Why Women Go For TOXIC Relationships
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Summary
In this episode we talk about toxic relationships and how to deal with toxic exes. We discuss how toxic relationships affect our mental health and how toxic people affect us and how we deal with them. We also discuss toxic relationships in the media, social media, drama and how they affect us in real life.
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the label toxic is overused in relationships today yes yeah yeah i mean look at me like
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10 minutes ago i was like yeah i've been in a relationship when he's been liking like come on
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now like really and then hearing their stories that you know there's different like i said
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there's different um heights of toxic levels of toxicness and again it's what you perceive
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the word toxic to mean so but i do think that toxic relationships and like just with anyone
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like friends partners and stuff it's like really like promoted on social media it is it is like the
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toxic relationship lifestyles like toxic love like everyone yeah like with kushan and and what's his
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name blue face yeah yeah yeah that's why i don't understand why they get so much attention for that
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and it's like so unhealthy they're probably so both so depressed and unhappy i feel like to be toxic you
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have to have a very strong head yeah like for them to be toxic they know what they're doing it's like
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they don't it's not like they don't know what they're doing it's like it's like it's calculated
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yeah they're doing it on purpose from what i've seen that's what it looks like yeah i mean to be
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honest i feel like with toxic relationships you get that adrenaline rush from like when things are
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good and then when it goes like really bad you just think about the good times which is why you stay
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with that person rather than the negative you feel like you're making excuses for yourself to stay
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yeah and obviously it's so up and down like once it goes down you're like oh my god i can't wait for
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it to like go back up again like and everything to be good because you guys go through like really
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good phases and it's like a little bit of hope almost yeah that's good part or sometimes you're
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just used to it this is your comfort zone now yeah the cons will eventually outweigh the post i mean
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that's when you know how do you get used to it no because some people have grown up in even like a
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toxic household like with toxic families like also like how someone's been raised has a big impact on
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like the type of men they go for women also like drama yeah they do they do they love it i mean
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why don't women watch sports that's camaraderie we like the kardashians that's true oh my god i love
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the kardashians number one fan so much like red flag red flag don't do that kardashians live the life
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watch watch me in a year's time i'm gonna be sitting with kim kardashian she's gonna be me and her
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i'm gonna be telling you now manifestation me and how i'm gonna be opposite each other working on
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you know skims x i've got a cover land dropping soon as well joining my music so mad madness
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told you i'm such a east dennis fan so i can't you know what i like you know but east dennis christmas
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specials yeah they're drama every day every day i used to do that i used to do that i used to watch
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senders every single day but then the the storyline is just too dark for me like it's so negative
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up to a point you might be able to handle it but like it got to a point where i could not i could
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not anymore but that is toxic actually question what is toxics and where does it come from
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i think something that's not good for you but you want it you go for it anyway but something that's
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genuinely like bad for your your mental health and i think it's and you do it anyway a long duration
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but where does it stem from though where does it stem from i think well toxic relationships
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stem from lack of boundaries i'm talking about toxic not toxic relationship there's two different
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toxic itself what does it stem from toxic it's something harmful something dangerous people use
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that for food because it's like poison wouldn't you say yeah because that's what it can lead to it can
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like damage and it's harmful to your mental health and then it can jammy needs other things
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the environment have have you guys ever been labeled a toxic ex like would your exes say that
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you're toxic yes yes yeah no i haven't no no but i would say i could be toxic if i choose to be toxic
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oh yeah yeah exactly that that's the energy yeah i agree with that that's why i said for you to be
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toxic you have to have a strong head and people know what they do when they be toxic it's not like
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no it's like a mind game 100 i agree what do you think have you ever been labeled a toxic ex would
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direct to say you're toxic they would they would say i'm toxic only because i'm not as lit as me
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that is why i wouldn't say i'm toxic because um because um we're not going to talk about the whole
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like and follow that thing because i was in the past that was 10 minutes ago but yeah i don't think
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i would be called toxic how how do you guys how do you guys think past relationships shape future
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relationships you know the difference between lust and love oh my goodness you know the difference
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i feel like if you're able to reflect if you're able to reflect and not carry on the patterns that
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you had in your past relationship 100 you need to be self-aware in that aspect yeah 100 like erica
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produced said yes in that song bag lady she's like pack light because if you bring all your emotional
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baggage into your future relationships they're never going to work no one wants to deal with your
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baggage is she married now or no erica padu i think she's got kids i don't know she's got kids
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she's got a kid she does have kids i don't know why i'm married i don't know i'm not in the loop
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actually i met her once really yeah wow i didn't i didn't know who she was though no way yeah she was
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cool though i love her she's she's sick do you guys think that the best predictor of uh future
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relationships is past relationships yeah yeah yeah i don't think so because i feel like in life like if you
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go into a relationship and you learn the lesson that it's taught you after you've broken up
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then no but if you don't learn the lesson then the universe is just going to keep sending you the
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same person in a different body and you're going to have to keep realizing why do we say the universe
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is gonna you pick up no no no no because because hold on hold on hold on i'm adding that to my
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list of wait wait wait wait i'm adding that to my list of things like i want girls to stop saying
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the universe but you know what some people really genuinely believe that no the universe does because
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if not if not why is it that the same person with the same character traits with the same habits with
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the same comes to you again i got you i need to learn the lesson i can i can i can break it down
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for you choices thank you yeah that's your question no i'm saying like you either like toxic you probably
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like toxic people and you're probably toxic but at the same time a lot of the time you're the common
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denominator actually i understand that so then girls will wait wait so girls girls will take
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accountability off of them and say it's the it's and i'm not trying to pick on you but it's like
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they'll say the universe and then it's like it might not be the universe it's probably you
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but at the same time though a lot of toxic relationships don't start off toxic they start
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off like normal relationships yeah yeah and then they change they change after the honeymoon phase
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that's true what i would say is yeah poor choices but it's because you haven't learned your lesson
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the first time yeah and there's only so many relationships you're going to go through before
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you need to look inwards and be like okay maybe i'm the problem yeah and i but self-reflection is hard
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you know yeah it might have to look at yourself it might not it might not start toxic but then
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you probably do something that's toxic if every relationship yeah no one's perfect so actually
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relating to what you said it makes sense because when you said environment and um how it relates
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i feel like it makes sense and when you said it's you environment and you so it all depends on
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where you come from your upbringing upbringing and what makes you who you are so i feel like when
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you're in relation a past relationship can make your future relationship better but how that makes
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it better is by you knowing yourself uh-huh you have to do self-reflection you said self-reflection
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if you don't reflect on yourself or if you don't know yourself or if you don't do better if you
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continue to do the same thing it's like whether you see and whether you like what you do that is what
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