JustPearlyThings - Why They Don't Trust Partner in a Relationship

00:00:00.000 have you guys ever gone through a guy's phone

00:00:01.920 tell the truth tell the truth

00:00:04.880 no you haven't

00:00:05.600 really my ex has gone through mine though

00:00:07.800 zoinks

00:00:08.500 I appreciate it

00:00:09.600 she's like cap cap

00:00:11.060 no cap cap

00:00:13.720 alright

00:00:14.000 um why'd you go through his phone

00:00:16.420 cause I knew he was doing something

00:00:19.720 I wouldn't do it

00:00:21.820 unless I had a suspicion

00:00:23.060 and I had a suspicion and I was right

00:00:25.740 and every time I've done it I've been right

00:00:27.160 but now I've got to a point where

00:00:29.720 I will never do it

00:00:30.480 because every time I've done it

00:00:31.580 I've found something

00:00:32.380 and I actually really like my boyfriend

00:00:34.520 so I like even if I get the feeling

00:00:35.840 I'm like

00:00:36.280 I don't even want to know

00:00:37.780 just leave it at this point

00:00:40.200 what did you find?

00:00:43.500 naked pictures

00:00:44.300 from other girls 0.75

00:00:45.500 oh wow

00:00:46.240 but like how?

00:00:48.220 I used to get that all the time

00:00:49.460 my ex girlfriend

00:00:51.220 like girlfriends I've had

00:00:52.420 one specific partner

00:00:54.220 has gone through my phone

00:00:55.200 and woke me up at like 3 in the morning

00:00:57.600 and been like oh blah blah blah

00:00:59.080 and I'm like but how did you know?

00:01:00.940 and I've been like

00:01:01.580 I don't know

00:01:01.980 I don't know

00:01:02.740 it's really weird

00:01:03.420 not continuous but my younger days

00:01:05.220 like I would just be like

00:01:07.380 but how did you even know

00:01:08.400 I was talking to her on Facebook

00:01:09.760 or how did you know?

00:01:10.840 well I can answer that one for you

00:01:11.840 what made you think

00:01:12.880 and you've been like

00:01:13.380 oh a woman always knows 1.00

00:01:14.800 and I'm like what is this?

