JustPearlyThings - September 28, 2025


Why Modern Women Mourn Men Like Tupac and Not Charlie Kirk ｜ Pearl Daily


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1 hour and 13 minutes

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10,146

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119

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In today's episode of Pearl Daily, we cover the importance of being proud of your father and how he has shaped you into the person you are today. We also talk about herpes and the gift that keeps on giving and how it keeps on winning.

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00:00:00.000 you taught me to shoot my first basket you made us fifth grade conference champions
00:00:11.440 i never cared about the fans i just love seeing you in the stands long talks on the ride home
00:00:21.520 i miss them when we're on the phone because not all girls get a dad like you and i'm so lucky that i
00:00:35.120 have you oh there's no way i could ever thank you for all of the things you helped me to do
00:00:46.160 i'm so happy blood's thicker than water cause damn it i'm so proud to be your daughter
00:00:58.800 i used to hate green eyes i wanted blue
00:01:04.000 but now i love them cause i look like you
00:01:09.040 they say i ain't pretty but i don't care cause when i smile i see your fair
00:01:16.160 because not all girls get a dad like you and i'm so lucky that i have you
00:01:29.440 oh there's no way i could ever thank you for all of the things you helped me to do
00:01:38.640 i'm so happy blood's thicker than water cause damn it i'm so proud to be your daughter
00:01:51.120 when i grow up i want to be like you maybe if i'm half as good as you
00:02:01.280 you're the one i've always looked up to
00:02:06.320 when i grow up i want to be like you
00:02:09.280 i never cared about the money or fame i'm just proud that i have your last name because
00:02:21.440 not all girls get a dad like you and i'm so lucky that i have you oh there's no way i could ever thank you
00:02:35.680 you for all of the things you helped me to do i'm so happy blood's thicker than water
00:02:47.120 cause damn it i'm so proud to be your daughter
00:02:54.960 all right what up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily thank you for tuning in
00:03:10.640 as you guys know i'm in my taylor swift era so you're gonna be forced you're forced yep to listen
00:03:17.360 to all of the songs i have written over the years but but out of the kindness of my heart
00:03:24.880 i'm also gonna freestyle so if you put a word in the chat on the fly
00:03:32.400 i am gonna write you a song because i am that good i really am that good
00:03:36.400 not a piano but i can't i can do the lyrics stuff
00:03:47.200 you want me to write a song about herpes really really we oh my god oh my
00:03:55.360 it's the gift that keeps on giving god's repayment for sinning
00:04:06.560 it's the gift that keeps on winning oh shoot only halfway it's the gift that keeps on giving
00:04:14.800 god's punishment for sinning oh it's gonna keep on winning i can't remember that chord i'm sorry guys
00:04:24.160 i'm gonna have to do it on the other chord pattern hold on it's this and then that's what it is
00:04:30.960 it's the gift that keeps on giving
00:04:36.400 it's the gift that keeps on giving god's punishment for sinning
00:04:44.960 unfortunately it's winning it's the gift that keeps on giving
00:04:52.160 and a couple times a month it's gonna be itchy
00:05:00.480 a couple a couple times a month you're gonna get bitchy 1.00
00:05:05.680 it's the gift that keeps on giving
00:05:09.200 it's i think that hell is winning
00:05:12.960 herpes i don't know why would you do that to me
00:05:16.720 all right give me another one that's a little bit can we
00:05:24.320 i promise you guys when when my when my piano skills match up to how fast i can think of lyrics
00:05:31.360 it's over you guys won't even know what to do with me
00:05:35.040 you won't you won't even know like you won't although it can be a bit she'll get the familiar itch 0.96
00:05:43.920 oh blue hair
00:06:02.560 what do i want to do
00:06:03.200 i gotta stop when this girl made me stop and stare she was real pretty but she had blue hair 1.00
00:06:22.800 i'm thinking girl why would you do that to yourself
00:06:31.520 you could have been fat or had bad acne you could have had all of these
00:06:37.920 i don't know that this one's not really coming
00:06:42.640 okay we'll do we'll we'll get better as we go on but i the herpes that was crazy
00:06:50.400 sing about your savior i kind of did a song on that one
00:06:54.640 oh god will you help a sinner like me
00:07:12.720 sometimes it's hard for me to believe
00:07:16.560 but i have hope i know that he bleeds 0.58
00:07:27.760 for a poor cinder like me
00:07:35.360 off the dome look at they can't thank you all right so i'm gonna go into today's episode
00:07:46.560 thank you guys for watching my taylor swift era so we're gonna cover a few things on the show
00:07:53.280 tonight before we get into the main topic thank you guys for tuning in if you can hit the like
00:07:58.160 button and go to the audacitynetwork.com that's the audacitynetwork.com we're also in the app store
00:08:05.360 um the reason being is
00:08:08.400 i can have more free speech the more signups we get on the app store so it would be helpful the more
00:08:15.520 people that sign up on your end you do get um access to all my old content and um
00:08:24.800 do you know what i'm thinking about releasing i don't know if i want to do it but i was looking at
00:08:30.640 i i have recordings of all of the meetings i had with youtube when i got demonetized and i was re-listening
00:08:38.640 to them the other day and i was getting so pissed because i was just i was on the call with these women 0.90
00:08:43.520 right and these women are just gas like i remember saying ladies ladies 1.00
00:08:52.000 if i can prove this generalization with a fact can i say it they're like no that's hate speech
00:08:58.320 i'm like yeah let me just kill myself and i oh my gosh i was getting so mad i'm thinking about it but i 0.68
00:09:05.360 i don't know i don't want to get i'm thinking about it okay so the first topic we're going to go into
00:09:14.320 is men are walking away from standing up for women women so our entire life you know men are sold this
00:09:20.960 virtue that there is virtue in standing up for women like if a woman's getting beat up on the train you
00:09:26.800 got you got you know here's you know if a woman's getting beat up on the train that you got to be 1.00
00:09:34.480 the guy to save the day if a woman's getting beat up by her boyfriend that you got to get in the middle
00:09:38.400 and save the day um and i think this is sold and it kind of takes advantage of men's innate protector
00:09:44.960 instinct you know men um just on a deep biological level they hate seeing women fail i mean why do you think
00:09:52.000 they gave us all of these rights because they hate seeing us upset and women know that women know 1.00
00:09:58.080 we have a tendency to know just how much men want to solve our problems for us they they hate seeing us
00:10:06.560 struggle um so i would say this in a way propaganda um is the wrong message to send to men and the reason
00:10:16.640 i would say that is not because it's not a heroic thing to do it's always heroic to you know stand
00:10:21.920 up for somebody that's weaker than you but in this society i would argue that in a way women are 1.00
00:10:27.680 stronger than men in terms of what power we have and the challenge is you know women said we want to 0.71
