JustPearlyThings - January 29, 2025

Why Men Are More Likely To Remarry Than Women (Call-In Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

Episode Stats

Length

1 hour and 42 minutes

Words per minute

164.15073

Word count

16,746

Sentence count

1,361

Harmful content

Misogyny

125

sentences flagged

Hate speech

93

sentences flagged

Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

Why are men more likely to remarry than women? And why is it that women like to get naked in front of Jesus in order to get attention? Today's episode of Pearl Daily dives into this and more.

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).

Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .

Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .

00:00:00.000 Thank you.

00:00:30.000 Good afternoon, good evening, ladies and gentlemen, welcome to another episode of Pearl

00:00:55.980 Daily here on the Audacity Network. Today, we are going to be talking about why are men

00:01:04.140 more likely to remarry than women? But before we get into today's episode, I want to talk

00:01:10.200 about a little pre-story that's going on on Twitter. Now, normally I try to stick to one

00:01:15.360 topic, but this was too good to not cover. Now, as you guys know, women have a tendency 1.00

00:01:21.340 to die on the hill of being naked. Now, this isn't just liberal women. It's also conservative 1.00

00:01:26.840 women. They love getting naked, and they also love shaming you for calling them a whore. 1.00

00:01:32.640 So there's a tweet yesterday that was going viral from Danielle Franz, and she had this

00:01:38.780 trad lady. Well, trad LARP. You guys know how I feel about this, but you know it's a LARP.

00:01:45.000 It's a LARP. Versus our favorite crazy lady character on this show, the red-headed libertarian 1.00

00:01:55.900 who likes to thirst trap with a Jesus cross in the background.

00:01:59.240 Now, women that are thirst trapping, but they want to pretend they're not thirst trapping, 1.00

00:02:07.200 have a tendency to do, is they have a tendency to do a couple of things. They shame the male 0.92

00:02:12.300 sex drive. So she'll put on some high heels, put on a tiny dress, and then say, you guys 0.58

00:02:18.000 are disgusting for even thinking about sex. So she said, pornification of conservatism is 0.94

00:02:25.480 so icky. The crime isn't wanting to make art, of course. The crime is making art that's so

00:02:31.060 on the nose it becomes vulgar and desperate. This desperation for sex appeal results is cheap,

00:02:37.600 cartoonish product void of meeting. Both of these images communicate trad values with beautiful

00:02:44.380 women, but only one of them is giving fetish content. Spoiler, it's the one being sold under 1.00

00:02:49.940 the conservative dad's brand. Now, as you guys know, personally, I have seen too much.

00:02:59.920 I'm not really going to be offended by a woman in a short dress. I'm not going to pretend to 1.00

00:03:04.540 be a Puritan out here. If I saw that on the street, I really wouldn't look twice. However, 1.00

00:03:11.260 what I don't like is women doing something and pretending they don't know what they're doing. 1.00

00:03:17.120 It drives me crazy. If you're going to thirst trap, then thirst trap. But don't thirst trap

00:03:26.300 one in front of a Jesus cross. Leave Jesus out of this, okay? If you're going to thirst trap,

00:03:34.180 there's Instagram for a reason, okay? You can just put your boobs out, put your legs out,

00:03:39.240 but go on Instagram. Why do you have to bring God into this? It's so... But they want the attention

00:03:45.200 and the being a good person, the looking bad part of thirst strapping. And when I saw this, I just

00:03:52.440 knew, now I'm fairly certain, and I got a lot of heat for this take, this woman has to be mentally 1.00

00:03:58.880 ill. I see no other way about it because the way she reacts and patterns, trends, there are very few

00:04:06.340 that react as insane as she does. But guys, before we get to that, are you loving all of this wonderful

00:04:15.960 Just Pearly Things content? And you're wondering, where do you find more? You're wondering, when are

00:04:22.420 we going to be done with this YouTube censorship in the chat and just say what you want? Do you want

00:04:27.800 to be able to super chat and support the channel? Head over to theaudacitynetwork.com. That's

00:04:33.360 theaudacitynetwork.com. The link is in the description to find all of the content you could

00:04:39.600 possibly want. Memberships, 10 bucks a month, 80 bucks a year. And not only can you find my new

00:04:45.440 shows there, but there is an extensive archive of all my old shows, including street interviews,

00:04:52.860 the pregame, my sit-down interviews. Your membership allows you to participate in the members-only

00:04:58.240 chat and have your chats read by me during the show. You can send super chats to support

00:05:03.740 the network as well. So go over there today and become a member on theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:05:08.800 That's www.theaudacitynetwork.com. My name is Pearl, and I'll see you there.

00:05:14.280 So, you know, back to this crazy lady. When I did reply, and I said, and I was very excited

00:05:27.180 for this yesterday, I said, I can't wait to watch the red-headed libertarian have a mental 0.62

00:05:32.120 breakdown over this. Now, Danielle says, I posted one time, didn't name her, didn't tag her,

00:05:39.920 didn't even, even called her a beautiful woman. And that's my next problem here, but we're going

00:05:46.200 to get to this. She, quote, tweeted, replied, and posted several times to her audience of nearly a

00:05:51.640 million, shared photos from my personal Instagram, then accused me of putting a target on her back 0.99

00:05:56.300 despite the fact that her own followers spent the day harassing me. Now, again, Danielle, I'm sorry,

00:06:02.460 I got no sympathy for you either. If you poke the bear on a crazy woman, expect crazy results, 0.95

00:06:08.220 okay? You know this woman's crazy, and so do I, but I don't care. She can keep going, bitch. 1.00

00:06:14.120 You know, and the reason I like bringing her up is because she's just such a perfect example

00:06:19.580 of what happens with these trad influencers. Now, guys, look, most of my life I've known I'm a normal

00:06:26.320 looking woman, and most people think of that as an insult. I don't really see it that way. I think

00:06:33.620 most men, most women are average, and if you don't think you're average, I expect you to

00:06:38.120 have above-average results. I expect you to have done some high-end modeling. Maybe you're a UFC

00:06:44.220 ring girl. You know, one time I went to, my whole team got invited to, it was like the weekend,

00:06:51.120 their concert, and they allowed us all to go backstage, and when I was back, it was in the

00:06:56.560 future, I'm going to, I'm going to, it's too late, it's live. You know, in the future, I might just say

00:07:01.240 A-level celebrities, but anyways, it was backstage before the show, and I'm like, duh, I might shoot

00:07:10.160 myself in the foot in the future, but it's okay. So anyways, there were women there that are, were

00:07:16.500 literally paid to be hot. Now, these are women that they just, I'm following, if you saw her, this is 1.00

00:07:23.560 a blue-pilled guy would meet a woman like this at a coffee shop and think, 1.00

00:07:27.820 wow, she's got no Instagram following. Green flag. She's got like nothing on there. No, these women 1.00

00:07:34.680 know the game. They are predators. They are apex predators. They will, until in their 20s, get

00:07:41.560 invited to all the high-level parties and know you got to leave zero digital footprint so I can marry

00:07:47.220 a doctor at 35. They know, they know this game. So, but because they're so beautiful, high-level men

00:07:55.020 will find them. You know, there's people that work for these high-level men that their job, I have a

00:08:00.980 friend, and her job was, she was friends with like a billionaire who had a private jet, and her job was

00:08:08.180 to fill that private jet with hot women, and she knew where to find them. She knew what age they had to be 1.00

00:08:14.420 under. She knew how attractive they had to be, and it doesn't even, they're so good-looking guys. They live

00:08:21.020 in such a different world. They don't even have to sleep with the guys. Now, don't get me wrong.

00:08:26.760 These women get offers, but, you know, I talked to a private investigator, and he said that mids 1.00

00:08:32.480 have a tendency to, they can't get as much resources for free with their beauty. They got to put out more. 0.97

00:08:41.400 You know what I mean? So he said that mids do prostitution more than beautiful women. Kind of 1.00

00:08:46.920 make sense. If you can like sell a nude and get a hundred K, why, you know why, I mean, why wouldn't

00:08:54.000 you? I mean, I know you guys are thinking morals, but on this show, we deal in reality, what people

00:08:59.960 are probably going to do. We don't deal in how I wish the world's going to be. But when I met these

00:09:06.640 women, I had a chance to see the high level of beauty that men in the country, men in the suburbs

00:09:13.920 are completely, they don't even see it. And the way it works is there are A-level cities. Now,

00:09:21.000 A-level cities are where rich men are, or there is an industry where the women can monetize their 1.00

00:09:28.080 beauty, like modeling, modeling, I don't know, acting, that, you know, some sort of media, right,

00:09:40.900 or modeling. Now, I know you're thinking conservative commentators. We're going to wait. We're going

00:09:45.220 to get there. Now, I know what an eight plus looks like, ballpark. And the problem we have

00:09:56.800 is in conservative media, there's a little bit of a bubble. Now, remember, Christian conservative

00:10:02.280 men tend to be the countrymen. And the hottest women, even if they're from the country, generally 0.99

00:10:07.620 have a tendency to go to the city, the most popping part of town. It's like, if you go

00:10:14.160 downtown Miami, there are so many attractive women, you go 30 minutes out, it's single mothers 1.00

00:10:18.700 and fat women. And usually these women go to the cities, make bad decisions, get a little 1.00

00:10:23.740 uglier, and they make it out to the country. The country guys often don't even know the level

00:10:28.880 of beauty, or they've rarely seen the level of beauty that's in the city. Because in all

00:10:33.620 honesty, guys, I mean, sure, there might be one pretty girl at a small high school, but 0.62

00:10:39.520 usually they go to an A-level city pretty quick. But what happens in these conservative

00:10:45.200 spaces is the women have a tendency to think they're hotter than they are. Now, I've done 1.00

00:10:51.140 casting. So when I used to recruit for the shows, I would literally think that woman could 1.00

00:10:57.140 go on my thumbnail, she's going to get me an increase of a 2% click rate. I would see another

00:11:02.660 woman and think, she's got a great body, we need to do a full, like, you start to think 1.00

00:11:07.680 a little bit more practically. And the way I divide women is mids, which is like four to 1.00

00:11:13.560 six. That's a mid. Like a four I'd put as a cute face, but chubby. That's a four. Five

00:11:22.900 is like normal, not fat, just normal looking. Six is cute. Seven, I don't like giving, I'm

00:11:31.780 kind of like Kevin Samuels, right? I mean, I took this, I'd like to give credit where

00:11:35.640 it's due. I took this rating from Kevin Samuels, but it's a great way to, like, divide people.

00:11:40.740 The eight pluses live a life that mids could not dream. This is, she could not dream. So 0.99

00:11:49.140 what happened? She wants to do a thirst trap, but it's a little bit sad because she's a mid, 1.00

00:11:56.440 right? She's a mid, she's trying to get above mid results. But the conservative simps and

00:12:01.680 conservative commentators tend to be women that couldn't make it in Hollywood or whatever 1.00

00:12:07.360 big city they went to, they can't get the attention there. They go to conservative because, again,

00:12:12.360 it's more country guys. Country guys tend to have lower standards of beauty because they 0.90

00:12:17.080 don't see the top talent. Now, I said, I can't wait to watch the redheaded libertarian have 1.00

00:12:24.760 a meltdown over this. So funny. Now, the first thing she does is, you know, I say, please,

00:12:35.020 please, please tell the trad wives to stop thirst trapping on X and watch their kids. 1.00

00:12:39.920 Now, there's a certain level of tweeting. Now, disclaimer, I know everyone runs me through

00:12:45.280 the coals for this. I know, I know, I don't have kids. I don't. But I expect, you know,

00:12:50.960 kids take a lot of time. So if I see a woman that's constantly tweeting and has the time to, 1.00

00:12:59.200 like, how many times have I talked about Candace Owens on the show? That woman probably ish watches 1.00

00:13:05.000 her kids ish. I mean, her level of production is a little too high to be, I know what it takes to do 1.00

00:13:14.660 media, right? I could, I could ballpark how much time you're spending away. If you have the time

00:13:20.340 to do a whole rant after I say something, I get it. I say something. I don't mind having

00:13:26.860 fun poked at Pearl, whatever. I don't care.

00:13:33.780 I know you're not, I know you're not an involved parent, right?

00:13:36.920 You know, so I did tweet this. Now, maybe this wasn't, maybe this was a little too honest. I

00:13:44.400 said, I think she's mentally ill. And the next thing she did was call me a pedophile again.

00:13:50.900 Now, I want to, I want to reiterate, and I want to be honest with you guys. I got to go through some

00:13:56.660 of my former controversies, even though I don't, I don't like bringing attention to them. There was a

00:14:02.460 time where these women were tweeting at me their selfies, right? So I had a tweet, 25 year old women 1.00

00:14:07.880 are hotter than 35 year old women. And, um, I thought it would be funny. I was in England at the

00:14:18.660 time. I Googled the age of consent in England or like wherever the hell I was at the time. And I was

00:14:23.760 16. So I tweet that 16 year old women are hotter than 26. Now I'm not, I'm not even attracted to 0.91

00:14:32.440 women. I'm straight. It was a straight troll, right? And anyone that's watched my show, anyone

00:14:36.880 knows, they know I'm just trolling. It was because the women were sending me the selfies and I want

00:14:42.980 it. I want them to enrage, right? But what women have a tendency to do is they have a tendency to 1.00

00:14:48.540 take anything, even a joke, a troll, something you're, you could say, Pearl, that was a bad joke.

00:14:54.980 Fine. Fine. It could be a bad joke. We can agree. But you know, there's no police report.

00:15:01.660 There's no evidence of me going after these underage girls that they're, they seem to be 1.00

00:15:07.080 trying to pin on me. Right. And that's when I realized when women don't like someone, what they 1.00

00:15:13.560 want to do is call him a creep or a pedophile. And the way that women react to me is exactly how they 1.00

00:15:20.320 will react to the men in their lives that they are done with. So now what was interesting

00:15:28.100 is then, so the, the tendencies that crazy women tend to do, there's a couple like copes they do. 1.00

00:15:38.520 One, you're obsessed, ma'am.

00:15:40.620 One, I'm obsessed with the ring girl from the Jake Paul fight. Okay. Like I'm jealous of her.

00:15:49.420 If you got like, I think they get off on thinking people are obsessed or stalking them

00:15:54.920 because that's their first line of attack. You're, and this is what these women do. They say, 1.00

00:16:00.040 I want to be worshiped and get easy internet money. But if anybody criticizes me, they're obsessed.

00:16:06.280 And again, this is an example of women going into a man's world and saying, treat me like a woman, 1.00

00:16:13.080 bitch. Now she also thinks that my shows are about her. You haven't even made a thumbnail yet. One, 1.00

00:16:23.080 cause you're not good looking enough. We'll start there. If I'm going to use a conservative

00:16:27.240 commentator, one, you need to be more famous than you are and you need to be better looking.

00:16:31.200 Neither. You, you could get a little segment though, like catfish of the year,

00:16:35.920 but you know, I've talked about Lily Phillips like 10 times too.