00:01:16.240 how does a woman know? 1.00

00:01:17.120 your behaviour probably change it

00:01:18.180 but I'm a really good actor

00:01:19.580 no no no

00:01:20.280 not even that

00:01:21.080 because there's a lot of subconscious things

00:01:24.120 that you would do

00:01:24.700 yeah okay so it's like

00:01:25.860 we pick up on little social cues

00:01:27.920 that like men don't 0.96

00:01:29.200 so like okay we'll see

00:01:31.000 we'll notice let's say

00:01:34.520 if you don't like text us

00:01:35.760 around the time you normally text us

00:01:37.340 or like or if you don't do something

00:01:39.420 you normally do

00:01:40.340 that you wouldn't like think anything

00:01:41.600 I'm like women we notice 1.00

00:01:42.620 yeah we notice everything

00:01:43.900 or if like you have a certain interaction

00:01:45.680 with a girl

00:01:46.400 and you think

00:01:47.140 well that's how he used to interact with me

00:01:48.880 I like when we first met

00:01:50.420 because the thing is

00:01:51.320 the thing is

00:01:51.920 guys have this as well

00:01:53.360 and guys

00:01:53.760 you know the whole

00:01:54.440 the whole thing of like

00:01:55.580 guys knowing who

00:01:56.500 that one guy friend

00:01:57.660 who's actually trying to fuck

00:01:58.740 guys also see this as well

00:02:00.380 so we all

00:02:00.780 we understand

00:02:01.300 it's just very

00:02:01.800 it's just kind of different

00:02:02.800 how we go about

00:02:04.220 dealing with it

00:02:05.340 so guys will go around

00:02:07.280 and be like

00:02:07.520 oh that one friend

00:02:08.940 we'll just say it directly

00:02:10.160 because guys are way more direct

00:02:11.520 than women 0.99

00:02:11.820 we'll be like yo

00:02:12.420 that friend Zeke

00:02:13.960 or whatever his name is

00:02:14.740 Zach

00:02:14.960 or I'm trying to think of random names

00:02:17.100 oh Zach's trying to fuck you 0.97

00:02:18.340 like there's going to be

00:02:19.740 doing one where guys

00:02:20.580 will tell their girlfriend 0.66

00:02:21.200 no he's no he's just like

00:02:22.340 a brother to me

00:02:23.340 a girl will do 0.99

00:02:25.300 will look at the same information

00:02:27.020 and instead of just saying it outright

00:02:28.600 like yo Sarah's trying to have sex with you bro 1.00

00:02:30.740 they'll be like

00:02:31.320 they'll go around and be like

00:02:33.140 get you to see it

00:02:35.120 through their words

00:02:36.660 type of thing

00:02:37.440 you get what I mean

00:02:38.680 it's very different approaches

00:02:40.080 that guys and girls take 0.85

00:02:41.320 the approach that we take sometimes

00:02:42.860 with guys is like

00:02:43.700 we think that that's going to repulse the girl

00:02:45.440 the girl likes sex bro 1.00

00:02:46.520 and she likes to take attention 1.00

00:02:47.620 if you say

00:02:48.080 you know that male friend

00:02:49.400 he wants to fuck you 1.00

00:02:50.240 you know he wants to fuck you 0.99

00:02:51.180 he wants to fuck you 1.00

00:02:52.240 she's not going to be like

00:02:52.280 oh no

00:02:53.700 she's going to just

00:02:54.320 she might be like 0.90

00:02:54.800 oh is it

00:02:55.340 you know what I mean

00:02:55.880 she probably knows already

00:02:56.700 but you know

00:02:57.220 at the end of the day

00:02:58.060 that's why I feel like

00:02:58.640 with male friends

00:02:59.360 with women and guys

00:03:01.140 like having that friendship

00:03:02.980 it's very much

00:03:04.180 it works in a woman's favour 1.00

00:03:06.120 a lot of the time

00:03:06.560 so you wouldn't let me

00:03:07.200 be a friend with your girl

00:03:08.140 sorry

00:03:08.660 you wouldn't let me

00:03:09.200 be a friend with your girl

00:03:10.060 you

00:03:10.820 you know

00:03:11.720 I don't think you're a friend

00:03:13.360 we're good bro

00:03:14.300 we're good

00:03:14.700 but I would treat you

00:03:16.540 like a male friend

00:03:17.360 that she has in it

00:03:18.280 so the boundaries

00:03:19.080 will be there

00:03:19.500 ain't no

