JustPearlyThings - Why Women Are Not GOOD Decision Makers

00:00:00.000 Well, they can go left, definitely.

00:00:01.140 But I think what we were saying about the Hindu statistic is that when it's structured

00:00:06.140 and when it's based on something beyond just emotion, when there's a bigger, a wider structure

00:00:11.760 to it, then it's more likely to last, isn't it, in that situation?

00:00:15.760 Look what happens when women follow their feelings. 1.00

00:00:18.980 We're freaking idiots. 1.00

00:00:20.940 It's a total mess out there. 1.00

00:00:23.240 You know, 100 years ago, 95% of people were married.

00:00:27.700 Well, 95% of people were less exposed as well.

00:00:30.000 Wow, correct.

00:00:31.000 What has that done?

00:00:31.800 So it's like if 95% of people are married, now women have more power than ever to pick 1.00

00:00:37.380 their partner.

00:00:38.360 We have dating apps, we have Instagram.

00:00:40.060 We have more freedom than we've ever had and less influence from our family because we're

00:00:44.980 getting married at 31, 27.

00:00:47.080 So the more freedom we have, the more divorced our country is.

00:00:52.580 I get what you're saying.

00:00:54.460 I think the difference is with marriage, especially when you're saying arranged marriage, right?

00:00:57.840 It's about duty.

00:00:59.160 And I think about duty, right?

00:01:00.640 Even when you love someone, there are going to be things, in order for it to be successful,

00:01:04.900 there are going to be things that you are going to have to do that you don't want to do,

00:01:08.380 right?

00:01:08.680 Yes.

00:01:09.520 All these guys are, you know, your content creators, even Pearl, right?

00:01:12.420 There are plenty of things about being a content creator.

00:01:15.640 Yeah, we love creating the content, but there are plenty of things that you have to do that

00:01:19.240 we, if we could choose, we wouldn't have to do. 0.98

00:01:21.020 We don't want to buy all the expensive shit. 0.99

00:01:22.900 We don't want to have to learn how to make a funnel. 0.99

00:01:24.840 Making thumbnails.

00:01:25.320 Making thumbnails.

00:01:25.760 Doing a funnel system.

00:01:26.840 Doing a super jet.

00:01:27.740 We don't want to have to learn to do that, right?

00:01:29.540 But we choose to do those things because it's about serving the bigger picture.

00:01:32.920 So I think in marriage, right, when you only function from your feelings, you only make

00:01:38.020 decisions from your feelings, it means there are going to be days where you should be choosing

00:01:41.740 to do something because it's your duty to, even when you don't want to for the marriage.

00:01:45.940 Yeah, but that's the problem.

00:01:46.920 But probably societally, societally, the big problem now is, of course, there's not really

00:01:50.880 those constraints, is there?

00:01:52.240 So, you know, and that's the fundamental issue.

00:01:54.600 Look what was mentioned earlier, Ron.

00:01:55.800 Someone, I can't remember if it was one of you guys, but someone mentioned how when

00:01:59.380 in a Chinese or Japanese relationship, when someone reached the age of 40 years old, the

00:02:04.560 woman was like, go have sex with who you feel like. 1.00

00:02:07.320 Now, don't get a girlfriend. 1.00

00:02:08.800 Go get a girlfriend. 0.95

00:02:09.540 Now, this is the thing, though.

00:02:10.560 Like, I do believe that within a marriage and within a relationship, there are some factors

00:02:14.580 that I think should be maintained throughout from beginning.

00:02:17.160 It starts to when it ends.

00:02:18.560 And I do think attraction, maybe not even sexual attraction, but just attraction of your

00:02:22.600 partner.

00:02:22.980 I think that's something that should be maintained throughout.

00:02:24.860 And it's like, I think that if, like, what's the, my question is for the balance, the balance

00:02:29.860 of logical things that need to be done and that fun romanticism that's still important

00:02:34.420 as well.

00:02:34.740 I think there should be no balance.

00:02:36.200 There should be no balance.

00:02:37.380 Not, I think in an ideal world.

00:02:40.180 In an ideal world.

00:02:40.980 Yeah.

00:02:41.180 Yeah.

00:02:41.400 Okay.

00:02:41.680 I mean, is that realistic in the West?

00:02:44.040 Maybe if we banned women voting, birth control and a lot of other stuff. 1.00

00:02:47.200 If we ban TikTok, we'll bring it back.

00:02:48.420 Yeah, that's a whole nother, nother topic.

00:02:50.680 But, but it's like, we look at the outcomes.

