JustPearlyThings - Why Women Shouldn't Be In control of S3X

00:00:00.000 What do you wish you knew at 25?

00:00:02.620 Not to date anybody for their potential

00:00:05.200 because the chances of them fulfilling that potential are quite slim.

00:00:10.100 That actually a man who is a go-getter,

00:00:12.020 a man that is a hard worker, driven, they already are.

00:00:15.100 And it's not going to come from me pushing them.

00:00:17.220 They already are that person.

00:00:19.200 And then, yeah.

00:00:20.020 Would you say you dated more for looks in your 20s?

00:00:24.000 Not based on my exes, no.

00:00:25.900 But I do think that that's what you look for, definitely.

00:00:32.120 But I've sort of...

00:00:36.940 Oh, sorry.

00:00:37.860 Me.

00:00:39.500 This way?

00:00:40.440 Sorry, it's because I'm looking at Pearl, that's why.

00:00:43.500 Oh, don't.

00:00:44.660 Goodness me.

00:00:46.780 I've lost where I was again.

00:00:48.100 I asked if you dated for looks in your 20s.

00:00:51.600 Yeah, not based on my exes, no.

00:00:53.280 But I do think that charisma, I'd say, I went for.

00:00:58.620 The funny one, the loud one, the confident one.

00:01:01.120 You know, they weren't always the best looking one.

00:01:03.220 But I think that that comes off as like a masculinity in a way.

00:01:07.360 So I think that's what I was attracted to.

00:01:09.900 And then I'd get in the relationship and realise actually

00:01:12.140 they weren't doing anything else.

00:01:14.340 And I still...

00:01:14.880 You're hooked, so you can't...

00:01:16.160 They had a lot of practice to get that funny.

00:01:18.440 They had a lot of free time.

00:01:19.800 Exactly, yeah.

00:01:20.560 Talk to women. 1.00

00:01:21.220 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:01:22.960 Okay, what did you think of the body count?

00:01:25.280 When is high value off the table for a woman? 1.00

00:01:28.060 I think it is slightly age-related as well.

00:01:32.240 I think that if I had a kid or a niece, or I do have a niece,

00:01:35.580 I would say just hold on to your virginity for as long as you can. 0.97

00:01:38.260 But I think that early 18, if you start having sex when you're 16, 0.65

00:01:45.960 maybe you've slept with one person.

00:01:48.000 And then 20, maybe two, you know.

00:01:50.020 And then if you're 35 and you've had a few relationships,

00:01:52.220 then it would be a little bit above that.

00:01:53.900 But I think that there's no need to go out.

00:01:57.500 Yeah, I think it matters.

00:01:59.020 What's the number?

00:01:59.660 Oh, sorry, yeah, sorry.

00:02:03.340 So, early 20s, I'd say like five.

00:02:07.640 What age is high value off the table for a woman? 1.00

00:02:11.500 Probably 25.

00:02:12.540 Okay, so.

00:02:13.880 So five then.

00:02:14.860 Okay, roughly five.

00:02:15.900 Five, 25.

00:02:18.440 Yeah, I know.

00:02:19.240 You got it.

00:02:19.720 I agree, I agree.

00:02:20.820 What do you think?

00:02:21.820 Yeah, I think five.

00:02:22.580 Five.

00:02:22.960 Yeah, five.

00:02:23.480 After five high values off the table.

00:02:24.960 After five, it's finished.

00:02:26.220 That's a hell, guys.

00:02:28.080 Sorry.

00:02:28.480 I would say below double digits, to be honest.

00:02:33.580 Below double digits.

00:02:34.020 Yeah, below double digits.

00:02:34.740 So you're kind.

00:02:36.020 You'll give them up to 10.

00:02:37.280 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:02:39.100 That's the most common answer I get.

00:02:41.260 I get like, yeah, 10 is, well, I get when I ask how many bodies is too many bodies,

00:02:46.640 it's always prefer five, I'll deal with 10, 15 maybe if she's hot. 1.00

00:02:52.180 Yeah.

00:02:54.140 What do you think?