00:16:45.400 You guys keep me employed. Thank you. And then she also thinks, you know, men know when they come

00:16:54.220 on the internet, have you guys ever done a call of duty or I don't know, my brother would play these

00:16:59.600 games. Right. And when my brother would play these games, I would hear him say racist things,

00:17:06.340 homophobic, not him, but like his friend, like they attack each other. Right. Because they know this is

00:17:12.100 the internet. You don't get kid gloves on the internet. So I don't know, maybe next time I'll do

00:17:19.600 a full end. Maybe I'll do a, and the other thing I get annoyed with is she keeps replying to me. She

00:17:28.220 blocked me. Right. Which is totally fine. I don't mind getting blocked. That's totally great. But you

00:17:34.000 can't reply to me. And then I can't, this is my, my, my plead, Elon, Elon, if people that blocked me

00:17:40.980 reply to my tweets, I should be able to reply back anyways. Um, but I wanted to show that she does

00:17:51.600 falsely accuse you as a way to attack you. And then, um, yeah, I think that's, that's all I got

00:18:02.060 on that today, but you know, I'll, I'll follow up with that later. Now I'm going to read the website

00:18:07.740 guys. Remember we are demonetized. So every membership signup counts, which I do want to

00:18:14.760 do a couple thank yous in the chat for the people that signed up in the last 24 hours. I'm not going

00:18:20.400 to read last names because I want to keep people's privacy, but thank you to van. Oh shoot. Oh wait,

00:18:27.460 I did the wrong thing. Thank you to van. Thank you to Charlene. Thank you to Doug. You did a yearly

00:18:39.520 membership. Thank you so much, George. Thank you. I really couldn't do it without you guys. You know,

00:18:46.360 women like her, what she's going to do when she does this as reputation destruction. 1.00

00:18:50.620 So what they do is they lie about me, you know, they'll take things out of content,

00:18:57.360 like the pedophile thing, zero evidence, no police report, just one tweet a year ago,

00:19:04.420 pearls of pedo. And they think it's perfectly okay. What they also do is they flag your account

00:19:10.960 because I reveal their crazy behavior. They try to make my life hell. They really, this is like the

00:19:18.940 third time I've been called a pedo for no reason. They just throw that. They, they know how bad that

00:19:25.740 insult is and how that can ruin someone's career. So they throw it at anyone. They can. Jesse, thank

00:19:32.460 you so much. Yearly membership. Uh, Brian, thank you so much. Yearly membership. Tom, thank you so

00:19:40.740 much. Yearly membership. Appreciate you, Rob. Thank you again. I get, I literally, I couldn't do it

00:19:47.000 without you guys. And you know, one day I'll tell you guys the story of how these crazy ladies got me

00:19:53.960 demonetized, sort of. I'll go an in-depth demonetization story. Um, hey Pearl, when are we gonna see the

00:20:03.740 new uncensored content on your site? Which one are you looking for? Pearl, that takes money to get a show

00:20:10.260 like that. Produce the other creators. Sometimes the random guests often charge an appearance fee.

00:20:15.420 It looks casual and organic, but it all costs. Yeah. I, I used to pay recruiters to get the women, 1.00

00:20:21.020 but they would get a bonus if they were better. Look, look. I don't, and I said, I don't care if

00:20:25.540 you pay the girls to come, you know, do what you want. This is the fee. You get them. Um, Pearl, 0.84

00:20:32.160 this is why she's trying to promote website membership so much. She could also use some direct 0.87

00:20:36.060 advertisement like her testosterone supplement advertisers. You can help by sharing the show,

00:20:41.240 promoting the audacity network, then gift memberships available. You can buy gifts. I

00:20:45.580 don't know much about women's attire. How I can tell that your shirt is off as hell. What's wrong 1.00

00:20:50.080 with my shirt? What the? All right. All right. You win. You win. I'll even read the ones roasting me.

00:21:02.820 Okay. Oh, I see what you mean. It's up. You know, sometimes it happens. Sorry guys. Okay. So

00:21:14.160 today we're going to be talking about

00:21:17.240 divorce. Now on my channel, I say that it's not in a man's best interest to get married. As you guys 0.52

00:21:28.960 know, I went into the red pill thinking that marriage was a good deal for men. I didn't really

00:21:33.960 understand why men, you know, I would hear like marriage is a bad deal. I would hear,

00:21:38.980 I would hear all these things that, and the red pill is kind of interesting because before you see it,

00:21:46.060 you, you kind of, some of the stuff sounds far off or weird, but then you get older and you live a

00:21:53.380 little more and you realize the red pill's right. It is 100% correct. And most of the people that

00:21:59.940 criticize the red pill actually are representations of why, you know, like destiny right now. He said

00:22:05.760 the red pill was wrong. And then his wife left him for a streamer who was like very skinny. Like

00:22:13.300 he wasn't even good looking. Now the divorce rate in the United States is standing at just over 50%.

00:22:18.980 This means you have a coin flip chance of staying married. If the coin lands on heads, you stay

00:22:26.040 married and you're probably going to end up staying with a woman that bosses you around and refuses to 1.00

00:22:30.580 sleep with you. Your chance of your wife gaining 20 pounds or more in the first five years of marriage

00:22:36.340 are 80%. And remember that's only five years. It goes up as they get older. If the coin lands on tails,

00:22:42.620 you're getting divorced because you will end up in divorce court. Your kids get taken away. You pay

00:22:47.180 child support. And in some cases you'll pay alimony. You'll have to start all over. Now let's paint the

00:22:52.080 picture. We have Robert. He's a plumber. He graduated high school, chose to go into the trades and started

00:22:57.080 his career as an apprentice plumber. Worked his way up to a journeyman and meets a woman right around the

00:23:02.340 age of 25. He marries a girl at 27 and has two kids with her. The marriage slowly deteriorates over the

00:23:08.860 course of seven to eight years. His wife gained weight. He doesn't get sex. There's no food on the table for

00:23:14.100 him to eat and he's forced to do things he doesn't want to do on the weekends to make some woman happy

00:23:18.320 that doesn't even love him anymore. So 35 comes around and Robert comes home from a long day of

00:23:24.840 work to get divorce papers shoved in his face. The wife decides to leave and take the kids. There's

00:23:30.480 nothing he can do about paternity court, divorce court, rips Robert's life apart and he has to get

00:23:36.100 alimony and child support. But despite all this, Robert wants to get married again. 35% of men will

00:23:42.660 remarry after getting divorced. That's right. After getting screwed in a divorce court and paternity 0.82

00:23:47.140 court by their wife, who decided to leave to go find herself or sleep with Gavin, the bartender,

00:23:53.840 Tyrone, the personal trainer, one out of three men will choose to get married again. Now let's look at

00:24:01.100 the stats when it comes to second marriage. Women initiate two thirds of divorce and first and second 0.92

00:24:07.400 marriages. 90% is the risk of getting divorced in a second marriage compared if it had been the first

00:24:14.420 marriage for that couple. Two out of three marriages will make it to their 10th anniversary,

00:24:22.040 but only one out of three marriages will make it to their 25th anniversary. After a first marriage,

00:24:27.100 it generally takes someone four years to get married a second time. And after five years,

00:24:31.760 if a sibling goes through a second marriage and divorce, then the person is 22% more likely to

00:24:37.660 get divorced themselves. For a second marriage, the average age for a woman is 37. For men in a 0.66

00:24:43.420 second marriage, it's 39.3 years old. About 6% of American couples divorce, marry, and then remarry each

00:24:53.500 other. Half of all Americans' kids will see their parents divorced and half of those kids will see their

00:24:59.860 parents get a second divorce. Now let's look at the reasons that men get married again.

00:25:14.280 In this blog post, we will explore the various reasons why men opt for second marriages. While

00:25:20.540 second marriages are stigmatized in society, it is important to understand the different perspectives

00:25:27.000 and circumstances that lead men to make this choice. One of the reasons why some men choose to get

00:25:34.940 married for a second time is financial stability. Many men believe that marrying a wealthy woman can

00:25:40.220 improve their financial status and provide them a comfortable lifestyle. They see second marriage as

00:25:45.220 an opportunity to elevate their social status and gain access to a higher circle. On the other hand,

00:25:51.400 some men are financially stable but still opt for second marriages. For them, it is often a marriage

00:25:57.480 or a matter of personal preference or habit. These men may have a desire to experience the thrill of a

00:26:04.360 new relationship or simply enjoy the companionship of multiple partners. Emotional connection and romance.

00:26:11.980 Another reason why men pursue second marriages is the need for emotional connection and romance.

00:26:17.560 Some men feel that their first marriages lack the passion and excitement that they desire and they

00:26:23.760 believe that a second marriage can fulfill their emotional needs. These men can find themselves

00:26:28.920 attracted to women who are more expressive and romantic. They appreciate the affection and attention

00:26:34.040 they receive from their second wives, which they may not have experienced from a previous partner.

00:26:39.860 For many men, second marriages come later in life when they have achieved personal growth and success.

00:26:45.380 These men have focused on their careers or other priorities during their first marriage and now

00:26:50.000 seek a partner who can match their level of achievement. As these men become more successful,

00:26:54.660 they often attract women who are equally accomplished. They appreciate the intellectual stimulation

00:27:01.080 and shared goals that come from being in a relationship with someone who's on their level. This

00:27:06.740 has to be written by a woman. I see no other. 1.00

00:27:10.680 Okay, but I'll go with it. In some cases, men opt for a second marriage due to unfulfilled

00:27:18.060 expectations or compatibility issues in their first marriage. They may believe that their first wife

00:27:23.380 does not meet their emotional and physical needs and they believe finding a new partner will provide

00:27:27.600 them with the satisfaction they seek. The conclusion is that while second marriages are often met

00:27:33.560 with judgment and skepticism, it is important to recognize each individual's circumstances and motivations

00:27:39.700 are unique. The reasons behind why men provide or the reasons behind men choosing to pursue second

00:27:48.040 marriages vary widely from financial stability to personal growth to emotional fulfillment.

00:27:55.440 Now, um, this woman is talking about first and second marriage problems.

00:28:02.880 Divorce. Has everybody seen that clip of the divorce lawyer talking about second marriage divorces and

00:28:13.100 how he's actually observed moms getting sick of doing everything and divorcing? He just kind of skirts

00:28:18.460 the second marriage question. Typically, first and second marriages have different requirements to

00:28:23.240 them. First marriages usually happen a little bit younger. They're to establish a family home and a family, 0.98

00:28:28.900 usually often to have children, which increases the overall responsibilities, the load, all of that

00:28:36.120 kind of stuff. Second marriages, however, a lot of the child kind of rearing is mostly done, if not all the

00:28:43.080 way done. Second marriages, a lot of times the children are already out of the home. And in here, the second 0.59

00:28:49.380 marriages that come in to see me, the goal or desire, I guess, of having a partner for one another.

00:28:56.380 They want someone to travel with, go out with, and yeah, have a lot of really hot schmexy time with.

00:29:02.920 The first marriages I see, yeah, we'll spend time on the couch debating who's doing what in the

00:29:07.980 household. But the second marriages I see, we don't do that. We spend time trying to figure out why we

00:29:14.820 aren't enjoying each other as much as we want to.

00:29:17.760 Okay, so the first marriage was for children, and the second marriages for fun. Okay. A woman talks about 1.00

00:29:31.320 the pros and cons of second marriage.

00:29:33.380 Marriage is hard. But you know what's even harder? The odds are stacked against you. There's the

00:29:47.100 negative stereotypes, the non-traditional family structure and holidays, the scars it leaves behind

00:29:53.940 and the emotional triggers. A lot of times the second spouse is guilty until proven innocent,

00:30:00.940 where the first spouse didn't really have that problem. They were the ones who whittled away the 1.00

00:30:06.060 trust, hence the divorce. But there are some distinct advantages. It's a chance to start over,

00:30:13.700 to start fresh. It's finding love again. You're more aware of the pitfalls. You're more willing to work

00:30:21.000 harder on your marriage and avoid complacency. You're really determined to do it right this time.

00:30:26.820 And you usually have more in common. You share a lot more of the same goals in the bigger picture.

00:30:33.160 You value your time together more. Generally, you learn to compromise better, and you're more

00:30:38.280 self-aware. And studies show you have more and better sex. You can't deny your past hurts or your

00:30:46.100 triggers. The key is to learn to work on them together to improve in your marriage as a team.

00:30:53.040 What you really don't want to do, and this can be hard, is you don't want to show up less than you did

00:30:59.460 the first time. You shouldn't trust less. You shouldn't give less. You try not to repeat the same

00:31:05.420 habits. The communication is fucking key. You have to be determined.

00:31:11.320 Has talking to women more made them argue with you less?

00:31:20.240 Or does it just give them more things to pick apart?

00:31:25.020 Guys, women that say that communication is key, 0.99

00:31:29.220 men, okay, men that say communication is key,

00:31:32.960 there are men that listen to women and what they say.

00:31:35.620 And women that say that communication is key, either A, have no emotional control and need 1.00

00:31:42.180 to tell the guy every single emotion, or B, they like to fight.

00:31:49.100 Permit to communicate so that you can work past all that stuff. And then your bond is even stronger.

00:31:56.960 And it's scary, but you have to be vulnerable. You have to have realistic expectations.

00:32:02.200 You got to catch yourself and check yourself when you might be treating somebody differently

00:32:08.020 because of something that has nothing to do with them. And that's not easy. But acknowledging it,

00:32:14.820 that's the first step. Dealing with it, that's the next step. But it's this kind of growth that

00:32:21.280 really makes that second marriage so special and so much more fulfilling. The Gottman Institute

00:32:28.740 talks a lot about this stuff, about trust and intimate relationships. And one of their famous

00:32:34.780 quotes from their research and interviewing people, writing books, blogs, you name it.

00:32:41.240 Life gets better for those who have the courage to trust.

00:32:48.640 Women talking about second marriage like it's a joke. 1.00

00:32:51.840 Listen, I'm second marriage material. Go have your starter marriage, learn all the lessons, 0.86

00:33:01.840 and then come and see me and we will live like sexy, responsible adults who split bills,

00:33:06.280 communicate, and leave each other alone most of the time.

00:33:10.940 Fellas, who's going to do it? I know it's one of you. 1.00

00:33:14.820 Who's going to do it?

00:33:16.580 Put a one in the chat if you do it. Just be honest, guys. They say barf, cap. You're telling

00:33:29.540 me there's 600 people in here right now. Imagine if I had a room full of 600 mostly men watching. 0.63

00:33:37.500 And you expect me to believe that none of you are going to do it.

00:33:45.420 I'd hit. Thank you for being honest, David.

00:33:50.000 That's all I... Fernando. Fernando says no.

00:33:57.760 Not even on a slow Tuesday. Get out of here. Don't believe you.

00:34:02.360 Okay. DM on the website says theaudacitynetwork.com. We've been demonetized. Feel free.

00:34:10.960 Yearly and monthly memberships, 80 bucks a year. One yearly membership sponsors the show if we get

00:34:17.480 one yearly membership a show. I love your commentary. I'd love to see you debate again.

