Will Prenups Save Marriage? (Call-in Show) | Pearl Daily
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Summary
Is it bad for men to get married young? Is it good for women to marry young? What is the value of merit? Is marriage a bad deal for men? What does it mean to be a good man?
Transcript
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It caught my eye. Most young men are single. Most young women are not.
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Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.
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It's a different world now. Like, we don't need men the way that they used to.
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A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of merit.
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We've kind of got the TradCon versus Red Pill thing.
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This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.
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You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.
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It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.
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Now many of the Red Pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.
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One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.
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She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.
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Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.
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74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.
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Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.
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Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.
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I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.
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Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.
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When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for.
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And you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.
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I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.
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You're literally just thrown out onto the street.
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We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.
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And then daughters grow up without their fathers.
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Every problem in society comes from single mother homes.
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A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness.
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Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women.
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We tell women to date as many guys as possible.
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You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.
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I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.
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Like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic, naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.
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Like women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy.
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And the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings, leave when I feel like it, instead of doing what's best for the kids.
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This myth that we live in an age of male privilege, where's my male privilege?
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Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?
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I have seen so many men on the brink of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong.
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How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?
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The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.
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The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol, three times higher among men than among women.
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Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.
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Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man to get...
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Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.
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If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.
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So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?
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I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.
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I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.
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Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want
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The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.
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We go into population decline and our economy goes into decline.
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This is an existential crisis failing young men.
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Okay, you know what's funny at the end of this?
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She's like, the future is bad if we continue down this path and the women are just sitting
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And then there's that like girl who she's like, you know, men don't want a wife.
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And she's got like the fake nails, the Botox, the fake hair, you know, and I'm like, I just
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But I really would like to make that this documentary reality and you guys can support
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If we can get around, let me do the math right now, like a hundred K on the documentary.
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I could potentially hire an editor in-house 50 to a hundred K if we raise that much.
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Um, so if you want to donate directly that way there to me, um, just pearly things at
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Other thing, um, you could join the number one community in the space where it's a one
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to teach you guys how to get laid, make more money and improve your health.
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and then we can kind of cater it to what you guys like.
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Cause at some point we're going to do events and meet in person.
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Like if you join the community, um, which by the way, the people that were on the audacity
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site before the 15th, you should have been automatically admitted.
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Um, but if you join the community, as long as you're not, um, you don't do anything super
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weird, I got to make sure, you know, um, you'll probably get to meet me at some point in the
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next few years and we're going to raise the price, but it's, you know, it's low now.
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So I, I warned you guys before I said, before I raised this price, you get it for 10 bucks
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And if you didn't join before then, I don't know what to tell you.
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So today we're actually talking about, um, a risk mitigation, um, tactics.
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If you've been watching my channel long enough, um, you know that, you know, I don't think
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You do have to make your own decisions as a man, but especially in the modern age with
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modern women, men really have everything to lose.
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They have nothing to gain and the idea of marriage, even in the age of women making
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more money, being independent and doing for themselves is, you know, that a man is still
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And I've asked so many people, especially the trad cons, um, that tell men to get married.
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What's in it for the man you guys saw from my documentary, they never have a good answer
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That's really, ah, or telling you that you got to do it for my kids.
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It's like, dude, most men aren't going to be able to have children.
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She's going to, she could just go bore your kid.
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And so it's interesting because they always, they always put it like what's in it for them.
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They're like society, you know, we have to save society.
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And the average man is thinking, yeah, for your kids, I don't know if I'm going to get
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They just use every single trick in the book to try to get men to take a deal that is just
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Um, but the most vocal tactic I've heard recently is a prenup will save you.
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It's a legally binding contract signed by two people before marriage, um, that outlaws how
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their assets and debts will be handled in the event of a divorce or death.
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This allows couples to define their own rules for property division and spousal support that
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can differ from the state, the laws of the state.
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Many women, they'll hate men for even asking for a prenup.
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Even the question will give women a reason to shame the, her man for the rest of their
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She now has the ability to hold that over your head forever.
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And you know, men can get screwed in court, even if they do have a prenup.
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A lot of the time, the man is forced to pay a lawyer and for her lawyer while the divorce
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proceedings are going on and she can just keep challenging the prenup.
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And by the way, guys, when these influencers cite you stats that prenups will, are effective,
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ask them where they got the stats from 90% of the time it's from a law office.
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And I just have to ask, what is the incentive for a law office that's selling prenups to be
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Now, that's like a restaurant when you ask them, is your kitchen clean?
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I don't believe that prenup agreements are the magical solutions that trad cons are making
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It's also funny that so many religious influencers are telling men to get the state, get state
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legal protections against their virtuous wives.
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So here's an article talking about, are there downsides to prenups?
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Like every good thing in life, sometimes there are downsides to even the best of things
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But the downside, too much of it will send you straight to the dentist.
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They set expectations with your spouse and reduce the stress of divorce if it ever happens.
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But the downside is that prenups can be expensive.
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There are downsides to even the greatest things on earth like candy and prenups.
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A prenuptial agreement is a contract between two fiancés who are getting married.
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It outlines the terms and conditions of their marriage, including the division of property
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While prenups provide several advantages for couples, it is important to also consider
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the limitations, drawbacks, and potential risks associated with them before deciding
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Prenups have become increasingly popular in recent years as more couples look for ways
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to protect their assets, clarify their financial expectations, and reduce the stress and uncertainty
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In the article, we'll take a closer look at the pros and cons of prenups so you can make
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an educated decision about whether a prenup is right for you.
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All right, so the advantages of a prenup is protecting assets.
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Many people get prenups to protect their assets.
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Whether you have $50,000 or $50 million, a prenup can protect that money.
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Assets can include bank accounts, retirement funds, real estate, and much more.
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For the sake of a prenup, assets are either accrued before the marriage or during the marriage.
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You can protect both existing assets and the future assets in a prenup by marking them as
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This means that your assets will be safeguarded and you won't have to worry about losing them
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Defining the terms and conditions of the marriage and divorce, a prenup allows you and your partner
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to define the terms and conditions of your marriage, which can help reduce stress and
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You and your partner can specify how assets and debts will be divided in the case of a
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divorce, which will help ensure that both spouses are on the same page.
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A prenup not only clarifies what should happen in the event of a divorce, but also the terms
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Things like marital expenses, joint bank accounts, and other financial obligations can be outlined
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in the prenup to dictate the rules of the marriage.
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Reducing the stress and uncertainty of divorce proceedings.
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Because the terms and conditions of your marriage have been agreed upon in advance, the divorce
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process can be much smoother and less stressful.
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There will be less room for disagreement and less uncertainty, which can make the process less
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In other words, the big issues like property and debt division have already been decided
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If you have a prenup, you pretty much know what's going to happen in your divorce.
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Taking the uncertainty out of divorce processes can provide a lot of peace in mind and mind
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A prenup allows you and your partner to clarify your financial expectations, which can help prevent
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When your financial expectations are clear, you'll be less likely to experience financial
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Well, do one of you expect to be a stay-at-home parent?
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Maybe one of you make significantly more than the other who would pay the bills.
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Maybe the less-earning spouse falsely believed the higher-earning spouse would cover most of
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These are the things that need to be worked out in a prenup and will help clarify expectations.
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While prenups have many benefits, there are some drawbacks to consider.
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Here are some limitations and drawbacks of prenups.
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Difficulty in predicting financial circumstances.
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Did you know that Jeff Bezos did not have a prenup with his ex-wife?
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When he started Amazon, he probably had no idea that it would launch him directly into
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Just like Jeff Bezos, there's no telling where you'll be in 5, 10, or 15 years.
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You could be orbiting around the earth like Jeff in 10 years, and you'll never know.
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It can be difficult to predict your financial circumstances.
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Well, depending on your state law and your specific circumstances, a prenup that was fair
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and reasonable at the time of your marriage may no longer be in the event of a divorce.
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The possibility of a prenup being considered unfair or unenforceable.
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In some cases, prenups may be considered unfair or unenforceable by the courts.
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This can occur for various reasons, such as if the prenup was not entered into voluntarily,
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if it was not properly executed, or if it contains provisions that are illegal, such
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as provisions related to child custody and support.
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There are things you can do to ensure your prenup is as ironclad as possible, like using
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To draft your prenup, which can help you ensure that your prenup is up to par with correct
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However, there are some things that are out of your control, such as major change in circumstances.
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All right, now we got this pretty blonde lady talking about prenups.
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A common question we get all the time has to do with, will my prenup hold up in court?
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That's a really loaded question, but I'm going to break it down for you from a legal perspective.
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In the vast majority of states, when you get divorced, you can either get divorced amicably
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or you have a litigated divorce case, which is what people oftentimes think of when they
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A vast majority of divorce cases do not get to that point because it's really expensive.
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When you have a prenup and you get divorced, you can either choose to follow the terms of
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the prenup, and that may occur through either each hiring attorneys and hammering out negotiating
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the terms of your divorce based on what is in the prenuptial agreement, or, and again,
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I'm speaking very generally because each state is different, you can file in court and have
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a litigated case in order to come to the conclusion as to whether or not the prenuptial agreement
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My point in explaining all of this to you is to show you that there is a wide gap between
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having a prenup and following the terms that you contracted to, and having a court actually
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have to enforce that prenuptial agreement and incorporate the terms into a divorce judgment.
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So back to the original question, will my prenup hold up in court?
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Well, this question is up to the court at the time of your divorce.
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Well, I do not know what a judge at the time of your divorce, yeah, it kind of depends on
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the judge you get is going to decide every case is different.
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And if you have any additional questions, okay.
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The possibility of a prenup being challenged in court, let's back it up a little bit.
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In order to even have a prenup be declared unenforceable by a court, you have to go through
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In other words, your spouse has to challenge the prenup, the prenup itself.
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Doesn't just walk into the courtroom and let the judges know it's a bad prenup.
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Now, the process of challenging the prenup can result in lengthy and costly legal battles,
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which can be emotionally taxing and time consuming.
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The downside here is the act, the mere act of dwell dealing with a court battle.
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The possibility of a prenup being used as a bargaining tool.
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Sometimes a prenup can be used as a bargaining tool in divorce proceedings.
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Well, a lawyer could theoretically threaten to or actually file a complaint with the court
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The bargaining tool here would be dropping the complaint in exchange for something like
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This can make the whole divorce process more complicated and emotionally taxing.
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The possibility of a prenup costing a lot of money.
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Prenups can be very expensive, especially if you hire a lawyer to draft the agreement.
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If you have a ton of questions, complex finances or difficult requests, your prenup could end up
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Luckily, hello, prenup is here to save the debt.
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Many people think about common misconceptions about prenups as the downside to prenups when
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So we want to clear up some of the common myths floating around there for you.
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Prenups are often upheld despite what people believe.
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Yes, there are times when a prenup is not upheld, but that is not the baseline standard.
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The bottom line, it is possible to craft a valid and enforceable prenup that the court
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Prenups can protect both parties, but in different ways.
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For example, spouse A can protect the majority of their future inheritance and pre-existing
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assets, while spouse B can still receive alimony and a lump sum payment to support them after
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Oftentimes, people cite distrust, a bad omen, or a failed relationship for their reason for
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It could be true, but it's not necessarily true.
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When you purchase car insurance, does that mean it's a bad omen and you're bound to fail
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Car insurance is simply a plan B in case things go wrong, which they might not.
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A prenup is simply plan B in case things go wrong.
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Whether or not a prenup is right for you will depend on a number of factors.
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That includes your financial situation and your personal values.
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If you are thinking about getting a prenup, it's crucial to educate yourself with the resources
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In your opinion, prenups can be for everyone regardless of your net worth.
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The conclusion is that prenups may have advantages and benefits, but they also have limitations
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It's important to carefully consider the pros and cons of a prenup before deciding if the
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If you're unsure about whether or not a prenup is right for you, it may be a good idea to educate
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yourself on prenup laws in your state or consult with a family law attorney who can help you
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evaluate the situation and make an informed decision.