00:02:55.060 Well, it's funny that a lot of people land on five.

00:02:59.020 That's like statistically kind of the average for women in the Western nations. 1.00

00:03:04.600 Like, and so you're kind of going, well, as long as she's kind of average, which is, you know,

00:03:07.580 I think it's a fair standard.

00:03:08.680 Is that average now?

00:03:09.780 That is about the average, yeah, reported.

00:03:11.580 I mean, obviously there's going to be some variances because people lie, whatever.

00:03:14.320 But on the grand scale, it's probably not off by more than one.

00:03:17.760 The one I read was higher than that.

00:03:20.580 It was like eight, I think.

00:03:22.180 That might have been like Sweden or something, like a really like egalitarian sort of open

00:03:25.940 society that could happen.

00:03:27.680 You know, so.

00:03:28.660 Oh, were you doing like world?

00:03:30.280 Yeah.

00:03:30.620 Oh, okay.

00:03:31.020 No, it's more Western world.

00:03:32.280 It's more like England, America, Canada, you know, like sort of like the G20, whatever you

00:03:35.580 want to call it.

00:03:35.940 So there could be, you know, some variance in that, but.

00:03:40.120 That's good though.

00:03:40.920 If the average is fine.

00:03:42.680 It's a, it's such a, it's such an interesting thing.

00:03:44.960 Let me tell you guys this.

00:03:45.660 Like, here's the question I would ask, right?

00:03:47.040 And here's like a legitimate statistical question.

00:03:49.960 I'm interested in this, right?

00:03:51.560 As a man's income and options go up, options meaning more women are willing to sleep with 1.00

00:03:56.820 them.

00:03:56.980 Therefore, he gets to choose who he wants to commit to, because that's what a man does at 0.86

00:04:00.680 the end of high value.

00:04:01.280 He chooses who he commits to, right?

00:04:02.460 He's the one that controls the commitment.

00:04:04.140 The woman controls the sex, right? 1.00

00:04:05.260 As a man's options go up, does that number change? 0.68

00:04:10.500 An interesting question.

00:04:11.520 Because like, well, the, the, the body count for a girl that's acceptable to him to form 0.93

00:04:15.880 a long-term relationship.

00:04:16.640 Like I know a dude, we actually both know a dude with Henry that like is with a chick

00:04:20.860 right now.

00:04:21.260 And like, you can tell she's been with a lot of dudes, but the guy's so inexperienced

00:04:24.920 and naive.

00:04:25.340 He's just happy to have a woman.

00:04:26.860 He's like, yeah, I have a woman.

00:04:28.200 Is he well off?

00:04:29.060 No, no, no, no, not at all.

00:04:31.300 But I'm thinking like, but I'm thinking like if this guy was like, as this guy, right, he's

00:04:34.920 young, but as he rises through life, he's like, you know, he takes more money, more

00:04:37.820 money, more, whatever that metric you use for value, whatever, whatever, you know, gains

00:04:41.240 more opportunity, more, more social value.

00:04:45.820 He might look at that chick and be like, you know what?

00:04:47.580 I can do better.

00:04:49.300 You know, it's like the same that your friend is picking up a 300 pound chick. 1.00

00:04:52.160 It's like most of the guys that go for that, by the way, there's actual studies on this

00:04:55.720 as well.

00:04:56.040 Right. 0.83

00:04:56.300 And they say that poor men prefer fatter women.

00:04:59.080 And I look at that study, I go, it's not that they prefer, it's just who they can get.

00:05:01.800 It's just like the market has a certain equilibrium, right?

00:05:03.820 There's a surplus of that. 0.99

00:05:04.940 There's way too many chicks that are oversized and there's way too many lazy, broke ass dudes. 1.00

00:05:08.920 And then the market surplus adjusts itself. 0.99

00:05:10.940 They're really a match made in heaven.

00:05:13.220 Heaven's a strong word.

00:05:15.360 Heaven's a strong word.

00:05:16.500 But that's funny because this lady in the green dress here was saying like, yeah, I had

00:05:19.680 some guys living with me that never really thought they were going to marry me.

