JustPearlyThings - Why Men Are More Likely To Remarry Than Women (Call-In Show)

00:00:00.000 Thank you.

00:00:30.000 Good afternoon, good evening, ladies and gentlemen, welcome to another episode of Pearl

00:00:55.980 Daily here on the Audacity Network. Today, we are going to be talking about why are men

00:01:04.140 more likely to remarry than women? But before we get into today's episode, I want to talk

00:01:10.200 about a little pre-story that's going on on Twitter. Now, normally I try to stick to one

00:01:15.360 topic, but this was too good to not cover. Now, as you guys know, women have a tendency

00:01:21.340 to die on the hill of being naked. Now, this isn't just liberal women. It's also conservative

00:01:26.840 women. They love getting naked, and they also love shaming you for calling them a whore.

00:01:32.640 So there's a tweet yesterday that was going viral from Danielle Franz, and she had this

00:01:38.780 trad lady. Well, trad LARP. You guys know how I feel about this, but you know it's a LARP.

00:01:45.000 It's a LARP. Versus our favorite crazy lady character on this show, the red-headed libertarian

00:01:55.900 who likes to thirst trap with a Jesus cross in the background.

00:01:59.240 Now, women that are thirst trapping, but they want to pretend they're not thirst trapping,

00:02:07.200 have a tendency to do, is they have a tendency to do a couple of things. They shame the male

00:02:12.300 sex drive. So she'll put on some high heels, put on a tiny dress, and then say, you guys

00:02:18.000 are disgusting for even thinking about sex. So she said, pornification of conservatism is

00:02:25.480 so icky. The crime isn't wanting to make art, of course. The crime is making art that's so

00:02:31.060 on the nose it becomes vulgar and desperate. This desperation for sex appeal results is cheap,

00:02:37.600 cartoonish product void of meeting. Both of these images communicate trad values with beautiful

00:02:44.380 women, but only one of them is giving fetish content. Spoiler, it's the one being sold under

00:02:49.940 the conservative dad's brand. Now, as you guys know, personally, I have seen too much.

00:02:59.920 I'm not really going to be offended by a woman in a short dress. I'm not going to pretend to

00:03:04.540 be a Puritan out here. If I saw that on the street, I really wouldn't look twice. However,

00:03:11.260 what I don't like is women doing something and pretending they don't know what they're doing.

00:03:17.120 It drives me crazy. If you're going to thirst trap, then thirst trap. But don't thirst trap

00:03:26.300 one in front of a Jesus cross. Leave Jesus out of this, okay? If you're going to thirst trap,

00:03:34.180 there's Instagram for a reason, okay? You can just put your boobs out, put your legs out,

00:03:39.240 but go on Instagram. Why do you have to bring God into this? It's so... But they want the attention

00:03:45.200 and the being a good person, the looking bad part of thirst strapping. And when I saw this, I just

00:03:52.440 knew, now I'm fairly certain, and I got a lot of heat for this take, this woman has to be mentally

00:03:58.880 ill. I see no other way about it because the way she reacts and patterns, trends, there are very few

00:04:06.340 that react as insane as she does. But guys, before we get to that, are you loving all of this wonderful

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00:05:14.280 So, you know, back to this crazy lady. When I did reply, and I said, and I was very excited

00:05:27.180 for this yesterday, I said, I can't wait to watch the red-headed libertarian have a mental

00:05:32.120 breakdown over this. Now, Danielle says, I posted one time, didn't name her, didn't tag her,

00:05:39.920 didn't even, even called her a beautiful woman. And that's my next problem here, but we're going

00:05:46.200 to get to this. She, quote, tweeted, replied, and posted several times to her audience of nearly a

00:05:51.640 million, shared photos from my personal Instagram, then accused me of putting a target on her back

00:05:56.300 despite the fact that her own followers spent the day harassing me. Now, again, Danielle, I'm sorry,

00:06:02.460 I got no sympathy for you either. If you poke the bear on a crazy woman, expect crazy results,

00:06:08.220 okay? You know this woman's crazy, and so do I, but I don't care. She can keep going, bitch.

00:06:14.120 You know, and the reason I like bringing her up is because she's just such a perfect example

00:06:19.580 of what happens with these trad influencers. Now, guys, look, most of my life I've known I'm a normal

00:06:26.320 looking woman, and most people think of that as an insult. I don't really see it that way. I think

00:06:33.620 most men, most women are average, and if you don't think you're average, I expect you to

00:06:38.120 have above-average results. I expect you to have done some high-end modeling. Maybe you're a UFC

00:06:44.220 ring girl. You know, one time I went to, my whole team got invited to, it was like the weekend,

00:06:51.120 their concert, and they allowed us all to go backstage, and when I was back, it was in the

00:06:56.560 future, I'm going to, I'm going to, it's too late, it's live. You know, in the future, I might just say

00:07:01.240 A-level celebrities, but anyways, it was backstage before the show, and I'm like, duh, I might shoot

00:07:10.160 myself in the foot in the future, but it's okay. So anyways, there were women there that are, were

00:07:16.500 literally paid to be hot. Now, these are women that they just, I'm following, if you saw her, this is

00:07:23.560 a blue-pilled guy would meet a woman like this at a coffee shop and think,

00:07:27.820 wow, she's got no Instagram following. Green flag. She's got like nothing on there. No, these women

00:07:34.680 know the game. They are predators. They are apex predators. They will, until in their 20s, get

00:07:41.560 invited to all the high-level parties and know you got to leave zero digital footprint so I can marry

00:07:47.220 a doctor at 35. They know, they know this game. So, but because they're so beautiful, high-level men

00:07:55.020 will find them. You know, there's people that work for these high-level men that their job, I have a

00:08:00.980 friend, and her job was, she was friends with like a billionaire who had a private jet, and her job was

00:08:08.180 to fill that private jet with hot women, and she knew where to find them. She knew what age they had to be

00:08:14.420 under. She knew how attractive they had to be, and it doesn't even, they're so good-looking guys. They live

00:08:21.020 in such a different world. They don't even have to sleep with the guys. Now, don't get me wrong.

00:08:26.760 These women get offers, but, you know, I talked to a private investigator, and he said that mids

00:08:32.480 have a tendency to, they can't get as much resources for free with their beauty. They got to put out more.

00:08:41.400 You know what I mean? So he said that mids do prostitution more than beautiful women. Kind of

00:08:46.920 make sense. If you can like sell a nude and get a hundred K, why, you know why, I mean, why wouldn't

00:08:54.000 you? I mean, I know you guys are thinking morals, but on this show, we deal in reality, what people

00:08:59.960 are probably going to do. We don't deal in how I wish the world's going to be. But when I met these

00:09:06.640 women, I had a chance to see the high level of beauty that men in the country, men in the suburbs

00:09:13.920 are completely, they don't even see it. And the way it works is there are A-level cities. Now,

00:09:21.000 A-level cities are where rich men are, or there is an industry where the women can monetize their

00:09:28.080 beauty, like modeling, modeling, I don't know, acting, that, you know, some sort of media, right,

00:09:40.900 or modeling. Now, I know you're thinking conservative commentators. We're going to wait. We're going

00:09:45.220 to get there. Now, I know what an eight plus looks like, ballpark. And the problem we have

00:09:56.800 is in conservative media, there's a little bit of a bubble. Now, remember, Christian conservative

00:10:02.280 men tend to be the countrymen. And the hottest women, even if they're from the country, generally

00:10:07.620 have a tendency to go to the city, the most popping part of town. It's like, if you go

00:10:14.160 downtown Miami, there are so many attractive women, you go 30 minutes out, it's single mothers

00:10:18.700 and fat women. And usually these women go to the cities, make bad decisions, get a little

00:10:23.740 uglier, and they make it out to the country. The country guys often don't even know the level

00:10:28.880 of beauty, or they've rarely seen the level of beauty that's in the city. Because in all

00:10:33.620 honesty, guys, I mean, sure, there might be one pretty girl at a small high school, but

00:10:39.520 usually they go to an A-level city pretty quick. But what happens in these conservative

00:10:45.200 spaces is the women have a tendency to think they're hotter than they are. Now, I've done

00:10:51.140 casting. So when I used to recruit for the shows, I would literally think that woman could

00:10:57.140 go on my thumbnail, she's going to get me an increase of a 2% click rate. I would see another

00:11:02.660 woman and think, she's got a great body, we need to do a full, like, you start to think

00:11:07.680 a little bit more practically. And the way I divide women is mids, which is like four to

00:11:13.560 six. That's a mid. Like a four I'd put as a cute face, but chubby. That's a four. Five

00:11:22.900 is like normal, not fat, just normal looking. Six is cute. Seven, I don't like giving, I'm

00:11:31.780 kind of like Kevin Samuels, right? I mean, I took this, I'd like to give credit where

00:11:35.640 it's due. I took this rating from Kevin Samuels, but it's a great way to, like, divide people.

00:11:40.740 The eight pluses live a life that mids could not dream. This is, she could not dream. So

00:11:49.140 what happened? She wants to do a thirst trap, but it's a little bit sad because she's a mid,

00:11:56.440 right? She's a mid, she's trying to get above mid results. But the conservative simps and

00:12:01.680 conservative commentators tend to be women that couldn't make it in Hollywood or whatever

00:12:07.360 big city they went to, they can't get the attention there. They go to conservative because, again,

00:12:12.360 it's more country guys. Country guys tend to have lower standards of beauty because they

00:12:17.080 don't see the top talent. Now, I said, I can't wait to watch the redheaded libertarian have

00:12:24.760 a meltdown over this. So funny. Now, the first thing she does is, you know, I say, please,

00:12:35.020 please, please tell the trad wives to stop thirst trapping on X and watch their kids.

00:12:39.920 Now, there's a certain level of tweeting. Now, disclaimer, I know everyone runs me through

00:12:45.280 the coals for this. I know, I know, I don't have kids. I don't. But I expect, you know,

00:12:50.960 kids take a lot of time. So if I see a woman that's constantly tweeting and has the time to,

00:12:59.200 like, how many times have I talked about Candace Owens on the show? That woman probably ish watches

00:13:05.000 her kids ish. I mean, her level of production is a little too high to be, I know what it takes to do

00:13:14.660 media, right? I could, I could ballpark how much time you're spending away. If you have the time

00:13:20.340 to do a whole rant after I say something, I get it. I say something. I don't mind having

00:13:26.860 fun poked at Pearl, whatever. I don't care.

00:13:33.780 I know you're not, I know you're not an involved parent, right?

00:13:36.920 You know, so I did tweet this. Now, maybe this wasn't, maybe this was a little too honest. I

00:13:44.400 said, I think she's mentally ill. And the next thing she did was call me a pedophile again.

00:13:50.900 Now, I want to, I want to reiterate, and I want to be honest with you guys. I got to go through some

00:13:56.660 of my former controversies, even though I don't, I don't like bringing attention to them. There was a

00:14:02.460 time where these women were tweeting at me their selfies, right? So I had a tweet, 25 year old women

00:14:07.880 are hotter than 35 year old women. And, um, I thought it would be funny. I was in England at the

00:14:18.660 time. I Googled the age of consent in England or like wherever the hell I was at the time. And I was

00:14:23.760 16. So I tweet that 16 year old women are hotter than 26. Now I'm not, I'm not even attracted to

00:14:32.440 women. I'm straight. It was a straight troll, right? And anyone that's watched my show, anyone

00:14:36.880 knows, they know I'm just trolling. It was because the women were sending me the selfies and I want

00:14:42.980 it. I want them to enrage, right? But what women have a tendency to do is they have a tendency to

00:14:48.540 take anything, even a joke, a troll, something you're, you could say, Pearl, that was a bad joke.

00:14:54.980 Fine. Fine. It could be a bad joke. We can agree. But you know, there's no police report.

00:15:01.660 There's no evidence of me going after these underage girls that they're, they seem to be

00:15:07.080 trying to pin on me. Right. And that's when I realized when women don't like someone, what they

00:15:13.560 want to do is call him a creep or a pedophile. And the way that women react to me is exactly how they

00:15:20.320 will react to the men in their lives that they are done with. So now what was interesting

00:15:28.100 is then, so the, the tendencies that crazy women tend to do, there's a couple like copes they do.

00:15:38.520 One, you're obsessed, ma'am.

00:15:40.620 One, I'm obsessed with the ring girl from the Jake Paul fight. Okay. Like I'm jealous of her.

00:15:49.420 If you got like, I think they get off on thinking people are obsessed or stalking them

00:15:54.920 because that's their first line of attack. You're, and this is what these women do. They say,

00:16:00.040 I want to be worshiped and get easy internet money. But if anybody criticizes me, they're obsessed.

00:16:06.280 And again, this is an example of women going into a man's world and saying, treat me like a woman,

00:16:13.080 bitch. Now she also thinks that my shows are about her. You haven't even made a thumbnail yet. One,

00:16:23.080 cause you're not good looking enough. We'll start there. If I'm going to use a conservative

00:16:27.240 commentator, one, you need to be more famous than you are and you need to be better looking.

00:16:31.200 Neither. You, you could get a little segment though, like catfish of the year,

00:16:35.920 but you know, I've talked about Lily Phillips like 10 times too.

00:16:45.400 You guys keep me employed. Thank you. And then she also thinks, you know, men know when they come

00:16:54.220 on the internet, have you guys ever done a call of duty or I don't know, my brother would play these

00:16:59.600 games. Right. And when my brother would play these games, I would hear him say racist things,

00:17:06.340 homophobic, not him, but like his friend, like they attack each other. Right. Because they know this is

00:17:12.100 the internet. You don't get kid gloves on the internet. So I don't know, maybe next time I'll do

00:17:19.600 a full end. Maybe I'll do a, and the other thing I get annoyed with is she keeps replying to me. She

00:17:28.220 blocked me. Right. Which is totally fine. I don't mind getting blocked. That's totally great. But you

00:17:34.000 can't reply to me. And then I can't, this is my, my, my plead, Elon, Elon, if people that blocked me

00:17:40.980 reply to my tweets, I should be able to reply back anyways. Um, but I wanted to show that she does

00:17:51.600 falsely accuse you as a way to attack you. And then, um, yeah, I think that's, that's all I got

00:18:02.060 on that today, but you know, I'll, I'll follow up with that later. Now I'm going to read the website

00:18:07.740 guys. Remember we are demonetized. So every membership signup counts, which I do want to

00:18:14.760 do a couple thank yous in the chat for the people that signed up in the last 24 hours. I'm not going

00:18:20.400 to read last names because I want to keep people's privacy, but thank you to van. Oh shoot. Oh wait,

00:18:27.460 I did the wrong thing. Thank you to van. Thank you to Charlene. Thank you to Doug. You did a yearly

00:18:39.520 membership. Thank you so much, George. Thank you. I really couldn't do it without you guys. You know,

00:18:46.360 women like her, what she's going to do when she does this as reputation destruction.

