i think that's a mistake because feelings change and and blah blah blah and

00:20:15.500 you know and what what john talks about in terms of the indian sort of arranged marriage thing

00:20:19.800 when you take the romance out the equation and you guys it's almost more of a contractual thing that

00:20:25.500 can sort of work i think what we're trying to do now is we're trying to base a legal contract on

00:20:30.020 feelings yeah and we're also in a culture that basically encourages people not to respect that

00:20:35.840 anymore so so then when we come to the question of divorce do i believe in divorce well under certain

00:20:41.260 circumstances yes but i do think if you've got to the stage where you've been in the church or the

00:20:47.200 registry office or whatever it is with that person and you've made that agreement and then you know

00:20:51.820 five years down the line you're saying oh well actually you know i'm kind of not feeling it anymore

00:20:55.340 you know we're on different paths so i'm out i think that is a bad thing i think once you've made

00:21:00.020 that commitment and i think people should think very carefully about whether they do need to make that

00:21:03.900 commitment certainly legal sense but once you've made it you really you should stay in there do

00:21:08.820 you know what i mean unless the circumstances are pretty extreme so i do agree that the divorce thing

00:21:13.340 is people i think like john said you know people we're all we're all too quick to quit that's the

00:21:19.100 problem in this day and age we're all too too quick to quit and it's too easy for us to quit so you

00:21:23.480 don't believe in marriage no but you also don't believe in divorce absolutely no no it does it

00:21:36.580 makes absolutely perfect sense because i think fundamentally the first thing is you should

00:21:40.580 think as particularly as a guy like you know come on guys you can get a passport you can get a

00:21:44.360 columbia what's the problem here you know um so firstly you've got to think carefully about that is

00:21:48.620 this what i actually want in the first place and then secondly is is a legal document what i want

00:21:53.040 that's the next thing you know is there another way to to make that long-term commitment in a

00:21:56.820 relationship with somebody without getting the state involved that's the second thing but if you've

00:22:01.500 crossed that rubicon and you have made that commitment then you've made a promise to somebody

00:22:06.180 and you know you've also if you're doing it in a religious context you've made a promise in front of

00:22:09.800 god and then five years down the line you're just going to say i'll stop that it doesn't matter

00:22:13.540 you know so i am just i kind of half agree with you i think if i wasn't religious and it wasn't

00:22:19.300 for religious reasons i think if you're not religious and you're a man and you want to get

00:22:22.060 married i think it's there's no point it only benefits the woman because if me to get married 1.00

00:22:27.700 it's a it's between it's for god i don't care about boris johnson or whoever the prime minister is

00:22:32.080 it's like i don't want to they need to sign a document however in islam we don't get like you know 0.84

00:22:35.460 you get married here and you sign the registry whatever it's not like that in islam so if we get 0.83

00:22:39.800 divorced you can't take half of nothing yeah yeah i would never get married married like

00:22:43.520 i can get married in this country she's my wife but i wouldn't get married where it's like a legal 0.99

00:22:46.980 contract binding in the country it's just a contract between us two and god because that's

00:22:50.480 what marriage is about anyway yeah exactly i would never like some muslim women and some muslim couples 1.00

00:22:55.140 they get married islamically and they also get married um legally i'd never get married legally

00:22:59.980 no way it'd only benefit the woman i'd never put myself in a situation yeah where a woman could 0.94

00:23:04.060 take half a month it's just it would never happen it's the legacy of the government anything the

00:23:08.040 government touches just fucking sucks like you know sorry so let me get this straight basically 0.99

00:23:14.680 all men are now scared of marriage because you have to share half with the woman no not share 0.99

00:23:19.540 half when you see it's when you divorce the reason give half the reason i'm not so hopeful about the

00:23:24.580 marriage why do you think about divorce because you have to be logical because because the women 0.99

00:23:30.920 women women divorce 80 percent of the time one of the number one reasons is financial you know and 1.00

00:23:37.280 there's also great incentive for women to falsely accuse men of abuse in this country because they

00:23:41.740 offer them free lawyers and it's really common they also only get access to their kid maybe 20 percent

00:23:47.420 of the time so i think i think what's more scary actually to men is not being able to see their

00:23:51.800 children and i think that is absolutely something they should be afraid economically speaking too

00:23:56.480 so divorce when you are subsidizing divorce right anything the government subsidizes it grows and