00:05:22.140 And my first thought was like, I wonder if there are very low ambition men.

00:05:25.680 Oh, I would say so.

00:05:26.840 Yeah, because they're comfortable being in an imperfect situation.

00:05:29.840 What happens is in this young gentleman here in front of me in the matching suit, he was

00:05:33.300 saying earlier, he's like, I want a girl that pushes me and motivates me.

00:05:36.380 And I'm like, no, you don't.

00:05:37.840 If a woman has to motivate you, no, you don't. 1.00

00:05:40.800 If a woman has to motivate you in a relationship, you will both be bitter and resentful. 1.00

00:05:46.600 Encourages.

00:05:47.140 I agree with that.

00:05:48.160 Like my woman is like, hey, do you need to travel on that trip? 1.00

00:05:51.320 Do you do this?

00:05:51.640 I'm like, yeah, like, you know, like I told my girlfriend who became my wife, I was like,

00:05:55.940 I'm really, really ambitious and be working all the time.

00:05:58.000 You have to deal with that.

00:05:59.060 If you don't, that's OK, but that's going to be me.

00:06:01.100 And so and I find that her attraction for me stabilizes and even goes up because I am

00:06:06.340 achieving new things all the time.

00:06:08.060 And she won't deny that.

00:06:09.480 I agree with that completely.

00:06:10.420 I work six days, seven days a week and you have to put up with it.

00:06:13.440 It's just that's what I do.

00:06:14.660 And I'm not going to stop doing what I'm doing because I'm able to provide what I need to

00:06:18.200 provide.

00:06:18.520 And no matter what arguments happen, you're still happy with what I'm doing because it

00:06:23.860 shows that I'm doing what I need to do.

00:06:25.240 I would ask an interesting question.

00:06:26.440 Anybody here grow up with a two-parent household?

00:06:28.040 Like my parents were together for most of my life.

00:06:29.720 OK.

00:06:30.320 And I experienced this, right?

00:06:31.500 Like my mom was constantly frustrated and a little resentful at my dad because he wasn't

00:06:37.060 as ambitious as she was.

00:06:38.660 Has anybody ever experienced that?

00:06:39.620 That's a terrible relationship.

00:06:40.340 I saw that as a kid.

00:06:41.060 That's a terrible, that's a bad relationship to observe.

00:06:44.140 That's a bad relationship because what happens, Pearl, you know, that's what happens with

00:06:46.900 the moment a woman out-earns a man. 0.98

00:06:48.520 She leaves.

00:06:49.060 It's done.

00:06:49.960 He's done.

00:06:50.780 Yeah.

00:06:51.200 Instantly.

00:06:51.720 So it's like you want to really motivate your guy?

00:06:53.580 No, you don't.

00:06:54.440 Support him.

00:06:55.620 No, but that's, yeah.

00:06:57.580 Support.

00:06:58.660 Always be there.

00:06:59.040 Not, the guy should have his own drive, his own ambition, his own motivation.

00:07:02.480 He should have his own goals.

00:07:03.460 And then the woman's like, yeah, you go. 1.00

00:07:05.440 Yeah.

00:07:05.700 Just as a pool.

00:07:06.580 Yeah.

00:07:06.840 Just positivity at home.

00:07:08.720 You know, not actually, because I made the mistake of thinking that I could motivate

00:07:13.200 people that don't have any motivation, any drive, any goals, and they're happy to win

00:07:16.780 and not very much.

00:07:17.880 But that guy won't choose a 300-pound woman with 20 ducks. 1.00

00:07:20.580 Like, he just won't.

00:07:21.660 Period.

00:07:22.200 He just won't.

00:07:23.200 Why would he?

00:07:24.280 I still agree with what you're saying as well.

00:07:27.180 You know what's interesting?

00:07:28.060 It's like women, we pick non-monogamy in our 20s. 1.00

00:07:30.640 Like, so it's like interesting, because this is the first time in human history where women 1.00

00:07:34.240 have been in control of sex.

