JustPearlyThings - April 01, 2023


Why Simps Think Women Are The Prize


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In this episode, we discuss confidence and how it relates to women. We discuss how men lack it and how to develop it. We also talk about why women find 80% of men unattractive and only 10% of women find them attractive.

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00:00:00.000 I think for most men, so like the average men, I think women are the prize because supposedly a 1.00
00:00:06.680 lot of men don't get women. So I think women would be the prize. However, I think the highest
00:00:13.720 or like the most optimal prize would be a man because most, like they tend to skew the market
00:00:21.580 a bit more because like Kevin Samuels, his like version of a high value man or what have you,
00:00:27.720 they seem to be the biggest prize that you could possibly get in dating. However, I think for most
00:00:32.780 men, women are the prize because they don't get women anyway. If that makes sense. Well, wouldn't 1.00
00:00:37.600 you say those guys don't ever get a woman? Like cause one out of three men are virgins or haven't
00:00:41.480 had sex in the past year. Yeah. So that's why I would say like, if those type of guys got a woman,
00:00:45.880 they would feel like they got a prize. Yeah. But I don't really think they ever get into
00:00:49.280 relationships. Like to me, it's like there's two types of guys. There's a guy that's always getting
00:00:54.260 girls. And then there's a second one that gets their leftovers at 30. 1.00
00:00:58.320 Well, I think also it's about confidence from the man's perspective. I think a lot of men
00:01:05.080 in this society are not empowered and given confidence to step forth as men. They're kind
00:01:10.440 of, they're battened down to the female perspective of, you know, I feel and because I feel this,
00:01:17.840 you must basically accommodate those feelings. And so, sorry, finish this. What you're saying
00:01:24.840 men were allowed to have the confidence as men in their masculinity, there would be more
00:01:30.260 space for them to actually pursue women. A lot of men don't know how to talk to women.
00:01:34.900 They don't know how to approach women because everything's offensive. Oh, you know, why are 1.00
00:01:39.840 you looking at me? Well, you dress a certain way. I want to look nice. I want guys to look
00:01:43.720 at me. When the guy looks at you, why are you looking at me? Do you get what I mean?
00:01:47.340 So how are men supposed to feel confident when women find 80% of men is unattractive? Not
00:01:52.420 okay or whatever. They literally think they're unattractive. And then there's another 10% that
00:01:56.700 they find, okay, maybe here or there in the last 10% that they'd go first.
00:02:00.160 Well, it's not first of all, biology, natural selection. The problem.
00:02:04.160 Yeah. But like if, how would you feel if they found 80% of women unattractive, it'd be kind
00:02:08.120 of hard to, you know, feel confident in yourself.
00:02:11.040 I guess if you have externalized where your confidence comes from, I think when you build
00:02:16.420 confidence within yourself and you know who you are and you step out into the world as
00:02:21.100 a confident man, EG, I'll give you an example. And let's say, I don't like to give this example,
00:02:28.360 for example, future to me, he's not a confident man, but he projects confidence into the space
00:02:34.840 where women will be like, Oh, he's got money. 1.00
00:02:36.800 Are you sure? He's made some bold moves, some bold moves.
00:02:40.180 Wouldn't you have to be confident to project confidence?
00:02:42.180 Huh?
00:02:43.180 Like, wouldn't you have to be confident to project confidence?
00:02:45.180 Not necessarily.
00:02:46.180 No, no, no, because you can have low self...
00:02:47.180 To some degree at all.
00:02:48.180 No, no, no. You can use that. So projecting confidence to attract women's attention and
00:02:54.180 actually getting women are two different things. 0.98
00:02:56.180 Yeah. But what is self-esteem? Self-esteem doesn't exist.
00:02:58.180 What do you mean?
00:02:58.860 Like, there's no way to measure it. There's no, like self-esteem isn't real. It's just
00:03:03.400 like a thing that the left says.
00:03:05.240 Well, it is...
00:03:07.240 No, there's no, there's no statistical way to measure self-esteem.
00:03:11.240 Okay. There's no way to measure self-esteem, but there's a way to measure, measure behaviors,
00:03:16.240 right?
00:03:17.240 Okay.