00:10:33.680 be our own person i want to vote away from you i want to make my own money and the men said fine
00:10:39.440 and now women are getting you know attacked on trains um we're getting robbed uh there's even
00:10:46.560 videos of women literally getting punched in the face for no reason
00:10:52.080 and the women are saying men help us men protect us and there's a woman named ada luis luis
00:11:00.320 let me get this
00:11:03.280 okay hold on i gotta pull it up she's basically a right-wing e-girl and she's like the spanish girl 1.00
00:11:10.000 who sells purity while dressing like a horse it's just your typical right-wing e-girl you know 1.00
00:11:15.840 the classic one and what happened was she is now tweeting that men need to protect women from all of
00:11:24.720 the migrants that women are voting to allow into europe and so what happens is women keep voting for 0.88
00:11:31.040 these policies and doing these things that make us completely unsafe you know the men will say do you
00:11:37.120 really want to go out at night and tell these bars where people are drinking and the women are like 0.99
00:11:41.680 yes we're dying to be whores and the men are like are you sure you might get the herp derp you might 0.52
00:11:48.000 you might get ghosted all this bad stuff and we say no we want to do it
00:11:53.280 and i do think on some level people do have the right to their health if you want to live in hell on
00:11:59.120 earth i i think that's your right as a person you know i had a a cousin and i'm actually going to
00:12:05.040 talk about him later this stream but i was really close with this cousin growing up and he
00:12:10.000 um he lived with us for a while but he he had an addiction problem and it was really tough um
00:12:15.680 like watching him because he he just really could not and it's eventually what he passed away of was
00:12:22.800 his addiction um to to a certain drug i'll say and but at some point you know we tried to help him
00:12:32.080 um and you you have to kind of lay up your hands and say you have the right to your own health and
00:12:38.480 what happens is most women vote liberal it's not like i understand we have the right wing e-girls but 1.00
00:12:43.680 it's always right wing e-girl until uh until we're not right until we switch up when our beauty starts to 1.00
00:12:52.560 fade out or whatever um but regardless i don't think men are required to protect us anymore
00:13:01.600 because um we keep voting to be unsafe we keep making we don't care about our safety
00:13:08.480 if women cared about our safety we wouldn't be solo traveling we wouldn't be um living alone we
00:13:15.840 wouldn't be moving to cities where there's more crime you know our actions do not scream safety
00:13:22.560 and the other part of this that i was going to talk about is um men have even invented something
00:13:31.440 for us to protect ourselves we can carry concealed carry is um i mean i understand it depends on the
00:13:36.400 state but nothing's stopping you from moving to a state where that's allowed or a place where you can do
00:13:41.200 it and protecting yourself so on some level in my opinion the answer to feminism is giving women 1.00
00:13:47.520 the freedom they asked for women asked to be equal treat them equal and and i don't really see it going
00:13:53.040 back until the majority of men have this mindset um again that's why they want to stop that that's
00:14:01.200 that's why they want to stop this kind of content it's because the more men get a hold of this 1.00
00:14:06.320 information you know men are not like women right or even liberal men they're not going to really
00:14:11.920 riot they're not going to tear down the streets um men's version of you know rioting or fighting back
00:14:20.160 is just ignoring it walking away and that's really what's happening um in this migrant situation
00:14:27.280 women have begged and pleaded for men uh to i'm gonna find this lady's name i thought i had it in 1.00
00:14:34.720 this doc they have begged for men you know to let in the immigrants and the men said fine go ahead 0.92
00:14:41.600 you have the voting power um and now the women are complaining and i just i don't think it's
00:14:49.120 i don't think it's fair um when women are living the life of celebrities oftentimes at the expense of men 1.00
00:14:55.520 um um i can't find i swore i had this in the doc but i forgot it it's all right but
00:15:09.040 my my whole oh here it is ha ha ha ha oh wait no that's her response that's her response
00:15:17.760 oh now she wants to come to america of course she does it's like 0.97
00:15:21.120 it's like women vote left in europe and then they're like oh do you know you know how ironic
00:15:27.520 it is for a woman saying she wants to leave europe to come to america while fighting against
00:15:33.200 immigration it's like women don't have any idea okay so oh here it is here it is i think i speak in
00:15:42.720 the name of all european women when i say we no longer feel safe in our streets it's time to protect
00:15:48.640 us yeah ada i mean but here's the problem men can't protect women from ourselves you know they
00:15:54.640 can't stop us from texting and driving they can't stop us from being whores they can't stop like you 1.00
00:15:59.520 know even with all the crime that's that's happening
00:16:05.120 men women are not you're not likely to be the victim of a violent crime even statistically your odds
00:16:12.000 of that happening are still more likely it won't happen that happened but women it's like we find 1.00
00:16:18.080 every way to make it more likely it'll happen we get on tinder we're alone with men i mean
00:16:24.560 you know the men when they see something crazy on the news they're like all right i'm not taking
00:16:28.400 public transport i'm gonna i'm gonna stay out i'm gonna stay in um in here rachel has a reply to this
00:16:36.000 she says um you cannot demand equality and demand the privilege of protection you have to pick one i pick
00:16:42.800 protection since equality is just an illusion which still requires men using force to uphold my notion
00:16:48.480 of women's rights yeah and okay then you go to the women and say hand over abortion and the women are 1.00
00:16:55.920 like no and we're like hand over abortion you want our protect the men come in and they say you want our
00:17:03.760 protection you are no longer 100 in control of who's born can women ever give up control of anything ever 1.00
00:17:13.760 i mean guys i you know i'd like to say i think i'm more self-aware than a lot of women and even i struggle
00:17:20.000 with it it's like in our nature we're not supposed to have this much power it's not meant
00:17:24.480 this was not supposed to be given to us but we begged for it we asked we nagged men 1.00
00:17:29.680 and and do you know what i think the worst part is it's not like men i think are scared of women at
00:17:35.360 mass i mean to some extent they are i just think they want the nagging to stop they just want they 0.74
00:17:42.560 that's the power of men just give women what they want to make them go away and it creates monsters 1.00
00:17:49.280 um okay so the other thing i wanted to talk about um let's see oh i wanted to give them an update on
00:17:58.800 my thoughts on women's sports so we have apparently jupira jor jorupa valley high school girls
00:18:07.120 volleyball team is still struggling to find opponents after patriot high became the eighth
00:18:11.040 school to refuse a matchup because of the trans player 1.00