00:34:23.560 You know, DM, I was traumatized a little bit. I know women, we use traumatized for everything,

00:34:28.900 but I am a modern woman, so I, you know, it is what it is. But when I've argued with enough crazy

00:34:37.320 people, the lengths they're willing to go is just incredible to me. So, well, you know,

00:34:50.280 there might be some coming soon. I'm not opposed. Elliot says do what, Pearl? Elliot, I'm saying

00:35:01.900 somebody would do her. I don't know who, but it's one of you. Pearl, are you calling out stamps? I call

00:35:09.220 out... Yeah, they said, they said, um, Fernando's capping in the chat. I know, Fernando. I know he is,

00:35:18.300 he is capping. He is. I don't need the cap. You know what we should do? We should do a cap of the

00:35:25.920 year on this channel. Like whoever a woman is that everyone says they wouldn't, but everyone knows 0.99

00:35:34.240 they would. Now here's another one is a woman who has remarried and husband adopted her two kids 1.00

00:35:42.640 says has a big wedding. So if you've followed me for a bit, you know that I am married again. This

00:35:54.120 is my second marriage. And, um, I came into our marriage with two kids. My husband came in with

00:36:00.780 three, so we have five together. Um, he actually has adopted my kids. So I have two kids and three

00:36:07.560 stepkids and he has five kids. So anyhow, I want to say this. Shout out to Ronald Rodolfo

00:36:18.000 for the 10th to, for the monthly membership on the website. Thank you so much. He says,

00:36:25.400 I don't understand how women want communication, but then tone police, double talk, change word 1.00

00:36:30.780 definitions, et cetera. Women just, we like to fight. That's it. They want, they say communicate 1.00

00:36:41.460 so we can fight and then be entertained for the day. Guys, if we get seven more memberships

00:36:49.500 this show and there is an app, we are on the app store, so you can download it. Um, and I

00:36:56.460 have some ideas. Maybe I'll go with where I'd like to see the app go. I got to get the

00:37:01.640 memberships to a certain point, but I really have some really good ideas of what I want

00:37:06.140 to put on there. Maybe, maybe I'll, I'll throw them at you later.

00:37:09.740 Third time, whatever your situation is, if you want to have a big blitz of a wedding and party,

00:37:18.100 do it. Um, this might not be your, if you want to see if a girl likes you, if she says she

00:37:25.660 wants to get married, courthouse, let's go to the courthouse. If she hesitates and argues 1.00

00:37:33.480 with you, hate to break it to you. The wedding is attention central for women. Remember we get

00:37:41.260 off on attention. So if women want a big wedding, usually they want the wedding, the attention 1.00

00:37:48.420 of the wedding. They don't really want the man. The best men really have is to take away

00:37:53.700 more of the things that they get and see if they stick around. First wedding, your first

00:38:00.360 marriage, but it's your first marriage to each other. So why shouldn't you celebrate?

00:38:05.400 Why do we often think like, Oh, well, it's your second marriage or your third, whatever

00:38:11.360 it is that you shouldn't have, that you should only have the big celebration for your, if it's

00:38:16.980 your first marriage. Because when we do that, we immediately downgrade that subsequent marriage 0.99

00:38:22.480 and we should be lifting up and celebrating every marriage. So whether you want to elope,

00:38:30.000 just get married, just the two of you or have a big extravaganza, do it because every marriage

00:38:37.600 is one to be celebrated. Start off your marriage knowing that this is huge. It's big. It's important.

00:38:44.740 And it's definitely a lot less important than your first marriage.

00:38:50.800 My opinion is second marriages are less important than your first marriage. Look at first marriage, 0.97

00:38:56.380 you at least sort of have a clean track record where we can say they might promise and mean it.

00:39:02.580 Second marriage. I mean, at that point, you already broke your first promise.

00:39:09.000 Why am I supposed to believe your second promise? Like, what does your word mean?

00:39:16.760 Spoiler alert, true Christians don't remarry. So there's no biblical justification for doing so. 1.00

00:39:23.980 Oh. Okay. What else do we got next?

00:39:32.340 Woman saying her second marriage is a great thing. 1.00

00:39:34.960 Woman saying her second marriage isn't as special the second time around. 0.72

00:39:44.840 Wrong-o. Let me tell you why that is absolutely not true for me. 0.77

00:39:50.560 I was married from 2014 to the end of 2016, divorced over the course of the end.

00:39:56.980 Look, your second marriage by definition cannot be as special.

00:40:04.960 The second time around. It literally cannot.

00:40:08.220 Like, what is the definition?

00:40:11.620 I know what it means, but sometimes I can't say.

00:40:14.820 Definition of special.

00:40:19.300 Different than usual.

00:40:24.860 Better, greater, otherwise different than usual.

00:40:28.500 Unusual.

00:40:29.760 Unusual.

00:40:30.280 Unusual.

00:40:31.560 So if marriage is something you're doing...

00:40:34.280 Over and over again and divorcing, that's kind of usual.

00:40:43.460 So, in my opinion, the only thing men can get in 2024 is genuine desire from women.

00:40:52.200 And the red pill talks about this because, you know, I have a friend and he's a total player.

00:40:58.700 And his experience is he's the type that as women approach him.

00:41:03.420 But to his surprise, he took a couple women's virginities and he said he couldn't believe how little it meant to them.

00:41:09.780 They did not care.

00:41:10.780 They were ready to go off into the world and be a whore. 1.00

00:41:14.000 And I thought about it and I thought, okay, so if now women... 1.00

00:41:18.500 And that kind of matches with what the stats say and, you know, what I've seen in life.

00:41:23.860 Because if women really thought their virginity was something special and marriage was special, they wouldn't leave, right? 0.98

00:41:30.180 They would treat it as if they're special.

00:41:33.220 The only thing I really see that men can get is genuine desire from a woman. 0.98

00:41:38.520 So, you know those women that completely destroy their families for, like, one guy? 1.00

00:41:46.660 That's what you want to get.

00:41:48.700 I mean, that's pretty special.

00:41:50.340 If you're the guy...

00:41:50.940 Now, I know you're thinking...

00:41:52.440 Now, I'm not saying take her seriously.

00:41:55.000 Clearly, a woman that does that's mentally ill. 1.00

00:41:57.500 But that's the most unique thing you're going to get.

00:42:01.620 A woman that destroyed her family to be with... 1.00

00:42:04.160 Like, imagine you hook up with a woman.

00:42:06.980 Maybe you knew she was married. 0.86

00:42:08.000 You don't care.

00:42:09.300 You find out she left her whole family to be with you.

00:42:11.660 That's pretty unique.

00:42:13.160 That's honestly more special than most marriages these days.

00:42:17.900 That dynamic?

00:42:18.800 Now, anyways.

00:42:20.180 Don't clip that and put that on Twitter.

00:42:23.020 I'm going to be very annoyed.

00:42:24.440 I'm going to be annoyed because I'm still flushing out that idea.

00:42:29.120 And I like to do them a little bit more.

00:42:33.200 The ideas.

00:42:34.180 Okay, let me continue this.

00:42:38.000 Why can't I hear it?

00:42:46.860 Is this sound on?

00:42:50.100 To my soulmate in 2016.

00:42:53.800 Divorced over the course of the end of 2016-2017.

00:42:56.620 And I got remarried to my soulmate in 2022.

00:43:00.580 Let me tell you why it was so much more special the second time around.

00:43:05.680 The first time around, I was young.

00:43:08.200 I had gut feelings telling me that it was the wrong thing.

00:43:11.460 And I didn't listen to them.

00:43:12.460 Because I listened to all the people around me telling me that it was wedding jitters.

00:43:15.820 It was normal.

00:43:17.140 Blah, blah, blah.

00:43:18.160 The second time around, I was as confident as I've ever been in my entire life.

00:43:23.260 Not only that, but I had the knowledge of all of the things that I did in my first wedding

00:43:27.920 that I knew that I either did or did not want to do again.

00:43:31.260 My first wedding day went by so fast.

00:43:34.640 In my opinion, second marriage is courthouse only.

00:43:39.840 There's no point.

00:43:42.760 Her other video says healing is never done.

00:43:47.200 Lord help the man that signed up for that.

00:43:49.380 And so on my second wedding day, I was able to be fully present all day.

00:43:53.620 I took the time to stop throughout the day, recognize what was going on around me, and

00:43:58.620 attempt to slow down time.

00:44:00.320 In doing this, I have way more long-term memories of my wedding day the second time around than

00:44:05.040 I did the first time around.

00:44:06.440 I also learned that all of the things I regretted from my first wedding were the things that

00:44:10.540 I did to appease other people.

00:44:12.800 So the second time around, I didn't do that.

00:44:15.140 And he and I eloped on the beach with 30 people, the closest 30 people.

00:44:19.980 I did everything the way that we wanted to for us.

00:44:24.260 The way we wanted to or she wanted to.

00:44:27.060 What's your guess?

00:44:29.780 What is your guess?

00:44:32.080 Also, guys, you know, if you want, feel free.

00:44:35.100 Website, theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:44:38.020 On Monday, I'm going to make it easier for you guys to search your favorite old show guests.

00:44:42.860 So like Cheska was a well-known one.

00:44:45.100 If there's any that you want to search just because they're really funny, I'm going to

00:44:48.520 put tags for each of the like Denalva, all the Denalva videos.

00:44:52.720 Feel free to put them in the comments and I'm going to put tags next Monday or on Monday.

00:44:57.640 I didn't do anything for looks or appearances.

00:45:00.380 I did everything to honor our relationship and our love story.

00:45:05.680 You want to know another reason why it was more special?

00:45:08.000 Everyone around us knew it was right.

00:45:09.460 Our speeches were better because they were genuine and when people were speaking from

00:45:14.360 the heart saying how happy they were, they meant it versus the first time around when

00:45:18.780 my entire family didn't actually agree with the marriage and they gave speeches because

00:45:22.900 they needed to, not because they wanted to.

00:45:25.040 Not only that, but I cannot tell you how different it is to walk down an aisle towards your soulmate

00:45:30.860 than it is to walk down the aisle towards someone who isn't right for you.

00:45:34.520 Of course, during my first marriage, I didn't know that.

00:45:37.420 I didn't know I was walking down the aisle to the wrong person and I loved my first wedding.

00:45:41.480 But then there's hindsight and then I learned and then I met my soulmate and felt how different

00:45:46.740 it is.

00:45:47.860 Walking down the aisle to him is worlds different.

00:45:51.340 And so, so special.

00:45:53.520 More special.

00:45:56.240 And more me.

00:45:58.560 More him.

00:45:59.640 More us.

00:46:01.040 More sentimental.

00:46:02.640 More joyous.

00:46:04.080 More carefree.

00:46:05.740 More at ease.

00:46:09.280 Literally, it was just more.

00:46:11.120 So maybe if you've been married multiple times, it wasn't as special for you, but it sure

00:46:15.420 as fuck was for me. 0.69

00:46:16.620 Ah, okay.

00:46:22.180 Soulmate equals simp.

00:46:25.000 That's true, actually.

00:46:31.680 Yeah, anxiety comes from alphas.

00:46:34.320 Simps offer security.

00:46:40.480 Who would in the chat?

00:46:42.860 Come on, be honest.

00:46:43.720 The divorce lawyer talking to your new partner.

00:46:46.300 Not her.

00:46:47.920 Nah.

00:46:50.440 Who would?

00:46:51.540 Chat, be honest.

00:46:55.000 Via, I want you to be honest.

00:46:59.760 One night.

00:47:00.540 Thank you, Nuff said, for at least being honest.

00:47:07.240 Trog says, nope.

00:47:08.580 Fernando again.

00:47:11.740 Again in the chat saying, never.

00:47:14.340 Right.

00:47:16.620 Carlos.

00:47:17.260 What is it?

00:47:17.800 Is it the Hispanics that are like, that are the cap pulling, that are like the kings of 1.00

00:47:23.180 cap?

00:47:28.140 Because Fernando and Carlos are the ones saying, no, never.

00:47:32.200 Ben, sounds like a white name.

00:47:34.480 Ben saying, hit and quit, maybe.

00:47:36.060 That's honest.

00:47:38.320 But you know, I know the stats, guys.

00:47:40.140 I know, I know the numbers.

00:47:42.120 So men tend to over exaggerate how much they get laid.

00:47:46.700 Women tend to under exaggerate. 1.00

00:47:48.280 So if I'm looking at stats that says, I think it's 40% of men and you thought no one would

00:47:55.220 know.

00:47:57.720 You would.

00:47:58.460 Please, please, please don't believe you.

00:48:06.120 Guy Fawkes is true. 0.83

00:48:08.180 JC says, nah, whatever, guys, whatever.

00:48:10.760 I'm going back to the audacity chat.

00:48:12.580 They cap less on the website.

00:48:14.220 They're a little more honest.

00:48:15.660 They're a little more honest.

00:48:17.520 OK, Joel says, well, there's a guy.

00:48:20.140 Well, while she is talking, there's a guy in the background playing a video game, just

00:48:24.220 happy he's not being bothered.

00:48:28.180 I think that's why women get so many TikTok accounts, because the men just want their wives 1.00

00:48:34.500 to leave them alone.

00:48:35.580 And so what they do is they're like, go play, you'll leave me alone for four hours a day

00:48:45.020 and do TikTok?

00:48:47.760 And they're like, fine.

00:48:49.060 And they're not really on social media, so they're not really looking, right?

00:48:52.540 And so they're thinking things are good.

00:48:54.320 And their wife is telling all of the family's most intimate secrets on TikTok.

00:49:01.980 Oh, too funny.

00:49:03.200 There are no soulmates in Christianity. 1.00

00:49:06.580 Crazy Kyle says, this whole thing sounded so genuine until the ending when she said,

00:49:11.340 at least we had fun and she took it as a game.

00:49:14.480 I'm married, so screw that crazy lady. 1.00

00:49:16.760 Not my wife, but all the girls you've shown. 0.55

00:49:19.160 DM, it's a numbers game.

00:49:20.440 If a man is willing to ask, he will get laid. 0.99

00:49:23.920 That's true.

00:49:27.140 OK, attorney warns stepmoms about putting their name on the deed in case their new husband's 0.64

00:49:32.780 pass away.

00:49:38.160 Rodolfo says, Pearl, stop spilling the game.

00:49:42.180 Men want to be left alone but not be lonely.

00:49:46.300 No.

00:49:48.960 Why do you think I'm here?

00:49:50.200 I spill the game on both genders. 1.00

00:49:51.660 You know, to get really good insights on what I talk about, I talk to guys that coach men

00:50:00.920 on this stuff.

00:50:02.420 And really, you're not going to get a better insight into what's going on.

00:50:06.420 There's people you can talk to that will give you more information than ever.

00:50:10.620 One is people that live in the front of apartment complexes.

00:50:14.180 The women can lie, but your doorman will not. 1.00

00:50:20.140 They see everything.

00:50:22.020 That's one.

00:50:24.300 So, you know, my old door lady, she would tell me, she would tell me like, oh, that woman 0.99

00:50:31.840 saw this many guys that week or that like.

00:50:33.940 Anyways, that's one.

00:50:37.500 Another one to get really good information is men that coach men in dating.

00:50:43.920 Because they deal with men that are married having problems, men that are young and just 0.98

00:50:49.880 don't know.

00:50:50.380 Like, I talked to one coach.

00:50:52.080 He gets guys laid within three weeks from virgins.

00:50:55.980 That's what he does.

00:50:57.240 That's a little bit less than a year.

00:50:59.080 Depends how stubborn the guy is.

00:51:00.520 Now, they like, and I ask very specific questions.

00:51:06.180 So I'll ask like, okay, a guy that's getting laid, how many are in its harem on average?

00:51:11.800 A guy that's just a relationship guy.

