JustPearlyThings - November 14, 2023


Woke Hollywood RUINS Mean Girls Movie Reboot | Pearl Daily Ep. 75


Episode Stats

Length

28 minutes

Words per Minute

192.80841

Word Count

5,455

Sentence Count

426

Misogynist Sentences

47

Hate Speech Sentences

31


Summary

In this week's episode of Pearl Daily, I talk about how women are becoming less attractive in the modern world and how this is ruining our favorite movies and TV shows. I also talk about the new Meghan Markle and Lindsay Lohan reboot and how it is ruining everything we loved about the old Meghan Lohan movies.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What up, guys? Welcome to Pearl Daily, where I cover this week's treachery, debauchery, and craziness.
00:00:05.540 Before I start, don't forget, like the video, and get yourself a Women Shouldn't Vote t-shirt.
00:00:10.500 So, today, I'm going to be talking about this trend in society that I have seen.
00:00:15.400 So, as you guys know, women love spending men's money.
00:00:19.260 Yes, that is really what we do best.
00:00:21.720 We love to just swipe, swipe, swipe our credit cards.
00:00:25.160 We just like to swipe, swipe, swipe, but we don't like to take responsibility over the debt.
00:00:30.640 So, you constantly see women fighting for rights to spend men's money.
00:00:35.900 And this trend has ruined movies, in my opinion.
00:00:39.480 Now, movies in the early 2000s were just a little bit different, a little bit better, in my opinion.
00:00:45.120 For example, and when you would go to a theater, you knew that the actress in the movie was the most attractive chick really around.
00:00:53.100 Like, it was Megan Fox back in the day.
00:00:55.600 You used to have Margot Robbie in her prime.
00:00:58.140 But, as you see the movie companies catering to a female audience, what you start to see is the women getting less and less attractive.
00:01:06.620 I pointed out this phenomenon where I noticed all of the actresses, like, of today just really were not as beautiful as the actresses of the past.
00:01:14.000 Now, guys, when I go to a movie, I want to feel a little bad about myself.
00:01:17.540 I don't want to see no average chicks on TV.
00:01:20.160 The same thing with the guys, but really, they just keep selling us dreams.
00:01:24.920 Like, I watched this Grey's Anatomy.
00:01:26.600 I reacted to this Grey's Anatomy clip.
00:01:28.560 It was like a girl that was a sick having two doctors fight over her.
00:01:32.800 In what world?
00:01:34.600 These are tall, handsome, jacked doctors.
00:01:36.720 I'm like, they're just going to move on.
00:01:38.080 Anyway.
00:01:38.440 Now, a movie that was actually awesome back in the early 2000s, I remember growing up, was Mean Girls.
00:01:43.860 Now, Lindsay Lohan in her prime was absolutely beautiful.
00:01:47.300 But in this new reboot, they have decided to make it woke and use mid-chicks.
00:01:53.480 Why are they doing this to us?
00:01:54.740 Mary Morgan says they're rebooting Mean Girls 2004, a cinematic masterpiece, and are ruining everything we loved about it.
00:02:03.620 Oh, hell no!
00:02:14.680 Bitch, move.
00:02:15.880 Hey!
00:02:16.460 PG-13, please.
00:02:20.080 What was that?
00:02:20.680 Oh, Lord, it's the Queen Bee.
00:02:21.880 Regina George.
00:02:22.940 Don't look her in the eye!
00:02:25.400 You could be really hot.
00:02:26.780 They change, like...
00:02:27.620 Welcome to health and human sexuality.
00:02:31.980 We'll be getting abstinence, of course, then followed by, in the spring, condoms and choking.
00:02:36.880 You're learning things now that I don't know how to teach.
00:02:40.440 Are you okay in there?
00:02:42.820 We're going to say you're either doing drugs or having a toilet baby.
00:02:45.420 Ew.
00:02:48.060 We, as women, have to be able to support each other.
00:02:51.060 Get in, loser.
00:02:52.260 Welcome, Katie.
00:02:54.060 You're never going to believe what I found this morning.
00:02:55.660 Your burn book.
00:02:57.720 Mom, go make snacks.
00:02:58.940 For sure.
00:02:59.580 For sure, Regina.
00:03:00.500 Yeah.
00:03:02.340 Do you like gum?
00:03:03.580 Sure.
00:03:04.140 We will help you, Katie.
00:03:07.040 Why aren't you dressed so scary?
00:03:08.740 It's Halloween.
00:03:09.820 Katie, if you don't dress slutty, that is slut-shaming us.
00:03:12.800 That's just unprofessional.
00:03:15.760 What?
00:03:16.280 What's this?
00:03:19.640 We're going to make her pay.
00:03:20.700 What we've done is to make Regina hotter and revive the wet look.
00:03:26.720 Dance br-
00:03:27.160 Katie pushed her.
00:03:40.480 Regina really should be lifting through her glutes.
00:03:43.160 I want to get him back.