00:18:15.600 okay so um i actually think that we should have more men in women's sports i think we should actually
00:18:22.320 have more trans people not less and the reason being is not because i think it's fair i think it's
00:18:28.000 extremely unfair but again i have a personal story with this when i was in england i played volleyball
00:18:33.520 overseas sports was a huge part of my life um still to this day i'm just an athlete at heart i love
00:18:39.920 playing sports and i played volleyball basketball and there was a tournament i did where there was trans
00:18:46.000 people in the tournament and i went around and i'm like hey uh can we not
00:18:52.000 can we not do you know what i mean and the majority of women at that tournament do you know what they 1.00
00:18:59.920 said they were telling me to shut up they said stop making a scene they were in our locker rooms i saw them
00:19:11.040 and uh that's i mean these are the terrorists we're dealing with i'm not talking about the trans people 0.83
00:19:16.160 i'm talking about female athletes 1.00
00:19:20.800 that at this point you know i did make some good friends in sports and it's not i know it's not a
00:19:26.160 hundred percent because there were women that had a problem with it but hey you guys and this is kind
00:19:31.840 of what i think the solution is is you guys fought to have the trans people in the sports compete have
00:19:39.840 fun ladies and the men just gotta say good luck yep good luck you voted for this same thing with
00:19:47.600 the immigration i mean if you see some guy pick pocket it pick pocketing a woman i mean odds are
00:19:53.840 he'll hit on her later and she'll be in love it's like and then you'll be the bad guy for calling it out
00:19:59.280 do you know what i mean it's like those guys that get in between a girl getting beat up by her boyfriend
00:20:04.640 and he's thinking oh i'm gonna step in and save her and then he gets killed and the woman goes and
00:20:11.600 sleeps with her boyfriend again it's like what was that for and i think that's really the equivalent
00:20:16.720 of what's going on in society today i just um okay my last uh point is
00:20:25.920 all right so there is this couple um i can't even believe i'm covering this but i think it's an
00:20:31.200 important lesson for the women um the women watching to understand so there was a couple
00:20:38.480 um that was dating and it was sam frank i'm a neon and this this was a streamer and this of model and
00:20:46.080 now in today's society the of model is probably like an eight um she was really young at the time when 0.98
00:20:53.120 they started dating plus america's fat in normal society she's probably an eight she's making a ton of 1.00
00:20:58.320 money off of only fans she meets this streamer neon they start dating right and neon's like this
00:21:04.400 awkward dorky streamer okay and in all intents and purposes i think the perception of the relationship
00:21:11.760 is that she could do better in a way it's kind of rich the society we're in we're only fans where
00:21:17.280 hookers can essentially do better than it doesn't make sense but i i think maybe that was kind of the 1.00
00:21:24.800 public perception because she was much better looking and as a woman i just want you to know
00:21:30.080 if you date a man and he could date you that means he could date somebody hotter than you
00:21:36.720 if he has the skills to get you he will get somebody younger and hotter it's not if it's when
00:21:43.280 and this is something as a woman you have to make peace with because you will go crazy if you don't
00:21:48.880 you will i mean this is it's not if he'll do better it is when he will do better because we just age
00:21:56.240 every day we get less valuable and we get uglier and that's life um where the men um they just get
00:22:02.800 better looking as long as they don't have some like crash out so now you know he's single again
00:22:10.320 and look at this is the woman is the screen showing yeah okay so now he's having this cougar coming up
00:22:20.960 you could see he's getting female attention now like this young woman is coming up to him
00:22:26.880 and clout is definitely a drug so that while this is a unique situation right um
00:22:33.360 um because of the clout this does happen in normal life and you can kind of see it play out now you
00:22:40.160 got these pretty girls giving him more attention and now his ex gets to watch it on stream he also has 0.97
00:22:48.720 a new girlfriend and now this is his ex-girlfriend sam frank but yeah guys she's trying to now make 0.99
00:22:58.240 him jealous because she gets to go to all these events which is crazy by the way it's crazy that
00:23:08.320 it's crazy that a hooker is getting invited to ufc events to stream like that's crazy 1.00
00:23:16.560 so um next week we are going to be um going to vegas
00:23:24.080 okay let me find the one of her crashing out but she goes on stream and she crashes out because 0.99
00:23:31.280 um i mean she looks like this and he basically got a carbon copy clone of her with a slightly better
00:23:38.400 body and um who is younger she was 18 and she was crashing out on stream and like all upset even
00:23:49.280 though she dumped him that's really what we do uh we never appreciate uh the guy until let's see
00:23:56.640 until we they can do better all right sam frank
00:24:01.760 neon new girlfriend let's pull this up 1.00
00:24:07.040 for the two women that are watching my show yes this is his new girl
00:24:13.200 hold on no you didn't try this yet though hold on wait
00:24:14.960 so this one and then you eat the leaf too the leaves
00:24:25.200 she dumped him by the way 1.00
00:24:30.640 yeah so this this girl was more wholesome i mean she's still got her boobs out obviously but 1.00
00:24:37.440 she's a more wholesome demeanor uh sam probably has a slightly better face card but i put her body as 1.00
00:24:43.600 better and this is just life ladies i mean i remember you know i don't think i have a single
00:24:53.760 axe that didn't do better after me it's just part of life like this is they will because if they can
00:25:00.960 date you you you have officially set the standard for them so if you're the hottest girl he's ever been
00:25:07.840 with then the girls that are on your level will now deem him as part of the club
00:25:14.960 so now he can he can actually select from the women at your level it's life and now she's finding
00:25:22.240 out this sad part of life it will you know as a woman you probably will have a crash out um especially 1.00
00:25:28.560 when you're young this is not a fun experience most women will go through this 0.98
00:25:33.920 yeah it's not when your ex will do better if your ex will do better it's when the only exception is
00:25:42.000 some women make their um ex's lives such hell that they don't do better because they're just you know 1.00
00:25:49.280 but yeah in general in general oh i do okay okay let me let me go on
00:25:57.920 thanks for tuning in we'll get to the topic we will we will give me a second all right so
00:26:10.560 the attorney oh andrew we got law of self-defense in college i dated a girl for three months was asked
00:26:17.520 to introduce her at a party and realized i had hadn't actually bothered to memorize her name
00:26:23.440 for all of human history women have not been generally allowed to make oh wait sorry i can't
00:26:32.320 read for all of human history women have not generally been allowed to make societally important 0.99
00:26:38.960 decisions except for the shit show of the last hundred years isn't it crazy how for all of history 0.67