00:24:05.460 that's why right now in the uk the united states australia canada right single mother households are 1.00

00:24:13.940 growing because there is a financial incentive if i could marry a good-looking woman who is rich as fuck 1.00

00:24:21.460 and i could trick her in like three to five years and divorce her and take half of her millions 1.00

00:24:25.400 there are guys out there that would do that it's happened it's just on the other side there's the

00:24:30.480 shoes on the other foot in this situation there used to be greater safeguards against that the other

00:24:34.520 problem is you're kind of it's almost like going into casino and betting on 50 50 isn't it like is

00:24:39.240 this woman and i guess you could say the other way for argument's sake but as a guy's perspective is 0.99

00:24:45.120 this woman gonna she's made this promise to me we're gonna be together and this is gonna be it

00:24:48.920 but how do i know that in 10 15 years down the line she's not gonna be thinking well actually do you

00:24:53.900 know what i'm kind of not really feeling it anymore and my friends say i could do better and i deserve

00:24:57.640 to you know it's a you know one life women get divorced over stupid reasons yeah if you can 1.00

00:25:04.480 if you can dump somebody and get a fat payout like you know how much you know how many guys would be so

00:25:11.160 happy we have a generation of just like selfish wives because they think about their feelings before 1.00

00:25:16.380 their kids it's not about you it's about the children a word that gets banded around a lot

00:25:20.660 is happiness in marriage and i say to people why did you get married for happy like who said that

00:25:28.120 marriage will bring happiness what's that got to do so then it's not one of the reasons why people

00:25:34.740 stayed together for 20 25 years for a lifetime let's say i stayed with him because i was consistently

00:25:39.580 happy you'd never hear that well that's the problem life is ups and downs isn't it i mean you're

00:25:44.780 gonna get a modern misconception yeah you're gonna get good bits you're gonna get bad bits and the

00:25:48.340 problem is that they want to be happy the whole time and to and to answer like why would guys be

00:25:52.900 afraid of divorce like on top of that so literally a girl can make one phone call and get a restraining 0.97

00:25:57.740 order on a guy and kick him out of a house that he pays for and now he's pissed so then he this is

00:26:03.020 like to the average guy he's paying for a mortgage on a house that he does he's not even living in it

00:26:08.140 takes him like six months to a year a lot of times to even get to go to court yeah like and so now

00:26:12.660 now he hasn't seen his kid as a year on top of that during that time she can also with no evidence

00:26:17.080 put him on child support so now he's on child support and he can't he's paying a mortgage on

00:26:21.620 a house that wasn't his i spoke to one but you're talking about rotten apples

00:26:24.580 no no no no you're talking about rotten apples

00:26:28.380 well no it's it's a lot more so i could see how on the outside looking and you might think that

00:26:32.800 because i'm probably because i've never been married and you know you're kind of killing

00:26:36.620 my dream imagine imagine like would you agree that like women can be spiteful of course and 1.00

00:26:43.820 like you are the worst version of yourself when you feel really wronged by a guy right every girl

00:26:49.100 like if she feels really wronged by a guy like she does crazy things sometimes like why do you why

00:26:54.840 do you hear girls say oh he made me crazy right i wouldn't say that i'm not talking about you i'm

00:27:00.380 talking about women and so it's like you're giving women a ton of power when they're the worst 0.99

00:27:06.480 version of themselves and a lot of women like do it yeah like think about this too like let's say 1.00

00:27:13.440 you're let's say you and i are married right and you really love me oh hello and then wait a second

00:27:17.940 just bear with me on this one okay this is the first marriage so let's just say you're married to

00:27:24.720 a guy right yeah and then you catch him cheating and then he says well i'm cheating because of you

00:27:31.980 and then he divorces you and then you got to pay for his mortgage and you have to give him monthly

00:27:36.940 alimony payments and child support payments while you're watching him with his new girl side piece 0.75

00:27:43.340 okay is he carrying my child just listen because if he is just let me let me let me let me finish this

00:27:48.700 just calm down what i'm trying to say is like imagine and then you have to watch on instagram

00:27:53.640 every day him with the new girl and you know you're financing their trips to italy and them

00:27:58.380 having good time their relationship photos and all that yeah but is that fair yes but did he carry

00:28:04.000 my child did he carry it for nine miles women are so entitled man so no it's not about entitlement guys 1.00