00:07:35.980 Like, historically, you either go with the guy that steals you, you know what I mean, or

00:07:39.560 you're dead. 0.69

00:07:40.420 You can either comply with him or you're dead. 0.98

00:07:41.680 So this is the first time in human history we're 100% in control of sex because there's

00:07:45.720 consequences for the men, and we're also 100% in control of who's born.

00:07:49.040 So what happened?

00:07:49.880 You would think, like, when women were in control of sex, that we would pick monogamy, 1.00

00:07:53.920 right?

00:07:54.200 But it's interesting, because women, when we are at our peak, like we're in our prime, we 1.00

00:07:57.760 pick non-monogamy in our 20s.

00:07:59.360 And typically, like, women pick non-monogamy because we're going, we find 80% of men as 0.82

00:08:03.960 unattractive, not just okay, not just nah, we find them as ugly.

00:08:07.280 So because we find 80% of men as unattractive, that means we're sharing 20% of men.

00:08:11.240 And so, yeah, so we're picking, and because in our 20s, like you were saying, like, you

00:08:15.220 can't pick a guy for ambition.

00:08:16.880 Like, maybe it's social status, whatever it is.

00:08:19.020 So basically, women share men in their 20s, and then in their 30s, pick a leftover guy, 0.98

00:08:25.220 typically, that they wouldn't have picked in their 20s.

00:08:26.980 I am.

00:08:27.920 Yeah, I agree with that as well.

00:08:29.500 Same.

00:08:30.240 Yeah, I definitely agree with that.

00:08:31.860 You always see the age-old things.

00:08:33.200 Like, when I was in school, you get the really, the crisp-looking girl that everyone wanted,

00:08:37.880 and she would only pick who she deemed to be really handsome or whatever it was, and

00:08:43.100 then as she got into her 30s, had three or four children, and body shape's now no longer 0.97

00:08:48.160 the same, all of a sudden, because for me, I truly believe that men, as they get older,

00:08:53.680 they become more attractive.

00:08:54.740 That's just...

00:08:55.180 There's a reason they age like fine wine.

00:08:56.660 That's the phrase.

00:08:57.820 Women age like milk. 1.00

00:08:58.600 Milk.

00:09:01.020 So...

00:09:01.540 Even with the Botox nowadays, it don't...

00:09:03.880 We can see your forehead not move.

00:09:06.260 We can see it.

00:09:07.640 We can see it.

00:09:09.360 It's so shiny, you know?

00:09:11.200 Exactly.

00:09:11.520 Exactly that as well.

00:09:12.440 So then you get those women in their early 20s who didn't necessarily want to pick you. 1.00

00:09:16.300 Now, all of a sudden, they want to pick you when they're in a situation where it's like,

00:09:20.160 no, you come back and say, well...

00:09:21.180 Yeah, because they don't have as much bargaining power.

00:09:23.000 It's like, you got to go half off.

00:09:24.460 Yeah.

00:09:24.640 You know what I mean?

00:09:25.220 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:09:25.680 And so now, it's like, we'll run to the guys that we rejected in our 20s and our 30s

00:09:30.760 and say, take me with, you know...

00:09:32.120 And guess who they're going to cheat on you with? 0.92

00:09:34.060 The guys in their 20s.

00:09:34.420 The guys that they hooked up with their 20s.

00:09:36.260 Exactly.

00:09:36.780 So they're going right back.

00:09:37.780 Yep.

00:09:38.000 Yeah.

00:09:39.800 Which I think that's like why we really talk about what we do. 0.99

00:09:43.260 It's not really to shit on women, but it's like a lot of men are naive to this. 0.98

00:09:46.060 They think, oh, she really likes me because she's coming in my 30s or maybe she just overlooked 0.99

00:09:50.020 me in high school.

00:09:51.060 But she didn't overlook you.

00:09:51.980 She's just, you know, the other guys didn't work out.

00:09:53.840 You're a second choice.

00:09:54.960 They just don't know it.

00:09:55.880 She bet against you. 0.67

00:09:57.200 Yeah.

00:09:57.540 And you let her back in.