00:26:44.720 this has not happened but it just so happens that we were born in this lifetime isn't that kind of
00:26:51.440 great like you could have born born in any other era we never would have seen any of this
00:26:58.240 but because we were born today we probably will only see this isn't that kind of crazy to think
00:27:05.920 about uh what is the best way to send you a show topics uh request um i would say twitter
00:27:13.600 actually pearly things with the z um okay so thank you guys let me actually put the chat on the right
00:27:24.800 let me refresh this
00:27:31.040 i appreciate you guys
00:27:37.360 oh roulette wheel thank you thank you for watching
00:27:43.440 okay so today um
00:27:47.200 i guess i'm gonna do the uncomfortable topic again because nobody else is doing it
00:27:52.240 of criticizing a widow i mean god i mean somebody's got to do it i guess it's gonna be me
00:28:00.880 yeah okay so there is a sentiment that people um want to talk about this topic but they are afraid to
00:28:09.520 on the right um so i have decided for all intents and purposes i will be the messenger
00:28:14.960 um and we're gonna talk about charlie kirk's widow erica kirk um
00:28:23.520 her response to charlie kirk getting assassinated
00:28:28.240 now i think there's a general sentiment that her reaction and her way of going about things has been
00:28:34.880 i'm gonna pull it up on this this thing has been quite odd to say the least it's been very strange
00:28:43.200 um let me pull up um let me pull up and this recently got worse so we covered
00:28:50.160 last week so charlie kirk gets assassinated and after he gets assassinated um erica kirk is named
00:28:57.200 the ceo of turning point she's doing public appearances the day after 0.89
00:29:03.040 um she does a memorial where she really barely talks about
00:29:07.280 him as a person she starts actually i have a list here okay so
00:29:18.160 let me go let me let me let me start over because i butchered that a little bit okay there is a
00:29:24.080 sentiment that people want to talk about but are afraid to on the right i have decided for all intents
00:29:29.600 and purposes i will be the messenger now today we're talking about what is an appropriate way to
00:29:35.520 mourn now the right seems to be having a conversation on twitter that i really would
00:29:40.880 like to bring to the center stage i think a lot of people are feeling this um is there a tactful way
00:29:46.880 to grieve now i want you guys i want to clarify when i'm talking about this i am not saying that she's not
00:29:53.600 sad um this does not mean she's not upset privately no one can really know the level of sadness that
00:30:02.240 she's going through but there's just something odd i've just been seeing with her behavior and i just
00:30:09.360 have to i it's i'm the woman that just has to say it do you know what i so um and i would just say the
00:30:19.200 way she's going about this it just does not appear to be tactful it kind of see you know and kind of the
00:30:26.720 way people have been milking charlie kirk's death has been oh i am so sad give me money you can't
00:30:33.920 criticize the way i grieve like it's kind of been that sign up for my oh i'm so sad sign up for my
00:30:42.480 email list please donate you cannot criticize the way i grieve
00:30:46.480 now i wanted to look into a couple famous widows and compare and contrast their reactions and the 1.00
00:30:57.280 way they went about things versus erica's reactions and my observations about it so
00:31:05.280 erica just does not appear sad when she's going on these podcasts when she's
00:31:10.800 talking in front of everybody her behavior is not that of a sad person now i'm not saying that she's
00:31:19.520 not sad privately i understand there is this idea that everybody grieves differently
00:31:25.920 and all i can on this show all i could speak from is my experience i understand other people have
00:31:31.760 experiences different experiences but i just find that when it comes to grief
00:31:39.760 grief usually it's pretty visceral reaction that people can't really control especially women 1.00
00:31:47.440 men have more of a tendency to put on like a hard face you know for the public and private but
00:31:55.200 women have a much more difficult time controlling their emotions it just in my experience and i just did 1.00
00:32:03.280 not see that visceral reaction from her um she had no tears um she actually wiped tears that were not
00:32:09.520 there every time i see her she's in super heavy makeup um she's doing a lot of public appearance 1.00
00:32:15.360 appearances she took over her husband's position her and the company are making money off of it and
00:32:22.080 sending email alerts from the widow asking people to donate um like literal emails asking for money
00:32:32.000 and it just seems like they're really milking this and it just kind of puts a poor taste in my mouth
00:32:37.920 she's immediately in the public eye um and she just did a podcast and smiled the entire time
00:32:44.800 when she did the eulogy it had little to do with him it had more to do about the stuff he did for her
00:32:50.480 how good of a wife she was how good of a marriage they had how charlie's success came from her being
00:32:56.560 a wife and she even lectured men on how to be better men and she forgave the killer like two days later
00:33:05.360 now
00:33:08.480 this just does not to me seem to be the behavior of a grieving widow
00:33:13.920 if i'm being 100 honest and i think um anybody that notices this gets immediate pushback
00:33:22.240 um and i don't think the people that are noticing this have malice in their heart i know i don't have
00:33:26.880 any malice in my heart um and i would actually prefer the men around her to guide her about the way to act
00:33:38.800 appropriately in this situation maybe she just does what she wants but it just kind of seems like one
00:33:45.520 of those situations where nobody in her circle tells her no because there's just no way that
00:33:52.000 grieving in the public eye is a good idea it's just not um you're either not going to look sad enough
00:33:58.640 and make people oh just the way this is going is going to open her to scrutiny in a way i don't think
00:34:06.000 would be best for her kids and her um i don't think she had anything to do with the murder i know some
00:34:14.080 people are kind of going down that speed like down that rabbit hole but to me that seems a little
00:34:20.720 far-fetched um but again i think i think people are looking at this and thinking her behavior is a
00:34:28.480 little bit odd now i want to talk about the pushback that pretty much anybody who said this on twitter
00:34:33.920 has gotten so we got someone said a grieving widow just watched her husband get shot to death
00:34:40.240 in front of her and their two children two weeks ago and this is her on a recent podcast
00:34:46.160 now i think we just have to be honest here and say this is this is strange
00:34:52.640 now everybody's kind of arguing on twitter they say after my dad died my mom my sister and i sat on
00:34:59.600 the hospital room sharing stories of my dad he was lying there in bed and we were sitting next to him
00:35:05.120 eating reese's pop cups talking about a beef eater gin his favorite treat and laughing loudly enough
00:35:11.600 that the nurse came in and asked us to be quiet i loved him more than i can begin to explain and i
00:35:18.240 still have moments when his absence hits me like a mac truck laughter is the only thing that saves us
