Why Most RELATIONSHIP Don't LAST
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the importance of boundaries, sexual discipline and sexual education in the modern world. We also discuss how to deal with toxic exes, sexual education and sexual discipline. We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we enjoyed making it!
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it to choose the people in your life yeah you do but at the same time over the age of 18 i'm pretty
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sure you guys have all come across really bad people but you didn't end up being like them
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you chose with them yeah but you're not them but at the same time you you like realize like okay
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i don't want to be like this so you're not going to associate yourself with people that again it's
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like what you said having um boundaries yeah what you accept into your life yeah 100 do you know
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i mean the same way we don't have the same bodies the same way we don't have the same mindset no
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100 a mindset is something that you learn like over time yeah and everyone's way of learning
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is different like the same way school isn't for everyone it's the same way the way you take
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education differently yeah yeah so you can't be a person when they don't change their lives but at
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the same time like you can't sit there and blame everything else for the way your life's turned out
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because everyone has a sob story like everyone goes through yeah but it's like it's about how you it's
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about how you deal with it you know if you don't want to be in that situation then you work towards
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getting yourself out of that situation you know if you sit there and you sulk and you're like oh
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i'm in this situation and you don't make no change like how do you expect to grow how do you expect
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yeah exactly you have to become the change and take actions towards that change like thinking and all
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of that is nothing without action you gotta continue consistently execute it that's really important
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i have a question for you guys do you think that people who constantly label their exes as toxic are
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looking for an excuse for the failed relationship yes yes a hundred percent yes yes yes i would say
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yes as well yeah because it gets to a point again like you need to look inwards if all of your
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relationships were toxic and the other person was always the bad person it's a bit suspicious look
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again i think i'm just thinking now actually that going back into whether i'm toxic i just realized that
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i've never been the toxic one you've never you've never i've never i've been always the other person
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i've been the sweet the sweet do you feel like okay wait i'm gonna hold on
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were you were you were you going through your ex's likes
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were you no i don't remember were you were you looking at who he followed
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yes but no that's not toxic that's not toxic that's seeing if i can trust him or not guys
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one in the chat one in the chat if that's toxic one in the chat that's just one person out of how
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many people in the world at the end of the day you said you said you said you said never you said that
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you were never toxic you're always the sweet one a lot of people my age not even my age i meet a lot
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of girls that they say the same thing obviously we spoke about already covered it already about
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relationship that's different you're in there for trust yeah but when you're like dating you're
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getting to know a person i think you should be curious to see whether you can trust them or not
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it's out of curiosity you don't do it all the time how can you trust someone by looking at their
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instagram followers no no but what do you mean because you said oh you checked the followers to
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see if you can trust them but how is checking the followers then you can trust nobody you're just
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curious to see what type of girls he follows the sexual discipline is there or not question is how long
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do you have to be curious for yeah i mean do you are you are you able to see what type of corn a guy
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watches what yes you can't yes no i'm saying i'm sorry i can't say i can't say it's on youtube oh
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no no that's that's what i mean to me to me it's just like i don't know it's instagram guys look that's
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what's what they do yeah like it's general like in general like if it's a pretty girl like you're
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going to appreciate the beauty you're going to like the photo like the same way it's like if you
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see a pretty girl on the street you're going to look i don't know about you but like whenever i
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go with a big book pass i always look what you just got to understand in the generation that we're
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living in this is actually normal like prostitution is normal escort is normal see you so what would
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you guys do wait wait wait it's normal prostitute do you know a lot of prostitutes
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from what i've seen on social oh on social media okay yes it's a norm i was like in your school
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did you know any no no no just i think it's definitely i think it's definitely blown up in
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popularity not that it's been up in popularity but it's become more normalized even though it was like
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it's the oldest like way of making money for a woman like in the world yeah but like yeah i think
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it makes money with social media it's definitely like blown up in popularity and it's more like in
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your face like yeah and the reason why it's normal is because no one has any morals no most does not
