JustPearlyThings - August 16, 2023


Why Feminists And Soy Boys Use Shaming Tactics

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Pearl Zerka James David Kristen Dude
This Is Why Women Shouldn't Vote The Hard Truth About FEMINISM

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Length

11 minutes

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221.72

Word count

2,448

Sentence count

358

Harmful content

Misogyny

31

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Toxicity

32

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Hate speech

21

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of women having a say in the education of their children, the role of women in society, and the role that women should have in our children's education. We also discuss why women are not as smart as their male counterparts and how we can change that.

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00:00:00.000 I mean, I think what Pearl is saying is obviously right.
00:00:03.600 Like, I do not, because I've had a lot of conversations like this with my husband.
00:00:07.680 I do believe that women should not vote. 1.00
00:00:09.900 Because even back then, it was like, the husband knew what was appropriate and good for his family.
00:00:15.000 So he had, I mean, I did tell him, which he did agree with me.
00:00:18.320 I think the only thing that women should have a say for something is actually regarding the schooling of their kids. 1.00
00:00:23.940 Not the toxicity it is now.
00:00:25.400 But back then, because the mothers are taking care of the kids. 0.99
00:00:27.880 They're going to the PTAs because the dads are working.
00:00:30.080 The dads are doing what they need to do to provide for the family.
00:00:32.420 So she's doing the parent-teacher conferences.
00:00:34.640 So she should be able to say, like, no, honey, we shouldn't vote for this or this or this.
00:00:38.940 What they want to change in the schooling.
00:00:40.540 But that's it.
00:00:41.640 Like, that's it.
00:00:42.700 I mean, I don't like negativity towards people because I gave Zerka a lot of crap for that, the way he spoke to people. 0.83
00:00:50.580 So I don't necessarily, I agree that women are not the brightest today's day and age. 1.00
00:00:54.340 They are very toxic. 0.68
00:00:55.040 They're not.
00:00:55.380 But I would never say, like, we should just, I mean, I'm not saying, what she's saying is true. 0.99
00:01:00.580 Who gives a shit what these women feel? 1.00
00:01:02.260 Because feelings is irrelevant. 0.99
00:01:03.600 It's about logic.
00:01:04.740 Yeah.
00:01:05.060 But I agree with what she's saying that Kristen's saying that, like, well, we need to be able to.
00:01:10.580 We have to show them the way.
00:01:11.880 We need to be, there needs to be women out there that are actually educating these women. 1.00
00:01:15.860 Being like, hey, you want to know why you're so dumb and this shit isn't working for you? 1.00
00:01:19.560 Here's why. 1.00
00:01:19.740 This is the reason why this shit isn't working for you. 0.99
00:01:21.980 Otherwise, you're just going to get a bunch of guys going, yeah, I agree with you. 0.99
00:01:25.460 Yeah.
00:01:26.120 Instead of girls going, you know what? 0.99
00:01:28.500 I actually want to listen to her.
00:01:30.260 You know, I think, I think that actually women respond better to social shaming than men.
00:01:35.700 Yeah.
00:01:35.900 Actually, like women respond very quickly to social shaming. 0.99
00:01:38.800 Just because it's all about their feelings.
00:01:40.080 Yeah, we care a lot what other people think.
00:01:42.320 So I actually think negative social shaming would be more effective.