00:35:23.520 from soul crushing emptiness of loss you are a vile human who sold their soul for clout and clicks
00:35:30.560 now i understand the sentiment again people do grieve differently however just in my experience
00:35:39.760 i think that grief is an emotion that takes over your body and at times somebody dies and i i think
00:35:48.400 people maybe were not as sad as they originally thought they would be i think i've seen that happen
00:35:52.960 where there's a death in the family um but personally when i had that cousin that died i was very
00:35:59.600 close with him growing up and they and you know when he passed away i had a visceral reaction in my body
00:36:10.480 and it wasn't something i could just and yeah you might laugh
00:36:18.400 at times maybe about stories about him but this just isn't really the same thing you know
00:36:24.960 you know donate me money and i think it makes a lot of people feel uneasy uh but anybody who say says
00:36:37.280 it now is you know being criticized we have another one and i i think women are coming in and criticize and 1.00
00:36:47.120 defending each other because the sisterhood is just so strong um a seasoned pastor taught my husband
00:36:53.840 something early on in the ministry we were heading to the hospital with three kids in our youth group
00:36:58.320 whose fam father was almost brain dead because a tractor had rolled onto him crushing his chest he
00:37:06.080 told us to take the kids out for ice cream not to sit staring at their father on a ventilator he
00:37:11.440 said grieving means taking breaks you cannot endlessly turn tragic events in your mind you
00:37:17.840 cannot cry non-stop in fact it's harmful failing to give your mind in your body a break from the shock
00:37:24.400 does not allow you to move through the stages of grief and healing i don't need to learn this lesson
00:37:30.240 twice over the last 30 years we have met with parents children and spouses and we have had we have
00:37:36.960 been handed terrible diagnosis where children were delivered stillborn whose fathers died in a multi-car
00:37:44.320 freeway pileup whose mother was strangled by met a man renting her upstairs studio when we met them they
00:37:51.360 were we meet them where they are we mourn when they mourn we sit in heavy silence and sometimes we take them
00:37:57.600 out to go putt-putting we encourage them to okay blah laughing doesn't diminish a tragedy it helps you
00:38:04.000 process it more fully now again i don't think this is just laughing and and i think you know
00:38:15.360 the right is missing how the cameras will always make people doubt your sincerity it's kind of the
00:38:23.680 same i would say it's the same sentiment that i had with nala ray you know nala ray was an ex-only fans
00:38:32.400 woman i'm not saying these two situations are the same they're obviously very different but the
00:38:36.720 comparison will still stand um nala ray was a of model who got baptized and decided to stop doing
00:38:46.640 only fans even though she was still doing it at the time of getting baptized and for months after she still
00:38:52.400 had to count when you bring out a phone when i say i believe in jesus christ my savior
00:39:00.320 that's one thing privately or i say it to my friends whatever but then when i go i believe in
00:39:08.400 jesus christ my say do you know what i mean it just kind of wait when you have like an intimate moment
00:39:14.800 and then you're you're going like this people think it's kind of odd um i think kirk's wife needs to do
00:39:23.440 more interviews to tell women it's okay to be a housewife and a mother instead of being an only fans model
00:39:28.960 well you have to understand most women are not going to look at erica kirk um erica kirk is an 1.00
00:39:36.640 example of a woman who won uh remember she got married at 29 meaning that she spent her whole
00:39:44.800 youth in a big city part doing god knows what went to the university of arizona um
00:39:50.160 she's not what's gonna happen and i'll show you is by putting her in the spotlight more you do not
00:39:59.280 spend a decade in scottsdale in new york city and not have a little bit of dirt
00:40:08.080 it's gonna come out and it's already starting to um and that's not a good situation for her to be in 0.98
00:40:14.960 there's a lot of people that hate her husband um all right trauma and grief manifest in many ways
00:40:23.920 often we block it out after i watch a loved one take a point blank 45 to their skull people harassed
00:40:31.760 me over how calloused i was for partying in the aftermath i was trying to block out a trauma i
00:40:38.800 couldn't handle by getting drunk leave her alone she's trying to hold on however she can 1.00
00:40:43.200 and again this is the women i mean the men kind of see this and they think something's not right
00:40:49.600 and what happens is the women um we just always we always defend behavior that is just not great if 1.00
00:41:00.080 i'm being honest it's just not i would say it's it's distasteful it's kind of and i know i know what
00:41:08.960 people are gonna say they're gonna say charlie would have wanted this i i don't know if he would
00:41:15.280 have i i don't all right there are these are people that have never grieved if you do it in
00:41:22.800 isolated if you do it in isolated and silent it takes over everything the best way to survive is to
00:41:29.760 live laugh and take breaks even when it's horrible
00:41:36.160 and i don't necessarily disagree with the sentiment but again there's a difference between living
00:41:40.960 laughing and taking breaks and living laughing and taking breaks you know what i mean it's just a
00:41:46.240 different it's just a different donate to my cause live laugh take breaks
00:41:51.760 okay then we're just gonna get more women gaslighting and that's kind of the female 1.00
00:42:06.000 strategy whenever a woman does something to make women look bad women will gaslight and say that it's 1.00
00:42:11.920 not real like when when we first out found out when the internet came and women started admitting to
00:42:17.040 like gang bangs on camera and doing it on camera the response was to gaslight and say that not all
00:42:24.320 women are like that and this is kind of the same thing it's i it you know you know not all women are
00:42:32.160 whores i mean that was you know here we're going to say well grieving everyone grieves differently
00:42:38.640 and again i think there's a respectful way to grieve and a disrespectful way to grieve and i would
00:42:45.920 say this is on this is gone way past disrespectful going way past uh we got zeke here everyone grieves
00:42:57.760 and mourns in their own way no one except erica knows about her alone grieving moment so my great
00:43:04.880 granddad died our family celebrated his life we mourned but we also told stories about him looked at
00:43:10.080 pictures went down memory lane and we were happy he was with great grandma erica vowed to
00:43:15.680 continue charlie's mission that's called strength and perseverance i know that's a foreign concept
00:43:21.360 to the left seeing how you all function on hate and intolerance but on the side it's what you do
00:43:26.480 i i'm proud of erica as we are millions no hugs i don't need i don't hug pathetic people and that's
00:43:33.120 what it is they say you're a bad person if you find anything odd about this i have noticed that whenever
00:43:40.720 a woman does something distasteful we are quick to blame it blame a man that it must be her handlers 0.88