00:03:19.840 let's get changed together

00:03:20.940 you can't come in one day

00:03:22.320 and you're in there changing

00:03:23.560 alright listen to this

00:03:24.360 yeah

00:03:24.540 I once had a girl

00:03:25.520 what was she

00:03:26.300 she wanted to come around my yard 1.00

00:03:27.580 and work or something

00:03:29.360 and she was like

00:03:30.440 oh

00:03:30.880 her boyfriend won't allow it

00:03:32.780 because it's just me and her

00:03:33.620 I was like

00:03:34.040 but why though

00:03:34.820 it's just me and her

00:03:36.060 she's working from

00:03:37.000 instead of working from home

00:03:38.060 it's about

00:03:38.580 it's about not putting

00:03:40.120 so her boyfriend said no

00:03:42.260 yeah

00:03:42.800 it's about her not being in a space

00:03:45.220 or in a situation

00:03:46.120 where something could happen

00:03:47.840 there should be boundaries in place

00:03:49.360 if you're in a created relationship

00:03:50.600 she was a friend of mine

00:03:51.940 she was a good friend of mine

00:03:53.900 yeah

00:03:54.400 but put it like this

00:03:55.440 I was in a situation

00:03:56.260 where I helped a girl

00:03:57.120 do her assignment

00:03:57.920 but by the end of the night

00:03:59.140 did we finish the assignment

00:04:00.260 no

00:04:00.660 you finished another assignment

00:04:04.060 no

00:04:04.540 no

00:04:04.800 because the situation

00:04:06.260 like one on one

00:04:07.460 in those type of situations

00:04:08.560 and those type of times

00:04:09.400 I can 100% understand

00:04:10.720 like the guy being like

00:04:12.020 I feel a bit of what

00:04:14.060 you think your fans

00:04:15.840 you were even scheming

00:04:17.020 I can see

00:04:17.440 Wayne is that guy

00:04:19.320 that cheats on

00:04:20.420 and then he will say

00:04:21.300 no

00:04:21.600 before 25

00:04:22.500 don't count

00:04:23.140 before 25

00:04:23.880 you know you have that man

00:04:24.940 that will be like

00:04:25.480 yo

00:04:25.820 my girl's trying to say

00:04:26.820 I was cheating on her 1.00

00:04:27.500 and I'm like

00:04:27.780 yeah

00:04:27.960 but bro you were

00:04:28.560 but you were

00:04:29.100 it's me

00:04:31.180 it's me you're talking to bro

00:04:32.820 like Wayne it's us

00:04:33.880 yeah it's us

00:04:34.840 it's fine

00:04:35.300 we get it

00:04:36.360 we understand

00:04:36.740 you just don't want to put yourself

00:04:38.580 in a situation

00:04:39.380 where something could come back

00:04:40.720 let's say the girl lies 1.00

00:04:42.080 and you can't really defend yourself

00:04:43.860 it's her word against yours

00:04:45.200 I think that there should be

00:04:46.660 boundaries in place

00:04:47.440 like I don't think it's okay

00:04:49.180 if you are

00:04:50.420 if she's in a relationship

00:04:51.280 it's not okay

00:04:52.000 for her to be bopping up 1.00

00:04:53.000 to your room

00:04:53.620 to work

00:04:54.180 like why

00:04:54.840 I don't understand

00:04:55.640 no but you're just chilling

00:04:57.080 you're working from home

00:04:58.340 you usually work from home

00:04:59.480 did you

00:04:59.900 when she said that to you

00:05:01.120 did you say

00:05:01.680 you know what

00:05:02.140 I understand

00:05:02.860 that's a really

00:05:03.500 like that's great

00:05:04.320 your boyfriend had boundaries

00:05:05.380 or did you say

00:05:06.240 oh that's horrible

00:05:07.140 I said to her 0.96

00:05:08.860 but he knows I'm by though

00:05:10.620 that doesn't help

00:05:12.020 have you and her been

00:05:14.260 intimate before

00:05:15.140 like back in the day

00:05:16.380 no we haven't

00:05:17.560 we got in a situation

00:05:18.620 where I knew she had feelings for me

00:05:20.860 oh

00:05:21.300 no come on

00:05:22.760 no no

00:05:23.980 two plus two is small

00:05:25.860 no

00:05:27.760 no

00:05:28.980 I'm a nice guy

00:05:30.880 this is how we don't trust you bro

00:05:33.980 this is how I don't trust you

00:05:36.060 come on

00:05:37.780 come on

00:05:38.060 I just wanted that friendship

