JustPearlyThings - July 23, 2023


Why They Don't Trust Partner in a Relationship


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

212.75421

Word Count

2,183

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

24

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary

In this episode, the guys talk about the difference between men and women when it comes to sex and boundaries, and how to deal with a guy friend who wants to have sex with you and a girl who wants you to fuck them.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 have you guys ever gone through a guy's phone
00:00:01.920 tell the truth tell the truth
00:00:04.880 no you haven't
00:00:05.600 really my ex has gone through mine though
00:00:07.800 zoinks
00:00:08.500 I appreciate it
00:00:09.600 she's like cap cap
00:00:11.060 no cap cap
00:00:13.720 alright
00:00:14.000 um why'd you go through his phone
00:00:16.420 cause I knew he was doing something
00:00:19.720 I wouldn't do it
00:00:21.820 unless I had a suspicion
00:00:23.060 and I had a suspicion and I was right
00:00:25.740 and every time I've done it I've been right
00:00:27.160 but now I've got to a point where
00:00:29.720 I will never do it
00:00:30.480 because every time I've done it
00:00:31.580 I've found something
00:00:32.380 and I actually really like my boyfriend
00:00:34.520 so I like even if I get the feeling
00:00:35.840 I'm like
00:00:36.280 I don't even want to know
00:00:37.780 just leave it at this point
00:00:40.200 what did you find?
00:00:43.500 naked pictures
00:00:44.300 from other girls
00:00:45.500 oh wow
00:00:46.240 but like how?
00:00:48.220 I used to get that all the time
00:00:49.460 my ex girlfriend
00:00:51.220 like girlfriends I've had
00:00:52.420 one specific partner
00:00:54.220 has gone through my phone
00:00:55.200 and woke me up at like 3 in the morning
00:00:57.600 and been like oh blah blah blah
00:00:59.080 and I'm like but how did you know?
00:01:00.940 and I've been like
00:01:01.580 I don't know
00:01:01.980 I don't know
00:01:02.740 it's really weird
00:01:03.420 not continuous but my younger days
00:01:05.220 like I would just be like
00:01:07.380 but how did you even know
00:01:08.400 I was talking to her on Facebook
00:01:09.760 or how did you know?
00:01:10.840 well I can answer that one for you
00:01:11.840 what made you think
00:01:12.880 and you've been like
00:01:13.380 oh a woman always knows
00:01:14.800 and I'm like what is this?
00:01:16.240 how does a woman know?
00:01:17.120 your behaviour probably change it
00:01:18.180 but I'm a really good actor
00:01:19.580 no no no
00:01:20.280 not even that
00:01:21.080 because there's a lot of subconscious things
00:01:24.120 that you would do
00:01:24.700 yeah okay so it's like
00:01:25.860 we pick up on little social cues
00:01:27.920 that like men don't
00:01:29.200 so like okay we'll see
00:01:31.000 we'll notice let's say
00:01:34.520 if you don't like text us
00:01:35.760 around the time you normally text us
00:01:37.340 or like or if you don't do something
00:01:39.420 you normally do
00:01:40.340 that you wouldn't like think anything
00:01:41.600 I'm like women we notice
00:01:42.620 yeah we notice everything
00:01:43.900 or if like you have a certain interaction
00:01:45.680 with a girl
00:01:46.400 and you think
00:01:47.140 well that's how he used to interact with me
00:01:48.880 I like when we first met
00:01:50.420 because the thing is
00:01:51.320 the thing is
00:01:51.920 guys have this as well
00:01:53.360 and guys
00:01:53.760 you know the whole
00:01:54.440 the whole thing of like
00:01:55.580 guys knowing who
