JustPearlyThings - Woke Hollywood RUINS Mean Girls Movie Reboot ｜ Pearl Daily Ep. 75

00:00:00.000 What up, guys? Welcome to Pearl Daily, where I cover this week's treachery, debauchery, and craziness.

00:00:05.540 Before I start, don't forget, like the video, and get yourself a Women Shouldn't Vote t-shirt. 1.00

00:00:10.500 So, today, I'm going to be talking about this trend in society that I have seen.

00:00:15.400 So, as you guys know, women love spending men's money. 1.00

00:00:19.260 Yes, that is really what we do best.

00:00:21.720 We love to just swipe, swipe, swipe our credit cards.

00:00:25.160 We just like to swipe, swipe, swipe, but we don't like to take responsibility over the debt.

00:00:30.640 So, you constantly see women fighting for rights to spend men's money. 0.99

00:00:35.900 And this trend has ruined movies, in my opinion.

00:00:39.480 Now, movies in the early 2000s were just a little bit different, a little bit better, in my opinion.

00:00:45.120 For example, and when you would go to a theater, you knew that the actress in the movie was the most attractive chick really around. 0.98

00:00:53.100 Like, it was Megan Fox back in the day.

00:00:55.600 You used to have Margot Robbie in her prime. 1.00

00:00:58.140 But, as you see the movie companies catering to a female audience, what you start to see is the women getting less and less attractive. 1.00

00:01:06.620 I pointed out this phenomenon where I noticed all of the actresses, like, of today just really were not as beautiful as the actresses of the past.

00:01:14.000 Now, guys, when I go to a movie, I want to feel a little bad about myself.

00:01:17.540 I don't want to see no average chicks on TV. 1.00

00:01:20.160 The same thing with the guys, but really, they just keep selling us dreams.

00:01:24.920 Like, I watched this Grey's Anatomy.

00:01:26.600 I reacted to this Grey's Anatomy clip.

00:01:28.560 It was like a girl that was a sick having two doctors fight over her.

00:01:32.800 In what world?

00:01:34.600 These are tall, handsome, jacked doctors.

00:01:36.720 I'm like, they're just going to move on.

00:01:38.080 Anyway.

00:01:38.440 Now, a movie that was actually awesome back in the early 2000s, I remember growing up, was Mean Girls.

00:01:43.860 Now, Lindsay Lohan in her prime was absolutely beautiful.

00:01:47.300 But in this new reboot, they have decided to make it woke and use mid-chicks.

00:01:53.480 Why are they doing this to us?

00:01:54.740 Mary Morgan says they're rebooting Mean Girls 2004, a cinematic masterpiece, and are ruining everything we loved about it.

00:02:03.620 Oh, hell no!

00:02:14.680 Bitch, move. 1.00

00:02:15.880 Hey! 0.99

00:02:16.460 PG-13, please.

00:02:20.080 What was that?

00:02:20.680 Oh, Lord, it's the Queen Bee.

00:02:21.880 Regina George.

00:02:22.940 Don't look her in the eye!

00:02:25.400 You could be really hot.

00:02:26.780 They change, like...

00:02:27.620 Welcome to health and human sexuality.

00:02:31.980 We'll be getting abstinence, of course, then followed by, in the spring, condoms and choking.

00:02:36.880 You're learning things now that I don't know how to teach.

00:02:40.440 Are you okay in there?

00:02:42.820 We're going to say you're either doing drugs or having a toilet baby. 1.00

00:02:45.420 Ew.

00:02:48.060 We, as women, have to be able to support each other. 0.94

00:02:51.060 Get in, loser.

00:02:52.260 Welcome, Katie.

00:02:54.060 You're never going to believe what I found this morning.

00:02:55.660 Your burn book.

00:02:57.720 Mom, go make snacks. 1.00

00:02:58.940 For sure.

00:02:59.580 For sure, Regina.

00:03:00.500 Yeah.

00:03:02.340 Do you like gum?

00:03:03.580 Sure.

00:03:04.140 We will help you, Katie.

00:03:07.040 Why aren't you dressed so scary?

