JustPearlyThings - June 29, 2023


Why Sports Is Bad For Women

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Diane Hobby Lobby
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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

198.63

Word count

1,823

Sentence count

142

Harmful content

Misogyny

6

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Toxicity

1

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Hate speech

9

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On this episode of Thick & Thin I sit down with my good friend and writer, Kelsey, to talk about her experience with the "red pill" and how it changed her life. Kelsey talks about how she became a feminist, what it's like to be a woman in her late 20's and early 30's, and how she got over her fear of being a feminist.

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00:00:00.000 Yeah, well, and I also realized that like, because I just started looking, you know, it's kind of weird once you start getting red pills on the world. It's like I started looking, I started looking at like the volleyball, like it like the volleyball industry, right? Because it really is. It's really it's crazy, because it's, you don't make money at it as a sport. So the women that do it really, really love it, right? And I was one of them. Like, I still am like, you know, you can hear it in my voice. It's so fun.
00:00:27.640 But what I realized, it's like, the girls that like, take it to the highest level. They're all by themselves. Yeah. And that's what I realized all the girls coaching, like, one of my coaches is like, she's a feminist, and she's and I really like her, like, she's genuinely, like, such a nice girl, or woman, right? You know, but she's older, but I'm like, she's in her 40s and 50s. And she's got no kids and no family. And she's a really successful coach. And then I realized I was like, Oh, shit, my my coaching college
00:00:57.620 was the same thing. Yeah, she was in her 40s. And I'm like, Oh, wow. So was her assistant coach. Oh, like, everybody involved in this, right? I like that takes it to the highest level. Yeah, by themselves. And I was like, wow, I didn't realize that, like, a lot of these, like, industries that we're pushing women into, it's like one and then I found out to like with women's sports, it makes you more masculine. Yeah, because it raises your testosterone. 0.99
00:01:26.620 So I felt like my whole life, I never fit in with like other women, because I was just such a top like nothing interested me, like, even me wearing like dresses now. I was so like, I'm just not a, you know, but but I was like, wow. So like, the reason I wasn't into all the girly stuff was literally probably I haven't gotten it tested, because I just found this out like a week ago. But I was like, it's probably because I had high like testosterone.
00:01:51.620 That could be, I mean, I've been super into weightlifting for like 16 years, a lot of times, like people on the internet will be like, she's fat. And I'm like, No, I have big shoulders, because I've been lifting weights for 15 years.
00:02:03.620 Even even lifting weights. It does that too. Yeah, it does. And I think, well, like, I've always been a little bit more rational for a woman, like more rational, more practical, and more of a tomboy. And same thing as with you, where it's like, the ladies around me would be like wanting to go window shopping. And I'm like, Wait, we're gonna just go to the mall shopping. 0.51
00:02:25.620 Go to the mall shopping. I hate shopping, too. I like if I ever make millions, that'll be the first thing I outsource is have somebody go do that.
00:02:35.580 That's exactly what I did when the YouTube every, every outfit I pick. I'm like, I just have I just have my PA do. Because I literally I hate shopping. I hate it.
00:02:47.500 Yeah, and like Tupperware parties or pampered chef parties. I was like, Nope, not I'm not doing those. Just like a lot of that stuff. I've had a little bit of trouble with that, too. Although since I started writing and doing all this, I've met some really cool women and made really great friends. So it's cool to know there's other like, based red pill ladies out there who get it and who don't just think of everything from like, but what about me? 0.77
00:03:12.700 But what about me? Like when you say you think in systems, the reason you're able you're able to like take yourself out of it and look at stuff and look at what's going on and say, Well, this doesn't make sense because you're not filtering everything first through this me filter of like, but what about me, which is what I think most women, especially younger women today do it's all about me and how it affects me and what about me and what about what I want.
00:03:36.200 It's like, there's bigger things in life than just you and just what you want for one, you know, and some stuff.
00:03:42.700 I honestly was, I wasn't crazy triggered, but I was triggered by a little bit like when men were like, there's no reason to get married today. I was like, what? But my parents are married. Like I was like, what? But then it's, I want to be married, you know?
00:03:55.780 Yeah. Yeah. But then you look at it from the men's point of view and it's like, well, if I, if that was my sister, I don't know if I would sign up like to, I'm just calling a spade, a spade, you know?