00:51:15.160 I ask very specific questions to figure out the frequency of things and like who they're

00:51:20.740 like, anyways, I'm, I'm, all I'm saying is, yes, I'm going to keep spilling the tea.

00:51:27.060 I'm sorry you bought my membership.

00:51:28.720 I won't listen to that.

00:51:31.480 I'm okay.

00:51:32.600 Pearl, do a poll. 0.74

00:51:33.560 Who's married?

00:51:34.500 LOL.

00:51:34.940 The singles are mad.

00:51:36.900 A Kardashian viewer.

00:51:39.160 Thanos says, husband, bedtime is my favorite time of day.

00:51:42.560 Wife, it's because of the cuddles. 1.00

00:51:44.560 Husband, no, it's the only time you go to sleep and stop nagging me.

00:51:48.340 Nagging me.

00:51:49.220 Fizel, as a divorced individual, I want to have kids without getting married again.

00:51:53.700 I'd be happy to paying child support as long as it's 5K.

00:51:56.780 I just don't want to end up like Ross Geller.

00:52:00.880 Okay, let's keep going.

00:52:02.020 This has just got to be said because I can't take it anymore.

00:52:06.400 Imagine being your second marriage and you've been married for 30 years and y'all have had

00:52:12.860 a loving relationship and you have children from another marriage and he has children from

00:52:19.060 another marriage.

00:52:20.380 And for God's sake, what happens next is just traumatic.

00:52:24.320 Your husband passed away, but the house that you are living in is in his name and your name

00:52:33.500 was never put on a deed and the children make you leave the house as soon as that funeral

00:52:39.180 is over.

00:52:40.080 This is real life stuff.

00:52:41.060 This is really, this really, really happens.

00:52:44.320 Change the deed.

00:52:45.540 It is very important that in your lifetime, if you're in a second marriage and y'all have

00:52:50.520 been together for a long time, you change the deed.

00:52:53.840 Joint tenant with writer survivorship with both names on it.

00:52:57.040 And that way, if something were to happen to him, the house automatically goes to you.

00:53:01.100 If something happens to you, it automatically goes to him.

00:53:03.720 Because I always tell people, the worst comes out of individuals at weddings and deaths.

00:53:11.200 Change those deeds.

00:53:12.140 Change those deeds.

00:53:15.540 Okay.

00:53:18.620 Women talking about second wife advantage. 1.00

00:53:22.780 So this woman, I liked her. 0.92

00:53:24.120 Men actually learn from relationships and they get better every time.

00:53:30.060 Women, we get worse every time, unfortunately. 1.00

00:53:33.720 As someone who has dated men that come from divorce, despite the stigma attached to people

00:53:40.700 having failed marriages, I can honestly testify to the fact that there are advantages 1.00

00:53:45.360 to being a second wife.

00:53:47.940 In the few cases that I can recall, there was one in particular where the man was the one

00:53:52.620 to initiate his divorce.

00:53:54.420 And as I've mentioned on my channel before, 69% of divorces are initiated by women. 1.00

00:53:59.800 So I was really intrigued to see what made him want to walk away from his marriage.

00:54:04.040 The marriage that he described to me was one where his partner was not very supportive.

00:54:09.340 She wasn't very friendly.

00:54:10.560 She was very unkind to him.

00:54:12.900 And she really was not affectionate.

00:54:15.480 And they did not have sex as much as he felt they needed to in order to foster that intimacy.

00:54:21.400 There were a host of other issues.

00:54:23.720 But based on what he told me, I really did understand why he felt compelled to walk away

00:54:29.960 and why he felt like it was unsalvageable.

00:54:32.520 In the other instance I can think of, it was the opposite.

00:54:35.980 This couple had been together for a really long time.

00:54:38.320 And she felt like she didn't have her own identity in their marriage.

00:54:43.180 Everything kind of revolved around the kids.

00:54:45.560 And he was very emotionally and physically unavailable and didn't really make a lot of time

00:54:50.880 for her and to foster their own form of intimacy mentally and physically.

00:54:58.560 And again, it's the same kind of feeling as, you know, the first one where you can understand

00:55:03.140 why someone would feel the need to walk away from something after enduring years and years of that.

00:55:09.780 In both cases, though, I did find both men to be incredibly self-aware, incredibly reflective

00:55:18.080 about how they contributed to the demise of their marriage

00:55:22.880 and things that they wish that their partner did differently.

00:55:27.740 Ultimately, I felt like these men had a perspective that you can really only have

00:55:32.200 if you've gone through a really monumental breakup or, in their cases, a divorce.

00:55:38.700 I think the biggest advantage of being a second wife or of dating someone who comes from a failed marriage 0.63

00:55:44.720 is the perspective that they have, is their ability to look back at something and say,

00:55:51.240 okay, well, here's what we did wrong.

00:55:53.520 For a lot of people, not just men and not just divorcees, but women and people at any stage of their life,

00:55:59.520 there are certain lessons that are learned with time and with retrospect.

00:56:04.560 And there are a lot of things that as we go through, we don't really know what is happening

00:56:10.960 until we've had time to kind of stop and assess everything.

00:56:15.420 For me personally, I don't want to be with a man who is learning lessons that I feel should be very obvious.

00:56:24.880 Because, like, not being physically or emotionally unavailable for me just sounds like absolute hell.

00:56:32.820 And so if this person really did not understand how important that is until his wife ended his marriage,

00:56:41.920 and that is now a lesson that he has, one that I will benefit directly from,

00:56:47.300 yeah, sign me up.

00:56:49.720 I mean, it makes a lot of sense if you think about it, right?

00:56:51.980 Like, think about the first couple people that you dated when you first got into the dating scene.

00:56:56.900 You don't really have the best idea of what you're looking for, what you want, or of who you are.

00:57:05.840 And I think it's the same thing in marriage.

00:57:10.040 Despite it being such a massive commitment,

00:57:12.520 there are so many people that have given me anecdotal stories about the circumstances under which they married.

00:57:20.720 Well, we were together for a couple years.

00:57:23.960 Well, I was pregnant.

00:57:25.780 Well, my parents were pushing me to pop the question.

00:57:28.760 It's not uncommon for people to marry because they feel like they have to.

00:57:34.460 Which leads me to my next point.

00:57:36.800 If a man is dating you intentionally,

00:57:40.040 despite coming from a failed marriage,

00:57:42.180 especially if he is expressing interest in marrying again,

00:57:47.200 know that he is going to devote so much more of himself to that second marriage than he did the first time around.

00:57:55.180 Why?

00:57:55.740 Because he's experienced the heartbreak of a divorce.

00:58:00.100 Men and women experience heartbreak totally different.

00:58:02.560 Yeah, totally.

00:58:04.200 But they still experience heartbreak.

00:58:06.920 In both of the relationships that I cited,

00:58:10.600 even the man that initiated the divorce had his own heartbreak in having to walk away from his marriage.

00:58:18.300 So the chances of him going into something else all willy-nilly

00:58:23.300 and wanting to experience that all over again are slim to none.

00:58:29.400 So all of this is to say,

00:58:31.940 if you are dating and you come across men that have,

00:58:35.380 you know,

00:58:36.160 a failed marriage or they're coming from a divorce,

00:58:38.740 don't be so quick to write them off.

00:58:41.020 Sit down with them,

00:58:42.200 get to know them,

00:58:43.240 and try and find out what happened in that relationship that caused it to fail.

00:58:49.260 And if you find that this man is reflective and analytical and open and honest,

00:58:55.280 and more importantly determined to be different in,

00:59:00.000 in the relationship that you are building with him than he was in his marriage,

00:59:04.160 you might want to just hold on tight because he wasn't his marriage wasn't his marriage.

00:59:13.980 You might want to just hold on tight because he's looking for a happy ending too.

00:59:19.280 Right now she's just teaching women how to manipulate their second marriage. 1.00

00:59:29.460 All right,

00:59:30.220 guys,

00:59:31.060 what Pearl, 0.59

00:59:31.640 if women had to pay for weddings and marriages like men, 1.00

00:59:34.340 they would not think about second marriages as so cool and trendy.

00:59:39.040 Well,

00:59:39.600 I want to know what you guys think.

00:59:42.020 You could put the link,

00:59:43.200 the column link in the chat.

00:59:45.460 I want to hear,

00:59:46.600 do you think men should get remarried after they divorce? 0.94

00:59:50.940 If you had a friend going through a terrible divorce and said to you,

00:59:54.700 they wanted to get remarried. 0.99

00:59:56.540 Would you say do it?

00:59:58.320 What do you guys think?

01:00:02.560 Oh,

01:00:03.060 we got another subscriber.

01:00:06.780 Welcome to the audacity gang.

01:00:14.280 Welcome.

01:00:14.720 Thank you so much.

01:00:19.260 Let me.

01:00:23.300 Rob,

01:00:23.920 appreciate you.

01:00:29.820 Okay.

01:00:30.360 We have the zoom link.

01:00:33.840 Going in the chat.

01:00:35.260 We'll pin it.

01:00:39.020 So if you had a friend that went through a terrible,

01:00:43.020 terrible divorce,

01:00:43.920 would you tell him to remarry?

01:00:49.400 While we're waiting for people to call in,

01:00:51.460 I'm going to give you guys a second.

01:00:52.800 I'm going to go through our rules for calling in one.

01:00:56.020 I do ask personal questions.

01:00:57.900 If you come on the show,

01:00:59.220 um,

01:00:59.920 if you don't want to talk about your personal stories,

01:01:04.000 I mean,

01:01:07.120 then don't call in.

01:01:08.100 Like,

01:01:08.340 it's just a note.

01:01:09.200 Like,

01:01:09.360 don't,

01:01:09.660 don't call into the show where we talk about what's going on in society based on people's stories.

01:01:18.220 And then anyways,

01:01:19.620 you can opt out of the camera.

01:01:22.020 So we'll bring you up first.

01:01:23.460 And you can say,

01:01:24.560 don't want to be on camera,

01:01:26.300 but I need to see that you're a person.

01:01:28.780 So my producer knows that not,

01:01:31.020 we're not going to bring you guys up right away.

01:01:33.400 Um,

01:01:33.940 but make sure that's the first thing you say if you don't want to be on camera.

01:01:37.300 Okay.

01:01:40.120 Please bring a statement or story.

01:01:46.440 So if I,

01:01:46.960 the question of today is,

01:01:48.520 would you recommend a friend remarry?

01:01:51.720 Tell me why.

01:01:54.920 Um,

01:01:55.940 what,

01:01:56.240 what is the personal stories or what's the reason you think that?

01:02:01.500 And get to the point.

01:02:03.040 Don't make it a monologue.

01:02:04.260 Um,

01:02:04.540 sometimes I,

01:02:05.840 you know,

01:02:06.020 sometimes people do bring in pretty cool stories.

01:02:09.500 So,

01:02:10.020 um,

01:02:10.780 I'll let them go a little longer,

01:02:12.060 but at times I will have to cut you off. 0.56

01:02:14.380 It's not to be rude.

01:02:15.880 I just got to run the show.

01:02:17.620 Don't over talk me.

01:02:20.080 Stay on topic.

01:02:22.200 And that's pretty much it.

01:02:24.400 That's what we got today.

01:02:27.200 Um,

01:02:28.140 now I wanted to talk about a couple ideas I have for the audacity network.

01:02:35.440 While we're,

01:02:36.000 while we're waiting,

01:02:37.140 while we're waiting.

01:02:38.920 Um,

01:02:39.400 give me a thumbs up when somebody's on the line,

01:02:41.800 but a couple ideas I have.

01:02:44.860 So on the website,

01:02:45.860 I was thinking about,

01:02:47.160 so as you guys know,

01:02:49.340 the red pill started in the blogs and forums.

01:02:52.560 So there are people that have been in the red pill for like 10,

01:02:55.240 20 years.

01:02:56.480 And it was men coming together to solve their problems.

01:03:00.000 The great thing about RP content is it does have solutions for men.

01:03:05.760 There have been men that created solutions to potentially fix your marriage.

01:03:10.880 Um,

01:03:11.360 if your wife never liked you in the first place,

01:03:13.480 it won't help.

01:03:14.160 But if maybe it was just,

01:03:16.740 um,

01:03:17.500 frame that you lost,

01:03:19.060 they made it,

01:03:19.740 you know,

01:03:20.680 Donovan made a course on how to,

01:03:22.800 um,

01:03:24.520 what women say versus what they mean. 1.00

01:03:27.740 It's legit.

01:03:28.480 Like there's courses that I found that are really are legit.

01:03:32.400 And I was thinking about getting some sort of group membership.

01:03:35.880 If I put them all on the website,

01:03:37.640 if you guys are interested,

01:03:41.140 the ones I would co-sign.

01:03:42.600 And I know from people that have worked with these guys that are good where you

01:03:46.880 guys could pay.

01:03:48.460 I don't know.

01:03:49.320 A lot of these courses are like a couple hundred bucks each,

01:03:52.600 but maybe you could pay like 200 bucks and get access to like 10 courses.

01:03:57.220 Um,

01:03:57.740 there's courses on how to like make six figures as a power lineman.

01:04:01.580 Um,

01:04:02.880 there's really a lot of good information.

01:04:05.800 And the thing is most of these guys,

01:04:07.960 yes,

01:04:09.080 they're in it.

01:04:09.840 I mean,

01:04:10.120 obviously they want to make money,

01:04:11.580 but they initially got into this to fix their problems.

01:04:14.480 And you know,

01:04:16.060 like one has a fashion course.

01:04:17.880 That's really good.

01:04:19.120 Um,

01:04:19.740 anyways,

01:04:20.080 if you guys like that idea,

01:04:21.460 it's something I was thinking of including,

01:04:23.100 um,

01:04:24.200 another thing is we do do channel management.

01:04:26.500 So I like to take people that are already successful,

01:04:30.240 but they don't really,

01:04:31.400 you know,

01:04:32.840 like,

01:04:33.020 let's say you're a doctor.

01:04:34.580 Do you have time to be worried about learning equipment?

01:04:41.360 You like,

01:04:41.700 I just think there aren't enough smart people on the internet.

01:04:45.280 Like,

01:04:45.760 I think I want to raise the overall IQ of people online.

01:04:49.120 And so what I do is I come in and,

01:04:52.140 um,

01:04:53.640 we take a,

01:04:54.320 we have a,

01:04:54.660 all they do is upload their video into a drive.

01:04:58.260 And then,

01:04:59.000 you know,

01:05:00.260 we do the rest posting titles,

01:05:02.840 thumbnails.

01:05:03.500 I was thinking of doing an audacity Academy where we can teach you guys how to do all the stuff.

01:05:08.600 If you want,

01:05:09.700 if you don't,

01:05:11.500 you know,

01:05:11.780 we can do it for you.

01:05:13.200 Just an idea.

01:05:14.140 I had,

01:05:14.500 you could take it or leave it.

01:05:15.520 So we're going to get back to the topic.

01:05:17.980 You know,

01:05:18.240 I was just waiting for people to come in,

01:05:19.960 but we have a caller.

01:05:22.300 We have Brad.

01:05:23.660 Hello,

01:05:24.020 Brad.

01:05:24.320 How are you?

01:05:26.300 Hi,

01:05:26.740 Pearl.

01:05:27.040 I'm good.

01:05:27.400 How are you?

01:05:28.400 Good.