00:43:47.520 but it seems to me she is doing exactly what she wants to be doing it's the same way when women bang 1.00
00:43:53.840 somebody it's always that we got used and it was the man's fault it's the same thing when women uh women 1.00
00:44:01.760 were just tricked i mean that's the biggest one conservative simps will say women were tricked by 0.82
00:44:07.360 feminism how convenient how convenient that you were tricked into throwing it back on these hot 0.93
00:44:17.200 guys like imagine if the men cheated on the women and they said oh i got tricked by these big tits 1.00
00:44:24.960 do you know what i mean we would be like uh but for some reason for some reason
00:44:33.280 when it comes to women we just are always
00:44:38.960 we're always tricked right
00:44:45.280 i would say the way that she has been mourning has been off-putting to a lot of people there is
00:44:49.760 a lack of sincerity to it now i am going to compare the way that women mourned tupac's death
00:44:58.400 and the way that erica is mourning charlie i'm also going to compare jfk so we're going to start with
00:45:04.320 jfk jackie actually kept on her blood-stained clothes and she said she wanted the killers to see what they did 1.00
00:45:16.240 so when jfk died they went to the oval office and they swore in the new president the vice president
00:45:25.120 at the time she kept on the clothes of him bleeding on her so they saw what they did and there was no
00:45:32.160 smiles um there was just a sincerity in you could tell in her grief um and respect in her grief you know
00:45:43.440 she didn't come out and say oh i forgive him to two days later
00:45:50.160 i'd say it's much harder you know if someone took somebody really close to me
00:45:57.680 it would take me more than two days to forgive them
00:46:02.320 personally so it's just a bit odd you know this reaction is just a bit strange
00:46:08.560 one seems tasteful and one one does not one seems respectful one seems disrespectful but nobody wants
00:46:27.520 to say it if it was my brother who died to be honest i would be pissed
00:46:34.080 i really would be if it was i just kind of think because charlie kurt he kind of reminds me of my
00:46:41.840 brother a little bit and i'm very close with this brother and i if somebody like if i i think if my
00:46:50.400 brother died even if it was a cause he believed it and they're just milking his death light i just
00:46:56.560 i think it would make me sick to my stomach i really wonder how the immediate family feels about this i
00:47:02.800 i don't know um so i would have some recommendations of what i would have said to do now this is just
00:47:13.520 my opinion you can take it or leave it
00:47:16.000 um i would say i would have recommended she leaves the public eye for a minimum of one to 0.85
00:47:24.720 two weeks and up to three to six months at least and the reason being you know i was looking up how
00:47:30.320 long they they ask youtubers to stay out of the public eye after a scandal and that's a scandal right
00:47:37.680 that's not a death they they say to leave the public eye for a minimum two weeks up to six months
00:47:46.800 but the problem is women are so phone addicted now and so clout and attention addicted 1.00
00:47:52.800 we do not know how to have almost normal human interactions we don't we are so addicted to our
00:48:00.960 phones that i mean we're using death for clout at this point it's it's bad
00:48:12.560 yeah i know what they're saying christians they see it differently than you
00:48:16.000 i think a lot of christians see it like this i really do i i think there's a lot of christians
00:48:25.760 that find it disrespectful to do a funeral in a stadium
00:48:29.200 um in that it wasn't even actually the stadium to be honest i think it was more just the manner they
00:48:38.800 did it in like the fireworks going off there's just a lack of like
00:48:43.360 i'll show you guys jfk's funeral and you'll see all right now we listened to erica kirk's reaction last
00:48:54.320 show um you know what maybe we'll pull up i'm gonna pull this up erica kirk
00:49:05.120 here we go
00:49:17.920 so all right this more work than we even could ever so blessed to have
00:49:27.520 more work than we even could ever dream of i mean it's it's beautiful and turning point action
00:49:34.720 full steam ahead so powerful so blessed to have
00:49:41.840 okay so
00:49:46.240 yeah next we're gonna
00:49:50.160 now we watched if you go like two or three streams ago we reacted to erica's whole speech
00:49:56.640 speech and i again i said what i noticed was that she kind of used it barely talked about charlie
00:50:06.240 but i'll hear these women talk about tupac and i'll think how does the the rapper
00:50:14.960 criminal that died on a shootout
00:50:22.400 get more respect a more respectful
00:50:28.560 i guess more respectful dialogue around his death and remembrance than the christian conservative
00:50:35.600 family guy it's like as women we can't be mad when these guys start treating us like
00:50:40.640 shit because we reward terrible behaviors we really do a lot of people
00:50:49.040 you know talk about my relationship with pac and trying to figure that out you know and that was a
00:50:54.560 huge loss in my life absolutely that looks like a sad woman that i mean she's tearing up 0.99
00:51:01.600 absolutely yeah and this is like 20 years later i mean that's again when women marry or 1.00
00:51:12.400 i guess lose men that we perceive to be alpha it just tends to be a completely different reaction
00:51:20.560 because he was one of those people that i expected to be here and my upset is more anger
00:51:25.760 you know what i'm saying because i feel that he left me and i know that's not true and it's a very
00:51:34.560 selfish way to think about it but i really did believe that he was going to be here for the long run
00:51:42.000 right she is crazy to be fair but here we got another one 1.00
00:51:56.720 i remember you telling me a while back that you had a tupac story that you always wanted to share
00:52:01.360 and you had two interactions with him right tell me about that um
00:52:05.440 um i met i was in tupac's company twice um um
00:52:18.560 do you see the like genuine choking up these women these women weren't even with him they had no kids
00:52:26.000 with him but they're all getting choked up talking about him and i mean we we were in the same
00:52:35.280 places but not running in the same circles so i mean i'd be at the same events be at the same place
00:52:43.040 but we i mean we we took a flight together once um and it was weird because i was in first class and
00:52:51.680 he was in coach and when i when i sat down and and i saw him i i was like oh i'm gonna i'm gonna talk
00:52:58.880 to talk to pac on the way to atlanta and when he kept walking i was like who the put pocket in
00:53:05.760 in economy i could have talked to him um and i now i hear what you guys are saying this stuff's
00:53:12.400 performative okay probably to some extent but these interviews feel more genuine than the speech erica
00:53:21.120 kurt gave all i'm showing is the compare and contrast there seems to be more emotion there
00:53:31.040 fly first class all the time i wouldn't be that pretentious um but this one particular time and
00:53:36.480 i thought i had looked up got first class and tupac um so the two interactions that i had with him
00:53:45.920 he was completely different on both interactions and the extreme like the first time i met him
00:54:01.040 i didn't know what was happening to me i was so charmed