00:03:18.240 And behaviors coming from men with low self-esteem, EG, we call them simps, we call them all kind
00:03:22.280 of funny names. Now, if you're in an arena where women are dominant and they're allowed to say, 1.00
00:03:28.240 and do as they wish, which we have right now, we have platforms, social media, etc. A lot
00:03:34.320 of men will shy away from their true self just to appease the women in the arena because
00:03:40.120 as a man, you want women to attract to you. It's a natural thing. It's a biological thing.
00:03:45.360 Do you get what I mean? So a lot of guys don't have, they don't know how to talk to women.
00:03:50.000 I've experienced it and I've seen it.
00:03:52.200 But I think it's hard for men because when you think about it, like they're told if they
00:03:56.320 approach a girl the wrong way, the girl can cry SA. And so how are they going to be confident 0.69
00:04:01.620 when they're told men ain't shit from the time they're 12? 0.99
00:04:04.980 How do the other men do it? How do the confident men do it? 0.99
00:04:07.320 Well, because we have a smaller and smaller percentage of men screwing all the girls. 1.00
00:04:11.900 So again, women find 80% of men is unattractive and they only swipe right 5% of the time on 0.93
00:04:16.500 dating apps. So the reason the dating market's kind of effed up right now is because girls 1.00
00:04:21.660 that are 4s, 5s, 6s and 7s are sleeping with the 8s, 9s and 10s and they think they're
00:04:25.240 on that level and they're not and they're rejecting the guys that are on their level
00:04:27.480 because a guy is willing to sleep with anyone, right?
00:04:30.120 But that doesn't mean, that doesn't, that doesn't mean you're that hot.
00:04:33.320 But to add to that as well, you have to remember that women are also breaking up the homes. 1.00
00:04:42.160 So the men that would traditionally raise other men to become men are no longer there
00:04:47.100 because as we know, about 80 to 90% of women did leave or divorce their husband for the
00:04:52.820 primary reason being financial reasons and the second being infidelity.
00:04:56.600 But infidelity doesn't matter because we cheat a similar race. 0.98
00:04:58.840 So most women are leaving the men because of financial reasons and then these men are 0.89
00:05:03.280 now raised by women and then they try to chase women but women don't know how to court women. 1.00
00:05:07.780 So then these men are left thinking, okay, my mum told me to be nice and buy her flowers
00:05:11.020 and then she looks at, and then he tries to do that for the girl and she's like,
00:05:13.480 look at this waist man.
00:05:15.600 And how are they supposed to feel confident if they didn't have a man to like raise them?
00:05:19.740 I agree with that.
00:05:20.500 I agree with you.
00:05:22.600 I do agree with you as you know, when it comes to masculine confidence, it's best,
00:05:27.560 it comes from a man, be it your dad, be it your uncle, whoever's available to you.
00:05:32.140 And as a woman who has had a strong relationship with her dad, it makes you a different type of
00:05:38.920 woman on the market, you have a different level of confidence. 0.95
00:05:41.760 You have more realistic expectations towards men.
00:05:47.340 You know, there's certain things that my dad helped me understand as a woman.
00:05:51.340 I'm more forgiving than women in my age group.
00:05:55.100 When it comes to, not forgiving, that's the wrong word, but I have a better understanding
00:06:00.020 of the hardships that men face and I have a bit more empathy towards their position.
00:06:04.940 Do you get what I mean?
00:06:06.040 But at the same time, having that understanding with a group of men who haven't had that nurturing
00:06:12.880 is still very difficult.
00:06:15.000 I've got a question for you then.
00:06:16.480 Would you date a simp? 0.92
00:06:18.480 What's the simp?
00:06:19.180 A simp wouldn't have the confidence to approach me. 1.00
00:06:21.740 Oh yeah.
00:06:22.340 But you're sympathetic of their position and obviously being raised by your father,
00:06:26.840 that's had an influence on you.
00:06:27.860 So would you date a simp being sympathetic? 0.94
00:06:29.880 Well, first of all, in my opinion, a simp is not a man. 0.94
00:06:34.940 It's a type of...
00:06:36.060 Oh, wow.
00:06:36.820 No, no, it's not a man.