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Okay, next we got five bad things about prenups.
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All right, five potential, five prenuptial pitfalls that may be bad for your marriage.
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All right, negotiating a prenup may damage your relationship and make divorce more likely.
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In the context of a prenup, there is usually an initiator spouse and a complement spouse.
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The dynamics of prenup negotiations may set up as a bad pattern for marriage.
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Some fiancés pushing for a prenup may be demonstrating a lack of faith in their partner
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This can cause the compliant spouse to feel a lack of connection to the initiator fiancé and
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In addition, negotiating prenups is anything but romantic and if prenup discussions become
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tense or difficult, they destroy a portion of the couple's love before they've even had a chance
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Negotiating finances is a harsh business and it's often made harsher by a couple's lawyers.
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Generally speaking, both fiancés should hire attorneys to negotiate and draft a prenup on
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their own behalf because the agreement may not be enforceable without the involvement
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Most lawyers representing parties in prenuptial negotiations act as if the entire transaction
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Although some aspects of a romantic partnership may require the partner's focus on money and
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Often, the initiating party says after the wedding, you can just put the premarital agreement in
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But of course, that's not true and not really possible.
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The premarital agreement simply cannot be forgotten.
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It's a legal contract both parties are bound to live by.
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There may be resentment on either side that was given up, not agreed to, and the resentment
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Prenups tend to be, we love this word, coercive when negotiating parties do not have bargaining
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For example, when one fiancé asks for a prenup very close to the wedding date, after the
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invitations have been set out, the negotiation is unfair.
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The other fiancé may feel extreme pressure to agree to anything just so the wedding isn't
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In fact, under such circumstances, the compliant fiancé can claim that he or she did not have
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sufficient time to consider the prenup and was under extreme duress when signing it.
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In that case, the compliant spouse could have a very strong case for having the prenup overturned.
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There are other less extreme ways for bargaining power to be imbalanced.
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Maybe one fiancé is not savvy with the business or money matter and isn't sure what she is
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Maybe the initiating fiancé is very influential and almost intimidating to his or her partner,
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such that the compliant fiancé can't imagine pushing back or asking questions about the
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prenup and it feels impossible to say no to the proposed terms of the contract.
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Even mediators can be insensitive or unaware of any power imbalance when assisting clients in
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Mediators should try to determine whether the agreement was proposed by both parties may
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be really thought of as the only one and whether the other party feels coerced.
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All motivations and feelings should be exposed and discussed in the mediation prior to the
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Prenups may be inappropriate for couples entering into a marriage.
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An important part of the joint venture of marriage is the financial partnership.
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A spouse may correctly feel that some of this aspect of marriage has been taken away and
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a premarital agreement decreases that spouse's rights.
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State divorce laws are designed to handle the issues of disparity of income and disparity of
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premarital assets if and when the spouses get divorced.
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So insisting on prenuptial agreements that may end up harming the relationship may not be a
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However, prenuptial agreements can be highly useful for entering into second marriages who
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A prenup can balance the spouse's loyalty to the new spouse with the spouse's concern and
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loyalty to his or her children of the first marriage.
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Prenups often damage the relationship between the families of origin.
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An initiating party may want a financial agreement prior to the marriage due to the existence of
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family wealth and a proposal and proposal a premarital agreement that excludes all family
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The result is that the future spouse's family feels humiliated and disrespected and never forgets
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This is not good for a relationship and it will result in the family of origin that will
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A common example is where the initiating fiance doesn't want the prenuptial agreement, but
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The prenuptial agreement is made and agreed to, but the compliant spouse feels that spouse
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A was unable to stand up to his or her parents.
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The compliant spouse loses respect for spouse A and spouse A's parents.
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When one family of origin tries to control the marriage through a prenuptial agreement, it
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distributes the delicate balance in a couple's relationship and makes it more likely to fail.
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When prenuptial terms are unfair, divorcing spouses may end up in a court battle anyway.
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Prenuptial agreements do not always eliminate divorce court battles.
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Sometimes premarital agreements give a spouse a fraction of what he or she would be entitled
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Although the outcome tends to support the notion that the deal is made in prenuptial agreements
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Courts routinely enforce prenups that result in unfair outcomes.
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But we'll take a second look when enforcing the prenup would create such a dispensary of
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wealth that the disadvantaged spouse would end up close to destitute or on public benefits.
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When a couple that had a prenup decides to divorce and the divorce seems to result in
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an unfair result to one spouse, the spouse may very likely go to court to try to have the
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prenup set aside and request that the court uses the laws of the state to make a decision
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Court cases that involve the validity of a prenup can be very expensive and time-consuming
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So it's important to realize that a prenup is no guarantee that you'll avoid divorce court.
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All right, so now let's see what the ladies are saying about prenups.
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When I started doing prenup work, it was really because I had a divorce that I was working
00:29:30.060
on and consulting with and she had a friend who was getting married and she was like,
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So a divorcing woman sent a woman getting married to me and that's how prenup work was born.
00:29:41.820
Sometimes I pinch myself that this is work that I do.
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But if I can help one woman avoid the mistakes that so many women have made before in getting
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married and wishing they could go back and do it again, it's worth it.
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Please keep in mind, this is very respective, okay?
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Like someone might have like $35 million, own a tech company, you know, have tons of houses.
00:30:04.380
But I always love a six-month emergency fund for a woman in a bank account with just her
00:30:11.360
Someone I know was going to have a baby and she put in writing that she wanted a tummy
00:30:15.320
tuck, she wanted a nanny, she wanted house cleaning care.
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And in the event of a divorce, those services...
00:30:26.880
Level of living would be continued as part of the divorce settlement.
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Do you know what the trads don't take into account?
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So you're negotiating a prenup with a terrorist.
00:30:43.740
And you know these trad, these conservative guys are not getting prenups.
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And to be honest, if you think like that, you kind of deserve everything that's coming
00:31:11.840
And so before the men of the past, women could hide our true nature a lot better.
00:31:20.400
One gal that I worked with had real estate money that she was able to invest every single
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And if the marriage came to an end, she would get to take all of the assets and portfolios
00:31:29.120
that she had built up over the course of the marriage.
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Because she had sold her house to move in with him.
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Woman said she never would have married her husband if he made her sign a prenup.
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That might be a little controversial, but I would not have married my husband if he
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I think she naturally would be a five, but she's got some filters and stuff on.
00:32:28.380
It was actually my husband who taught me how to become my own successful, independent woman,
00:32:33.800
how to get my own bag, because I believe that's what real men do.
00:32:37.200
They want their woman to be the best version of themselves.
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But my own personal reason as to why I would never sign a prenup is because I feel like
00:32:46.760
I'm ultimately jinxing my marriage at that point.
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Because what do you mean we are talking about, we are planning, we are anticipating, we are
00:32:54.760
getting our attorneys involved about this future divorce before even walking down the
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At that point, I would rather just not get married.
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For most of my life, I didn't even want to get married.
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If I don't get the leverage over you, there's no point.
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So if we're going to get married, if you are going to be my husband, if I am your wife,
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You are stuck with me, not only in this lifetime, but probably in many lifetimes afterwards,
00:33:28.080
My husband didn't even bring up the idea of a prenup when we got married.
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And while he's not as successful as he is today, he still owned his own business and
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he was still doing far better than most 28-year-olds.
00:33:40.000
And here I was still trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life.
00:33:43.480
So the fact that he didn't even bring it up to me, not once, it actually made me love
00:33:48.880
him even more because it showed me that we have the same morals and values when it comes
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to a marriage, when it comes to what being a husband and wife actually is.
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I could be completely wrong and I'm okay with that.
00:34:04.700
But if you are one of the women who actually did sign a prenup, I would love to know your
00:34:08.420
reasons why and how you weren't offended by that.
00:34:14.320
By the way, guys, if you have any experience with prenups, we're going to do a call-in.
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So we're actually going to put the link in the chat now.
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I'm going to watch a couple more prenup videos.
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But if you know anybody that had a prenup, I want to hear from firsthand experience, your
00:34:34.640
And by the way, isn't it lovely to hear what someone likes about you?
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I think it's one of the nicest things in the world when somebody says, you know what I
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Or if someone who I love and trust, I know you're my friend.
00:34:47.060
So if you called me and you said, you know, Jim, can I give you some constructive feedback?
00:34:50.300
Like something I think you're doing that's getting in your own way?
00:34:56.320
So why in this romantic context would you squander the opportunity to have that conversation?
00:35:10.800
I think it's because when people hear the word prenup, they're thinking ending.
00:35:14.300
I think I could be wrong, but I don't think most people associate the word prenup with
00:35:18.720
anything about the success of the marriage, which is probably why so few people get them.
00:35:23.480
Is there any idea roughly what percentage of marriages?
00:35:25.600
No, because what's amazing about a prenup is a prenup is not filed anywhere.
00:35:32.260
For the 25 years I've been practicing, trust me, I've had a couple of prenups I've tried
00:35:36.080
to set aside and I've been unsuccessful and I'm a good lawyer, but it's very hard to set
00:35:42.660
What is a properly drafted prenup is my question.
00:35:52.960
Oh, I also heard that prenups can get practically thrown out of court.
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So I want to hear from the field, not the lawyers.
00:36:06.300
People's prenup get thrown out of court because you either had them sign it under duress,
00:36:18.420
So like the wedding's today, here's the paperwork we ain't getting married.
00:36:25.580
But how do they prove that in court if they got married like 5, 8, 10, 20 years before
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Because you signed the date on it and you know what the date of the marriage is.
00:36:36.640
And so those sorts of things get you thrown out.
00:36:40.020
But the biggest reason that prenups get thrown out is because you didn't disclose all your
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It's so easy to like, especially if you're trying to move assets into other entities and
00:37:00.520
So that's why I tell people, get your affairs in order before you get engaged.
00:37:06.080
Because if you do that, you don't have to disclose.
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But like, if you have assets in your name, you get engaged and you're in contemplation
00:37:16.480
of marriage, you now have to disclose what you have before you can move it into a trust.
00:37:25.600
Okay, next, we got another woman saying she wouldn't sign a prenup.
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There are going to be people online that say you didn't get married because he wanted
00:37:42.120
In that moment, it was, I'd rather walk away from something knowing that I chose myself
00:37:46.880
than to spend the rest of my life not being loved the way that I love.
00:38:07.480
A world's gymnast trying to get out of a prenup.
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Oh, I think the sound stopped working on this one.
00:38:16.060
There is a woman who refused to sign a prenup and says she'll go back to her home country.
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Okay, the sound isn't working on this, but she is not having it.
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So the best I love my favorite way to get stories and whatever is from you guys directly.
