JustPearlyThings - December 24, 2022


Why Most Men Don't DATE Masculine Women


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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

193.45477

Word count

1,600

Sentence count

33

Harmful content

Misogyny

13

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Hate speech

11

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In this episode, we talk about femininity and how to train ourselves to be more feminine. We also talk about the deep work that is needed to be done in order to become more feminine in a relationship. We discuss the importance of femininity training and how important it is to do so.

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00:00:00.000 But the thing is by the time you meet that guy do you not can you not have nobody trains you
00:00:04.800 Does a man train you do you train yourself? Well, it depends if you some relationships can bring out that side of you to do that
00:00:10.800 Deep work because a lot of the time when you get into a relationship the reflections and the trauma that is brought up
00:00:15.660 Where then it forces you into that space of like, you know what actually maybe I am not doing something in this relationship
00:00:21.960 That's not allowing this man to do what he's meant to be doing
00:00:25.120 And so then it forces you to look to get that mirror and be like, you know what I need to do the work on me
00:00:29.580 Sorry outside of therapy. What else?
00:00:32.460 Because I just imagine like if you're gonna change your whole temperament like there's a lot that's in it
00:00:37.060 So I mean I'm sure it take it well
00:00:39.060 No, it does take many years therapies that probably so not outside outside the therapy
00:00:45.300 I
00:00:46.500 Love stuff. I can't say I think I think I wouldn't make but do you think that this is the thing about like women that say this kind of stuff 0.97
00:00:53.540 Men here. We don't want masculine women. No, we don't want to be much 1.00
00:00:57.920 We don't but what I'm trying to say what I'm trying to say is that you said oh, we've got to train ourselves to be feminine, right?
00:01:04.400 Reprogram or reprogram yourself or rejig yourself. Whatever is get yourself download a new program
00:01:09.960 Well, it's like going to the gym, but men generally don't they ain't got time for it
00:01:14.160 Like if it's for instance if if if we take you on a date
00:01:17.500 For instance, right and we see that you're more masculine than you are feminine 0.98
00:01:22.640 We're already calculating like this is going to be a problem
00:01:25.640 It's going to be a problem and I haven't got time because I don't know you
00:01:29.540 Like that we haven't got time to be trying to program you and you're trying to train you into being more
00:01:36.560 Feminine like we want if we go on a date with you 1.00
00:01:39.620 We want a woman that we can see she's kind of feminine. I kind of like this. Do you know?
00:01:44.020 I mean and then we'll pursue it but masculine women 1.00
00:01:46.380 We don't want to train you because if we say the work because you use the word train
00:01:49.540 You asked me a question whether a man can do can help you in that
00:01:55.860 And so I I didn't say because a lot of the work the deep work that i've done i've done on my own not
00:02:00.760 front like yes relationships have presented these mirrors for me to which every relationship presents mirrors could be a
00:02:07.480 Relationship with your mum your friends can present these spaces of where you're like, okay
00:02:12.720 I've got to work on myself in this and understand sometimes you don't need to say this or you don't need to say that
00:02:18.200 Or you can take a step back and understand that. Yes, this man can lead me
00:02:21.780 So I'm not saying that it's a man's role or job to do that. That's a twist of words
00:02:27.100 Do you think you need a man to co-sign it though?
00:02:29.200 And so like if you know you did this not not just you but anyone that does like the deep work the femininity training
00:02:36.160 Like would you say that there has to be a man that co-signs it because like women lie to each other? 1.00
00:02:40.400 Well, I think that when you get into a relationship you'll then right when
00:02:43.920 If you take time out maybe after a relationship and then I think a relationship will let you know how successful
00:02:49.680 Your deep work has been because you're not going to know how successful you're going to be in a relationship
00:02:53.680 So you're in a relationship, right? So the thing is I wouldn't say a man because you could be a lesbian 0.78
00:02:58.160 This is like beyond cap
00:03:02.400 It's like the amount of cap here is or cope
00:03:05.120 Are you married?
00:03:06.240 I was engaged for a long time, but the thing is that's that the what I see here is like
00:03:12.080 The women say oh when I meet the right guy 1.00
00:03:14.560 I'll then turn it turn on the femininity whilst actually in the realities
