JustPearlyThings - March 14, 2023


Why Good Men Can't Get Any Women


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9 minutes

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2,025

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155

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16

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In this episode, the lads discuss the pros and cons of younger men in relationships and if it's a good thing or a bad thing. Do you think younger men are better than older men in bed? Is it better to date someone younger than you? What are the benefits to younger men? And what are the downsides of dating a younger man?

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00:00:00.000 I think that would be a win for women if the younger person was more mature. 1.00
00:00:09.860 Because sometimes you get a younger man who's more mature than the other man you've left.
00:00:14.400 Is it rare? It's rare though, isn't it?
00:00:17.140 I'm a rarity.
00:00:19.100 Yeah, but is the man rare? I know you're a rarity.
00:00:22.820 No, there's a lot of good young men out there.
00:00:25.460 No, but then if you're actively going out seeking a younger guy saying,
00:00:28.660 oh yeah, this is going to make my husband thought, shit, I'm going to go with that.
00:00:33.280 He's going to be like, oh, he's probably more sexually active, probably more good looking,
00:00:37.040 probably has better things coming for him.
00:00:38.660 I think that's kind of low-key tapped.
00:00:41.600 High-key, in fact.
00:00:42.880 If you're thinking about getting with someone to degrade someone that you've been with before,
00:00:46.640 it kind of just shows your character.
00:00:48.060 And I don't think that's how we should be approaching it, especially right now.
00:00:50.940 And as women, I don't think that's how we should approach it 0.99
00:00:52.920 before we get labelled as stuff we don't want to.
00:00:54.500 I agree.
00:00:55.120 I think that's getting with someone for a different reason.
00:00:57.000 That's slag behaviour. 1.00
00:00:57.800 Antti, don't you think, if it's like a 40-year-old woman and a 25-year-old man,
00:01:04.840 what future could there be, no matter how nice of a young man he is?
00:01:09.020 She'll get good sex for about 10 years before he leaves her. 1.00
00:01:12.920 I'll be up for that.
00:01:15.620 But no, I mean.
00:01:19.860 Okay.
00:01:21.820 So would you say that's a win then for her? 0.86
00:01:23.600 Oh, it's a win for her.
00:01:24.640 Good on her.
00:01:27.420 That's what I was saying.
00:01:30.620 They talk about equality, innit?
00:01:32.520 And that younger man, well, good on him.
00:01:34.940 He's out there with an older woman who's got a bit of dosh. 1.00
00:01:37.020 Why not?
00:01:38.180 I think some men like older women. 0.99
00:01:41.780 And I don't know whether it's mummy issues,
00:01:43.320 but I feel like they like to be mothered.
00:01:45.360 And I think older women tend to wrap them up and look after them. 1.00
00:01:51.220 Yeah.
00:01:51.660 In that sense.
00:01:52.400 No, I just think that older women knows how to look after a man 1.00
00:01:55.340 rather than young people nowadays.
00:01:57.080 So what you might see as mothering might be just a traditional woman 1.00
00:01:59.900 looking after a man.
00:02:01.320 And that's what it is.
00:02:02.460 Because if you get an older woman now 1.00
00:02:04.080 and she decides to go and give her man dinner on a,
00:02:07.400 go and cook dinner and put it on the tray,
00:02:09.040 you'd be like, see what I mean?
00:02:11.280 And you might think, oh, she's mothering him.
00:02:12.880 But that's what women do. 1.00
00:02:14.220 Well, and younger guys,
00:02:15.720 like the guys that I know that will go for older women,
00:02:18.800 it's typically because they want casual sex
00:02:20.640 and they just think it's easier to get it from them.