00:18:50.620 So what they do is they lie about me, you know, they'll take things out of content,

00:18:57.360 like the pedophile thing, zero evidence, no police report, just one tweet a year ago,

00:19:04.420 pearls of pedo. And they think it's perfectly okay. What they also do is they flag your account

00:19:10.960 because I reveal their crazy behavior. They try to make my life hell. They really, this is like the

00:19:18.940 third time I've been called a pedo for no reason. They just throw that. They, they know how bad that

00:19:25.740 insult is and how that can ruin someone's career. So they throw it at anyone. They can. Jesse, thank

00:19:32.460 you so much. Yearly membership. Uh, Brian, thank you so much. Yearly membership. Tom, thank you so

00:19:40.740 much. Yearly membership. Appreciate you, Rob. Thank you again. I get, I literally, I couldn't do it

00:19:47.000 without you guys. And you know, one day I'll tell you guys the story of how these crazy ladies got me

00:19:53.960 demonetized, sort of. I'll go an in-depth demonetization story. Um, hey Pearl, when are we gonna see the

00:20:03.740 new uncensored content on your site? Which one are you looking for? Pearl, that takes money to get a show

00:20:10.260 like that. Produce the other creators. Sometimes the random guests often charge an appearance fee.

00:20:15.420 It looks casual and organic, but it all costs. Yeah. I, I used to pay recruiters to get the women,

00:20:21.020 but they would get a bonus if they were better. Look, look. I don't, and I said, I don't care if

00:20:25.540 you pay the girls to come, you know, do what you want. This is the fee. You get them. Um, Pearl,

00:20:32.160 this is why she's trying to promote website membership so much. She could also use some direct

00:20:36.060 advertisement like her testosterone supplement advertisers. You can help by sharing the show,

00:20:41.240 promoting the audacity network, then gift memberships available. You can buy gifts. I

00:20:45.580 don't know much about women's attire. How I can tell that your shirt is off as hell. What's wrong

00:20:50.080 with my shirt? What the? All right. All right. You win. You win. I'll even read the ones roasting me.

00:21:02.820 Okay. Oh, I see what you mean. It's up. You know, sometimes it happens. Sorry guys. Okay. So

00:21:14.160 today we're going to be talking about

00:21:17.240 divorce. Now on my channel, I say that it's not in a man's best interest to get married. As you guys

00:21:28.960 know, I went into the red pill thinking that marriage was a good deal for men. I didn't really

00:21:33.960 understand why men, you know, I would hear like marriage is a bad deal. I would hear,

00:21:38.980 I would hear all these things that, and the red pill is kind of interesting because before you see it,

00:21:46.060 you, you kind of, some of the stuff sounds far off or weird, but then you get older and you live a

00:21:53.380 little more and you realize the red pill's right. It is 100% correct. And most of the people that

00:21:59.940 criticize the red pill actually are representations of why, you know, like destiny right now. He said

00:22:05.760 the red pill was wrong. And then his wife left him for a streamer who was like very skinny. Like

00:22:13.300 he wasn't even good looking. Now the divorce rate in the United States is standing at just over 50%.

00:22:18.980 This means you have a coin flip chance of staying married. If the coin lands on heads, you stay

00:22:26.040 married and you're probably going to end up staying with a woman that bosses you around and refuses to

00:22:30.580 sleep with you. Your chance of your wife gaining 20 pounds or more in the first five years of marriage

00:22:36.340 are 80%. And remember that's only five years. It goes up as they get older. If the coin lands on tails,

00:22:42.620 you're getting divorced because you will end up in divorce court. Your kids get taken away. You pay

00:22:47.180 child support. And in some cases you'll pay alimony. You'll have to start all over. Now let's paint the

00:22:52.080 picture. We have Robert. He's a plumber. He graduated high school, chose to go into the trades and started

00:22:57.080 his career as an apprentice plumber. Worked his way up to a journeyman and meets a woman right around the

00:23:02.340 age of 25. He marries a girl at 27 and has two kids with her. The marriage slowly deteriorates over the

00:23:08.860 course of seven to eight years. His wife gained weight. He doesn't get sex. There's no food on the table for

00:23:14.100 him to eat and he's forced to do things he doesn't want to do on the weekends to make some woman happy

00:23:18.320 that doesn't even love him anymore. So 35 comes around and Robert comes home from a long day of

00:23:24.840 work to get divorce papers shoved in his face. The wife decides to leave and take the kids. There's

00:23:30.480 nothing he can do about paternity court, divorce court, rips Robert's life apart and he has to get

00:23:36.100 alimony and child support. But despite all this, Robert wants to get married again. 35% of men will

00:23:42.660 remarry after getting divorced. That's right. After getting screwed in a divorce court and paternity

00:23:47.140 court by their wife, who decided to leave to go find herself or sleep with Gavin, the bartender,

00:23:53.840 Tyrone, the personal trainer, one out of three men will choose to get married again. Now let's look at

00:24:01.100 the stats when it comes to second marriage. Women initiate two thirds of divorce and first and second

00:24:07.400 marriages. 90% is the risk of getting divorced in a second marriage compared if it had been the first

00:24:14.420 marriage for that couple. Two out of three marriages will make it to their 10th anniversary,

00:24:22.040 but only one out of three marriages will make it to their 25th anniversary. After a first marriage,

00:24:27.100 it generally takes someone four years to get married a second time. And after five years,

00:24:31.760 if a sibling goes through a second marriage and divorce, then the person is 22% more likely to

00:24:37.660 get divorced themselves. For a second marriage, the average age for a woman is 37. For men in a

00:24:43.420 second marriage, it's 39.3 years old. About 6% of American couples divorce, marry, and then remarry each

00:24:53.500 other. Half of all Americans' kids will see their parents divorced and half of those kids will see their

00:24:59.860 parents get a second divorce. Now let's look at the reasons that men get married again.

00:25:14.280 In this blog post, we will explore the various reasons why men opt for second marriages. While

00:25:20.540 second marriages are stigmatized in society, it is important to understand the different perspectives

00:25:27.000 and circumstances that lead men to make this choice. One of the reasons why some men choose to get

00:25:34.940 married for a second time is financial stability. Many men believe that marrying a wealthy woman can

00:25:40.220 improve their financial status and provide them a comfortable lifestyle. They see second marriage as

00:25:45.220 an opportunity to elevate their social status and gain access to a higher circle. On the other hand,

00:25:51.400 some men are financially stable but still opt for second marriages. For them, it is often a marriage

00:25:57.480 or a matter of personal preference or habit. These men may have a desire to experience the thrill of a

00:26:04.360 new relationship or simply enjoy the companionship of multiple partners. Emotional connection and romance.

00:26:11.980 Another reason why men pursue second marriages is the need for emotional connection and romance.

00:26:17.560 Some men feel that their first marriages lack the passion and excitement that they desire and they

00:26:23.760 believe that a second marriage can fulfill their emotional needs. These men can find themselves

00:26:28.920 attracted to women who are more expressive and romantic. They appreciate the affection and attention

00:26:34.040 they receive from their second wives, which they may not have experienced from a previous partner.

00:26:39.860 For many men, second marriages come later in life when they have achieved personal growth and success.

00:26:45.380 These men have focused on their careers or other priorities during their first marriage and now

00:26:50.000 seek a partner who can match their level of achievement. As these men become more successful,

00:26:54.660 they often attract women who are equally accomplished. They appreciate the intellectual stimulation

00:27:01.080 and shared goals that come from being in a relationship with someone who's on their level. This

00:27:06.740 has to be written by a woman. I see no other.

00:27:10.680 Okay, but I'll go with it. In some cases, men opt for a second marriage due to unfulfilled

00:27:18.060 expectations or compatibility issues in their first marriage. They may believe that their first wife

00:27:23.380 does not meet their emotional and physical needs and they believe finding a new partner will provide

00:27:27.600 them with the satisfaction they seek. The conclusion is that while second marriages are often met

00:27:33.560 with judgment and skepticism, it is important to recognize each individual's circumstances and motivations

00:27:39.700 are unique. The reasons behind why men provide or the reasons behind men choosing to pursue second

00:27:48.040 marriages vary widely from financial stability to personal growth to emotional fulfillment.

00:27:55.440 Now, um, this woman is talking about first and second marriage problems.

00:28:02.880 Divorce. Has everybody seen that clip of the divorce lawyer talking about second marriage divorces and

00:28:13.100 how he's actually observed moms getting sick of doing everything and divorcing? He just kind of skirts

00:28:18.460 the second marriage question. Typically, first and second marriages have different requirements to

00:28:23.240 them. First marriages usually happen a little bit younger. They're to establish a family home and a family,

00:28:28.900 usually often to have children, which increases the overall responsibilities, the load, all of that

00:28:36.120 kind of stuff. Second marriages, however, a lot of the child kind of rearing is mostly done, if not all the

00:28:43.080 way done. Second marriages, a lot of times the children are already out of the home. And in here, the second

00:28:49.380 marriages that come in to see me, the goal or desire, I guess, of having a partner for one another.

00:28:56.380 They want someone to travel with, go out with, and yeah, have a lot of really hot schmexy time with.

00:29:02.920 The first marriages I see, yeah, we'll spend time on the couch debating who's doing what in the

00:29:07.980 household. But the second marriages I see, we don't do that. We spend time trying to figure out why we

00:29:14.820 aren't enjoying each other as much as we want to.

00:29:17.760 Okay, so the first marriage was for children, and the second marriages for fun. Okay. A woman talks about

00:29:31.320 the pros and cons of second marriage.

00:29:33.380 Marriage is hard. But you know what's even harder? The odds are stacked against you. There's the

00:29:47.100 negative stereotypes, the non-traditional family structure and holidays, the scars it leaves behind

00:29:53.940 and the emotional triggers. A lot of times the second spouse is guilty until proven innocent,

00:30:00.940 where the first spouse didn't really have that problem. They were the ones who whittled away the

00:30:06.060 trust, hence the divorce. But there are some distinct advantages. It's a chance to start over,

00:30:13.700 to start fresh. It's finding love again. You're more aware of the pitfalls. You're more willing to work

00:30:21.000 harder on your marriage and avoid complacency. You're really determined to do it right this time.

00:30:26.820 And you usually have more in common. You share a lot more of the same goals in the bigger picture.

00:30:33.160 You value your time together more. Generally, you learn to compromise better, and you're more

00:30:38.280 self-aware. And studies show you have more and better sex. You can't deny your past hurts or your

00:30:46.100 triggers. The key is to learn to work on them together to improve in your marriage as a team.

00:30:53.040 What you really don't want to do, and this can be hard, is you don't want to show up less than you did

00:30:59.460 the first time. You shouldn't trust less. You shouldn't give less. You try not to repeat the same

00:31:05.420 habits. The communication is fucking key. You have to be determined.

00:31:11.320 Has talking to women more made them argue with you less?

00:31:20.240 Or does it just give them more things to pick apart?

00:31:25.020 Guys, women that say that communication is key,

00:31:29.220 men, okay, men that say communication is key,

00:31:32.960 there are men that listen to women and what they say.

00:31:35.620 And women that say that communication is key, either A, have no emotional control and need

00:31:42.180 to tell the guy every single emotion, or B, they like to fight.

00:31:49.100 Permit to communicate so that you can work past all that stuff. And then your bond is even stronger.

00:31:56.960 And it's scary, but you have to be vulnerable. You have to have realistic expectations.

00:32:02.200 You got to catch yourself and check yourself when you might be treating somebody differently

00:32:08.020 because of something that has nothing to do with them. And that's not easy. But acknowledging it,

00:32:14.820 that's the first step. Dealing with it, that's the next step. But it's this kind of growth that

00:32:21.280 really makes that second marriage so special and so much more fulfilling. The Gottman Institute

00:32:28.740 talks a lot about this stuff, about trust and intimate relationships. And one of their famous

00:32:34.780 quotes from their research and interviewing people, writing books, blogs, you name it.

00:32:41.240 Life gets better for those who have the courage to trust.

00:32:48.640 Women talking about second marriage like it's a joke.

00:32:51.840 Listen, I'm second marriage material. Go have your starter marriage, learn all the lessons,

00:33:01.840 and then come and see me and we will live like sexy, responsible adults who split bills,

00:33:06.280 communicate, and leave each other alone most of the time.

00:33:10.940 Fellas, who's going to do it? I know it's one of you.

00:33:14.820 Who's going to do it?

00:33:16.580 Put a one in the chat if you do it. Just be honest, guys. They say barf, cap. You're telling

00:33:29.540 me there's 600 people in here right now. Imagine if I had a room full of 600 mostly men watching.

00:33:37.500 And you expect me to believe that none of you are going to do it.

00:33:45.420 I'd hit. Thank you for being honest, David.

00:33:50.000 That's all I... Fernando. Fernando says no.

00:33:57.760 Not even on a slow Tuesday. Get out of here. Don't believe you.

00:34:02.360 Okay. DM on the website says theaudacitynetwork.com. We've been demonetized. Feel free.

00:34:10.960 Yearly and monthly memberships, 80 bucks a year. One yearly membership sponsors the show if we get

00:34:17.480 one yearly membership a show. I love your commentary. I'd love to see you debate again.

00:34:23.560 You know, DM, I was traumatized a little bit. I know women, we use traumatized for everything,

00:34:28.900 but I am a modern woman, so I, you know, it is what it is. But when I've argued with enough crazy

00:34:37.320 people, the lengths they're willing to go is just incredible to me. So, well, you know,

00:34:50.280 there might be some coming soon. I'm not opposed. Elliot says do what, Pearl? Elliot, I'm saying

00:35:01.900 somebody would do her. I don't know who, but it's one of you. Pearl, are you calling out stamps? I call

00:35:09.220 out... Yeah, they said, they said, um, Fernando's capping in the chat. I know, Fernando. I know he is,

00:35:18.300 he is capping. He is. I don't need the cap. You know what we should do? We should do a cap of the

00:35:25.920 year on this channel. Like whoever a woman is that everyone says they wouldn't, but everyone knows

00:35:34.240 they would. Now here's another one is a woman who has remarried and husband adopted her two kids

00:35:42.640 says has a big wedding. So if you've followed me for a bit, you know that I am married again. This

00:35:54.120 is my second marriage. And, um, I came into our marriage with two kids. My husband came in with

00:36:00.780 three, so we have five together. Um, he actually has adopted my kids. So I have two kids and three

00:36:07.560 stepkids and he has five kids. So anyhow, I want to say this. Shout out to Ronald Rodolfo

00:36:18.000 for the 10th to, for the monthly membership on the website. Thank you so much. He says,

00:36:25.400 I don't understand how women want communication, but then tone police, double talk, change word

00:36:30.780 definitions, et cetera. Women just, we like to fight. That's it. They want, they say communicate

00:36:41.460 so we can fight and then be entertained for the day. Guys, if we get seven more memberships

00:36:49.500 this show and there is an app, we are on the app store, so you can download it. Um, and I

00:36:56.460 have some ideas. Maybe I'll go with where I'd like to see the app go. I got to get the

00:37:01.640 memberships to a certain point, but I really have some really good ideas of what I want

00:37:06.140 to put on there. Maybe, maybe I'll, I'll throw them at you later.