00:28:09.340 it's not about entitlement i promise you why should we have to look after your child what do you mean

00:28:13.880 after your child it's your child as well if you've been there so when you have your child you look

00:28:18.040 after him or her and when i'm with him i'll look after him why should i have to pay for you to look after

00:28:21.800 your own child you don't pay me when i have my child so why should i have to pay you wait are we

00:28:25.940 in the same relationship or are we in different ones no i'm saying i'm saying when we split up this

00:28:30.880 is not on about when we're together this is on about when we split up okay okay he's talking about

00:28:34.780 so say if you split up for example and he's been caught cheating and then imagine now you're having

00:28:39.900 to pay for your ex-partner you've split up you're out the house now he's got his new side piece in the

00:28:44.840 house you have to pay for this he's gonna i've got two cases that's what i'm saying like how many times

00:28:50.940 have you how many times have you dated a guy and then you were stalking him and then you saw the

00:28:56.160 new girl he's with and you just made me so angry i don't stalk them usually they stalk me

00:29:00.400 guys i've got i've got two case studies to basically explain why it's a big give an answer to this

00:29:10.280 mary j blige and adele the reason i bring these two women up these are two women who got divorced 1.00

00:29:16.840 and took the male's perspective of having to pay their partners half rather than men paying them

00:29:22.300 what happened the entire internet called both those ex-husbands pussies cloud chases money hungry 0.81

00:29:30.560 they said they were only after though for money women do that all the time yeah 1.00

00:29:34.400 the most famous the most richest women in the world is only rich because she divorced bill gates 1.00

00:29:40.340 you understand jeff bezos was it 30 billion dollars she doesn't even know how to write code 0.75

00:29:48.720 you know what's crazy though i actually think it affects like average guys like i feel like

00:29:54.420 billionaires like they always recover they're fine yeah yeah they're okay no but it's the average guy

00:29:59.620 what it burned me you haven't even if it was a few million i just don't like the thought of my ex

00:30:05.240 living in a house with a new man that i paid for living in your house 1.00

00:30:10.260 i've heard that a few times i'm with you i just i think it like from the documentary i've been

00:30:18.520 doing it's like it seems to affect average guys the most because it's always like they worked for

00:30:22.700 20 years they're not the type of guys that are going to be able to like build that up or like make

00:30:26.700 another million or whatever so it like it wrecks them a lot of guys commit suicide in the process

00:30:31.060 it's really sad yeah yeah and i always find as well like in relationships when they break up like

00:30:36.600 this is what i said when i find women so entitled for example i've got a friend now best friend he's

00:30:41.520 going through he's engaged but he's going through a breakup and for some reason unbeknownst to me i

00:30:46.760 don't know why he put his missus's name on the house now they're going for a breakup she never put 1.00

00:30:50.320 nothing into the house and i know all her friends are like you deserve off that house because she's 0.99

00:30:53.820 entitled to it because like an idiot you deserve off that house this this and this bearing in mind he's 0.94

00:30:58.040 the best father ever he goes to work gets up a cracker don't pay for everything she pays for 1.00

00:31:01.560 nothing all she does is go out all of now she's going to get half of that and she feels entitled

00:31:05.540 to it and there's going to be nothing in society there's nothing wrong with it oh they spell she

00:31:08.940 deserves off see me even if i meet somebody and i've got nothing i still don't believe she deserves

00:31:13.440 half even if we build it together because it's a it's my company that i've i'd have made it with or

00:31:17.380 without you for example me boxing i'm gonna box regardless if i met you or not you definitely

00:31:23.000 deserve something if we've built come from nothing and i've built something with you you

00:31:26.720 definitely deserve something a hundred percent we don't deserve half because he wasn't with

00:31:29.540 me taking punches in the gym but you know what me shooting in the gym

00:31:32.720 yeah i'm on the flip side if i was with a woman and she made way more millions and i was together

00:31:39.700 from nothing she made millions i don't just that's not my money that's your money i'm not i'd never

00:31:43.640 as a man i couldn't take that anyway you know you know it's crazy i i think women are so delusional 1.00

00:31:48.160 they literally think they were the reason he got rich that's what they like they literally think

00:31:52.900 they're like yeah i held him down i and i'm just like well he he was gonna do it with her with that

00:31:58.460 like the guys that are gonna make a ton of money are gonna do it with or without the woman it's not