00:03:49.100 You're my pair of Katie.
00:03:50.100 Incorrect.
00:03:50.880 You have to pick a French name.
00:03:52.200 Chanel.
00:03:52.720 No.
00:03:53.480 Celine Dion.
00:03:54.680 No.
00:03:56.180 Beyoncé.
00:03:56.820 So, as you can see, they replaced all of the chicks, which used to be 8s to 10s, with
00:04:06.760 a bunch of mids.
00:04:07.580 Why?
00:04:08.420 Why?
00:04:10.240 Okay.
00:04:10.980 So, Mary points out, it's set in modern day.
00:04:14.940 They make TikToks.
00:04:16.140 Got to appeal to that Gen Z audience.
00:04:19.260 And name-check slut-shaming.
00:04:21.140 So, you see how in these commercials, they, like, subtly put the wokeness in.
00:04:25.940 They subtly make everybody uglier.
00:04:28.360 Why?
00:04:29.460 I want to go and watch a movie with Zac Efron and Vanessa Hudgens.
00:04:33.620 Two extremely beautiful people.
00:04:36.160 Obviously, they're way hotter than anybody I know.
00:04:39.220 Alright?
00:04:40.040 Obviously.
00:04:40.720 But it's like, it's supposed to be like that.
00:04:42.920 It's TV.
00:04:43.880 They made Hattie Heron, originally Lindsay Lohan, mid, even though the catalyst of her
00:04:49.600 entire character arc is not realizing she's hot.
00:04:52.900 Janice is race-swapped and they made her fat.
00:04:56.400 Damien is also race-swapped because why not?
00:05:00.460 Karen also got race-swapped.
00:05:02.720 New Regina George just dropped, except she's mid and fat now.
00:05:06.820 Also, WTF is this.
00:05:09.120 Yes.
00:05:09.840 And that's what I've noticed.
00:05:10.900 The more they appeal to a female audience, the more the movies just start to suck.
00:05:15.520 They start to get more woke.
00:05:16.780 They start to get less attractive.
00:05:19.900 Everybody becomes mid.
00:05:21.540 When I thought that was like the prerequisite to be an actress.
00:05:25.800 Like Angelina Jolie, Jennifer Aniston.
00:05:28.200 You know, growing up, I always knew.
00:05:30.780 Now, now I know this is not a, this is not a poor Pearl thing.
00:05:34.040 But like, I always knew like I was never gonna model.
00:05:36.640 Nobody was gonna model.
00:05:37.560 Nobody that I knew was gonna model.
00:05:39.940 Because you had to be exceptional.
00:05:42.580 But now it's like everyone can be a model.
00:05:44.700 Everyone can be a top actress.
00:05:46.080 And we wonder why these movies are tanky.
00:05:48.060 Just like these superhero movies when they put these chicks as lead supermen.
00:05:52.400 Why?
00:05:52.920 Why?
00:05:53.180 Obvious.
00:05:53.600 It's like a 5'5 blonde chick that never been in the gym in her life.
00:05:57.340 Trying to fight?
00:05:58.520 What?
00:05:59.000 Like, we don't, we don't believe this stuff.
00:06:01.100 And commenters are seeing this.
00:06:03.280 They're sick of the wokeness being shoved down their throats.
00:06:06.140 So, the top comment is, Naomi says, replacing Lindsay Lohan is the 8th deadly sin.
00:06:12.440 Fresh, fit, chef, you, they're all fat as well.
00:06:17.280 P.S.
00:06:17.740 Ruining everything is the left's ideology.
00:06:20.800 And yeah, that's what we keep seeing.
00:06:22.120 We keep seeing all of these movies.
00:06:24.100 And I haven't seen it.
00:06:25.040 Maybe it's amazing.
00:06:26.020 I don't know.
00:06:26.540 But I am sure that leftism is just gonna be shoved down our throat.
00:06:32.100 Why do movies need to be political?
00:06:34.520 Why can't they just be funny movies?
00:06:36.500 Why can't we go and just watch a funny movie and be done with it?
00:06:40.360 So, the next story that I'm gonna cover is actually the saddest story that I have read
00:06:45.640 in a really long time.
00:06:47.060 There is an innocent baby girl that has been condemned to death by British judges.
00:06:51.980 Let's take a look.
00:06:52.620 The father of Indy Gregory, this poor child who is facing death because the British government
00:07:00.740 is attempting to kill the child, even contrary to what the government of Italy and what the
00:07:05.700 Vatican are offering, which is citizenship and treatment at the hospital of Bambino Gesù.
00:07:09.980 We have him on the line.
00:07:11.120 He's not in court right now.
00:07:11.900 This should be an international scandal.
00:07:13.900 But because we've heard this story now every six months, at least every year, specifically
00:07:17.660 out of the United Kingdom, we've become callous to it.
00:07:20.740 And the story is that a baby faces medical problems and the parents of the baby want to treat
00:07:26.220 the baby and want to help the baby and want to keep the baby alive.
00:07:29.220 And the psychopaths running the UK government and health system, more broadly, who run the