00:01:46.060 I think the last hundred years, what we've done is we've been soft and nice to women.
00:01:50.700 I'm not saying we have to be soft.
00:01:50.980 And we come into, wait, wait, wait.
00:01:52.720 And we come into industries and we police the way that men talk.
00:01:55.480 Oh, that's what I'm saying.
00:01:56.500 We do, no, no.
00:01:57.640 I see conservative, I'm not saying you, but I'm saying I see conservative women do this all the time. 1.00
00:02:02.160 They'll say, like, there was a study that came out where it was saying that women were more liberal.
00:02:06.700 You know about the teenagers, the women were more liberal. 1.00
00:02:09.340 What is the first thing the women do? 1.00
00:02:11.300 Well, guys, it's how you're talking.
00:02:12.880 We have to talk the way that we feel is the best way to talk to get these young women. 1.00
00:02:17.680 When it's like, who gives a shit what the idiot women think? 1.00
00:02:20.160 Most women are idiots when they're 16. 1.00
00:02:22.740 And so it's like. 1.00
00:02:24.700 I agree, but you're talking to women like a man would talk to women instead of a woman talking to women. 0.55
00:02:30.480 And that's what they do.
00:02:31.180 Do you understand?
00:02:32.020 Do you understand the difference?
00:02:33.380 And you know what's the crazy thing is I've been more effective than any other woman in the space.
00:02:37.740 Well, because you're putting yourself out there.
00:02:39.900 And congrats to you for doing that.
00:02:42.300 Because I care about truth.
00:02:42.500 But more women would be listening to you. 1.00
00:02:44.760 But nobody's listening to you.
00:02:46.820 So why are you coming here telling me?
00:02:48.320 Because I'm not even putting myself out there.
00:02:52.940 It's like if you had the ultimate recipe.
00:02:56.660 That was murder.
00:02:57.260 If you had the ultimate recipe of how to speak to women, then they'd listen to you. 1.00
00:03:01.420 That's the funny thing.
00:03:03.500 That's the crazy thing.
00:03:04.580 The whole point of what you're doing.
00:03:05.480 It's like women come in and say, I have the best way to speak. 1.00
00:03:08.380 I know how to speak.
00:03:09.660 I'm the ultimate speech police.
00:03:10.600 What is your purpose?
00:03:13.680 My purpose is objective truth.
00:03:15.800 I think that we need to look for things that are true.
00:03:18.180 And we need to stop caring about how we feel and look for what is true.
00:03:22.060 Exactly.
00:03:22.840 That's just flat, guys.
00:03:26.880 Here's Zerka.
00:03:27.680 We got Zerka back. 0.98
00:03:28.980 I agree.
00:03:30.020 I would agree with that.
00:03:31.320 I will leave.
00:03:32.200 So, look, I want to shift over to the independent boss successful women and masculinity. 1.00
00:03:38.900 Fuck them. 1.00
00:03:39.720 Fuck them. 1.00
00:03:40.320 I'm just kidding. 1.00
00:03:41.020 But you're one of them.
00:03:41.820 You're one of them.
00:03:42.420 I am. 1.00
00:03:42.860 Fuck me. 1.00
00:03:43.400 That's what I'm saying. 1.00
00:03:44.740 I'm not. 1.00
00:03:45.560 I just said I'm a piece of shit and I ain't worth a lot. 0.99
00:03:48.060 That is not true. 1.00
00:03:48.960 I'm saying that. 1.00
00:03:49.860 I'm such a piece of shit. 1.00
00:03:50.980 I'm such a piece of shit. 1.00
00:03:51.240 Okay. 1.00
00:03:51.500 So, yes.
00:03:53.760 Western culture, especially in America.
00:03:56.200 I'm an independent boss woman, right?
00:03:58.500 All these women want to. 1.00
00:03:59.540 I can have both.
00:04:00.880 I said they can't have both.
00:04:02.160 You can't have both.
00:04:03.120 One has to sacrifice the other.
00:04:04.440 I can be really successful, be CEO of a company, be successful in a relationship or married.
00:04:08.340 What are your thoughts when you're working with couples or individuals or men dating and