00:32:02.600 it's not about you yeah i think it i guess it depends on the specific circumstances of that

00:32:06.820 relationship but i mean it's it's just like it's so arbitrary because the problem is we're basing

00:32:10.360 everything on feels aren't we that's the difficulty and it's all very well to say well what what one

00:32:16.480 would do that and blah blah blah but but the truth of the matter is it's just so easy for people

00:32:20.980 now because you've got this eat pray love kind of culture of like oh you know you just you know

00:32:26.580 it's fomo and you've only got one life and you you know which is which is true in a sense but i mean

00:32:31.340 it's it's kind of like if you're making that commitment and you're saying to somebody hey i'm

00:32:34.940 going to spend the rest of my life with you and then you're actually incentivized to leave and it's

00:32:39.660 all sort of based in feelings and look we know that relationships have ups and downs do you know what i

00:32:44.060 mean like at first it's great you know the first few years amazing brilliant and then you know it

00:32:48.440 starts to maybe it dips a little bit it starts to get a bit dull then maybe he has problems at work

00:32:52.880 or he you know he has some health problems and stuff and then she's like well do you know what

00:32:56.280 maybe i could have done better and then she could just leave on the turn of a dime you know and that's 1.00

00:33:00.240 the problem that everyone's facing it's like it literally got walk into the casino but that's why

00:33:04.960 people should find their match because if you are a self-sufficient person and you grow and you're not

00:33:10.620 basically what we're talking about right now is problems of those who not doing s you know they're not

00:33:16.980 doing something so they just feel entitled to have it but if you are if you are a person who

00:33:22.560 continuously grows and you actually invest in yourself and your relationship and your partner

00:33:27.300 i believe those those lines become much much blurry because it it's not really about who gets what

00:33:34.000 because i'm not there to take your money i'm there because i'm there it's not just for me it's not just

00:33:39.820 about the money though i mean that's a big consideration but it's not just about the money it's also about

00:33:43.600 i'm going to make an emotional commitment to this person i'm going to put everything on the line

00:33:47.400 for them in a legal contract and then she could just decide in five years time actually sod it you 1.00

00:33:51.440 know and the average chick will divorce over literally nothing over like over literally nothing like her 1.00

00:33:57.260 emotions if she just isn't feeling it like we didn't you both say if you're not happy in the

00:34:02.820 relationship you should be able to leave yeah but happy it's not a it's not a hurdle i'm not talking

00:34:07.900 about a hurdle you know also not happy when you fall down and scratch your knee i'm not happy because i have

00:34:12.320 beautiful legs but but when they get up tomorrow i know that it's just a hurdle that i overtake right

00:34:17.700 right but i'm saying marriage isn't about happiness and so it's like why would the average guy get

00:34:21.940 married when two out of the three women on the panel believe in divorce but two of the two of the

00:34:25.880 girls here said said didn't they um along the lines of well if you guys are growing in different

00:34:31.180 directions then divorce we said okay so in an abusive situation then divorce should be allowed 0.82

00:34:35.400 absolutely everyone agrees with that right but you guys also said oh but if you guys are growing in the

00:34:40.420 wrong direction and that's a little bit intangible isn't it what does that really mean

00:34:44.820 i think it's very difficult no i agree with what what the loretta said earlier about you know when

00:34:52.720 because this happens with friendships too at least for me personally like when i dedicated myself to

00:34:57.440 becoming the successful individual that i am now it was day in and day out wake up hit the gym

00:35:03.860 eat clean work work work i mean as a fighter you probably understand the same thing right you have to

00:35:09.300 wake up every single day because in the way the world is structured your skill set whatever your

00:35:15.180 skill set have it is constantly being deteriorated because there's always a new and improved way of

00:35:21.020 doing things yeah so if you're an individual that is working on yourself day in and day out

00:35:25.980 one you are going to grow apart because they're going to be below you as you continue to ascend

00:35:30.720 and two resentment is going to build on both ends of that spectrum in my opinion i don't i don't

00:35:36.720 disagree with that but ultimately if you've got married to them and you guys have signed a

00:35:40.680 commitment together it's a bit like well because that kind of goes back to it's about being happy

00:35:45.220 when it's about a commitment yeah you know so i just that's a dude and i and i don't really think