00:07:34.800 health systems in the West, want to kill the child because they now view death as treatment.
00:07:39.860 Mr. Gregory, thank you for coming on the show.
00:07:41.640 Thank you.
00:07:42.040 Thank you for being here.
00:07:42.760 So sorry about everything you're going through.
00:07:45.060 It's horrific.
00:07:46.280 The health problems of your child are obviously horrific in themselves.
00:07:51.480 I pray to God I never have to go through anything like that.
00:07:54.180 I it's it's the greatest fear any parent has.
00:07:57.940 And then on top of that, your government will not permit you to treat your child or keep
00:08:04.240 your child alive.
00:08:05.060 And on top of that, the UK government will not allow the government of Italy, which gave
00:08:10.200 your child citizenship, will not allow the Pope, will not allow the vicar of Christ on
00:08:15.360 earth to help treat your child.
00:08:17.680 They simply want to kill your baby.
00:08:21.620 Tell us what's what's happening.
00:08:23.280 We're just absolutely disgusted.
00:08:25.140 I'm embarrassed to be British at the minute.
00:08:27.240 We've got another country offering to pay for the treatment and they're blocking her
00:08:30.380 from going to Italy.
00:08:31.460 They're blocking her for coming home to get extubation.
00:08:34.360 They're just being it's just so cruel and humane.
00:08:36.740 I just don't understand.
00:08:37.640 Where does the case stand now?
00:08:39.040 I know I really appreciate your making time.
00:08:41.320 I know you've got a lot of other things on your mind.
00:08:42.900 I know that there was a chance you were going to be in court this morning or this afternoon
00:08:46.540 by your time.
00:08:47.660 So where does it all stand?
00:08:48.920 There's a court hearing going off now.
00:08:50.720 It's online virtual.
00:08:51.860 I've just had to pop out to get my daughter from school and then go back to the hospital
00:08:55.100 and then join again.
00:08:56.400 But yeah, the appeal is this appeal is to do with where Indy, they're trying to block
00:09:00.340 Indy from coming home.
00:09:01.440 They're trying to say she can only go to a hospice or the hospital to have a treatment
00:09:04.780 withdrawn.
00:09:05.520 So they've blocked us from going to Italy and now they're trying to block us from taking
00:09:08.440 her home.
00:09:08.860 It's just cruel.
00:09:09.480 Is there any hope at this point that you will be able to bring your baby to Italy for
00:09:16.140 treatment at the Bambino Gesù hospital or is that completely off the table?
00:09:19.580 I know the Italians are doing as much as they can in the background and we're just hoping
00:09:23.240 that something will come of it at any point.
00:09:26.040 It's the UK government and the Italian government to come to some sort of agreement.
00:09:29.520 That's what we're hoping for.
00:09:30.400 Now, short of that, you'd like to take your daughter home, of course.
00:09:35.940 You don't want to ship your daughter off to a hospice to just be officially neglected
00:09:41.620 by the UK medical system.
00:09:43.760 So what is their argument?
00:09:45.260 Why won't they allow you to take your own daughter home if things are going to go south,
00:09:50.980 as I suppose they will for all of us eventually, but if this is really her time?
00:09:55.100 Why won't they let her have her final moments in her home with her family who love her
00:10:00.300 rather than in some clinical UK institution?
00:10:03.900 It was in the original court order that we could choose for her to come home.
00:10:08.480 I think when they found out about Italy, I think they got scared and are trying to block
00:10:12.760 us from taking her home because they're probably scared that we're going to jump on a plane
00:10:15.880 or something and go over there.
00:10:17.380 That's what it feels like.
00:10:18.320 Of course.
00:10:19.040 I actually, I should have realized that because I couldn't figure out.
00:10:21.720 It just seems so needlessly cruel to say you can't even take your own daughter home
00:10:26.600 if she is going to die.
00:10:27.740 But right, because they don't want you to flee to go get medical treatment from Italy
00:10:34.520 and the Pope, from the Vatican, though now your daughter is officially an Italian citizen.
00:10:40.660 Do I have that right?
00:10:41.280 Yeah, that's right.
00:10:41.820 Yeah, exactly.
00:10:42.480 As a parent in the UK, when you go to the courts, you've got no rights.
00:10:45.920 You've set up to fail.
00:10:47.080 Everybody's against you.
00:10:48.060 My daughter's not brain dead.
00:10:49.200 She's moving.
00:10:50.000 She's breathing.
00:10:50.780 She's alert.
