JustPearlyThings - October 07, 2023


Wife LOSES IT After Divorcing Husband And Gets What She Deserves


Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

150.25407

Word count

1,508

Sentence count

132

Harmful content

Misogyny

9

sentences flagged

Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, I talk about a woman who decided to leave her 18 year marriage because she thinks she is a lesbian. I also talk about how I came out to my family and the reaction they had to my coming out story.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Um, so there's a woman going viral right now talking about she regretted divorcing her pastor
00:00:04.880 husband. And I honestly, I haven't even seen this yet. I didn't have time to watch it. So
00:00:09.480 we'll see how this went for her. Let's pull it up. This is not easy. Coming out later in life,
00:00:16.820 losing the stability of an 18 year relationship that needed to be, we needed to, I needed to
00:00:28.760 leave anyways, but this stability is scary. So if anyone thinks that like I got my shit together,
00:00:38.100 I don't. I have no idea what I am doing. Um, and the look she gave me was like disgust. 0.73
00:00:48.700 Welcome back family. Just when I thought that these modern women might have run out of reasons 1.00
00:00:53.900 to divorce their husbands, this woman just pulled a joker card on me. She was the pastor's wife, 1.00
00:00:59.900 but surprisingly decided to end an 18 year old marriage just because she thinks that she is a 0.95
00:01:05.600 lesbian now. And the worst part about this story is that she expected the whole church to endorse 0.71
00:01:11.260 her decision of breaking up her own family. Let's jump in.
00:01:14.440 So I just received a really interesting message. And, um, this person says that my life looks so great
00:01:26.940 and that he's going to unfollow me because I'm practically gloating. It wasn't a criticism.
00:01:33.320 I don't take it that way, but I do wonder like, what videos are you watching?
00:01:38.860 Because this is not easy coming out later in life to my family, the first person in my family to come
00:01:54.480 out, um, coming out to people of church, losing that community, losing the stability of, um, an 18 year
00:02:05.740 relationship that needed to be, we needed to, I needed to leave anyways, but the stability is scary.
00:02:19.860 So if anyone thinks that like I got my shit together, I don't, I have no idea what I am doing.
00:02:28.280 So that's my reality. I'm strong and I'm bold and I'm aggressive and all those things,
00:02:34.720 but I'm also sensitive.
00:02:40.180 I just want to know what she thought was on the other side. Like, why would church accept a gay woman?
00:02:47.100 I mean, bitch, it's church. 1.00
00:02:48.920 I think it's hilarious.
00:02:50.180 I mean, I, I, you know, I got a little bit of a swearing problem, but I don't go swear in church.
00:02:54.560 Do you know what I mean? Like, what does she say?
00:02:56.300 It's the fact that she says, you guys think I've got it together.
00:03:00.180 No one thinks you've got it together. No one is seeing that, thinking you've got it together.
00:03:06.840 I just want to know, okay, because this is my thought. If you're going to be practically like on the verge of homelessness,
00:03:13.380 couldn't you just like, like girls and just deal with it and just stay? 0.83
00:03:18.100 Like, I mean, I mean, I don't know. Maybe I'm going crazy, but I'm like, is your sexuality like that important?
00:03:25.900 She's crying a lot about something that she's chosen to do, right?
00:03:30.420 Yeah.
00:03:30.820 She's complaining that she's lost all of these things.
00:03:33.800 And she's saying, you know, I'm tough, all of this.
00:03:36.700 It's like, okay, well, this video definitely doesn't make it look like that.
00:03:39.140 But regardless, she's saying all of this and she's complaining about all the things she's lost.
00:03:44.420 So it's like, well, maybe don't.
00:03:50.540 Maybe don't.
00:03:52.020 Like, I don't know.
00:03:54.520 Maybe the men are going to come for me in the comments, but is pussy that important? 0.99
00:03:58.140 And it was probably the hardest interaction I've had yet.
00:04:03.680 For about eight years, I was a youth pastor at a church.
00:04:08.300 And I had a core group of about six girls that I would mentor.
00:04:14.080 Like, I would go to their sport games and their concerts and their shows.
00:04:18.460 And I was really just there to encourage them and build them up.
00:04:21.960 And one of my closest students, I ran into her yesterday.
00:04:26.360 And I was in shock.
00:04:27.740 And I just went in like, oh, my God, hi.
00:04:33.680 And the look she gave me was like disgust.
00:04:43.900 Now, I didn't feel shame.
00:04:46.420 And so that's fucking exciting.
00:04:47.880 I didn't feel any shame.
00:04:50.240 But I was sad afterwards.
00:04:53.900 And then I realized how much time I had invested in people.
00:04:59.120 And that how they accepted me as a certain version.
00:05:06.000 I was still Jesse then.
00:05:08.160 Like, I didn't change.
00:05:09.660 I got better.
00:05:10.600 Fuck yeah, I got better.
00:05:11.620 Once again, my TikTok family has just been there.