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for a religious marriage understand what i'm saying well do you know what else was interesting
00:40:00.300
it said that you shouldn't get married with the state and just do it in religion but then why
00:40:08.940
would you have a prenup if you're not getting married with the state they're saying that
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there's no audio on youtube now uh and for the production team the audio was my fault because my
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microphone wasn't plugged in when i started sorry about that so whatever that is it's working now
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okay cool all right um what did you what where were we cut off at did you think they lost the
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whole part okay um so we were talking about andrew wilson in that debate yeah go ahead andrew
00:40:48.540
wilson is that oh he's mr orthodox i i respect andrew wilson but he's mr orthodox christian
00:40:55.420
he's saying that men should get a prenup with the state then he talks about religious marriage and
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i'm using him as an example of these trad cons are using every reason every way to try to trick
00:41:10.300
guys into taking this bad deal and and if you think about it if a trad con says we'll just get
00:41:17.260
a prenup they're pretty much acknowledging that women are kind of scumbags out here
00:41:21.820
and guys are going to get screwed because the main thing about is the
00:41:26.540
trad cons they can't get around the fact that all they're doing is tell men just do it bro
00:41:33.180
go for it it could work out for you when we know most likely it won't do you know anybody that got a
00:41:39.580
prenup um i have one friend that got a prenup and that's only because he he has an ivy league phd
00:41:50.220
and he always knew that he was going to be big time and so and he got a prenup he met his now wife in
00:41:58.380
college and uh they met and i believe but she she stays home with the kids but he told her from the jump
00:42:05.980
when he was in his his postcard program if we get married i'm getting a prenup so she knew from the
00:42:13.180
jump and they didn't get married to like four years after college so he had the first conversation with
00:42:19.580
her right before he started his phd and he you know she just signed it because they were together for
00:42:26.300
so long and they're still together okay i was gonna that was my next question if they're still together
00:42:30.380
or not together they have three kids she's a stay-at-home uh mother and he is um he works for
00:42:38.460
some law firm that represents a big pharma companies against lawsuits and so he is he has a phd in in
00:42:47.820
chemistry so he does all the chemical he does all the scientific write-up for defense for pharmaceutical
00:42:56.220
companies against lawsuits he makes a ton of money man he makes a ton of money
00:43:04.380
and i hope someone that had a prenup and it either worked or didn't work calls them i i want to hear
00:43:10.300
from people that actually like went through a divorce and had one and if it held up or not go ahead and
00:43:15.500
also do you guys think that prenups are like the magical solution for marriage rates to rise let's say
00:43:24.060
that every woman you met would say okay i'll sign a prenup does it make it sound any less risky
00:43:31.820
to you guys i don't think so no i really don't because here's the thing
00:43:37.580
prenups they can in fact in fact while we're waiting for people on the call i'm gonna read
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having costner's divorce real fast if you don't mind sure go ahead so he married this last woman
00:43:55.660
in 2004 right and originally had 38 000 a month in childhood and child support written into the prenup
00:44:04.540
right and if she divorced she had to leave within 30 days of divorcing him because his first marriage
00:44:12.060
when he got divorced he had no prenup and he had to end up sleeping on his friend's couch
00:44:18.860
while the divorce was going through so she said her lawyer said that she didn't know what understand
00:44:26.860
meant when she signed that she understood what the prenup meant so that was their defense and then she
00:44:34.780
she tried to get 240 000 248 000 a month in child support holy she wouldn't leave the house
00:44:43.820
yeah i think i'm is it kevin costa i think is that the guy i saw in hollywood
00:44:48.860
yeah on he was in um yellowstone he was in pen cup he was in robin hood prince of thieves yeah
00:44:56.060
and of course she's divorcing him because his work schedule took so much of a toll on her
00:45:06.220
you're married to an actor yep and so their estate is worth 100 well his um his mansion his whole
00:45:15.900
property is worth 145 million and she wanted half of that and uh and even so during their divorce
00:45:24.940
she temporarily got 159 000 a month for like seven months while the divorce was um was going back and
00:45:33.020
forth and now she gets like 47 000 a month but originally it was 38 000. yeah and then she wanted
00:45:42.700
30 000 a month to contribute towards her new home as well as him to cover moving costs
00:45:50.540
yes yeah all where she all while she's getting all while she's getting banged out by another dude
00:45:57.340
yeah yeah and she divorced him he literally said that he had no idea that she was going to get
00:46:03.340
divorced and now rumor is because she only is getting like 47 000 a month that she regrets divorcing
00:46:11.580
kevin costa i think she honestly thought that she was going to get more money
00:46:14.940
she gets 47 000 a month and she's not happy yep yep i mean i'll get it
00:46:26.380
how are you not happy on 50k a month just you jesus christ these people no it's it's their kids too
00:46:37.820
because they share custody yeah but how old are the kids he's old it says he's 70 so
00:46:45.740
yeah because he's like 69 oh my gosh he has seven kids are they all from the same woman
00:46:51.500
no they're from like three different women okay uh 30 and uh 37 and of course she's a woman so she
00:47:02.060
gets 47 000 a month in child support but she moved into a rental mansion that's costing her 35 000 a
00:47:09.420
month the youngest one is 14. okay so you got one 14 year old one six i mean how expensive are
00:47:24.380
dang is anyone on the call or no no not yet guys help what do you guys think it
00:47:31.180
our prenups the magical solution if you met a woman and she said i'll sign a prenup but let's
00:47:47.980
i don't think that any guys should should get married so no i mean i've been married once before
00:47:53.580
and guys let me tell you you cannot uh you can't control what a modern woman is going to do once you
00:48:01.900
get married all you all you can do is endure what she wants you to do
00:48:08.300
playing video games watching football all that stuff
00:48:12.940
if she doesn't want you to do it she she's gonna give you hell
00:48:15.260
so in the name of your peace don't get married guys
00:48:22.540
and this whole oh yeah you can find a virtuous woman yeah uh-huh sure what incentive does a woman
00:48:29.020
have to be virtuous and women are rewarded for not being virtuous in today's society i'd like to see
00:48:35.740
more house husbands put them to work and put them on alimony you know what i'd like to see put them
00:48:45.740
on put them on alimony and child support yeah every time i see that like um mary j blize's husband was
00:48:54.300
her manager but he didn't pay her taxes for like seven no for like 10 years 12 years so uh he started
00:49:02.700
sleeping with uh uh another woman and was using her money to cheat on her with right and so um
00:49:11.260
they got divorced oh my gosh and she had to find out that she owes seven million dollars in taxes
00:49:19.100
now she's paying him 55 000 a month in child support oh my god i've never heard of a woman taking a
00:49:25.900
bigger l how much is she worth look up kelly clarkson kelly clarkson had to give half her song
00:49:32.940
catalog to her ex-husband i think it's like 80 million dollars something like that
00:49:40.620
let's see how much is she worth though well kelly clark clarkson is worth 50 million yeah
00:49:50.460
now that she's divorced because her husband took half of it
00:49:53.020
and then freaking adele adele was the same way talk about it l she took
00:50:02.940
telling you every time a man gets child supported
00:50:06.220
an alimony all of us men rejoice kelly clarkson's husband's just pissed he got the fat wife and then
00:50:13.100
she lost all the weight after the audacity look at look at uh show my screen for a second this is her
00:50:24.780
and then recently she just starts losing the weight hold on now not yet um not yet for the
00:50:35.580
longest time she was denying that she's taking those epic she's like i eat nuts and berries and i hike 10
00:50:41.740
miles a week and that's how i lost all that weight yeah now she i'm gonna try to find a more recent
00:50:50.540
i mean i don't think she was as thin of yeah see look at that's what she looks like now
00:50:54.780
it was epic baby yeah like she's not as thin as she was before the marriage but still he he's like i
00:51:02.140
had to deal with this he's like you sold me left you gave me right and then after you went back or you
00:51:10.380
went to this i will put you on child support he's like you because she's like hot here
00:51:20.540
hey pearl i just want to say i love your show and thanks for being a kind and authentic person i plan
00:51:25.500
on getting married getting a married west coast or dipping to brazil nice i wonder if prenups will
00:51:34.060
be another reason to stay in court longer and spend more money in the future since the systems always
00:51:38.460
find a way to be corrupt almost everything in society is built to transfer money in mass from men to women
00:51:48.380
everything women used to bring money to marriages you know they used to have dowries and father i mean
00:51:57.900
it was from the father but they're like please take this daughter i'll pay you to take my daughter
00:52:09.340
what an l oh my can you imagine you signed up for right and you got left for years
00:52:26.540
and look at look at the olympic face guys look at the right picture no the right that's her young
00:52:32.620
that's before was it yeah that's before i'll show you i had it up earlier but this is the this is the
00:52:38.540
olympic face is on the right it's way more prominent yeah yeah there it is you see how her skin is kind of
00:52:46.380
hanging off her bones yeah yeah he had to deal with left he's like you i think that's that's the
00:52:56.620
ultimate sign of disrespect he's like i i had to parade you around on my arm it's gonna cost you 50
00:53:11.740
yeah i'm telling you like i keep saying things are never gonna be fair for men
00:53:19.660
so feminism is women pushing for their lives to be just as unfair for them as it is for men so you're
00:53:28.460
gonna see more women just taking l's dude just l after l
00:53:32.060
so you're gonna see more of these women marrying men with less than them and i know that men
00:53:43.020
don't normally put their baby's mother on child support but they better start filing alimony guys
00:53:49.660
get that alimony at least i should get the child support too but definitely get the eye
00:53:54.700
the alimony come on now i just can't believe she did that to him she was so beautiful back in the day
00:54:08.780
like look at her on the left like she was beautiful and like
00:54:14.540
i mean okay she was a six but she was a very strong six all right
00:54:18.700
look at look adele's divorce all right love your stuff heard you're monetized again so i thought i
00:54:27.100
donate thank you we are monetized again guys any pr any um i really would love to hear your
00:54:33.900
experience with prenups are they that rare nobody knows anybody that had an experience no one's on the
00:54:40.860
call here so i'm gonna let him in okay cool okay it says iphone it doesn't have a name but
00:55:01.900
i wonder if i know anybody that had a prenup yeah i just know that one guy i told you about
00:55:08.460
like he told the girl in college look man i'm signing a prenup all right iphone are you there
00:55:18.700
hello oh do you know what do you know anyone who had a prenup are you there hello did it work
00:55:32.700
you should call going twice all right i'm gonna put you back in the waiting room then since you're not
00:55:41.580
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00:56:12.060
i can take it um i wonder if prenups will be another okay if you oh by the way guys if you go to the audacity
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00:56:36.780
okay yeah let's look at i was trying to find i thought this guy might have known someone
00:56:47.020
the divorce settlement for adele reportedly involved a substantial financial payout to her
00:56:56.380
ex-husband with reports suggesting figures ranging from 171 million to 180 million dollars
00:57:12.060
that's not talking about let's go we're gonna let in
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jacob jacob jacob are you there yeah i'm here how you doing buddy i'm all right
00:57:47.020
so what do you think about this full prenup yeah sorry actually i have a friend of mine who uh told
00:57:55.020
me about a prenup that saved him on his first marriage he was on his second wife
00:58:00.140
and he told me a few good pieces of advice he said look get everything that you want before you get
00:58:06.860
married which i heard from a lot of people do whatever you want you know before you get married
00:58:11.100
and have to settle down and a piece of advice to get a prenup telling me he was on his uh well his first wife
00:58:19.100
actually he got divorced she of course filed on him she completely forgot about the prenup they sign
00:58:27.100
she takes him to court says i want the house i want half your paycheck every week he tells me i didn't
00:58:36.380
say a word smiled handed the judge the prenup judge looks at it looks at her holds it up is this your
00:58:46.220
signature uh yeah okay because according to this you don't want anything oh well uh you see but nope
00:58:55.340
case dismissed he said the kicker is he's on the second wife now the second wife has cancer
00:59:03.020
so imagine how awful that would be having to pay money to his ex-wife while helping his current wife
00:59:09.980
fight cancer so prenups do work they will save you so big piece of advice another friend of mine
00:59:18.460
actually was with a girl for a while they're living together that's the point where it was okay get
00:59:25.500
married or break up my friend says okay we're getting married we're gonna have a prenup she says oh
00:59:32.620
no if i ever divorced you i wouldn't want your money he said do you get the point of a divorce
00:59:38.300
they're gonna want to kill me if we get divorced he said oh okay you're right they go to a lawyer
00:59:45.100
they sit down okay if we get divorced you go our separate ways you get nothing from me i get nothing
00:59:51.580
from you she says um i don't know if i can sign this says okay we're done oh we're gonna still be
01:00:01.580
together right no we're done move out we're done we're not getting together we're not getting married
01:00:06.460
if you don't want to sign a prenup we're done so you do have to ask for them now in fairness
01:00:14.300
neither one of my friends had kids that can complicate it i guess the key is to have a no
01:00:20.060
contest or no reopener clause in there or if you have kids or not whatever the circumstances
01:00:26.700
it is what it is green up kids are not to go your separate ways so get them um me and my brother
01:00:34.380
actually he's on his uh second wife or going to be um we sat down there wills because he has a bunch
01:00:40.700
of kids and he asked the lawyer do you do prenups because i'm going to get married to my baby mama
01:00:46.620
like yeah we do so okay he's going to get that done on his second wife she didn't have in his first wife
01:00:51.340
which uh did hurt him substantially but uh pretty enough they'll save marriages but they're definitely a
01:00:58.380
good idea get them done inquire to them so girl does not want them that tells you a lot what state
01:01:06.460
was your friend in that it worked uh we're all in new york state okay cool so the states are different
01:01:13.260
obviously but uh for a few hundred bucks it's worth a shot um test the girl they look do you love
01:01:20.060
everything about me or just love my money or my potential money so that's the key i have a question
01:01:26.460
jacob so how many times have you been married zero okay but you said your brother got married twice
01:01:34.700
um he uh got married uh got divorced um he's got his new fiancee they've got two kids he had two from
01:01:41.980
his first marriage uh but he wants a prenup before he uh marries his second wife here and then you had
01:01:47.660
he said yet another friend that was on his second marriage too right yeah his first wife um they had
01:01:53.340
no kids signed a prenup she dragged him to court prenup saved him second wife okay um she has she'll
01:02:00.940
probably recover she has cancer but imagine that i gotta help my wife fight cancer and giving money to
01:02:06.700
my ex-wife just imagine the awfulness of that why do these guys get married again if it didn't work out
01:02:14.380
the first time what have they ever said why they've gotten married twice that's a good question i know
01:02:21.740
are that second marriages fail more than first marriages yeah i do have an uncle on his second
01:02:28.460
marriage actually his first wife because that my brother's marriage um his first marriage we sat
01:02:34.300
together at the table he told me they all thought he's like never met my first wife did you i said no