00:01:56.500 that one guy friend
00:01:57.660 who's actually trying to fuck
00:01:58.740 guys also see this as well
00:02:00.380 so we all
00:02:00.780 we understand
00:02:01.300 it's just very
00:02:01.800 it's just kind of different
00:02:02.800 how we go about
00:02:04.220 dealing with it
00:02:05.340 so guys will go around
00:02:07.280 and be like
00:02:07.520 oh that one friend
00:02:08.940 we'll just say it directly
00:02:10.160 because guys are way more direct
00:02:11.520 than women
00:02:11.820 we'll be like yo
00:02:12.420 that friend Zeke
00:02:13.960 or whatever his name is
00:02:14.740 Zach
00:02:14.960 or I'm trying to think of random names
00:02:17.100 oh Zach's trying to fuck you
00:02:18.340 like there's going to be
00:02:19.740 doing one where guys
00:02:20.580 will tell their girlfriend
00:02:21.200 no he's no he's just like
00:02:22.340 a brother to me
00:02:23.340 a girl will do
00:02:25.300 will look at the same information
00:02:27.020 and instead of just saying it outright
00:02:28.600 like yo Sarah's trying to have sex with you bro
00:02:30.740 they'll be like
00:02:31.320 they'll go around and be like
00:02:33.140 get you to see it
00:02:35.120 through their words
00:02:36.660 type of thing
00:02:37.440 you get what I mean
00:02:38.680 it's very different approaches
00:02:40.080 that guys and girls take
00:02:41.320 the approach that we take sometimes
00:02:42.860 with guys is like
00:02:43.700 we think that that's going to repulse the girl
00:02:45.440 the girl likes sex bro
00:02:46.520 and she likes to take attention
00:02:47.620 if you say
00:02:48.080 you know that male friend
00:02:49.400 he wants to fuck you
00:02:50.240 you know he wants to fuck you
00:02:51.180 he wants to fuck you
00:02:52.240 she's not going to be like
00:02:52.280 oh no
00:02:53.700 she's going to just
00:02:54.320 she might be like
00:02:54.800 oh is it
00:02:55.340 you know what I mean
00:02:55.880 she probably knows already
00:02:56.700 but you know
00:02:57.220 at the end of the day
00:02:58.060 that's why I feel like
00:02:58.640 with male friends
00:02:59.360 with women and guys
00:03:01.140 like having that friendship
00:03:02.980 it's very much
00:03:04.180 it works in a woman's favour
00:03:06.120 a lot of the time
00:03:06.560 so you wouldn't let me
00:03:07.200 be a friend with your girl
00:03:08.140 sorry
00:03:08.660 you wouldn't let me
00:03:09.200 be a friend with your girl
00:03:10.060 you
00:03:10.820 you know
00:03:11.720 I don't think you're a friend
00:03:13.360 we're good bro
00:03:14.300 we're good
00:03:14.700 but I would treat you
00:03:16.540 like a male friend
00:03:17.360 that she has in it
00:03:18.280 so the boundaries
00:03:19.080 will be there
00:03:19.500 ain't no
00:03:19.840 let's get changed together
00:03:20.940 you can't come in one day
00:03:22.320 and you're in there changing
00:03:23.560 alright listen to this
00:03:24.360 yeah
00:03:24.540 I once had a girl
00:03:25.520 what was she
00:03:26.300 she wanted to come around my yard
00:03:27.580 and work or something
00:03:29.360 and she was like
00:03:30.440 oh
00:03:30.880 her boyfriend won't allow it
00:03:32.780 because it's just me and her
00:03:33.620 I was like
00:03:34.040 but why though
00:03:34.820 it's just me and her
00:03:36.060 she's working from
00:03:37.000 instead of working from home
00:03:38.060 it's about
00:03:38.580 it's about not putting
00:03:40.120 so her boyfriend said no
00:03:42.260 yeah
00:03:42.800 it's about her not being in a space
00:03:45.220 or in a situation
00:03:46.120 where something could happen
00:03:47.840 there should be boundaries in place
