Why WOMEN dress to ATTRACT MEN
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about self-objectification, self-esteem and the women's practice of dressing up as a man in order to attract a man. We also discuss the benefits of self- objectification and how to deal with it in the dating world.
Transcript
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do you know um behind makeup like there's biological reasons that we wear them so like
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so it's like so how can we say it's not for other people when you're signaling sexual arousal
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i've heard this i don't know where that like is that what it like yeah because it's like during
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sex your your lips are red that's why there's red lipstick and it's like it's same with yeah
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blush on the cheeks your eyes because you look younger yeah more attractive and i heard i heard
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that women wear red because they put red on what they want men to notice oh interesting yeah so
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that's why a woman would wear a red dress and red makeup so like a woman to a man red you see red
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from anywhere yeah it's definitely a inciting and you're more likely to wear red when you're ovulating
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too cute i'm bleeding by the way i'm also red but there's one thing that you there's one thing that
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you fail to you fail to understand the women's practice um self-objectification where the image
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that you portray is what we see so if you dress up in a way that suggests that all you want is
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sex that's what we see yeah but they're yeah but they'll they'll convince themselves but you're gonna
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say yeah i'm doing this for myself what do you mean by dress in a way that says i'm wanting sex okay
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look at this way for me i think the dating dating is a gateway to three marketplaces so you've got
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the sexual marketplace the relationship marketplace and the marriage marketplace so when the woman
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dresses up as a guy at one look at her in five seconds i can tell which of those marketplace she
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wants me to see by just looking at the way she dress and most men are like me so how has that worked
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out for you so far just like not in an offensive way but how is that so you've put these women into
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these three categories um how has that worked out for you so far are you now in a you said you're
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single so has that putting them into those three marketplaces by judging them by the way that they've
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dressed has that worked out for you well i used to be married i was married for 20 years okay so when
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that ended i decided okay forget marriage let me just do this sexual marketplace thing okay that was
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brilliant it was liberating and all that but i then got to the point where i think you know women is
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too much trouble but it's true women even the nicest one comes along and because i'm a nice guy
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a girl told me that i'm too nice and because of that i'm vulnerable and she's trying to take advantage
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of me so i'm thinking okay fine i will come and find you when i need you you can't you can't shame him
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by like implying like that as personal life because that's kind of what you're doing i'll tell you but
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but i'm saying but i'm saying like like because that's how men are is they they categorize women
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by like the way you present yourself yeah like the same way girls will categorize men by the way
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they if they look like a bum or they're wearing a suit and there's another thing that you don't
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realize when you spend three hours doing yourself up and you come out it's from my point of view it's
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good for your mental health if i look at you and make comments because otherwise that would be a waste
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of three hours of your life if i don't say anything it's polite yeah i don't think so do you know what i don't
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you think so no that's how it works so i see you i think oh she spends so much time let me give a
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compliment you look nice even if i don't want anything with you yeah like because if if a girl
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is dressing in a way that's seeking attention how can she be mad when she gets it so if you're if
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you're dressing in a way where your ass is out your boobs are out you're you're a full face of makeup
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you could you could you could have dressed like like i don't get compliments when i go out in my
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sweats like so we can't change the outcome for our actions that's the thing if we do something people
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are going to perceive it one way or another but i think a lot of yeah i think like i tend to think
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that you know you shouldn't just because i'm dressed a certain way doesn't mean that's who i am and that
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might be true but the thing is people judge by the first few seconds of what they see you especially
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men when it comes to deciding is this do i see this person as a wife yeah to me or do i see
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um this person as somebody who might be good for a hookup or whatever people but what women don't
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realize is you think a man thinks like you so you then think okay i want to be a wife and then you
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dress like a slut and the one's looking at you and thinking oh this is a slut and most men will
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not be honest enough to tell you that yeah the truth is there's a saying right clothing is the
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dress of thought you can tell a lot about someone by how they wear their clothes the kind of clothes
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they wear so and i think women understand this women the women understand women are extremely women
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know this stuff very very well i think women like talk to each other and they're like could i convince
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this guy that this guy is actually green like can i convince this guy that i wore this g-string just
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because i like g-strengths i did it for me i wore a thong bikini for myself it's so comfortable
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though you get like less tan lines it works the same way for men though why do you want that big
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white patch all the way across your bum do you know what i mean so it works the same for men
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because i remember i got stopped by the police and the police said to me do you know i will stop you
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i said no it's and they gave me this bullshit about your car's got no mot and i'm dressed in
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shirt and trousers then they stop another black guy he came out he's got his jeans on his pants
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showing and the way they treated him i would literally stand inside each other the way they
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treated him was completely different they treated me with respect they tore his car away they find
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two thoughts on my car and they gave me an option which i found strange they said you got an option i
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said what's that said three points or you're going to retire and i think are you serious he said yeah
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so i went i said i'll change time they didn't give the boy they didn't give me any option at all
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they found one foot in this car they brought the tow truck and took it away
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and he didn't he didn't say anything it wasn't rude it was just the way he dressed
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do you think do you not judge people at all by the way they're dressed
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so if a dude comes in a very nice expensive suit you don't assume he has a better job than a
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homeless man on the street i mean the assumption on the like on the job front yeah i get it right
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i get that like maybe this person's so you can make assumptions such as like maybe they have more
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money or maybe you don't think a girl that wears less clothes and posts her ass on the internet has a
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higher need for attention than someone who doesn't you know that everyone's needy though like if you're
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online posting pictures you're needy anyway so so could you answer the question yeah yes or no
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do you think a girl that posts her ass on the internet needs more attention than someone who
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doesn't depends what yes or no yes or no yes or no you can you could say yes and then explain or no
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and then explain okay um no and i'll explain okay right because you can i feel like you can know
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yourself i'm not saying i don't know how to like word it you can know yourself and depend oh it depends
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what you use your social media for right that that's the way i'm going about it because if you're just
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if you're just like an average person and you're just you're just randomly taking pictures of yourself
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naked and then posting them on instagram then yeah i would say that is for attention okay but if you're
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like i don't know if you're if you've got a swimsuit collection and you've got a business then i don't
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think but you could you could have a model do that it doesn't have to be you you could you could just
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pay someone to do it or there's a lot of women it would still be someone that's naked on your
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instagram though yeah but it wouldn't be be you yeah so you still stand by the no she just tried
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to dance right i want to say it's 50 50. can i say it's just female what percent what percent of
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women do you think own a swimsuit collection everyone oh wait a swimsuit collection out of
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100 women how many own a swimsuit collection out of 100 women how many own a swimsuit collection
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like probably like one okay so why why are you standing on the 50 50 then because i just don't
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think that like why do you post pictures of yourself when you're at the beach you want to like
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for attention like why would you post any you could send a picture to the people you want to send it to
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like your friends and family why do anything on the internet do you know i think it'd be weirder if
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one of my friends sent text me a picture of her at the beach than if i saw it online but i'm saying
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it's for attention regardless it's for attention from someone you could just take the pictures to have
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other like why would you post it if you didn't want other people to see it and get attention from it