00:04:12.700 they want to meet a girl that's very successful? 0.57
00:04:14.860 What do you tell them?
00:04:16.340 Your priorities are all wrong.
00:04:18.780 What are you doing?
00:04:20.160 It only works when they work together.
00:04:23.120 So, my friend James was, my friend James always tells this story, right?
00:04:26.760 So, he was on a date in Mexico.
00:04:29.460 He was in Mexico in Tulum, you know, it's kind of fancy place.
00:04:31.860 Oh, yeah.
00:04:32.100 I know where Tulum is, yeah.
00:04:33.220 And he was on this date and he met this woman.
00:04:35.320 She was like a New York kind of ball buster-y type woman, like 35, like, hey, man, you know, 0.58
00:04:39.280 like lawyer or whatever.
00:04:40.560 They wanted this date and on dates he does this thing, the question game, where you ask a
00:04:44.520 question, she's got to answer it and then she asks a question, you know, back and forth.
00:04:48.220 And her first question to him was, so what was your bottom line last year?
00:04:52.700 Oh, God.
00:04:54.060 And he was just like, all right.
00:04:56.220 See you later.
00:04:57.400 Got up in the water.
00:04:58.280 So, that's the problem with those types of women. 1.00
00:05:03.000 They can be very masculine, very sort of confrontational and great, you know, but it's not attractive
00:05:10.780 or it's not attractive.
00:05:12.080 I don't think to dudes, I think it's attractive to some dudes because they don't feel they've
00:05:16.600 got any options.
00:05:17.320 They don't really know what's possible and they're just like, okay, well, this is how
00:05:20.460 things are.
00:05:20.840 I accept this, you know?
00:05:22.620 Yeah.
00:05:22.820 But for most guys, they don't want to accept that kind of energy and that's why we've got
00:05:27.380 all these passport bros who are going over to Columbia and these other places.
00:05:31.460 We scared them off.
00:05:32.840 Exactly.
00:05:33.740 But I don't think it displays femininity, right?
00:05:36.200 Exactly.
00:05:36.440 Because it's way too masculine.
00:05:37.800 So, it doesn't show that a woman is actually feminine, which is what men find attractive
00:05:42.260 in a woman is their femininity. 1.00
00:05:43.860 And I mean, I don't like the word pure. 1.00
00:05:45.720 I think that's stupid. 0.99
00:05:46.540 Like, nobody's pure. 1.00
00:05:47.700 No man, no woman is, like, pure. 1.00
00:05:49.660 Yeah.
00:05:49.980 I mean, well, except for those two, except for those two little cute guys like that.
00:05:53.760 He's back.
00:05:54.340 He's back.
00:05:54.760 He's back.
00:05:55.660 People like that.
00:05:56.860 But, like, that's people that actually have that.
00:05:59.140 Yes.
00:05:59.660 So, somebody brought this up, but there's, and I don't call relationships partnerships.
00:06:04.640 I hate that term.
00:06:05.320 That was David.
00:06:06.400 Yeah, that was David.
00:06:07.460 We were talking about that in the back.
00:06:09.400 Oh.
00:06:09.700 It's feminist language. 1.00
00:06:10.920 Yeah.
00:06:11.180 They just get it in there.
00:06:12.280 Oh, okay.
00:06:12.780 Yeah.
00:06:13.200 Because there's no partnership.
00:06:14.320 Mm-hmm.
00:06:14.740 Yeah.
00:06:15.220 It's a relationship, right?
00:06:16.460 Yeah.
00:06:16.620 I'm leading the household.
00:06:17.740 You're following.
00:06:18.400 And why do women have a problem with this? 1.00
00:06:20.640 I see this all the time.
00:06:21.500 Oh, because we're, like, so controlling naturally.
00:06:24.280 Just, like, yeah, we just want to control everything.
00:06:26.360 I got a question.
00:06:28.240 How old are you now?
00:06:29.040 I'm 26.
00:06:29.920 Okay.
00:06:30.140 I'm putting her in the hot seat in a good way. 1.00