00:03:49.360 if you're in a created relationship
00:03:50.600 she was a friend of mine
00:03:51.940 she was a good friend of mine
00:03:53.900 yeah
00:03:54.400 but put it like this
00:03:55.440 I was in a situation
00:03:56.260 where I helped a girl
00:03:57.120 do her assignment
00:03:57.920 but by the end of the night
00:03:59.140 did we finish the assignment
00:04:00.260 no
00:04:00.660 you finished another assignment
00:04:04.060 no
00:04:04.540 no
00:04:04.800 because the situation
00:04:06.260 like one on one
00:04:07.460 in those type of situations
00:04:08.560 and those type of times
00:04:09.400 I can 100% understand
00:04:10.720 like the guy being like
00:04:12.020 I feel a bit of what
00:04:14.060 you think your fans
00:04:15.840 you were even scheming
00:04:17.020 I can see
00:04:17.440 Wayne is that guy
00:04:19.320 that cheats on
00:04:20.420 and then he will say
00:04:21.300 no
00:04:21.600 before 25
00:04:22.500 don't count
00:04:23.140 before 25
00:04:23.880 you know you have that man
00:04:24.940 that will be like
00:04:25.480 yo
00:04:25.820 my girl's trying to say
00:04:26.820 I was cheating on her
00:04:27.500 and I'm like
00:04:27.780 yeah
00:04:27.960 but bro you were
00:04:28.560 but you were
00:04:29.100 it's me
00:04:31.180 it's me you're talking to bro
00:04:32.820 like Wayne it's us
00:04:33.880 yeah it's us
00:04:34.840 it's fine
00:04:35.300 we get it
00:04:36.360 we understand
00:04:36.740 you just don't want to put yourself
00:04:38.580 in a situation
00:04:39.380 where something could come back
00:04:40.720 let's say the girl lies
00:04:42.080 and you can't really defend yourself
00:04:43.860 it's her word against yours
00:04:45.200 I think that there should be
00:04:46.660 boundaries in place
00:04:47.440 like I don't think it's okay
00:04:49.180 if you are
00:04:50.420 if she's in a relationship
00:04:51.280 it's not okay
00:04:52.000 for her to be bopping up
00:04:53.000 to your room
00:04:53.620 to work
00:04:54.180 like why
00:04:54.840 I don't understand
00:04:55.640 no but you're just chilling
00:04:57.080 you're working from home
00:04:58.340 you usually work from home
00:04:59.480 did you
00:04:59.900 when she said that to you
00:05:01.120 did you say
00:05:01.680 you know what
00:05:02.140 I understand
00:05:02.860 that's a really
00:05:03.500 like that's great
00:05:04.320 your boyfriend had boundaries
00:05:05.380 or did you say
00:05:06.240 oh that's horrible
00:05:07.140 I said to her
00:05:08.860 but he knows I'm by though
00:05:10.620 that doesn't help
00:05:12.020 have you and her been
00:05:14.260 intimate before
00:05:15.140 like back in the day
00:05:16.380 no we haven't
00:05:17.560 we got in a situation
00:05:18.620 where I knew she had feelings for me
00:05:20.860 oh
00:05:21.300 no come on
00:05:22.760 no no
00:05:23.980 two plus two is small
00:05:25.860 no
00:05:27.760 no
00:05:28.980 I'm a nice guy
00:05:30.880 this is how we don't trust you bro
00:05:33.980 this is how I don't trust you
00:05:36.060 come on
00:05:37.780 come on
00:05:38.060 I just wanted that friendship
00:05:39.040 that's all I wanted
00:05:39.840 whatever
00:05:40.220 whatever
00:05:40.800 whatever
00:05:41.620 whatever
00:05:42.260 do his Instagram
00:05:43.640 yeah let's check your Instagram
00:05:45.880 I don't have my glasses
00:05:47.860 okay I want to know
00:05:49.040 if you guys
00:05:49.800 I know you're not single
00:05:50.760 but when you were single
00:05:52.420 if you guys would respond
00:05:53.560 or not
00:05:54.060 and what you would think of him
00:05:55.740 man's a model still