00:37:09.740 Third time, whatever your situation is, if you want to have a big blitz of a wedding and party,

00:37:18.100 do it. Um, this might not be your, if you want to see if a girl likes you, if she says she

00:37:25.660 wants to get married, courthouse, let's go to the courthouse. If she hesitates and argues

00:37:33.480 with you, hate to break it to you. The wedding is attention central for women. Remember we get

00:37:41.260 off on attention. So if women want a big wedding, usually they want the wedding, the attention

00:37:48.420 of the wedding. They don't really want the man. The best men really have is to take away

00:37:53.700 more of the things that they get and see if they stick around. First wedding, your first

00:38:00.360 marriage, but it's your first marriage to each other. So why shouldn't you celebrate?

00:38:05.400 Why do we often think like, Oh, well, it's your second marriage or your third, whatever

00:38:11.360 it is that you shouldn't have, that you should only have the big celebration for your, if it's

00:38:16.980 your first marriage. Because when we do that, we immediately downgrade that subsequent marriage

00:38:22.480 and we should be lifting up and celebrating every marriage. So whether you want to elope,

00:38:30.000 just get married, just the two of you or have a big extravaganza, do it because every marriage

00:38:37.600 is one to be celebrated. Start off your marriage knowing that this is huge. It's big. It's important.

00:38:44.740 And it's definitely a lot less important than your first marriage.

00:38:50.800 My opinion is second marriages are less important than your first marriage. Look at first marriage,

00:38:56.380 you at least sort of have a clean track record where we can say they might promise and mean it.

00:39:02.580 Second marriage. I mean, at that point, you already broke your first promise.

00:39:09.000 Why am I supposed to believe your second promise? Like, what does your word mean?

00:39:16.760 Spoiler alert, true Christians don't remarry. So there's no biblical justification for doing so.

00:39:23.980 Oh. Okay. What else do we got next?

00:39:32.340 Woman saying her second marriage is a great thing.

00:39:34.960 Woman saying her second marriage isn't as special the second time around.

00:39:44.840 Wrong-o. Let me tell you why that is absolutely not true for me.

00:39:50.560 I was married from 2014 to the end of 2016, divorced over the course of the end.

00:39:56.980 Look, your second marriage by definition cannot be as special.

00:40:04.960 The second time around. It literally cannot.

00:40:08.220 Like, what is the definition?

00:40:11.620 I know what it means, but sometimes I can't say.

00:40:14.820 Definition of special.

00:40:19.300 Different than usual.

00:40:24.860 Better, greater, otherwise different than usual.

00:40:28.500 Unusual.

00:40:29.760 Unusual.

00:40:30.280 Unusual.

00:40:31.560 So if marriage is something you're doing...

00:40:34.280 Over and over again and divorcing, that's kind of usual.

00:40:43.460 So, in my opinion, the only thing men can get in 2024 is genuine desire from women.

00:40:52.200 And the red pill talks about this because, you know, I have a friend and he's a total player.

00:40:58.700 And his experience is he's the type that as women approach him.

00:41:03.420 But to his surprise, he took a couple women's virginities and he said he couldn't believe how little it meant to them.

00:41:09.780 They did not care.

00:41:10.780 They were ready to go off into the world and be a whore.

00:41:14.000 And I thought about it and I thought, okay, so if now women...

00:41:18.500 And that kind of matches with what the stats say and, you know, what I've seen in life.

00:41:23.860 Because if women really thought their virginity was something special and marriage was special, they wouldn't leave, right?

00:41:30.180 They would treat it as if they're special.

00:41:33.220 The only thing I really see that men can get is genuine desire from a woman.

00:41:38.520 So, you know those women that completely destroy their families for, like, one guy?

00:41:46.660 That's what you want to get.

00:41:48.700 I mean, that's pretty special.

00:41:50.340 If you're the guy...

00:41:50.940 Now, I know you're thinking...

00:41:52.440 Now, I'm not saying take her seriously.

00:41:55.000 Clearly, a woman that does that's mentally ill.

00:41:57.500 But that's the most unique thing you're going to get.

00:42:01.620 A woman that destroyed her family to be with...

00:42:04.160 Like, imagine you hook up with a woman.

00:42:06.980 Maybe you knew she was married.

00:42:08.000 You don't care.

00:42:09.300 You find out she left her whole family to be with you.

00:42:11.660 That's pretty unique.

00:42:13.160 That's honestly more special than most marriages these days.

00:42:17.900 That dynamic?

00:42:18.800 Now, anyways.

00:42:20.180 Don't clip that and put that on Twitter.

00:42:23.020 I'm going to be very annoyed.

00:42:24.440 I'm going to be annoyed because I'm still flushing out that idea.

00:42:29.120 And I like to do them a little bit more.

00:42:33.200 The ideas.

00:42:34.180 Okay, let me continue this.

00:42:38.000 Why can't I hear it?

00:42:46.860 Is this sound on?

00:42:50.100 To my soulmate in 2016.

00:42:53.800 Divorced over the course of the end of 2016-2017.

00:42:56.620 And I got remarried to my soulmate in 2022.

00:43:00.580 Let me tell you why it was so much more special the second time around.

00:43:05.680 The first time around, I was young.

00:43:08.200 I had gut feelings telling me that it was the wrong thing.

00:43:11.460 And I didn't listen to them.

00:43:12.460 Because I listened to all the people around me telling me that it was wedding jitters.

00:43:15.820 It was normal.

00:43:17.140 Blah, blah, blah.

00:43:18.160 The second time around, I was as confident as I've ever been in my entire life.

00:43:23.260 Not only that, but I had the knowledge of all of the things that I did in my first wedding

00:43:27.920 that I knew that I either did or did not want to do again.

00:43:31.260 My first wedding day went by so fast.

00:43:34.640 In my opinion, second marriage is courthouse only.

00:43:39.840 There's no point.

00:43:42.760 Her other video says healing is never done.

00:43:47.200 Lord help the man that signed up for that.

00:43:49.380 And so on my second wedding day, I was able to be fully present all day.

00:43:53.620 I took the time to stop throughout the day, recognize what was going on around me, and

00:43:58.620 attempt to slow down time.

00:44:00.320 In doing this, I have way more long-term memories of my wedding day the second time around than

00:44:05.040 I did the first time around.

00:44:06.440 I also learned that all of the things I regretted from my first wedding were the things that

00:44:10.540 I did to appease other people.

00:44:12.800 So the second time around, I didn't do that.

00:44:15.140 And he and I eloped on the beach with 30 people, the closest 30 people.

00:44:19.980 I did everything the way that we wanted to for us.

00:44:24.260 The way we wanted to or she wanted to.

00:44:27.060 What's your guess?

00:44:29.780 What is your guess?

00:44:32.080 Also, guys, you know, if you want, feel free.

00:44:35.100 Website, theaudacitynetwork.com.

00:44:38.020 On Monday, I'm going to make it easier for you guys to search your favorite old show guests.

00:44:42.860 So like Cheska was a well-known one.

00:44:45.100 If there's any that you want to search just because they're really funny, I'm going to

00:44:48.520 put tags for each of the like Denalva, all the Denalva videos.

00:44:52.720 Feel free to put them in the comments and I'm going to put tags next Monday or on Monday.

00:44:57.640 I didn't do anything for looks or appearances.

00:45:00.380 I did everything to honor our relationship and our love story.

00:45:05.680 You want to know another reason why it was more special?

00:45:08.000 Everyone around us knew it was right.

00:45:09.460 Our speeches were better because they were genuine and when people were speaking from

00:45:14.360 the heart saying how happy they were, they meant it versus the first time around when

00:45:18.780 my entire family didn't actually agree with the marriage and they gave speeches because

00:45:22.900 they needed to, not because they wanted to.

00:45:25.040 Not only that, but I cannot tell you how different it is to walk down an aisle towards your soulmate

00:45:30.860 than it is to walk down the aisle towards someone who isn't right for you.

00:45:34.520 Of course, during my first marriage, I didn't know that.

00:45:37.420 I didn't know I was walking down the aisle to the wrong person and I loved my first wedding.

00:45:41.480 But then there's hindsight and then I learned and then I met my soulmate and felt how different

00:45:46.740 it is.

00:45:47.860 Walking down the aisle to him is worlds different.

00:45:51.340 And so, so special.

00:45:53.520 More special.

00:45:56.240 And more me.

00:45:58.560 More him.

00:45:59.640 More us.

00:46:01.040 More sentimental.

00:46:02.640 More joyous.

00:46:04.080 More carefree.

00:46:05.740 More at ease.

00:46:09.280 Literally, it was just more.

00:46:11.120 So maybe if you've been married multiple times, it wasn't as special for you, but it sure

00:46:15.420 as fuck was for me.

00:46:16.620 Ah, okay.

00:46:22.180 Soulmate equals simp.

00:46:25.000 That's true, actually.

00:46:31.680 Yeah, anxiety comes from alphas.

00:46:34.320 Simps offer security.

00:46:40.480 Who would in the chat?

00:46:42.860 Come on, be honest.

00:46:43.720 The divorce lawyer talking to your new partner.

00:46:46.300 Not her.

00:46:47.920 Nah.

00:46:50.440 Who would?

00:46:51.540 Chat, be honest.

00:46:55.000 Via, I want you to be honest.

00:46:59.760 One night.

00:47:00.540 Thank you, Nuff said, for at least being honest.

00:47:07.240 Trog says, nope.

00:47:08.580 Fernando again.

00:47:11.740 Again in the chat saying, never.

00:47:14.340 Right.

00:47:16.620 Carlos.

00:47:17.260 What is it?

00:47:17.800 Is it the Hispanics that are like, that are the cap pulling, that are like the kings of

00:47:23.180 cap?

00:47:28.140 Because Fernando and Carlos are the ones saying, no, never.

00:47:32.200 Ben, sounds like a white name.

00:47:34.480 Ben saying, hit and quit, maybe.

00:47:36.060 That's honest.

00:47:38.320 But you know, I know the stats, guys.

00:47:40.140 I know, I know the numbers.

00:47:42.120 So men tend to over exaggerate how much they get laid.

00:47:46.700 Women tend to under exaggerate.

00:47:48.280 So if I'm looking at stats that says, I think it's 40% of men and you thought no one would

00:47:55.220 know.

00:47:57.720 You would.

00:47:58.460 Please, please, please don't believe you.

00:48:06.120 Guy Fawkes is true.

00:48:08.180 JC says, nah, whatever, guys, whatever.

00:48:10.760 I'm going back to the audacity chat.

00:48:12.580 They cap less on the website.

00:48:14.220 They're a little more honest.

00:48:15.660 They're a little more honest.

00:48:17.520 OK, Joel says, well, there's a guy.

00:48:20.140 Well, while she is talking, there's a guy in the background playing a video game, just

00:48:24.220 happy he's not being bothered.

00:48:28.180 I think that's why women get so many TikTok accounts, because the men just want their wives

00:48:34.500 to leave them alone.

00:48:35.580 And so what they do is they're like, go play, you'll leave me alone for four hours a day

00:48:45.020 and do TikTok?

00:48:47.760 And they're like, fine.

00:48:49.060 And they're not really on social media, so they're not really looking, right?

00:48:52.540 And so they're thinking things are good.

00:48:54.320 And their wife is telling all of the family's most intimate secrets on TikTok.

00:49:01.980 Oh, too funny.

00:49:03.200 There are no soulmates in Christianity.

00:49:06.580 Crazy Kyle says, this whole thing sounded so genuine until the ending when she said,

00:49:11.340 at least we had fun and she took it as a game.

00:49:14.480 I'm married, so screw that crazy lady.

00:49:16.760 Not my wife, but all the girls you've shown.

00:49:19.160 DM, it's a numbers game.

00:49:20.440 If a man is willing to ask, he will get laid.

00:49:23.920 That's true.

00:49:27.140 OK, attorney warns stepmoms about putting their name on the deed in case their new husband's

00:49:32.780 pass away.

00:49:38.160 Rodolfo says, Pearl, stop spilling the game.

00:49:42.180 Men want to be left alone but not be lonely.

00:49:46.300 No.

00:49:48.960 Why do you think I'm here?

00:49:50.200 I spill the game on both genders.

00:49:51.660 You know, to get really good insights on what I talk about, I talk to guys that coach men

00:50:00.920 on this stuff.

00:50:02.420 And really, you're not going to get a better insight into what's going on.

00:50:06.420 There's people you can talk to that will give you more information than ever.

00:50:10.620 One is people that live in the front of apartment complexes.

00:50:14.180 The women can lie, but your doorman will not.

00:50:20.140 They see everything.

00:50:22.020 That's one.

00:50:24.300 So, you know, my old door lady, she would tell me, she would tell me like, oh, that woman

00:50:31.840 saw this many guys that week or that like.

00:50:33.940 Anyways, that's one.

00:50:37.500 Another one to get really good information is men that coach men in dating.

00:50:43.920 Because they deal with men that are married having problems, men that are young and just

00:50:49.880 don't know.

00:50:50.380 Like, I talked to one coach.

00:50:52.080 He gets guys laid within three weeks from virgins.

00:50:55.980 That's what he does.

00:50:57.240 That's a little bit less than a year.

00:50:59.080 Depends how stubborn the guy is.

00:51:00.520 Now, they like, and I ask very specific questions.

00:51:06.180 So I'll ask like, okay, a guy that's getting laid, how many are in its harem on average?

00:51:11.800 A guy that's just a relationship guy.

00:51:15.160 I ask very specific questions to figure out the frequency of things and like who they're

00:51:20.740 like, anyways, I'm, I'm, all I'm saying is, yes, I'm going to keep spilling the tea.

00:51:27.060 I'm sorry you bought my membership.

00:51:28.720 I won't listen to that.

00:51:31.480 I'm okay.

00:51:32.600 Pearl, do a poll.

00:51:33.560 Who's married?

00:51:34.500 LOL.

00:51:34.940 The singles are mad.

00:51:36.900 A Kardashian viewer.

00:51:39.160 Thanos says, husband, bedtime is my favorite time of day.

00:51:42.560 Wife, it's because of the cuddles.

00:51:44.560 Husband, no, it's the only time you go to sleep and stop nagging me.

00:51:48.340 Nagging me.

00:51:49.220 Fizel, as a divorced individual, I want to have kids without getting married again.

00:51:53.700 I'd be happy to paying child support as long as it's 5K.

00:51:56.780 I just don't want to end up like Ross Geller.

00:52:00.880 Okay, let's keep going.

00:52:02.020 This has just got to be said because I can't take it anymore.

00:52:06.400 Imagine being your second marriage and you've been married for 30 years and y'all have had

00:52:12.860 a loving relationship and you have children from another marriage and he has children from

00:52:19.060 another marriage.