00:06:32.720 What's your, what's your, we need to get you married. 0.99
00:06:35.800 Do you think you'll get married in the next two to three years?
00:06:38.500 Did you find the right guy?
00:06:39.460 Yeah.
00:06:40.020 Okay.
00:06:40.240 But for you to find the right guy, we talked about this.
00:06:42.380 I know the odds are against me.
00:06:44.220 I want to know what that looks like for you.
00:06:46.520 That's a mindset.
00:06:47.660 No, it's a fact.
00:06:48.460 I'm going to tell you why.
00:06:49.120 Yes.
00:06:49.820 I just like to make jokes.
00:06:51.480 No, but how tall are you?
00:06:53.260 I'm six foot.
00:06:54.960 Six feet tall.
00:06:56.680 Okay.
00:06:57.140 I'm not going to talk about her income, but I know.
00:06:58.840 No, I'm a business guy.
00:07:00.620 I crunch numbers.
00:07:01.540 That's what I do.
00:07:03.220 Okay.
00:07:03.660 So he's got to be over six feet tall.
00:07:05.680 He's got to make a lot of fricking money.
00:07:07.760 Okay.
00:07:08.260 That's okay.
00:07:08.740 But she's competing with a lot of women. 1.00
00:07:11.880 Well, she has to learn to not compete.
00:07:14.660 You want to talk about that?
00:07:15.820 What?
00:07:16.200 If you don't compete for that.
00:07:17.780 You have to take the back seat.
00:07:19.880 That's okay.
00:07:20.360 No, I think he's talking about competing.
00:07:21.320 No, no, no.
00:07:21.760 I'm not talking about competing.
00:07:22.740 She's talking about your husband.
00:07:23.280 I'm talking about she's competing with a lot of women for that one guy. 1.00
00:07:28.080 But she doesn't even have to go into it with that mentality because she's already proving 1.00
00:07:32.160 herself in this arena.
00:07:33.560 You want to talk about that?
00:07:34.700 She's already proving herself in this arena.
00:07:37.400 Wouldn't she be considered the masculine because you're powerful. 0.98
00:07:42.240 You're a woman who has their own podcast. 1.00
00:07:44.180 You're very vocal.
00:07:45.260 Yeah, pearl.
00:07:46.200 Yeah, come on, pearl. 1.00
00:07:47.000 Very confrontational.
00:07:47.960 That's where you just have control over all of that.
00:07:51.960 Wow.
00:07:52.620 I don't know what part of what I want to address first.
00:07:54.760 You have control over all of that.
00:07:55.380 Well, I want to make it interesting because nobody asks that.
00:07:58.400 Nobody asks you, right?
00:07:59.560 I'm not coming at you, but it's like people, you should see all the messages I get from
00:08:03.820 man.
00:08:04.040 After she came on my podcast, I should have like charged him $5.99 for it.
00:08:07.820 I got it.
00:08:08.380 I got it.
00:08:08.760 Can you tell Pearl that I'm six feet tall?
00:08:11.580 I mean, and she's, I'll marry her.
00:08:13.380 Can I tell you what happened after that podcast?
00:08:14.620 No, tell me what happened.
00:08:16.900 I feel bad because he was actually super nice, but this is kind of a funny story.
00:08:20.940 So I'm going to tell it.
00:08:21.580 So I'm sorry.
00:08:21.980 Oh my God.
00:08:22.340 What happened?
00:08:22.600 I'm sorry if you see this.
00:08:24.060 No, I went on a date and he saw the podcast and I, and he was like, oh, I'll take you on
00:08:29.380 a date.
00:08:29.620 And I was like, okay.
00:08:30.300 And he was like, yeah.
00:08:31.120 So I meet all your requirements.
00:08:32.380 Like, let's get married.
00:08:34.160 Oh, wait, what?
00:08:38.340 I was like, wow, I am eating my words right now.
00:08:41.440 But you can't say that.
00:08:42.900 You got to get to know the person, right?
00:08:44.240 That's what I came out the gate.
00:08:45.920 Yeah.
00:08:46.220 And see, that's a turnoff.
00:08:47.800 It was.
00:08:48.420 Cause then you feel like he's simping.
00:08:49.880 That's what my guy did to me.
