Will Pearl Ever Use Birth Control？？
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the topic of marriage, divorce and what it means to be in a broken home. We also discuss the importance of having a good relationship with your partner and how important it is to have a good marriage.
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um i think there's any other topic i want to cover i think that's pretty much it you have
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any questions guys any anything you want to talk about can i ask you another birth control question
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if it's not too nosy oh it might be a little bit nosy but you don't have to answer there's no
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pressure if you got into a new long-term relationship now would you go on birth control
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would you consider it or would it just be completely out of no no no i don't i just i
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just want a lot of kids and i just i don't want to do anything that would like jeopardize that
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so and i it may not but i just don't i don't even want to take that risk personally
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i think back to switching topics the marriage topic i feel like also i feel like there's a lot of kids
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having kids these days and that leads to kind of unprofound that child neglect and i think
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households because sometimes it's not planned or people quite young they when you're in a
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relationship people don't understand you have to have the patience to adopt that person as now being
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a parent so as much as you was in love with them as just you and them you have to give room for that
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person to change and accept them changes and sometimes when you fight the changes that frustration
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kicks in which then breaks up a home and i feel like divorce is a lot more just like i'm going
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to go out with you or marriage is like i'm going to go out with you and break up with you as divorce
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now because i feel like society and the way things have changed from tradition has kind of changed the
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morality around marriage and i think the actual reasoning behind marriage has now been shifted and
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it's now you take it as you want it and there's certain things in life that i feel like cannot be changed
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it's meant to be the way it's meant to be and if you can't adopt that nature then leave it alone
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i agree with you i i think that a lot of times people look at marriage as like a long-term
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relationship it's i don't i actually i think divorce should be illegal illegal yeah except for
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i'll give you i'll give you those two and if i think of one or two more i'll add them but i would
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make it illegal banned banned but why because i just don't see the point like what is the point of
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marriage like marriage is supposed to be for for better or for worse in sickness and in health
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for richer or for poorer like that that's what marriage is supposed to be so if you can get out
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then it's not marriage but that's my opinion on it um now i don't want women getting abused
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long term that's that's i'm not for that so i'll let those women i'll let them out but even just when
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you see like i i've known children who like obviously like growing up with my friends i've had friends of
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mine they've been like god i wish my parents had got divorced growing up because all they ever did
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was argue it's not abusive they just don't get on they just don't love each other they just
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shouldn't have stayed together and i and i hear that from kids but oftentimes those kids turned out
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pretty well yeah i was gonna say and so now like would they really feel that way if they only saw their
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father six days a month is that a better outcome it's hard to argue but because i wasn't in that
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situation but i think for a lot of people like i've heard people say a lot like i wish my parents
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have got divorced because they would have been happy and it would have been less traumatic to
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not try and play the we and hear people scream it's a bit spoiled i don't know in some situations
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because i feel like don't get me wrong like i feel like it's a bit spoiled because you know nothing's
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perfect there's not a perfect home there's not a perfect family there's not a perfect person there's
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not a perfect relationship it's about never stopping trying so them parents i'm grateful to my parents for
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never stopping trying because i understand what a man's duty is because my dad is around my dad is
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an active role in my life because if my mom pulled a plug or my dad pulled the plug would i be as
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confident would i know my duty is also as a woman because i can see my mom and the way she is with my
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father and i think that's why it's important back to when you said like you're so paranoid about when you
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have children because i want my children to have that and not because i just want that for myself with my
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partner is because i think it's a it's part of that foundation of them being the best people that
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they can be and that's why there is men and women because we have roles to play in our children's life
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and i think people that come from i'd say broken homes they would agree that sometimes they go
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through more traumatic things you know they go through a lot more challenges mentally sometimes
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even physically in life than people that have come from a whole household if that makes sense and
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what's the better solution get divorced or work it out figure out how to get along like like in
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those cases the most qualified person to answer this is just yeah but every um relationship has
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its own unique set of circumstances and i um love all everything you guys are saying about like
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how you think these things are gonna go and stuff like that and that's and that's great but life
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doesn't always work out like that i agree but um i also do agree with you i do think a lot of people
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do rush into marriage um because obviously you see the amount of people that you know that get
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divorced like the percentage rate is so high and a lot of the time i i've even had the conversation
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with my missus i was like oh do you know i'm actually not that ass about you know getting married i feel
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like a lot of men are starting to come around to that and it gets shut down straight away and i know
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you can say you know you want your children to have the same last name but then after that you know
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even on a financial one if you are the person that makes the majority of money in the relationship
