JustPearlyThings - June 29, 2023


Why Modern Women DECIDE To Be In A Serious RELATIONSHIP


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9 minutes

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1,700

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195

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In this episode, we talk about when is the best time to have kids, how old should you get married and when should you have a baby? We also talk about what we would like to have in the future and whether or not we should have kids at a certain age.

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00:00:00.900 When is the best,
00:00:03.320 when is the ideal time for you to have kids and get married?
00:00:08.040 That you guys would want to do that?
00:00:09.780 Hmm.
00:00:11.160 That's an interesting question.
00:00:12.420 Cause if you asked me like two weeks ago,
00:00:14.520 and I probably said an older age,
00:00:16.380 but I think maybe sometime a bit younger, like.
00:00:20.240 What's changed in the last two weeks?
00:00:22.640 Hmm. That's a good question.
00:00:24.160 I guess it was just coming to terms with the sort of future
00:00:28.120 I want to have and kind of legacy.
00:00:29.920 I want to have ideally a big family.
00:00:32.120 So, I mean, if you want that, ideally, you know,
00:00:34.240 you want to start early, obviously as a guy, you know,
00:00:36.720 you can keep us nuts till you die. 0.90
00:00:38.980 But like, you know, the earlier you start,
00:00:41.580 you still got like a good, better chance of having a bigger family,
00:00:44.180 which I think would be really nice.
00:00:45.800 Okay.
00:00:46.640 How old are you?
00:00:49.520 I'd prefer not to say if that's all right.
00:00:51.040 Oh, okay.
00:00:51.880 Did you not say your age at the beginning of the show?
00:00:53.740 You dodged it.
00:00:54.920 Did I?
00:00:55.760 I think you did.
00:00:56.760 Huh?
00:00:57.600 I cannot say your age on the show.
00:00:59.400 It's like four questions.
00:01:01.400 Okay. I'm 25.
00:01:02.400 Yeah, you said that earlier.
00:01:04.120 Did I?
00:01:04.720 Yeah, you did.
00:01:05.360 I don't remember. My bad.
00:01:06.440 I don't know. So you're 25.
00:01:07.720 So you want like the next like four or five years?
00:01:10.360 Yeah, I'd say so, yeah.
00:01:11.360 Okay, cool.
00:01:12.200 What about you?
00:01:13.360 Um, preferably when I'm like 28, 29,
00:01:18.600 but I'll just want a kid like when I'm financially stable.
00:01:21.400 So if I'm financially stable by next year,
00:01:23.480 I wouldn't mind to have a kid.
00:01:25.080 Okay.
00:01:25.520 But just when I'm good, like when I know I can give my child a good life, you know.
00:01:29.880 Do you have a boyfriend though, right?
00:01:31.600 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:32.480 But so what about, would you ever give up your job to like just stay with him?
00:01:37.200 Are you working?
00:01:41.000 Okay. So I've always said what I want to do in the future anyway.
00:01:44.000 Um, I want to be like an entertainer.
00:01:46.120 So like content creator, he asked me what I want to do in the next four years.
00:01:49.040 Like I want to have a talk show.
00:01:50.520 So I've got like really big dreams, but I've always said if I generally didn't have them dreams,
00:01:55.320 um, I generally wouldn't mind giving up my job, looking after the children, being a housewife.
00:02:00.240 So I'm good with that.
00:02:01.520 But it's cause I've got like proper big, big, big dreams that I just couldn't,
00:02:05.560 like I couldn't give it up.
00:02:06.680 Like no way.
00:02:07.400 Okay.
00:02:09.560 Myself?
00:02:10.200 Yeah.
00:02:11.440 Um, the thing is, um,
00:02:13.840 we've got biological clock as women and men have got financial clock when it comes to children. 1.00
00:02:20.880 So our biological clock, I think is until we're kind of 30 that age, maybe after 30,
00:02:28.200 I don't know exactly, but we start running out of the ability of, um, kind of having kids,