00:54:06.240 i was in trance i was in spelled i was um and if he had had a wife and we was in the right moment i'd
00:54:21.200 have been like well we grown i hope your wife feels like me and it's not a deal breaker i'm not having
00:54:29.040 saying to marry men intentionally but um she's like wishing she banged him 50 years later i want 1.00
00:54:37.840 you guys to see this because when women are very in love with men i mean this is kind of how they got
00:54:47.840 another one poetic justice some insight on what it was like you know working with tupac on poetic justice
00:54:59.360 pak was crazy and i adored him he was one way i think the way people saw him and not to say
00:55:06.960 so again the stories focus on who he was as a person not what he did but who he was
00:55:16.880 that that wasn't him but he was also had another side to him where he was fun and silly
00:55:29.040 i think he's really special or he was very special incredibly talented and he's just so much talent
00:55:35.200 and so brilliant here
00:55:40.800 do you see all of the attention in that story was on him not me him
00:55:48.720 and when you compare and contrast i mean it's just there we go
00:55:52.720 i just don't get any emotion from this
00:55:58.880 my husband charlie
00:56:02.960 he wanted to save
00:56:07.040 young men just like the one who took his life
00:56:19.040 that young man
00:56:33.040 that young man
00:56:33.840 young man on the cross our savior said
00:56:42.240 father forgive them for they not know what they do
00:56:49.600 that man
00:56:53.040 that young man
00:56:53.840 i forgive him
00:57:01.840 like if i'm being honest here i just don't
00:57:05.440 there's no tears i mean i'm looking
00:57:07.760 and the whole eulogy i didn't hear anything about charlie
00:57:18.480 i forgive him we had a great marriage who was he who did who did the cameras not see you know not
00:57:25.520 what did he do for you
00:57:44.400 i hate being an
00:57:45.360 asshole
00:57:46.880 maybe i kind of like it i do this job but
00:57:49.120 but but but you know i'm just being honest when i think this is kind of weird
00:57:56.800 so again the people that don't understand the criticism of this they don't really understand
00:58:02.400 female nature which is that women want attention we don't always love the men we marry um and 1.00
00:58:07.760 oftentimes it's very transactional and and you know
00:58:11.520 female nature envies men so her going into a male role indicates that maybe she was jealous of him on 0.84
00:58:20.400 some level
00:58:22.160 um and we really seize every opportunity to
00:58:26.880 take power and use it to get as much attention as possible
00:58:31.520 um
00:58:34.160 so what would be the best practice
00:58:36.320 um
00:58:40.400 oh wait hold on everybody is cashing in on this tragedy women are going to use it to signal virtue 1.00
00:58:45.680 do not criticize her you don't know what grieving is it's going to be their go-to's
00:58:50.480 um now the best practices i would recommend really what jackie kennedy did now we're going to watch her 0.68
00:58:57.440 her funeral this just seemed a lot more
00:59:01.760 respectful we watched jfk's assassination
00:59:06.320 what do you think my odds of getting copyrighted on this music are
00:59:13.280 low all right
00:59:16.480 at last in washington a nobler drama takes command
00:59:20.720 led by the slim dark figure of jacqueline kennedy
00:59:24.160 there now begin those measured steps by which the nation bears its fallen presidents into history
00:59:30.480 you see this is i would have i would have recommended a non-attention-seeking attire
00:59:38.080 you know i mean i don't even remember what erica was wearing because her makeup was so heavy 0.82
00:59:42.480 you know it was like caked on that's all i saw
00:59:44.640 this is not attention-seeking at all it's like a black if anything there's a veil over her face 0.99
00:59:51.040 pearl but she had she had writers writing her speech uh okay but that was still her choice to do it right 0.70
01:00:07.840 i mean at some point it can't be the writer's fault i mean she if if she chose to go with writers
01:00:16.160 it she still read it
01:00:40.560 Do you see the difference?
01:01:02.240 This is just such a different sentiment.
01:01:10.560 On Pennsylvania Avenue, the drums go by, 100 beats a minute.
01:01:29.880 Behind them, the caisson goes to the Capitol, where John Kennedy received power three years
01:01:37.040 ago.
01:01:38.040 Wait for traditional military honors to be accorded the dead president before he is taken
01:01:52.760 into the rotunda to lie in state.
01:01:59.760 I'm sorry.
01:02:06.760 I'm sorry.
01:02:08.760 I'm sorry.
01:02:10.760 Thank you.
01:02:40.760 Thank you.
01:03:10.760 So, I would just say overall, I think the audio, I don't know, it's an old video.
01:03:17.120 Yeah, I mean, what?
01:03:19.980 Oh, yeah.
01:03:22.120 Regardless, I mean, you guys get the idea.
01:03:24.740 This is a completely different sentiment here.
01:03:26.680 You know, again, that's different than like streaming the body, which is what Erica did. 1.00
01:03:51.340 It's just...
01:03:58.340 Few will forget Jacqueline Kennedy this day.
01:04:07.140 Transfigured by sorrow, she stands erect before the world's gaze and makes of her public ordeal an enduring testament of proud devotion.
01:04:15.720 Now, through all the chill hours until the rotunda doors must close tomorrow, the unnamed mourners come, for there has been a death in the family.
01:04:28.320 Yeah, just thank you for joining the membership.
01:04:37.120 So, in the aftermath, Jackie Kennedy's initial mourning was marked by stoic public composure contrasted with private devastation.
01:04:47.120 After JFK's assassination in Dallas, Jackie remained in her blood-stained pink Chanel suit, refusing to change, saying,
01:04:55.380 let them see what they have done.
01:04:57.060 She accompanied his body on Air Force One, standing beside Lyndon B. Johnson during his swearing in in a public act of duty amid personal trauma.
01:05:05.120 From November 22nd to 25th, she meticulously planned JFK's funeral, drawing an inspection from Abraham Lincoln's 1865 funeral to ensure a dignified historic farewell.
01:05:18.120 She chose the Cason Eternal Flame at the Arlington National Cemetery and other elements channeling grief into legacy building.
01:05:28.580 She walked in the funeral procession on November 25th, holding her children's hands, projecting strength despite private anguish, private grief.
01:05:45.720 In private, Jackie was shattered.
01:05:48.000 Manchester notes she suffered nightmares, replaying the assassination and struggling with suicidal thoughts,
01:05:54.420 confiding to friends like Theodore White that she felt bitter about losing JFK.
01:05:58.240 She chained, smoked, and drank heavy in those days, leaning on family for support.
01:06:03.960 Jackie's mourning evolved into a balance of public restraint and private struggle.
01:06:09.100 She had limited public appearances.
01:06:12.200 She made a few public appearances, such as honoring Secret Service agent Clint Hill in late 1963 and a Democratic National Committee event in August of 1964.
01:06:24.260 These were emotionally taxing, and she withdrew after media leaks about her Warren Commission testimony, setting emotional strain.
01:06:33.200 Her focus was protecting her children, Caroline and John Jr., from publicity.
01:06:38.900 Private struggles.
01:06:40.320 Jackie's grief was profound.
01:06:41.920 She told historian William Manchester she felt robbed of her life with JFK and struggled with faith,
01:06:48.200 questioning God, why God allowed the tragedy.