01:05:28.820 Where are you calling out of?

01:05:31.060 Boise,

01:05:31.520 Idaho.

01:05:32.180 Are you good to be on camera?

01:05:34.800 Yeah.

01:05:35.340 If you don't mind me driving,

01:05:36.440 it's just kind of posted up.

01:05:38.340 That's fine.

01:05:39.040 Just don't crash.

01:05:40.980 No,

01:05:41.420 I definitely won't.

01:05:42.800 Okay.

01:05:43.340 Um,

01:05:43.660 so what do you think of the topic?

01:05:45.340 Would you recommend a man that's been through a terrible divorce marry again?

01:05:51.420 Uh,

01:05:51.940 I wouldn't recommend it because,

01:05:54.260 I feel as though it's kind of a green flag for the women, 0.97

01:05:59.640 uh,

01:06:01.160 because they know that he's been manipulated once before.

01:06:03.860 So it just kind of gives them that green flag to do it again.

01:06:08.000 You know what I'm saying?

01:06:08.800 Yeah.

01:06:10.240 And have you seen any men that you were friends with or like new marry twice?

01:06:17.640 Yes,

01:06:18.080 actually a coworker I'm working with at the moment.

01:06:20.900 Uh,

01:06:21.260 we actually had a conversation about it today.

01:06:23.000 It was pretty interesting.

01:06:24.260 What,

01:06:24.700 what's the job?

01:06:27.720 Like what's the field?

01:06:29.640 Uh,

01:06:30.200 electricians.

01:06:31.100 Okay.

01:06:31.780 And why is he marrying again?

01:06:34.740 Uh,

01:06:35.380 so he actually did already marry again.

01:06:38.220 Uh,

01:06:38.660 so what it was is he had first marriage,

01:06:43.600 uh,

01:06:44.220 14 years married,

01:06:45.480 two kids and,

01:06:47.940 you know,

01:06:48.860 nasty divorce,

01:06:49.760 didn't even see it coming.

01:06:51.600 Uh,

01:06:52.320 so he got with this new girl,

01:06:55.560 uh,

01:06:56.480 got her pregnant. 0.83

01:06:57.200 And that was kind of the reason that they decided to get married again.

01:07:00.140 Uh,

01:07:00.740 and,

01:07:01.640 uh,

01:07:02.000 what he's telling me is basically the conversation today was,

01:07:06.260 is she's taking a trip to Disneyland with a female friend of hers. 0.99

01:07:10.420 They're like 44 years old.

01:07:12.640 Uh,

01:07:13.120 she's taking a trip to Disneyland,

01:07:14.920 not taking his kids,

01:07:16.960 not taking her kids,

01:07:18.400 just kind of like a girl's trip.

01:07:20.940 And,

01:07:21.460 uh,

01:07:21.800 of course at his expense.

01:07:23.700 And,

01:07:24.140 uh,

01:07:25.020 he's just kind of,

01:07:26.340 he's just kind of going off about how he feels as though he's just getting,

01:07:29.240 uh,

01:07:31.020 what do you call it?

01:07:32.300 Drained wallet wise.

01:07:34.300 And,

01:07:34.740 uh,

01:07:35.760 I was like,

01:07:36.200 why,

01:07:36.500 why did you even,

01:07:37.780 if the first one was so bad,

01:07:39.720 why'd you get married a second time? 0.56

01:07:41.040 And he kind of like what you were talking about before he felt obligated.

01:07:44.280 Cause he,

01:07:44.900 they were going to have a kid.

01:07:46.280 So I'm not sure where that expectation came from or why that preyed so heavily on him.

01:07:51.740 But,

01:07:52.100 uh,

01:07:53.060 um,

01:07:54.000 just saying from personal,

01:07:55.160 uh,

01:07:56.480 witness,

01:07:56.940 it,

01:07:58.000 it seems to just be worse the second time around.

01:08:00.360 Yeah.

01:08:01.300 Women really use men's morality against them. 1.00

01:08:06.040 Like you guys,

01:08:07.180 I would,

01:08:08.020 I would also say simps do too.

01:08:10.140 Like simps,

01:08:11.840 uh,

01:08:13.000 just really,

01:08:14.340 I don't know.

01:08:15.420 They just throw each other.

01:08:17.960 Throw.

01:08:18.640 I don't know.

01:08:19.240 They just,

01:08:19.740 they throw,

01:08:20.580 they just expect men to just throw themselves on the,

01:08:24.540 on the pyre,

01:08:25.320 you know?

01:08:26.040 Yeah,

01:08:26.640 they totally do.

01:08:27.960 Well,

01:08:28.400 thank you so much,

01:08:29.300 Brad,

01:08:29.960 for calling in.

01:08:31.460 Of course.

01:08:31.940 No,

01:08:32.120 big fan.

01:08:32.740 I appreciate it,

01:08:33.460 bro.

01:08:33.580 Thank you so much.

01:08:34.300 Thank you.

01:08:36.080 Have a good.

01:08:36.860 You too.

01:08:39.700 Pregnant. 0.88

01:08:40.620 No,

01:08:40.880 that's the,

01:08:41.380 that's okay guys.

01:08:42.220 That's the way I get.

01:08:43.580 A lot of people think I'm hating on religion when I say that Christians are,

01:08:49.880 Christian men are the targets. 1.00

01:08:55.240 But they literally are.

01:08:57.180 And I know this because I've talked to OnlyFans models about this. 0.70

01:09:03.220 They market to Christian men.

01:09:05.120 That is what they do.

01:09:06.960 Married Christian,

01:09:07.740 because again they use men's sense of morality against them.

01:09:13.400 The Sims,

01:09:13.960 as he said,

01:09:14.800 the Sims do too.

01:09:15.680 What they'll do is they'll say,

01:09:17.800 you're a bad person.

01:09:19.340 If you have sex or have a kid outside of marriage,

01:09:22.120 even if the state is putting a gun to your head,

01:09:26.520 you still have to do it.

01:09:28.100 You're immoral.

01:09:28.680 Even if the women like being baby mothers, 1.00

01:09:34.080 it's still your fault.

01:09:35.580 Anyways,

01:09:35.980 sorry guys.

01:09:36.840 Headphone.

01:09:37.300 Is there anyone else on or no?

01:09:39.040 No?

01:09:39.380 Okay.

01:09:41.680 Yeah,

01:09:42.220 she is going to ride Space Mountain.

01:09:45.720 That'll be awesome.

01:09:47.160 Pearl,

01:09:47.440 me and my friend are trying to make a podcast called Father's Day.

01:09:50.780 It's just to support fathers.

01:09:52.400 And yes,

01:09:52.780 sometimes we're going to talk about ex-girlfriends.

01:09:55.160 Now look,

01:09:56.900 guys,

01:09:57.420 I do for the outsourcing of the clips and like that and the YouTube outsourcing.

01:10:06.480 I do have a smaller package,

01:10:08.620 but in general,

01:10:09.920 this is for people that want to go all in.

01:10:15.120 I want,

01:10:15.920 I don't have the capacity to take on like 10 clients.

01:10:18.660 I just don't have it.

01:10:20.120 I really can max out at like five,

01:10:22.980 four or five.

01:10:23.460 I'm just being honest.

01:10:24.560 This isn't even a sales gimmick.

01:10:25.900 So yes,

01:10:27.900 you can message me about the outsourcing,

01:10:30.180 but I'm telling you,

01:10:31.300 if you don't have a decent budget,

01:10:33.340 just don't waste your time.

01:10:34.660 In the most respectful way,

01:10:36.100 I just,

01:10:36.520 we only have the capacity for maybe four or five.

01:10:40.940 Okay.

01:10:41.260 How can you support this idea?

01:10:46.040 Jesus said that remarriage is adultery,

01:10:48.300 except if you're a widow.

01:10:49.840 I think Buddhist men are not the target.

01:10:51.700 I don't know enough Buddhist men to look at generalities from it.

01:10:55.620 Welcome to the show.

01:10:56.800 Sean,

01:10:57.300 are you okay to be on camera?

01:10:59.980 Yes,

01:11:00.340 ma'am.

01:11:01.480 Welcome to the show.

01:11:03.100 What is your thought on the topic?

01:11:04.500 Should men that have gone through a bad divorce remarry?

01:11:09.320 Negative.

01:11:13.400 Negative all day,

01:11:14.620 every day.

01:11:15.860 I mean,

01:11:16.320 it's just a complicated thing.

01:11:19.180 Yeah.

01:11:19.520 And marriage kind of is a little bit outdated.

01:11:22.860 And so,

01:11:23.680 I mean,

01:11:24.380 you were on point just like usual,

01:11:26.520 nothing new there,

01:11:27.260 right?

01:11:27.660 When it comes down to just diving deep into the details and figuring out

01:11:31.580 like,

01:11:31.860 Hey,

01:11:31.960 what's going on?

01:11:32.920 What's the causes of these things?

01:11:34.580 But,

01:11:35.040 you know,

01:11:35.540 people are hopeless romantics.

01:11:37.760 And so they just continue to move in the same destructive manner

01:11:40.800 without actually sitting back and just saying,

01:11:43.560 Hey,

01:11:44.720 should I get married again or not?

01:11:46.760 And so I think it's a global thing.

01:11:48.460 Also,

01:11:48.860 it's not like,

01:11:49.700 you know,

01:11:50.020 as we had a conversation last time I was on about just even in Asia,

01:11:53.880 how things were going.

01:11:54.900 So it's not Christian and Buddhist.

01:11:57.080 I know you just said that recently.

01:11:58.600 It's really about people got options.

01:12:01.020 And people are like,

01:12:02.200 look,

01:12:03.160 I want to do whatever I want to do when I want to do it.

01:12:05.780 And that's it.

01:12:07.560 Oh my gosh.

01:12:08.300 I didn't even recognize you with the hat on and the glasses this time.

01:12:12.120 I didn't realize you're,

01:12:12.880 you're the,

01:12:13.380 you're the one that was dating in Japan and like Asia.

01:12:15.920 Right.

01:12:17.080 Yeah.

01:12:17.400 Yeah.

01:12:17.580 Yeah.

01:12:19.960 So have you seen anyone go through a second marriage and how did it

01:12:25.160 turn out for them?

01:12:26.680 Of course.

01:12:27.640 Right.

01:12:28.040 But we already know the statistics,

01:12:29.640 right?

01:12:29.840 It turns out worse.

01:12:31.120 Right.

01:12:31.800 Like,

01:12:32.140 I mean,

01:12:32.600 of course they say they learn things and it will change,

01:12:35.720 but it doesn't matter.

01:12:36.600 You're not dating or marrying the same person.

01:12:38.900 You're marrying a completely different person.

01:12:41.260 And then of course they have a completely different timetable about the

01:12:45.700 development and how they see the world.

01:12:47.480 And so again,

01:12:48.820 you,

01:12:49.080 you'll marry somebody else and be like, 0.51

01:12:50.600 yeah,

01:12:50.940 you know,

01:12:51.280 the first one I wasn't developed enough.

01:12:53.700 And then you go into the second one and the other person could not be

01:12:57.380 developed enough.

01:12:58.320 Or maybe they just decided to change their mind.

01:13:00.760 You know,

01:13:01.020 I don't think people would want to get married that much.

01:13:02.980 If it was like,

01:13:03.540 you can't get divorced.

01:13:04.960 You have to stay.

01:13:06.480 Guys would,

01:13:07.300 but not the girls.

01:13:08.760 They'd be like,

01:13:09.100 Oh heck no.

01:13:10.680 We've been praying for that.

01:13:12.780 Yeah.

01:13:13.260 Good luck.

01:13:14.320 Well,

01:13:14.740 I don't understand why people don't just live together.

01:13:17.640 The second time you can,

01:13:19.460 you can live together.

01:13:20.580 You can have a kid.

01:13:21.760 You just,

01:13:22.280 why would you take an extra layer of insecurity?

01:13:25.960 Like,

01:13:26.440 like an extra way the state can F you when you can have the same exact

01:13:30.840 outcome.

01:13:31.920 You can even do a ceremony.

01:13:33.420 I have like,

01:13:34.200 I have friends that are common law married and they did a ceremony.

01:13:37.400 Like everyone knows they're together,

01:13:39.220 but they're just,

01:13:41.000 the state doesn't.

01:13:42.940 It ain't good enough.

01:13:44.240 You know,

01:13:44.740 they want the ring.

01:13:45.840 And then I guess it's just,

01:13:47.220 you know,

01:13:47.880 culture,

01:13:48.600 culture impacts them a little bit too much.

01:13:50.820 But yeah.

01:13:51.740 And it's funny.

01:13:52.400 It was working longer when they were just a couple than it was when

01:13:55.940 they got married.

01:13:56.720 Right.

01:13:57.060 Like when they got married,

01:13:58.640 it got worse when they were a couple,

01:14:00.200 we were together eight years and then it's like,

01:14:02.520 dang.

01:14:03.140 And then y'all got married for three and y'all were divorced.

01:14:05.760 And so it's just kind of funny,

01:14:08.240 but I just think it changes the power dynamics.

01:14:11.220 So at the end of the day,

01:14:12.760 the guys like to think they're in charge.

01:14:14.440 Like I'm in charge of my household.

01:14:15.820 And it's like,

01:14:16.340 really,

01:14:16.660 bro,

01:14:16.820 I will call the cops and they will let you know real quick.

01:14:19.400 We all know what it is.

01:14:21.260 Like,

01:14:21.480 you know,

01:14:21.760 it's so funny,

01:14:22.540 man.

01:14:22.700 It's the most craziest thing.

01:14:24.680 The only power you men have is not getting married.

01:14:27.160 I swear to the beans.

01:14:28.500 Like it's the only power you have.

01:14:30.480 Or other women. 1.00

01:14:31.520 It's just not getting married.

01:14:32.060 Like other women. 1.00

01:14:33.160 Yeah.

01:14:33.460 That's really it.

01:14:34.000 But if you get married,

01:14:35.740 you can't do it underneath that.

01:14:37.320 You get what I'm saying?

01:14:38.120 Yeah.

01:14:38.380 Like if you're,

01:14:39.880 even if you are in some countries,

01:14:41.580 they give you rules.

01:14:42.480 Like everybody got to get a house.

01:14:44.200 Everybody got to get a car.

01:14:45.680 It's like crazy.

01:14:46.740 It's like,

01:14:47.140 Oh my gosh.

01:14:48.680 So yeah,

01:14:49.320 no,

01:14:50.060 it's ridiculous.

01:14:51.300 But that's what they do.

01:14:52.300 Every power that men have, 0.99

01:14:54.040 the Christians will come in and say they're immoral for using. 1.00

01:14:58.120 So like if a guy dates around,

01:15:00.520 like that gives him power because then he has options.

01:15:03.260 Like if he's sleeping with multiple women,

01:15:05.120 if one woman takes away his supply of sex with marriage, 0.77

01:15:08.880 like that gives my men saying,

01:15:10.900 no,

01:15:11.060 I'm not going to marry you.

01:15:12.240 That gives them power.

01:15:13.540 And then the Christians say you're a bad person for doing it. 0.52

01:15:17.740 Yeah,

01:15:18.520 exactly.

01:15:19.340 Especially you go ham on that.

01:15:21.360 And it's so funny too,

01:15:22.420 because I forgot what the guy name was.