01:02:38.460
he's like she left me our son was one year old she couldn't settle down she just abandoned me and him
01:02:44.300
we crossed the country but he met his second wife they got married they're together in like 40 some
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years they had another kid so i think it marriages can work i've heard the term starter marriage i've had
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a lot of people i've known who've uh been married a couple years maybe a kid no kid get divorced whatever and
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go on meet someone and it does work out on the second time so yeah i mean that'd be awful enough
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our parents are divorced i mean half the people i know are divorced which it happens but uh just a
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friend of mine had the prenup and other friend was going for one girl didn't want it so he ended that
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oh yeah why do people want to get married twice i don't know i've had friends married three times
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tell me not to get married i'm like come you've been married three times you're telling me not to
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cool well thanks for calling in jacob we really appreciate it man thanks yeah thanks for calling in
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um red pill prenum says or freedom says even with a prenup i would never get married as paul elam once
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pointed out it takes longer to draft a prenup than it takes for judges to wipe his butt with it
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well it saved this guy i'm not i'm not saying it'll work or not work i don't know that's you got to
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research your state we have rj isaac it's connected his audio go ahead okay no that's it rj isaac are you
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there yeah i'm here hey how's it going hey it's going well how about yourself good what um state are you
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calling out of um not in the united states okay cool like um europe asia latin america oh latin
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america okay are you you sound american did you go from yeah yeah i've have you called them before
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yes okay i think i recommend i can't um see the video right now but i recognize your voice um
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um so have do you know anyone that's had a prenup and how did it work for them
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no i i don't know anyone who's had a prenup um i am married and i have not had a prenup um and so i'm
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more here to address the question that do i think prenups are a good idea um because you know i don't
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have the experience with the first hand of someone having a prenup cool and so i i think the that
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prenups are a good idea uh even in if they don't work in the end as a way of filtering out a uh
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potential spouse where if you say let's get a prenup and she says great i want to add in all these
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additional things and like you like that one girl in the video shared earlier in the video
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that would be a really good indication of of you know what kind of person she is um and she's
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resistant about it or saying like if you write up a fair agreement and then she's you know having
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cold feet about signing and saying oh you know my my parents said i shouldn't do this my pastor said i
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shouldn't do this you know those sorts of things i i think that would be a really good indication that
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it would not be a good marriage so for that purpose alone i think that there have been
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beneficial however i think the problem is that the people who need it the most in are the people
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who are not going to get it and what i mean by that is um i would consider myself to be a
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a recovering simp to be quite frank um i was a you know the church going nice guy kind of person and
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i've learned a lot over the past 11 years um but you know that's the context i'm coming from and i
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know for a fact that when i got married if someone's told me hey you should really get a prenup you know
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i know that you know you may not be thinking about this right now because you know you're in love with
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her and and you should go get married i would have said no way um i don't believe in divorce that's never
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going to happen and it hasn't happened but i i know for a fact that would not have done that and
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i think these kind of people those the person i was at that time is someone who actually is most
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susceptible to you know getting divorced raped and those kind of really bad outcomes that can happen
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from that got it um but you don't know anyone personally that's had one yeah i think you're
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completely right though when a guy is blue-pilled you can't talk him into getting a prenup there's no way
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are you gone we lose him that looks like he's muted oh doug mpa i think you're muted
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well sorry about that yeah yeah i mean every time arjun calls in he makes sense man yeah
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yeah also i do actually one of our points i will say it as well so another big challenge though is
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that that attorneys and getting a well drafted one that's going to hold up are also very expensive
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and uh the people again you know i got married when i was 24 years old so i was rather young at
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time there's no way i could have even afforded an attorney to go and draft one that would have any
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confidence of actually well they say the average price is like 2500 but i think a good one probably
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cost double that maybe well and this is one of the challenges so i there was a situation so my wife
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she's an immigrant and we had some some ran to some legal challenges with her immigration after we got
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married and we tried going through you know we ended up having to hire a immigration attorney which was
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you know it went for someone else just someone we could afford some very cheap things dragged on for
01:08:52.540
years and nothing happened things were just getting worse in the end we ended up um going with an
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attorney that was much more expensive than whatever kid we had to borrow money from family to be able
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to afford but we are like it was like she was going to to port that day so either we paid now or she
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just went with no representation and we hired an expensive attorney for it and the expensive attorney got everything
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cleaned up within a month or so and so and this is the unfortunate reality is that you know the it's the
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expensive attorneys the ones that are actually going to give you an effective prenup that's going to work
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and you know again if you're if you're just starting out in life and you just don't have the
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you know sure you might have you know 2500 bucks for it but it if it's going to be anything beyond
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that um again i haven't had experience so maybe i'm just totally off on that but that's that'd be my only
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other thought on this it's just the cost is going to be something that is going to be prohibitive
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prohibitive for a lot of people yeah okay those are good points thanks for calling in yep anytime
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up next is dash are you there dash you're on mute dash are you there
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dash going once dash going twice dash going three times i'm putting you back in the waiting room
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so i'll try to get you next dash but you're on mute let me see if there's any things on the website
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i'm sending this to a few people i know that might have input adam aka wingus hello hello hey adam how's it
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going it's going going it's going very well it's wonderful to talk to you you too where are you calling
01:10:49.100
from i am from uh or i'm calling from charlotte north carolina cool um have you gotten a prenup or do
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you know anyone that has uh personally from my life experience my father and mother divorced and you know
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you know when they did my father did not get a prenup and uh i was an orphan growing up i was
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raised in the church and i think in many ways i think that was a mistake i i think the way that a
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financial obligation was shifted onto my father i think he couldn't really handle it it was kind of
01:11:26.140
detrimental to his masculinity personally that's what i witnessed we don't talk much anymore but uh yeah i
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i i don't know i think different people have different life circumstances and formative experiences
01:11:39.980
leading to certain i suppose ideological lenses uh but in my opinion i don't think the government
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should be at all involved in marriage traditional in any way i think it's not very rational personally
01:11:51.980
and would you get married with a prenup would you consider it um you know i don't want to sit there
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and make it into a you know measuring my accomplishments kind of thing but personally i would say
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i would not even get married with a prenup i don't think i would i would ever get the state involved
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with my marriage personally um you know and i think it's tough because a lot of the
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the the settlements that emerge from a divorce are based on percent of income
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and if a person regardless of gender i think has sat there and and acquired wealth after so many years
01:12:40.540
it should be theirs it should go to the children first and it being distributed from a male to a
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female through some either alimony or child support structure i just think that's not it just seems
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profane spiritually to me personally got it would you consider getting married at all or i would say
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i don't have any i think what goes on i live in the city it gets very violent sometimes and i think
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that's formed my character recently i've walked away from a lot of fights i think people have a sense of
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self from blood lineage and that's fine i respect that boundary and then some people they'll sit there
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and say oh well if you don't want to reproduce you're an incel or some other derogatory and it seems to
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vacillate between those archetypes incel and blood lineage epistemology and in my opinion i would say
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getting married is a personal decision it's a personal decision and as a person who likes the new
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testament and enjoys ministry i see it as a deeply intimate decision that's made before a person in god
01:13:58.860
uh and that is my perspective from my lived experience cool well thanks for calling in doug mpa you got
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anything nope i do not thank you yeah calling any yeah calling any time okay thank you
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sorry jack didn't mean to over talk you there oh no no no that's uh i didn't have anything to say okay
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is it mr j what's going on mr j hey hey he's he's been in twitter spaces how are you
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good um tell me do you know anyone that's had a prenup or have you yourself had one
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um yes um my my uh my young you gotta you gotta turn off the audio in your background
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my bad i got i got background noise my fault my fault how are you i'm good i'm good how are you good um
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tell me do you know anyone that's had a prenup or have you yourself had one
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um yes um my my uh my young you gotta you gotta turn off the audio in your background
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yeah yeah yeah hold on hold on hold on mr j mr j uh you know he's uh trying to learn all this stuff
01:15:23.980
like you got hold on i got you all right mr j when you're ready unmute because the feedback sounded
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terrible so we want to hear from you but make sure to unmute because it was just looping over and over
01:15:43.020
and over again so i've muted you but if you want to come back in uh unmute do you want to um bring up
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terrence while he figures out his audio yeah i'll do that all right all right how about now
01:15:59.580
no it's still going yeah yeah just cut him out until he figures it out well we're going to bring
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you on in like five minutes let's figure it out um yeah guys make sure your audio is not playing in
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getting real close parents pop in the house how you doing friend what's up brother terrence how are
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you i'm doing all right i was at the gym of course how was did you have a good session or what i gotta
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run off my old fat gut and that's about it happens to the best of us so so enlighten us about this whole
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prenup thing because like i was saying well prosa and the opening monologue you know the the trad cons
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are trying to you have religious people trying to sell well get married but all you have to do is get
01:17:10.060
a prenup it's like what so now you have religious trad cons saying hey guys all you have to do to get
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married is get a prenup just go for it bro go for it so can you dispel this prenup garbage for us please
01:17:23.740
20 20 of prenups shot down like a japanese zero the other 80 that make it to the end um
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i would say 10 to 15 percent of the time there are uh clauses or things that are removed from the
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prenup because it's not fair and what have you so i mean uh i've talked to probably a couple dozen
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guys who had prenups and they they got shot down because they went to in front of the wrong judge
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and they they lost their asses because a prenup it literally is dependent upon the judge you go before
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and if he doesn't like prenups or she doesn't like prenups and they just throw them out yeah and what
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percent of judges are now female oh i don't i'm about to i'm googling it i'm just curious now one one