00:35:50.140 that's as common with for men to say that as it is for women like i think that's usually code for i

00:35:55.260 out earned my husband yeah because like look at the military like if you sign up for the military

00:35:59.260 and i mean the majority of people don't desert military because you'll go to prison if you do right

00:36:05.200 but i guarantee there's people who wake up like i mean how many people that stormed normandy were

00:36:10.680 like i'm really ready to storm normandy like i'm really just ready to charge these german machine

00:36:15.760 gun nests on this impenetrable fortress of this normandy beach probably 99 if not 100 of those guys

00:36:23.320 didn't want to be there but they understand they had a duty to god and country to make these things

00:36:28.080 happen and that's a masculine thing duty you got to get it done no matter what right if you if you're

00:36:33.860 in a boxing match and you're you're you break your nose and your left eye is swollen shut but you've

00:36:38.240 got to win the fight no matter what otherwise you're going to lose and the outcome is just not

00:36:41.940 going to be beneficial to you to your career to your social media to your sponsorship deals men

00:36:47.360 got to get things done that's that's a masculine thing is duty to the cause no matter what when we're 1.00

00:36:53.440 jettisoning people into space hoping to make it back on time you know we can't just be like mid-launch

00:37:00.440 be like listen i really enjoyed the nasa training but like today i just don't want to go to space

00:37:06.560 like sorry the country and all this government financing is is depending on you so that's the

00:37:12.100 thing when you and i'm not trying to say women have no sense of duty but i'm trying to say that 0.97

00:37:16.140 marriage is a commitment and again when you incentivize people to quit on something some

00:37:24.180 people are going to take it and when you look at the bell curve of iqs and 50 percent of people

00:37:29.440 are 100 iq or less you look at a divorce rate you're kind of like okay i kind of understand

00:37:35.200 why people are just taking easy right out i also think that in my experience from what i've seen

00:37:40.000 i always find that the female's friends have a lot to do with they're more likely to get divorced i love

00:37:46.660 this guy i love this guy they're like 12 times more likely to get divorced if their friends do

00:37:52.560 something like that yes yes yes you're right even me i don't even some of my um friends partners

00:37:58.620 they're not really my i don't i wouldn't say i dislike them but they're not really my kind of

00:38:01.740 people some of them some of them i'm great i love them but some of them and when they go through

00:38:05.520 stuff i say no you should stick out you've got kids together you're like you've made a commitment

00:38:08.840 like try and work through it to the best even time and time again and i know that their friends

00:38:13.500 are like you should just leave him this and then i'm like even though i don't really like this

00:38:17.040 person i know it's good for the children and it's good for the family for them to try and work

00:38:20.680 through it and i just think if you're this person's like the her friends for example i think

00:38:25.200 do you really care more about her or do you just want her to be single so she can live the best life 0.99

00:38:28.400 of you she's got kids she's got a family to raise why are you even trying to incentivize her to leave 1.00

00:38:33.860 like that are you really a good friend because misery loves company i want to hear from you do you

00:38:41.560 believe in divorce um to be honest it's just sad that common sense isn't law yeah obviously

00:38:47.840 if a woman gets of a man they get married she cheats on him and then takes his money that just 0.99

00:38:55.040 doesn't make sense it shouldn't hold up in a court of law incentivizing bad behavior of course but it's

00:38:59.140 the reality we live in so the best we can do as men is just to choose wisely i think they used to

00:39:04.500 right they used to when you when when it was you you couldn't do that before you couldn't cheat on

00:39:10.020 your husband before like years ago and then expect to take everything i think the judge should

00:39:14.040 now hold on a minute i think i've been a bit out of order here but then they took that away

00:39:17.320 yeah that right they took that right away so you could be as bad as you want

00:39:21.240 well they they used to you used to have to like prove a reason to get divorced like you'd have to

00:39:26.240 show the judge so divorce divorce got a lot easier but also we're living in this perfect storm aren't

00:39:31.000 we because we've also got social media all you know instagram we've got the dating apps like there

00:39:36.120 are so many we're getting this stuff pumped at us the whole time you know she's she's looking at

00:39:39.660 her instagram she's looking at like the you know like hot guys whatever she's probably got 0.85

00:39:43.740 she may still have dudes like coming into her dms whatever like there's there's so much opportunity 0.57

00:39:48.960 being pumped at us the whole time particularly women who obviously have you know by and large more 0.99