00:03:08.740 It's Halloween.

00:03:09.820 Katie, if you don't dress slutty, that is slut-shaming us. 1.00

00:03:12.800 That's just unprofessional.

00:03:15.760 What?

00:03:16.280 What's this?

00:03:19.640 We're going to make her pay. 0.88

00:03:20.700 What we've done is to make Regina hotter and revive the wet look. 1.00

00:03:26.720 Dance br-

00:03:27.160 Katie pushed her. 1.00

00:03:40.480 Regina really should be lifting through her glutes. 1.00

00:03:43.160 I want to get him back.

00:03:49.100 You're my pair of Katie.

00:03:50.100 Incorrect.

00:03:50.880 You have to pick a French name.

00:03:52.200 Chanel.

00:03:52.720 No.

00:03:53.480 Celine Dion.

00:03:54.680 No.

00:03:56.180 Beyoncé.

00:03:56.820 So, as you can see, they replaced all of the chicks, which used to be 8s to 10s, with

00:04:06.760 a bunch of mids.

00:04:07.580 Why?

00:04:08.420 Why?

00:04:10.240 Okay.

00:04:10.980 So, Mary points out, it's set in modern day.

00:04:14.940 They make TikToks.

00:04:16.140 Got to appeal to that Gen Z audience.

00:04:19.260 And name-check slut-shaming. 1.00

00:04:21.140 So, you see how in these commercials, they, like, subtly put the wokeness in.

00:04:25.940 They subtly make everybody uglier.

00:04:28.360 Why?

00:04:29.460 I want to go and watch a movie with Zac Efron and Vanessa Hudgens.

00:04:33.620 Two extremely beautiful people.

00:04:36.160 Obviously, they're way hotter than anybody I know. 0.96

00:04:39.220 Alright?

00:04:40.040 Obviously.

00:04:40.720 But it's like, it's supposed to be like that.

00:04:42.920 It's TV.

00:04:43.880 They made Hattie Heron, originally Lindsay Lohan, mid, even though the catalyst of her

00:04:49.600 entire character arc is not realizing she's hot. 0.93

00:04:52.900 Janice is race-swapped and they made her fat. 0.98

00:04:56.400 Damien is also race-swapped because why not?

00:05:00.460 Karen also got race-swapped. 0.98

00:05:02.720 New Regina George just dropped, except she's mid and fat now. 1.00

00:05:06.820 Also, WTF is this.

00:05:09.120 Yes.

00:05:09.840 And that's what I've noticed.

00:05:10.900 The more they appeal to a female audience, the more the movies just start to suck. 1.00

00:05:15.520 They start to get more woke.

00:05:16.780 They start to get less attractive.

00:05:19.900 Everybody becomes mid. 0.70

00:05:21.540 When I thought that was like the prerequisite to be an actress.

00:05:25.800 Like Angelina Jolie, Jennifer Aniston.

00:05:28.200 You know, growing up, I always knew.

00:05:30.780 Now, now I know this is not a, this is not a poor Pearl thing.

00:05:34.040 But like, I always knew like I was never gonna model.

00:05:36.640 Nobody was gonna model.

00:05:37.560 Nobody that I knew was gonna model.

00:05:39.940 Because you had to be exceptional.

00:05:42.580 But now it's like everyone can be a model.

00:05:44.700 Everyone can be a top actress.

00:05:46.080 And we wonder why these movies are tanky.

00:05:48.060 Just like these superhero movies when they put these chicks as lead supermen. 1.00

00:05:52.400 Why?

00:05:52.920 Why?

00:05:53.180 Obvious.

00:05:53.600 It's like a 5'5 blonde chick that never been in the gym in her life. 1.00

00:05:57.340 Trying to fight?

00:05:58.520 What?

00:05:59.000 Like, we don't, we don't believe this stuff.

00:06:01.100 And commenters are seeing this.

00:06:03.280 They're sick of the wokeness being shoved down their throats.

00:06:06.140 So, the top comment is, Naomi says, replacing Lindsay Lohan is the 8th deadly sin.

00:06:12.440 Fresh, fit, chef, you, they're all fat as well.