00:05:57.040 you know I can't really see
00:05:59.900 is that your car
00:06:00.520 I feel like if I saw this Instagram
00:06:02.920 I would think problems
00:06:04.020 that's the one that the gauge
00:06:05.040 that's the one that the gauge
00:06:07.120 respond to you
00:06:07.780 yeah
00:06:08.240 I don't think this
00:06:12.740 I don't need these type of problems
00:06:14.340 you got blue ticks coming into yours as well
00:06:16.960 wow
00:06:17.500 oh yeah
00:06:22.400 defo
00:06:22.860 yeah
00:06:23.460 is that a magnum
00:06:26.280 you're
00:06:26.720 okay
00:06:27.500 what do you guys
00:06:32.160 what do you guys think
00:06:33.040 what would you
00:06:33.840 like the last picture
00:06:35.060 and this picture is fine
00:06:36.320 there was a couple pictures
00:06:37.500 that I'd be like
00:06:38.080 I'm a PT but
00:06:40.120 yeah
00:06:40.460 I hear you
00:06:41.280 you need to show the merchandise
00:06:43.940 isn't it
00:06:44.300 yeah
00:06:44.440 so would you guys respond
00:06:49.380 yeah probably
00:06:50.860 yeah
00:06:51.660 what about you two
00:06:53.500 would you respond
00:06:54.240 no
00:06:54.720 I don't know
00:06:57.160 I think you're a good looking guy
00:06:59.020 but
00:06:59.600 I don't know
00:07:01.020 because of course you had your
00:07:02.180 you were flexing
00:07:03.640 that's him
00:07:04.220 oh it's you
00:07:05.540 that's him
00:07:06.140 that's him
00:07:07.000 I know you think you're black guys
00:07:11.240 look at that
00:07:11.780 that's him
00:07:13.340 oh my god
00:07:14.260 that's my glasses
00:07:15.040 I was like
00:07:16.020 like
00:07:16.800 someone get us some glasses
00:07:18.400 someone get us some glasses
00:07:19.560 what am I
00:07:21.600 that's him
00:07:22.040 no yeah no
00:07:22.720 I mean you're a good looking guy
00:07:23.980 but I think yeah
00:07:24.680 there was a couple of pictures
00:07:25.540 that I'm
00:07:26.200 but I can't judge you
00:07:27.620 because you said you don't like
00:07:28.000 the whole top thing of
00:07:28.980 it's just
00:07:30.140 yeah there's just
00:07:30.960 something I
00:07:31.920 but yeah
00:07:33.240 talk
00:07:33.580 it's all good
00:07:34.160 but it's
00:07:35.060 I mean I think
00:07:35.720 I have that view in general though
00:07:37.420 like even if a girl is like
00:07:39.240 and I'm not going to say
00:07:40.220 I haven't done this in the past
00:07:41.300 but if you're out there
00:07:42.620 like bikini
00:07:43.300 like tits
00:07:44.040 like tits in the camera
00:07:45.460 like showing off your body
00:07:46.640 in a certain type of way
00:07:47.420 you want a certain type of attention
00:07:49.220 to like
00:07:50.040 I can't take you seriously
00:07:51.100 no I hear you
00:07:52.380 I hear that
00:07:53.180 I agree
00:07:54.220 see my Instagram is PG clean
00:07:57.760 PG protein
00:07:58.300 I was like
00:07:59.780 I just
00:08:00.520 I'm like
00:08:01.160 I would think
00:08:01.820 because when you see a profile like that
00:08:04.100 I would just assume
00:08:04.880 you get so much attention
00:08:06.100 which you're saying is true
00:08:07.420 and so I'm like
00:08:08.600 I am not
00:08:09.180 that's a headache
00:08:09.860 I don't want to deal with that
00:08:10.900 no I'm like
00:08:10.920 I'm too jealous
00:08:12.100 you don't want to be competitive man
00:08:13.500 you've got to go for it
00:08:14.380 you want in this life
00:08:15.260 you know what I mean
00:08:15.860 you're a demon
00:08:17.160 what is my other question
00:08:19.960 yeah
00:08:20.440 have you guys ever went through
00:08:22.340 a girl's phone
00:08:23.120 yeah
00:08:24.180 I mean businesses do audits right