00:09:58.420 You're in trouble.

00:09:59.060 Yeah.

00:10:01.540 It's harsh.

00:10:02.220 I think that women, some women just make a lot of mistakes and are looking in the wrong 1.00

00:10:06.440 way.

00:10:07.120 Because I'm like a relationship person.

00:10:09.180 I wasn't just like, you know, going all around the place.

00:10:11.620 But what's high value when you're younger or what you think is high value when you're younger

00:10:18.520 isn't what you're not kind of linking it to a husband.

00:10:22.020 You're not, you know, you're not hunting properly.

00:10:24.540 You're right.

00:10:24.980 Because when women get closer to 30, it's like they look more for long-term security. 1.00

00:10:28.680 So in their 20s, it goes back to what we were saying.

00:10:30.480 It tends to be looks more like prime genes.

00:10:32.980 So they say, okay, these guys are the ideal genes that I want for whatever reason.

00:10:37.700 Maybe it's social status, maybe whatever.

00:10:39.900 But then in their 30s, they tend to go for like long-term security and like safety.

00:10:44.020 And so, you know, basically it's like alpha, beta.

00:10:46.500 Like they pick the alphas in their 20s and the betas in their 30s.

00:10:49.120 Yeah.

00:10:49.360 And women don't typically respect the beta. 1.00

00:10:51.460 I mean, I hate the word alpha and beta, but you understand what I'm saying.

00:10:55.360 And you don't realize as well that when you're saying the beta is like, say at school, at

00:11:01.620 college, just the good looking guy is the one that all the girls want.

00:11:04.720 But you don't realize these guys over here are the ones that are going to make the money,

00:11:07.780 have their own businesses.

00:11:08.620 And you're not, that's just not in your head at all.

00:11:10.740 You just want, it's an attraction.

00:11:12.920 It's not, you're not thinking it through, if you see what I mean.

00:11:14.940 It's not like a decision you've made on purpose.

00:11:16.980 Well, there's a reason historically like the dads would keep their daughters away from certain

00:11:20.540 guys. 0.98

00:11:21.460 Like this is why, it's like, that's why women, like we suck at relationships. 1.00

00:11:25.540 We don't pick the right guys in general.

00:11:27.420 Because this is the first time, because in the 20s it switched where women used to live 0.95

00:11:32.160 with their dad and then they went straight to their husband.

00:11:36.140 So there was no period in between.

00:11:38.620 And so in the 20s, that was when women started to go out, you know, that's why they say the 0.98

00:11:42.200 roaring 20s.

00:11:43.060 They started going to the parties, you know, they cut their hair off, all this wild stuff.

00:11:46.760 And so that was the first time where women were more in control of sex and more in control 1.00

00:11:50.940 of who they were picking.

00:11:52.020 And that's when you start to see the birth, like women having less children. 1.00

00:11:54.760 And that's when you, well, you see the divorce rate more go down in 65 when women were 100% 0.97

00:11:59.500 in control of, of reproduction because we got in birth control.

00:12:02.860 But my whole point is that when women are in charge, we make bad choices. 1.00

00:12:07.260 We're like children.

00:12:08.060 Yeah.

00:12:08.360 If you give us too much freedom, we don't know what we're doing.

00:12:10.340 Yeah.

00:12:11.320 Yeah.

00:12:11.480 If my dad had chosen who I dated, I wouldn't have dated any of them in my 20s.

00:12:16.120 Really?

00:12:16.440 You know, and that's the thing, like a lot of times girls will say to me, and I don't

00:12:19.100 say it to be mean, but they'll say, oh, well, not all women are like that, da, da, da, 1.00

00:12:22.960 da, da.

00:12:23.180 And then I'll ask them like follow up questions about their exes and their 20s. 0.87

00:12:26.700 Like, did your, did your parents like them?

00:12:28.080 The answer is always no.

00:12:29.400 You know, they were funny.

00:12:30.440 A couple of them were funny or nice.

JustPearlyThings - August 14, 2023

Why Women Shouldn't Be In control of S3X

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