00:02:22.980 Yeah, that's what I said.
00:02:23.760 Good sex for 10 years.
00:02:24.740 Yeah, you're right.
00:02:26.980 And if it lasts longer, that's a bonus.
00:02:33.280 Would you guys ever date someone for a long period of time
00:02:35.740 knowing there's no long-term future?
00:02:39.580 What being a situationship, basically?
00:02:42.920 No.
00:02:43.580 No.
00:02:44.040 Absolutely not.
00:02:44.940 Waste of time.
00:02:45.720 You're wasting your youth.
00:02:47.000 No.
00:02:47.560 I'd do it.
00:02:48.220 I'd do it.
00:02:49.780 I'd do it.
00:02:50.380 If I didn't have that bit to do it, I'd do it.
00:02:51.800 Don't you think you may be passing past,
00:02:54.280 like someone who's right for you,
00:02:55.900 maybe you may miss them whilst wasting your time on someone else.
00:02:58.800 If you miss them, it's like a bus, isn't it?
00:03:00.040 Catch them again.
00:03:00.880 What?
00:03:01.200 I said, if you miss them.
00:03:02.140 No, she was saying that.
00:03:03.460 I'd rather.
00:03:04.000 Next one comes along.
00:03:04.960 Yeah, because, I'm sorry,
00:03:06.360 but if you're with someone and you just think,
00:03:08.060 you know what?
00:03:08.780 I mean, just thinking realistically,
00:03:10.780 you either don't have anyone and let time fast you by
00:03:14.140 and then, or use all your roses and your lips and whatever,
00:03:18.520 or you find a young man and you just think,
00:03:21.060 you know what?
00:03:21.480 I've got you for five years or I've got a man for five years
00:03:23.720 and you just enjoy yourself.
00:03:24.700 You're not looking for nothing else.
00:03:26.300 You might be a busy businesswoman that don't want a relationship 1.00
00:03:29.340 and you might have come to an agreement with someone.
00:03:31.920 Do you know what?
00:03:32.360 We're just going to see each other,
00:03:34.520 but we've got five, ten years to waste.
00:03:37.160 I personally think that only works for a short period of time.
00:03:39.720 You can only be so uncertain for a short period of time
00:03:42.100 and that initially happens at the beginning.
00:03:43.820 Maybe like, give it three, four months.
00:03:45.720 You'll probably start liking them and being like,
00:03:47.300 yeah, I want to get into a relationship,
00:03:48.200 but then they're going to use the fact that you went into
00:03:50.100 the relationship without no intention of getting together
00:03:52.460 in the future to basically go,
00:03:54.620 yeah, nah, I'm not really getting into one.
00:03:56.240 That's one of the main mistakes that women make. 1.00
00:03:58.260 That is.
00:03:58.960 So I think that only works for a short period of time.
00:04:00.940 You can only be uncertain for a very short period of time.
00:04:03.660 Sooner or later, you will end up liking the person,
00:04:05.720 believe it or not.
00:04:06.300 How soon will you guys have that conversation
00:04:08.420 of where something is going?
00:04:12.180 Is that something you guys do on the first date,
00:04:14.360 third date, a month in?
00:04:16.620 Depends who they are.
00:04:18.940 Does it not depend on before you even get to that point,
00:04:22.440 knowing where you're actually at
00:04:23.920 in terms of wanting a relationship or not?
00:04:27.060 Well, I'm saying if you want to be in something long term
00:04:30.260 and you meet a guy and go on a date with him,
00:04:33.180 how long until you ask him where it's going?
00:04:36.320 For me personally, it would be before we become intimate
00:04:39.380 or like I shed that kind of energy.
00:04:43.400 Can I just say something before you become intimate?
00:04:46.100 So how many dates are you going to go on
00:04:47.100 before you become intimate?
00:04:48.580 I'm just thinking about the guy could be taking you out
00:04:50.440 like four or five times
00:04:51.540 and then you're going to turn around and say,