01:15:24.680 He was like,

01:15:24.980 man,

01:15:25.500 you're actually really cool.

01:15:27.060 If you're a virgin,

01:15:27.960 you're the best out.

01:15:29.640 You're the strongest male.

01:15:30.880 I was like,

01:15:31.180 look,

01:15:31.320 you can think that in your head,

01:15:32.640 but other people don't have to like,

01:15:34.960 like people just won't acknowledge it and just cast you as a weirdo or incel.

01:15:40.580 And you're like,

01:15:41.320 well,

01:15:41.420 I have the moral ground.

01:15:42.480 And yeah,

01:15:43.020 you will never have a partner in a mate.

01:15:45.300 But at the end of the day,

01:15:46.900 because even the girls who are Christian don't prefer that.

01:15:49.880 So it's just,

01:15:50.840 it's funny.

01:15:51.400 And as you said,

01:15:52.460 they use the moral argument and they act like they stand on morality with that

01:15:57.800 position.

01:15:58.420 But definitely you're leading people astray with that type of advice.

01:16:01.720 Like,

01:16:02.820 yeah,

01:16:03.040 I've met women that I believe are virgins. 0.94

01:16:06.140 And it's like,

01:16:07.520 I mean,

01:16:07.920 some of them are just waiting to get it over with.

01:16:10.060 And then they can go be whores. 1.00

01:16:12.320 Like,

01:16:13.000 you know what I mean?

01:16:15.280 Cause guys don't think they're like immune if they find like a virgin homeschooled girl.

01:16:20.060 And I'm like,

01:16:20.680 I've literally met those that are on only fans.

01:16:23.600 Like that.

01:16:24.380 That's what they said.

01:16:26.120 And as we said last time,

01:16:28.140 you know,

01:16:28.620 people swear it down.

01:16:29.640 It's like,

01:16:30.240 Oh man,

01:16:30.680 it's gotta be,

01:16:31.400 you know,

01:16:32.220 feminism. 1.00

01:16:32.720 It's like,

01:16:33.460 nah,

01:16:33.860 bro.

01:16:34.400 Moms was telling them like,

01:16:36.160 you know,

01:16:36.720 your daddy never made me,

01:16:38.200 you know what?

01:16:39.000 So go out there and live your life.

01:16:40.800 And so it's just really bad.

01:16:43.220 And I'm telling you,

01:16:43.900 I'm overseas.

01:16:44.700 Sometimes I'll be dating,

01:16:45.880 you know,

01:16:46.100 with my girl and we're walking down the street and some older Thai ladies looking like, 1.00

01:16:50.420 man,

01:16:51.580 I wish we had that back in my days.

01:16:53.680 Like the girl would tell me,

01:16:55.820 she even said that she's like,

01:16:57.220 man,

01:16:57.880 you're lucky to live in these times.

01:16:59.400 And these are like old Thai women, 1.00

01:17:01.120 you get like past their primes,

01:17:03.520 but they're just like,

01:17:04.680 man,

01:17:04.900 I didn't live in a time with GI soldiers and Americanos coming through. 0.92

01:17:09.320 Like,

01:17:09.760 you know,

01:17:11.140 I was born in the wrong era.

01:17:12.840 You get so.

01:17:14.240 No,

01:17:14.540 that's the other thing.

01:17:15.740 Like that would be the most common thing I'd hear from women from more traditional 0.99

01:17:20.080 countries is that their moms told them to go be whores essentially. 1.00

01:17:25.820 I mean,

01:17:26.000 they didn't use those words,

01:17:27.400 but then like,

01:17:28.280 yeah,

01:17:28.480 you might as well,

01:17:32.260 you know,

01:17:32.580 subtle.

01:17:33.320 And I'm like,

01:17:34.080 that's why like when the,

01:17:35.600 like when the guys think they're in control,

01:17:37.840 like,

01:17:38.640 Oh my gosh,

01:17:38.960 I was talking to this,

01:17:40.160 this Christian guy the other day.

01:17:42.100 And he's like,

01:17:42.580 if you just lead them to God,

01:17:43.920 like your daughter won't end up on only fans.

01:17:45.960 And I'm like,

01:17:46.620 I'm sorry.

01:17:48.180 You have two daughters,

01:17:49.100 but you have no control.

01:17:51.260 None.

01:17:51.840 If that woman gets in the wrong friend group at school, 1.00

01:17:54.540 gets in the wrong content,

01:17:55.940 or even the mother,

01:17:57.880 your trad mom gets in her ear the wrong way. 1.00

01:18:00.740 Done.

01:18:01.340 Cooked.

01:18:01.900 You can't stop it.

01:18:03.200 Your mom.

01:18:04.240 Yeah.

01:18:04.780 Yeah.

01:18:05.020 But you got to worry about your wife telling her these things.

01:18:08.500 Like forget everybody else.

01:18:10.460 Cause she's going to be an accomplished,

01:18:12.120 right?

01:18:12.780 She's going to be the one who's like,

01:18:14.720 your dad's the tough one.

01:18:16.080 You know,

01:18:16.460 girl,

01:18:16.960 I got you.

01:18:17.860 Like,

01:18:18.280 it's going to be that type of stuff going on in the background.

01:18:21.040 And here you are Bible thumping, 0.98

01:18:22.880 hitting the gym,

01:18:23.920 thinking that that's going to stop it.

01:18:25.460 And it's not.

01:18:26.720 So it's hard,

01:18:28.560 man.

01:18:28.820 I tell most guys,

01:18:29.640 I talk to the humanized women, 1.00

01:18:31.120 but they just don't want to do it.

01:18:33.100 They want to,

01:18:33.840 you know,

01:18:34.060 see them as sweet spice,

01:18:35.260 everything nice.

01:18:36.000 And I say,

01:18:36.420 they're just humans.

01:18:36.980 Just like you,

01:18:37.740 man.

01:18:38.360 I think that the final stage of red pill is when guys realize they have no

01:18:41.920 control.

01:18:43.120 And they're like,

01:18:43.960 yeah,

01:18:44.380 that,

01:18:44.560 that,

01:18:44.920 that,

01:18:44.960 that is the final stage.

01:18:46.520 Shout out to my homie,

01:18:47.660 CGA.

01:18:48.560 Is that what he says?

01:18:50.560 Yeah.

01:18:51.080 I love CGA.

01:18:51.860 I love CGA.

01:18:51.900 Because he just like shows you like there's life after this guys.

01:18:56.120 But I talk to guys and guys talk to me and it's like doomsday,

01:18:59.460 Pearl.

01:19:00.160 If they don't get what they thought it was supposed to be,

01:19:02.720 they're like,

01:19:03.020 what's the point of life?

01:19:05.020 I'm like,

01:19:05.460 man,

01:19:05.620 there's dirt bikes,

01:19:06.640 four wheelers,

01:19:07.900 gun ranges.

01:19:09.040 Like,

01:19:09.160 what do you mean?

01:19:09.900 What's the purpose of life?

01:19:11.580 But they don't want to continue.

01:19:14.200 And there's women turning 22 every day. 1.00

01:19:16.720 Like,

01:19:17.160 you know what I mean?

01:19:19.180 Talk about it.

01:19:20.160 Right.

01:19:20.460 And they're like,

01:19:21.320 no,

01:19:21.780 not me.

01:19:22.500 Never.

01:19:23.120 Like,

01:19:23.640 come on.

01:19:24.300 Stop the lies.

01:19:25.560 You know,

01:19:25.920 you got it out on the street.

01:19:27.220 Let's be honest.

01:19:28.180 I know.

01:19:28.780 So,

01:19:28.960 yeah,

01:19:29.360 you're on point.

01:19:30.560 Pearl,

01:19:30.820 you always do great work.

01:19:32.240 Did you actually win the game too?

01:19:33.920 The last time we talked after that,

01:19:36.140 the volleyball game?

01:19:36.980 Oh,

01:19:38.800 um,

01:19:40.580 I don't know.

01:19:41.080 I play every week.

01:19:41.980 The last game I played,

01:19:43.060 we lost.

01:19:43.480 Okay.

01:19:43.960 So,

01:19:44.180 but I,

01:19:45.440 I think that that week I probably won.

01:19:47.560 I've been on a losing streak lately.

01:19:50.600 Oh,

01:19:51.140 no,

01:19:51.420 at least you're winning on YouTube and go sign up for the audacity.

01:19:54.720 Just make sure Pearl keeps winning.

01:19:57.120 Okay.

01:19:57.840 Thank you,

01:19:58.560 Sean.

01:19:59.920 See you.

01:20:00.420 Salute.

01:20:00.980 See the chat.

01:20:01.760 Peace.

01:20:02.120 Peace.

01:20:02.460 Okay.

01:20:04.660 The,

01:20:05.760 no one got control over nothing.

01:20:07.800 Look,

01:20:09.220 and neither do the women to some extent,

01:20:11.700 right?

01:20:11.940 Like,

01:20:12.680 I mean,

01:20:13.740 how many women? 1.00

01:20:17.900 Some,

01:20:18.680 okay.

01:20:19.300 Women have way more control than men. 1.00

01:20:20.900 So I'm not going to,

01:20:21.460 I'm not going to make it into a false equivalency.

01:20:23.400 It's not the same,

01:20:24.000 but

01:20:24.260 there are women that were good wives to a man who changed his mind and said,

01:20:31.520 you know what?

01:20:31.880 I wasted your youth.

01:20:33.640 Don't really want to be married.

01:20:35.500 I mean,

01:20:35.700 usually it's their own fault.

01:20:36.620 They stuck around long enough,

01:20:37.700 but you know,

01:20:39.860 like sometimes you can't control everything.

01:20:43.700 We got next on the line.

01:20:45.480 We got slim Jim.

01:20:46.640 Are you cool to be on camera?

01:20:48.040 Slim Jim.

01:20:50.380 I'd prefer not,

01:20:51.440 but if you'd like,

01:20:52.100 I'm okay with that.

01:20:53.380 That's okay.

01:20:53.900 We can,

01:20:54.180 we can keep you off.

01:20:55.320 That's no problem.

01:20:56.660 I appreciate that.

01:20:57.880 Thank you.

01:20:58.620 So what do you think of the topic?

01:21:00.840 Should men remarry? 1.00

01:21:04.140 Well,

01:21:04.660 I would say to each their own.

01:21:06.260 Me personally,

01:21:06.860 I've been married twice,

01:21:08.660 divorced twice.

01:21:10.120 Uh,

01:21:10.420 the first one was quite difficult.

01:21:12.560 The second one was much less difficult.

01:21:15.080 Um,

01:21:16.820 so interesting.

01:21:20.140 Uh,

01:21:20.500 I,

01:21:20.820 I,

01:21:21.640 I don't necessarily want to say for or against what,

01:21:23.940 what,

01:21:25.300 uh,

01:21:25.520 women and men should do. 1.00

01:21:26.560 I think ultimately you should find who you can have a good,

01:21:30.660 say,

01:21:30.880 uh,

01:21:32.700 peace is a major part of life.

01:21:35.220 You know,

01:21:35.740 you should be able to have peace and happiness and forgiveness.

01:21:37.860 When,

01:21:38.420 when there is,

01:21:39.080 uh,

01:21:40.140 um,

01:21:40.700 transgressions in any relationship,

01:21:42.600 you should learn how to forgive.

01:21:43.980 Uh,

01:21:44.260 small transgressions,

01:21:45.340 obviously easier to forgive.

01:21:47.180 Larger transgressions,

01:21:48.720 much more difficult.

01:21:49.840 But as you go on in life,

01:21:51.240 you realize that,

01:21:52.120 I mean,

01:21:52.920 those are things you're going to have regardless things that can't be taken

01:21:55.660 from you in divorce.

01:21:57.220 You know,

01:21:57.460 men can lose most everything.

01:22:00.140 Um,

01:22:00.580 and I've been in positions where I've essentially lost nearly everything.

01:22:04.220 Uh,

01:22:04.540 I'm,

01:22:05.000 uh,

01:22:06.220 uh,

01:22:06.600 retired active duty military with more than two decades,

01:22:09.700 military service,

01:22:11.020 honorable discharge,

01:22:11.840 and,

01:22:13.000 uh,

01:22:14.400 retired under honorable conditions as well.

01:22:17.620 And,

01:22:18.060 uh,

01:22:18.940 you know,

01:22:19.420 I mean,

01:22:19.940 it doesn't really matter how long you're here on this planet.

01:22:22.720 Uh,

01:22:23.080 you know,

01:22:23.260 I'm 47.

01:22:23.940 If I live seven more decades,

01:22:25.240 that's 117,

01:22:26.460 pretty small amount of time.

01:22:28.260 When you figure sandwich between two,

01:22:29.720 two eternities,

01:22:30.320 the eternity exists before you get here and the eternity after you're

01:22:32.620 gone.

01:22:33.380 And so invariably everybody's got difficulties in life,

01:22:37.100 whether it's men or women,

01:22:38.520 uh,

01:22:39.920 both can have it difficult.

01:22:41.300 You know,

01:22:41.500 it's,

01:22:42.120 it's on the individual,

01:22:43.440 but,

01:22:43.940 um,

01:22:44.480 in the end,

01:22:45.760 uh,

01:22:46.580 you're not going to be taking much with you anyhow.

01:22:48.640 So it's pretty important to forgive and,

01:22:51.660 and love.

01:22:52.860 And I would say those are very important.

01:22:54.440 Uh,

01:22:54.900 being in the military for over two decades,

01:22:56.460 being involved in a lot of war and,

01:22:59.280 uh,

01:22:59.500 the whole planet could do with a lot more love and forgiveness.

01:23:01.640 I would say,

01:23:02.300 uh,

01:23:03.580 I don't really have all the answers for everything.

01:23:05.480 I am just a man,

01:23:06.360 you know,

01:23:06.680 I'm 47.

01:23:07.500 I just retired last year,

01:23:08.680 46.

01:23:09.480 So I want peace.

01:23:11.060 I want peace.

01:23:12.000 So first off,

01:23:13.080 I wanted to say thank you for your service.

01:23:15.680 Thank you.

01:23:16.220 And,

01:23:16.820 um,

01:23:17.220 second question.

01:23:18.560 What,

01:23:19.140 what made you get married the second time and why was it different?

01:23:23.760 Why was it less contentious?

01:23:27.040 So what made me get married the second time is I truly felt,

01:23:30.860 uh,

01:23:32.400 I could have,

01:23:33.060 I had a very peaceful relationship and I had,

01:23:37.380 um,

01:23:38.240 it just,

01:23:38.740 it just worked well.

01:23:40.480 And,

01:23:40.960 uh,

01:23:41.100 I didn't expect to get married.

01:23:42.800 Uh,

01:23:43.280 I wasn't going to,

01:23:44.560 and then it just kind of happened.

01:23:47.000 Um,

01:23:48.040 uh,

01:23:48.260 she was open to the idea of getting married.

01:23:50.080 And I was like,

01:23:50.660 I,

01:23:51.140 at just some point I was like,

01:23:52.420 Hey,

01:23:52.520 would you like to get married?

01:23:53.400 I was still active duty military at the time.

01:23:55.760 And,

01:23:56.260 uh,

01:23:56.420 we were married for,

01:23:57.560 I want to say about seven years and,

01:24:00.840 uh,

01:24:01.040 I didn't expect it to end.

