JustPearlyThings - Why Women Go For TOXIC Relationships

00:00:00.000 the label toxic is overused in relationships today yes yeah yeah i mean look at me like

00:00:07.000 10 minutes ago i was like yeah i've been in a relationship when he's been liking like come on

00:00:11.820 now like really and then hearing their stories that you know there's different like i said

00:00:15.180 there's different um heights of toxic levels of toxicness and again it's what you perceive

00:00:20.720 the word toxic to mean so but i do think that toxic relationships and like just with anyone

00:00:27.720 like friends partners and stuff it's like really like promoted on social media it is it is like the

00:00:34.220 toxic relationship lifestyles like toxic love like everyone yeah like with kushan and and what's his

00:00:40.360 name blue face yeah yeah yeah that's why i don't understand why they get so much attention for that

00:00:45.820 and it's like so unhealthy they're probably so both so depressed and unhappy i feel like to be toxic you 0.69

00:00:51.220 have to have a very strong head yeah like for them to be toxic they know what they're doing it's like

00:00:57.120 they don't it's not like they don't know what they're doing it's like it's like it's calculated

00:01:00.340 yeah they're doing it on purpose from what i've seen that's what it looks like yeah i mean to be

00:01:05.700 honest i feel like with toxic relationships you get that adrenaline rush from like when things are

00:01:10.720 good and then when it goes like really bad you just think about the good times which is why you stay

00:01:15.100 with that person rather than the negative you feel like you're making excuses for yourself to stay

00:01:18.860 yeah and obviously it's so up and down like once it goes down you're like oh my god i can't wait for

00:01:22.940 it to like go back up again like and everything to be good because you guys go through like really

00:01:26.640 good phases and it's like a little bit of hope almost yeah that's good part or sometimes you're

00:01:31.560 just used to it this is your comfort zone now yeah the cons will eventually outweigh the post i mean

00:01:39.120 that's when you know how do you get used to it no because some people have grown up in even like a

00:01:44.220 toxic household like with toxic families like also like how someone's been raised has a big impact on

00:01:50.480 like the type of men they go for women also like drama yeah they do they do they love it i mean

00:01:55.500 why don't women watch sports that's camaraderie we like the kardashians that's true oh my god i love

00:02:01.220 the kardashians number one fan so much like red flag red flag don't do that kardashians live the life

00:02:09.440 watch watch me in a year's time i'm gonna be sitting with kim kardashian she's gonna be me and her

00:02:16.200 i'm gonna be telling you now manifestation me and how i'm gonna be opposite each other working on

00:02:21.200 you know skims x i've got a cover land dropping soon as well joining my music so mad madness

00:02:27.840 told you i'm such a east dennis fan so i can't you know what i like you know but east dennis christmas

00:02:34.420 specials yeah they're drama every day every day i used to do that i used to do that i used to watch

00:02:39.820 senders every single day but then the the storyline is just too dark for me like it's so negative

00:02:45.240 up to a point you might be able to handle it but like it got to a point where i could not i could

00:02:50.160 not anymore but that is toxic actually question what is toxics and where does it come from

00:02:56.460 i think something that's not good for you but you want it you go for it anyway but something that's

00:03:02.080 genuinely like bad for your your mental health and i think it's and you do it anyway a long duration

00:03:08.420 but where does it stem from though where does it stem from i think well toxic relationships

00:03:13.160 stem from lack of boundaries i'm talking about toxic not toxic relationship there's two different

00:03:17.680 toxic itself what does it stem from toxic it's something harmful something dangerous people use

00:03:23.760 that for food because it's like poison wouldn't you say yeah because that's what it can lead to it can

00:03:30.920 like damage and it's harmful to your mental health and then it can jammy needs other things

00:03:35.380 the environment have have you guys ever been labeled a toxic ex like would your exes say that

00:03:40.380 you're toxic yes yes yeah no i haven't no no but i would say i could be toxic if i choose to be toxic 0.68

00:03:51.120 oh yeah yeah exactly that that's the energy yeah i agree with that that's why i said for you to be

00:03:59.500 toxic you have to have a strong head and people know what they do when they be toxic it's not like