00:04:53.160 no, I'd be vexed if I was a man.
00:04:55.440 I'm taking you out on five dates
00:04:56.960 and you're going to turn me out getting that for it.
00:04:58.640 I'm going to be vexed.
00:04:59.540 Let's be honest.
00:05:00.000 I'm going to be vexed.
00:05:01.220 Damonte, you're already dating.
00:05:03.240 You're getting active on the bed, man.
00:05:05.480 No, it's true.
00:05:06.840 Because you've got,
00:05:07.660 all right then, think about it from a man's point of view.
00:05:09.260 You like this girl
00:05:09.980 and you're talking,
00:05:11.400 you're going to take her out on these dates 1.00
00:05:13.020 and then after the fifth date,
00:05:14.540 she's going to be like,
00:05:15.180 you know what,
00:05:16.200 I can't really see a future.
00:05:17.800 I'll be like, give my money back.
00:05:19.580 You know what I mean?
00:05:19.960 I'm wasting my money on you.
00:05:21.220 Give my money back.
00:05:22.220 I think it should be done like from day one.
00:05:24.520 From the time you started talking like,
00:05:25.800 yeah, what's your name?
00:05:26.840 And I'm dating with intention.
00:05:28.200 You'll be like me or you don't like me.
00:05:29.340 You move on.
00:05:30.280 But to go on dates
00:05:31.200 and then turn around and say,
00:05:33.440 he should keep all the receipts
00:05:35.440 and ask his money back,
00:05:36.380 or at least 50%.
00:05:37.600 But for someone to say that
00:05:38.720 you really must not have liked the dates like that,
00:05:40.480 you're probably just focusing on trying to get
00:05:42.120 a different type of intimacy with a person.
00:05:44.660 No, the question was,
00:05:45.940 how long would it be before,
00:05:47.600 like if you're going to get serious with someone?
00:05:49.880 So to go on dates,
00:05:51.080 she's asking when.
00:05:52.200 Now I remember I said to someone
00:05:53.420 that when you meet someone,
00:05:54.580 they want to take you out,
00:05:55.440 say, you know,
00:05:56.400 what are your intentions towards me?
00:05:57.900 I'm dating with the intention
00:05:59.120 before you even go out on a date.
00:06:01.020 From the time you're going out on a date,
00:06:02.860 you're giving him false hope.
00:06:05.100 You're giving the man false hope.
00:06:06.300 From the time you said,
00:06:06.940 yes, I'm going to go on a date,
00:06:07.840 you forget, yeah, I'm in there.
00:06:09.080 And then the next date,
00:06:09.940 yeah, I'm in there.
00:06:10.680 I'm getting close on clock.
00:06:11.680 They go, no, you're not my type.
00:06:13.100 After four or five dates.
00:06:14.380 Actually, to be fair, I hear you.
00:06:15.400 I actually do hear you.
00:06:16.220 I think that's what I was trying to say before.
00:06:17.860 I think it's before knowing,
00:06:19.100 before you get to that point,
00:06:20.100 what you want going into
00:06:23.040 whether you're going to have a date
00:06:24.180 or going into a relationship.
00:06:25.540 I think...
00:06:26.380 Women know. 1.00
00:06:27.000 You can just look at a man and see.
00:06:28.160 You know.
00:06:28.660 Even before you go on a date,
00:06:29.700 you know.
00:06:30.140 So when you go on a date,
00:06:30.940 you already know.
00:06:31.860 You can tell by the first date
00:06:33.140 that you don't like him.
00:06:34.580 I mean, I kind of...
00:06:36.560 Maybe the phone call?
00:06:38.880 Text?
00:06:38.940 I mean, you know straight away.
00:06:40.560 I think you get that connection
00:06:41.760 and it is about that energy.
00:06:43.020 And I think we do feel that
00:06:45.260 and we do know
00:06:47.100 prior to going forth
00:06:48.980 with anything else.
00:06:49.860 So I do think
00:06:50.660 those that say
00:06:51.780 I just want to see
00:06:52.420 and wait and see how it goes on,
00:06:54.060 I think deep down
00:06:54.720 we truly know
00:06:55.680 before we even go to that point.
00:06:56.900 They just hedge your bets.
00:06:57.800 They just say,