00:10:51.960 There's children in America with the same disease.
00:10:53.980 He was nine.
00:10:54.540 And I've been talking to the parents of them.
00:10:56.800 It's just, it's all down to money.
00:10:58.780 It's all down to cost and resources in the UK.
00:11:01.080 So that's what this is.
00:11:02.540 It's not that, you know, your daughter would just die immediately or anything like that.
00:11:08.720 It's not what they're saying, which is that, oh, she's in this horrific kind of pain and
00:11:12.520 it's whatever euthanasia, quote unquote, arguments that they make.
00:11:16.240 It's rather that this is, it's a socialist health care system.
00:11:19.720 They've got a finite amount of money and they just don't want to spend the money to keep
00:11:23.440 your daughter alive.
00:11:24.080 They don't think she's worth the cost because she's potentially got a shorter life, but
00:11:27.600 nobody knows when they're going to pass away.
00:11:29.500 So they're not God.
00:11:30.440 They shouldn't play this.
00:11:31.280 They shouldn't play God.
00:11:32.220 This, I first covered the story on the show yesterday.
00:11:36.060 And the thing that makes me, it's not, the thing that makes me angriest is what they're
00:11:40.120 doing to your daughter.
00:11:40.800 The thing that makes me second angriest is that I see what they're thinking.
00:11:44.280 I see what the judge is thinking.
00:11:45.540 I see what the UK government is thinking.
00:11:47.060 I see their logic.
00:11:48.560 The problem is their premises are wrong.
00:11:50.400 And the premises are wrong for exactly the reason you just said.
00:11:52.540 Because they're saying, well, look, she's going to die eventually.
00:11:55.580 Yeah, you're going to die eventually too.
00:11:57.100 I'm going to die eventually too.
00:11:58.480 You don't know when you're going to die.
00:12:00.180 Maybe you'll die in 50 years.
00:12:01.600 Maybe you'll go get hit by a bus tomorrow.
00:12:03.420 Does that mean that we're going to stop feeding you today?
00:12:05.200 Does that mean that we're going to stop giving you basic medical care?
00:12:08.440 It's just so, it's just a culture of death that is so shocking that when it happened the
00:12:13.980 first couple of times, it was an international scandal.
00:12:16.420 Now, the biggest scandal is that it's not an international scandal, that not nearly enough people
00:12:20.600 are talking about this egregious injustice that your government, a supposedly civilized
00:12:25.260 government, is doing to you and your family and your daughter.
00:12:28.560 I know.
00:12:28.860 It's disgraceful.
00:12:29.880 It's like everyone in the UK is just not aware of what's happening around them.
00:12:33.440 And you've got another country, Italy, who are doing everything they can.
00:12:36.780 And Indy wasn't even Italian.
00:12:38.200 She's got an Italian citizenship now.
00:12:40.320 But that country is doing everything they can to help.
00:12:42.240 So why can't my country help?
00:12:43.600 Why can't they come to some sort of agreements?
00:12:45.340 Why can't my country help?
00:12:46.880 Why can't my country help my own daughter?
00:12:48.960 Can you imagine?
00:12:49.600 That phrase is such an indictment of what has happened to the medical system and the
00:12:58.060 whole political order in these countries.
00:13:00.620 I know that you're extremely busy, Mr. Gregory, so I'm going to let you go.
00:13:05.720 And I know that sometimes we say, if there's a real important international cause, we say,
00:13:10.740 well, how can we help?
00:13:11.460 Where can we donate?
00:13:12.000 I know that what we're talking about here is a matter of hours or days, the kind of urgency.
00:13:17.120 So, of course, I encourage everyone to pray for you and your family and for your daughter
00:13:22.000 that there is a happy conclusion, you know, even as unlikely as that seems right now.
00:13:28.980 A priest friend of mine, a British priest friend of mine pointed out once that prayer
00:13:32.680 is not the last resort.
00:13:33.920 Prayer is the first resort.
00:13:34.940 And so we will all absolutely be praying for you.
00:13:37.400 Um, if there is, if there's any other way that we can help, uh, you know, please do,
00:13:42.380 please do let us know.
00:13:43.360 All right.
00:13:43.560 Thank you.
00:13:44.240 Thank you, Mr. Gregory, man.
00:13:46.100 What a great clip that was now.
00:13:47.420 Hey, hey, hey, bring that bell.
00:13:48.820 Subscribe to the Michael Knowles YouTube channel.
00:13:50.960 When I first saw this story, I couldn't even believe it was real.
00:13:54.760 Um, I, I saw the clip of his baby just playing on my timeline on Twitter, the baby just like