00:06:17.280 P.S.

00:06:17.740 Ruining everything is the left's ideology.

00:06:20.800 And yeah, that's what we keep seeing.

00:06:22.120 We keep seeing all of these movies.

00:06:24.100 And I haven't seen it.

00:06:25.040 Maybe it's amazing.

00:06:26.020 I don't know.

00:06:26.540 But I am sure that leftism is just gonna be shoved down our throat.

00:06:32.100 Why do movies need to be political?

00:06:34.520 Why can't they just be funny movies?

00:06:36.500 Why can't we go and just watch a funny movie and be done with it?

00:06:40.360 So, the next story that I'm gonna cover is actually the saddest story that I have read

00:06:45.640 in a really long time.

00:06:47.060 There is an innocent baby girl that has been condemned to death by British judges.

00:06:51.980 Let's take a look.

00:06:52.620 The father of Indy Gregory, this poor child who is facing death because the British government

00:07:00.740 is attempting to kill the child, even contrary to what the government of Italy and what the

00:07:05.700 Vatican are offering, which is citizenship and treatment at the hospital of Bambino Gesù.

00:07:09.980 We have him on the line.

00:07:11.120 He's not in court right now.

00:07:11.900 This should be an international scandal.

00:07:13.900 But because we've heard this story now every six months, at least every year, specifically

00:07:17.660 out of the United Kingdom, we've become callous to it.

00:07:20.740 And the story is that a baby faces medical problems and the parents of the baby want to treat

00:07:26.220 the baby and want to help the baby and want to keep the baby alive.

00:07:29.220 And the psychopaths running the UK government and health system, more broadly, who run the

00:07:34.800 health systems in the West, want to kill the child because they now view death as treatment.

00:07:39.860 Mr. Gregory, thank you for coming on the show.

00:07:41.640 Thank you.

00:07:42.040 Thank you for being here.

00:07:42.760 So sorry about everything you're going through.

00:07:45.060 It's horrific.

00:07:46.280 The health problems of your child are obviously horrific in themselves.

00:07:51.480 I pray to God I never have to go through anything like that.

00:07:54.180 I it's it's the greatest fear any parent has.

00:07:57.940 And then on top of that, your government will not permit you to treat your child or keep

00:08:04.240 your child alive.

00:08:05.060 And on top of that, the UK government will not allow the government of Italy, which gave

00:08:10.200 your child citizenship, will not allow the Pope, will not allow the vicar of Christ on 0.99

00:08:15.360 earth to help treat your child.

00:08:17.680 They simply want to kill your baby. 0.63

00:08:21.620 Tell us what's what's happening.

00:08:23.280 We're just absolutely disgusted.

00:08:25.140 I'm embarrassed to be British at the minute.

00:08:27.240 We've got another country offering to pay for the treatment and they're blocking her 0.99

00:08:30.380 from going to Italy.

00:08:31.460 They're blocking her for coming home to get extubation. 0.97

00:08:34.360 They're just being it's just so cruel and humane.

00:08:36.740 I just don't understand.

00:08:37.640 Where does the case stand now?

00:08:39.040 I know I really appreciate your making time.

00:08:41.320 I know you've got a lot of other things on your mind.

00:08:42.900 I know that there was a chance you were going to be in court this morning or this afternoon

00:08:46.540 by your time.

00:08:47.660 So where does it all stand?

00:08:48.920 There's a court hearing going off now.

00:08:50.720 It's online virtual.

00:08:51.860 I've just had to pop out to get my daughter from school and then go back to the hospital

00:08:55.100 and then join again.

00:08:56.400 But yeah, the appeal is this appeal is to do with where Indy, they're trying to block

00:09:00.340 Indy from coming home. 1.00

00:09:01.440 They're trying to say she can only go to a hospice or the hospital to have a treatment

00:09:04.780 withdrawn.

00:09:05.520 So they've blocked us from going to Italy and now they're trying to block us from taking

00:09:08.440 her home.

00:09:08.860 It's just cruel.