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not saying that's my situation but um yeah you are it's going to be a struggle and a lot of men just
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aren't as fussed about it because they do take a lot more risks if they are the person that's earning
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more money like my mom and dad's been together over 30 years oh now they can't marry but you know what
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they've been trying i think lockdown happened they was meant to get married and then lockdown
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happened and since then we're just trying to work through things but i think you know again i'm
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happy my mom and dad didn't get married because that is a memory i'd always have with god willing
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i'd always have with them and have of them you know but it showed me that like you said like you going
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through them things in a marriage is not going to stop you like some again it's once and needs
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like separating the two you don't need to have your child your child having the same last name as you is
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not going to keep the family together bro like that doesn't keep you together that's that's a one
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it's not i wish i wish there was a second marriage for the girls like me that don't believe in divorce
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because it's like as a guy why would you get married like i can't think of one good reason why
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would you do it but but then that's that's why there's prenups so if you're a strong believer in
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not getting divorced then you have those you can you can put those things in place to you know if you
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were to divorce between a certain amount of years like you can like you can format it to be something
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that would actually almost like kind of in a way threaten for him not to divorce you um so there's
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these provisions but i i grew up in a household where my parents got divorced um and i can remember i
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was like in high school i think i was like one year before the last year and i found out from
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my mom seeing a friend and she was like oh how's your husband she's like oh we're divorced and it
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happened when i went a summer away and i remember i was like absolutely devastated but looking at it now
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like it didn't affect me like my dad is still in the picture um and i think fantastic that my mom kind
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of set that example because my dad was cheating and it was it was so consistent that i at one point
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was like he used to pick me up from school and my mom used to travel because of work and he picked me
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up and this lady was in the front seat and i'm a daddy's girl so i used to be in the front seat of
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the car you did not and she was in the front seat of the car and i had to go in the back so that happened
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like two days in a row and then my mom came back from traveling and i was like mom who's this woman
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that keeps on having me sit in the back seat and the look that she gave me i was like oh
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i was young i was probably like seven and i understood but then after that my dad used to
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do stuff because my mom asked for a divorce like it was he he signed the papers and she wasn't nasty
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about it but my mom is a smart woman in that like our home is under my sister and my my name so it has
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nothing to do with like him trying to take the house and stuff like that but i'm very grateful that my
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mom made that decision because it's kind of showed me how a man should treat me like did you did she get
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remarried no no so do you think the outcome is better for her being alone um absolutely because
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you know what like she she's still open to how old is she oh she won't she would dare let me tell
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you her age but 60s early early okay okay um so you think life at like 75 is going to be happier for
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her but with by herself instead of with the husband my mom is so happy at this age it's my dad who you
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can't tell him and this is like early this is probably 2009 they got divorced you can't tell
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him today that's not his wife he will call and he'll be like where's my wife and she'll be like
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we've been divorced for years but for him he's at that point that is his wife who else who else what
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other what other man has had more of an impact on her or will well but it really and really like
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well it really is his wife i mean yeah she's got he you know he's got two beautiful kids and for her
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it's like well she always said you will there will come a day where you'll be on this side and i'll be
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on this side with the girls and you will want to appreciate what you had and for him he's well my dad's like what
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67 he's a couple of years older no he's turning 70 in december and my dad i can see that he is very
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aware like his friends who were cheaters as well they've passed on and so now their wives are widows
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but he understands how much at that age you need a woman in your life because he's getting that
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although he has girlfriends that that's nothing to him he wants that woman where he can grow old with
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and he's lost that opportunity so i can really see it affecting my dad that up to this day he has
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heartache because you know of the choices that he made but he's still never stopped so yes when did
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when did he start now that's that's another thing when did he start um because they got married before me
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um you know when did he start and when did he get caught is probably two different things
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but to have the audacity i'm talking about like this woman attacked my mom and my sister
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and he he was he continued to be with her and you know sometimes in the caribbean we're like okay she
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put a spell on him and stuff like that but we can understand why he would choose this woman that he just
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met over his family you know and it happens but i couldn't see that he is really really
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facing the consequences yeah big time and i think it goes back to the women that are doing corn
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it's the same thing when you do certain things and make certain decisions you do see that not to say
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karma but because once it's a mistake the second time is always a choice because it's now conscious
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you can't make a mistake twice so he's seeing the unfortunate consequences of that and it goes back
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to again with women doing corn it's just your kids will then the consequence that comes with that
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as children you're still affected as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are
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