JustPearlyThings - March 14, 2023


Why Good Men Can't Get Any Women


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

221.73961

Word Count

2,025

Sentence Count

155

Misogynist Sentences

16

Hate Speech Sentences

13


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I think that would be a win for women if the younger person was more mature.
00:00:09.860 Because sometimes you get a younger man who's more mature than the other man you've left.
00:00:14.400 Is it rare? It's rare though, isn't it?
00:00:17.140 I'm a rarity.
00:00:19.100 Yeah, but is the man rare? I know you're a rarity.
00:00:22.820 No, there's a lot of good young men out there.
00:00:25.460 No, but then if you're actively going out seeking a younger guy saying,
00:00:28.660 oh yeah, this is going to make my husband thought, shit, I'm going to go with that.
00:00:33.280 He's going to be like, oh, he's probably more sexually active, probably more good looking,
00:00:37.040 probably has better things coming for him.
00:00:38.660 I think that's kind of low-key tapped.
00:00:41.600 High-key, in fact.
00:00:42.880 If you're thinking about getting with someone to degrade someone that you've been with before,
00:00:46.640 it kind of just shows your character.
00:00:48.060 And I don't think that's how we should be approaching it, especially right now.
00:00:50.940 And as women, I don't think that's how we should approach it
00:00:52.920 before we get labelled as stuff we don't want to.
00:00:54.500 I agree.
00:00:55.120 I think that's getting with someone for a different reason.
00:00:57.000 That's slag behaviour.
00:00:57.800 Antti, don't you think, if it's like a 40-year-old woman and a 25-year-old man,
00:01:04.840 what future could there be, no matter how nice of a young man he is?
00:01:09.020 She'll get good sex for about 10 years before he leaves her.
00:01:12.920 I'll be up for that.
00:01:15.620 But no, I mean.
00:01:19.860 Okay.
00:01:21.820 So would you say that's a win then for her?
00:01:23.600 Oh, it's a win for her.
00:01:24.640 Good on her.
00:01:27.420 That's what I was saying.
00:01:30.620 They talk about equality, innit?
00:01:32.520 And that younger man, well, good on him.
00:01:34.940 He's out there with an older woman who's got a bit of dosh.
00:01:37.020 Why not?
00:01:38.180 I think some men like older women.
00:01:41.780 And I don't know whether it's mummy issues,
00:01:43.320 but I feel like they like to be mothered.
00:01:45.360 And I think older women tend to wrap them up and look after them.
00:01:51.220 Yeah.
00:01:51.660 In that sense.
00:01:52.400 No, I just think that older women knows how to look after a man
00:01:55.340 rather than young people nowadays.
00:01:57.080 So what you might see as mothering might be just a traditional woman
00:01:59.900 looking after a man.
00:02:01.320 And that's what it is.
00:02:02.460 Because if you get an older woman now
00:02:04.080 and she decides to go and give her man dinner on a,
00:02:07.400 go and cook dinner and put it on the tray,
00:02:09.040 you'd be like, see what I mean?
00:02:11.280 And you might think, oh, she's mothering him.
00:02:12.880 But that's what women do.
00:02:14.220 Well, and younger guys,
00:02:15.720 like the guys that I know that will go for older women,
00:02:18.800 it's typically because they want casual sex
00:02:20.640 and they just think it's easier to get it from them.
00:02:22.980 Yeah, that's what I said.
00:02:23.760 Good sex for 10 years.
00:02:24.740 Yeah, you're right.
00:02:26.980 And if it lasts longer, that's a bonus.
00:02:33.280 Would you guys ever date someone for a long period of time
00:02:35.740 knowing there's no long-term future?
00:02:39.580 What being a situationship, basically?
00:02:42.920 No.