00:09:09.480 Is there any hope at this point that you will be able to bring your baby to Italy for

00:09:16.140 treatment at the Bambino Gesù hospital or is that completely off the table?

00:09:19.580 I know the Italians are doing as much as they can in the background and we're just hoping 1.00

00:09:23.240 that something will come of it at any point.

00:09:26.040 It's the UK government and the Italian government to come to some sort of agreement.

00:09:29.520 That's what we're hoping for.

00:09:30.400 Now, short of that, you'd like to take your daughter home, of course.

00:09:35.940 You don't want to ship your daughter off to a hospice to just be officially neglected

00:09:41.620 by the UK medical system.

00:09:43.760 So what is their argument?

00:09:45.260 Why won't they allow you to take your own daughter home if things are going to go south, 0.79

00:09:50.980 as I suppose they will for all of us eventually, but if this is really her time?

00:09:55.100 Why won't they let her have her final moments in her home with her family who love her

00:10:00.300 rather than in some clinical UK institution?

00:10:03.900 It was in the original court order that we could choose for her to come home. 0.97

00:10:08.480 I think when they found out about Italy, I think they got scared and are trying to block 0.64

00:10:12.760 us from taking her home because they're probably scared that we're going to jump on a plane

00:10:15.880 or something and go over there.

00:10:17.380 That's what it feels like.

00:10:18.320 Of course.

00:10:19.040 I actually, I should have realized that because I couldn't figure out.

00:10:21.720 It just seems so needlessly cruel to say you can't even take your own daughter home

00:10:26.600 if she is going to die.

00:10:27.740 But right, because they don't want you to flee to go get medical treatment from Italy

00:10:34.520 and the Pope, from the Vatican, though now your daughter is officially an Italian citizen.

00:10:40.660 Do I have that right?

00:10:41.280 Yeah, that's right.

00:10:41.820 Yeah, exactly.

00:10:42.480 As a parent in the UK, when you go to the courts, you've got no rights.

00:10:45.920 You've set up to fail.

00:10:47.080 Everybody's against you.

00:10:48.060 My daughter's not brain dead.

00:10:49.200 She's moving.

00:10:50.000 She's breathing.

00:10:50.780 She's alert.

00:10:51.960 There's children in America with the same disease.

00:10:53.980 He was nine.

00:10:54.540 And I've been talking to the parents of them.

00:10:56.800 It's just, it's all down to money.

00:10:58.780 It's all down to cost and resources in the UK.

00:11:01.080 So that's what this is.

00:11:02.540 It's not that, you know, your daughter would just die immediately or anything like that.

00:11:08.720 It's not what they're saying, which is that, oh, she's in this horrific kind of pain and

00:11:12.520 it's whatever euthanasia, quote unquote, arguments that they make.

00:11:16.240 It's rather that this is, it's a socialist health care system.

00:11:19.720 They've got a finite amount of money and they just don't want to spend the money to keep

00:11:23.440 your daughter alive.

00:11:24.080 They don't think she's worth the cost because she's potentially got a shorter life, but

00:11:27.600 nobody knows when they're going to pass away.

00:11:29.500 So they're not God.

00:11:30.440 They shouldn't play this.

00:11:31.280 They shouldn't play God.

00:11:32.220 This, I first covered the story on the show yesterday.

00:11:36.060 And the thing that makes me, it's not, the thing that makes me angriest is what they're

00:11:40.120 doing to your daughter.

00:11:40.800 The thing that makes me second angriest is that I see what they're thinking.

00:11:44.280 I see what the judge is thinking.

00:11:45.540 I see what the UK government is thinking.

00:11:47.060 I see their logic.

00:11:48.560 The problem is their premises are wrong.

00:11:50.400 And the premises are wrong for exactly the reason you just said.

00:11:52.540 Because they're saying, well, look, she's going to die eventually.

00:11:55.580 Yeah, you're going to die eventually too.

00:11:57.100 I'm going to die eventually too.

00:11:58.480 You don't know when you're going to die.

00:12:00.180 Maybe you'll die in 50 years.

00:12:01.600 Maybe you'll go get hit by a bus tomorrow.