00:05:23.060 And I never, I never would have thought that a social media app
00:05:28.940 would literally, like, be my lifeline.
00:05:35.720 I never, I never would have thought this, guys.
00:05:40.180 I'm so thankful.
00:05:43.120 And I've been absent on here for good reason.
00:05:45.920 I never in a million years would have thought that this process
00:06:00.120 would be as difficult as it has been.
00:06:02.700 And yes, I'm vague booking.
00:06:04.700 And that's just the way it's going to have to be for safety.
00:06:08.180 And, uh, I just, I just had friends.
00:06:13.560 And guys, I've met these people, like, once.
00:06:15.860 Twice?
00:06:16.440 Couple times?
00:06:19.120 They're like, you can come hang out.
00:06:30.380 I just don't know what I would have done without this community.
00:06:33.860 You guys have been my f***ing lifeline.
00:06:36.100 I don't know what she expected to happen.
00:06:39.680 Like, what, you think they're going to, at church,
00:06:41.680 they're going to say, wow, we're so happy you just,
00:06:43.520 I actually, I kind of want to go to this church.
00:06:46.420 Yeah.
00:06:46.740 Because it sounds bass.
00:06:49.960 A church that actually sticks by traditional church values.
00:06:53.120 That's what I thought, I was like.
00:06:54.100 In 2023?
00:06:55.300 I know, that's what I was like.
00:06:56.060 I was like, what church is, what church do you go to?
00:06:59.680 No, okay, because I'm like, what did she expect?
00:07:03.300 That she's like, okay, I didn't feel shame.
00:07:06.300 But I felt sad.
00:07:07.520 And I'm like, you're kind of describing.
00:07:11.680 I would, I would love to take this woman's phone off of her for a month. 1.00
00:07:17.460 I can, oh, I just, it'd be a really interesting experiment.
00:07:21.120 I think she'd go back.
00:07:22.440 Yeah, I think she would too.
00:07:23.000 Because the only reason that she has clearly got all these ideas
00:07:26.180 is she's spent way too much time on TikTok or whatever it is.
00:07:29.860 She's decided that she wants to be a martyr among the liberals.
00:07:34.760 And what's the easiest way to do that?
00:07:36.400 Well, to leave your children and say that you're now pursuing your sexual liberation
00:07:40.800 in whatever way, shape, or form that may be.
00:07:43.360 And yeah, she apparently doesn't feel any shame.
00:07:47.920 I think let's take her phone away. 0.88
00:07:49.580 Because the only reason she doesn't feel shame right now
00:07:51.400 is because she's in this narcissistic loop. 0.95
00:07:54.180 Like, take it away.
00:07:56.480 I know.
00:07:56.980 And then let's reassess the situation.
00:07:59.480 Yeah, I bet if, yeah, you took it away for a month.
00:08:01.980 Some people really need a social media break.
00:08:04.480 Like, I challenge people like this to go a week without your phone.
00:08:09.200 Just try it.
00:08:10.160 You see it in the lifespans of almost like the,
00:08:13.880 like a lot of influencers that were like,
00:08:15.880 they thought one thing they were more conservative in their early 20s.
00:08:19.080 And you see them kind of switch when they start to get like a group.
00:08:22.820 Like, they start to let like one liberal in the group.
00:08:25.240 Yeah.
00:08:25.380 And they just start to get, then they start to.
00:08:27.400 They infect the whole space.
00:08:28.260 Then they divorce their husbands. 1.00
00:08:30.800 And it's just like crazy.
00:08:32.560 But that was my thought was I was like,
00:08:35.500 it's almost like better that you know the patterns and tell them.
00:08:39.400 Like, this is just, I'm thinking out loud, spitballing a little bit.
00:08:42.300 But I was, I was thinking how I don't think the solution
00:08:45.140 is hiding people from the world because the world will come to them.
00:08:49.540 You can't avoid it.
00:08:50.880 Yes.
00:08:51.280 And it's interesting because in my,
00:08:53.480 I feel like my generation and your generation is like a slight difference 0.53
00:08:57.200 because mine wasn't completely, it was like half online.
00:09:00.120 Where you grew up, because you're 22.
00:09:03.040 23.
00:09:03.480 23, yeah.
00:09:04.480 So you grew up pretty,
00:09:06.220 I would imagine everyone was on social media.
00:09:08.560 Yeah, so I would say by sort of year five,
00:09:13.420 which is for the American people,
00:09:15.860 like 10 years old,
00:09:17.340 we had like Vine come about.
00:09:20.640 Oh, okay.
00:09:21.100 Like my sort of really funny memories
00:09:23.720 from when I'm like 10, 11 is like me and my friends recreating Vines.
00:09:29.120 So it was very prominent from such a young age.
00:09:33.400 And like, think about how young that is.
00:09:35.040 10 years old.
00:09:36.560 Vine was like everything back then.
00:09:39.320 Yeah.
00:09:40.300 Well, and that's like.
00:09:41.040 Vine was great though.
00:09:41.740 We had, yeah, Facebook was the big one for me.
00:09:45.720 Yeah, so Facebook with my generation is like really not.
00:09:48.820 Yeah.
00:09:49.620 It's like where you go for like family things
00:09:52.440 and to see what's going on in the local area.
00:09:54.420 If someone's selling something maybe.
00:09:55.880 But Facebook was always kind of like an older generation thing,
00:09:59.680 at least for my people.