01:24:02.500 It just ended.

01:24:03.500 And,

01:24:04.040 uh,

01:24:04.540 when a relationship is essentially over,

01:24:06.320 um,

01:24:08.000 I think it's best to know that,

01:24:09.600 Hey,

01:24:09.740 when,

01:24:10.220 when one person has called it quits,

01:24:11.840 you can't try to make it work because it won't.

01:24:14.520 If one person has decided they're done,

01:24:16.460 you just have to accept that and move on.

01:24:18.860 And so that's essentially what I did my best to do.

01:24:21.100 I hope I answered that question or your question.

01:24:23.660 I just meant,

01:24:24.240 I'm assuming,

01:24:25.020 she didn't like,

01:24:25.820 I'm assuming the first wife went for more of your assets. 0.99

01:24:28.620 The second wife didn't. 1.00

01:24:31.140 Yeah.

01:24:31.580 The first one has been,

01:24:32.680 uh,

01:24:33.040 it's been quite difficult.

01:24:34.140 As a matter of fact,

01:24:35.260 um,

01:24:36.400 it's been quite difficult.

01:24:39.600 Are you still on child support or like alimony from the first one?

01:24:44.000 So,

01:24:44.560 yeah,

01:24:45.240 actually,

01:24:45.820 um,

01:24:46.340 it's very,

01:24:47.160 um,

01:24:48.140 it's very interesting.

01:24:49.140 So yeah,

01:24:49.580 I'm on,

01:24:49.900 on child support and,

01:24:51.360 uh,

01:24:53.360 um,

01:24:53.880 just recently.

01:24:55.560 Um,

01:24:55.900 I've just,

01:24:58.660 uh,

01:24:58.900 it's just been very difficult just to maintain contact with my children.

01:25:02.560 Uh,

01:25:02.920 I love my children profoundly.

01:25:04.640 I've told them many times actually that I love them more than anybody else on the planet.

01:25:07.800 And just having a,

01:25:09.460 having daily communication with them has been very difficult.

01:25:12.780 And,

01:25:13.260 uh,

01:25:14.420 from the year from,

01:25:16.340 I want to say what,

01:25:18.000 September,

01:25:18.860 uh,

01:25:20.440 September,

01:25:21.120 2022 to August,

01:25:23.320 2023 was a very trying time for me just to be able to maintain daily contact.

01:25:28.180 Uh,

01:25:28.580 cause I was essentially informed like,

01:25:30.120 Hey,

01:25:30.660 there's going to be two or three days a week that you're not going to be able to talk to your kids.

01:25:33.940 Cause you know,

01:25:35.520 I talked to them and they're just going to be too busy just scheduling me out of their lives.

01:25:39.300 And I essentially tried to reason with it and said,

01:25:42.600 well,

01:25:42.740 I've been talking to them daily for years.

01:25:44.260 Surely there's at least one minute in a day where I can talk to our children.

01:25:48.840 And,

01:25:49.240 uh,

01:25:49.820 it was just respond,

01:25:51.060 you know,

01:25:51.340 with,

01:25:51.700 uh,

01:25:51.800 I just got another communication back via,

01:25:54.140 you know,

01:25:55.300 uh,

01:25:55.660 email saying like,

01:25:56.500 no,

01:25:56.720 that's not going to happen.

01:25:57.580 And thank you for understanding.

01:25:59.120 It was just,

01:25:59.600 just like no communication about it.

01:26:01.800 It's just like,

01:26:02.140 no deal with it.

01:26:02.860 But I pressed on hard to try and maintain my daily contact with my children.

01:26:07.680 And,

01:26:07.800 uh,

01:26:08.940 uh,

01:26:09.640 well,

01:26:10.000 long story short,

01:26:10.980 uh,

01:26:11.420 28 August,

01:26:12.160 2023.

01:26:13.600 Um,

01:26:15.360 um,

01:26:16.640 she didn't come to pick up the children,

01:26:18.100 uh,

01:26:18.960 last summer and instead used,

01:26:20.800 uh,

01:26:21.680 I would say,

01:26:22.420 uh,

01:26:24.260 tactics to make,

01:26:25.580 uh,

01:26:26.780 a state believe that,

01:26:28.240 uh,

01:26:28.480 I would have withheld the children from her.

01:26:29.980 And so while I was active duty,

01:26:31.580 I was actually arrested and incarcerated for a small period of time,

01:26:36.060 uh,

01:26:36.820 before being released and,

01:26:38.360 uh,

01:26:38.960 having to drive,

01:26:40.340 uh,

01:26:42.140 hundreds of miles,

01:26:43.200 over a thousand miles round trip every week to another state to show that,

01:26:46.580 uh,

01:26:47.400 um,

01:26:48.080 I was going to be there.

01:26:48.960 It's just,

01:26:49.520 it's laughable.

01:26:50.320 Like,

01:26:50.760 uh,

01:26:51.560 one of the statements that was given by the,

01:26:53.880 uh,

01:26:54.780 the office of district attorney,

01:26:55.900 the attorney represent the district attorney saying like,

01:26:58.520 well,

01:26:58.820 you know,

01:26:59.740 let's believe that he'll secure a weapon and seek vengeance.

01:27:02.680 And now it's going on two years that this,

01:27:05.660 uh,

01:27:06.380 court has been going on and I haven't been to trial yet.

01:27:09.720 So it's been rescheduled once I had to get a different attorney.

01:27:11.780 Cause the person was just like,

01:27:12.840 well,

01:27:13.000 if they believe that,

01:27:14.000 you know,

01:27:14.280 if they believe I was like,

01:27:15.960 well,

01:27:16.100 what am I paying you for?

01:27:17.120 If,

01:27:17.260 if it's just like,

01:27:18.160 if it just matters what the woman believes,

01:27:19.620 what's the point of being,

01:27:20.580 uh,

01:27:21.480 doing here.

01:27:21.980 So I just don't understand.

01:27:23.160 So the thing is,

01:27:24.260 I couldn't pay child support for,

01:27:25.960 I want to say what was like,

01:27:27.180 uh,

01:27:28.660 it was like,

01:27:29.240 uh,

01:27:30.460 July,

01:27:31.200 September,

01:27:31.640 October,

01:27:32.000 November,

01:27:32.380 December,

01:27:32.960 January,

01:27:34.160 February.

01:27:34.680 I think it was seven months I couldn't pay.

01:27:36.460 And so I was taking,

01:27:37.600 being taken to court at family court as well,

01:27:39.820 uh,

01:27:41.320 in this other state.

01:27:42.740 And so now I'm being taken at criminal court and family court at the same time.

01:27:46.000 And I asked the judge,

01:27:46.740 I was like,

01:27:47.060 judge and family part. 0.82

01:27:48.140 I was like,

01:27:48.360 judge,

01:27:48.580 I talked to my attorney,

01:27:50.080 you know,

01:27:50.320 how do I pay child support?

01:27:51.380 You know,

01:27:51.520 I was paying to the mother,

01:27:52.420 but she was,

01:27:53.380 she refused to mail.

01:27:54.720 So she,

01:27:55.080 I couldn't pay child support how I had been doing.

01:27:56.980 And prior to that,

01:27:58.000 I don't know what happened,

01:27:58.960 but the bank account was delinked.

01:28:00.520 So I couldn't do that.

01:28:01.280 She wouldn't link it up.

01:28:02.560 It was on her end.

01:28:03.100 There was nothing I could do.

01:28:04.140 I had to record the conversation at Wells Fargo.

01:28:07.060 Just to have it documented center,

01:28:09.580 the center of the child support via check,

01:28:11.700 the overnight mail wouldn't accept it.

01:28:14.240 So then I,

01:28:15.120 you know,

01:28:15.280 I said,

01:28:15.540 I'm sending it again.

01:28:16.660 And so I sent it again.

01:28:17.780 Of course,

01:28:18.220 I was incarcerated in August of last of 2023.

01:28:25.940 And so I asked the judge.

01:28:28.160 I'm like,

01:28:28.400 so,

01:28:29.060 you know,

01:28:29.180 I asked my attorney,

01:28:29.980 how do I pay child support?

01:28:31.120 And they're like,

01:28:31.360 well,

01:28:31.560 contact the child support service there.

01:28:34.460 So I did it for the state.

01:28:35.600 And they're like,

01:28:36.280 we can't,

01:28:37.020 we couldn't,

01:28:37.680 we can't do it for you,

01:28:38.620 sir,

01:28:38.860 because we don't have your records here.

01:28:40.840 Like,

01:28:41.060 what if I just come there and give you money?

01:28:42.220 Like,

01:28:42.620 sir,

01:28:42.900 you,

01:28:43.460 you,

01:28:43.780 we couldn't even take your money if you came and got it.

01:28:45.660 So I asked the judge,

01:28:46.480 I'm like,

01:28:46.620 well,

01:28:46.720 how do I pay my child support?

01:28:47.600 Well,

01:28:47.740 you don't have to send her the money.

01:28:48.940 We can draft up an order and address.

01:28:50.660 So I was like,

01:28:51.000 so this will take effect in March.

01:28:52.420 I'm like,

01:28:52.640 well,

01:28:53.080 since it's going to be a whole nother month,

01:28:54.380 why don't I just go ahead and pay that one too?

01:28:55.960 And then her attorney was like,

01:28:57.300 we're not going to deny that.

01:28:58.280 So I've had paid like eight months of child support or something like that

01:29:01.180 right in one go,

01:29:02.440 because I was blocked from doing it because of the no contact what I have to my

01:29:06.020 children and,

01:29:07.420 and the mother of my children.

01:29:09.180 So it's been very difficult.

01:29:11.580 How old are the kids?

01:29:13.860 Oh my goodness.

01:29:15.660 And so when this happened,

01:29:17.780 I want to say my son was 10 years old.

01:29:22.940 My daughter was 12.

01:29:24.500 And so my daughter is going to be 14.

01:29:26.600 And you know,

01:29:27.380 I haven't talked to my children close to two years and we're going on two years.

01:29:30.980 I just,

01:29:31.460 I do my best to have forgiveness and peace.

01:29:35.520 And many times when people ask if there's anything they can do,

01:29:38.740 I say,

01:29:39.560 pray for my children and the mother of my children,

01:29:41.440 because I don't believe I'm going to see them again in this life.

01:29:43.300 And I just have to accept that.

01:29:45.500 And it's been painful,

01:29:47.820 but I've,

01:29:48.180 I've done my best to endure.

01:29:50.300 I just,

01:29:50.540 I would say it's,

01:29:51.460 it's very interesting.

01:29:52.420 I don't understand what's going on here.

01:29:54.480 Cause I mean,

01:29:55.120 in the military,

01:29:56.220 there's no such thing as a plea deal.

01:29:57.600 You know,

01:29:58.320 you're bound by the uniform,

01:29:59.440 but a military justice,

01:30:00.380 if you're guilty,

01:30:01.420 they're getting you.

01:30:02.200 And if,

01:30:02.800 and if there was any,

01:30:03.720 if there was any evidence,

01:30:06.020 if the military believed that I was actually guilty,

01:30:08.220 there was no way that the military would have been okay with me getting out of an

01:30:11.300 incarceration facility.

01:30:12.220 They would have incarcerated me themselves.

01:30:13.800 And I wouldn't have had a Colonel bail me out of the incarceration facility in

01:30:18.380 the state and finish out my last eight months where I could get my

01:30:21.880 retirement.

01:30:22.300 You know,

01:30:23.220 like I said,

01:30:23.760 I was in the federal service in the military for 241 months.

01:30:29.280 There wasn't one of those months where I was ever punished for any crime.

01:30:32.280 And there's a much lower burden of proof for the military when it comes to

01:30:34.980 punishment.

01:30:36.000 So I just don't understand that it's like this,

01:30:38.580 and the state come out with,

01:30:39.500 well,

01:30:39.640 we don't want to take it that hard on you.

01:30:41.480 They want you to sign this plea deal.

01:30:42.740 I'm like,

01:30:43.000 I don't admit to crimes I've never committed under any circumstance.

01:30:45.780 You know,

01:30:45.940 I'm facing two criminal counts,

01:30:47.700 two felony counts of custody beyond visitation with intent to withhold.

01:30:51.580 So,

01:30:52.300 so they're saying like,

01:30:53.360 Oh,

01:30:53.620 you know,

01:30:53.860 take some plea guilty,

01:30:55.080 take classes and you'll be fine.

01:30:56.260 I'm like,

01:30:56.720 no,

01:30:56.960 that's never going to happen.

01:30:58.540 Cause let's just say I was stupid enough to go ahead and admit guilt to a 0.62

01:31:02.600 crime,

01:31:02.900 admit,

01:31:03.740 admit that I would have done a crime.

01:31:05.680 Had I give,

01:31:06.440 they give me an opportunity,

01:31:07.680 which of course,

01:31:08.600 you know,

01:31:09.760 they can't do that because that would have committed a crime.

01:31:12.720 So,

01:31:13.440 like I said,

01:31:13.840 it was two counts of custody on visitation with intent to withhold,

01:31:16.340 but never withhold them from the mother as can be shown just to believe that I

01:31:20.600 would withhold them from the mother.

01:31:21.640 There is enough to have me incarcerated or,

01:31:24.800 you know,

01:31:25.020 even executed in their presence.

01:31:26.300 Cause there was like a half dozen officers that came to where I was at,

01:31:29.340 you know,

01:31:29.840 to come and get me.

01:31:30.820 And I just remember saying like,

01:31:31.920 he's going for something.

01:31:32.820 And I'm like,

01:31:33.240 well,

01:31:33.520 this might be it right here.

01:31:35.260 I'm going to get shot with a shot right here in front of my children.

01:31:38.600 Because the mother is,

01:31:40.520 or,

01:31:41.320 you know,

01:31:42.080 whatever is going on.

01:31:43.360 It's,

01:31:43.800 it's all just a ruse to maintain power control and authority in which I have

01:31:47.360 not.

01:31:47.980 And so,

01:31:48.540 okay.

01:31:48.720 So if I pled guilty to these crimes that I had not,

01:31:51.760 I would not commit,

01:31:52.660 then I would just be tried by the federal government because due to my service,

01:31:57.580 my lengthy service,

01:31:58.720 I will be subject to the uniform code of military justice for the rest of my

01:32:02.040 natural life.

01:32:02.640 So then they would just reactivate me.

01:32:04.820 And then I'll go to a federal incarceration facility for the federal government for

01:32:08.740 admitting to a crime that I never committed and never would commit.

01:32:12.100 So it's just laughable.

01:32:13.340 So I'm like,

01:32:13.680 who's this benefiting?

01:32:15.060 Are the benefits in a state so powerful and amazing that they just,

01:32:18.320 they're better than anything I could ever provide as a father.

01:32:21.740 Cause it clearly at that point,

01:32:22.720 I mean,

01:32:22.980 what's going to happen next?

01:32:24.060 I suppose my retirement pay will have to be retroactively canceled because,

01:32:29.480 well,

01:32:29.720 you know,

01:32:29.980 the federal government shouldn't be in the practice of providing retirements to

01:32:33.020 known felons.

01:32:33.840 That doesn't make any sense.

01:32:35.240 I wouldn't have been able to retire,

01:32:37.220 but here it's going on two years and I'm just waiting to see what happens.

