JustPearlyThings - December 24, 2022


Why Most Men Don't DATE Masculine Women


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

193.45477

Word Count

1,600

Sentence Count

33

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 But the thing is by the time you meet that guy do you not can you not have nobody trains you
00:00:04.800 Does a man train you do you train yourself? Well, it depends if you some relationships can bring out that side of you to do that
00:00:10.800 Deep work because a lot of the time when you get into a relationship the reflections and the trauma that is brought up
00:00:15.660 Where then it forces you into that space of like, you know what actually maybe I am not doing something in this relationship
00:00:21.960 That's not allowing this man to do what he's meant to be doing
00:00:25.120 And so then it forces you to look to get that mirror and be like, you know what I need to do the work on me
00:00:29.580 Sorry outside of therapy. What else?
00:00:32.460 Because I just imagine like if you're gonna change your whole temperament like there's a lot that's in it
00:00:37.060 So I mean I'm sure it take it well
00:00:39.060 No, it does take many years therapies that probably so not outside outside the therapy
00:00:45.300 I
00:00:46.500 Love stuff. I can't say I think I think I wouldn't make but do you think that this is the thing about like women that say this kind of stuff
00:00:53.540 Men here. We don't want masculine women. No, we don't want to be much
00:00:57.920 We don't but what I'm trying to say what I'm trying to say is that you said oh, we've got to train ourselves to be feminine, right?
00:01:04.400 Reprogram or reprogram yourself or rejig yourself. Whatever is get yourself download a new program
00:01:09.960 Well, it's like going to the gym, but men generally don't they ain't got time for it
00:01:14.160 Like if it's for instance if if if we take you on a date
00:01:17.500 For instance, right and we see that you're more masculine than you are feminine
00:01:22.640 We're already calculating like this is going to be a problem
00:01:25.640 It's going to be a problem and I haven't got time because I don't know you
00:01:29.540 Like that we haven't got time to be trying to program you and you're trying to train you into being more
00:01:36.560 Feminine like we want if we go on a date with you
00:01:39.620 We want a woman that we can see she's kind of feminine. I kind of like this. Do you know?
00:01:44.020 I mean and then we'll pursue it but masculine women
00:01:46.380 We don't want to train you because if we say the work because you use the word train
00:01:49.540 You asked me a question whether a man can do can help you in that
00:01:55.860 And so I I didn't say because a lot of the work the deep work that i've done i've done on my own not
00:02:00.760 front like yes relationships have presented these mirrors for me to which every relationship presents mirrors could be a
00:02:07.480 Relationship with your mum your friends can present these spaces of where you're like, okay
00:02:12.720 I've got to work on myself in this and understand sometimes you don't need to say this or you don't need to say that
00:02:18.200 Or you can take a step back and understand that. Yes, this man can lead me
00:02:21.780 So I'm not saying that it's a man's role or job to do that. That's a twist of words
00:02:27.100 Do you think you need a man to co-sign it though?
00:02:29.200 And so like if you know you did this not not just you but anyone that does like the deep work the femininity training
00:02:36.160 Like would you say that there has to be a man that co-signs it because like women lie to each other?
00:02:40.400 Well, I think that when you get into a relationship you'll then right when
00:02:43.920 If you take time out maybe after a relationship and then I think a relationship will let you know how successful
00:02:49.680 Your deep work has been because you're not going to know how successful you're going to be in a relationship
00:02:53.680 So you're in a relationship, right? So the thing is I wouldn't say a man because you could be a lesbian
00:02:58.160 This is like beyond cap
00:03:02.400 It's like the amount of cap here is or cope
00:03:05.120 Are you married?
00:03:06.240 I was engaged for a long time, but the thing is that's that the what I see here is like
00:03:12.080 The women say oh when I meet the right guy
00:03:14.560 I'll then turn it turn on the femininity whilst actually in the realities
00:03:18.560 They don't actually even turn on the femininity. They just go you just can't handle a strong woman
00:03:22.880 Yeah, and then you as a man are berated and ridiculed because you can't handle this
00:03:28.640 Incredibly masculine energy of this woman that's coming at you all day long because you don't want that