00:02:53.200 There's no feelings involved.

00:02:54.620 99% success rate.

00:02:57.040 Women's feelings get involved. 1.00

00:02:59.200 Yeah.

00:02:59.480 50% success rate.

00:03:01.580 Average age of marriage is eight years.

00:03:03.340 They have like 12 bodies.

00:03:04.880 90% of us are on birth control.

00:03:06.580 One out of three of us has an STD.

00:03:08.360 One out of three out of us has an abortion. 0.56

00:03:10.820 And John Zerk is, John Zerk is getting laid like a rock star.

00:03:13.480 Yeah.

00:03:14.020 I mean, what's that all about?

00:03:15.920 Yeah, you know.

00:03:16.740 Johnny.

00:03:17.280 I think the issue with today is that everyone's feelings are being directed in a distracting

00:03:22.280 manner.

00:03:22.940 And I think that's what the issue is.

00:03:24.400 It's not that people have.

00:03:25.380 I think it's women's feelings. 1.00

00:03:26.600 Yeah, women. 1.00

00:03:27.080 I say women's then because men don't even necessarily control that element of things. 1.00

00:03:29.940 But in regards to women, I feel like their feelings are being directed towards,

00:03:33.940 Oh, wait, Cardi B just got bought a Birkin bag from Offset.

00:03:38.300 I want my, my feelings are telling me I now want that.

00:03:40.880 So now that's the definition of what love is to me.

00:03:43.100 I was, I was listening to, I was listening to a song from the nineties and it was like

00:03:47.700 a Trisha Yearwood song.

00:03:49.480 And in the song, it talks about how the guy gave her his high school ring as a wedding

00:03:54.260 ring until he could afford a real one.

00:03:56.480 What, what percent of women would accept his high school ring as their wedding ring?

00:04:01.700 Get married in a courthouse.

00:04:03.520 And maybe do a wedding later.

00:04:06.100 That would be, it's about, it's about the wedding.

00:04:08.600 It's not about the marriage.

00:04:09.540 Like we spend so much time thinking about what, what is life going to be like?

00:04:14.380 What is this magical wedding day going to be like?

00:04:17.200 But they've never thought, what's it going to be like my day to day as a wife?

00:04:20.780 You know, I had a girl come on the show where she was literally telling me how she was

00:04:25.840 going to have four kids and then meditate in the morning journal.

00:04:29.920 Like that was how she was going to start her day with four kids.

00:04:32.500 No.

00:04:33.000 No, this is the delusion.

00:04:34.160 I'm like, someone's going to be screaming.

00:04:36.060 Someone's going to be crying.

00:04:37.440 Someone's going to be pulling you out of bed.

00:04:39.380 Yeah.

00:04:39.660 But it's like, we have all this thought about a wedding and never about being a wife.

00:04:43.260 I mean, you know, they did a study too, that found out like the larger your wedding is,

00:04:49.400 the more likely you are to get a divorce. 0.98

00:04:51.080 Right. 1.00

00:04:51.380 Oh, shit. 1.00

00:04:51.860 Right. 1.00

00:04:52.520 You care about appearance.

00:04:54.400 A lot of times everybody's, because so many people, here's the biggest problem with relationships

00:05:00.360 is so many people worried about what other people think about your relationship.

00:05:04.540 Yeah.

00:05:04.940 Yes.

00:05:05.280 That's a big problem.

00:05:06.100 But that's the economy right now.

00:05:07.000 You know, and this attention economy, you know, that everybody's like, oh, you know,

00:05:10.820 I need to be this flex culture.

00:05:12.740 I need this.

00:05:13.180 I need that.

00:05:13.620 But if a girl is really down for you, she needs like a couple people at the wedding, 1.00

00:05:18.460 her family, you know, mom, dad, and have a good time.

00:05:21.940 And at the end of the day, if she really, really, really loves you, she'll get married

00:05:25.820 at the courthouse.

00:05:26.500 She'll sign paperwork because she's understanding the longevity of you two being together is more

00:05:32.140 important than showing the world how awesome you are as a bride.

00:05:35.920 I can relate to this topic a lot because obviously I'm a female and I've kind of had

00:05:40.940 to think about these things.

00:05:43.320 Basically, like from my experience, when I was younger, like in my early 20s, I'm in my

00:05:48.160 mid-20s now, obviously.

00:05:49.800 But I always refused.

00:05:52.260 I had like proposals before and stuff.