00:39:53.280 options than guys do you know there's very little incentive either from a societal basis certainly not

00:39:58.900 from a legal basis but also and that coupled with the amount of opportunity she's got why wouldn't 0.77

00:40:03.760 she just think oh things are getting a bit tough do you know what sod it i can get some money out of

00:40:07.120 this so that i'll go on to the next one you know also yeah women think that they have all these 1.00

00:40:10.560 options because naturally when they go for a breakup with a man or they're going through stuff

00:40:13.600 they've got loads of men for it in the dms but women are quite naive they really think that these 1.00

00:40:16.960 men are going to marry them yeah these men yeah ghosted by a few guys have you watched me say that

00:40:24.940 in fresh and fit or you know i'm not seeing it because i see i'm like yeah look at this in my dm i'm like

00:40:31.420 yeah he wants to smash just wants to yeah exactly no yeah don't have as many options as you think

00:40:34.980 then you'll leave your man that's good for you that's so that was you might it was a good man

00:40:38.220 for you initially you might be going through some stuff you leave him and now you wonder why you've

00:40:41.220 got 30 buddies and it's not even that you want to sleep with these people you're just getting sold

00:40:44.520 a dream and you're too naive to distinguish what's right and what's wrong if a man has a good

00:40:47.440 intention he's gonna marry you yeah and that's that's what he says is a thousand percent correct

00:40:52.020 because these girls think like all these dudes are after me and each dude is like my choice of a

00:40:58.140 perfect relationship it's like no the majority of these guys i would bet 95 percent of these guys

00:41:05.040 just want to hit it and get out of there yeah you know but they they're so delusional because we

00:41:11.200 lived in this narcissistic culture and this is not a diss on women but it just the reality of the 0.83

00:41:15.660 situation is pretty true you have social media you have the government you have movies you have music

00:41:22.700 you have video games telling women 24 7 365 you're amazing you can do whatever you want

00:41:30.340 there's no consequences for what you can do mainly because you're a woman so i feel sorry for these

00:41:35.400 girls because they believe this shit and they think like oh yeah i just have all these infinite options 0.88

00:41:38.980 next thing you know they wake up they're 35 and they're crying on tiktok because they're single

00:41:43.040 this is why i love it this is why i invest so much into you know cosmetics well i just think it's

00:41:48.840 either we're equal or we're not yeah like you either think you're an equal so behave like an

00:41:53.380 equal you don't need child support you don't need alimony you're you're an equal you're a man

00:41:58.760 um they're equal what what percent actually pay 50 of the bills you're equal that's your partner right

00:42:05.780 that's what everyone says here this is my partner i've seen a number of articles recently though by

00:42:10.040 older women who've who've divorced their husband you know and then it's like 10 years later and they're 1.00

00:42:14.400 like oh i shouldn't have done that you know like i thought i thought the pastures were greener

00:42:18.320 and actually now i'm on my own i'm you know 50 the grass is not greener on the other side of the

00:42:23.420 fence the grass is greener where you water it endure

00:42:27.080 i have a question for the ladies um should you listen to your husband point blank period yes or no

00:42:37.900 no i mean it's a yes or no only

00:42:44.060 your husband says do something you don't want to know i just refer back to you just said that we're

00:42:50.580 supposed to be equal so you're gonna pay off the bills are you gonna find that are you gonna find

00:42:54.660 the burglar when he comes in the house honey honey the last guy i i stopped the last guy you gotta go

00:43:01.080 down there wait wait do you want to be in like a 50 50 partnership is that your ideal relationship

00:43:05.760 no okay okay so how would how would you how would you get into a traditional relationship with a 50 50 0.99

00:43:14.520 mindset no it's not a 50 50 mindset i just understand there are certain things where

00:43:20.320 uh we have a saying it's the man is the head but the woman is the neck you need both to to to you know 0.98

00:43:28.120 to turn around it's not just the head that's like feminist christianity no no no it's not about

00:43:33.780 feminist but what i'm saying is it takes two to tango okay i'll give you a different one it takes 0.59

00:43:37.780 two to tango so it doesn't matter who leads if the other one doesn't move you don't get in the right

00:43:43.960 direction so i believe that there are certain things where my man will stamp his foot and if it's

00:43:48.820 important to him i will respect him and i will take his decision but sometimes there will be things