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third of women of judges are female so there's going to be more and more female judges to take women's
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side correct yeah yeah oh my gosh we're 44 percent of this supreme court hell is frozen over oh my gosh
01:18:40.620
41 of federal judges are women 34 of state oh my gosh yep oh god help us
01:18:52.380
that's why men aren't getting married oh yeah let's just hope you don't get you don't get a woman on
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her period that day yeah and the trad cons out there like i i ripped on uh naggy beard matt walsh i've
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ripped on um crowder and uh what's his name ben shapiro and i agree with a lot of what they have
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to say but i am not a fan of a man getting married today based on the laws that are just absolutely out
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of fucking control there's no accountability for the judges you have lawyers lying on the regular um
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to you know makes about abuse and what have you to so these women get the automatic wins
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and even if you complain to the bar they rarely do anything about it i mean
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it's it's a show what do you think about um they often cite stats that prenups are like 90 effective
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um bullshit okay you you just don't you don't think they're the studies are honest well from my
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research 80 of them are effective to a degree 20 of them are thrown out okay and the 80 that make it to
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the end are literally they remove clauses and parts from the prenum because it's not
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fair or what have you so yeah i mean there's all kinds of bells and whistles like you got it she
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has to have her own attorney you have to have your own attorney you got to go through everything
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nice um do you so the guys that you said you know that got prenups and they got thrown out what
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states were they in oh let's see two i see several were in new york state uh one was actually in florida
01:20:50.460
which really shocked me um a couple in colorado a large majority in california one in washington state
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and that's that's that's all i can remember it's usually the blue the blue states are the worst
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um i mean that's a given and so what happened can you tell me like a story for one of them that
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happened like what yeah okay a guy was married for about 11 years this is in new york state um three kids
01:21:25.740
he was working i think he was a brewer i don't remember the um the beer company he worked at
01:21:35.340
but he you know he was a a lead brewer so he was making about 120 ish a year with overtime in his
01:21:43.340
compensation package had a prenup and literally they're like okay they they basically threw out a
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major section of the prenup and then uh the soon-to-be ex-wife was making up um the difference
01:22:02.460
in child support and alimony now i don't think he got hit with lifetime alimony i don't remember but i
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think it was like seven years and his kids i think the oldest kid was like eight or nine at the time now
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this is you know a while ago and uh you know in in new york state you have to pay child support up
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until the kid's 21 and if the kid goes to college you have to pay for that too so he got crushed you
01:22:30.300
know he lost uh he had a pretty big house he lost that he lost a car half his retirement just absolutely
01:22:39.820
crippled him it took him about uh five seven years to recover and basically uh start over
01:22:50.060
that dude's never getting married again you know she played all kinds of games with his kids
01:22:56.060
and uh i mean there's never any repercussions for women that do that
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on average you have to go to court five times if you're denied visitation before she gets a warning
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and three to five more times after that before the judge actually does anything about it
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and each uh time you go to court that's a six to eight week wait so that's two years you have
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to wait around for the judge to actually punish the the mother of the child wow
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yeah it's a clusterfuck and i really get mad at these trad cons like yeah just have a prenup get
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married man up and get married prove your man like fuck off i'm sick and tired of these guys like
01:23:44.060
getting married and then committing suicide when they get railroaded by the system and their ex-wives
01:23:50.140
and even if they do pay the child support they jump through all the hoops they're still
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called a deadbeat because there's only 24 hours in a day yep you want to stay on and take a oh yeah
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i'll take questions someone asked what if they put the assets in their parents name have you seen anyone
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do does that work um to an extent but you have to it has to be done like i think 24 36 months prior to
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the divorce is filed otherwise they have a case to claw that back yeah i you know i have
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a strategy i tell guys to use the ga ah and na strategy that's gamblers anonymous alcohol anonymous
01:24:38.460
and narc uh was it narcotics anonymous is if they don't have any kids that way you know six months out
01:24:46.140
you join aa and then you go to a few meetings and then you start having some rough patches
01:24:52.700
then you go to the casino and you take a bunch of money out of the bank and cash and give it to a
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buddy of yours to hold it and then if they like what happened the money as long as it's done before
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the divorce is final you can say i have a i have a gambling habit or i i'm an alcoholic
01:25:10.700
that's actually pretty good that's pretty smart she's like i've never seen you drink here's the aa meeting
01:25:17.660
that's right but i've never seen you gamble i kept it hidden i was embarrassed women are horacious uh
01:25:28.460
gamblers oh my gosh we gamble on our on the on men constantly with the drug dealers and criminals that
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we did sorry who's next dash are you there let you back in bud you're in the chat saying that you're
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off mute i have you here dash dash going once dash going twice one more second all right buddy i'm putting
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you back in there putting you back in the waiting room we try all right let's go to scott
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it's joining give it a second well this is is this show strictly on prenups yeah
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yeah i mean i just i wanted to see people's experience because you always get more than
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the stats will tell you like i just thought it was so convenient they always quote stats that are from
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lawyers offices so i'm like yeah if i was a lawyer's office i would like i would say yeah they're like
01:26:41.740
90 percent effective yeah yeah pay me five grand you cannot find independent stats on prenups
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though and the stats i have are from my own um research that i did when i was going through my
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divorce and then about a year and a half after okay scott how you doing buddy how you guys doing hey scott
01:27:05.660
how are you i'm doing great so did it's an honor to be on your show with uh the wonderful terence pop
01:27:15.980
yeah he's a legend isn't he legend yeah absolutely i haven't had any experience with prenups personally
01:27:24.860
but i grew up in california and went to private schools and it was very common for all my friends
01:27:30.220
parents to have prenups and you don't really talk about that a whole lot when you're little kids
01:27:35.180
but when people get divorced it does come up and i have never once ever heard a story where
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the dad was like thank god for that prenup that held up solid
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never i mean 100 of the time it was a disaster it's uh it's one of those it's one of those like
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misconceptions that people have where you would expect that you put this legal document together
01:28:09.980
and everybody has this agreement and then when you go to court it's a pretty black and white situation
01:28:16.380
but like terence was saying that's not the case whatsoever and like paul elam says you know these
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these documents are just a starting point so when you go and sit in the courtroom in front of the judge
01:28:31.260
now you have some piece of like there's one brick on your side that you can start to build a foundation
01:28:42.060
with but that's all it is it's not like you actually have like a solid game plan
01:28:54.540
a personal history in courtrooms in california i've been in like close to 50 court appearances
01:29:03.820
on various cases i was a wild man when i was young when i was young and uh
01:29:13.580
much like you you'll learn that law enforcement doesn't actually have to know the law
01:29:20.540
they don't actually have to follow the law most of the time so can you define savage when you were young
01:29:27.660
were you like savage like you were slinging seed like a bird feeder or you savage like fighting all
01:29:33.900
the time doing crazy yeah i was getting in a lot of fights i did i i got in a lot of fights and i also
01:29:40.860
had like criminal history where i was involved in like massive weed growing operations before it was even
01:29:49.260
legal and so like i got busted by the i got busted by the feds in 2010 and spent years going to court
01:29:58.780
i had the longest open court case that didn't go to trial in the state of california that did not
01:30:05.420
include a dead body wow well it's good to have goals brother you're gonna swing at a pitch you know
01:30:14.220
what i mean yeah yeah take a fucking swing at it you're gonna be remembered for for something when
01:30:19.820
you leave this earth so that's a plus well and now i'm just like a normal tax paying outstanding you
01:30:26.620
know citizen that goes to bed early and doesn't do anything i don't even speed i'm so like traumatized
01:30:33.180
from being dragged through courtrooms uh but all that to say the judges can really
01:30:41.580
be very flexible and so like what pearl said about if you get a female judge that isn't really sympathetic
01:30:48.940
to your you know position of trying to cut your soon-to-be ex-wife out of your fortune or whatever
01:30:58.460
you're you're cooked yeah good luck trying to appeal that too yeah no that ain't happening
01:31:05.180
and they rotate judges i'm i mean people you're not going to be able to go back to the same judge
01:31:10.380
and plead your case like oh because yeah the same one that drafted it like it might be a different
01:31:17.580
one later right yep i did hear one guy i think it was there's a guy that's made the rounds on some
01:31:25.740
podcasts in maybe in the last six to eight months who's like a dad from i believe texas who's gone
01:31:33.260
through a divorce and his ex-wife is trying to turn his young son into a transformer yeah yeah
01:31:39.420
yeah he came on yeah he came on okay i might i might have seen him on your show but he made a point
01:31:47.260
about getting a prenup where you have this woman sign off her rights to your children even though you
01:31:55.820
guys don't even have any children yet or whatever that will never stand up in court that's what i was
01:32:00.620
thinking but if there was a starting point you want to start at if you're going to get married
01:32:05.420
first of all don't ever get married yes absolutely not i've been married twice it was a disaster both
01:32:12.060
times so you threw yourself two flying cross-body cock blocks he got a he got a born again too
01:32:19.980
i got married when i was 21 and then i got married again when i was 42. all right and both marriages
01:32:28.060
lasted less than two years so like i had a 20-year stretch where i was just hitting home runs
01:32:33.020
constantly and then i blew it man well at least you learned now i mean nobody's perfect right yeah
01:32:40.300
oh yeah i won't get married again you know what i mean like i definitely won't get married again but
01:32:46.620
i can see why people do it and i think i saw your uh show with andrew wilson pearl maybe what was it
01:32:53.660
like a couple weeks ago yeah and uh i i thought that was great i i found myself agreeing with both
01:33:03.660
of you because like my super hardcore christian childhood upbringing wanted me to align with
01:33:10.860
the things that andrew was saying about like you know we want to not just watch the house burn down
01:33:18.860
and say oh the house is burning you got to do something about it and i agree with that but
01:33:23.660
i thought you were a hundred percent when you were telling them like hey man you're not really answering
01:33:30.220
my questions here you're kind of beating around the bush and he just saying just do it bro just do
01:33:36.220
yeah he was kind of sliding and i i i thought it was great that you kind of called him out on that
01:33:40.860
so well they just want to go back to like history and stuff like stuff that happened like a hundred
01:33:46.700
years ago like what am i supposed to it's you know it's cooked it's over yeah and the time's never
01:33:53.900
coming back man or the whole virtuous woman argument you know i was telling pearl i said i said what
01:34:02.060
first off women are they agreed that there's a small percent of virtuous women and then what incentive
01:34:10.220
do women have to be virtuous and stay virtuous and also um behavior women are rewarded for not acting
01:34:19.580
in a virtuous manner now right and also one last piece women preserve the right to change their mind
01:34:25.820
about anything uh in the western society and everyone has to to deal with it everybody yep they can
01:34:33.500
change your mind about anything at any time absolutely yep and what i found is the more i've
01:34:43.020
understood women's true nature the more i i don't hate them for what the things that they do it's like
01:34:54.620
you know i i don't resent them for the things that they do once you understand what's going on and like
01:34:59.500
there's a there's a very kind of sad dynamic where most women almost all not all all but like almost
01:35:06.540
all of them really don't like themselves and uh it can be really dangerous to align yourself with somebody
01:35:13.500
like that and allow them to have any kind of influence over your situation legally in the united
01:35:19.260
states of america it's a massive fucking l you just there's as much as you might want to be
01:35:25.820
like an honorable dude that gets married and has a family and everything have a family don't get
01:35:32.380
married yeah have a family where like you have an arrangement that you can manage but you can't let
01:35:40.220
her move in your house you can't get married you can't go you can't go getting some kind of marriage
01:35:46.220
at the church without a without the state involved thinking that that's going to be a solution that's
01:35:51.500
like a step above a normal state sanctioned marriage you're tripping if you think any of
01:35:57.740
that shit's going to work that is that is that is some soft ass weak ass living in la la land delusional
01:36:05.980
bullshit you cannot play that game anymore in our country and maybe in the future things change
01:36:13.900
i hope the same things that andrew wilson hopes maybe 10 20 30 50 75 years from now like
01:36:22.620
men will have a much more favorable legal standing or whatever needs to happen but
01:36:29.020
i don't imagine any of that going down in any of our lifetimes and uh it would take it would take
01:36:35.340
it would take a civil war for women to give up power yeah yeah like like you said you you're
01:36:44.860
i forget exactly what you said but it was something along the lines of like this
01:36:47.740
shit's really going to have to get bad and kind of burn well well you know if a child is taking
01:36:53.420
something for granted you you take it away from them and women are taking men for granted so men are
01:37:00.940
just going to have to take themselves away that's right um we got a super chat saying prenups are
01:37:06.460