00:05:39.040 that's all I wanted

00:05:39.840 whatever

00:05:40.220 whatever

00:05:40.800 whatever

00:05:41.620 whatever

00:05:42.260 do his Instagram

00:05:43.640 yeah let's check your Instagram

00:05:45.880 I don't have my glasses

00:05:47.860 okay I want to know

00:05:49.040 if you guys

00:05:49.800 I know you're not single

00:05:50.760 but when you were single

00:05:52.420 if you guys would respond

00:05:53.560 or not

00:05:54.060 and what you would think of him

00:05:55.740 man's a model still 1.00

00:05:57.040 you know I can't really see

00:05:59.900 is that your car

00:06:00.520 I feel like if I saw this Instagram

00:06:02.920 I would think problems

00:06:04.020 that's the one that the gauge

00:06:05.040 that's the one that the gauge

00:06:07.120 respond to you

00:06:07.780 yeah

00:06:08.240 I don't think this

00:06:12.740 I don't need these type of problems

00:06:14.340 you got blue ticks coming into yours as well

00:06:16.960 wow

00:06:17.500 oh yeah

00:06:22.400 defo

00:06:22.860 yeah

00:06:23.460 is that a magnum

00:06:26.280 you're

00:06:26.720 okay

00:06:27.500 what do you guys

00:06:32.160 what do you guys think

00:06:33.040 what would you

00:06:33.840 like the last picture

00:06:35.060 and this picture is fine

00:06:36.320 there was a couple pictures

00:06:37.500 that I'd be like

00:06:38.080 I'm a PT but

00:06:40.120 yeah

00:06:40.460 I hear you

00:06:41.280 you need to show the merchandise

00:06:43.940 isn't it

00:06:44.300 yeah

00:06:44.440 so would you guys respond

00:06:49.380 yeah probably

00:06:50.860 yeah

00:06:51.660 what about you two

00:06:53.500 would you respond

00:06:54.240 no

00:06:54.720 I don't know

00:06:57.160 I think you're a good looking guy

00:06:59.020 but

00:06:59.600 I don't know

00:07:01.020 because of course you had your

00:07:02.180 you were flexing

00:07:03.640 that's him

00:07:04.220 oh it's you

00:07:05.540 that's him

00:07:06.140 that's him

00:07:07.000 I know you think you're black guys 1.00

00:07:11.240 look at that

00:07:11.780 that's him

00:07:13.340 oh my god

00:07:14.260 that's my glasses

00:07:15.040 I was like

00:07:16.020 like

00:07:16.800 someone get us some glasses 0.84

00:07:18.400 someone get us some glasses 0.84

00:07:19.560 what am I

00:07:21.600 that's him

00:07:22.040 no yeah no

00:07:22.720 I mean you're a good looking guy

00:07:23.980 but I think yeah

00:07:24.680 there was a couple of pictures

00:07:25.540 that I'm

00:07:26.200 but I can't judge you

00:07:27.620 because you said you don't like

00:07:28.000 the whole top thing of

00:07:28.980 it's just

00:07:30.140 yeah there's just

00:07:30.960 something I

00:07:31.920 but yeah

00:07:33.240 talk

00:07:33.580 it's all good

00:07:34.160 but it's

00:07:35.060 I mean I think

00:07:35.720 I have that view in general though

00:07:37.420 like even if a girl is like

00:07:39.240 and I'm not going to say

00:07:40.220 I haven't done this in the past

00:07:41.300 but if you're out there

00:07:42.620 like bikini

00:07:43.300 like tits 0.54

00:07:44.040 like tits in the camera 1.00

00:07:45.460 like showing off your body

00:07:46.640 in a certain type of way

00:07:47.420 you want a certain type of attention

00:07:49.220 to like

00:07:50.040 I can't take you seriously

00:07:51.100 no I hear you

00:07:52.380 I hear that

00:07:53.180 I agree

00:07:54.220 see my Instagram is PG clean

00:07:57.760 PG protein

00:07:58.300 I was like

00:07:59.780 I just

00:08:00.520 I'm like

00:08:01.160 I would think

00:08:01.820 because when you see a profile like that

00:08:04.100 I would just assume

00:08:04.880 you get so much attention

00:08:06.100 which you're saying is true

00:08:07.420 and so I'm like

00:08:08.600 I am not

00:08:09.180 that's a headache

00:08:09.860 I don't want to deal with that

00:08:10.900 no I'm like

00:08:10.920 I'm too jealous

00:08:12.100 you don't want to be competitive man

00:08:13.500 you've got to go for it

00:08:14.380 you want in this life

00:08:15.260 you know what I mean