00:06:37.980 In my opinion, like, if you don't have a...
00:06:40.680 Talk in your mic.
00:06:41.440 Oh, sorry.
00:06:42.800 If you don't have certain attributes, then you're not on my radar.
00:06:45.980 So for example, I'm not a materialistic person.
00:06:48.300 I don't look for someone with nice clothes, nice things, blah, blah, blah.
00:06:51.600 But I do look for a man who has logic, direction, knows how to...
00:06:56.220 So is your answer no?
00:06:57.520 Yes or no?
00:06:57.940 I wouldn't date a simp. 1.00
00:06:59.280 Okay, right.
00:07:00.240 But like, if you're sympathetic to the plight of man...
00:07:02.400 No, I didn't say sympathetic.
00:07:03.360 I said empathetic.
00:07:04.260 Empathetic.
00:07:04.900 Okay, empathetic. 0.73
00:07:05.820 Why wouldn't you date a simp? 1.00
00:07:07.280 Yeah, I wouldn't...
00:07:08.420 There's no compatibility there.
00:07:11.020 For me, I know that a man with logic, provisions, knows what he's about,
00:07:16.340 would fit better with me.
00:07:18.360 So that's why.
00:07:20.480 So, question.
00:07:21.920 Do you guys think that women date up or down?
00:07:24.900 Up.
00:07:25.260 Up.
00:07:26.000 Up.
00:07:26.360 I think depending on age.
00:07:28.300 Okay.
00:07:29.160 So then, you say up?
00:07:31.240 I say up.
00:07:31.860 What would you guys say up?
00:07:32.800 Up, yeah.
00:07:34.380 So, how can we say women are the prize if they date up and men date down?
00:07:38.600 That's a good question.
00:07:39.720 That's a great question.
00:07:40.760 Do you know what?
00:07:41.360 Do you know what?
00:07:41.700 That's an amazing question.
00:07:42.520 I feel like the generation we're in now, I feel like everybody just has to date up because...
00:07:49.240 No, no, everybody can't.
00:07:50.460 No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:07:52.320 Everybody can't date up.
00:07:54.060 Someone's reaching...
00:07:54.900 Every relationship, someone likes the other more.
00:07:57.080 Exactly.
00:07:57.600 Someone's reaching, someone's settling.
00:07:59.000 Yeah.
00:07:59.600 Okay, go ahead.
00:08:00.100 Personally, I genuinely feel like where we are in this life here, everything is so difficult.
00:08:06.160 Yeah.
00:08:06.460 Everything is getting worse out and worse out.
00:08:08.980 It's not.
00:08:09.660 Check your friend zone.
00:08:12.000 Wow.
00:08:12.500 That was a good one.
00:08:13.380 It's not.
00:08:13.820 I feel like a lot of my guy friends are compatible as friends, and I don't want to lose that.
00:08:19.260 No, no, no.
00:08:19.600 No, you're not attracted to them like that.
00:08:21.860 No, no.
00:08:22.320 You like the attention.
00:08:23.460 No, no.
00:08:23.640 You like the attention.
00:08:24.180 No, I think I'm definitely attracted to some of my guy friends.
00:08:26.220 I just wouldn't want to go there.
00:08:27.760 Would they want to go there with you?
00:08:29.140 Possibly.
00:08:29.520 100%.
00:08:29.960 Possibly.
00:08:31.300 However, I just know that the boundaries, and I treasure the friendship.
00:08:34.480 I'm not trying to do that.
00:08:35.320 Yeah, yeah.
00:08:35.600 Because more time, if a relationship ends up bad, I've lost you as a friend.
00:08:38.680 Yeah.
00:08:38.960 And if I value the friendship, I feel like...
00:08:41.340 Well, it can end up good.
00:08:42.720 What?
00:08:42.980 The relationship?
00:08:44.480 That's the risk, isn't it?
00:08:45.580 Sounds quite pessimistic.
00:08:47.080 Do you really see yourself having a lot of male friends once you get married?
00:08:50.120 Does that really help?
00:08:50.660 Oh, no, no, no.
00:08:51.100 That's not healthy.
00:08:52.340 That's not healthy.
00:08:52.720 It might end anyway, so...