worthless get an irrevocable trust does that work terrence um yes and no okay god well i mean robin
01:37:19.900
williams did that because he was paying uh like somewhere close to two million bucks a year to do
01:37:26.060
two different xyz for permanent alimony and he was getting older and he literally
01:37:33.100
put all his in their irrevocable trust for his children just to protect money for them
01:37:40.460
and that's pretty much the only way that's going to happen uh typically i'm not an attorney but you
01:37:48.300
try you could try some of that irrevocable trust stuff if it didn't exist before the marriage more than
01:37:54.140
likely they will they will penetrate it and rip it up it's very common for judges to to pierce the
01:38:01.820
corporate veil to break all kinds of other you know laws in regards to banking and what have you
01:38:08.780
on the regular and they get away with it because they have immunity
01:38:14.940
um matt says modernity has exposed women's true nature non-virtuous non-monogamous
01:38:20.700
murderous and manipulative history was wrong on its portrayal of women as different
01:38:31.900
all of the holy um books not just the bible or the quran or the torah they all warn you about women's
01:38:39.900
nature right all right scott we're gonna move on to the next caller thanks for having thanks for calling
01:38:47.260
scott calling anytime yeah pleasure as always i think we have a woman on the line here let me see
01:38:55.340
sorry everyone impossible in the let's see if this is alexia are you there
01:39:03.580
alexia alexia you're on mute she's on mute make sure you guys are unmuting and turning off the
01:39:18.300
sound in the background alexia are you there alexia going once alexia going twice alexia going three
01:39:27.180
times i'm going to put you back in the waiting room but you i'm going to bring you back up next
01:39:32.300
after the next person so get off mute okay we're going to go back and
01:39:39.660
and then we're going to go to nevermarried.com after that mr j what's up buddy hold on hold on
01:39:46.060
what's going on what's going on am i still getting feedback y'all got me yeah now you're good all right
01:39:51.500
all right all right i apologize i'm glad y'all let me back what's up um what's your experience
01:39:58.380
with prenups have you had one or do you know anyone that had one yeah i definitely know um
01:40:04.300
one person that had one um actually he was my mentor um he was a really he was actually a professor at
01:40:11.820
university of penn i live down here in the um new york new jersey pennsylvania area and um he actually um
01:40:19.660
he how can i put this he wasn't really in the he was very smart very astute guy but he wasn't
01:40:25.900
really pleasing to the eye but the woman that he picked was bad so um he at least was smart enough
01:40:33.740
to know uh yeah maybe i should get this prenup um and he would talk to me about and i was like listen
01:40:39.580
mr j was in the streets at the time so um i was like well i think you should protect yourself
01:40:45.180
because i'm looking at him like yeah i'm looking at you she got you know i mean light light
01:40:49.260
brown eyes she got that it's not making sense huh yeah that that you know a bad chick so and he was
01:40:55.260
you know like he was a really good dude stand up at stand up guy passed away i'm not going to you
01:41:00.220
know say his name but you know shouts out to him you know he was a good mentor for mr j when he was
01:41:04.700
in college kept me on a straight and narrow but um what happened was um he got the prenup after the
01:41:12.460
marriage and when he did that when he went to the um you know the judge after they was getting a
01:41:18.060
divorce the judge basically told him that everything that he had before he possibly could
01:41:24.060
count on him but anything that he had after they got married um you know that that that was um you
01:41:30.780
know community property i guess so to speak so what he did was um like like like i guess the guy
01:41:38.940
earlier said um did he was kind of smart and i didn't know he did this he put um most of the
01:41:44.940
stuff in his sister's name and she's still alive and um they had they you know once he passed away
01:41:53.500
that you know his ex-wife took him to took her to court and kept trying to get the money or whatever
01:41:58.620
and i don't know if that really is foolproof but that was the best way because he was smart enough to
01:42:04.140
know he was you know um you know outside of his game he was you know shooting out his league so he
01:42:09.820
decided okay i know this is a pretty chick i know i'm not a pretty dude i know i'm not an attractive
01:42:15.340
dude but i got money so i'm a high value man however they like to say it and um basically what happened
01:42:21.740
was uh his his wife and the kids got nothing and his sister's living you know great right now so
01:42:30.220
i mean i i'm not saying like you know that's what you should do because i heard the other guy saying
01:42:35.020
um you know uh you shouldn't get uh uh married now he got remarried so and he and even though
01:42:42.140
he said it was like you know you know a couple months or whatever i don't know after i got you
01:42:48.060
know got divorced if i would ever get remarried because it's like um the stuff that she took from
01:42:54.220
me wasn't just financial it you know she took something from me like like a piece of me and
01:43:00.300
when i say that it's like okay i understand you're on some funky ass maybe i'm on some
01:43:05.180
funky ass but we have children we have a house we have a life built together and she was just willing
01:43:10.860
to blow it the hell up and i was like ah and i'm gonna be honest with you mr j is not a crier but mr j
01:43:17.900
went to work one day no two days and cried his ass off but i didn't cry for her because i knew she
01:43:23.660
was funky i cried because she was blowing my family up like or our family i'm not gonna say my
01:43:30.540
like women do women get real selfish with my baby my my my this my day she was blowing the family up
01:43:36.060
so i'm like all right and we have an autistic son uh and it was like bro like you know he need help
01:43:43.500
i don't like he's on you know he's not he's on the high end low end i don't know what it is he's
01:43:48.620
functional but he still needs somebody to take care of him and for her to just roll out on this
01:43:55.820
i mean she's flat out roll and left us like like she went to go have another life and it was just me
01:44:00.940
and my son and i was like well you know he needs you and you know that's what made me i already knew
01:44:09.180
women were selfish but that really took a whole lot out of me i was like wow like the sad part about
01:44:15.820
it is all you hear are stories of how especially us black men abandon their kids and they don't want
01:44:22.860
to but i'm telling you we don't hear enough stories like the one that you're talking about there are too
01:44:29.020
many women who just who just duck out and leave and then the worst part about it is they're fully
01:44:35.180
entitled to try to come back watch give it she tried she tried like like she sent me doing this
01:44:42.060
thing and shout out and thank you pearl because i told her i said listen you you know you're leaving
01:44:46.540
a bad i'm getting ready i don't know if i can curse but you're leaving a bad man i'm getting ready to get
01:44:51.100
on you know with this podcast stuff and i guarantee you i'll make it so appreciate to you pearl because
01:44:58.220
she's been seeing me like um earlier my son had um orientation for he's going to high school and she
01:45:04.220
took him um orientation i was on um with you on with y'all on twitter and when she came in she saw
01:45:11.340
me and i was like look you see her remember i used to watch her on tv i'm talking to her live now
01:45:19.820
yeah so then she looked and she like yeah i'm like yeah uh-huh i told you so appreciate you pearl
01:45:26.060
because women one thing i've noticed do you want me to give her a shout out do you have like a message
01:45:30.620
you want me to say to her shout out to my shout out to my ex erica hernandez erica michelle hernandez
01:45:42.380
yeah i gave a shout out she gonna be mad i was thinking i want to start giving um uh what's it
01:45:47.740
called are they you people pay you to make videos and you can give me i can give a shout out to your
01:45:52.300
ex-wife i'll be cameo yeah cameo and i could be like i heard you sucked as a wife i heard you didn't
01:45:58.780
clean you didn't cook you didn't even i heard you were bad in bed and you know i just want you to know
01:46:04.380
what he's doing yeah i was like i just want you to know he's doing younger hotter and better have a
01:46:09.740
good day i appreciate it that's good stuff i was like i could do a cameo like that good if you was
01:46:17.740
to do that that would be great because like i said she's seen you like she's heard you and she has the
01:46:25.420
um she uh you know that woman uh what is she talking about i don't like when you know women you know that
01:46:32.060
denigrate other women i'm like she's telling the truth so you're mad because she's a woman and she's
01:46:37.420
telling the truth and you know that would this that would really blow her mind i'm telling you
01:46:42.540
that would really blow her mind if i was like there she go remember her yeah is that for real yes
01:46:49.660
say hi pearl and she oh my god that would be one of the best things ever i you know that would that
01:46:54.780
would make my what's it what did you say her first name was erica erica uh-huh i just want you to
01:47:02.300
know um mr j is doing better you know he's on the podcast now and he's dating younger hotter and
01:47:09.500
better in bed than you so i'm very sorry you took an l on this one he's gonna be on he's gonna go on
01:47:15.180
to do bigger and better things you can clip it and also well that's that's a common thing that happens
01:47:21.580
with exes very few of them do better down the road i mean whenever i get a story on my show
01:47:30.940
somebody talking about an ex and like what happened to her and eighty percent of the time
01:47:36.620
you know they don't they don't level up and literally they wind up in a very very bad uh
01:47:43.100
situation down the road well definitely there's a way for me also tell her okay i'm sorry tell her that
01:47:51.660
that your son is going to grow up and know who the hero is and who the villain is
01:47:57.180
he always works because i'm sorry go ahead no because right now um we're dealing with that
01:48:02.940
dynamic because like i said he just turned 14 three days ago four days ago and um she doesn't
01:48:10.700
understand the the dynamic that we had um you know before that when we was all together but now that
01:48:16.540
you left us i mean she rolled out and left us for two years like we didn't know who the
01:48:20.300
this was honestly um and the fact that the bond that we had because he was watching me like damn
01:48:27.900
going through it but dad's still holding it down and it's like like i said my leg was broke but i'm
01:48:32.700
still holding it down he has autism i still got to make sure that he eat every once in a while let
01:48:37.980
me tell you the most humiliating thing that happened to me with her mr j broke his cheek we had she said
01:48:44.460
i'm out and mr j had gotten a car accident and broke his leg and he couldn't um get to the you know
01:48:50.060
to the bathroom to you know to you know to get a basin to watch yourself so um i had to beg her
01:48:57.340
i mean literally beg her to come and help me like my like she got mad at my son because my son like
01:49:04.300
he has the phone and i'm his you know i'm his favorite character so he so i was you know i was i was
01:49:09.900
just i was crashing out and i'm like yo i've done everything for you all i need you to help me do
01:49:14.860
is get a basin you know what i'm saying and maybe wash my back you can't even do that for me and i
01:49:20.220
was cussing her out and it you know that he has autism so everything went into his head and it came
01:49:26.460
out verbatim so he was walking up and down the hallway like cussing her out but it was you know through
01:49:32.540
my voice and she heard it and that was like and she still to this day she says um can you not really um
01:49:39.100
had discussions around your son or our son because he still says things verbatim that you
01:49:44.540
say to me and i was like i can't control what he says he hears what he hears and he knows what he
01:49:50.780
knows he knows you i mean you you know you rolled out and it was just us guys and the cat which i hate
01:49:57.180
i i hate the cat i'm sorry i'm not i hate cats too don't feel bad yeah yeah so so it was so it was just
01:50:04.700
us guys me him and the cat and you know once we once once i got once i got to the point where my
01:50:10.940
leg wasn't broken no more i could move around i was cool but the funkiness of this woman like and i
01:50:18.060
hate to put this all right so after this after she left mrs j she wound up with breast cancer how about
01:50:23.820
that that that's a curveball damn right right now she ends up with breast cancer this is true story
01:50:31.580
so now um she ain't really she doesn't really have anybody else so i could be an and be like die
01:50:38.220
but i'm sorry i didn't mean to say that yeah i couldn't point that way but we have children so i want
01:50:48.140
you to live because mr j lost his mom early you know um i think i was i think did i graduate college
01:50:54.540
yet i'm not sure i think i had just got out of college and you know uh mrs j you know guy rest
01:51:00.220
her soul she had rolled out or whatever so um you know i understand having a mother i'm like are you
01:51:05.900
not being a mother right now but they still need their mother so i you know it was it was mentally
01:51:10.940
exhausting for me because i'm looking at you like but you still the mother of my children so
01:51:18.700
what do you need from me and that was that was like really really really mentally taxing for me
01:51:24.060
and and and i'm and you know i'm it's this is probably the first time i've actually said this
01:51:28.940
out loud because you know as much as mr j you know we talk on twitter likes to talk my personal things
01:51:36.540
i don't like because people like to use those against you especially in popular so um you know like
01:51:42.700
my first baby mom she wanted you know she wanted to let everybody know that we was together
01:51:47.980
so she decided to you know just go out in the street and throw these you know tantrums and
01:51:52.220
everything and you know try to make me come out of character and i'm looking at her like that's
01:51:57.420
not me but i understand what you're doing you're trying to test with the other women and see how far
01:52:02.300
i'm gonna go i didn't go that far with her so she felt some type of way but um but we're gonna go
01:52:09.500
ahead i'm sorry we're gonna wrap it up because we have a couple more people i tend to dominate
01:52:14.860
stuff i appreciate it i appreciate you uh let me in and if you know you know um can i plug my show
01:52:21.820
go ahead all right uh erica watch me work um hello y'all i'm mr j um i i'm the host of the mr j experience
01:52:31.580
uh we come on every saturday friday saturday and sometimes sundays around eight to nine o'clock
01:52:38.300
uh you can like and subscribe my channel all you got to do is see that you know the uh mr j symbol
01:52:44.060
like and subscribe and we we talk about everything like like pearl is more red pill mr j talks about
01:52:50.140
black issues uh i hate to say it like this white issue red pill uh whatever whatever i feel like
01:52:58.060
if i was drinking that day you never know how it might come out but anyway um pearl thanks for
01:53:04.300
calling in calling anytime okay anytime buddy thank y'all thank you thank you all right okay yeah if
01:53:12.060
you guys do a hundred dollar super chat i'll i'll do uh i'll do whatever i'll say whatever to your ex-wife
01:53:19.740
i'll tell her you're doing better you can just screen record it and send it to her
01:53:24.220
the best example i'm so never married are you there yeah i'm here yeah hey how's it going the best
01:53:32.460
example is bezos bezos is an ex-wife is known for her philanthropy all she's known for after
01:53:39.820
leaving jeff bezos is giving away the billions of dollars that she got in divorce so brutal
01:53:49.820
but never married dating how you doing buddy i'm doing pretty good but tonight i'm the second time
01:53:54.780
calling in hope you don't mind me calling into your show i i like i love your show and follow you on
01:54:00.220
ex twitter so i'm talking about prenups tonight and uh saving marriages in general people not getting
01:54:08.140
married um did you have a prenup or do you know anyone that's had one we don't i have i haven't
01:54:16.380
got any of our any of our members have not told us that they had any uh prenups as yet we have about
01:54:22.540
400 members on our website so far on the never married dating and um i encourage them to get
01:54:29.900
prenups uh it'd be helpful if they're going to contemplate you know divorce a lot of marriages do
01:54:34.460
end in divorce and but so many folks are not getting married right now it's a record a record rate and uh
01:54:42.700
it's just uh people not uh americans are uh less even likely to partner up are you even getting married
01:54:51.980
right now a partnership is at a general low there was a social study survey given and they said 30
01:54:58.940
percent of adults from 25 to 54 said they do not have a steady partner so we're you know seeing a
01:55:05.500
trend people are just not dating let alone getting married so it's uh an issue i think people you hear
01:55:12.780
in the news the birth the birth rate uh it's dropping so you know that's that's an issue right there