00:52:20.380 And for God's sake, what happens next is just traumatic.

00:52:24.320 Your husband passed away, but the house that you are living in is in his name and your name

00:52:33.500 was never put on a deed and the children make you leave the house as soon as that funeral

00:52:39.180 is over.

00:52:40.080 This is real life stuff.

00:52:41.060 This is really, this really, really happens.

00:52:44.320 Change the deed.

00:52:45.540 It is very important that in your lifetime, if you're in a second marriage and y'all have

00:52:50.520 been together for a long time, you change the deed.

00:52:53.840 Joint tenant with writer survivorship with both names on it.

00:52:57.040 And that way, if something were to happen to him, the house automatically goes to you.

00:53:01.100 If something happens to you, it automatically goes to him.

00:53:03.720 Because I always tell people, the worst comes out of individuals at weddings and deaths.

00:53:11.200 Change those deeds.

00:53:12.140 Change those deeds.

00:53:15.540 Okay.

00:53:18.620 Women talking about second wife advantage.

00:53:22.780 So this woman, I liked her.

00:53:24.120 Men actually learn from relationships and they get better every time.

00:53:30.060 Women, we get worse every time, unfortunately.

00:53:33.720 As someone who has dated men that come from divorce, despite the stigma attached to people

00:53:40.700 having failed marriages, I can honestly testify to the fact that there are advantages

00:53:45.360 to being a second wife.

00:53:47.940 In the few cases that I can recall, there was one in particular where the man was the one

00:53:52.620 to initiate his divorce.

00:53:54.420 And as I've mentioned on my channel before, 69% of divorces are initiated by women.

00:53:59.800 So I was really intrigued to see what made him want to walk away from his marriage.

00:54:04.040 The marriage that he described to me was one where his partner was not very supportive.

00:54:09.340 She wasn't very friendly.

00:54:10.560 She was very unkind to him.

00:54:12.900 And she really was not affectionate.

00:54:15.480 And they did not have sex as much as he felt they needed to in order to foster that intimacy.

00:54:21.400 There were a host of other issues.

00:54:23.720 But based on what he told me, I really did understand why he felt compelled to walk away

00:54:29.960 and why he felt like it was unsalvageable.

00:54:32.520 In the other instance I can think of, it was the opposite.

00:54:35.980 This couple had been together for a really long time.

00:54:38.320 And she felt like she didn't have her own identity in their marriage.

00:54:43.180 Everything kind of revolved around the kids.

00:54:45.560 And he was very emotionally and physically unavailable and didn't really make a lot of time

00:54:50.880 for her and to foster their own form of intimacy mentally and physically.

00:54:58.560 And again, it's the same kind of feeling as, you know, the first one where you can understand

00:55:03.140 why someone would feel the need to walk away from something after enduring years and years of that.

00:55:09.780 In both cases, though, I did find both men to be incredibly self-aware, incredibly reflective

00:55:18.080 about how they contributed to the demise of their marriage

00:55:22.880 and things that they wish that their partner did differently.

00:55:27.740 Ultimately, I felt like these men had a perspective that you can really only have

00:55:32.200 if you've gone through a really monumental breakup or, in their cases, a divorce.

00:55:38.700 I think the biggest advantage of being a second wife or of dating someone who comes from a failed marriage

00:55:44.720 is the perspective that they have, is their ability to look back at something and say,

00:55:51.240 okay, well, here's what we did wrong.

00:55:53.520 For a lot of people, not just men and not just divorcees, but women and people at any stage of their life,

00:55:59.520 there are certain lessons that are learned with time and with retrospect.

00:56:04.560 And there are a lot of things that as we go through, we don't really know what is happening

00:56:10.960 until we've had time to kind of stop and assess everything.

00:56:15.420 For me personally, I don't want to be with a man who is learning lessons that I feel should be very obvious.

00:56:24.880 Because, like, not being physically or emotionally unavailable for me just sounds like absolute hell.

00:56:32.820 And so if this person really did not understand how important that is until his wife ended his marriage,

00:56:41.920 and that is now a lesson that he has, one that I will benefit directly from,

00:56:47.300 yeah, sign me up.

00:56:49.720 I mean, it makes a lot of sense if you think about it, right?

00:56:51.980 Like, think about the first couple people that you dated when you first got into the dating scene.

00:56:56.900 You don't really have the best idea of what you're looking for, what you want, or of who you are.

00:57:05.840 And I think it's the same thing in marriage.

00:57:10.040 Despite it being such a massive commitment,

00:57:12.520 there are so many people that have given me anecdotal stories about the circumstances under which they married.

00:57:20.720 Well, we were together for a couple years.

00:57:23.960 Well, I was pregnant.

00:57:25.780 Well, my parents were pushing me to pop the question.

00:57:28.760 It's not uncommon for people to marry because they feel like they have to.

00:57:34.460 Which leads me to my next point.

00:57:36.800 If a man is dating you intentionally,

00:57:40.040 despite coming from a failed marriage,

00:57:42.180 especially if he is expressing interest in marrying again,

00:57:47.200 know that he is going to devote so much more of himself to that second marriage than he did the first time around.

00:57:55.180 Why?

00:57:55.740 Because he's experienced the heartbreak of a divorce.

00:58:00.100 Men and women experience heartbreak totally different.

00:58:02.560 Yeah, totally.

00:58:04.200 But they still experience heartbreak.

00:58:06.920 In both of the relationships that I cited,

00:58:10.600 even the man that initiated the divorce had his own heartbreak in having to walk away from his marriage.

00:58:18.300 So the chances of him going into something else all willy-nilly

00:58:23.300 and wanting to experience that all over again are slim to none.

00:58:29.400 So all of this is to say,

00:58:31.940 if you are dating and you come across men that have,

00:58:35.380 you know,

00:58:36.160 a failed marriage or they're coming from a divorce,

00:58:38.740 don't be so quick to write them off.

00:58:41.020 Sit down with them,

00:58:42.200 get to know them,

00:58:43.240 and try and find out what happened in that relationship that caused it to fail.

00:58:49.260 And if you find that this man is reflective and analytical and open and honest,

00:58:55.280 and more importantly determined to be different in,

00:59:00.000 in the relationship that you are building with him than he was in his marriage,

00:59:04.160 you might want to just hold on tight because he wasn't his marriage wasn't his marriage.

00:59:13.980 You might want to just hold on tight because he's looking for a happy ending too.

00:59:19.280 Right now she's just teaching women how to manipulate their second marriage.

00:59:29.460 All right,

00:59:30.220 guys,

00:59:31.060 what Pearl,

00:59:31.640 if women had to pay for weddings and marriages like men,

00:59:34.340 they would not think about second marriages as so cool and trendy.

00:59:39.040 Well,

00:59:39.600 I want to know what you guys think.

00:59:42.020 You could put the link,

00:59:43.200 the column link in the chat.

00:59:45.460 I want to hear,

00:59:46.600 do you think men should get remarried after they divorce?

00:59:50.940 If you had a friend going through a terrible divorce and said to you,

00:59:54.700 they wanted to get remarried.

00:59:56.540 Would you say do it?

00:59:58.320 What do you guys think?

01:00:02.560 Oh,

01:00:03.060 we got another subscriber.

01:00:06.780 Welcome to the audacity gang.

01:00:14.280 Welcome.

01:00:14.720 Thank you so much.

01:00:19.260 Let me.

01:00:23.300 Rob,

01:00:23.920 appreciate you.

01:00:29.820 Okay.

01:00:30.360 We have the zoom link.

01:00:33.840 Going in the chat.

01:00:35.260 We'll pin it.

01:00:39.020 So if you had a friend that went through a terrible,

01:00:43.020 terrible divorce,

01:00:43.920 would you tell him to remarry?

01:00:49.400 While we're waiting for people to call in,

01:00:51.460 I'm going to give you guys a second.

01:00:52.800 I'm going to go through our rules for calling in one.

01:00:56.020 I do ask personal questions.

01:00:57.900 If you come on the show,

01:00:59.220 um,

01:00:59.920 if you don't want to talk about your personal stories,

01:01:04.000 I mean,

01:01:07.120 then don't call in.

01:01:08.100 Like,

01:01:08.340 it's just a note.

01:01:09.200 Like,

01:01:09.360 don't,

01:01:09.660 don't call into the show where we talk about what's going on in society based on people's stories.

01:01:18.220 And then anyways,

01:01:19.620 you can opt out of the camera.

01:01:22.020 So we'll bring you up first.

01:01:23.460 And you can say,

01:01:24.560 don't want to be on camera,

01:01:26.300 but I need to see that you're a person.

01:01:28.780 So my producer knows that not,

01:01:31.020 we're not going to bring you guys up right away.

01:01:33.400 Um,

01:01:33.940 but make sure that's the first thing you say if you don't want to be on camera.

01:01:37.300 Okay.

01:01:40.120 Please bring a statement or story.

01:01:46.440 So if I,

01:01:46.960 the question of today is,

01:01:48.520 would you recommend a friend remarry?

01:01:51.720 Tell me why.

01:01:54.920 Um,

01:01:55.940 what,

01:01:56.240 what is the personal stories or what's the reason you think that?

01:02:01.500 And get to the point.

01:02:03.040 Don't make it a monologue.

01:02:04.260 Um,

01:02:04.540 sometimes I,

01:02:05.840 you know,

01:02:06.020 sometimes people do bring in pretty cool stories.

01:02:09.500 So,

01:02:10.020 um,

01:02:10.780 I'll let them go a little longer,

01:02:12.060 but at times I will have to cut you off.

01:02:14.380 It's not to be rude.

01:02:15.880 I just got to run the show.

01:02:17.620 Don't over talk me.

01:02:20.080 Stay on topic.

01:02:22.200 And that's pretty much it.

01:02:24.400 That's what we got today.

01:02:27.200 Um,

01:02:28.140 now I wanted to talk about a couple ideas I have for the audacity network.

01:02:35.440 While we're,

01:02:36.000 while we're waiting,

01:02:37.140 while we're waiting.

01:02:38.920 Um,

01:02:39.400 give me a thumbs up when somebody's on the line,

01:02:41.800 but a couple ideas I have.

01:02:44.860 So on the website,

01:02:45.860 I was thinking about,

01:02:47.160 so as you guys know,

01:02:49.340 the red pill started in the blogs and forums.

01:02:52.560 So there are people that have been in the red pill for like 10,

01:02:55.240 20 years.

01:02:56.480 And it was men coming together to solve their problems.

01:03:00.000 The great thing about RP content is it does have solutions for men.

01:03:05.760 There have been men that created solutions to potentially fix your marriage.

01:03:10.880 Um,

01:03:11.360 if your wife never liked you in the first place,

01:03:13.480 it won't help.

01:03:14.160 But if maybe it was just,

01:03:16.740 um,

01:03:17.500 frame that you lost,

01:03:19.060 they made it,

01:03:19.740 you know,

01:03:20.680 Donovan made a course on how to,

01:03:22.800 um,

01:03:24.520 what women say versus what they mean.

01:03:27.740 It's legit.

01:03:28.480 Like there's courses that I found that are really are legit.

01:03:32.400 And I was thinking about getting some sort of group membership.

01:03:35.880 If I put them all on the website,

01:03:37.640 if you guys are interested,

01:03:41.140 the ones I would co-sign.

01:03:42.600 And I know from people that have worked with these guys that are good where you

01:03:46.880 guys could pay.

01:03:48.460 I don't know.

01:03:49.320 A lot of these courses are like a couple hundred bucks each,

01:03:52.600 but maybe you could pay like 200 bucks and get access to like 10 courses.

01:03:57.220 Um,

01:03:57.740 there's courses on how to like make six figures as a power lineman.

01:04:01.580 Um,

01:04:02.880 there's really a lot of good information.

01:04:05.800 And the thing is most of these guys,

01:04:07.960 yes,

01:04:09.080 they're in it.

01:04:09.840 I mean,

01:04:10.120 obviously they want to make money,

01:04:11.580 but they initially got into this to fix their problems.

01:04:14.480 And you know,

01:04:16.060 like one has a fashion course.

01:04:17.880 That's really good.

01:04:19.120 Um,

01:04:19.740 anyways,

01:04:20.080 if you guys like that idea,

01:04:21.460 it's something I was thinking of including,

01:04:23.100 um,

01:04:24.200 another thing is we do do channel management.

01:04:26.500 So I like to take people that are already successful,

01:04:30.240 but they don't really,

01:04:31.400 you know,

01:04:32.840 like,

01:04:33.020 let's say you're a doctor.

01:04:34.580 Do you have time to be worried about learning equipment?

01:04:41.360 You like,

01:04:41.700 I just think there aren't enough smart people on the internet.

01:04:45.280 Like,

01:04:45.760 I think I want to raise the overall IQ of people online.

01:04:49.120 And so what I do is I come in and,

01:04:52.140 um,

01:04:53.640 we take a,

01:04:54.320 we have a,

01:04:54.660 all they do is upload their video into a drive.

01:04:58.260 And then,

01:04:59.000 you know,

01:05:00.260 we do the rest posting titles,

01:05:02.840 thumbnails.

01:05:03.500 I was thinking of doing an audacity Academy where we can teach you guys how to do all the stuff.

01:05:08.600 If you want,

01:05:09.700 if you don't,

01:05:11.500 you know,

01:05:11.780 we can do it for you.

01:05:13.200 Just an idea.

01:05:14.140 I had,

01:05:14.500 you could take it or leave it.

01:05:15.520 So we're going to get back to the topic.

01:05:17.980 You know,

01:05:18.240 I was just waiting for people to come in,

01:05:19.960 but we have a caller.

01:05:22.300 We have Brad.

01:05:23.660 Hello,

01:05:24.020 Brad.

01:05:24.320 How are you?

01:05:26.300 Hi,

01:05:26.740 Pearl.

01:05:27.040 I'm good.

01:05:27.400 How are you?

01:05:28.400 Good.

01:05:28.820 Where are you calling out of?

01:05:31.060 Boise,

01:05:31.520 Idaho.

01:05:32.180 Are you good to be on camera?

01:05:34.800 Yeah.

01:05:35.340 If you don't mind me driving,

01:05:36.440 it's just kind of posted up.

01:05:38.340 That's fine.

01:05:39.040 Just don't crash.

01:05:40.980 No,

01:05:41.420 I definitely won't.

01:05:42.800 Okay.

01:05:43.340 Um,

01:05:43.660 so what do you think of the topic?

01:05:45.340 Would you recommend a man that's been through a terrible divorce marry again?

01:05:51.420 Uh,

01:05:51.940 I wouldn't recommend it because,

01:05:54.260 I feel as though it's kind of a green flag for the women,

01:05:59.640 uh,

01:06:01.160 because they know that he's been manipulated once before.

01:06:03.860 So it just kind of gives them that green flag to do it again.

01:06:08.000 You know what I'm saying?

01:06:08.800 Yeah.

01:06:10.240 And have you seen any men that you were friends with or like new marry twice?

