Why Women Shouldn't Be In control of S3X
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the age old question of when is high value off the table for a woman and when is it safe to have sex at a certain age. We also talk about the pros and cons of having sex in your 20s, and whether or not you should wait until you're 30 before you start having sex.
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because the chances of them fulfilling that potential are quite slim.
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a man that is a hard worker, driven, they already are.
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And it's not going to come from me pushing them.
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Would you say you dated more for looks in your 20s?
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But I do think that that's what you look for, definitely.
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Sorry, it's because I'm looking at Pearl, that's why.
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But I do think that charisma, I'd say, I went for.
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The funny one, the loud one, the confident one.
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You know, they weren't always the best looking one.
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But I think that that comes off as like a masculinity in a way.
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And then I'd get in the relationship and realise actually
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I think that if I had a kid or a niece, or I do have a niece,
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I would say just hold on to your virginity for as long as you can.
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But I think that early 18, if you start having sex when you're 16,
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And then if you're 35 and you've had a few relationships,
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What age is high value off the table for a woman?
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I get like, yeah, 10 is, well, I get when I ask how many bodies is too many bodies,
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it's always prefer five, I'll deal with 10, 15 maybe if she's hot.
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Well, it's funny that a lot of people land on five.
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That's like statistically kind of the average for women in the Western nations.
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Like, and so you're kind of going, well, as long as she's kind of average, which is, you know,
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I mean, obviously there's going to be some variances because people lie, whatever.
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But on the grand scale, it's probably not off by more than one.
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That might have been like Sweden or something, like a really like egalitarian sort of open
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It's more like England, America, Canada, you know, like sort of like the G20, whatever you
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So there could be, you know, some variance in that, but.
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It's a, it's such a, it's such an interesting thing.
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And here's like a legitimate statistical question.
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As a man's income and options go up, options meaning more women are willing to sleep with
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Therefore, he gets to choose who he wants to commit to, because that's what a man does at
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As a man's options go up, does that number change?
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Because like, well, the, the, the body count for a girl that's acceptable to him to form
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Like I know a dude, we actually both know a dude with Henry that like is with a chick
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And like, you can tell she's been with a lot of dudes, but the guy's so inexperienced
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But I'm thinking like, but I'm thinking like if this guy was like, as this guy, right, he's
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young, but as he rises through life, he's like, you know, he takes more money, more
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money, more, whatever that metric you use for value, whatever, whatever, you know, gains
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He might look at that chick and be like, you know what?
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You know, it's like the same that your friend is picking up a 300 pound chick.
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It's like most of the guys that go for that, by the way, there's actual studies on this
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And they say that poor men prefer fatter women.
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And I look at that study, I go, it's not that they prefer, it's just who they can get.
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It's just like the market has a certain equilibrium, right?
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There's way too many chicks that are oversized and there's way too many lazy, broke ass dudes.
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But that's funny because this lady in the green dress here was saying like, yeah, I had
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some guys living with me that never really thought they were going to marry me.
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And my first thought was like, I wonder if there are very low ambition men.
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Yeah, because they're comfortable being in an imperfect situation.
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What happens is in this young gentleman here in front of me in the matching suit, he was
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saying earlier, he's like, I want a girl that pushes me and motivates me.
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If a woman has to motivate you in a relationship, you will both be bitter and resentful.
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Like my woman is like, hey, do you need to travel on that trip?
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I'm like, yeah, like, you know, like I told my girlfriend who became my wife, I was like,
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I'm really, really ambitious and be working all the time.
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If you don't, that's OK, but that's going to be me.
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And so and I find that her attraction for me stabilizes and even goes up because I am
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I work six days, seven days a week and you have to put up with it.
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And I'm not going to stop doing what I'm doing because I'm able to provide what I need to
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And no matter what arguments happen, you're still happy with what I'm doing because it
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Anybody here grow up with a two-parent household?
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Like my parents were together for most of my life.
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Like my mom was constantly frustrated and a little resentful at my dad because he wasn't
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That's a terrible, that's a bad relationship to observe.
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That's a bad relationship because what happens, Pearl, you know, that's what happens with
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So it's like you want to really motivate your guy?