01:55:20.300
so uh if it really mattered to them they changed the laws to prevent it but they don't i never sent you
01:55:28.460
yeah like change the laws for the um prenup or the marriage in general marriage in general okay
01:55:36.300
yep yeah the comment some people actually they even have uh they don't do so much the common law
01:55:42.620
marriage as much as they used to uh common laws barriers you don't have to get married just hold
01:55:48.460
yourself out as a couple married in some states they recognize that it's called like common law
01:55:53.580
marriage just as a fact of the day i'm not sure people familiar with yeah common law marriage no
01:55:58.460
i've heard of it i wonder how many states that's legal in it's about uh six ish that's about six issues
01:56:07.660
right now i i could be wrong i don't remember that it's not many it says nine you were close all right
01:56:19.740
what states are they uh oklahoma kansas iowa columb district of columbia colorado colorado texas utah
01:56:28.300
iowa what the hell texas oh wow new hampshire pennsylvania ohio rhode island texas utah and
01:56:38.220
there's a couple of states that abolished common law marriage uh georgia idaho iowa and alabama
01:56:45.420
well yep they need to get rid i mean they need to get rid of common law you know across the entire
01:56:54.700
nation yeah that's i thought they probably should yeah and the marriage rate is between 5.1 and 6.3
01:57:03.660
out of a thousand which is the lowest it's ever been since they started tracking that stat shortly after
01:57:09.900
the civil war i found a stat just recently um i was unaware of this that it says uh 26 i'm reading uh
01:57:19.980
reading here online it says 26 of americans age 18 and up did not have sex once the past 12 months
01:57:26.460
american adults said that didn't have sex from up from 2016 it was 23 now it's 26 so i guess people
01:57:34.780
aren't dating and they're not even getting married anymore so yeah i'd say that's accurate
01:57:39.900
they're just getting they're getting ghosted by chad i had a guy on my show the other day he said
01:57:46.380
he goes through 100 girls a year wow whoa that's a little excessive yeah wow no i saw him i saw him
01:57:55.500
i met him at a like a pua boot camp um he like he brought home i saw him bring home like three or four
01:58:01.980
girls in a weekend so he was a lion i was like jesus christ oh yeah he says he ghosts like most
01:58:09.740
of them that's ghosting is awful no it's not doug is pro ghosting no it's not i'm pro ghosting man
01:58:19.260
i'm telling you go what is it you want to know why is it better than her it's better than hurting
01:58:24.060
somebody's feelings correct it's better than just not hurting somebody's feelings they don't want to
01:58:27.020
hear no he doesn't care about those yeah i don't care about that here's the thing women feel entitled
01:58:33.740
modern women feel entitled to everything in the modern day but especially closure they have to
01:58:39.740
know why and then part of the journey of a man is taking l's and accepting rejection see like i said
01:58:47.340
before feminism is women advocating for life to be just as unfair for them as it is for men who did we
01:58:55.500
learn ghosting from women women wanted qualities so ghosting just like they they ghosted you when
01:59:01.980
they were young don't act like women are too good to be ghosted they'll ghost you that's right not
01:59:09.100
only do they ghost you but they basically depth charge your life and reputation at the same time
01:59:15.740
mm-hmm yep ghost yeah all spirit and love and wear buddy all your experience with the two wives that
01:59:26.060
get married twice that sounded like a white experience and a lot of people are going through
01:59:30.220
that kind of experience and it's just it prenup should be accepted and i think even if everybody
01:59:37.900
gets one like you're saying the court won't accept uh all the all the conditions and statements in the
01:59:43.420
and the peanut so yeah well yeah thanks for thanks for your input today yeah that's uh can i plug my
01:59:53.020
uh the never married site a little for five seconds or something sure yeah go ahead it's uh called
01:59:57.580
never married dating it's three words never married dating.com and what i did is i created the website
02:00:04.060
for people that are never married and so if you don't ever want to get married uh you can join it
02:00:09.660
any and anybody's allowed to join it because in today's dating world you can't discriminate so
02:00:14.300
anybody can join it but i say it's the greatest source to find somebody that's never been married
02:00:19.980
and it's called nevermarrieddating.com so far we have about 430 members that joined and it's 100
02:00:27.100
free to join so you don't pay for anything unless you want to send an email so that's you can email and you
02:00:31.740
you can chat both so sure awesome thanks for calling in buddy thanks you too um i would argue that corn
02:00:39.900
stars corn corner prenups were a big was wait i would argue costner's prenup was a big w imagine
02:00:48.220
what she would have walked away with without it yeah yeah that's true she she wanted to get to 240
02:00:55.580
000 a month oh my gosh this women are so important insane okay so we're letting in i can't it's
02:01:05.020
sagans s-g-a-n-h-h-s sagans give me a second it's joining
02:01:19.740
tagans it's s-g-a-n-h-s i don't know how to say that yeah you said it hey how's it going where
02:01:30.060
are you calling from uh new jersey cool so did you have a prenup or you know someone with a prenup
02:01:38.460
your signal's weak you're two by five can you hear me yeah there you are okay sorry i had to
02:01:48.780
turn volume down um uh i personally have never been married uh i tried to call in the show about the uh
02:01:57.180
the daughter subject uh i was the one with the uh technical error oh we need to redo that show
02:02:04.220
actually but but anyway anyway so basically i've been through the ringer of family court more times
02:02:12.300
than i can count and i've something's going on with this signal buddy we can barely hear me
02:02:19.740
can you hear me now yeah i can hear you now all right so i've been through the ringer of family
02:02:26.060
court and i've sat there and been like the last in line to go in front of the judge and i've heard
02:02:32.540
everything under the sun um i can't say honestly prenups are a waste of time because i've literally
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sat in front of the couple you know with their lawyers on each side talk before they even got in
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front of the judge and they're like you know to me it sounded like a complete game plan written out
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and they're like okay we're just going to go and get the judge to smash the devil we're in now
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and then literally i had to wait four and a half hours your signal is so bad yeah it's so bad
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only hear you every other word so i i don't know if you want to come out and come back in or something
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but we can only hear every other word so i i'm gonna drop you out and maybe try coming back okay
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okay okay i got the same problem with mine too every now and again you get uh bad signals
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then the um the last caller here is it says zoom user so we'll see it says zoom user you're muted hi
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hey how's it going good how are you i'm good what is your experience with prenups
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so i don't have any personal experience with prenups but um i wanted to give my female perspective
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um if i ever get married i'm completely open to a prenup you know i think for men these days it's
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a good idea but um i would also expect some protections for myself in that prenup and
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another thing i wanted to say is that i feel like one thing that's not mentioned here is the women that
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are forced to stay in marriages because of prenups so you know it could be viewed as a positive or
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however you want to look at it wait forced to stay into a marriage how does that work not forced
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but they're you know motivated i'm not you know i feel like some women choose not to leave their
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marriage maybe if they otherwise would because they don't want to like pay for their lifestyle that
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their husband pays for yeah and i'm not saying that's right or wrong you know but i feel like
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people are saying prenups don't work and if you want your marriage to stay together then you know
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yeah it might not work if you go to court but i think no one's brought up the fact that there are
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women that will stay with you because there is a prenup in place so what
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well because of that i do feel like it's a good idea and do you think it's okay for like
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women to have protections within a prenup um yeah if they both agree to it sure well first of all
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women enjoy a lion's share of protections from the courts the legal system uh media virtually everything
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is to a woman's advantage in the current year and i completely agree like i i do think that courts do a
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lot of the times tend to favor women so that's why i absolutely think it's a good idea but you know
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what i don't understand how a woman like wouldn't you say that's just entitlement that's like one
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the girl wanting to have her cake and eat it too if she's staying because her husband pays for her
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yeah yeah i mean like i'm not saying that's ethical for a woman to do but you know we've i think also on
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other episodes you've brought up like how women just leave because you know for frivolous reasons
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for their fitness partner and if you know they have more to lose it does in a way also have the effect
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of keeping the marriage together so you would argue that women have more to lose in marriage than men
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oh no absolutely not i'm just saying if there is a prenup in place women do have more to lose
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and i think that's also why you know they're gonna think twice i don't think they'll think twice
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if they want to leave um zach says i'm the guys who got divorced because their wives had bad dreams
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zach says zach hold on guys i gotta read a super chat i'm the guy with the tech error while experiencing a
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tech error too funny stephen hawking had baby mama drama okay go ahead sorry terrence there's actually
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one more that just came in too if you can read it oh okay she's not happy be um and wants to leave but
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is forced to stay because the money the husband provides also makes her happy aka i'm happy with
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your money but not happy with you and have you thought about how those women would treat because i think that
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these women honestly i think that you kind of said something true there where these women feel like
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they're being forced to leave no forced to stay instead of doing what's hard and and leaving and
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finding the and paying for their own way but could you imagine how horrible they treat the man if they
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feel like they're being forced to stay because of his money yeah and i'm i absolutely i'm not defending
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women that do that and i agree that you know courts tend to screw men over but you know the woman that's
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going to divorce a man over a bad dream might think twice about it if um you know she has a while more
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to lose because of a prenup and whether that's a positive or a negative you know that depends on how
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you want to look at it um so you would be fine with let's say what's your age range are you like
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late 20s early 30s i just hit 30. so let's say you you met a guy 35 he's literally you know a engineer
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you know about to get into the the best earning years of his life and you guys have been dating for
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three four years you met his family he met your family and he says look i want to marry you but
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i have to sign a prenup how that conversation go and would you hold it against him no i would not
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at all and but there would be things i would want depending on how much because okay if i in an ideal
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world i would like to have the ability to be a stay-at-home mom because i feel like it is for the greater
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good of the children and i don't know in the ideal world obviously i know this is like
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privilege to ask for and whatnot but if i'm gonna stay home and it's probably not gonna happen just
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statistically just so you know i know i do realize that it's like 15 of women get that okay but in an
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ideal but some are by choice you know like also some women don't want to i but i do agree that especially
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with me being 30 at this point it's not exactly looking great for me but i would like and just
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reasonable amounts like if i stayed home from work and then we get a divorce then uh you know i'm not
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saying like 50 percent of his salary or anything like that but you know if we and maybe we can see
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the way so you think you'd be like you should be compensated for staying home for him like allowing
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you to stay home with the kids well you do take a certain career you know break and yeah but you
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have like a decade to save like you've had i mean you're 30 so you've had like 15 years to you know
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save and prepare for this for my divorce no to stay home with kids you know like i mean you'll push out
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maybe two yeah i mean like yeah if that's even in the cards for me we'll see like obviously if i have
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to work and we have to put the kid in daycare or you know different story but i think if it is a
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situation where i'm i mean i'm just saying it's it's a privilege that only 15 percent of women get
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and you think you should be paid for it when he's like allowing you to live if anything you should pay
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him you're living rent free and then we're falling into the unpaid labor baloney i was just
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about to ask that do you believe in that unpaid labor concept because you you see these articles
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where a housewife if you were paid a salary she should be paid 250 000 a year do you believe in that
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concept yes or no uh definitely not to the tune of 250 000 but um i actually see them more get screwed
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over when they do work because i do feel like and i'm i'm like i said i'm not a feminist i'm not
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arguing like against your guys's you know a point of like men getting screwed over but i do think
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sometimes i see women getting screwed over when they go to work and then they're still expected to do
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all of the domestic duties or it's kind of frowned upon so but if you think about it