00:02:43.580 No.
00:02:44.040 Absolutely not.
00:02:44.940 Waste of time.
00:02:45.720 You're wasting your youth.
00:02:47.000 No.
00:02:47.560 I'd do it.
00:02:48.220 I'd do it.
00:02:49.780 I'd do it.
00:02:50.380 If I didn't have that bit to do it, I'd do it.
00:02:51.800 Don't you think you may be passing past,
00:02:54.280 like someone who's right for you,
00:02:55.900 maybe you may miss them whilst wasting your time on someone else.
00:02:58.800 If you miss them, it's like a bus, isn't it?
00:03:00.040 Catch them again.
00:03:00.880 What?
00:03:01.200 I said, if you miss them.
00:03:02.140 No, she was saying that.
00:03:03.460 I'd rather.
00:03:04.000 Next one comes along.
00:03:04.960 Yeah, because, I'm sorry,
00:03:06.360 but if you're with someone and you just think,
00:03:08.060 you know what?
00:03:08.780 I mean, just thinking realistically,
00:03:10.780 you either don't have anyone and let time fast you by
00:03:14.140 and then, or use all your roses and your lips and whatever,
00:03:18.520 or you find a young man and you just think,
00:03:21.060 you know what?
00:03:21.480 I've got you for five years or I've got a man for five years
00:03:23.720 and you just enjoy yourself.
00:03:24.700 You're not looking for nothing else.
00:03:26.300 You might be a busy businesswoman that don't want a relationship
00:03:29.340 and you might have come to an agreement with someone.
00:03:31.920 Do you know what?
00:03:32.360 We're just going to see each other,
00:03:34.520 but we've got five, ten years to waste.
00:03:37.160 I personally think that only works for a short period of time.
00:03:39.720 You can only be so uncertain for a short period of time
00:03:42.100 and that initially happens at the beginning.
00:03:43.820 Maybe like, give it three, four months.
00:03:45.720 You'll probably start liking them and being like,
00:03:47.300 yeah, I want to get into a relationship,
00:03:48.200 but then they're going to use the fact that you went into
00:03:50.100 the relationship without no intention of getting together
00:03:52.460 in the future to basically go,
00:03:54.620 yeah, nah, I'm not really getting into one.
00:03:56.240 That's one of the main mistakes that women make.
00:03:58.260 That is.
00:03:58.960 So I think that only works for a short period of time.
00:04:00.940 You can only be uncertain for a very short period of time.
00:04:03.660 Sooner or later, you will end up liking the person,
00:04:05.720 believe it or not.
00:04:06.300 How soon will you guys have that conversation
00:04:08.420 of where something is going?
00:04:12.180 Is that something you guys do on the first date,
00:04:14.360 third date, a month in?
00:04:16.620 Depends who they are.
00:04:18.940 Does it not depend on before you even get to that point,
00:04:22.440 knowing where you're actually at
00:04:23.920 in terms of wanting a relationship or not?
00:04:27.060 Well, I'm saying if you want to be in something long term
00:04:30.260 and you meet a guy and go on a date with him,
00:04:33.180 how long until you ask him where it's going?
00:04:36.320 For me personally, it would be before we become intimate
00:04:39.380 or like I shed that kind of energy.
00:04:43.400 Can I just say something before you become intimate?
00:04:46.100 So how many dates are you going to go on
00:04:47.100 before you become intimate?
00:04:48.580 I'm just thinking about the guy could be taking you out
00:04:50.440 like four or five times
00:04:51.540 and then you're going to turn around and say,
00:04:53.160 no, I'd be vexed if I was a man.
00:04:55.440 I'm taking you out on five dates
00:04:56.960 and you're going to turn me out getting that for it.
00:04:58.640 I'm going to be vexed.
00:04:59.540 Let's be honest.
00:05:00.000 I'm going to be vexed.