00:14:01.080 his daughter looks so happy.
00:14:02.440 And if she wasn't, she didn't look sick.
00:14:04.480 She looked like full of life and I couldn't believe that they wouldn't bring her to the,
00:14:10.260 to Italy.
00:14:10.680 If they were offering to pay for the treatment, um, I couldn't really see what the problem
00:14:14.720 was if another country is coming in and offering to try to treat them.
00:14:18.180 Um, and it kind of hits home to my family because I have a cousin that was supposed to die when
00:14:23.600 he was two.
00:14:24.340 Um, and he ended up living until he was 13 and he really was a blessing to our family in
00:14:29.640 the time that he was alive.
00:14:31.240 And you see this disregard for human life on the left, particularly the life of children
00:14:38.080 and the unborn.
00:14:39.500 So you guys already know I'm pro-life, but to me, it's, it was just an absolute travesty
00:14:44.660 that they, they wouldn't accept free treatment.
00:14:47.420 I didn't really understand the, the why.
00:14:49.780 And I was actually explaining the story to a girl on my volleyball team.
00:14:53.020 And she was telling me that it's actually really common here.
00:14:55.880 And apparently this happens all the time where they just have a disregard for human life.
00:15:01.140 And unfortunately this, the child did pass away in the last couple of days.
00:15:04.820 Um, the comments on this video said the UK judiciary is literally satanic and pro-death.
00:15:11.060 Vic says, I think that it is a bit more of a moral dilemma than these guys make it out
00:15:15.480 to be.
00:15:15.980 Surely some medical conditions make life not worth living.
00:15:19.300 Right?
00:15:19.840 Is that what this is about?
00:15:21.100 No, I just think there's some sanctity of life that every person has.
00:15:25.520 I think that comes from God.
00:15:26.800 And I think when you start to degrade life and not do everything you can to keep life,
00:15:31.840 I think it's satanic.
00:15:33.180 I think it's immoral.
00:15:34.180 And even just watching videos of the baby, it wasn't like she was unhappy and just suffered.
00:15:40.100 Like the baby looked so happy.
00:15:42.280 She looked so happy.
00:15:44.040 Ann Pakura says, this is pure madness.
00:15:46.000 How can the UK government assume and take custody over your child?
00:15:49.100 I actually interviewed someone on the show who had a 13 year old that the government
00:15:53.780 took custody of.
00:15:54.900 This isn't uncommon, not unheard of.
00:15:56.840 It happens all the time here.
00:15:58.560 Um, and this is just anecdotally from living in the UK for the past few years.
00:16:03.100 In my lifetime, guys, some of the things that are now legal and happen, I cannot believe
00:16:08.800 are allowed.
00:16:10.120 You know, I think in my lifetime, I've seen an election arguably get stolen.
00:16:14.760 I see fathers lose custody of their children.
00:16:17.520 And now we're seeing babies be killed by the government, be sentenced to death by the government.
00:16:23.680 It's really disgusting how far we've come as a society where we don't value life.
00:16:29.680 So another trend that I've really seen, I know people will always say it's not real life,
00:16:34.960 it's social media.
00:16:35.980 Like these cases are fringe cases.
00:16:37.880 But it's really crazy how social media becomes real life very quickly.
00:16:43.000 I'll give you an example.
00:16:43.880 When I was 18, I was playing volleyball in Ohio at the time.
00:16:47.220 And I remember when the Caitlyn Jenner award was given to Bruce Jenner, like the woman's
00:16:52.580 award was given to Bruce Jenner.
00:16:54.040 You know, in a couple of years after that, I ended up seeing trans people in our dorm.
00:16:58.880 A couple of years after that, I saw trans people in my volleyball tournament.
00:17:03.820 What started on social media became real life really quickly.
00:17:08.220 Even with the child passing away, what started on social media became real life quickly because
00:17:14.160 you start to hear instances that this happened in real life.
00:17:18.080 What I've learned in my lifetime is that social media becomes the real world quicker than you
00:17:22.480 think.
00:17:22.820 And another trend that I have seen is this trend of young boys getting the shit beat out of them.
00:17:30.660 Just jumped.
00:17:31.540 I've seen this trend with girls, too, but I've seen it especially with boys.
00:17:35.220 There was a Las Vegas teen that was beaten to death by bullies for standing up for his
00:17:40.460 friend.
00:17:40.880 Las Vegas teen Jonathan Lewis, 17, is beaten to death by a huge swarm of bullies after standing