01:06:17.640 Yes,

01:06:18.080 actually a coworker I'm working with at the moment.

01:06:20.900 Uh,

01:06:21.260 we actually had a conversation about it today.

01:06:23.000 It was pretty interesting.

01:06:24.260 What,

01:06:24.700 what's the job?

01:06:27.720 Like what's the field?

01:06:29.640 Uh,

01:06:30.200 electricians.

01:06:31.100 Okay.

01:06:31.780 And why is he marrying again?

01:06:34.740 Uh,

01:06:35.380 so he actually did already marry again.

01:06:38.220 Uh,

01:06:38.660 so what it was is he had first marriage,

01:06:43.600 uh,

01:06:44.220 14 years married,

01:06:45.480 two kids and,

01:06:47.940 you know,

01:06:48.860 nasty divorce,

01:06:49.760 didn't even see it coming.

01:06:51.600 Uh,

01:06:52.320 so he got with this new girl,

01:06:55.560 uh,

01:06:56.480 got her pregnant.

01:06:57.200 And that was kind of the reason that they decided to get married again.

01:07:00.140 Uh,

01:07:00.740 and,

01:07:01.640 uh,

01:07:02.000 what he's telling me is basically the conversation today was,

01:07:06.260 is she's taking a trip to Disneyland with a female friend of hers.

01:07:10.420 They're like 44 years old.

01:07:12.640 Uh,

01:07:13.120 she's taking a trip to Disneyland,

01:07:14.920 not taking his kids,

01:07:16.960 not taking her kids,

01:07:18.400 just kind of like a girl's trip.

01:07:20.940 And,

01:07:21.460 uh,

01:07:21.800 of course at his expense.

01:07:23.700 And,

01:07:24.140 uh,

01:07:25.020 he's just kind of,

01:07:26.340 he's just kind of going off about how he feels as though he's just getting,

01:07:29.240 uh,

01:07:31.020 what do you call it?

01:07:32.300 Drained wallet wise.

01:07:34.300 And,

01:07:34.740 uh,

01:07:35.760 I was like,

01:07:36.200 why,

01:07:36.500 why did you even,

01:07:37.780 if the first one was so bad,

01:07:39.720 why'd you get married a second time?

01:07:41.040 And he kind of like what you were talking about before he felt obligated.

01:07:44.280 Cause he,

01:07:44.900 they were going to have a kid.

01:07:46.280 So I'm not sure where that expectation came from or why that preyed so heavily on him.

01:07:51.740 But,

01:07:52.100 uh,

01:07:53.060 um,

01:07:54.000 just saying from personal,

01:07:55.160 uh,

01:07:56.480 witness,

01:07:56.940 it,

01:07:58.000 it seems to just be worse the second time around.

01:08:00.360 Yeah.

01:08:01.300 Women really use men's morality against them.

01:08:06.040 Like you guys,

01:08:07.180 I would,

01:08:08.020 I would also say simps do too.

01:08:10.140 Like simps,

01:08:11.840 uh,

01:08:13.000 just really,

01:08:14.340 I don't know.

01:08:15.420 They just throw each other.

01:08:17.960 Throw.

01:08:18.640 I don't know.

01:08:19.240 They just,

01:08:19.740 they throw,

01:08:20.580 they just expect men to just throw themselves on the,

01:08:24.540 on the pyre,

01:08:25.320 you know?

01:08:26.040 Yeah,

01:08:26.640 they totally do.

01:08:27.960 Well,

01:08:28.400 thank you so much,

01:08:29.300 Brad,

01:08:29.960 for calling in.

01:08:31.460 Of course.

01:08:31.940 No,

01:08:32.120 big fan.

01:08:32.740 I appreciate it,

01:08:33.460 bro.

01:08:33.580 Thank you so much.

01:08:34.300 Thank you.

01:08:36.080 Have a good.

01:08:36.860 You too.

01:08:39.700 Pregnant.

01:08:40.620 No,

01:08:40.880 that's the,

01:08:41.380 that's okay guys.

01:08:42.220 That's the way I get.

01:08:43.580 A lot of people think I'm hating on religion when I say that Christians are,

01:08:49.880 Christian men are the targets.

01:08:55.240 But they literally are.

01:08:57.180 And I know this because I've talked to OnlyFans models about this.

01:09:03.220 They market to Christian men.

01:09:05.120 That is what they do.

01:09:06.960 Married Christian,

01:09:07.740 because again they use men's sense of morality against them.

01:09:13.400 The Sims,

01:09:13.960 as he said,

01:09:14.800 the Sims do too.

01:09:15.680 What they'll do is they'll say,

01:09:17.800 you're a bad person.

01:09:19.340 If you have sex or have a kid outside of marriage,

01:09:22.120 even if the state is putting a gun to your head,

01:09:26.520 you still have to do it.

01:09:28.100 You're immoral.

01:09:28.680 Even if the women like being baby mothers,

01:09:34.080 it's still your fault.

01:09:35.580 Anyways,

01:09:35.980 sorry guys.

01:09:36.840 Headphone.

01:09:37.300 Is there anyone else on or no?

01:09:39.040 No?

01:09:39.380 Okay.

01:09:41.680 Yeah,

01:09:42.220 she is going to ride Space Mountain.

01:09:45.720 That'll be awesome.

01:09:47.160 Pearl,

01:09:47.440 me and my friend are trying to make a podcast called Father's Day.

01:09:50.780 It's just to support fathers.

01:09:52.400 And yes,

01:09:52.780 sometimes we're going to talk about ex-girlfriends.

01:09:55.160 Now look,

01:09:56.900 guys,

01:09:57.420 I do for the outsourcing of the clips and like that and the YouTube outsourcing.

01:10:06.480 I do have a smaller package,

01:10:08.620 but in general,

01:10:09.920 this is for people that want to go all in.

01:10:15.120 I want,

01:10:15.920 I don't have the capacity to take on like 10 clients.

01:10:18.660 I just don't have it.

01:10:20.120 I really can max out at like five,

01:10:22.980 four or five.

01:10:23.460 I'm just being honest.

01:10:24.560 This isn't even a sales gimmick.

01:10:25.900 So yes,

01:10:27.900 you can message me about the outsourcing,

01:10:30.180 but I'm telling you,

01:10:31.300 if you don't have a decent budget,

01:10:33.340 just don't waste your time.

01:10:34.660 In the most respectful way,

01:10:36.100 I just,

01:10:36.520 we only have the capacity for maybe four or five.

01:10:40.940 Okay.

01:10:41.260 How can you support this idea?

01:10:46.040 Jesus said that remarriage is adultery,

01:10:48.300 except if you're a widow.

01:10:49.840 I think Buddhist men are not the target.

01:10:51.700 I don't know enough Buddhist men to look at generalities from it.

01:10:55.620 Welcome to the show.

01:10:56.800 Sean,

01:10:57.300 are you okay to be on camera?

01:10:59.980 Yes,

01:11:00.340 ma'am.

01:11:01.480 Welcome to the show.

01:11:03.100 What is your thought on the topic?

01:11:04.500 Should men that have gone through a bad divorce remarry?

01:11:09.320 Negative.

01:11:13.400 Negative all day,

01:11:14.620 every day.

01:11:15.860 I mean,

01:11:16.320 it's just a complicated thing.

01:11:19.180 Yeah.

01:11:19.520 And marriage kind of is a little bit outdated.

01:11:22.860 And so,

01:11:23.680 I mean,

01:11:24.380 you were on point just like usual,

01:11:26.520 nothing new there,

01:11:27.260 right?

01:11:27.660 When it comes down to just diving deep into the details and figuring out

01:11:31.580 like,

01:11:31.860 Hey,

01:11:31.960 what's going on?

01:11:32.920 What's the causes of these things?

01:11:34.580 But,

01:11:35.040 you know,

01:11:35.540 people are hopeless romantics.

01:11:37.760 And so they just continue to move in the same destructive manner

01:11:40.800 without actually sitting back and just saying,

01:11:43.560 Hey,

01:11:44.720 should I get married again or not?

01:11:46.760 And so I think it's a global thing.

01:11:48.460 Also,

01:11:48.860 it's not like,

01:11:49.700 you know,

01:11:50.020 as we had a conversation last time I was on about just even in Asia,

01:11:53.880 how things were going.

01:11:54.900 So it's not Christian and Buddhist.

01:11:57.080 I know you just said that recently.

01:11:58.600 It's really about people got options.

01:12:01.020 And people are like,

01:12:02.200 look,

01:12:03.160 I want to do whatever I want to do when I want to do it.

01:12:05.780 And that's it.

01:12:07.560 Oh my gosh.

01:12:08.300 I didn't even recognize you with the hat on and the glasses this time.

01:12:12.120 I didn't realize you're,

01:12:12.880 you're the,

01:12:13.380 you're the one that was dating in Japan and like Asia.

01:12:15.920 Right.

01:12:17.080 Yeah.

01:12:17.400 Yeah.

01:12:17.580 Yeah.

01:12:19.960 So have you seen anyone go through a second marriage and how did it

01:12:25.160 turn out for them?

01:12:26.680 Of course.

01:12:27.640 Right.

01:12:28.040 But we already know the statistics,

01:12:29.640 right?

01:12:29.840 It turns out worse.

01:12:31.120 Right.

01:12:31.800 Like,

01:12:32.140 I mean,

01:12:32.600 of course they say they learn things and it will change,

01:12:35.720 but it doesn't matter.

01:12:36.600 You're not dating or marrying the same person.

01:12:38.900 You're marrying a completely different person.

01:12:41.260 And then of course they have a completely different timetable about the

01:12:45.700 development and how they see the world.

01:12:47.480 And so again,

01:12:48.820 you,

01:12:49.080 you'll marry somebody else and be like,

01:12:50.600 yeah,

01:12:50.940 you know,

01:12:51.280 the first one I wasn't developed enough.

01:12:53.700 And then you go into the second one and the other person could not be

01:12:57.380 developed enough.

01:12:58.320 Or maybe they just decided to change their mind.

01:13:00.760 You know,

01:13:01.020 I don't think people would want to get married that much.

01:13:02.980 If it was like,

01:13:03.540 you can't get divorced.

01:13:04.960 You have to stay.

01:13:06.480 Guys would,

01:13:07.300 but not the girls.

01:13:08.760 They'd be like,

01:13:09.100 Oh heck no.

01:13:10.680 We've been praying for that.

01:13:12.780 Yeah.

01:13:13.260 Good luck.

01:13:14.320 Well,

01:13:14.740 I don't understand why people don't just live together.

01:13:17.640 The second time you can,

01:13:19.460 you can live together.

01:13:20.580 You can have a kid.

01:13:21.760 You just,

01:13:22.280 why would you take an extra layer of insecurity?

01:13:25.960 Like,

01:13:26.440 like an extra way the state can F you when you can have the same exact

01:13:30.840 outcome.

01:13:31.920 You can even do a ceremony.

01:13:33.420 I have like,

01:13:34.200 I have friends that are common law married and they did a ceremony.

01:13:37.400 Like everyone knows they're together,

01:13:39.220 but they're just,

01:13:41.000 the state doesn't.

01:13:42.940 It ain't good enough.

01:13:44.240 You know,

01:13:44.740 they want the ring.

01:13:45.840 And then I guess it's just,

01:13:47.220 you know,

01:13:47.880 culture,

01:13:48.600 culture impacts them a little bit too much.

01:13:50.820 But yeah.

01:13:51.740 And it's funny.

01:13:52.400 It was working longer when they were just a couple than it was when

01:13:55.940 they got married.

01:13:56.720 Right.

01:13:57.060 Like when they got married,

01:13:58.640 it got worse when they were a couple,

01:14:00.200 we were together eight years and then it's like,

01:14:02.520 dang.

01:14:03.140 And then y'all got married for three and y'all were divorced.

01:14:05.760 And so it's just kind of funny,

01:14:08.240 but I just think it changes the power dynamics.

01:14:11.220 So at the end of the day,

01:14:12.760 the guys like to think they're in charge.

01:14:14.440 Like I'm in charge of my household.

01:14:15.820 And it's like,

01:14:16.340 really,

01:14:16.660 bro,

01:14:16.820 I will call the cops and they will let you know real quick.

01:14:19.400 We all know what it is.

01:14:21.260 Like,

01:14:21.480 you know,

01:14:21.760 it's so funny,

01:14:22.540 man.

01:14:22.700 It's the most craziest thing.

01:14:24.680 The only power you men have is not getting married.

01:14:27.160 I swear to the beans.

01:14:28.500 Like it's the only power you have.

01:14:30.480 Or other women.

01:14:31.520 It's just not getting married.

01:14:32.060 Like other women.

01:14:33.160 Yeah.

01:14:33.460 That's really it.

01:14:34.000 But if you get married,

01:14:35.740 you can't do it underneath that.

01:14:37.320 You get what I'm saying?

01:14:38.120 Yeah.

01:14:38.380 Like if you're,

01:14:39.880 even if you are in some countries,

01:14:41.580 they give you rules.

01:14:42.480 Like everybody got to get a house.

01:14:44.200 Everybody got to get a car.

01:14:45.680 It's like crazy.

01:14:46.740 It's like,

01:14:47.140 Oh my gosh.

01:14:48.680 So yeah,

01:14:49.320 no,

01:14:50.060 it's ridiculous.

01:14:51.300 But that's what they do.

01:14:52.300 Every power that men have,

01:14:54.040 the Christians will come in and say they're immoral for using.

01:14:58.120 So like if a guy dates around,

01:15:00.520 like that gives him power because then he has options.

01:15:03.260 Like if he's sleeping with multiple women,

01:15:05.120 if one woman takes away his supply of sex with marriage,

01:15:08.880 like that gives my men saying,

01:15:10.900 no,

01:15:11.060 I'm not going to marry you.

01:15:12.240 That gives them power.

01:15:13.540 And then the Christians say you're a bad person for doing it.

01:15:17.740 Yeah,

01:15:18.520 exactly.

01:15:19.340 Especially you go ham on that.

01:15:21.360 And it's so funny too,

01:15:22.420 because I forgot what the guy name was.

01:15:24.680 He was like,

01:15:24.980 man,

01:15:25.500 you're actually really cool.

01:15:27.060 If you're a virgin,

01:15:27.960 you're the best out.

01:15:29.640 You're the strongest male.

01:15:30.880 I was like,

01:15:31.180 look,

01:15:31.320 you can think that in your head,

01:15:32.640 but other people don't have to like,

01:15:34.960 like people just won't acknowledge it and just cast you as a weirdo or incel.

01:15:40.580 And you're like,

01:15:41.320 well,

01:15:41.420 I have the moral ground.

01:15:42.480 And yeah,

01:15:43.020 you will never have a partner in a mate.

01:15:45.300 But at the end of the day,

01:15:46.900 because even the girls who are Christian don't prefer that.

01:15:49.880 So it's just,

01:15:50.840 it's funny.

