Why Women Are Not GOOD Decision Makers
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the benefits and drawbacks of arranged marriages and why women should choose their partners based on more than just their feelings. We also talk about TikTok, abortion, and why we should ban birth control in the West.
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But I think what we were saying about the Hindu statistic is that when it's structured
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and when it's based on something beyond just emotion, when there's a bigger, a wider structure
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to it, then it's more likely to last, isn't it, in that situation?
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Look what happens when women follow their feelings.
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You know, 100 years ago, 95% of people were married.
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So it's like if 95% of people are married, now women have more power than ever to pick
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We have more freedom than we've ever had and less influence from our family because we're
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So the more freedom we have, the more divorced our country is.
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I think the difference is with marriage, especially when you're saying arranged marriage, right?
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Even when you love someone, there are going to be things, in order for it to be successful,
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there are going to be things that you are going to have to do that you don't want to do,
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All these guys are, you know, your content creators, even Pearl, right?
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There are plenty of things about being a content creator.
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Yeah, we love creating the content, but there are plenty of things that you have to do that
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we, if we could choose, we wouldn't have to do.
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We don't want to have to learn how to make a funnel.
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We don't want to have to learn to do that, right?
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But we choose to do those things because it's about serving the bigger picture.
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So I think in marriage, right, when you only function from your feelings, you only make
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decisions from your feelings, it means there are going to be days where you should be choosing
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to do something because it's your duty to, even when you don't want to for the marriage.
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But probably societally, societally, the big problem now is, of course, there's not really
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So, you know, and that's the fundamental issue.
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Someone, I can't remember if it was one of you guys, but someone mentioned how when
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in a Chinese or Japanese relationship, when someone reached the age of 40 years old, the
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woman was like, go have sex with who you feel like.
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Like, I do believe that within a marriage and within a relationship, there are some factors
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that I think should be maintained throughout from beginning.
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And I do think attraction, maybe not even sexual attraction, but just attraction of your
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I think that's something that should be maintained throughout.
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And it's like, I think that if, like, what's the, my question is for the balance, the balance
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of logical things that need to be done and that fun romanticism that's still important
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Maybe if we banned women voting, birth control and a lot of other stuff.
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And John Zerk is, John Zerk is getting laid like a rock star.
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I think the issue with today is that everyone's feelings are being directed in a distracting
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I say women's then because men don't even necessarily control that element of things.
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But in regards to women, I feel like their feelings are being directed towards,
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Oh, wait, Cardi B just got bought a Birkin bag from Offset.
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I want my, my feelings are telling me I now want that.
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So now that's the definition of what love is to me.
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I was, I was listening to, I was listening to a song from the nineties and it was like
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And in the song, it talks about how the guy gave her his high school ring as a wedding
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What, what percent of women would accept his high school ring as their wedding ring?
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That would be, it's about, it's about the wedding.
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Like we spend so much time thinking about what, what is life going to be like?
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What is this magical wedding day going to be like?
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But they've never thought, what's it going to be like my day to day as a wife?
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You know, I had a girl come on the show where she was literally telling me how she was
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going to have four kids and then meditate in the morning journal.
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Like that was how she was going to start her day with four kids.
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But it's like, we have all this thought about a wedding and never about being a wife.
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I mean, you know, they did a study too, that found out like the larger your wedding is,
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A lot of times everybody's, because so many people, here's the biggest problem with relationships
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is so many people worried about what other people think about your relationship.
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You know, and this attention economy, you know, that everybody's like, oh, you know,
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But if a girl is really down for you, she needs like a couple people at the wedding,
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her family, you know, mom, dad, and have a good time.
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And at the end of the day, if she really, really, really loves you, she'll get married
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She'll sign paperwork because she's understanding the longevity of you two being together is more
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important than showing the world how awesome you are as a bride.
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I can relate to this topic a lot because obviously I'm a female and I've kind of had
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Basically, like from my experience, when I was younger, like in my early 20s, I'm in my
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Like obviously us Muslims, we talk about marriage more quicker and all this stuff because it's
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like a lot of us are trying to do a culture and then religious, some are more religious
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So I was speaking to different guys about marriage.
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And I was declining quite a few of them because I, they didn't really want to have a big
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Some could have been even like the attention, too much attention, all these people for one
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night, I'm spending all this money and they're going to share it out.
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And then tomorrow everyone goes on the day, but we're here dealing with this.
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So I, I always used to be like, no, go away, go away because I want this big wedding.
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So I was like, hold on, I'm not going to downgrade.
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And then now that I'm in my mid-20s, I feel like I've matured a lot.
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I'm like, that's not even important because what's important is me and him and getting
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Like, can we blame men for not, you know, can we blame men for not wanting to spend a
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ton of money on a wedding when the average marriage is like eight years?
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You're not alone because it's like, we always talk about that in the media.
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It's always talking about the wedding, but never being a wife.
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Like what, what wives like, and traditional wives are really pushed in the media.
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I couldn't even think of one real homemaker, traditional chick that I've seen on TV.
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Those lyrics that you're talking about though, if that was a real story now, that would
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He tried to, he tried to give me my high school ring.
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Speaking of this topic, do you guys believe in evil eye?
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They couldn't even, in our religion, we believe in it.
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Basically, you can do it intentionally or unintentionally.
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For example, like you just see someone that looks great or they have this nice thing.
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We, when we say that, we say martial law so we don't jinx it accidentally.
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Not intentionally, but it can accidentally be like, wow, and then we can accidentally jinx
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So what happens in these big weddings is you're getting all these people involved.
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They're all seeing who you're marrying, what you lot are able to afford.
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You are causing a lot of attention and it could be evil eye as well, intentionally or
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Yeah, people, people used to just go to the courthouse and it was fine.
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But now, and like the other thing is other women ruin it because they're like, oh, well,
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A lot of the times the girl's saying that it's because something's wrong.