00:08:51.320 He should have, whoever that was, you should have called me.
00:08:53.640 We will.
00:08:53.940 I'll coach you through it.
00:08:54.740 I would have got you engaged to Pearl. 0.61
00:08:57.180 If you want to date Pearl, come to me.
00:08:59.540 I have a process.
00:09:00.740 I'll work with Troy.
00:09:01.640 Try and make it work together.
00:09:03.040 I actually don't feel like I need a guy that makes more money.
00:09:05.920 I kind of want to.
00:09:06.640 But that goes against hypergamy. 0.66
00:09:08.080 No, I know.
00:09:08.640 What does your ideal guy look like?
00:09:10.580 I'm curious.
00:09:11.520 Let's talk about it, Pearl.
00:09:12.340 I got to go, guys.
00:09:13.360 I got to go.
00:09:14.400 I've been thinking about.
00:09:16.140 Oh, you got to run?
00:09:16.680 You're leaving?
00:09:17.280 Yeah, I do.
00:09:17.580 Thank you.
00:09:18.100 Nice to meet you.
00:09:19.260 Nice to meet you.
00:09:20.160 Me too, yes.
00:09:20.960 Okay, let's talk about it, Pearl.
00:09:22.560 So, Pearl, this is the intervention.
00:09:24.540 Oh, the intervention.
00:09:26.480 It's not.
00:09:27.180 It's an intervention.
00:09:28.000 It's like the date shows.
00:09:28.960 Troy and me are going to coach the guys.
00:09:30.300 We're going to be the filter.
00:09:31.180 We're going to take the applications.
00:09:32.840 Okay.
00:09:33.240 Okay.
00:09:33.720 So, let's talk about your guy.
00:09:35.360 Go ahead.
00:09:36.160 No, I'm curious.
00:09:36.940 If you had to picture your ideal guy, what do you think?
00:09:42.220 Someone like my dad.
00:09:43.700 Oh, my God.
00:09:45.740 I'm going to pull the Jay Waller.
00:09:47.220 Don't do it.
00:09:47.780 But are you anything like your mom?
00:09:50.440 No, remember what Jay Waller said?
00:09:51.820 And you got bent out of shape before the podcast?
00:09:55.080 No, I don't remember.
00:09:55.880 Jay Waller was talking about how high-value men cheat.
00:09:58.460 Oh, yeah.
00:10:00.160 I may love that woman with all my heart.
00:10:02.000 Yeah.
00:10:02.640 I mean, my dad's just such a sweetie.
00:10:04.820 Like, you.
00:10:05.420 I mean, people can think what they want.
00:10:07.320 But my dad's like.
00:10:08.640 I'm not going there.
00:10:10.320 He's never had social media.
00:10:12.240 But, no.
00:10:13.340 I find that a winner.
00:10:14.560 Yeah.
00:10:15.100 No, my dad is like actually the best person.
00:10:17.300 Yeah, he sold a successful software company.
00:10:19.540 The guys.
00:10:20.620 And then gifted the software company location.
00:10:25.620 Oh, yeah.
00:10:26.140 He gave me a building the other day.
00:10:28.660 What?
00:10:29.800 Dude, the place.
00:10:31.020 That's going to be extremely hard for you to find a guy.
00:10:33.400 The guy that's actually going to genuinely love you.
00:10:35.340 Then all the things that you actually have to offer.
00:10:37.820 So, that's more of a challenge for you.
00:10:39.200 You know, it's funny.
00:10:39.720 I have a dowry.
00:10:41.120 I do.
00:10:41.720 I come with like eight acres of land.
00:10:44.840 Dude.
00:10:45.180 Okay.
00:10:46.000 Pearl?
00:10:46.480 Pearl?
00:10:46.840 I swear.
00:10:47.340 My dad bought a neighborhood.
00:10:49.540 It's going to be very nice.
00:10:50.100 It's going to be pretty wild.
00:10:52.440 I maybe should move.
00:10:53.240 Okay.
00:10:53.800 Is there's a Nun? 0.70
00:10:54.660 I can say that I was quite 100% here and I think that's my household because it's
00:10:57.100 going out of its way.
00:10:57.660 It's going to walk more than to get me with you.
00:10:59.500 You see that.
00:11:00.220 Thank you.
00:11:00.400 You see, the commenting is coming all the way ì‹œers are ideally at a?
00:11:01.400 You see, if anyone takes for me, you see me.