01:15:51.400 And as you said,

01:15:52.460 they use the moral argument and they act like they stand on morality with that

01:15:57.800 position.

01:15:58.420 But definitely you're leading people astray with that type of advice.

01:16:01.720 Like,

01:16:02.820 yeah,

01:16:03.040 I've met women that I believe are virgins.

01:16:06.140 And it's like,

01:16:07.520 I mean,

01:16:07.920 some of them are just waiting to get it over with.

01:16:10.060 And then they can go be whores.

01:16:12.320 Like,

01:16:13.000 you know what I mean?

01:16:15.280 Cause guys don't think they're like immune if they find like a virgin homeschooled girl.

01:16:20.060 And I'm like,

01:16:20.680 I've literally met those that are on only fans.

01:16:23.600 Like that.

01:16:24.380 That's what they said.

01:16:26.120 And as we said last time,

01:16:28.140 you know,

01:16:28.620 people swear it down.

01:16:29.640 It's like,

01:16:30.240 Oh man,

01:16:30.680 it's gotta be,

01:16:31.400 you know,

01:16:32.220 feminism.

01:16:32.720 It's like,

01:16:33.460 nah,

01:16:33.860 bro.

01:16:34.400 Moms was telling them like,

01:16:36.160 you know,

01:16:36.720 your daddy never made me,

01:16:38.200 you know what?

01:16:39.000 So go out there and live your life.

01:16:40.800 And so it's just really bad.

01:16:43.220 And I'm telling you,

01:16:43.900 I'm overseas.

01:16:44.700 Sometimes I'll be dating,

01:16:45.880 you know,

01:16:46.100 with my girl and we're walking down the street and some older Thai ladies looking like,

01:16:50.420 man,

01:16:51.580 I wish we had that back in my days.

01:16:53.680 Like the girl would tell me,

01:16:55.820 she even said that she's like,

01:16:57.220 man,

01:16:57.880 you're lucky to live in these times.

01:16:59.400 And these are like old Thai women,

01:17:01.120 you get like past their primes,

01:17:03.520 but they're just like,

01:17:04.680 man,

01:17:04.900 I didn't live in a time with GI soldiers and Americanos coming through.

01:17:09.320 Like,

01:17:09.760 you know,

01:17:11.140 I was born in the wrong era.

01:17:12.840 You get so.

01:17:14.240 No,

01:17:14.540 that's the other thing.

01:17:15.740 Like that would be the most common thing I'd hear from women from more traditional

01:17:20.080 countries is that their moms told them to go be whores essentially.

01:17:25.820 I mean,

01:17:26.000 they didn't use those words,

01:17:27.400 but then like,

01:17:28.280 yeah,

01:17:28.480 you might as well,

01:17:32.260 you know,

01:17:32.580 subtle.

01:17:33.320 And I'm like,

01:17:34.080 that's why like when the,

01:17:35.600 like when the guys think they're in control,

01:17:37.840 like,

01:17:38.640 Oh my gosh,

01:17:38.960 I was talking to this,

01:17:40.160 this Christian guy the other day.

01:17:42.100 And he's like,

01:17:42.580 if you just lead them to God,

01:17:43.920 like your daughter won't end up on only fans.

01:17:45.960 And I'm like,

01:17:46.620 I'm sorry.

01:17:48.180 You have two daughters,

01:17:49.100 but you have no control.

01:17:51.260 None.

01:17:51.840 If that woman gets in the wrong friend group at school,

01:17:54.540 gets in the wrong content,

01:17:55.940 or even the mother,

01:17:57.880 your trad mom gets in her ear the wrong way.

01:18:00.740 Done.

01:18:01.340 Cooked.

01:18:01.900 You can't stop it.

01:18:03.200 Your mom.

01:18:04.240 Yeah.

01:18:04.780 Yeah.

01:18:05.020 But you got to worry about your wife telling her these things.

01:18:08.500 Like forget everybody else.

01:18:10.460 Cause she's going to be an accomplished,

01:18:12.120 right?

01:18:12.780 She's going to be the one who's like,

01:18:14.720 your dad's the tough one.

01:18:16.080 You know,

01:18:16.460 girl,

01:18:16.960 I got you.

01:18:17.860 Like,

01:18:18.280 it's going to be that type of stuff going on in the background.

01:18:21.040 And here you are Bible thumping,

01:18:22.880 hitting the gym,

01:18:23.920 thinking that that's going to stop it.

01:18:25.460 And it's not.

01:18:26.720 So it's hard,

01:18:28.560 man.

01:18:28.820 I tell most guys,

01:18:29.640 I talk to the humanized women,

01:18:31.120 but they just don't want to do it.

01:18:33.100 They want to,

01:18:33.840 you know,

01:18:34.060 see them as sweet spice,

01:18:35.260 everything nice.

01:18:36.000 And I say,

01:18:36.420 they're just humans.

01:18:36.980 Just like you,

01:18:37.740 man.

01:18:38.360 I think that the final stage of red pill is when guys realize they have no

01:18:41.920 control.

01:18:43.120 And they're like,

01:18:43.960 yeah,

01:18:44.380 that,

01:18:44.560 that,

01:18:44.920 that,

01:18:44.960 that is the final stage.

01:18:46.520 Shout out to my homie,

01:18:47.660 CGA.

01:18:48.560 Is that what he says?

01:18:50.560 Yeah.

01:18:51.080 I love CGA.

01:18:51.860 I love CGA.

01:18:51.900 Because he just like shows you like there's life after this guys.

01:18:56.120 But I talk to guys and guys talk to me and it's like doomsday,

01:18:59.460 Pearl.

01:19:00.160 If they don't get what they thought it was supposed to be,

01:19:02.720 they're like,

01:19:03.020 what's the point of life?

01:19:05.020 I'm like,

01:19:05.460 man,

01:19:05.620 there's dirt bikes,

01:19:06.640 four wheelers,

01:19:07.900 gun ranges.

01:19:09.040 Like,

01:19:09.160 what do you mean?

01:19:09.900 What's the purpose of life?

01:19:11.580 But they don't want to continue.

01:19:14.200 And there's women turning 22 every day.

01:19:16.720 Like,

01:19:17.160 you know what I mean?

01:19:19.180 Talk about it.

01:19:20.160 Right.

01:19:20.460 And they're like,

01:19:21.320 no,

01:19:21.780 not me.

01:19:22.500 Never.

01:19:23.120 Like,

01:19:23.640 come on.

01:19:24.300 Stop the lies.

01:19:25.560 You know,

01:19:25.920 you got it out on the street.

01:19:27.220 Let's be honest.

01:19:28.180 I know.

01:19:28.780 So,

01:19:28.960 yeah,

01:19:29.360 you're on point.

01:19:30.560 Pearl,

01:19:30.820 you always do great work.

01:19:32.240 Did you actually win the game too?

01:19:33.920 The last time we talked after that,

01:19:36.140 the volleyball game?

01:19:36.980 Oh,

01:19:38.800 um,

01:19:40.580 I don't know.

01:19:41.080 I play every week.

01:19:41.980 The last game I played,

01:19:43.060 we lost.

01:19:43.480 Okay.

01:19:43.960 So,

01:19:44.180 but I,

01:19:45.440 I think that that week I probably won.

01:19:47.560 I've been on a losing streak lately.

01:19:50.600 Oh,

01:19:51.140 no,

01:19:51.420 at least you're winning on YouTube and go sign up for the audacity.

01:19:54.720 Just make sure Pearl keeps winning.

01:19:57.120 Okay.

01:19:57.840 Thank you,

01:19:58.560 Sean.

01:19:59.920 See you.

01:20:00.420 Salute.

01:20:00.980 See the chat.

01:20:01.760 Peace.

01:20:02.120 Peace.

01:20:02.460 Okay.

01:20:04.660 The,

01:20:05.760 no one got control over nothing.

01:20:07.800 Look,

01:20:09.220 and neither do the women to some extent,

01:20:11.700 right?

01:20:11.940 Like,

01:20:12.680 I mean,

01:20:13.740 how many women?

01:20:17.900 Some,

01:20:18.680 okay.

01:20:19.300 Women have way more control than men.

01:20:20.900 So I'm not going to,

01:20:21.460 I'm not going to make it into a false equivalency.

01:20:23.400 It's not the same,

01:20:24.000 but

01:20:24.260 there are women that were good wives to a man who changed his mind and said,

01:20:31.520 you know what?

01:20:31.880 I wasted your youth.

01:20:33.640 Don't really want to be married.

01:20:35.500 I mean,

01:20:35.700 usually it's their own fault.

01:20:36.620 They stuck around long enough,

01:20:37.700 but you know,

01:20:39.860 like sometimes you can't control everything.

01:20:43.700 We got next on the line.

01:20:45.480 We got slim Jim.

01:20:46.640 Are you cool to be on camera?

01:20:48.040 Slim Jim.

01:20:50.380 I'd prefer not,

01:20:51.440 but if you'd like,

01:20:52.100 I'm okay with that.

01:20:53.380 That's okay.

01:20:53.900 We can,

01:20:54.180 we can keep you off.

01:20:55.320 That's no problem.

01:20:56.660 I appreciate that.

01:20:57.880 Thank you.

01:20:58.620 So what do you think of the topic?

01:21:00.840 Should men remarry?

01:21:04.140 Well,

01:21:04.660 I would say to each their own.

01:21:06.260 Me personally,

01:21:06.860 I've been married twice,

01:21:08.660 divorced twice.

01:21:10.120 Uh,

01:21:10.420 the first one was quite difficult.

01:21:12.560 The second one was much less difficult.

01:21:15.080 Um,

01:21:16.820 so interesting.

01:21:20.140 Uh,

01:21:20.500 I,

01:21:20.820 I,

01:21:21.640 I don't necessarily want to say for or against what,

01:21:23.940 what,

01:21:25.300 uh,

01:21:25.520 women and men should do.

01:21:26.560 I think ultimately you should find who you can have a good,

01:21:30.660 say,

01:21:30.880 uh,

01:21:32.700 peace is a major part of life.

01:21:35.220 You know,

01:21:35.740 you should be able to have peace and happiness and forgiveness.

01:21:37.860 When,

01:21:38.420 when there is,

01:21:39.080 uh,

01:21:40.140 um,

01:21:40.700 transgressions in any relationship,

01:21:42.600 you should learn how to forgive.

01:21:43.980 Uh,

01:21:44.260 small transgressions,

01:21:45.340 obviously easier to forgive.

01:21:47.180 Larger transgressions,

01:21:48.720 much more difficult.

01:21:49.840 But as you go on in life,

01:21:51.240 you realize that,

01:21:52.120 I mean,

01:21:52.920 those are things you're going to have regardless things that can't be taken

01:21:55.660 from you in divorce.

01:21:57.220 You know,

01:21:57.460 men can lose most everything.

01:22:00.140 Um,

01:22:00.580 and I've been in positions where I've essentially lost nearly everything.

01:22:04.220 Uh,

01:22:04.540 I'm,

01:22:05.000 uh,

01:22:06.220 uh,

01:22:06.600 retired active duty military with more than two decades,

01:22:09.700 military service,

01:22:11.020 honorable discharge,

01:22:11.840 and,

01:22:13.000 uh,

01:22:14.400 retired under honorable conditions as well.

01:22:17.620 And,

01:22:18.060 uh,

01:22:18.940 you know,

01:22:19.420 I mean,

01:22:19.940 it doesn't really matter how long you're here on this planet.

01:22:22.720 Uh,

01:22:23.080 you know,

01:22:23.260 I'm 47.

01:22:23.940 If I live seven more decades,

01:22:25.240 that's 117,

01:22:26.460 pretty small amount of time.

01:22:28.260 When you figure sandwich between two,

01:22:29.720 two eternities,

01:22:30.320 the eternity exists before you get here and the eternity after you're

01:22:32.620 gone.

01:22:33.380 And so invariably everybody's got difficulties in life,

01:22:37.100 whether it's men or women,

01:22:38.520 uh,

01:22:39.920 both can have it difficult.

01:22:41.300 You know,

01:22:41.500 it's,

01:22:42.120 it's on the individual,

01:22:43.440 but,

01:22:43.940 um,

01:22:44.480 in the end,

01:22:45.760 uh,

01:22:46.580 you're not going to be taking much with you anyhow.

01:22:48.640 So it's pretty important to forgive and,

01:22:51.660 and love.

01:22:52.860 And I would say those are very important.

01:22:54.440 Uh,

01:22:54.900 being in the military for over two decades,

01:22:56.460 being involved in a lot of war and,

01:22:59.280 uh,

01:22:59.500 the whole planet could do with a lot more love and forgiveness.

01:23:01.640 I would say,

01:23:02.300 uh,

01:23:03.580 I don't really have all the answers for everything.

01:23:05.480 I am just a man,

01:23:06.360 you know,

01:23:06.680 I'm 47.

01:23:07.500 I just retired last year,

01:23:08.680 46.

01:23:09.480 So I want peace.

01:23:11.060 I want peace.

01:23:12.000 So first off,

01:23:13.080 I wanted to say thank you for your service.

01:23:15.680 Thank you.

01:23:16.220 And,

01:23:16.820 um,

01:23:17.220 second question.

01:23:18.560 What,

01:23:19.140 what made you get married the second time and why was it different?

01:23:23.760 Why was it less contentious?

01:23:27.040 So what made me get married the second time is I truly felt,

01:23:30.860 uh,

01:23:32.400 I could have,

01:23:33.060 I had a very peaceful relationship and I had,

01:23:37.380 um,

01:23:38.240 it just,

01:23:38.740 it just worked well.

01:23:40.480 And,

01:23:40.960 uh,

01:23:41.100 I didn't expect to get married.

01:23:42.800 Uh,

01:23:43.280 I wasn't going to,

01:23:44.560 and then it just kind of happened.

01:23:47.000 Um,

01:23:48.040 uh,

01:23:48.260 she was open to the idea of getting married.

01:23:50.080 And I was like,

01:23:50.660 I,

01:23:51.140 at just some point I was like,

01:23:52.420 Hey,

01:23:52.520 would you like to get married?

01:23:53.400 I was still active duty military at the time.

01:23:55.760 And,

01:23:56.260 uh,

01:23:56.420 we were married for,

01:23:57.560 I want to say about seven years and,

01:24:00.840 uh,

01:24:01.040 I didn't expect it to end.

01:24:02.500 It just ended.

01:24:03.500 And,

01:24:04.040 uh,

01:24:04.540 when a relationship is essentially over,

01:24:06.320 um,

01:24:08.000 I think it's best to know that,

01:24:09.600 Hey,

01:24:09.740 when,

01:24:10.220 when one person has called it quits,

01:24:11.840 you can't try to make it work because it won't.

01:24:14.520 If one person has decided they're done,

01:24:16.460 you just have to accept that and move on.

01:24:18.860 And so that's essentially what I did my best to do.

01:24:21.100 I hope I answered that question or your question.