00:03:33.920 You want feminine submissive
00:03:36.080 And so beautiful women and so that's I think part of the reason why men in the west are actually going abroad
00:03:42.080 whether it be dominican republic brazil certain parts of africa
00:03:46.960 eastern europe
00:03:49.040 Thailand
00:03:50.080 Philippines that's why they're going there to kind of find wives because
00:03:54.000 What what a lot of them are saying and i've heard it a lot from men that western women are too much work
00:04:00.880 So i'm too much work. Sorry, so i'm interested to know like what do we feel is?
00:04:06.560 femininity and what are feminine traits and what uh
00:04:10.160 considered too masculine
00:04:12.720 For a female to to kind of be i think for one of the traits the femininity community is so interesting to me
00:04:18.640 I was going on a rant on twitter about this because they're just so they're so broad. They just say like a lot of nothing in different ways
00:04:26.080 Um when I when I think of femininity, I think of like nurturing. I think of like typical like motherly traits
00:04:32.000 um
00:04:32.560 However, I found that there's no real way to like measure it or show anything or show any work or really
00:04:40.320 So, I don't know. It's so broad. That's why it really confuses me as like that community
00:04:44.720 I'm interested because I think sometimes I can be seen as being in my masculine energy because
00:04:50.800 Why why would you say that for a while? I was a single mother and I was doing everything by myself and I was very much used to
00:04:57.680 Okay, this is down to me. I'm going to do this by myself. Everyone's relying on me. I can get on with it
00:05:03.360 You're not a single mother anymore. No, okay, you're married. Um, i'm not married, but i have a partner. Yeah
00:05:09.200 So I was very kind of used to doing everything on my own. That's me. I've got this kind of thing and some
00:05:15.680 Some people and some men would consider that too masculine. So i'm just interested
00:05:24.240 I looked it up. I was just I saw this chart when I was going on my rant on twitter that I tweeted
00:05:30.560 Feminine um not aggressive dependent easily influenced um submissive passive home oriented easily hurt emotionally indecisive talkative
00:05:39.120 Gentle sensitive to others feelings very desirous of security cries a lot emotional verbal kind
00:05:46.000 nurturing tactful another chart says intuitive generous, um nurturing creative collaborative caring
00:05:52.480 Receptive grateful, which I agree with those. I agree with those statements, but like
00:05:58.400 When you said that, um for me when I had my son
00:06:02.880 was when
00:06:05.040 My
00:06:06.000 level of femininity had to come out automatically because you just said that when you had your children your
00:06:12.400 masculinity came out
00:06:13.440 No, when I was a single mother because I felt like I had to be I was a single mom before that
00:06:20.400 But I had a girl so my first daughter my first child was a girl, but when I had my son
00:06:25.440 Like my son is very very affectionate very very he he just
00:06:31.520 Brought out that side of me that
00:06:33.680 Needed to nurture him in a way and also I didn't want him to
00:06:39.360 Grow up thinking that men women are in their mask and they're angry
00:06:43.040 Like I wanted him to see the calmness and the stillness and for him to be able to communicate with me openly
00:06:49.680 Because it's not taught to young men that you can communicate you could like if he's upset
00:06:54.320 I don't go in shouting at him. I don't shout. I don't raise my like I very much bring the femininity to my son all the time
00:07:01.200 I have a question. Um
00:07:03.440 All right, so you're not in a relationship
00:07:17.440 There's a guy you like yeah, okay, okay, okay, okay
00:07:22.240 And then you're in a relationship
00:07:24.720 No, you're not you're in a relationship. Would you guys?
00:07:27.920 Um, if you guys were to marry the person you're talking to or talking to in a relationship with
00:07:34.000 Would you quit your job if you told you to?
00:07:36.720 No questions asked
00:07:38.560 If if I'm married if I've married him if I if I if I've married if I've married him
00:07:44.000 It means I trust him to lead and I would trust his decision in that and I would trust that it's for the best
00:07:50.640 Interest of our family. Okay. Yeah, you would yeah, so if he said to me, oh, sorry
00:07:56.480 So if he said to me, you know, I I think you should as many of you know
00:08:00.960 I was just banned on tick-tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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