00:05:01.220 Damonte, you're already dating.
00:05:03.240 You're getting active on the bed, man.
00:05:05.480 No, it's true.
00:05:06.840 Because you've got,
00:05:07.660 all right then, think about it from a man's point of view.
00:05:09.260 You like this girl
00:05:09.980 and you're talking,
00:05:11.400 you're going to take her out on these dates
00:05:13.020 and then after the fifth date,
00:05:14.540 she's going to be like,
00:05:15.180 you know what,
00:05:16.200 I can't really see a future.
00:05:17.800 I'll be like, give my money back.
00:05:19.580 You know what I mean?
00:05:19.960 I'm wasting my money on you.
00:05:21.220 Give my money back.
00:05:22.220 I think it should be done like from day one.
00:05:24.520 From the time you started talking like,
00:05:25.800 yeah, what's your name?
00:05:26.840 And I'm dating with intention.
00:05:28.200 You'll be like me or you don't like me.
00:05:29.340 You move on.
00:05:30.280 But to go on dates
00:05:31.200 and then turn around and say,
00:05:33.440 he should keep all the receipts
00:05:35.440 and ask his money back,
00:05:36.380 or at least 50%.
00:05:37.600 But for someone to say that
00:05:38.720 you really must not have liked the dates like that,
00:05:40.480 you're probably just focusing on trying to get
00:05:42.120 a different type of intimacy with a person.
00:05:44.660 No, the question was,
00:05:45.940 how long would it be before,
00:05:47.600 like if you're going to get serious with someone?
00:05:49.880 So to go on dates,
00:05:51.080 she's asking when.
00:05:52.200 Now I remember I said to someone
00:05:53.420 that when you meet someone,
00:05:54.580 they want to take you out,
00:05:55.440 say, you know,
00:05:56.400 what are your intentions towards me?
00:05:57.900 I'm dating with the intention
00:05:59.120 before you even go out on a date.
00:06:01.020 From the time you're going out on a date,
00:06:02.860 you're giving him false hope.
00:06:05.100 You're giving the man false hope.
00:06:06.300 From the time you said,
00:06:06.940 yes, I'm going to go on a date,
00:06:07.840 you forget, yeah, I'm in there.
00:06:09.080 And then the next date,
00:06:09.940 yeah, I'm in there.
00:06:10.680 I'm getting close on clock.
00:06:11.680 They go, no, you're not my type.
00:06:13.100 After four or five dates.
00:06:14.380 Actually, to be fair, I hear you.
00:06:15.400 I actually do hear you.
00:06:16.220 I think that's what I was trying to say before.
00:06:17.860 I think it's before knowing,
00:06:19.100 before you get to that point,
00:06:20.100 what you want going into
00:06:23.040 whether you're going to have a date
00:06:24.180 or going into a relationship.
00:06:25.540 I think...
00:06:26.380 Women know.
00:06:27.000 You can just look at a man and see.
00:06:28.160 You know.
00:06:28.660 Even before you go on a date,
00:06:29.700 you know.
00:06:30.140 So when you go on a date,
00:06:30.940 you already know.
00:06:31.860 You can tell by the first date
00:06:33.140 that you don't like him.
00:06:34.580 I mean, I kind of...
00:06:36.560 Maybe the phone call?
00:06:38.880 Text?
00:06:38.940 I mean, you know straight away.
00:06:40.560 I think you get that connection
00:06:41.760 and it is about that energy.
00:06:43.020 And I think we do feel that
00:06:45.260 and we do know
00:06:47.100 prior to going forth
00:06:48.980 with anything else.
00:06:49.860 So I do think
00:06:50.660 those that say
00:06:51.780 I just want to see
00:06:52.420 and wait and see how it goes on,
00:06:54.060 I think deep down
00:06:54.720 we truly know
00:06:55.680 before we even go to that point.
00:06:56.900 They just hedge your bets.
00:06:57.800 They just say,
00:06:58.280 you know what,
00:06:58.560 I'm going to go on dates with him
00:06:59.780 because something better