00:43:54.500 that are equally important to me where i would like to find a counterpart who understands me and

00:44:00.580 says this is important to her and therefore she's the one in charge but that's still a 50 50 mindset

00:44:06.100 because a traditional mindset is he has the final say no matter what yes but it's not to say he'll

00:44:11.400 never give you your way but it's still his choice like that's a traditional mindset if you look at

00:44:15.400 writings of women like 150 years ago like the answer would just be yes this whole do i need to listen 0.94

00:44:21.120 to my of course of course it's a conflicted you know i'm still 34 i grew up in a very different

00:44:27.340 society but i'm still here i'm still here today so of course i'm absorbing but i'm learning what

00:44:32.020 works for me to be honest like i've listened to everyone i agree with pretty much everyone says

00:44:36.860 because everyone has a point but for me like say my biological dad didn't stay with my mom he didn't

00:44:43.860 he left us but my stepdad and i call him dad they've been together for 33 years and thriving

00:44:50.160 i'm still matching clothes never been away from another they travel they hold hands and that's

00:44:54.760 what i want and when i was 25 unfortunately i lost my fiancee to cancer so after that i've been

00:45:01.320 through this i still want to have that what i've envisioned maybe as a young girl as a teenager and

00:45:08.180 i still believe it's possible but of course i still adopt and i'm still here today i don't live in

00:45:13.340 the past and i'm not trying to be this new dm slide kind of uh woman either do you know who said

00:45:19.300 that quote the which one man is head but the woman is neck tell me who said that there's a canadian

00:45:27.140 actress named like ania vardalos basically it's very popular in russia we say that as a

00:45:33.340 can we dissect that phrase for a second because i've been sitting here she's a divorced feminist actress 1.00

00:45:38.340 of course oh really wait wait wait wait wait wait i just have a question wait wait wait wait the

00:45:44.080 brain is still in the head i was literally saying that that was about my body my point the brain

00:45:48.720 is still in the head but if the neck isn't even you should take the biblical perspective which is

00:45:53.660 but i already changed that to tango it's about the movement the woman the woman is the crown

00:45:58.700 on a man's head it's an accessory even with the tango wow because if you look if you just look at

00:46:05.940 society if you just look at listen because it's like a game of chess right the game of chess the

00:46:12.900 game of life is to win and sometimes the queen is the strongest piece on the board yeah do you play

00:46:22.200 chess she is the strongest yeah but the game isn't over if the queen dies yeah sometimes you got to

00:46:27.540 sacrifice the queen to make a win and then you take a pawn and get them to the other side and then she can

00:46:32.200 become a queen yeah but we check it i'm talking about couple dynamics when two people merge together

00:46:37.540 i'm not talking about the rest of the world of course he died i'm still alive i'm still living i'm not

00:46:42.240 talking about i'm not talking about your particular situation my only like point yeah i'm not i'm not

00:46:47.380 talking about your situation but i'm saying what you said when i said should you listen to your husband

00:46:51.940 if it's not a yes that's not a traditional mindset

00:46:54.940 no and i'm not saying that's wrong i'm just saying you said you would prefer a traditional

00:47:00.600 relationship so i'm just asking how you would get no that's not what i said i just said that i would

00:47:06.060 i would be so you didn't like the 50 50 right yeah i don't like the 50 50 but that doesn't mean that

00:47:11.260 i'm sitting around and expecting for things and i'm entitled no i didn't say you're no no i know i know

00:47:17.140 i'm just trying to explain yeah yeah i totally get you i totally get all of you guys and i love the

00:47:22.660 the fact that we're actually talking about it because you know sometimes you're so sure about

00:47:26.800 what you picture for yourself or what you think of and then you listen to another opinion and you

00:47:31.880 understand them and then you refer back to yourself and you think wait a second but and what do you

00:47:38.160 think now and i don't know but i believe that once again there is no one clear rule of what to say

00:47:45.300 or how to do or how to behave well something that doesn't work in one relationship may work in

00:47:51.320 another but fundamentally fundamentally should you should you it goes back to the question should

00:47:57.940 you endure once you've made that commitment in a marriage or not that's the fundamental question

00:48:02.100 isn't it yes we're gonna go back to the tango thing i've been holding on to this for a while

00:48:09.720 because it's one of those it's one of those things that's in my drop it daniel i'm like