00:08:26.000 damn
00:08:27.120 what did you find
00:08:30.060 did you find anything
00:08:30.840 most of the time
00:08:31.680 you know guys we're a bit
00:08:32.900 we're just
00:08:34.200 we don't go for the right things
00:08:35.220 I think women know exactly where to look
00:08:36.720 guys are going to look for
00:08:38.080 random shit
00:08:39.540 you're not going to find nothing
00:08:40.800 I've done it
00:08:41.840 I don't
00:08:42.120 I'll be honest though
00:08:43.120 I think once
00:08:45.300 once you're in that place where
00:08:47.060 it becomes a thing where you need to
00:08:49.060 then
00:08:50.480 and there's difference
00:08:51.560 like someone going
00:08:52.340 someone opening up your phone
00:08:53.560 in your sleep
00:08:54.040 is different to
00:08:54.820 like someone leaving you
00:08:56.340 with their phone
00:08:56.880 and then you might just
00:08:57.720 you know
00:08:58.500 okay that pop-up came up
00:08:59.640 what was that
00:09:00.080 what was that
00:09:00.620 yeah
00:09:00.840 it's a bit of a difference
00:09:03.500 if you're like waking people up
00:09:04.520 or like trying to
00:09:05.200 do all that kind of stuff
00:09:06.240 I think there's
00:09:06.780 there's other problems there
00:09:07.760 I think sometimes
00:09:08.760 there's a curiosity thing
00:09:09.920 where that people have
00:09:11.360 where it's just open
00:09:12.780 and you just
00:09:13.360 you might just
00:09:13.880 or like
00:09:14.220 because there's even times
00:09:15.560 where I'll put it down to
00:09:16.980 someone being on their phone
00:09:18.140 next to you
00:09:18.700 and how many times
00:09:19.960 like let's say someone's typing
00:09:21.040 their password in front of you
00:09:21.860 how many times do
00:09:22.640 man don't want to be
00:09:23.620 guys so we do this
00:09:24.760 and we will
00:09:25.360 what are you doing man
00:09:27.040 look at that bro
00:09:28.580 like look at it
00:09:29.600 you know what I mean
00:09:30.080 but we do that
00:09:30.840 because your women
00:09:31.360 will look at it easy
00:09:32.160 but you know guys
00:09:33.200 you want to feel secure
00:09:33.880 so you're just like
00:09:34.400 no I'm not even going to look
00:09:35.240 because you don't want problems
00:09:36.380 innit
00:09:36.640 but sometimes
00:09:37.420 you just look and see
00:09:38.600 what's going on
00:09:39.360 everything cool
00:09:39.840 alright cool
00:09:40.480 you know what I mean
00:09:41.200 I haven't checked
00:09:43.060 in the same way
00:09:43.860 of like being that one
00:09:45.180 like person
00:09:46.360 who's very worried
00:09:47.080 and had to check
00:09:47.620 through the phone
00:09:48.120 the check in
00:09:48.980 that check in
00:09:49.720 quote on quote
00:09:50.200 is one of those ones
00:09:50.860 like you said
00:09:51.460 you're on her phone
00:09:52.660 you're playing
00:09:53.180 fucking fruit ninja
00:09:54.100 or whatever
00:09:54.500 and like a text comes up
00:09:56.020 and you're like
00:09:56.300 I'm like
00:09:57.680 I don't go through
00:09:59.000 anyone's phone
00:09:59.580 that's your private thing
00:10:00.900 that's your private space
00:10:02.020 but you see the name
00:10:02.940 and you see what the message is
00:10:04.040 and you're like
00:10:04.440 okay
00:10:05.100 you just keep a mental note
00:10:06.180 of like alright
00:10:06.740 I think yeah
00:10:07.600 if you don't trust your partner
00:10:08.780 then I think that
00:10:09.560 life is too short
00:10:12.440 for me to go through
00:10:13.520 your phone
00:10:14.020 it's like
00:10:14.400 why am I even with you
00:10:15.480 I