00:04:07.100 I think I want to hear what you think of this idea. I think men should get primary custody off the bat. Yeah. Because I think that if women, because two reasons, right? I think it really helps everybody involved. Okay. I think that the parent that can afford the kids should keep the kids. They can afford the kids, right? Usually the man. 0.87
00:04:28.040 Second of all, I think that if women leave, they don't get a reward, right? They get the reward of like the chill. They always, and they, they act like it's a punishment. They're like, I have to have the kids. No, you, well, then sign them over to your baby. 1.00
00:04:44.040 Right. But they're not going to do that. They're not going to do that. Especially because they won't get the child support and everything else and they won't have the control. Um, but you would see a hell of a lot less divorce. I tell you that. It would totally disincentivize divorce in the first place. 0.99
00:04:59.800 And in all honesty, I was thinking about this. I'm like, let's say like the worst happened. He leaves you for a younger woman. Okay. You're sad. He took the kid. I know it's horrible, but, but I was like, honestly, if he had the kids to be honest, you probably have a better shot at getting remarried.
00:05:14.040 That's true. In all honesty, like, but I was like, in all honesty, I think the lever should be punished. I think whoever's leaving the other person should get the kids.
00:05:23.900 Well, that's basically what it was before. I think we should get, I absolutely always advocate for getting rid of no fault divorce. I think you should have to have some kind of just cause. Now I'm an Orthodox Christian and in our church, we do have some exceptions. We're not exactly like the Roman Catholics, um, who are like no divorce ever, no matter what, even if you're getting
00:05:44.020 the crap beat out of you on the regular. Um, but we're not like Protestants either, who are tend to be much more liberal about divorce. We're like, okay. In cases of abuse, real abuse, not like he was mean to me, or he won't let me spend $5,000 at Hobby Lobby every month. Um, real abuse.
00:06:01.780 Like in cases of abuse, abandonment, or like addiction that is so severe that it's endangering the rest of the family. Like say your husband's got like a crippling meth addiction and there's bikers coming to your house.
00:06:13.980 We can, we can, we can, we can let you divorce your meth heads. Like we can, so there are exceptions, but they are like, it has to be that you've done everything you can possibly do working with your priest and with your family to try to rectify the situation first.
00:06:30.300 And it has to be a serious thing in order for divorce to be granted. And then even then like remarriage has to be under certain circumstances. It's just not this flimsy thing where just women can, because right now, like I say, women can wake up and just be like, my husband doesn't make me feel sexy anymore. So I'm getting divorced. And it's like, that should never be a good enough reason to take a bulldozer to your children's lives. 0.92
00:06:55.300 Have you ever seen these sob stories? Okay. These like, oh, he, I saw this one that was like, I was dancing on a bar and he told me to get down. He just didn't support me. It was my birthday. And I'm like, what the, maybe, maybe you're acting like a hoe, Diane, like get off the bar table. 0.99
00:07:14.020 Exactly. Well, this is the thing that I always say too, is that now the way, because of the propaganda, women today think that a man having any kind of boundaries, any kind of self-respect or just telling a woman, no, that's abuse. Now that's abuse.
00:07:31.060 So you'll see these women that they're like in a marriage and they'll be like, but I want a new car every year. And I want a vacation every year. I want to do this crazy thing. That's probably really bad for the family. And just the man saying, listen, Diane, but no, no, Diane, that's not, that's abuse. Now a man telling a woman, no, having a boundary of any kind or saying, uh, no, you're being disrespectful to me.
00:07:59.040 And I'm not going to allow it. That is now considered abuse by most women. And that's where all this like men are abusive, men are abusive, men are abusive. It's because basically if you tell a woman, no, you're an abuser now, and that's absurd. And that needs to end too, because yeah, women feel fine punching the crap out of a guy. They think they're allowed to lay hands on men. 0.87
00:08:19.620 They think they're allowed to, um, I see this all the time, women shaming their man in public. Like they'll be at dinner and like say something to the waitress, like mocking their husband or like, you know, putting him down or making fun of him or putting him down in front of family and friends. 1.00
00:08:36.620 And women need love, but men really need respect. They need to feel respected and they need to feel needed. And so when you're constantly, this is like most women now love to just cut their man off at the knees constantly. And they think that's fine. They don't think there's anything wrong with it. They think it's cute. They think it's. 0.97
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