00:17:46.420 up for a smaller friend who they just robbed.
00:17:51.880 Jonathan Lewis, a 17-year-old boy from Las Vegas, tragically passed away after being brutally
00:17:56.900 attacked by a gang of 15-year-old youth near Rancho High School.
00:18:00.620 He intervened to protect a friend who was being robbed by a group, leading to a severe beating
00:18:05.840 that left him bleeding in the head.
00:18:07.480 Despite the efforts by doctors at University Medical Center, he succumbed to his injuries
00:18:12.420 days later.
00:18:13.300 Jonathan's father mourned his son's loss, urging forgiveness for the attackers while
00:18:17.280 emphasizing the need for teaching youth peaceful coexistence.
00:18:21.000 Videos circulated on social media capturing the vicious attack, showing multiple youths
00:18:26.140 assaulting Jonathan as he lay defenseless on the ground.
00:18:29.360 His father described him as courageous and expressed his desire to donate Jonathan's
00:18:33.400 organs to save others.
00:18:34.640 The devastated family set up a GoFundMe to honor Jonathan's memory, highlighting his loving
00:18:39.180 and giving nature, his passion for art, and his role as a caring older brother.
00:18:42.740 The incident has promoted a homicide investigation by the Las Vegas Metropolitan Police with plans
00:18:49.260 to charge several students involved in the attack with murder.
00:18:52.200 The family seeks to focus on Jonathan's legacy, remembering him for his kindness and dedication
00:18:56.740 to the community.
00:18:57.720 So a 17-year-old is supposed to go to school and be protected.
00:19:02.900 And this is why I say that women teachers should not be the majority.
00:19:06.960 We need to bring male teachers back into school because female teachers cannot protect their
00:19:12.980 students from this stuff.
00:19:14.360 Male teachers bring order to chaos.
00:19:16.700 And what you see in these school environments is similar to what you see in single mother
00:19:21.140 home where it is just absolutely chaotic.
00:19:23.920 And the kids in these schools oftentimes are from single mother homes anyway, and they go
00:19:28.600 to school, there's no structure, no order.
00:19:30.780 And now you have a kid that was supposed to go to school and be safe, dying because he
00:19:36.140 got jumped by a load of students.
00:19:37.840 And this is the America, this is the trend that America is starting to go to.
00:19:42.360 We're seeing lawlessness in a lot of these major cities, and it's really, really sad to
00:19:47.100 see.
00:19:47.500 And I think what makes this story especially sad is that he was standing up for his friend
00:19:51.980 that was robbed.
00:19:52.980 He was literally just standing up for his friend, trying to do the right thing, and he
00:19:56.520 ends up getting jumped by a bunch of people.
00:19:58.520 And you wonder why you see men not getting involved in these types of situations anymore.
00:20:04.000 Why risk it when your life is on the line?
00:20:06.720 And females, women, we don't always anticipate this, that really doing the right thing or
00:20:11.800 doing the brave thing in a lot of these situations may result in men losing their lives.
00:20:17.180 And I think that's one thing that women really can't relate to as much in the existence of
00:20:22.580 a guy is men are always calculating the violence that could come from protecting somebody or getting
00:20:29.780 involved in something.
00:20:30.880 And the sad thing is for Jonathan Lewis, doing the courageous thing lost in his life.
00:20:35.760 You know, and this increase in violence I have seen from both men and women in my lifetime.
00:20:41.180 Growing up, I really did not see this violence every, you know, it was kind of something that
00:20:46.800 happened.
00:20:47.380 Like, I'm from Chicago.
00:20:48.260 I lived in the suburb.
00:20:49.420 And all of the violent stuff would just happen in the city.
00:20:53.180 Like, we would know, okay, there's one part of the city.
00:20:55.420 All the crazy stuff happens in.
00:20:57.600 We're in the suburbs.
00:20:58.640 We're kind of avoiding that.
00:21:00.560 But more and more, I see the violence seeping out into the suburb and happening in more places
00:21:06.280 that I know and also happening in more relationships.
00:21:10.060 You know, we've talked a lot about how I believe that women are more violent than men.
00:21:13.560 And I saw an article recently of a woman talking about how she used to hit her husband.
00:21:18.660 Let's pull it up.
00:21:19.680 I used to hit my husband.
00:21:21.480 I felt scared and ashamed of what I'd done.