01:32:41.020 So your ex,

01:32:41.920 your ex-wife said that you were withholding the kids essentially.

01:32:47.460 Uh,

01:32:47.740 yes.

01:32:48.220 And then,

01:32:48.580 um,

01:32:49.200 right.

01:32:49.440 Well,

01:32:49.580 that the charges that were filed,

01:32:51.040 filed by the district attorney was two counts of felony,

01:32:54.420 uh,

01:32:54.980 custody beyond visitation with intent withhold.

01:32:57.080 So she never came to pick up the children as,

01:32:59.120 uh,

01:32:59.420 she's due to as per court order.

01:33:01.800 And the,

01:33:02.800 the other laughable thing I don't get is that what's been submitted for

01:33:05.540 evidence was a court order that was thrown out,

01:33:08.040 uh,

01:33:09.000 in 2016 from where,

01:33:10.600 uh,

01:33:11.120 I was taken to court without,

01:33:12.360 uh,

01:33:13.260 my knowledge.

01:33:14.500 And,

01:33:14.960 uh,

01:33:15.500 it was in 2014 and it was thrown out in 2016.

01:33:18.240 Well,

01:33:18.500 that's what was submitted to the district attorney.

01:33:20.320 I'm like,

01:33:20.560 how is the district attorney not found,

01:33:23.440 not done any research to find out that this is a fraudulent document.

01:33:27.040 I just don't understand it.

01:33:28.380 One,

01:33:29.020 two,

01:33:30.420 I just don't understand.

01:33:31.580 How is this in the best instance of children either?

01:33:35.300 So like,

01:33:36.100 I'm not afraid,

01:33:36.580 I'm not afraid of going for it.

01:33:37.820 Do you know,

01:33:38.180 Terrence pops channel?

01:33:41.540 Terrence pops.

01:33:42.500 Yeah.

01:33:43.140 He might be someone worth reaching out to.

01:33:45.440 He might be able to help you.

01:33:48.080 Um,

01:33:48.800 he knows a lot about the military court stuff.

01:33:51.620 So I don't know if you've seen his stuff,

01:33:53.600 but he has,

01:33:54.460 I don't know what you've done already at your,

01:33:57.820 at your stage.

01:33:58.580 Some guys have done everything,

01:33:59.640 but if there's someone that knows a solution,

01:34:02.320 I recommend Googling Terrence pop.

01:34:07.040 Okay.

01:34:07.620 Well,

01:34:07.860 at this point it's,

01:34:08.740 it's for,

01:34:09.740 it's,

01:34:09.960 it's not a military stuff.

01:34:11.940 It's just,

01:34:12.420 it's surveying courts,

01:34:13.700 but it just,

01:34:14.180 it's just,

01:34:15.120 uh,

01:34:16.360 it's a laughable situation is what I think about my mind.

01:34:19.180 It's like,

01:34:19.380 I just don't understand.

01:34:20.440 Cause this,

01:34:20.860 how is this benefiting?

01:34:22.660 Yeah.

01:34:23.280 The children,

01:34:24.500 uh,

01:34:25.320 you know,

01:34:25.600 so it's like,

01:34:26.060 okay,

01:34:26.280 so,

01:34:26.820 so you,

01:34:28.400 at this point,

01:34:29.000 you,

01:34:29.400 you know,

01:34:30.100 I wouldn't,

01:34:30.520 I'm not going to take a plea deal because again,

01:34:32.200 I don't admit to crimes that I had never would ever commit.

01:34:34.780 So that's not going to happen.

01:34:36.140 So,

01:34:36.440 and there's like,

01:34:36.940 we'll just take these classes.

01:34:37.860 And since I won't do that.

01:34:39.000 So then what now I'm just,

01:34:40.100 uh,

01:34:40.280 now I'm an uneducatable beast as well.

01:34:43.020 It's just like an uneducatable beast,

01:34:45.400 a liar that can't be trusted in a net loss grant in society,

01:34:47.940 but also somehow miraculously,

01:34:50.560 I was a federal officer with a career spanning more than two decades,

01:34:53.760 which makes sense.

01:34:54.760 If you don't think about it,

01:34:56.080 I just don't understand your second marriage, 0.99

01:34:59.540 but she didn't like,

01:35:00.980 did you have kids in your second marriage or no,

01:35:03.500 no,

01:35:04.040 no kids in the second marriage.

01:35:05.220 Like I said,

01:35:05.660 that one ended much more peacefully.

01:35:06.920 And she didn't go for any of your assets or anything.

01:35:10.300 It was just like done.

01:35:11.660 No,

01:35:12.000 it was,

01:35:12.440 it was,

01:35:12.940 uh,

01:35:14.160 I would say quite,

01:35:15.340 quite amicable,

01:35:16.780 quite peaceful by metric.

01:35:19.280 I mean,

01:35:19.600 if it,

01:35:20.020 uh,

01:35:20.560 if I had any inkling that it would have been anything like the first marriage,

01:35:23.880 there,

01:35:24.160 it would have been a hands down.

01:35:25.260 No,

01:35:25.640 like I just,

01:35:26.600 uh,

01:35:27.360 and at this point in my life,

01:35:28.580 it's just,

01:35:29.040 I just rather have peace,

01:35:30.380 you know,

01:35:30.700 it's just not in the cards.

01:35:33.020 And if it was,

01:35:33.820 it would only be for the fact that had children.

01:35:35.940 But,

01:35:36.260 uh,

01:35:36.740 the last time I even remember speaking with my children,

01:35:39.520 I know I'd even talk to my children about it before.

01:35:41.660 Like,

01:35:41.940 how would you feel if,

01:35:43.420 uh,

01:35:44.040 if I were to at least have more children,

01:35:46.960 I think I did say to remarry and have children.

01:35:49.180 I asked him,

01:35:49.440 cause I'm like,

01:35:49.820 if I'm going to have point,

01:35:50.700 I suppose it'll be after they're emancipated.

01:35:53.420 And if necessary out of the continent of the United States or not in the

01:35:56.660 United States.

01:35:57.360 And at that point,

01:35:58.920 what bearing does a court in a state that my children were taken to

01:36:02.320 without approval of a court and without my approval,

01:36:04.380 because I had shared legal custody at the time.

01:36:06.620 You know,

01:36:06.800 if I take the children to another state and move them there without

01:36:09.540 petitioning the court and without the approval of the other parent,

01:36:12.800 well,

01:36:13.320 that's Amber alert,

01:36:14.360 right?

01:36:14.620 I mean,

01:36:14.860 I'm getting the cops on me and I'm done.

01:36:17.500 Uh,

01:36:17.900 it wouldn't even be that someone would just contact the military and be

01:36:20.520 like,

01:36:20.780 Hey,

01:36:21.280 this guy just abducted these children.

01:36:23.800 But because,

01:36:24.720 uh,

01:36:27.020 I mean,

01:36:27.660 if it was me,

01:36:29.900 but it's the other way around.

01:36:31.040 And it's like,

01:36:31.460 so nothing I say or do really seems to make any effects.

01:36:34.800 It's like,

01:36:35.120 I have no power,

01:36:35.800 no,

01:36:36.040 no authority,

01:36:36.700 no control.

01:36:37.320 I just have to accept what's happening and just be okay with it.

01:36:40.700 And the way I even told myself before any of this went down,

01:36:44.080 I just had a sneaking suspicion things were going to get bad this year.

01:36:46.960 And then I might not see my children again.

01:36:49.360 Uh,

01:36:49.600 and if I do,

01:36:50.320 it's going to be a long time.

01:36:51.460 And I just kind of told myself,

01:36:52.640 well,

01:36:52.880 you know,

01:36:53.840 shoot,

01:36:54.120 Nelson Mandela was,

01:36:55.140 uh,

01:36:55.820 sentenced to life in prison.

01:36:57.020 And he did,

01:36:58.120 I think 27 years.

01:36:59.260 He could send a receipt of one letter every six months and could have one

01:37:01.680 visitor once a year for one hour.

01:37:03.660 And he made it.

01:37:04.620 He was unbroken.

01:37:05.480 I was like,

01:37:05.760 if I can have it just a little bit of that,

01:37:07.500 I think I'll be all right.

01:37:08.580 You said your oldest,

01:37:09.640 uh,

01:37:09.880 is your ex-wife noticeably crazy? 0.98

01:37:12.600 Like is she,

01:37:14.220 or is it more sneaky stuff?

01:37:16.960 Well,

01:37:17.700 she's got a master's degree in social therapy with a license to practice

01:37:20.580 independently.

01:37:21.080 I'd say she's pretty well aware of what she's doing.

01:37:23.640 No,

01:37:24.100 I just meant usually the kids kind of start to wake up around 14,

01:37:28.060 13 to the mom being nuts. 0.95

01:37:31.680 Uh,

01:37:32.120 you know,

01:37:33.580 if they ever do some,

01:37:34.940 never do,

01:37:35.480 it kind of depends how sneaky the mom is. 1.00

01:37:38.800 Yeah.

01:37:39.320 I,

01:37:39.440 I,

01:37:40.200 you know,

01:37:42.820 whatever's going on,

01:37:44.200 I believe they're well aware of what's going on.

01:37:46.700 And,

01:37:47.180 uh,

01:37:48.440 you know,

01:37:48.640 I really don't know what's going to happen.

01:37:49.960 I,

01:37:50.200 I pray that everything's going to be okay.

01:37:51.800 And I believe in the end,

01:37:52.660 everything's going to be okay.

01:37:53.620 I really do truly miss my children so much.

01:37:55.980 It's been quite difficult not talking to them,

01:37:57.820 especially,

01:37:58.240 like I said,

01:37:58.560 I have had daily contact with them for years and now it's going on two

01:38:02.060 years that I haven't contacted them.

01:38:04.180 And,

01:38:04.600 and I shouldn't expect to contact them before they're emancipated because

01:38:07.820 I'm dealing with a state that flat out believes everything,

01:38:11.580 uh,

01:38:12.920 that she says.

01:38:13.900 And even in the military,

01:38:14.880 the viewpoint of the military at the time,

01:38:17.000 victims are to be heard in their cases referred to trial.

01:38:18.960 Well,

01:38:19.240 right there,

01:38:19.980 if you identify as a victim,

01:38:21.640 right then and there,

01:38:22.980 you're expected to be heard in your case referred to trial and there's

01:38:25.460 nothing the other person can do about it.

01:38:27.100 Really?

01:38:27.960 Yeah.

01:38:28.520 I,

01:38:28.860 I really would recommend contacting Terrence pop.

01:38:33.820 He's going to,

01:38:34.660 he's going to know if there's a way around it.

01:38:37.340 He would know the answer.

01:38:38.980 Um,

01:38:39.260 but I do have to get onto the next caller,

01:38:41.160 Jim.

01:38:41.480 No,

01:38:41.640 thank you.

01:38:42.260 Terrence pot is a Terrence.

01:38:44.020 Like T-E-R-R-A-N-C-E, 1.00

01:38:47.720 um,

01:38:48.140 P-O-P-P. 1.00

01:38:49.880 It's like redonkulous is his channel.

01:38:52.560 Um,

01:38:53.760 and he teaches guys how to use the justice system,

01:38:56.620 like against the wives. 1.00

01:38:57.980 He says it's immoral,

01:38:59.080 but not illegal.

01:39:00.340 So.

01:39:01.320 Yeah.

01:39:02.360 Thank you very much for having me on.

01:39:04.780 Greatly appreciate it.

01:39:05.660 Love your channel.

01:39:06.500 Uh,

01:39:07.320 keep doing good things.

01:39:08.340 Thank you.

01:39:09.040 Google,

01:39:09.640 make sure you Google him.

01:39:11.240 I'm going to tell him you're coming.

01:39:13.280 Thank you.

01:39:13.940 I appreciate that.

01:39:14.900 Thank you so much.

01:39:15.660 Okay.

01:39:18.280 Um,

01:39:18.760 I think the next person,

01:39:21.520 I saw someone come in.

01:39:23.740 Oh,

01:39:24.260 they left.

01:39:26.840 Sorry.

01:39:27.820 Redonkulous.

01:39:30.340 I'll tell,

01:39:30.900 I'm going to text redonkulous now.

01:39:33.540 Terrence.

01:39:34.780 There was a guy on live today.

01:39:39.340 I sent your way.

01:39:44.280 I look,

01:39:49.580 I mean,

01:39:49.860 I'm not a lawyer.

01:39:51.520 I'm a commentator.

01:39:52.960 I mean,

01:39:53.100 I could tell you that,

01:39:55.800 you know,

01:39:56.140 my opinion,

01:39:57.900 but all I can do is give you,

01:40:02.180 this is what I try to do.

01:40:03.920 I try to get the best resources where I've gotten positive feedback from the people.

01:40:11.960 Um,

01:40:12.540 okay.

01:40:13.540 Let me,

01:40:17.080 there's no other callers.

01:40:18.380 I saw one for a second.

01:40:20.600 Okay,

01:40:21.040 guys.

01:40:21.500 Well,

01:40:22.340 good talk today.

01:40:24.520 It's these headphones.

01:40:26.980 Sometimes my hair gets weird.

01:40:28.520 Sorry,

01:40:28.820 guys.

01:40:30.000 Um,

01:40:31.100 guys,

01:40:31.880 please like the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel and go to the audacity network.com.

01:40:37.760 Someone eight.

01:40:38.980 Oh,

01:40:39.240 sorry.

01:40:39.480 I wanted to add in one more thing before I end of my ideas for the website.

01:40:44.820 I want to add in the most practical resources for men when it comes to improving their money,

01:40:52.000 their sex lives and their,

01:40:53.700 um,

01:40:55.580 um,

01:40:56.180 divorce resources.

01:40:58.280 So what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to

01:41:01.240 strike some sort of partnership with other content creators where I can put them all in one place for you guys.

01:41:10.080 And I can refer to you.

01:41:11.440 So when guys like that come on,

01:41:13.200 I can say,

01:41:13.980 this is,

01:41:14.540 this is where to go.

01:41:16.860 Um,

01:41:18.040 just based off of,

01:41:19.160 because,

01:41:19.400 you know,

01:41:19.500 over the years I get feedback from guys where they say that course wasn't worth the money.

01:41:23.920 That one was example,

01:41:26.980 you know,

01:41:27.280 Sterling Cooper's course.

01:41:28.480 If you're wanting to improve your sex life,

01:41:30.960 it's kind of,

01:41:32.040 it's like raunchy stuff,

01:41:33.240 but he does know what he's talking about.

01:41:35.020 I've heard from the guys,

01:41:36.500 stuff like that.

01:41:38.500 And it's something I could develop in the website,

01:41:41.000 but I don't want,

01:41:41.760 I'm not going to do it.

01:41:42.900 If you guys don't want me to do it,

01:41:44.740 you know what I mean?

01:41:46.160 It has to,

01:41:46.960 it has to come from you.

01:41:47.960 I'm not going to go through all this work to build this part of the site just to have you guys not do it.

01:41:53.700 No offense.

01:41:54.640 So anyways,

01:41:55.980 guys,

01:41:56.220 like the video on your way out,

01:41:57.600 subscribe,

01:41:58.220 and I will see you tomorrow.

01:41:59.740 Bye.

01:41:59.960 Bye.

Link copied!