00:07:00.700 might come along.
00:07:02.200 But sometimes
00:07:02.840 you can know someone's not right
00:07:04.440 but you're highly attracted to them
00:07:06.280 so you keep going back.
00:07:09.520 And they're called toxic nowadays.
00:07:11.620 To do what?
00:07:11.960 Toxic.
00:07:12.520 To do what?
00:07:12.800 You go back to meet up.
00:07:14.180 You know, some people...
00:07:15.220 Well, there's a lot of people
00:07:16.140 that sleep around.
00:07:16.800 But they know
00:07:17.100 that it's not going to go
00:07:17.880 in furtherance.
00:07:19.080 Yeah.
00:07:19.620 Like a friends of benefit?
00:07:21.200 I feel like
00:07:21.720 if you get into a situation
00:07:22.820 where you're basically
00:07:23.760 you're friends of benefits
00:07:24.600 you've kind of already established
00:07:25.600 what is going on
00:07:26.300 in the relationship, right?
00:07:28.220 But I feel like
00:07:30.320 if you're...
00:07:31.600 Before you even go on a date,
00:07:32.940 personally,
00:07:33.520 I'd speak to the person first.
00:07:35.380 Probably like,
00:07:35.960 give it like a week.
00:07:36.860 Give it like a week or two.
00:07:38.140 You'd know if you even
00:07:38.800 want to go on the date.
00:07:40.060 That's the thing.
00:07:41.040 But for you to go on five dates
00:07:42.240 and be like,
00:07:42.940 yeah, I'm not...
00:07:43.760 If I'm being on it.
00:07:44.380 Yeah, I can see.
00:07:45.040 I can see that.
00:07:45.880 If I'm being honest,
00:07:47.460 a man has to make
00:07:48.260 my fanny flower.
00:07:49.440 If you're not making
00:07:50.440 my fanny flower,
00:07:51.760 then I feel like
00:07:53.020 there's nowhere to go.
00:07:54.160 Like there has to be
00:07:54.920 that sexual chemistry
00:07:56.020 as well as
00:07:57.180 that energy
00:07:58.480 and that connection.
00:07:59.500 I think it has to be there.
00:08:00.560 I think it is important.
00:08:01.360 But don't forget
00:08:02.560 that it's like
00:08:03.780 your fanny can flutter
00:08:04.820 at the beginning.
00:08:05.920 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:07.140 And then it's like...
00:08:07.700 What?
00:08:08.040 It's like...
00:08:08.500 Stop!
00:08:09.820 You get there
00:08:10.580 and then you're like,
00:08:11.880 are you dead?
00:08:13.120 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:14.580 All of a sudden
00:08:15.280 it just stops
00:08:15.900 and that's how women know
00:08:16.900 because the man
00:08:17.580 will still be going in there
00:08:18.500 that year
00:08:18.820 we're having sex
00:08:19.340 and be like,
00:08:19.920 you know what,
00:08:20.240 I'm dead below the waist for you.
00:08:21.840 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:22.260 And then you're just
00:08:22.800 going to build up
00:08:23.800 how to dump him.
00:08:24.940 Dumb, aren't you?
00:08:25.680 So don't follow your fanny.
00:08:28.800 No, I'm saying
00:08:29.620 don't follow your fanny
00:08:30.600 but I have to have
00:08:31.580 that fanny flutter
00:08:32.600 with somebody
00:08:33.320 that I'm going to be looking...
00:08:35.060 I think that's important.
00:08:36.180 Part of...
00:08:37.180 That's got to be
00:08:38.420 in my shopping basket.
00:08:40.000 Being able to...
00:08:40.900 That physical attraction,
00:08:41.840 that sexual attraction
00:08:42.600 with a man
00:08:43.180 as well as being able
00:08:44.060 to have that
00:08:44.540 intellectual conversation
00:08:45.500 and have that fun factor as well.
00:08:50.420 I think there's a lot of...
00:08:51.780 As many of you know,
00:08:52.820 I was just banned on TikTok
00:08:54.860 and we are demonetized
00:08:56.600 on a daily basis
00:08:57.840 on this platform.
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