01:24:23.660 I just meant,

01:24:24.240 I'm assuming,

01:24:25.020 she didn't like,

01:24:25.820 I'm assuming the first wife went for more of your assets.

01:24:28.620 The second wife didn't.

01:24:31.140 Yeah.

01:24:31.580 The first one has been,

01:24:32.680 uh,

01:24:33.040 it's been quite difficult.

01:24:34.140 As a matter of fact,

01:24:35.260 um,

01:24:36.400 it's been quite difficult.

01:24:39.600 Are you still on child support or like alimony from the first one?

01:24:44.000 So,

01:24:44.560 yeah,

01:24:45.240 actually,

01:24:45.820 um,

01:24:46.340 it's very,

01:24:47.160 um,

01:24:48.140 it's very interesting.

01:24:49.140 So yeah,

01:24:49.580 I'm on,

01:24:49.900 on child support and,

01:24:51.360 uh,

01:24:53.360 um,

01:24:53.880 just recently.

01:24:55.560 Um,

01:24:55.900 I've just,

01:24:58.660 uh,

01:24:58.900 it's just been very difficult just to maintain contact with my children.

01:25:02.560 Uh,

01:25:02.920 I love my children profoundly.

01:25:04.640 I've told them many times actually that I love them more than anybody else on the planet.

01:25:07.800 And just having a,

01:25:09.460 having daily communication with them has been very difficult.

01:25:12.780 And,

01:25:13.260 uh,

01:25:14.420 from the year from,

01:25:16.340 I want to say what,

01:25:18.000 September,

01:25:18.860 uh,

01:25:20.440 September,

01:25:21.120 2022 to August,

01:25:23.320 2023 was a very trying time for me just to be able to maintain daily contact.

01:25:28.180 Uh,

01:25:28.580 cause I was essentially informed like,

01:25:30.120 Hey,

01:25:30.660 there's going to be two or three days a week that you're not going to be able to talk to your kids.

01:25:33.940 Cause you know,

01:25:35.520 I talked to them and they're just going to be too busy just scheduling me out of their lives.

01:25:39.300 And I essentially tried to reason with it and said,

01:25:42.600 well,

01:25:42.740 I've been talking to them daily for years.

01:25:44.260 Surely there's at least one minute in a day where I can talk to our children.

01:25:48.840 And,

01:25:49.240 uh,

01:25:49.820 it was just respond,

01:25:51.060 you know,

01:25:51.340 with,

01:25:51.700 uh,

01:25:51.800 I just got another communication back via,

01:25:54.140 you know,

01:25:55.300 uh,

01:25:55.660 email saying like,

01:25:56.500 no,

01:25:56.720 that's not going to happen.

01:25:57.580 And thank you for understanding.

01:25:59.120 It was just,

01:25:59.600 just like no communication about it.

01:26:01.800 It's just like,

01:26:02.140 no deal with it.

01:26:02.860 But I pressed on hard to try and maintain my daily contact with my children.

01:26:07.680 And,

01:26:07.800 uh,

01:26:08.940 uh,

01:26:09.640 well,

01:26:10.000 long story short,

01:26:10.980 uh,

01:26:11.420 28 August,

01:26:12.160 2023.

01:26:13.600 Um,

01:26:15.360 um,

01:26:16.640 she didn't come to pick up the children,

01:26:18.100 uh,

01:26:18.960 last summer and instead used,

01:26:20.800 uh,

01:26:21.680 I would say,

01:26:22.420 uh,

01:26:24.260 tactics to make,

01:26:25.580 uh,

01:26:26.780 a state believe that,

01:26:28.240 uh,

01:26:28.480 I would have withheld the children from her.

01:26:29.980 And so while I was active duty,

01:26:31.580 I was actually arrested and incarcerated for a small period of time,

01:26:36.060 uh,

01:26:36.820 before being released and,

01:26:38.360 uh,

01:26:38.960 having to drive,

01:26:40.340 uh,

01:26:42.140 hundreds of miles,

01:26:43.200 over a thousand miles round trip every week to another state to show that,

01:26:46.580 uh,

01:26:47.400 um,

01:26:48.080 I was going to be there.

01:26:48.960 It's just,

01:26:49.520 it's laughable.

01:26:50.320 Like,

01:26:50.760 uh,

01:26:51.560 one of the statements that was given by the,

01:26:53.880 uh,

01:26:54.780 the office of district attorney,

01:26:55.900 the attorney represent the district attorney saying like,

01:26:58.520 well,

01:26:58.820 you know,

01:26:59.740 let's believe that he'll secure a weapon and seek vengeance.

01:27:02.680 And now it's going on two years that this,

01:27:05.660 uh,

01:27:06.380 court has been going on and I haven't been to trial yet.

01:27:09.720 So it's been rescheduled once I had to get a different attorney.

01:27:11.780 Cause the person was just like,

01:27:12.840 well,

01:27:13.000 if they believe that,

01:27:14.000 you know,

01:27:14.280 if they believe I was like,

01:27:15.960 well,

01:27:16.100 what am I paying you for?

01:27:17.120 If,

01:27:17.260 if it's just like,

01:27:18.160 if it just matters what the woman believes,

01:27:19.620 what's the point of being,

01:27:20.580 uh,

01:27:21.480 doing here.

01:27:21.980 So I just don't understand.

01:27:23.160 So the thing is,

01:27:24.260 I couldn't pay child support for,

01:27:25.960 I want to say what was like,

01:27:27.180 uh,

01:27:28.660 it was like,

01:27:29.240 uh,

01:27:30.460 July,

01:27:31.200 September,

01:27:31.640 October,

01:27:32.000 November,

01:27:32.380 December,

01:27:32.960 January,

01:27:34.160 February.

01:27:34.680 I think it was seven months I couldn't pay.

01:27:36.460 And so I was taking,

01:27:37.600 being taken to court at family court as well,

01:27:39.820 uh,

01:27:41.320 in this other state.

01:27:42.740 And so now I'm being taken at criminal court and family court at the same time.

01:27:46.000 And I asked the judge,

01:27:46.740 I was like,

01:27:47.060 judge and family part.

01:27:48.140 I was like,

01:27:48.360 judge,

01:27:48.580 I talked to my attorney,

01:27:50.080 you know,

01:27:50.320 how do I pay child support?

01:27:51.380 You know,

01:27:51.520 I was paying to the mother,

01:27:52.420 but she was,

01:27:53.380 she refused to mail.

01:27:54.720 So she,

01:27:55.080 I couldn't pay child support how I had been doing.

01:27:56.980 And prior to that,

01:27:58.000 I don't know what happened,

01:27:58.960 but the bank account was delinked.

01:28:00.520 So I couldn't do that.

01:28:01.280 She wouldn't link it up.

01:28:02.560 It was on her end.

01:28:03.100 There was nothing I could do.

01:28:04.140 I had to record the conversation at Wells Fargo.

01:28:07.060 Just to have it documented center,

01:28:09.580 the center of the child support via check,

01:28:11.700 the overnight mail wouldn't accept it.

01:28:14.240 So then I,

01:28:15.120 you know,

01:28:15.280 I said,

01:28:15.540 I'm sending it again.

01:28:16.660 And so I sent it again.

01:28:17.780 Of course,

01:28:18.220 I was incarcerated in August of last of 2023.

01:28:25.940 And so I asked the judge.

01:28:28.160 I'm like,

01:28:28.400 so,

01:28:29.060 you know,

01:28:29.180 I asked my attorney,

01:28:29.980 how do I pay child support?

01:28:31.120 And they're like,

01:28:31.360 well,

01:28:31.560 contact the child support service there.

01:28:34.460 So I did it for the state.

01:28:35.600 And they're like,

01:28:36.280 we can't,

01:28:37.020 we couldn't,

01:28:37.680 we can't do it for you,

01:28:38.620 sir,

01:28:38.860 because we don't have your records here.

01:28:40.840 Like,

01:28:41.060 what if I just come there and give you money?

01:28:42.220 Like,

01:28:42.620 sir,

01:28:42.900 you,

01:28:43.460 you,

01:28:43.780 we couldn't even take your money if you came and got it.

01:28:45.660 So I asked the judge,

01:28:46.480 I'm like,

01:28:46.620 well,

01:28:46.720 how do I pay my child support?

01:28:47.600 Well,

01:28:47.740 you don't have to send her the money.

01:28:48.940 We can draft up an order and address.

01:28:50.660 So I was like,

01:28:51.000 so this will take effect in March.

01:28:52.420 I'm like,

01:28:52.640 well,

01:28:53.080 since it's going to be a whole nother month,

01:28:54.380 why don't I just go ahead and pay that one too?

01:28:55.960 And then her attorney was like,

01:28:57.300 we're not going to deny that.

01:28:58.280 So I've had paid like eight months of child support or something like that

01:29:01.180 right in one go,

01:29:02.440 because I was blocked from doing it because of the no contact what I have to my

01:29:06.020 children and,

01:29:07.420 and the mother of my children.

01:29:09.180 So it's been very difficult.

01:29:11.580 How old are the kids?

01:29:13.860 Oh my goodness.

01:29:15.660 And so when this happened,

01:29:17.780 I want to say my son was 10 years old.

01:29:22.940 My daughter was 12.

01:29:24.500 And so my daughter is going to be 14.

01:29:26.600 And you know,

01:29:27.380 I haven't talked to my children close to two years and we're going on two years.

01:29:30.980 I just,

01:29:31.460 I do my best to have forgiveness and peace.

01:29:35.520 And many times when people ask if there's anything they can do,

01:29:38.740 I say,

01:29:39.560 pray for my children and the mother of my children,

01:29:41.440 because I don't believe I'm going to see them again in this life.

01:29:43.300 And I just have to accept that.

01:29:45.500 And it's been painful,

01:29:47.820 but I've,

01:29:48.180 I've done my best to endure.

01:29:50.300 I just,

01:29:50.540 I would say it's,

01:29:51.460 it's very interesting.

01:29:52.420 I don't understand what's going on here.

01:29:54.480 Cause I mean,

01:29:55.120 in the military,

01:29:56.220 there's no such thing as a plea deal.

01:29:57.600 You know,

01:29:58.320 you're bound by the uniform,

01:29:59.440 but a military justice,

01:30:00.380 if you're guilty,

01:30:01.420 they're getting you.

01:30:02.200 And if,

01:30:02.800 and if there was any,

01:30:03.720 if there was any evidence,

01:30:06.020 if the military believed that I was actually guilty,

01:30:08.220 there was no way that the military would have been okay with me getting out of an

01:30:11.300 incarceration facility.

01:30:12.220 They would have incarcerated me themselves.

01:30:13.800 And I wouldn't have had a Colonel bail me out of the incarceration facility in

01:30:18.380 the state and finish out my last eight months where I could get my

01:30:21.880 retirement.

01:30:22.300 You know,

01:30:23.220 like I said,

01:30:23.760 I was in the federal service in the military for 241 months.

01:30:29.280 There wasn't one of those months where I was ever punished for any crime.

01:30:32.280 And there's a much lower burden of proof for the military when it comes to

01:30:34.980 punishment.

01:30:36.000 So I just don't understand that it's like this,

01:30:38.580 and the state come out with,

01:30:39.500 well,

01:30:39.640 we don't want to take it that hard on you.

01:30:41.480 They want you to sign this plea deal.

01:30:42.740 I'm like,

01:30:43.000 I don't admit to crimes I've never committed under any circumstance.

01:30:45.780 You know,

01:30:45.940 I'm facing two criminal counts,

01:30:47.700 two felony counts of custody beyond visitation with intent to withhold.

01:30:51.580 So,

01:30:52.300 so they're saying like,

01:30:53.360 Oh,

01:30:53.620 you know,

01:30:53.860 take some plea guilty,

01:30:55.080 take classes and you'll be fine.

01:30:56.260 I'm like,

01:30:56.720 no,

01:30:56.960 that's never going to happen.

01:30:58.540 Cause let's just say I was stupid enough to go ahead and admit guilt to a

01:31:02.600 crime,

01:31:02.900 admit,

01:31:03.740 admit that I would have done a crime.

01:31:05.680 Had I give,

01:31:06.440 they give me an opportunity,

01:31:07.680 which of course,

01:31:08.600 you know,

01:31:09.760 they can't do that because that would have committed a crime.

01:31:12.720 So,

01:31:13.440 like I said,

01:31:13.840 it was two counts of custody on visitation with intent to withhold,

01:31:16.340 but never withhold them from the mother as can be shown just to believe that I

01:31:20.600 would withhold them from the mother.

01:31:21.640 There is enough to have me incarcerated or,

01:31:24.800 you know,

01:31:25.020 even executed in their presence.

01:31:26.300 Cause there was like a half dozen officers that came to where I was at,

01:31:29.340 you know,

01:31:29.840 to come and get me.

01:31:30.820 And I just remember saying like,

01:31:31.920 he's going for something.

01:31:32.820 And I'm like,

01:31:33.240 well,

01:31:33.520 this might be it right here.

01:31:35.260 I'm going to get shot with a shot right here in front of my children.

01:31:38.600 Because the mother is,

01:31:40.520 or,

01:31:41.320 you know,

01:31:42.080 whatever is going on.

01:31:43.360 It's,

01:31:43.800 it's all just a ruse to maintain power control and authority in which I have

01:31:47.360 not.

01:31:47.980 And so,

01:31:48.540 okay.

01:31:48.720 So if I pled guilty to these crimes that I had not,

01:31:51.760 I would not commit,

01:31:52.660 then I would just be tried by the federal government because due to my service,

01:31:57.580 my lengthy service,

01:31:58.720 I will be subject to the uniform code of military justice for the rest of my

01:32:02.040 natural life.

01:32:02.640 So then they would just reactivate me.

01:32:04.820 And then I'll go to a federal incarceration facility for the federal government for

01:32:08.740 admitting to a crime that I never committed and never would commit.

01:32:12.100 So it's just laughable.

01:32:13.340 So I'm like,

01:32:13.680 who's this benefiting?

01:32:15.060 Are the benefits in a state so powerful and amazing that they just,

01:32:18.320 they're better than anything I could ever provide as a father.

01:32:21.740 Cause it clearly at that point,

01:32:22.720 I mean,

01:32:22.980 what's going to happen next?

01:32:24.060 I suppose my retirement pay will have to be retroactively canceled because,

01:32:29.480 well,

01:32:29.720 you know,

01:32:29.980 the federal government shouldn't be in the practice of providing retirements to

01:32:33.020 known felons.

01:32:33.840 That doesn't make any sense.

01:32:35.240 I wouldn't have been able to retire,

01:32:37.220 but here it's going on two years and I'm just waiting to see what happens.

01:32:41.020 So your ex,

01:32:41.920 your ex-wife said that you were withholding the kids essentially.

01:32:47.460 Uh,

01:32:47.740 yes.

01:32:48.220 And then,

01:32:48.580 um,

01:32:49.200 right.