00:21:24.440 I apologized and thought it was a one-off, but it was a pattern that would carry us on
00:21:29.840 for the next 10 years.
00:21:31.440 So I wanted to read this article.
00:21:33.940 A lot of times we act like female violence is rare and not common.
00:21:38.420 But through interviewing thousands of people, I actually couldn't believe how common it was
00:21:43.340 for men to be in abusive relationships.
00:21:46.400 It actually blew my mind.
00:21:48.040 The amount of men that I have met that have camera rolls on their phone dedicated to protecting
00:21:53.380 themselves from the women.
00:21:54.700 They never want to be accused of abuse, so they make sure they keep videos of what the
00:21:58.900 chick is doing.
00:21:59.780 I was also shocked and surprised by the amount of men that have told me they've been hit by
00:22:05.420 their partners where they...
00:22:07.560 I've even had a guy say that a girl tried to hit him with a car.
00:22:10.720 I've heard women laugh about that on podcasts.
00:22:12.680 And there is an article by Florence Terry talking about how she used to hit her husband.
00:22:18.860 And I wanted to read it to you guys to give really a little more insight from the female
00:22:23.580 point of view of an abusive woman, because it's never talked about.
00:22:27.160 It's always the abuse of men.
00:22:28.620 It is never the abuse of women.
00:22:30.380 Experience.
00:22:30.900 I used to hit my husband.
00:22:32.160 The first time I struck him was during an argument over money.
00:22:35.180 He decided to pay off a loan without telling me, and we'd gone overdrawn.
00:22:38.980 I was worried and tried to discuss it with him, at which point he left.
00:22:42.680 I felt we hadn't talked it through properly and followed him.
00:22:46.100 The next minute, I was hitting him around the head.
00:22:48.940 I remember losing control of my limbs, lashing out.
00:22:51.500 Afterwards, he was upset, and I cried.
00:22:53.600 I felt scared and ashamed of what I'd done.
00:22:55.900 I apologized and thought it was a one-off, but the pattern carried on for 10 years.
00:22:59.940 I met my husband through mutual friends at Durham University.
00:23:02.840 I was 19, and he was 5 years older, more worldly and mature.
00:23:06.740 He was less serious, too, and made me laugh.
00:23:09.040 We were married 5 years later.
00:23:10.740 He had a job in IT, and by then, I had started working as a divorce lawyer.
00:23:15.180 The early days of our marriage were steady, but as the stress of my job and responsibilities
00:23:19.280 grew, I took it out on him.
00:23:20.960 After the first time it happened again about 18 months later, I felt a surge of rage I
00:23:25.660 couldn't control.
00:23:26.480 My anger would escalate during arguments over household chores or my husband coming to bed
00:23:31.900 late.
00:23:32.300 I remember feeling I was out of my body watching myself and telling myself to stop, but I couldn't.
00:23:37.680 I would hit him hard, hitting to hurt.
00:23:39.860 One time, I picked up a table and crashed it down so hard on the ground, I left fight
00:23:44.240 marks on his arms a couple of times.
00:23:46.120 It was similar to the way siblings fight, yet he never struck back.
00:23:49.540 He'd hold up his hands to shield himself, which made me feel even worse.
00:23:53.540 I know my husband felt emotionally hurt at times.
00:23:56.420 It was upsetting for him to think the person he loved wanted to hurt him, but he never threatened
00:24:00.500 to leave me.
00:24:01.220 He felt there was more to me than my behavior, and that we still had a strong marriage.
00:24:05.340 I'm a petite woman, a little over eight stone, and my husband is a big man, yet he said he
00:24:10.540 didn't feel emasculated and that I never physically hurt him.
00:24:13.600 While I exploded, he remained calm and I was thankful, but I was also frustrated that he
00:24:18.080 wasn't communicating fully with me.
00:24:24.100 What is there to communicate?
00:24:25.400 Okay, sorry, guys.
00:24:26.640 What is there to communicate?
00:24:28.360 So she's beating him and she's frustrated that he wasn't communicating fully.
00:24:32.860 All right, all right, sorry.
00:24:34.600 I was using violence to get a reaction.
00:24:36.920 I was verbally aggressive, too.
00:24:38.480 I'd make demanding comments, sarcastic and personal attack.
00:24:42.080 All things that erode love, I'd blame him preaching, criticize.
00:24:45.400 I couldn't understand why I wanted to be so aggressive to someone I love.
00:24:48.900 I lacked self-awareness.
00:24:50.200 I now realize the anger I felt was to do with my stress and low self-esteem.