00:12:03.420 Does that mean that we're going to stop feeding you today?

00:12:05.200 Does that mean that we're going to stop giving you basic medical care?

00:12:08.440 It's just so, it's just a culture of death that is so shocking that when it happened the

00:12:13.980 first couple of times, it was an international scandal.

00:12:16.420 Now, the biggest scandal is that it's not an international scandal, that not nearly enough people

00:12:20.600 are talking about this egregious injustice that your government, a supposedly civilized

00:12:25.260 government, is doing to you and your family and your daughter.

00:12:28.560 I know.

00:12:28.860 It's disgraceful.

00:12:29.880 It's like everyone in the UK is just not aware of what's happening around them.

00:12:33.440 And you've got another country, Italy, who are doing everything they can.

00:12:36.780 And Indy wasn't even Italian. 0.99

00:12:38.200 She's got an Italian citizenship now.

00:12:40.320 But that country is doing everything they can to help.

00:12:42.240 So why can't my country help?

00:12:43.600 Why can't they come to some sort of agreements?

00:12:45.340 Why can't my country help?

00:12:46.880 Why can't my country help my own daughter?

00:12:48.960 Can you imagine?

00:12:49.600 That phrase is such an indictment of what has happened to the medical system and the

00:12:58.060 whole political order in these countries.

00:13:00.620 I know that you're extremely busy, Mr. Gregory, so I'm going to let you go.

00:13:05.720 And I know that sometimes we say, if there's a real important international cause, we say,

00:13:10.740 well, how can we help?

00:13:11.460 Where can we donate?

00:13:12.000 I know that what we're talking about here is a matter of hours or days, the kind of urgency.

00:13:17.120 So, of course, I encourage everyone to pray for you and your family and for your daughter

00:13:22.000 that there is a happy conclusion, you know, even as unlikely as that seems right now.

00:13:28.980 A priest friend of mine, a British priest friend of mine pointed out once that prayer

00:13:32.680 is not the last resort.

00:13:33.920 Prayer is the first resort.

00:13:34.940 And so we will all absolutely be praying for you.

00:13:37.400 Um, if there is, if there's any other way that we can help, uh, you know, please do,

00:13:42.380 please do let us know.

00:13:43.360 All right.

00:13:43.560 Thank you.

00:13:44.240 Thank you, Mr. Gregory, man.

00:13:46.100 What a great clip that was now.

00:13:47.420 Hey, hey, hey, bring that bell. 0.93

00:13:48.820 Subscribe to the Michael Knowles YouTube channel.

00:13:50.960 When I first saw this story, I couldn't even believe it was real.

00:13:54.760 Um, I, I saw the clip of his baby just playing on my timeline on Twitter, the baby just like

00:14:01.080 his daughter looks so happy.

00:14:02.440 And if she wasn't, she didn't look sick.

00:14:04.480 She looked like full of life and I couldn't believe that they wouldn't bring her to the,

00:14:10.260 to Italy.

00:14:10.680 If they were offering to pay for the treatment, um, I couldn't really see what the problem

00:14:14.720 was if another country is coming in and offering to try to treat them.

00:14:18.180 Um, and it kind of hits home to my family because I have a cousin that was supposed to die when

00:14:23.600 he was two.

00:14:24.340 Um, and he ended up living until he was 13 and he really was a blessing to our family in

00:14:29.640 the time that he was alive.

00:14:31.240 And you see this disregard for human life on the left, particularly the life of children

00:14:38.080 and the unborn.

00:14:39.500 So you guys already know I'm pro-life, but to me, it's, it was just an absolute travesty

00:14:44.660 that they, they wouldn't accept free treatment.

00:14:47.420 I didn't really understand the, the why.

00:14:49.780 And I was actually explaining the story to a girl on my volleyball team.

00:14:53.020 And she was telling me that it's actually really common here.

00:14:55.880 And apparently this happens all the time where they just have a disregard for human life.

00:15:01.140 And unfortunately this, the child did pass away in the last couple of days.

00:15:04.820 Um, the comments on this video said the UK judiciary is literally satanic and pro-death.