00:48:12.400 because it's like you used it takes two to tango sure sure you're right but even in a tango

00:48:19.080 one person leads one person follows even in any two man dance one person leads one person follows

00:48:25.520 when people use that it takes two to tango thing it always gets me because it's like you're skipping

00:48:29.940 a question the question is would you lead would you would you follow his lead and we're using two

00:48:34.400 to tango which has one leader and one follower but which one are you are you the leader are you

00:48:39.240 the follower but that that's my point it's like men men don't want to get married today because

00:48:43.560 they can't get traditional wives because most women won't it won't say yes to that question 1.00

00:48:48.840 can i ask a question where are you where's your background where you from um russia brazil sweden

00:48:54.020 oh okay okay whereabouts in russia uh st petersburg nice okay i was there in 21 actually i spent a lot

00:49:01.420 of time in russia but that's a very traditional no no no no but but so you're coming you're coming

00:49:06.160 traditionally cheaters well no well not you not you not you not you but ironically ironically the um

00:49:12.980 the divorce rate in in russia is actually quite high isn't it and russia women get some of the

00:49:17.400 most i think russian women get the most abortions in the world i don't know about that i'm pretty sure 1.00

00:49:22.640 i don't know about that i think they are it's it's russia number one america number two china number

00:49:27.580 three i'll look it up to make sure yes i'm basically looking at the countries they're just

00:49:31.260 you judging by population not by actually hooked up by headcount there's 20 million in russia

00:49:36.300 20 million in russia 1.3 million in china i know you want to buy what is the point you're making

00:49:42.960 with that stuff because exactly what are you trying to say these things are angry about stats

00:49:48.120 they're numbers you can prove a number of things with that stuff yeah i'm gonna ask vietnam's number

00:49:53.880 two i'm shocked russia's number one vietnam's number two it could be down to resource all sorts of

00:49:59.660 stuff wow exactly but i'm not sure what you were trying to say this wasn't a personal attack on you

00:50:06.540 of course it's not it's not a personal attack on you i'm not worried about that but what i'm trying

00:50:11.340 to explain obviously you heard russia and you you had uh which is fine totally fine you know i still

00:50:17.840 value and respect your opinion but what i'm saying is i grew up in so many different countries that it's

00:50:23.360 very hard it's like the same way when people ask me where are you from and it's so hard for me to

00:50:28.260 answer where i'm from because when you've lived in three four different countries and i believe i'm

00:50:33.060 a global citizen and i believe i can have a place anywhere so it's not about the no that's fair

00:50:39.720 enough no it's about adaption you adapt then i adapt it also i pick and choose from anything that i like

00:50:45.680 if i i believe that this oh i love this it's actually it's tough i'm biracial too so they're like

00:50:50.280 where are you from like well yeah we break out the only break out the genealogy tree here and kind of

00:50:55.020 break it down to you it's completely it's completely fair enough in your guys in your guys cases but

00:50:58.740 sometimes it's just interesting to sometimes to get a sense of where somebody if somebody is from

00:51:02.760 an individual country because sometimes that then colors their yeah that was honestly to context

00:51:07.240 me and that was an inside joke between us because we're always like russian girls always cheat 1.00

00:51:10.600 so that's what that's where it was but we weren't we weren't saying you

00:51:14.040 sorry i'm not even brazilian but i have i've seen it trust me

00:51:17.760 thank you babe

00:51:18.180 the number one cheaters in south

00:51:20.600 the number one the number one cheaters the number one cheaters in south america are the colombians 1.00

00:51:26.620 yeah the colombians

00:51:27.520 this is like generalizing guys it's not fair

00:51:29.760 the colombians are crazy

00:51:30.580 oh my gosh do you know what i just realized oh my gosh i grew up with nannies from around the world

00:51:35.780 so every year we had a different nanny from a different country

00:51:38.320 the one that one married my cousin and she did cheat on him and she was russian 1.00

00:51:44.520 i'm sorry

00:51:48.460 i was like no

00:51:50.620 yeah but you're from america right

00:51:53.800 yeah yeah

00:51:54.680 yeah so she was just wanted to get a visa

00:51:56.500 that's not you're not talking about a woman she doesn't need a visa 0.99

00:51:59.300 i didn't say all i just said all the all the nannies came from these different countries

00:52:03.100 you did it i don't know

00:52:04.340 yeah

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