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think about the jobs men work and the jobs women work women want to want to take away the domestic
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labor when men are the ones breaking their backs outdoors they they work jobs that that would
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literally stress them out and kill them like if your husband is a freaking a lawyer and you're a you
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know and you're a secretary you know if he's making two hundred thousand dollars a year and you're making
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40 000 he your job is is the domestic labor but we have the same like women think that no matter how
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much money they make it removes them from the domestic duties and that's not true men work longer hours
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more stressful jobs in in stem fields and women still get degrees in freaking underwater lesbian studies
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and freaking work social work jobs it's not the same we're trying to paint all work as equal most
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women don't work with the kind of jobs that men have to work to support that their families
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so what you're trying to refer to are known as dud jobs which is the dirty uncomfortable and dangerous
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jobs and i 100 agree i haven't really had experience dating anyone with a dirty job like that uh and no
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shame you know i you know i'm open to whatever but i and i agree men go like risk their life at work
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compared to women but i have 90 percent of workplace deaths are men but also like in this day and age
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the reality is that women in my age group a lot of the times are out earning men not you know so much
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but it is more common and i have seen it where the woman is how much do you make a year or more how much
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do you make a year i i don't make a ton you know like i'm not saying this would be the case for me
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and i would realize that but i see where women are making like 80 her husband's making 90 and
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or no vice versa she's making 90 he's making 80. but he's but it's like a it's a privilege
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like i don't i don't understand why you're entitled to more money when someone's allowed you to live at
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home rent free and be with your kids and pay for him to stay home you know like if you don't like it
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don't have kids yeah why would you why would you have children if you like like if you're not willing
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to sacrifice anything to have them like why have them then just don't get your tubes tied
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uh okay i and then i'm gonna bring it with one other thing so uh at my day job you know there's a
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lot of i was working in an office where there's literally baby rabies for like one of the women
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got pregnant and then all the women around here got pregnant and these were women with advanced
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degrees you know working for all these health care models and stuff and these women they go out
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on maternity leave and they come back a changed person i met women that would be in the office 60
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70 hours a week and then they have a kid and now they they barely want to do 40 because they have
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their child and you walk by their desk and you see them just look at their at their monitor monitor
02:15:10.140
like why am i here why am i not at home with with my child right and there's actually a growing part
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of therapy where these boss women regret missing the younger years of the children your job is always
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going to be there but your kids are only going to be young once right yeah once your kids are grown up
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it's over you have a lot of these professional women who who had to put their child in daycare
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for some job that ultimately doesn't care about them and they start going to therapy over this mom
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guilt because they missed the children's formative years it's a real thing i just i mean put yourself
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in the guy's shoes if you allowed your husband to stay home and you paid for him to just exist and watch
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the kids you think on top of that if you guys divorce he should be entitled to your money that
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you just paid for him the last five years or that almost never happens pearl i i know i know it's never
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going to happen but i'm saying like if i was in a guy's shoes i would be pissed go ahead i had potential
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to be a higher earner than a man which you know i feel like the odds of that are low but let's say i
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had some specialized non-pointless degree um i like maybe i could um we can't keep him at home and i do
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feel like if he took a step away from his career for five years because i do believe kids do best with
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someone at home and not daycare you know so if i had all this earning potential and kept someone at
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home i am also willing to have the opposite in the prenup and i mean obviously statistically that's
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unlikely but oh boy you see the value dustin says let's be real if she has this idea at 30 won't be
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a stay-at-home mom she'll just be a stay-at-home woman uh steve she can start an etsy page not an
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only fans page from home well thanks guys well yeah i just
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i mean i really don't disagree with you guys on a lot like i think absolutely men get screwed over
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and these guys that are paying like 70 000 dollars do you know any women that had a prenup or men
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i've known you know like my friend's cousin you know stuff like that but i think was it held up or
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no in court it was it held up or like did they divorce or no they didn't divorce okay cool uh but
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yeah i as far as i know i mean i and my ex told me like we're gonna sign a prenup and i or you know if
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we ever got married we would sign a prenup and i was cool with that so i'm not i have one last
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question so so what kind of protections would you want because at the beginning of the show we showed
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this woman who literally tried one of her friends put in a prenup that she gets a housekeeper and she
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gets all these different things if she gets divorced for from her husband in perpetuity and it's like
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wait what i don't know if those are unrealistic but what kind of protections would you need
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in a prenup well i think it would just really be dependent on you know if i stayed at home and if
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not and it would not be to the tune of like someone's half of their salary or anything like that
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you know i mean i would say up to 15 and that's if like he really wanted me to be a domestic stay
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at home mom you know because then at that point like i feel like and we could like sign an agreement
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every three years like we both still want me to stay home and if he doesn't want to sign that then
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i'm going back to work you know okay what would be the difference in your marriage dynamic and your
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mindset in marriage with a prenup and without one or would it be the same
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um i feel like it would be with the same because i i honestly understand why men would want to do it
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they hear horror stories i've heard them and i i don't hold it against them you know i
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um yeah i mean i that's what i like to think but i don't know if in the moment you know it would
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make me feel a certain kind of way but all right yeah cool well thanks for calling in feel free to
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call back in anytime okay even if you disagree i do i do enjoy having um callers so feel free okay
02:19:50.700
i want to say shout out to alexia she paved the way when i saw that she called in i was like you
02:19:55.180
know what another female caller let's go cool anyways thanks have a great night thanks you too bye
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then the last caller is just the other life yeah i i tried to bring alexia on but she didn't uh
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yeah just the other wife how you doing hey how's it going thanks for having me how are you um where
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are you calling out of uh south dakota cool um what's your experience with prenups
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not necessarily a prenup but more of a relationship contract so one of my customers he is with his uh
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he calls her wife but legally they're not and we're not in a state that recognizes uh marriage without a
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license so without being said their contract is now for over 20 years and they renew it every three years
02:20:57.660
wow so what yeah so they sit down with attorneys every three years but at the same time he was a
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billionaire before he got together with her oh wow so yeah yeah and uh another thing is that
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what he told me at least that's what he told me uh that he
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uh when he met her she didn't know who he was he was just a guy on an old pickup
02:21:33.580
that barely runs with the manual transmission that barely works and that's how she knew him and then he
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offered her like hey let's make an agreement would you do that and she's like yeah why not i don't care for
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her marriage license and that's when he pretty much reveals who he actually is and because he had to do
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pretty much the whole financial audit and everything before they got together
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wow and it's i mean you just randomly you just randomly know a billionaire
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well i pretty cool i'm in an energy sector so i have to deal with people
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and uh a lot of them you know i had to service multi-million dollar houses and stuff like that
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so yeah cool and now yeah working with the energy sector i see quite a few different pictures i see
02:22:32.940
big people breaking up and men being raped over the coals at the same time like in my neighborhood
02:22:40.620
we have women's shelter where uh pretty much we're all told in the neighborhood like guys
02:22:49.100
if you see noise over there you gotta run there and help and all that stuff i'm like nah i'm not doing
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that cool so he did um a contract that renews every three years and it worked for him because
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she didn't know who he was before and she agreed to it before she even knew about his money
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not necessarily no she agreed to have a contract but not sign it before she knew who he actually was
02:23:16.140
so he pretty much i guess tested the ground or tested the waters so to say of to see if this woman
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actually cares about marriage because that was his check if this woman is in it for money or if she
02:23:33.980
is in it for something else it says zach says so the dude entered into a renewable partnership hey yes
02:23:41.980
it's more stable than marriage yes and uh the agreement was actually there's few things that they
02:23:50.220
uh had to follow is one of their points is that they have to do everything possible to be together
02:23:57.580
until the youngest child is 18 years old got it so there's quite a few things there's uh things like
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who does what in the house like for example who is responsible for things like taking out the garbage
02:24:13.980
who's responsible for things like repairing something in the house who's responsible
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for whatever the detail is it's all in that agreement and that's why it's been used every three
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years so that way they can add or remove things got it cool yeah and uh from what i understood that's
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what gets upheld contractually way higher because it's renewed it's been modified over time everybody
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on same page all the time because most people what they do with prenups they sign in once and forget
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but times change needs change people change uh laws change so you have to renew update and stay on top of it
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okay cool okay cool thanks for calling in that was really interesting yeah absolutely so calling any
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calling any time okay absolutely sure will that's everybody cool thanks guys this is a lot of callers
02:25:13.740
today this is a great um doug mpa would you do that a contract renewed every three years
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uh i wonder how much that costs in legal fees oh god yeah he does have a billion dollars to spend
02:25:31.260
yeah because like you know that lawyer is like yeah why don't you come in every couple of years
02:25:35.020
and give you give you another 40 grand or something i just feel like that costs a lot of money a lot
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but you know i mean if i had the resources i guess but yeah you don't want to just blow your money on
02:25:47.500
that huh yeah that's not an option the less money we give to lawyers the better off we're going to be
02:25:52.220
terrence what did you think uh well i'm gonna be honest um i am just 100 anti-marriage in the
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current environment there's no workarounds until we're willing to uh change the laws and put in some
02:26:09.820
mechanisms to make it fair it is so one side men are dying over this
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a much if you ever wonder why there's so many homeless men out there a lot of them are made
02:26:21.820
homeless by the system and never ever get out from underneath the boot of the government
02:26:29.820
that's true it's true all right well um any final thoughts you guys
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marriage is a bad deal for men guys average man don't get married you know and then
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i don't care what anybody says most women i say 90 will get upset if you ask for a prenup
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yeah they try to kill you yeah it's the same as if you were to ask for a dna test it's the same
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thing you ask for it and then she's gonna hold it over you for the rest of the time that you're with
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her and that you know her it's the same thing with asking for a prenup it's the same thing yeah i am
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