00:15:11.060 Vic says, I think that it is a bit more of a moral dilemma than these guys make it out

00:15:15.480 to be.

00:15:15.980 Surely some medical conditions make life not worth living.

00:15:19.300 Right?

00:15:19.840 Is that what this is about?

00:15:21.100 No, I just think there's some sanctity of life that every person has.

00:15:25.520 I think that comes from God.

00:15:26.800 And I think when you start to degrade life and not do everything you can to keep life,

00:15:31.840 I think it's satanic.

00:15:33.180 I think it's immoral.

00:15:34.180 And even just watching videos of the baby, it wasn't like she was unhappy and just suffered.

00:15:40.100 Like the baby looked so happy.

00:15:42.280 She looked so happy.

00:15:44.040 Ann Pakura says, this is pure madness.

00:15:46.000 How can the UK government assume and take custody over your child?

00:15:49.100 I actually interviewed someone on the show who had a 13 year old that the government

00:15:53.780 took custody of.

00:15:54.900 This isn't uncommon, not unheard of.

00:15:56.840 It happens all the time here.

00:15:58.560 Um, and this is just anecdotally from living in the UK for the past few years.

00:16:03.100 In my lifetime, guys, some of the things that are now legal and happen, I cannot believe

00:16:08.800 are allowed.

00:16:10.120 You know, I think in my lifetime, I've seen an election arguably get stolen.

00:16:14.760 I see fathers lose custody of their children.

00:16:17.520 And now we're seeing babies be killed by the government, be sentenced to death by the government.

00:16:23.680 It's really disgusting how far we've come as a society where we don't value life.

00:16:29.680 So another trend that I've really seen, I know people will always say it's not real life,

00:16:34.960 it's social media.

00:16:35.980 Like these cases are fringe cases.

00:16:37.880 But it's really crazy how social media becomes real life very quickly.

00:16:43.000 I'll give you an example.

00:16:43.880 When I was 18, I was playing volleyball in Ohio at the time.

00:16:47.220 And I remember when the Caitlyn Jenner award was given to Bruce Jenner, like the woman's 1.00

00:16:52.580 award was given to Bruce Jenner.

00:16:54.040 You know, in a couple of years after that, I ended up seeing trans people in our dorm.

00:16:58.880 A couple of years after that, I saw trans people in my volleyball tournament.

00:17:03.820 What started on social media became real life really quickly.

00:17:08.220 Even with the child passing away, what started on social media became real life quickly because

00:17:14.160 you start to hear instances that this happened in real life.

00:17:18.080 What I've learned in my lifetime is that social media becomes the real world quicker than you

00:17:22.480 think.

00:17:22.820 And another trend that I have seen is this trend of young boys getting the shit beat out of them.

00:17:30.660 Just jumped.

00:17:31.540 I've seen this trend with girls, too, but I've seen it especially with boys.

00:17:35.220 There was a Las Vegas teen that was beaten to death by bullies for standing up for his

00:17:40.460 friend.

00:17:40.880 Las Vegas teen Jonathan Lewis, 17, is beaten to death by a huge swarm of bullies after standing

00:17:46.420 up for a smaller friend who they just robbed.

00:17:51.880 Jonathan Lewis, a 17-year-old boy from Las Vegas, tragically passed away after being brutally

00:17:56.900 attacked by a gang of 15-year-old youth near Rancho High School.

00:18:00.620 He intervened to protect a friend who was being robbed by a group, leading to a severe beating

00:18:05.840 that left him bleeding in the head.

00:18:07.480 Despite the efforts by doctors at University Medical Center, he succumbed to his injuries

00:18:12.420 days later.

00:18:13.300 Jonathan's father mourned his son's loss, urging forgiveness for the attackers while

00:18:17.280 emphasizing the need for teaching youth peaceful coexistence.

00:18:21.000 Videos circulated on social media capturing the vicious attack, showing multiple youths

00:18:26.140 assaulting Jonathan as he lay defenseless on the ground.

00:18:29.360 His father described him as courageous and expressed his desire to donate Jonathan's

00:18:33.400 organs to save others.

