JustPearlyThings - Why Most RELATIONSHIP Don't LAST

00:00:00.000 it to choose the people in your life yeah you do but at the same time over the age of 18 i'm pretty

00:00:06.800 sure you guys have all come across really bad people but you didn't end up being like them

00:00:09.840 you chose with them yeah but you're not them but at the same time you you like realize like okay

00:00:14.880 i don't want to be like this so you're not going to associate yourself with people that again it's

00:00:18.720 like what you said having um boundaries yeah what you accept into your life yeah 100 do you know

00:00:24.800 i mean the same way we don't have the same bodies the same way we don't have the same mindset no

00:00:28.400 100 a mindset is something that you learn like over time yeah and everyone's way of learning

00:00:32.880 is different like the same way school isn't for everyone it's the same way the way you take

00:00:36.000 education differently yeah yeah so you can't be a person when they don't change their lives but at

00:00:41.040 the same time like you can't sit there and blame everything else for the way your life's turned out

00:00:47.120 because everyone has a sob story like everyone goes through yeah but it's like it's about how you it's

00:00:53.440 about how you deal with it you know if you don't want to be in that situation then you work towards

00:00:57.600 getting yourself out of that situation you know if you sit there and you sulk and you're like oh

00:01:01.120 i'm in this situation and you don't make no change like how do you expect to grow how do you expect

00:01:07.200 yeah exactly you have to become the change and take actions towards that change like thinking and all

00:01:12.880 of that is nothing without action you gotta continue consistently execute it that's really important

00:01:20.880 i have a question for you guys do you think that people who constantly label their exes as toxic are

00:01:26.480 looking for an excuse for the failed relationship yes yes a hundred percent yes yes yes i would say

00:01:33.040 yes as well yeah because it gets to a point again like you need to look inwards if all of your

00:01:37.760 relationships were toxic and the other person was always the bad person it's a bit suspicious look

00:01:43.040 again i think i'm just thinking now actually that going back into whether i'm toxic i just realized that

00:01:48.880 i've never been the toxic one you've never you've never i've never i've been always the other person

00:01:54.800 i've been the sweet the sweet do you feel like okay wait i'm gonna hold on

00:02:02.000 were you were you were you going through your ex's likes

00:02:06.960 were you no i don't remember were you were you looking at who he followed

00:02:10.400 yes but no that's not toxic that's not toxic that's seeing if i can trust him or not guys

00:02:16.960 one in the chat one in the chat if that's toxic one in the chat that's just one person out of how

00:02:22.080 many people in the world at the end of the day you said you said you said you said never you said that

00:02:27.840 you were never toxic you're always the sweet one a lot of people my age not even my age i meet a lot

00:02:34.000 of girls that they say the same thing obviously we spoke about already covered it already about

00:02:38.160 relationship that's different you're in there for trust yeah but when you're like dating you're

00:02:42.560 getting to know a person i think you should be curious to see whether you can trust them or not

00:02:46.240 it's out of curiosity you don't do it all the time how can you trust someone by looking at their

00:02:50.080 instagram followers no no but what do you mean because you said oh you checked the followers to

00:02:55.280 see if you can trust them but how is checking the followers then you can trust nobody you're just

00:02:58.640 curious to see what type of girls he follows the sexual discipline is there or not question is how long 1.00

00:03:03.360 do you have to be curious for yeah i mean do you are you are you able to see what type of corn a guy

00:03:10.240 watches what yes you can't yes no i'm saying i'm sorry i can't say i can't say it's on youtube oh

00:03:20.240 did you tell them the trigger words yeah

00:03:25.120 no no that's that's what i mean to me to me it's just like i don't know it's instagram guys look that's

00:03:30.160 what's what they do yeah like it's general like in general like if it's a pretty girl like you're

00:03:33.840 going to appreciate the beauty you're going to like the photo like the same way it's like if you

00:03:37.040 see a pretty girl on the street you're going to look i don't know about you but like whenever i

00:03:40.160 go with a big book pass i always look what you just got to understand in the generation that we're

00:03:46.240 living in this is actually normal like prostitution is normal escort is normal see you so what would 0.93

00:03:53.040 you guys do wait wait wait it's normal prostitute do you know a lot of prostitutes 1.00

00:04:00.160 from what i've seen on social oh on social media okay yes it's a norm i was like in your school 0.97

00:04:06.960 did you know any no no no just i think it's definitely i think it's definitely blown up in

00:04:11.920 popularity not that it's been up in popularity but it's become more normalized even though it was like

00:04:16.560 it's the oldest like way of making money for a woman like in the world yeah but like yeah i think 1.00

00:04:23.760 it makes money with social media it's definitely like blown up in popularity and it's more like in

00:04:27.840 your face like yeah and the reason why it's normal is because no one has any morals no most does not

00:04:33.120 exist no more but me it does i'm talking for myself that it does i know about you guys but

