Why Female Therapists ABSOLUTELY SUCK!!!
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Summary
Where have all the good women gone? Why are there not more good women in society? Why is it so hard to find a good woman? What are the reasons why there aren t many good women anymore?
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Today, we're going to talk about where have all the good women gone?
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So one thing I always hear is where have all the good men gone, right, in society.
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However, I just started looking up some stats, okay?
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The average age of first child is 26, which is before the average age of first marriage,
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The average number of partners for a woman is between four and eight.
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And when women get above five partners, their chance of a happy marriage goes from 80% to
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And if men pick the wrong woman, they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken
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And on top of that, 70% of women, 60, 70% of women are overweight in the U.S.
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So the question is, how does a guy identify a good woman?
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And what percent of women do you think are good women?
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I think mostly it's looks, but that's not how they do it.
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If a woman, you know, can really show this man that she respects him.
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What percent of women do you think are good women?
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I would say, good woman, what do you mean by that?
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I think a good woman is probably less than 10% these days.
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So I feel like the reason why there's not much good women out there is because no one
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really knows how to heal and recover from their past relationships and traumas.
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Wouldn't good women not be, like, broken to begin with?
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And so I feel like they found ways to heal and they've, like, taken time out to isolate
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And I feel like maybe then they will be able to move forward and find the right partner
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And I feel like why the percentage may be so low is because no one's really willing
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Because whenever I hear, like, this stuff, no offense, like the shadow work, the healing,
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Like, never, like, real concrete steps of, like, so if you're a woman and you're trying
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So you're trying to, like, your ego, you know, the dark side of you, the side that you
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So you're trying to, like, kind of tame that and work on your insecurities and all the
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I mean, for me personally, I write down, I journal stuff.
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So I write things down, my fears or things I don't like about myself or that I want to
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change or that I feel I'm expressing maybe in the wrong way.
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And so I try and, like, find ways to fix that and just, you know, work on the side.
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You know, like, if I want to lose weight, you go to a personal trainer and they say,
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like, good, bad, like, how do you hold yourself accountable to...
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Oh, doing research, finding a routine, making sure that you're consistently keeping up with
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But, like, whenever I hear girls, like, talk about this, it just sounds like, okay, I write
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in my journal and I Google things online and I try to be better, but there's no, like,
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accountability, like, anyone keeping you in check to, like, show that you are getting
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I think most people don't have anyone to keep them in check.
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If you really want to change, then you will make sure that you get that shit done.
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Right, so, so, so if you're talking to a guy and he says, like, okay, you, you said
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I was broken before, I'm healed now, like, what steps would you show him that I am now
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You're able to be more compassionate and less judgmental and more open and vulnerable.
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Because, like, I was just thinking, like, if you want to concrete steps, it's, like, married
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mentors, maybe a male therapist, like, that sort of thing.
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I just never hear, whenever I hear women's self-improvement, it's always, like, be more
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confident, write in a journal and Google things.
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No fact, like, respectfully, so I just, I just don't understand it.
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I've tried, personally, I've tried therapy, and I've, and the first time I tried it, I
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walked out in an anger and rage that I was, like, fuming.
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And the second time, I told her, look, it's not going to work.
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I've been to therapists before, and I just thought therapy was, like, stupid for the
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And now I'm in school for psychology, and I see the women that are therapists, and they're
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I would not go to therapy for any of these girls.
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They're just getting paid to do what they need to do.
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But, but I do think there are some male therapists that are helpful.
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I've never had a male therapist, and I wouldn't go to a male therapist.
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Because I need to, I need to connect with a woman that's, like, do you know what I
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Not necessarily, but I feel like women connect easier.
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No, I think, I think women look to comfort, and men look to solve problems, and that's
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why I don't think therapy works when they're women.
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Most of the time, there's exceptions, because, like, men, like, women are just
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They're going to tell you what you want to hear, where men will tell you how to
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But the problem is, like, women, we never want to fix it, like, actually fix it.
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I'm not in therapy anymore, but the first four years, it was a woman, and the last four
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years, a man, and I'm not in therapy anymore, and I'm like, I'm good now, but that's because
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it was a man, not a woman, because when I was with a woman, they would just sit there
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and soak in all my issues and all the problems, and there was never a solve or a solution.
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What's your, like, and they call everything trauma.
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It's just so that psychologists can make money off of it.
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I do believe in, like, war trauma, like, from war.
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Like, I think if a guy goes to war and sees things, that's real trauma.
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But the way we use it today, my ex-boyfriend cheated on me.
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Don't you think there's something called unhealed baggage that we'd be carrying with
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us because we haven't overcome how we felt in the last relationship?
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But most of modern-day problems are really nothing compared to, like, 100, 200 years ago.
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You could get the plague and, like, die, you know.
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Because I feel like, personally, I've been through so much.
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The reveling in the story is what a lot of the women therapists were using.
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And they were, you know, really listening to your story and giving a lot of emphasis to it.
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And the therapists were like, no, no, don't talk about it.
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How did your life change from going from 300 pounds to, I don't know what you are now,
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But basically, I was, you know, I think part of the problem was because I was in therapy
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for so long, and nobody told me in therapy that there was anything wrong with me.
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I didn't have a good relationship with my father at the time.
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And nobody was saying, oh, you need to lose the weight.
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And it wasn't until one day I looked in the mirror and I'm like, I don't want to be like
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And to be honest, the body positivity movement crushed my soul and told me, oh, you should
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be, you know, you're beautiful no matter what size you are.
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You're beautiful no matter, you know, how much you weigh.
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I thought it was okay because no one said anything.
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And I could be sitting here if 300 pounds are enough.
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I didn't make the decision to say, Penelope, you need to get your butt off the couch and
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What do you, do you think that contributes to 70% of women being overweight in the U.S.?
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No, I just think that, I think that the fact that people are obese and that they make all
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these excuses for, oh, I'm obese because of this, I'm obese because you can lose weight
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It's just about finding the right way to do it.
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And what do you think of the women that say we need like representation in magazines, we
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need fat chicks on the cover, Victoria's Secret fashion show.
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It does because I've been there and not only that, but you are showing thousands and millions
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of women in the world that it is one, okay to be unhealthy, two, okay to be slowly killing
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yourself and three, okay to go outside and dress provocatively with your rolls out.