00:03:18.560 They don't actually even turn on the femininity. They just go you just can't handle a strong woman 1.00
00:03:22.880 Yeah, and then you as a man are berated and ridiculed because you can't handle this
00:03:28.640 Incredibly masculine energy of this woman that's coming at you all day long because you don't want that 1.00
00:03:33.920 You want feminine submissive 1.00
00:03:36.080 And so beautiful women and so that's I think part of the reason why men in the west are actually going abroad
00:03:42.080 whether it be dominican republic brazil certain parts of africa
00:03:46.960 eastern europe
00:03:49.040 Thailand
00:03:50.080 Philippines that's why they're going there to kind of find wives because 1.00
00:03:54.000 What what a lot of them are saying and i've heard it a lot from men that western women are too much work 1.00
00:04:00.880 So i'm too much work. Sorry, so i'm interested to know like what do we feel is?
00:04:06.560 femininity and what are feminine traits and what uh 0.93
00:04:10.160 considered too masculine
00:04:12.720 For a female to to kind of be i think for one of the traits the femininity community is so interesting to me 1.00
00:04:18.640 I was going on a rant on twitter about this because they're just so they're so broad. They just say like a lot of nothing in different ways
00:04:26.080 Um when I when I think of femininity, I think of like nurturing. I think of like typical like motherly traits
00:04:32.000 um
00:04:32.560 However, I found that there's no real way to like measure it or show anything or show any work or really
00:04:40.320 So, I don't know. It's so broad. That's why it really confuses me as like that community
00:04:44.720 I'm interested because I think sometimes I can be seen as being in my masculine energy because
00:04:50.800 Why why would you say that for a while? I was a single mother and I was doing everything by myself and I was very much used to
00:04:57.680 Okay, this is down to me. I'm going to do this by myself. Everyone's relying on me. I can get on with it
00:05:03.360 You're not a single mother anymore. No, okay, you're married. Um, i'm not married, but i have a partner. Yeah
00:05:09.200 So I was very kind of used to doing everything on my own. That's me. I've got this kind of thing and some
00:05:15.680 Some people and some men would consider that too masculine. So i'm just interested
00:05:24.240 I looked it up. I was just I saw this chart when I was going on my rant on twitter that I tweeted
00:05:30.560 Feminine um not aggressive dependent easily influenced um submissive passive home oriented easily hurt emotionally indecisive talkative
00:05:39.120 Gentle sensitive to others feelings very desirous of security cries a lot emotional verbal kind
00:05:46.000 nurturing tactful another chart says intuitive generous, um nurturing creative collaborative caring
00:05:52.480 Receptive grateful, which I agree with those. I agree with those statements, but like
00:05:58.400 When you said that, um for me when I had my son
00:06:02.880 was when
00:06:05.040 My
00:06:06.000 level of femininity had to come out automatically because you just said that when you had your children your 0.99
00:06:12.400 masculinity came out
00:06:13.440 No, when I was a single mother because I felt like I had to be I was a single mom before that
00:06:20.400 But I had a girl so my first daughter my first child was a girl, but when I had my son
00:06:25.440 Like my son is very very affectionate very very he he just
00:06:31.520 Brought out that side of me that
00:06:33.680 Needed to nurture him in a way and also I didn't want him to
00:06:39.360 Grow up thinking that men women are in their mask and they're angry
00:06:43.040 Like I wanted him to see the calmness and the stillness and for him to be able to communicate with me openly
00:06:49.680 Because it's not taught to young men that you can communicate you could like if he's upset
00:06:54.320 I don't go in shouting at him. I don't shout. I don't raise my like I very much bring the femininity to my son all the time
00:07:01.200 I have a question. Um
00:07:03.440 All right, so you're not in a relationship
00:07:17.440 There's a guy you like yeah, okay, okay, okay, okay
00:07:22.240 And then you're in a relationship
00:07:24.720 No, you're not you're in a relationship. Would you guys?
00:07:27.920 Um, if you guys were to marry the person you're talking to or talking to in a relationship with
00:07:34.000 Would you quit your job if you told you to?
00:07:36.720 No questions asked
00:07:38.560 If if I'm married if I've married him if I if I if I've married if I've married him
00:07:44.000 It means I trust him to lead and I would trust his decision in that and I would trust that it's for the best
00:07:50.640 Interest of our family. Okay. Yeah, you would yeah, so if he said to me, oh, sorry
00:07:56.480 So if he said to me, you know, I I think you should as many of you know
00:08:00.960 I was just banned on tick-tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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