00:18:34.640 The devastated family set up a GoFundMe to honor Jonathan's memory, highlighting his loving

00:18:39.180 and giving nature, his passion for art, and his role as a caring older brother.

00:18:42.740 The incident has promoted a homicide investigation by the Las Vegas Metropolitan Police with plans

00:18:49.260 to charge several students involved in the attack with murder.

00:18:52.200 The family seeks to focus on Jonathan's legacy, remembering him for his kindness and dedication

00:18:56.740 to the community.

00:18:57.720 So a 17-year-old is supposed to go to school and be protected.

00:19:02.900 And this is why I say that women teachers should not be the majority. 1.00

00:19:06.960 We need to bring male teachers back into school because female teachers cannot protect their 1.00

00:19:12.980 students from this stuff.

00:19:14.360 Male teachers bring order to chaos. 0.99

00:19:16.700 And what you see in these school environments is similar to what you see in single mother 1.00

00:19:21.140 home where it is just absolutely chaotic.

00:19:23.920 And the kids in these schools oftentimes are from single mother homes anyway, and they go 1.00

00:19:28.600 to school, there's no structure, no order.

00:19:30.780 And now you have a kid that was supposed to go to school and be safe, dying because he

00:19:36.140 got jumped by a load of students.

00:19:37.840 And this is the America, this is the trend that America is starting to go to.

00:19:42.360 We're seeing lawlessness in a lot of these major cities, and it's really, really sad to

00:19:47.100 see.

00:19:47.500 And I think what makes this story especially sad is that he was standing up for his friend

00:19:51.980 that was robbed.

00:19:52.980 He was literally just standing up for his friend, trying to do the right thing, and he

00:19:56.520 ends up getting jumped by a bunch of people.

00:19:58.520 And you wonder why you see men not getting involved in these types of situations anymore.

00:20:04.000 Why risk it when your life is on the line?

00:20:06.720 And females, women, we don't always anticipate this, that really doing the right thing or 1.00

00:20:11.800 doing the brave thing in a lot of these situations may result in men losing their lives.

00:20:17.180 And I think that's one thing that women really can't relate to as much in the existence of 1.00

00:20:22.580 a guy is men are always calculating the violence that could come from protecting somebody or getting

00:20:29.780 involved in something.

00:20:30.880 And the sad thing is for Jonathan Lewis, doing the courageous thing lost in his life.

00:20:35.760 You know, and this increase in violence I have seen from both men and women in my lifetime.

00:20:41.180 Growing up, I really did not see this violence every, you know, it was kind of something that

00:20:46.800 happened.

00:20:47.380 Like, I'm from Chicago.

00:20:48.260 I lived in the suburb.

00:20:49.420 And all of the violent stuff would just happen in the city.

00:20:53.180 Like, we would know, okay, there's one part of the city.

00:20:55.420 All the crazy stuff happens in.

00:20:57.600 We're in the suburbs.

00:20:58.640 We're kind of avoiding that.

00:21:00.560 But more and more, I see the violence seeping out into the suburb and happening in more places

00:21:06.280 that I know and also happening in more relationships.

00:21:10.060 You know, we've talked a lot about how I believe that women are more violent than men. 1.00

00:21:13.560 And I saw an article recently of a woman talking about how she used to hit her husband.

00:21:18.660 Let's pull it up.

00:21:19.680 I used to hit my husband.

00:21:21.480 I felt scared and ashamed of what I'd done.

00:21:24.440 I apologized and thought it was a one-off, but it was a pattern that would carry us on

00:21:29.840 for the next 10 years.

00:21:31.440 So I wanted to read this article.

00:21:33.940 A lot of times we act like female violence is rare and not common.

00:21:38.420 But through interviewing thousands of people, I actually couldn't believe how common it was

00:21:43.340 for men to be in abusive relationships.

00:21:46.400 It actually blew my mind.

00:21:48.040 The amount of men that I have met that have camera rolls on their phone dedicated to protecting

00:21:53.380 themselves from the women.

00:21:54.700 They never want to be accused of abuse, so they make sure they keep videos of what the

00:21:58.900 chick is doing.