00:05:54.080 Like obviously us Muslims, we talk about marriage more quicker and all this stuff because it's

00:05:58.580 like a lot of us are trying to do a culture and then religious, some are more religious

00:06:03.320 than others.

00:06:04.000 So I was speaking to different guys about marriage.

00:06:06.340 Yeah.

00:06:07.240 And I was declining quite a few of them because I, they didn't really want to have a big

00:06:13.740 wedding.

00:06:14.640 Some, it wasn't because of the finances.

00:06:17.480 Some could have been even like the attention, too much attention, all these people for one

00:06:22.660 night, I'm spending all this money and they're going to share it out.

00:06:25.040 And then tomorrow everyone goes on the day, but we're here dealing with this.

00:06:29.240 So I, I always used to be like, no, go away, go away because I want this big wedding.

00:06:33.920 I only have one day to get married.

00:06:36.420 I need to see myself do this.

00:06:38.240 And also my sister had a big wedding as well.

00:06:40.480 So I was like, hold on, I'm not going to downgrade.

00:06:44.080 No way.

00:06:44.840 If she can do it, I can do it too.

00:06:46.940 And then now that I'm in my mid-20s, I feel like I've matured a lot.

00:06:50.100 I'm like, that's not even important because what's important is me and him and getting

00:06:56.100 God involved and committing.

00:06:57.680 Those three things are important.

00:06:59.420 You can always do a celebration later.

00:07:01.740 Like, can we blame men for not, you know, can we blame men for not wanting to spend a

00:07:06.260 ton of money on a wedding when the average marriage is like eight years?

00:07:09.720 So let's make it 10, do something crazy.

00:07:11.720 Exactly.

00:07:12.220 But I was so oblivious to the situation.

00:07:14.180 I wasn't thinking from their side.

00:07:15.500 You're not alone because it's like, we always talk about that in the media.

00:07:18.180 It's always talking about the wedding, but never being a wife.

00:07:20.640 Like what, what wives like, and traditional wives are really pushed in the media. 1.00

00:07:25.240 Exactly.

00:07:25.600 I couldn't even think of one real homemaker, traditional chick that I've seen on TV. 1.00

00:07:30.300 That's like famous.

00:07:31.240 That's true.

00:07:31.880 I can't think of one.

00:07:33.040 Those lyrics that you're talking about though, if that was a real story now, that would

00:07:35.960 be a viral TikTok, wouldn't it?

00:07:37.100 Like, oh my God, look at this Brokey.

00:07:38.560 He tried to, he tried to give me my high school ring.

00:07:41.140 I think of one, LeBron James's wife.

00:07:43.560 Yeah.

00:07:44.120 Yeah.

00:07:44.540 LeBron James's wife.

00:07:45.320 And now, now name like, name like 10.

00:07:48.180 Mainstream hoes. 1.00

00:07:49.120 Oh, that sounds easy.

00:07:51.400 It's true.

00:07:51.900 Speaking of this topic, do you guys believe in evil eye?

00:07:54.960 What do you mean?

00:07:55.400 Evil eye.

00:07:55.780 Evil eye.

00:07:56.320 Evil eye.

00:07:56.360 So people could do it.

00:07:57.420 I believe in it.

00:07:58.440 There's evil eye. 0.86

00:07:59.280 They couldn't even, in our religion, we believe in it.

00:08:01.360 Basically, you can do it intentionally or unintentionally.

00:08:04.700 For example, like you just see someone that looks great or they have this nice thing.

00:08:09.260 We, when we say that, we say martial law so we don't jinx it accidentally.

00:08:12.860 Not intentionally, but it can accidentally be like, wow, and then we can accidentally jinx

00:08:16.520 that person.

00:08:16.940 So that's actually their thing.

00:08:18.560 So what happens in these big weddings is you're getting all these people involved.

00:08:22.680 They're all seeing who you're marrying, what you lot are able to afford.

00:08:26.640 You are causing a lot of attention and it could be evil eye as well, intentionally or

00:08:30.880 non-intentionally regardless.

00:08:32.260 Yeah.

00:08:32.460 And then now you lot have all this burden.

00:08:34.160 Yeah, people, people used to just go to the courthouse and it was fine.

00:08:37.440 But now, and like the other thing is other women ruin it because they're like, oh, well, 1.00

00:08:41.060 my man got me this, my man got me that.

00:08:43.540 Exactly.

00:08:43.940 A lot of the times the girl's saying that it's because something's wrong.

JustPearlyThings - June 18, 2023

Why Women Are Not GOOD Decision Makers

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