00:02:36.160 even though it's possible for a woman when she's 40 something to have a child, um, 0.97
00:02:40.360 the quality of the eggs is not as great as we know.
00:02:42.640 Um, same with men.
00:02:44.280 So I think, um, same with men as in financially, so they have financial clocks.
00:02:49.520 So once they're capable of providing for the family, obviously, um, this is when they start
00:02:53.600 thinking of, you know, settling down, um, with kids.
00:02:56.360 So I think having, um, being 24, I think I still have a fair couple of years to, you know,
00:03:04.080 to, to think about that, but then I'm thinking I wouldn't really just have children with anybody.
00:03:09.720 So it's, it's a really tough one nowadays because I really want to have somebody I know I'm not going
00:03:15.240 to leave and that I'm secure in a bubble with somebody I can trust that I can raise really good
00:03:20.600 kids with, you know?
00:03:22.080 Okay.
00:03:22.400 So what age would you like to do that?
00:03:24.360 Ideally, 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.
00:03:28.000 Yeah.
00:03:29.000 Geriatric pregnancy starts at 35.
00:03:30.640 That's yeah.
00:03:31.640 If you're single by 30, you're, you're more likely to not have a kid than have one.
00:03:35.000 Yeah, that's true.
00:03:36.000 Um, so just knowing those numbers, what age for you would be ideal?
00:03:40.000 If I had a child at 26 to 28, I think that'd be, that'd be ideal.
00:03:45.560 Yeah.
00:03:45.840 Okay.
00:03:46.280 Mm-hmm.
00:03:47.960 You got to start looking now, right?
00:03:50.640 I mean, yeah.
00:03:51.280 I mean, you know, I'm dating people.
00:03:53.160 Yeah.
00:03:53.600 Yeah.
00:03:53.800 Yeah.
00:03:54.160 Okay.
00:03:55.360 What about you?
00:03:56.640 Well, um, my answer kind of follows on from hers.
00:03:59.880 Um, so when my financial clock is at 1130, then it will be fine.
00:04:04.880 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:05.600 So right now, um, I'm more concerned about amassing money than having a child.
00:04:12.200 So, um, when I'm with a woman who I believe, who shares the same core values as myself,
00:04:19.440 that's definitely going to make it a lot easier, but I'm definitely more focused on money at the moment.
00:04:25.400 Okay.
00:04:26.440 So what age?
00:04:31.520 Well, um,
00:04:32.760 Um, to tell the truth, um,
00:04:36.320 I'd, I'd be fine having a baby tomorrow.
00:04:40.720 Okay.
00:04:41.440 If, um, if the lady and I share the same core values, do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:47.120 Okay.
00:04:48.560 I would definitely like to have more money than I do right now, even though I'm not hurting and whatnot.
00:04:53.720 Okay.
00:04:56.920 Uh, I would say, honestly, two, three years ago.
00:05:00.720 Okay.
00:05:01.380 I feel like I'm late to the party.
00:05:03.120 Uh, I just bought into the whole stupid consumerism thing.
00:05:05.880 Like, Oh, just make a bunch of money, buy a bunch of shit.
00:05:08.760 And when you do that, you realize like family's the number one thing that matters, at least to me in my life.
00:05:13.660 Uh, so I'm 37 now.
00:05:15.500 So I'm looking for a wife. 0.87
00:05:17.840 I'm like, then I'm not out to like casually date anymore.
00:05:20.900 I'm done with that shit.
00:05:23.680 I want to have a family.
00:05:25.020 I want to have a lot.
00:05:25.460 I want, ideally, I want five boys.
00:05:27.440 Wow.
00:05:27.920 Five boys.
00:05:28.480 Yeah.
00:05:28.560 I want a huge family.
00:05:29.380 I want a very, very big family.
00:05:31.140 So, I mean, everything's ready.
00:05:32.940 Just need to find the right person now.
00:05:34.180 Okay.
00:05:35.720 What about you?
00:05:36.440 Um, I've not, I can have kids and I cannot have kids.
00:05:41.740 The position that I'm in now, either way, I think I'll deal with it.
00:05:45.560 Um, so at what age would I have had kids?
00:05:49.520 I don't think I would have changed it.
00:05:50.980 I don't think I would have said, yeah, two, three years ago, five years ago, wouldn't have