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exist no more but me it does i'm talking for myself that it does i know about you guys but
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most does not exist morals don't exist i think everyone's morals are different can i ask a question
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you're saying for society yeah okay listen listen i want some advice here what would you guys do not
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advice not for me but what would you guys do if if um he was in the dms of the girls he was liking and
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following um well i think that's about why you're together i think that's a bit different i mean to be
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honest if you're not together you're not together he has the absolute freedom to do whatever he wishes
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until you decide that you guys are both exclusive or you're in a relationship i know a lot of guys that
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will you know when you react with the love heart eyes you'll pout into the dms like that i know a
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lot of guys don't when they're when they've got a goal what do we think about is that not dms i
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don't think that's really appropriate yeah i don't think that's one reaction i don't think it's
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appropriate but like if you just like a photo like obviously when you send that like the heart
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ice to the dm it's like basically starting a conversation what if it's a really revealing photo
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sheesh that's even worse no yeah that is worse see you guys are contradicting exactly what we've
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you were the same before but to me my question but but my question is how do you know that
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and that's what i'm saying like but you should say you should be aware wait wait wait wait wait
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so i'm saying how do you know that so if if you know that information you're probably going through
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his likes you're going through his following and you're going no but let's say he followed
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so wait wait wait wait wait wait so my whole point is that if you know all that information
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you're probably toxic because you're probably all over his i'm not i'm not saying that it's it's okay
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for him to do that yeah but my whole point is like a lot of wait wait my whole point is a lot of times
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girls will will talk about how toxic he is but it's like how did you find out that information you're toxic
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too because you've probably had some trauma in the past or something that happened in the past that
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makes you want to do it in the future so even if it's a good guy and you go into a relationship
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you're not going in in good faith and you're going through all his before he's even done anything
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before you're even dating no yeah it depends on the length that girl is going to you doesn't make
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sense there's different levels off it if it's like a one-time thing cool if it's constantly then
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you've got to lock it off but it's still it's still my question how do you know what do you mean
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because you're cute like you do what i mean you you see it let's say i'm scrolling on instagram i'll
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see you'll see the likes there anyway i was gonna say we like but like with the dms and stuff with
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the dms you'd obviously have to log into their instagram or go on their phone i've never been in
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that position that's not personal experience i've never done that you being intentionally curious to
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know who he's like and who he's talking to that's already toxic in itself how is that because how
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does it because how does it make you feel when you do that how is that how does it but how does it
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it make you feel like because you're looking for problems if you're going through if you're
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going through his likes i agree with that and the crazy thing is but you need to know the truth
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what y'all do is y'all go through the likes you'll go through the following and instead of just ending
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it no you start a fight and you don't break up with him so it's like why did you even go through
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it to begin with victor i confirmed this comment you may as well have just not looked at it and just
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lived your life because if you're looking for something and you find it what's gonna happen now
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okay so now you found it and that's what i say like i've just found that the girls that do that
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stuff they just want the drama and the fight and to fight and then get back together and not break up
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and it's like you know if she really saw it and really ended it that would be one thing but they
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never do um a little bit on wanting the drama and wanting the fight i don't think it's intentionally
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i want to fight i want to find this drama it's more of can i trust you can i trust you that's trauma
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i think yeah i think it's a bit of insecurity there because at the end of the day like why
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would you get into a relationship with someone you don't trust yeah it doesn't make any sense to
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me do you even like you're with like yeah like if you're constantly if you're in a relationship and
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you're constantly trying to find out if he's doing something you clearly don't trust him so you
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shouldn't be with him you know you know someone can break your trust after a while yeah yeah someone
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can break your trust over a long time but if you don't trust someone like and you're not willing to
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trust but you know you can trust someone then end up not trusting them and that's them breaking
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a trust that you thought that you of course but i think a relationship is the foundation of a
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relationship is trust you haven't got a healthy relationship if you don't trust them yeah yeah yeah
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