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Not, the guy should have his own drive, his own ambition, his own motivation.
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You know, not actually, because I made the mistake of thinking that I could motivate
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people that don't have any motivation, any drive, any goals, and they're happy to win
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But that guy won't choose a 300-pound woman with 20 ducks.
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It's like women, we pick non-monogamy in our 20s.
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Like, so it's like interesting, because this is the first time in human history where women
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Like, historically, you either go with the guy that steals you, you know what I mean, or
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So this is the first time in human history we're 100% in control of sex because there's
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consequences for the men, and we're also 100% in control of who's born.
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You would think, like, when women were in control of sex, that we would pick monogamy,
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But it's interesting, because women, when we are at our peak, like we're in our prime, we
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And typically, like, women pick non-monogamy because we're going, we find 80% of men as
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unattractive, not just okay, not just nah, we find them as ugly.
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So because we find 80% of men as unattractive, that means we're sharing 20% of men.
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And so, yeah, so we're picking, and because in our 20s, like you were saying, like, you
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Like, maybe it's social status, whatever it is.
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So basically, women share men in their 20s, and then in their 30s, pick a leftover guy,
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typically, that they wouldn't have picked in their 20s.
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Like, when I was in school, you get the really, the crisp-looking girl that everyone wanted,
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and she would only pick who she deemed to be really handsome or whatever it was, and
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then as she got into her 30s, had three or four children, and body shape's now no longer
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the same, all of a sudden, because for me, I truly believe that men, as they get older,
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So then you get those women in their early 20s who didn't necessarily want to pick you.
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Now, all of a sudden, they want to pick you when they're in a situation where it's like,
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Yeah, because they don't have as much bargaining power.
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And so now, it's like, we'll run to the guys that we rejected in our 20s and our 30s
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And guess who they're going to cheat on you with?
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Which I think that's like why we really talk about what we do.
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It's not really to shit on women, but it's like a lot of men are naive to this.
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They think, oh, she really likes me because she's coming in my 30s or maybe she just overlooked
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She's just, you know, the other guys didn't work out.
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I think that women, some women just make a lot of mistakes and are looking in the wrong
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I wasn't just like, you know, going all around the place.
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But what's high value when you're younger or what you think is high value when you're younger
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isn't what you're not kind of linking it to a husband.
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You're not, you know, you're not hunting properly.
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Because when women get closer to 30, it's like they look more for long-term security.
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So in their 20s, it goes back to what we were saying.
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So they say, okay, these guys are the ideal genes that I want for whatever reason.
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But then in their 30s, they tend to go for like long-term security and like safety.
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And so, you know, basically it's like alpha, beta.
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Like they pick the alphas in their 20s and the betas in their 30s.
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I mean, I hate the word alpha and beta, but you understand what I'm saying.
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And you don't realize as well that when you're saying the beta is like, say at school, at
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college, just the good looking guy is the one that all the girls want.
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But you don't realize these guys over here are the ones that are going to make the money,
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And you're not, that's just not in your head at all.
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It's not, you're not thinking it through, if you see what I mean.
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It's not like a decision you've made on purpose.
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Well, there's a reason historically like the dads would keep their daughters away from certain
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Like this is why, it's like, that's why women, like we suck at relationships.
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Because this is the first time, because in the 20s it switched where women used to live
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with their dad and then they went straight to their husband.
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And so in the 20s, that was when women started to go out, you know, that's why they say the
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They started going to the parties, you know, they cut their hair off, all this wild stuff.
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And so that was the first time where women were more in control of sex and more in control
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And that's when you start to see the birth, like women having less children.
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And that's when you, well, you see the divorce rate more go down in 65 when women were 100%
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in control of, of reproduction because we got in birth control.
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But my whole point is that when women are in charge, we make bad choices.
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If you give us too much freedom, we don't know what we're doing.
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If my dad had chosen who I dated, I wouldn't have dated any of them in my 20s.
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You know, and that's the thing, like a lot of times girls will say to me, and I don't
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say it to be mean, but they'll say, oh, well, not all women are like that, da, da, da,
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And then I'll ask them like follow up questions about their exes and their 20s.