00:05:54.720 it.
00:05:55.040 Do you care if you have children or not?
00:05:56.900 Like, is that important to you?
00:05:58.340 Really?
00:05:58.780 No.
00:05:59.340 Have you always been like that?
00:06:00.380 Or is that new?
00:06:01.500 Um, you see, when I was young, I thought it was something that I had to do.
00:06:05.380 It was my job to do something like that.
00:06:08.280 Um, but now it's, I don't feel so much of the pressure.
00:06:13.520 I think maybe because I don't want it.
00:06:15.560 As much as when I was younger, my views have changed.
00:06:19.540 I'm just curious, what, like, when did it change?
00:06:22.260 Was it?
00:06:22.820 Okay.
00:06:23.000 So when I wanted a, like, marriage and, uh, my family and all of that, maybe when I was
00:06:29.120 15, 16, I had those ideals.
00:06:32.480 Yeah.
00:06:32.940 So when did you stop having them?
00:06:34.460 When I stopped having those ideals, probably in my twenties, mid twenties.
00:06:39.820 Was it after like a breakup or something or?
00:06:42.240 It's, uh, multiple reasons.
00:06:45.600 Let's say it could be after a breakup, after, uh, big life changes, maybe work changes, mental
00:06:52.200 changes, all of those things.
00:06:54.540 Yeah.
00:06:54.900 I'm just wondering, like, what was it for you?
00:06:56.540 Cause it's just interesting to me.
00:06:57.920 Cause I feel like most girls start off wanting to have kids and I'll meet women like you 1.00
00:07:02.280 that, that, you know, they're like, yeah, I could, I couldn't, it doesn't really matter
00:07:05.780 to me anymore.
00:07:06.460 So I just, I always wonder like what sparks the change?
00:07:09.540 Like, is it your career was really great?
00:07:11.620 And maybe that got in front of it or, uh, a relationship you're in didn't work out.
00:07:16.300 Like what happened?
00:07:17.020 It could be, uh, one of the factors, cause there's always many factors.
00:07:20.900 One of the factors is that I want to give my child at least what I had and where I can't
00:07:29.140 do that.
00:07:29.500 I don't feel like I want to have a child and not give it what I had.
00:07:36.360 Um, so with that, I'm okay with, with having children, not with having children, adoption.
00:07:40.640 I don't, that's open as well, but it's not open for everyone that I do understand.
00:07:47.060 Me personally, I'm okay with it.
00:07:51.280 I had a question, but I forgot what it was.
00:07:53.060 I had a question for you.
00:07:54.840 Um, it was what?
00:07:59.500 Um, I don't remember, sorry.
00:08:02.120 I might come back.
00:08:03.120 I know, I was like, it was a good question too, though, that's why this is bothering me.
00:08:06.540 Um, okay, how, I'm curious on the panel, how many kids does everybody want?
00:08:12.920 Three.
00:08:14.420 Okay, actually, I want to, I want to do raise a hand.
00:08:16.800 So, one kid.
00:08:19.160 That's keep it up until it's not.
00:08:21.680 Yeah, just raise your hand when you, when you are, two kids.
00:08:25.540 Three kids.
00:08:27.020 Three.
00:08:27.780 Three kids, okay.
00:08:30.380 I'm happy with all of you.
00:08:31.780 I think I'll keep my hand up.
00:08:32.740 Okay, okay.
00:08:33.500 Uh, four kids.
00:08:34.840 Four kids.
00:08:35.600 Okay, cool.
00:08:36.920 Three.
00:08:37.780 Three.
00:08:38.140 Yeah, three to four.
00:08:39.320 Okay, uh, four, four kids.
00:08:41.920 Five kids.
00:08:43.680 Oh, you two, five.
00:08:44.620 Okay.
00:08:45.240 I'd say about six.
00:08:45.880 Six.
00:08:46.500 Okay.
00:08:47.300 Cool, cool.
00:08:48.740 So, it's interesting though, because it seems like in order to have that type of family,
00:08:54.000 everyone would have probably had to have started younger, right?
00:08:57.860 Maybe not the guys, but the girls at least.
00:09:00.240 Well, I'm 21, so.
00:09:01.820 Oh, shit, you're 21.
00:09:02.780 I'm sorry.
00:09:03.580 I'm sorry.
00:09:04.320 She's on the right path.
00:09:05.240 Yeah.
00:09:05.560 I know.
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