00:04:38.560 most does not exist morals don't exist i think everyone's morals are different can i ask a question

00:04:46.640 you're saying for society yeah okay listen listen i want some advice here what would you guys do not

00:04:51.760 advice not for me but what would you guys do if if um he was in the dms of the girls he was liking and

00:04:59.680 following um well i think that's about why you're together i think that's a bit different i mean to be

00:05:06.320 honest if you're not together you're not together he has the absolute freedom to do whatever he wishes

00:05:10.560 until you decide that you guys are both exclusive or you're in a relationship i know a lot of guys that

00:05:14.880 will you know when you react with the love heart eyes you'll pout into the dms like that i know a

00:05:21.840 lot of guys don't when they're when they've got a goal what do we think about is that not dms i

00:05:25.840 don't think that's really appropriate yeah i don't think that's one reaction i don't think it's

00:05:29.680 appropriate but like if you just like a photo like obviously when you send that like the heart

00:05:34.000 ice to the dm it's like basically starting a conversation what if it's a really revealing photo

00:05:38.240 sheesh that's even worse no yeah that is worse see you guys are contradicting exactly what we've

00:05:45.920 you were the same before but to me my question but but my question is how do you know that

00:05:52.720 and that's what i'm saying like but you should say you should be aware wait wait wait wait wait

00:05:56.880 so i'm saying how do you know that so if if you know that information you're probably going through

00:06:01.760 his likes you're going through his following and you're going no but let's say he followed

00:06:04.560 so wait wait wait wait wait wait so my whole point is that if you know all that information

00:06:10.080 you're probably toxic because you're probably all over his i'm not i'm not saying that it's it's okay 0.57

00:06:16.320 for him to do that yeah but my whole point is like a lot of wait wait my whole point is a lot of times 0.73

00:06:23.200 girls will will talk about how toxic he is but it's like how did you find out that information you're toxic

00:06:28.160 too because you've probably had some trauma in the past or something that happened in the past that

00:06:32.240 makes you want to do it in the future so even if it's a good guy and you go into a relationship

00:06:36.880 you're not going in in good faith and you're going through all his before he's even done anything

00:06:41.200 before you're even dating no yeah it depends on the length that girl is going to you doesn't make 0.99

00:06:47.840 sense there's different levels off it if it's like a one-time thing cool if it's constantly then

00:06:53.040 you've got to lock it off but it's still it's still my question how do you know what do you mean

00:06:57.760 because you're cute like you do what i mean you you see it let's say i'm scrolling on instagram i'll

00:07:01.360 see you'll see the likes there anyway i was gonna say we like but like with the dms and stuff with

00:07:06.320 the dms you'd obviously have to log into their instagram or go on their phone i've never been in

00:07:09.760 that position that's not personal experience i've never done that you being intentionally curious to

00:07:14.240 know who he's like and who he's talking to that's already toxic in itself how is that because how

00:07:18.160 does it because how does it make you feel when you do that how is that how does it but how does it

00:07:22.720 it make you feel like because you're looking for problems if you're going through if you're

00:07:28.720 going through his likes i agree with that and the crazy thing is but you need to know the truth

00:07:32.720 what y'all do is y'all go through the likes you'll go through the following and instead of just ending

00:07:38.960 it no you start a fight and you don't break up with him so it's like why did you even go through

00:07:42.960 it to begin with victor i confirmed this comment you may as well have just not looked at it and just

00:07:49.040 lived your life because if you're looking for something and you find it what's gonna happen now

00:07:52.640 okay so now you found it and that's what i say like i've just found that the girls that do that 1.00

00:07:56.320 stuff they just want the drama and the fight and to fight and then get back together and not break up

00:08:01.680 and it's like you know if she really saw it and really ended it that would be one thing but they

00:08:06.960 never do um a little bit on wanting the drama and wanting the fight i don't think it's intentionally

00:08:14.160 i want to fight i want to find this drama it's more of can i trust you can i trust you that's trauma

00:08:19.600 i think yeah i think it's a bit of insecurity there because at the end of the day like why

00:08:23.280 would you get into a relationship with someone you don't trust yeah it doesn't make any sense to

00:08:27.120 me do you even like you're with like yeah like if you're constantly if you're in a relationship and

00:08:31.360 you're constantly trying to find out if he's doing something you clearly don't trust him so you

00:08:34.640 shouldn't be with him you know you know someone can break your trust after a while yeah yeah someone

00:08:39.120 can break your trust over a long time but if you don't trust someone like and you're not willing to

00:08:46.240 trust but you know you can trust someone then end up not trusting them and that's them breaking

00:08:50.160 a trust that you thought that you of course but i think a relationship is the foundation of a

00:08:54.640 relationship is trust you haven't got a healthy relationship if you don't trust them yeah yeah yeah

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JustPearlyThings - March 19, 2023

Why Most RELATIONSHIP Don't LAST

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