01:06:51.460 She sought solace in private conversations with priests, friends, revealing depression and guilt over not saving JFK.
01:06:58.380 She moved to Georgetown in December of 1963, seeking normalcy but was hounded by the media.
01:07:05.140 Legacy preservation.
01:07:06.880 Jackie shaped JFK's legacy by granting a 1963 interview to Theodore White,
01:07:11.840 coining the Camelot myth to romanticize his presidency.
01:07:15.500 This was a mourning act, ensuring JFK's memory endured as heroic, not tragic.
01:07:20.680 She also participated in a sealed oral history, reflecting on her life together.
01:07:27.040 Over the years, Jackie's mourning became more private with occasional public nods to JFK's memory.
01:07:33.720 She did remarry, but it was a private.
01:07:38.560 After marrying Aristotle Onassis.
01:07:42.920 Oh, this was actually, she did marry her sister's ex.
01:07:45.900 That was very spicy.
01:07:47.560 She did.
01:07:48.120 Women are women. 1.00
01:07:49.260 Do you know what I mean?
01:07:49.820 Jackie largely withdrew from public life, focusing on her children and privacy.
01:07:57.480 Her 1971 private White House visit for JFK's portrait unveiling was a rare acknowledgement of her past.
01:08:05.420 She avoided discussions of JFK, declining interviews about their White House years.
01:08:09.460 So, I mean, it says, until her death in 1994, Jackie maintained a private mourning style, focusing on her children's well-being.
01:08:22.060 Her companion noted she carried JFK's memory privately, avoiding public displays of grief.
01:08:28.840 Because, again, Jackie's point was she did not want to make it about her.
01:08:32.660 And she cared about her, and she cared about the kids.
01:08:36.540 Now, I'm not saying that maybe Erica has different intentions, but her actions are just very strange to me.
01:08:43.480 Now, we're next going to talk about why this happens.
01:08:48.040 This is not to ascribe morality to it, but explain why one widow seems sad and another seems fine.
01:08:55.140 An alpha widow is a woman who's been imprinted by a high-value man. 0.88
01:09:00.300 Think a guy with dominance, charisma, emotional unpredictability, and raw sexual pull.
01:09:06.040 The guy, the alpha in her past, that's a benchmark that lingers like a ghost in her psyche.
01:09:12.000 He's the one that got away, whether that be through a breakup, death, or just a fading memory.
01:09:17.180 Her husband, the guy she ended up with, often doesn't measure up to that peak experience.
01:09:22.720 So when he dies, her emotions are a mixed bag, not just with grief, but a weird cocktail of relief, detachment, or even indifference.
01:09:32.100 Even if the marriage was a slow bleed, losing a husband means losing stability, financial, social, or just the rhythm of daily life.
01:09:39.860 She seems to be mourning the role he played, not necessarily the man himself.
01:09:47.360 If he was the provider type, steady, reliable, but lacking that spark, she might cry for the security, the shared history, or the kids' sake.
01:09:55.800 Society got her on a leash to perform the Grieving Widow Act, and she might lean into it consciously or not.
01:10:01.900 Plus, there's guilt.
01:10:03.020 She knows she's supposed to be devastated.
01:10:05.500 So she might fake it to save face or dodge judgment.
01:10:09.440 So this is about widows in general, but I think it could potentially apply to this.
01:10:16.180 If her husband wasn't that guy, the one who lit her up like the alpha did, she's been living with a quiet resentment maybe for years.
01:10:23.000 Women's instinct to seek the best possible mate. 0.99
01:10:27.820 Her heart still tethered to the memory of a man who owned the room, who made her feel alive in a way her husband never could.
01:10:34.120 When the husband died, it's not just good riddance.
01:10:36.660 Though it can be, if the marriage was toxic, it's more like nothing.
01:10:43.000 Emotional flatline.
01:10:44.400 She's not sad because she's already checked out emotionally a long time ago, chasing the shadow of that alpha.
01:10:50.100 His death might even feel like a freedom, a chance to pursue that spark again, even if she's not consciously plotting it.
01:10:57.040 Women's hypergamous wiring makes them compare men to their highest value experience. 1.00
01:11:01.480 An alpha widow's husband was likely a compromise, maybe a great provider or a good guy, but not the guy who made her pulse race. 0.94
01:11:10.340 Over time, that gap festers.
01:11:12.480 She might have stayed for the duty, the kids, or the social optic, but her emotional investment was low.
01:11:17.840 Death just cuts the last thread.
01:11:19.360 There are women who mourn publicly, but privately feel unshackled, even if they're ashamed to admit it.
01:11:26.800 It's not cold-blooded.
01:11:27.920 It's human nature clashing with modern expectations.
01:11:31.200 An alpha widow isn't just a one-dimensional ice queen. 1.00
01:11:34.720 She might go between sadness and relief, torn by the guilt of not feeling enough.
01:11:41.000 If the alpha who shared her is dead, she might project that unresolved longing onto her husband's memory, complicating her grief.
01:11:50.080 Or if the alpha is still out there, she might fantasize about reconnecting, making her husband's death kind of a strange opportunity. 0.90
01:11:57.760 Women don't owe anybody eternal devotion, especially if the marriage was a pragmatic deal, not a passionate one. 0.99
01:12:04.660 Men need to understand this to avoid becoming the beta husband who gets outshined.
01:12:10.280 Maintain your frame, your confidence, your edge, and your ability to keep her on her toes.
01:12:13.860 If you're dealing with an alpha widow, don't try to out-alpha her past.
01:12:17.480 It's a losing game.
01:12:18.620 Instead, build your own value, physical, emotional, social, and let her see you as the new benchmark.
01:12:24.200 So, I just thought that was an interesting article that kind of talks about why the widows mourn in different ways.
01:12:35.080 But, you know, I really want to put my final two cents on everything is just, I think there are respectful ways to do things.
01:12:46.760 And the way that Turning Point has handled this has just put a really sore taste in my mouth, if I'm being honest.
01:13:00.760 And, yeah, I think that's all I got for you guys tonight.
01:13:05.080 I think that's all I got.
01:13:07.260 Oh, and the other issue is, again, because a woman, you really got to assume,
01:13:15.140 Erica's going to have some dirt that's going to start to come out. 1.00
01:13:19.900 I think she was in the center of a music video.
01:13:25.300 You know, she was on a public dating show. 0.99
01:13:29.000 And not that I necessarily think she was, you know, the CEO of Hoeing.
01:13:33.560 And there's many women, I'm sure, that did worse damage. 1.00
01:13:37.860 But the issue with her going into the spotlight is it's really going to bring out a lot of stuff.
01:13:43.540 So, let me know what you guys think in the comments.
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