00:24:54.440 I was packing my life too tightly, working long hours a day as a lawyer, volunteering
00:24:59.500 the citizens at Vice Peru, and doing soup runs for the homeless.
00:25:03.600 I had what I felt was a privileged upbringing.
00:25:05.900 My family was middle class and I went to private schools.
00:25:08.440 I felt I had an obligation to repay this to society.
00:25:11.460 I thought I should be superhuman and I felt my husband should be, too.
00:25:14.680 To other people, I seemed calm and accommodating, a kind of peacemaker.
00:25:18.300 But inside, I was pent up and deeply ashamed of myself.
00:25:21.960 And I wanted to point this out, too, because you never know what happens with women behind
00:25:26.740 closed doors.
00:25:27.660 Many women in public are perfectly pleasant.
00:25:32.120 Many women to everybody else is a nice person, but behind closed doors, you have no idea how
00:25:37.240 they treat their husband.
00:25:38.240 And this is why a lot of men are afraid of marriage, because women switch up.
00:25:43.440 And she admitted that she did.
00:25:45.120 And if she's admitting this, guys, how many people has this happened to?
00:25:49.000 Eventually, I accepted something had to change.
00:25:51.320 I'd heard about domestic violence groups, but only for men.
00:25:54.160 I felt my behavior carried an added stigma for women.
00:25:57.240 Women weren't expected to be violent, especially high-powered working women who volunteered
00:26:01.440 for charities.
00:26:02.400 Then I found an anger management course on the internet.
00:26:04.880 It was nerve-wracking at first, and I knew I'd have to face up to the aspects of my life
00:26:08.980 I'd prefer to overlook.
00:26:10.120 Yet, the course was a turning point, and by the time it had finished, I felt confident
00:26:13.860 I could control myself.
00:26:15.200 Then, two years later, I hit my husband again.
00:26:17.500 I had become complacent, assumed that I'd changed.
00:26:19.940 When I slapped his face for the last time, I was forced to confront the situation.
00:26:24.080 This time, I had told my family and my friends what had been happening, that they didn't
00:26:27.420 criticize or judge was a huge help.
00:26:29.360 Soon, after I decided to go part-time as a lawyer and a mediator, I now run a course
00:26:33.760 on how to help people deal with anger and conflict.
00:26:36.280 My husband and I are still together.
00:26:38.060 I'm careful not to choose language that is aggressive.
00:26:40.580 If I ever feel angry and feel my heart beat quicken, I leave the room, but that is rare.
00:26:44.660 I wouldn't claim our marriage is now perfect, but it's pretty good.
00:26:47.100 A caring and gentle relationship, which feels like an achievement for me.
00:26:50.980 What if we looked at male abuse like that?
00:26:53.480 You know, she talked about how this was a terrible thing that she wanted to overcome,
00:26:58.720 and yet she's still married.
00:27:00.380 And, you know, I think this story is important because a lot of people will say that women
00:27:05.320 are not violent.
00:27:06.240 A lot of people will say that women are not abusive.
00:27:08.560 But in my experience, women are more abusive than men.
00:27:11.620 They are more violent than men.
00:27:13.000 And oftentimes, when it comes to abusive relationships, they are much more likely to hit the husband
00:27:19.580 than the husband is to hit the wife.
00:27:21.380 This is not uncommon.
00:27:22.460 I've heard stories like this so many times.
00:27:24.840 And the issue is, really, we tell women that being crazy is a good thing.
00:27:31.400 Oh, we even have phrases like, I went crazy.
00:27:33.860 How is going crazy socially acceptable in society?
00:27:37.040 It's not.
00:27:37.860 It should not be.
00:27:39.000 And when these stories like that, it kind of begs the question, if this is one woman
00:27:43.300 that this has happened to, how many women are there that are abusing their husband and
00:27:48.020 their husbands are just sticking it out because they love their wives?
00:27:51.340 Men are much more likely to work through conflict than women are.
00:27:54.860 Women throw in the towel.
00:27:56.220 Men tend to try to work it out.
00:27:57.740 But guys, this stuff is more common in society than really, I think, women admit to.
00:28:03.420 And I really do think as women, we are more violent.
00:28:07.200 I will die on this hill.
00:28:08.000 But let me know what you guys think in the comments.
00:28:10.360 Make sure you like the video on your way out.
00:28:12.140 Get yourself a Women Shouldn't Vote t-shirt from the audacitynetwork.store.
00:28:15.920 And I will talk to you next time.