00:08:15.860 you're a demon

00:08:17.160 what is my other question

00:08:19.960 yeah

00:08:20.440 have you guys ever went through

00:08:22.340 a girl's phone

00:08:23.120 yeah

00:08:24.180 I mean businesses do audits right

00:08:26.000 damn

00:08:27.120 what did you find

00:08:30.060 did you find anything

00:08:30.840 most of the time

00:08:31.680 you know guys we're a bit

00:08:32.900 we're just

00:08:34.200 we don't go for the right things

00:08:35.220 I think women know exactly where to look 1.00

00:08:36.720 guys are going to look for

00:08:38.080 random shit

00:08:39.540 you're not going to find nothing

00:08:40.800 I've done it

00:08:41.840 I don't

00:08:42.120 I'll be honest though

00:08:43.120 I think once

00:08:45.300 once you're in that place where

00:08:47.060 it becomes a thing where you need to

00:08:49.060 then

00:08:50.480 and there's difference

00:08:51.560 like someone going

00:08:52.340 someone opening up your phone

00:08:53.560 in your sleep

00:08:54.040 is different to

00:08:54.820 like someone leaving you

00:08:56.340 with their phone

00:08:56.880 and then you might just

00:08:57.720 you know

00:08:58.500 okay that pop-up came up

00:08:59.640 what was that

00:09:00.080 what was that

00:09:00.620 yeah

00:09:00.840 it's a bit of a difference

00:09:03.500 if you're like waking people up

00:09:04.520 or like trying to

00:09:05.200 do all that kind of stuff

00:09:06.240 I think there's

00:09:06.780 there's other problems there

00:09:07.760 I think sometimes

00:09:08.760 there's a curiosity thing

00:09:09.920 where that people have

00:09:11.360 where it's just open

00:09:12.780 and you just

00:09:13.360 you might just

00:09:13.880 or like

00:09:14.220 because there's even times

00:09:15.560 where I'll put it down to

00:09:16.980 someone being on their phone

00:09:18.140 next to you

00:09:18.700 and how many times

00:09:19.960 like let's say someone's typing

00:09:21.040 their password in front of you

00:09:21.860 how many times do

00:09:22.640 man don't want to be

00:09:23.620 guys so we do this

00:09:24.760 and we will

00:09:25.360 what are you doing man

00:09:27.040 look at that bro

00:09:28.580 like look at it

00:09:29.600 you know what I mean

00:09:30.080 but we do that

00:09:30.840 because your women 1.00

00:09:31.360 will look at it easy

00:09:32.160 but you know guys

00:09:33.200 you want to feel secure

00:09:33.880 so you're just like

00:09:34.400 no I'm not even going to look

00:09:35.240 because you don't want problems

00:09:36.380 innit

00:09:36.640 but sometimes

00:09:37.420 you just look and see

00:09:38.600 what's going on

00:09:39.360 everything cool

00:09:39.840 alright cool

00:09:40.480 you know what I mean

00:09:41.200 I haven't checked

00:09:43.060 in the same way

00:09:43.860 of like being that one

00:09:45.180 like person

00:09:46.360 who's very worried

00:09:47.080 and had to check

00:09:47.620 through the phone

00:09:48.120 the check in

00:09:48.980 that check in

00:09:49.720 quote on quote

00:09:50.200 is one of those ones

00:09:50.860 like you said

00:09:51.460 you're on her phone

00:09:52.660 you're playing

00:09:53.180 fucking fruit ninja 0.67

00:09:54.100 or whatever

00:09:54.500 and like a text comes up

00:09:56.020 and you're like

00:09:56.300 I'm like

00:09:57.680 I don't go through

00:09:59.000 anyone's phone

00:09:59.580 that's your private thing

00:10:00.900 that's your private space

00:10:02.020 but you see the name

00:10:02.940 and you see what the message is

00:10:04.040 and you're like

00:10:04.440 okay

00:10:05.100 you just keep a mental note

00:10:06.180 of like alright

00:10:06.740 I think yeah

00:10:07.600 if you don't trust your partner

00:10:08.780 then I think that

00:10:09.560 life is too short

00:10:12.440 for me to go through

00:10:13.520 your phone

00:10:14.020 it's like

00:10:14.400 why am I even with you

00:10:15.480 I

JustPearlyThings - July 23, 2023

Why They Don't Trust Partner in a Relationship

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