00:06:58.280 you know what,
00:06:58.560 I'm going to go on dates with him
00:06:59.780 because something better
00:07:00.700 might come along.
00:07:02.200 But sometimes
00:07:02.840 you can know someone's not right
00:07:04.440 but you're highly attracted to them
00:07:06.280 so you keep going back.
00:07:09.520 And they're called toxic nowadays.
00:07:11.620 To do what?
00:07:11.960 Toxic.
00:07:12.520 To do what?
00:07:12.800 You go back to meet up.
00:07:14.180 You know, some people...
00:07:15.220 Well, there's a lot of people
00:07:16.140 that sleep around.
00:07:16.800 But they know
00:07:17.100 that it's not going to go
00:07:17.880 in furtherance.
00:07:19.080 Yeah.
00:07:19.620 Like a friends of benefit?
00:07:21.200 I feel like
00:07:21.720 if you get into a situation
00:07:22.820 where you're basically
00:07:23.760 you're friends of benefits
00:07:24.600 you've kind of already established
00:07:25.600 what is going on
00:07:26.300 in the relationship, right?
00:07:28.220 But I feel like
00:07:30.320 if you're...
00:07:31.600 Before you even go on a date,
00:07:32.940 personally,
00:07:33.520 I'd speak to the person first.
00:07:35.380 Probably like,
00:07:35.960 give it like a week.
00:07:36.860 Give it like a week or two.
00:07:38.140 You'd know if you even
00:07:38.800 want to go on the date.
00:07:40.060 That's the thing.
00:07:41.040 But for you to go on five dates
00:07:42.240 and be like,
00:07:42.940 yeah, I'm not...
00:07:43.760 If I'm being on it.
00:07:44.380 Yeah, I can see.
00:07:45.040 I can see that.
00:07:45.880 If I'm being honest,
00:07:47.460 a man has to make 0.58
00:07:48.260 my fanny flower.
00:07:49.440 If you're not making
00:07:50.440 my fanny flower,
00:07:51.760 then I feel like
00:07:53.020 there's nowhere to go.
00:07:54.160 Like there has to be
00:07:54.920 that sexual chemistry
00:07:56.020 as well as
00:07:57.180 that energy
00:07:58.480 and that connection.
00:07:59.500 I think it has to be there.
00:08:00.560 I think it is important.
00:08:01.360 But don't forget
00:08:02.560 that it's like
00:08:03.780 your fanny can flutter
00:08:04.820 at the beginning.
00:08:05.920 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:07.140 And then it's like...
00:08:07.700 What?
00:08:08.040 It's like...
00:08:08.500 Stop! 1.00
00:08:09.820 You get there
00:08:10.580 and then you're like,
00:08:11.880 are you dead?
00:08:13.120 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:14.580 All of a sudden
00:08:15.280 it just stops
00:08:15.900 and that's how women know 1.00
00:08:16.900 because the man
00:08:17.580 will still be going in there
00:08:18.500 that year
00:08:18.820 we're having sex 0.85
00:08:19.340 and be like,
00:08:19.920 you know what,
00:08:20.240 I'm dead below the waist for you.
00:08:21.840 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:22.260 And then you're just
00:08:22.800 going to build up
00:08:23.800 how to dump him.
00:08:24.940 Dumb, aren't you?
00:08:25.680 So don't follow your fanny. 0.65
00:08:28.800 No, I'm saying
00:08:29.620 don't follow your fanny 1.00
00:08:30.600 but I have to have
00:08:31.580 that fanny flutter 0.79
00:08:32.600 with somebody
00:08:33.320 that I'm going to be looking...
00:08:35.060 I think that's important.
00:08:36.180 Part of...
00:08:37.180 That's got to be
00:08:38.420 in my shopping basket.
00:08:40.000 Being able to...
00:08:40.900 That physical attraction,
00:08:41.840 that sexual attraction
00:08:42.600 with a man
00:08:43.180 as well as being able
00:08:44.060 to have that
00:08:44.540 intellectual conversation
00:08:45.500 and have that fun factor as well.
00:08:50.420 I think there's a lot of...
00:08:51.780 As many of you know,
00:08:52.820 I was just banned on TikTok
00:08:54.860 and we are demonetized
00:08:56.600 on a daily basis
00:08:57.840 on this platform.
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