00:04:03.900 no it's like a mind game 100 i agree what do you think have you ever been labeled a toxic ex would

00:04:10.780 direct to say you're toxic they would they would say i'm toxic only because i'm not as lit as me

00:04:15.680 that is why i wouldn't say i'm toxic because um because um we're not going to talk about the whole

00:04:21.960 like and follow that thing because i was in the past that was 10 minutes ago but yeah i don't think

00:04:27.280 i would be called toxic how how do you guys how do you guys think past relationships shape future

00:04:33.860 relationships you know the difference between lust and love oh my goodness you know the difference

00:04:40.280 i feel like if you're able to reflect if you're able to reflect and not carry on the patterns that

00:04:46.620 you had in your past relationship 100 you need to be self-aware in that aspect yeah 100 like erica

00:04:52.600 produced said yes in that song bag lady she's like pack light because if you bring all your emotional 0.95

00:04:57.860 baggage into your future relationships they're never going to work no one wants to deal with your

00:05:02.100 baggage is she married now or no erica padu i think she's got kids i don't know she's got kids 1.00

00:05:06.560 she's got a kid she does have kids i don't know why i'm married i don't know i'm not in the loop

00:05:11.020 actually i met her once really yeah wow i didn't i didn't know who she was though no way yeah she was 0.99

00:05:17.760 cool though i love her she's she's sick do you guys think that the best predictor of uh future

00:05:22.780 relationships is past relationships yeah yeah yeah i don't think so because i feel like in life like if you

00:05:29.900 go into a relationship and you learn the lesson that it's taught you after you've broken up

00:05:34.820 then no but if you don't learn the lesson then the universe is just going to keep sending you the

00:05:40.880 same person in a different body and you're going to have to keep realizing why do we say the universe

00:05:45.780 is gonna you pick up no no no no because because hold on hold on hold on i'm adding that to my

00:05:52.380 list of wait wait wait wait i'm adding that to my list of things like i want girls to stop saying 1.00

00:05:57.820 the universe but you know what some people really genuinely believe that no the universe does because

00:06:03.040 if not if not why is it that the same person with the same character traits with the same habits with

00:06:09.620 the same comes to you again i got you i need to learn the lesson i can i can i can break it down

00:06:17.100 for you choices thank you yeah that's your question no i'm saying like you either like toxic you probably

00:06:22.580 like toxic people and you're probably toxic but at the same time a lot of the time you're the common

00:06:26.980 denominator actually i understand that so then girls will wait wait so girls girls will take 0.63

00:06:32.000 accountability off of them and say it's the it's and i'm not trying to pick on you but it's like

00:06:35.700 they'll say the universe and then it's like it might not be the universe it's probably you

00:06:40.040 but at the same time though a lot of toxic relationships don't start off toxic they start

00:06:44.400 off like normal relationships yeah yeah and then they change they change after the honeymoon phase

00:06:48.860 that's true what i would say is yeah poor choices but it's because you haven't learned your lesson

00:06:52.240 the first time yeah and there's only so many relationships you're going to go through before

00:06:55.700 you need to look inwards and be like okay maybe i'm the problem yeah and i but self-reflection is hard

00:06:59.840 you know yeah it might have to look at yourself it might not it might not start toxic but then

00:07:05.920 you probably do something that's toxic if every relationship yeah no one's perfect so actually

00:07:11.120 relating to what you said it makes sense because when you said environment and um how it relates

00:07:17.760 i feel like it makes sense and when you said it's you environment and you so it all depends on

00:07:22.560 where you come from your upbringing upbringing and what makes you who you are so i feel like when

00:07:27.600 you're in relation a past relationship can make your future relationship better but how that makes

00:07:32.120 it better is by you knowing yourself uh-huh you have to do self-reflection you said self-reflection

00:07:37.020 if you don't reflect on yourself or if you don't know yourself or if you don't do better if you

00:07:42.240 continue to do the same thing it's like whether you see and whether you like what you do that is what

00:07:46.160 you're gonna attract as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a

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JustPearlyThings - March 19, 2023

Why Women Go For TOXIC Relationships

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