00:08:54.400 So what's the point of having them around?
00:08:55.900 No, but I just feel like in this day and age, I feel like a lot of people are mad.
00:09:02.020 So what do you see as the problems in the dating market?
00:09:05.240 The problems in the dating market, I feel like everything has become so...
00:09:09.540 What can I get?
00:09:10.160 What can I get?
00:09:11.000 Materialistic.
00:09:11.600 And I feel like people aren't looking at character anymore.
00:09:13.460 Do you think that's the men or the women?
00:09:15.360 I think it's both.
00:09:16.500 So you think it's the men?
00:09:17.480 But I feel like it's more so the women. 1.00
00:09:18.840 I feel like women have become this, which means that the men don't even care anymore. 1.00
00:09:23.060 It's like you want me for maybe materialistic things.
00:09:25.980 There are quite a few women. 1.00
00:09:27.260 So it's kind of like, if that's all you look at me for, then all right, cool.
00:09:30.560 I'll take you, your sister, your auntie, and then...
00:09:33.020 Could you explain that more?
00:09:34.280 What do you mean by that?
00:09:35.160 What I mean by that is there's a lot of guys who, let's say, faithfulness was something
00:09:38.920 that, let's say, 10 years ago was key.
00:09:41.300 Right now, in this generation, it's like nobody cares.
00:09:44.160 Quite a few people don't care if the guy's faithful or not, as long as he's looking after
00:09:47.060 them.
00:09:47.680 So you've got a lot of men who maybe they were faithful growing up.
00:09:50.260 Now it's like, I don't even need to be faithful because I can get the 10 or the 12.
00:09:53.240 Is that the fault of the men or the women? 0.95
00:09:54.960 That's what I'm saying.
00:09:55.320 It's the fault of the women. 1.00
00:09:56.100 Yeah, yeah.
00:09:56.580 I agree with you.
00:09:57.240 Oh, yeah.
00:09:57.540 Sorry.
00:09:57.920 I genuinely believe it's the fault of the women. 1.00
00:09:59.720 It's like if you hand them a silver platter, why would they not take it?
00:10:02.320 Why would they not take it?
00:10:02.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:10:03.240 And why do I need to be faithful, spiritual, this, this, and that, if you're not even requiring
00:10:08.540 it?
00:10:08.740 So why did you say women are the prize then?
00:10:11.060 Because...
00:10:11.460 So I feel like when you're growing up, like I said, from a young age, you're pretty, you're
00:10:14.800 this, you're that.
00:10:15.520 I think when you get to a certain age, you need to understand, you need to understand the
00:10:18.720 flower of your youth.
00:10:19.980 When it's finished, darling, understand it's finished.
00:10:22.480 However, I feel like naturally you're taught to date up because I just feel like he just
00:10:28.740 needs to be the head of the household, if that makes sense.
00:10:30.700 So the head would mean he's up.
00:10:33.000 Yeah.
00:10:33.160 So then he would be the prize.
00:10:34.500 Yeah.
00:10:34.880 But that's what I'm saying.
00:10:35.500 My answer was when you get to a certain age, I feel like it flips.
00:10:38.140 What age, roughly?
00:10:38.900 Me, okay, I think, let's say 25 and up.
00:10:43.060 25 and up.
00:10:43.760 25 and up.
00:10:44.740 I think after high school, Robbie, I'll be honest.
00:10:46.660 No, I agree with you.
00:10:47.740 What?
00:10:48.080 What do you think?
00:10:49.020 I think men are always the prize because the women that men want, like 50% of women that 1.00
00:10:55.340 hit 30 are single and childless.
00:10:57.980 So the most...
00:10:58.760 But do you think men understand they're the prize from young? 0.96
00:11:01.220 I think the small percentage of men do when they have at their doorstep.
00:11:05.700 Like, from the time they're a kid, you know, because it's only a very small percentage
00:11:11.900 of men that get that.
00:11:13.480 And then, you know, the women, like the women that won't settle. 0.99
00:11:19.320 And I think they're just going to die alone.
00:11:21.060 Yeah, stop.
00:11:21.480 No, seriously, because, yeah, and they won't have kids and fulfill their biological... 0.75
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