01:32:49.440 Well,

01:32:49.580 that the charges that were filed,

01:32:51.040 filed by the district attorney was two counts of felony,

01:32:54.420 uh,

01:32:54.980 custody beyond visitation with intent withhold.

01:32:57.080 So she never came to pick up the children as,

01:32:59.120 uh,

01:32:59.420 she's due to as per court order.

01:33:01.800 And the,

01:33:02.800 the other laughable thing I don't get is that what's been submitted for

01:33:05.540 evidence was a court order that was thrown out,

01:33:08.040 uh,

01:33:09.000 in 2016 from where,

01:33:10.600 uh,

01:33:11.120 I was taken to court without,

01:33:12.360 uh,

01:33:13.260 my knowledge.

01:33:14.500 And,

01:33:14.960 uh,

01:33:15.500 it was in 2014 and it was thrown out in 2016.

01:33:18.240 Well,

01:33:18.500 that's what was submitted to the district attorney.

01:33:20.320 I'm like,

01:33:20.560 how is the district attorney not found,

01:33:23.440 not done any research to find out that this is a fraudulent document.

01:33:27.040 I just don't understand it.

01:33:28.380 One,

01:33:29.020 two,

01:33:30.420 I just don't understand.

01:33:31.580 How is this in the best instance of children either?

01:33:35.300 So like,

01:33:36.100 I'm not afraid,

01:33:36.580 I'm not afraid of going for it.

01:33:37.820 Do you know,

01:33:38.180 Terrence pops channel?

01:33:41.540 Terrence pops.

01:33:42.500 Yeah.

01:33:43.140 He might be someone worth reaching out to.

01:33:45.440 He might be able to help you.

01:33:48.080 Um,

01:33:48.800 he knows a lot about the military court stuff.

01:33:51.620 So I don't know if you've seen his stuff,

01:33:53.600 but he has,

01:33:54.460 I don't know what you've done already at your,

01:33:57.820 at your stage.

01:33:58.580 Some guys have done everything,

01:33:59.640 but if there's someone that knows a solution,

01:34:02.320 I recommend Googling Terrence pop.

01:34:07.040 Okay.

01:34:07.620 Well,

01:34:07.860 at this point it's,

01:34:08.740 it's for,

01:34:09.740 it's,

01:34:09.960 it's not a military stuff.

01:34:11.940 It's just,

01:34:12.420 it's surveying courts,

01:34:13.700 but it just,

01:34:14.180 it's just,

01:34:15.120 uh,

01:34:16.360 it's a laughable situation is what I think about my mind.

01:34:19.180 It's like,

01:34:19.380 I just don't understand.

01:34:20.440 Cause this,

01:34:20.860 how is this benefiting?

01:34:22.660 Yeah.

01:34:23.280 The children,

01:34:24.500 uh,

01:34:25.320 you know,

01:34:25.600 so it's like,

01:34:26.060 okay,

01:34:26.280 so,

01:34:26.820 so you,

01:34:28.400 at this point,

01:34:29.000 you,

01:34:29.400 you know,

01:34:30.100 I wouldn't,

01:34:30.520 I'm not going to take a plea deal because again,

01:34:32.200 I don't admit to crimes that I had never would ever commit.

01:34:34.780 So that's not going to happen.

01:34:36.140 So,

01:34:36.440 and there's like,

01:34:36.940 we'll just take these classes.

01:34:37.860 And since I won't do that.

01:34:39.000 So then what now I'm just,

01:34:40.100 uh,

01:34:40.280 now I'm an uneducatable beast as well.

01:34:43.020 It's just like an uneducatable beast,

01:34:45.400 a liar that can't be trusted in a net loss grant in society,

01:34:47.940 but also somehow miraculously,

01:34:50.560 I was a federal officer with a career spanning more than two decades,

01:34:53.760 which makes sense.

01:34:54.760 If you don't think about it,

01:34:56.080 I just don't understand your second marriage,

01:34:59.540 but she didn't like,

01:35:00.980 did you have kids in your second marriage or no,

01:35:03.500 no,

01:35:04.040 no kids in the second marriage.

01:35:05.220 Like I said,

01:35:05.660 that one ended much more peacefully.

01:35:06.920 And she didn't go for any of your assets or anything.

01:35:10.300 It was just like done.

01:35:11.660 No,

01:35:12.000 it was,

01:35:12.440 it was,

01:35:12.940 uh,

01:35:14.160 I would say quite,

01:35:15.340 quite amicable,

01:35:16.780 quite peaceful by metric.

01:35:19.280 I mean,

01:35:19.600 if it,

01:35:20.020 uh,

01:35:20.560 if I had any inkling that it would have been anything like the first marriage,

01:35:23.880 there,

01:35:24.160 it would have been a hands down.

01:35:25.260 No,

01:35:25.640 like I just,

01:35:26.600 uh,

01:35:27.360 and at this point in my life,

01:35:28.580 it's just,

01:35:29.040 I just rather have peace,

01:35:30.380 you know,

01:35:30.700 it's just not in the cards.

01:35:33.020 And if it was,

01:35:33.820 it would only be for the fact that had children.

01:35:35.940 But,

01:35:36.260 uh,

01:35:36.740 the last time I even remember speaking with my children,

01:35:39.520 I know I'd even talk to my children about it before.

01:35:41.660 Like,

01:35:41.940 how would you feel if,

01:35:43.420 uh,

01:35:44.040 if I were to at least have more children,

01:35:46.960 I think I did say to remarry and have children.

01:35:49.180 I asked him,

01:35:49.440 cause I'm like,

01:35:49.820 if I'm going to have point,

01:35:50.700 I suppose it'll be after they're emancipated.

01:35:53.420 And if necessary out of the continent of the United States or not in the

01:35:56.660 United States.

01:35:57.360 And at that point,

01:35:58.920 what bearing does a court in a state that my children were taken to

01:36:02.320 without approval of a court and without my approval,

01:36:04.380 because I had shared legal custody at the time.

01:36:06.620 You know,

01:36:06.800 if I take the children to another state and move them there without

01:36:09.540 petitioning the court and without the approval of the other parent,

01:36:12.800 well,

01:36:13.320 that's Amber alert,

01:36:14.360 right?

01:36:14.620 I mean,

01:36:14.860 I'm getting the cops on me and I'm done.

01:36:17.500 Uh,

01:36:17.900 it wouldn't even be that someone would just contact the military and be

01:36:20.520 like,

01:36:20.780 Hey,

01:36:21.280 this guy just abducted these children.

01:36:23.800 But because,

01:36:24.720 uh,

01:36:27.020 I mean,

01:36:27.660 if it was me,

01:36:29.900 but it's the other way around.

01:36:31.040 And it's like,

01:36:31.460 so nothing I say or do really seems to make any effects.

01:36:34.800 It's like,

01:36:35.120 I have no power,

01:36:35.800 no,

01:36:36.040 no authority,

01:36:36.700 no control.

01:36:37.320 I just have to accept what's happening and just be okay with it.

01:36:40.700 And the way I even told myself before any of this went down,

01:36:44.080 I just had a sneaking suspicion things were going to get bad this year.

01:36:46.960 And then I might not see my children again.

01:36:49.360 Uh,

01:36:49.600 and if I do,

01:36:50.320 it's going to be a long time.

01:36:51.460 And I just kind of told myself,

01:36:52.640 well,

01:36:52.880 you know,

01:36:53.840 shoot,

01:36:54.120 Nelson Mandela was,

01:36:55.140 uh,

01:36:55.820 sentenced to life in prison.

01:36:57.020 And he did,

01:36:58.120 I think 27 years.

01:36:59.260 He could send a receipt of one letter every six months and could have one

01:37:01.680 visitor once a year for one hour.

01:37:03.660 And he made it.

01:37:04.620 He was unbroken.

01:37:05.480 I was like,

01:37:05.760 if I can have it just a little bit of that,

01:37:07.500 I think I'll be all right.

01:37:08.580 You said your oldest,

01:37:09.640 uh,

01:37:09.880 is your ex-wife noticeably crazy?

01:37:12.600 Like is she,

01:37:14.220 or is it more sneaky stuff?

01:37:16.960 Well,

01:37:17.700 she's got a master's degree in social therapy with a license to practice

01:37:20.580 independently.

01:37:21.080 I'd say she's pretty well aware of what she's doing.

01:37:23.640 No,

01:37:24.100 I just meant usually the kids kind of start to wake up around 14,

01:37:28.060 13 to the mom being nuts.

01:37:31.680 Uh,

01:37:32.120 you know,

01:37:33.580 if they ever do some,

01:37:34.940 never do,

01:37:35.480 it kind of depends how sneaky the mom is.

01:37:38.800 Yeah.

01:37:39.320 I,

01:37:39.440 I,

01:37:40.200 you know,

01:37:42.820 whatever's going on,

01:37:44.200 I believe they're well aware of what's going on.

01:37:46.700 And,

01:37:47.180 uh,

01:37:48.440 you know,

01:37:48.640 I really don't know what's going to happen.

01:37:49.960 I,

01:37:50.200 I pray that everything's going to be okay.

01:37:51.800 And I believe in the end,

01:37:52.660 everything's going to be okay.

01:37:53.620 I really do truly miss my children so much.

01:37:55.980 It's been quite difficult not talking to them,

01:37:57.820 especially,

01:37:58.240 like I said,

01:37:58.560 I have had daily contact with them for years and now it's going on two

01:38:02.060 years that I haven't contacted them.

01:38:04.180 And,

01:38:04.600 and I shouldn't expect to contact them before they're emancipated because

01:38:07.820 I'm dealing with a state that flat out believes everything,

01:38:11.580 uh,

01:38:12.920 that she says.

01:38:13.900 And even in the military,

01:38:14.880 the viewpoint of the military at the time,

01:38:17.000 victims are to be heard in their cases referred to trial.

01:38:18.960 Well,

01:38:19.240 right there,

01:38:19.980 if you identify as a victim,

01:38:21.640 right then and there,

01:38:22.980 you're expected to be heard in your case referred to trial and there's

01:38:25.460 nothing the other person can do about it.

01:38:27.100 Really?

01:38:27.960 Yeah.

01:38:28.520 I,

01:38:28.860 I really would recommend contacting Terrence pop.

01:38:33.820 He's going to,

01:38:34.660 he's going to know if there's a way around it.

01:38:37.340 He would know the answer.

01:38:38.980 Um,

01:38:39.260 but I do have to get onto the next caller,

01:38:41.160 Jim.

01:38:41.480 No,

01:38:41.640 thank you.

01:38:42.260 Terrence pot is a Terrence.

01:38:44.020 Like T-E-R-R-A-N-C-E,

01:38:47.720 um,

01:38:48.140 P-O-P-P.

01:38:49.880 It's like redonkulous is his channel.

01:38:52.560 Um,

01:38:53.760 and he teaches guys how to use the justice system,

01:38:56.620 like against the wives.

01:38:57.980 He says it's immoral,

01:38:59.080 but not illegal.

01:39:00.340 So.

01:39:01.320 Yeah.

01:39:02.360 Thank you very much for having me on.

01:39:04.780 Greatly appreciate it.

01:39:05.660 Love your channel.

01:39:06.500 Uh,

01:39:07.320 keep doing good things.

01:39:08.340 Thank you.

01:39:09.040 Google,

01:39:09.640 make sure you Google him.

01:39:11.240 I'm going to tell him you're coming.

01:39:13.280 Thank you.

01:39:13.940 I appreciate that.

01:39:14.900 Thank you so much.

01:39:15.660 Okay.

01:39:18.280 Um,

01:39:18.760 I think the next person,

01:39:21.520 I saw someone come in.

01:39:23.740 Oh,

01:39:24.260 they left.

01:39:26.840 Sorry.

01:39:27.820 Redonkulous.

01:39:30.340 I'll tell,

01:39:30.900 I'm going to text redonkulous now.

01:39:33.540 Terrence.

01:39:34.780 There was a guy on live today.

01:39:39.340 I sent your way.

01:39:44.280 I look,

01:39:49.580 I mean,

01:39:49.860 I'm not a lawyer.

01:39:51.520 I'm a commentator.

01:39:52.960 I mean,

01:39:53.100 I could tell you that,

01:39:55.800 you know,

01:39:56.140 my opinion,

01:39:57.900 but all I can do is give you,

01:40:02.180 this is what I try to do.

01:40:03.920 I try to get the best resources where I've gotten positive feedback from the people.

01:40:11.960 Um,

01:40:12.540 okay.

01:40:13.540 Let me,

01:40:17.080 there's no other callers.

01:40:18.380 I saw one for a second.

01:40:20.600 Okay,

01:40:21.040 guys.

01:40:21.500 Well,

01:40:22.340 good talk today.

01:40:24.520 It's these headphones.

01:40:26.980 Sometimes my hair gets weird.

01:40:28.520 Sorry,

01:40:28.820 guys.

01:40:30.000 Um,

01:40:31.100 guys,

01:40:31.880 please like the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel and go to the audacity network.com.

01:40:37.760 Someone eight.

01:40:38.980 Oh,

01:40:39.240 sorry.

01:40:39.480 I wanted to add in one more thing before I end of my ideas for the website.

01:40:44.820 I want to add in the most practical resources for men when it comes to improving their money,

01:40:52.000 their sex lives and their,

01:40:53.700 um,

01:40:55.580 um,

01:40:56.180 divorce resources.

01:40:58.280 So what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to

01:41:01.240 strike some sort of partnership with other content creators where I can put them all in one place for you guys.

01:41:10.080 And I can refer to you.

01:41:11.440 So when guys like that come on,

01:41:13.200 I can say,

01:41:13.980 this is,

01:41:14.540 this is where to go.

01:41:16.860 Um,

01:41:18.040 just based off of,

01:41:19.160 because,

01:41:19.400 you know,

01:41:19.500 over the years I get feedback from guys where they say that course wasn't worth the money.

01:41:23.920 That one was example,

01:41:26.980 you know,

01:41:27.280 Sterling Cooper's course.

01:41:28.480 If you're wanting to improve your sex life,

01:41:30.960 it's kind of,

01:41:32.040 it's like raunchy stuff,

01:41:33.240 but he does know what he's talking about.

01:41:35.020 I've heard from the guys,

01:41:36.500 stuff like that.

01:41:38.500 And it's something I could develop in the website,

01:41:41.000 but I don't want,

01:41:41.760 I'm not going to do it.

01:41:42.900 If you guys don't want me to do it,

01:41:44.740 you know what I mean?

01:41:46.160 It has to,

01:41:46.960 it has to come from you.

01:41:47.960 I'm not going to go through all this work to build this part of the site just to have you guys not do it.

01:41:53.700 No offense.

01:41:54.640 So anyways,

01:41:55.980 guys,

01:41:56.220 like the video on your way out,

01:41:57.600 subscribe,

01:41:58.220 and I will see you tomorrow.

01:41:59.740 Bye.

01:41:59.960 Bye.

JustPearlyThings - January 29, 2025

Why Men Are More Likely To Remarry Than Women (Call-In Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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