Why Modern Women DECIDE To Be In A Serious RELATIONSHIP
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about when is the best time to have kids, how old should you get married and when should you have a baby? We also talk about what we would like to have in the future and whether or not we should have kids at a certain age.
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when is the ideal time for you to have kids and get married?
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but I think maybe sometime a bit younger, like.
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I guess it was just coming to terms with the sort of future
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So, I mean, if you want that, ideally, you know,
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you want to start early, obviously as a guy, you know,
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you still got like a good, better chance of having a bigger family,
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Did you not say your age at the beginning of the show?
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So you want like the next like four or five years?
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but I'll just want a kid like when I'm financially stable.
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But just when I'm good, like when I know I can give my child a good life, you know.
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But so what about, would you ever give up your job to like just stay with him?
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Okay. So I've always said what I want to do in the future anyway.
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So like content creator, he asked me what I want to do in the next four years.
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So I've got like really big dreams, but I've always said if I generally didn't have them dreams,
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um, I generally wouldn't mind giving up my job, looking after the children, being a housewife.
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But it's cause I've got like proper big, big, big dreams that I just couldn't,
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we've got biological clock as women and men have got financial clock when it comes to children.
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So our biological clock, I think is until we're kind of 30 that age, maybe after 30,
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I don't know exactly, but we start running out of the ability of, um, kind of having kids,
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even though it's possible for a woman when she's 40 something to have a child, um,
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the quality of the eggs is not as great as we know.
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So I think, um, same with men as in financially, so they have financial clocks.
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So once they're capable of providing for the family, obviously, um, this is when they start
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thinking of, you know, settling down, um, with kids.
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So I think having, um, being 24, I think I still have a fair couple of years to, you know,
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to, to think about that, but then I'm thinking I wouldn't really just have children with anybody.
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So it's, it's a really tough one nowadays because I really want to have somebody I know I'm not going
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to leave and that I'm secure in a bubble with somebody I can trust that I can raise really good
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If you're single by 30, you're, you're more likely to not have a kid than have one.
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Um, so just knowing those numbers, what age for you would be ideal?
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If I had a child at 26 to 28, I think that'd be, that'd be ideal.
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Well, um, my answer kind of follows on from hers.
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Um, so when my financial clock is at 1130, then it will be fine.
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So right now, um, I'm more concerned about amassing money than having a child.
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So, um, when I'm with a woman who I believe, who shares the same core values as myself,
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that's definitely going to make it a lot easier, but I'm definitely more focused on money at the moment.
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If, um, if the lady and I share the same core values, do you know what I'm saying?
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I would definitely like to have more money than I do right now, even though I'm not hurting and whatnot.
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Uh, I would say, honestly, two, three years ago.
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Uh, I just bought into the whole stupid consumerism thing.
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Like, Oh, just make a bunch of money, buy a bunch of shit.
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And when you do that, you realize like family's the number one thing that matters, at least to me in my life.
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I'm like, then I'm not out to like casually date anymore.
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Um, I've not, I can have kids and I cannot have kids.
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The position that I'm in now, either way, I think I'll deal with it.
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I don't think I would have said, yeah, two, three years ago, five years ago, wouldn't have
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Um, you see, when I was young, I thought it was something that I had to do.
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Um, but now it's, I don't feel so much of the pressure.
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As much as when I was younger, my views have changed.
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I'm just curious, what, like, when did it change?
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So when I wanted a, like, marriage and, uh, my family and all of that, maybe when I was
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When I stopped having those ideals, probably in my twenties, mid twenties.
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Let's say it could be after a breakup, after, uh, big life changes, maybe work changes, mental
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Cause I feel like most girls start off wanting to have kids and I'll meet women like you
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that, that, you know, they're like, yeah, I could, I couldn't, it doesn't really matter
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So I just, I always wonder like what sparks the change?
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And maybe that got in front of it or, uh, a relationship you're in didn't work out.
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It could be, uh, one of the factors, cause there's always many factors.
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One of the factors is that I want to give my child at least what I had and where I can't
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I don't feel like I want to have a child and not give it what I had.
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Um, so with that, I'm okay with, with having children, not with having children, adoption.
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I don't, that's open as well, but it's not open for everyone that I do understand.
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I know, I was like, it was a good question too, though, that's why this is bothering me.
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Um, okay, how, I'm curious on the panel, how many kids does everybody want?
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Okay, actually, I want to, I want to do raise a hand.
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Yeah, just raise your hand when you, when you are, two kids.
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So, it's interesting though, because it seems like in order to have that type of family,
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everyone would have probably had to have started younger, right?