00:21:59.780 I was also shocked and surprised by the amount of men that have told me they've been hit by

00:22:05.420 their partners where they...

00:22:07.560 I've even had a guy say that a girl tried to hit him with a car.

00:22:10.720 I've heard women laugh about that on podcasts. 1.00

00:22:12.680 And there is an article by Florence Terry talking about how she used to hit her husband.

00:22:18.860 And I wanted to read it to you guys to give really a little more insight from the female 0.69

00:22:23.580 point of view of an abusive woman, because it's never talked about.

00:22:27.160 It's always the abuse of men.

00:22:28.620 It is never the abuse of women.

00:22:30.380 Experience.

00:22:30.900 I used to hit my husband.

00:22:32.160 The first time I struck him was during an argument over money.

00:22:35.180 He decided to pay off a loan without telling me, and we'd gone overdrawn.

00:22:38.980 I was worried and tried to discuss it with him, at which point he left.

00:22:42.680 I felt we hadn't talked it through properly and followed him.

00:22:46.100 The next minute, I was hitting him around the head.

00:22:48.940 I remember losing control of my limbs, lashing out.

00:22:51.500 Afterwards, he was upset, and I cried.

00:22:53.600 I felt scared and ashamed of what I'd done.

00:22:55.900 I apologized and thought it was a one-off, but the pattern carried on for 10 years.

00:22:59.940 I met my husband through mutual friends at Durham University.

00:23:02.840 I was 19, and he was 5 years older, more worldly and mature.

00:23:06.740 He was less serious, too, and made me laugh.

00:23:09.040 We were married 5 years later.

00:23:10.740 He had a job in IT, and by then, I had started working as a divorce lawyer.

00:23:15.180 The early days of our marriage were steady, but as the stress of my job and responsibilities

00:23:19.280 grew, I took it out on him.

00:23:20.960 After the first time it happened again about 18 months later, I felt a surge of rage I

00:23:25.660 couldn't control.

00:23:26.480 My anger would escalate during arguments over household chores or my husband coming to bed

00:23:31.900 late.

00:23:32.300 I remember feeling I was out of my body watching myself and telling myself to stop, but I couldn't.

00:23:37.680 I would hit him hard, hitting to hurt.

00:23:39.860 One time, I picked up a table and crashed it down so hard on the ground, I left fight

00:23:44.240 marks on his arms a couple of times.

00:23:46.120 It was similar to the way siblings fight, yet he never struck back.

00:23:49.540 He'd hold up his hands to shield himself, which made me feel even worse.

00:23:53.540 I know my husband felt emotionally hurt at times.

00:23:56.420 It was upsetting for him to think the person he loved wanted to hurt him, but he never threatened

00:24:00.500 to leave me.

00:24:01.220 He felt there was more to me than my behavior, and that we still had a strong marriage.

00:24:05.340 I'm a petite woman, a little over eight stone, and my husband is a big man, yet he said he

00:24:10.540 didn't feel emasculated and that I never physically hurt him.

00:24:13.600 While I exploded, he remained calm and I was thankful, but I was also frustrated that he

00:24:18.080 wasn't communicating fully with me.

00:24:24.100 What is there to communicate?

00:24:25.400 Okay, sorry, guys.

00:24:26.640 What is there to communicate?

00:24:28.360 So she's beating him and she's frustrated that he wasn't communicating fully.

00:24:32.860 All right, all right, sorry.

00:24:34.600 I was using violence to get a reaction.

00:24:36.920 I was verbally aggressive, too.

00:24:38.480 I'd make demanding comments, sarcastic and personal attack.

00:24:42.080 All things that erode love, I'd blame him preaching, criticize.

00:24:45.400 I couldn't understand why I wanted to be so aggressive to someone I love.

00:24:48.900 I lacked self-awareness.

00:24:50.200 I now realize the anger I felt was to do with my stress and low self-esteem.

00:24:54.440 I was packing my life too tightly, working long hours a day as a lawyer, volunteering

00:24:59.500 the citizens at Vice Peru, and doing soup runs for the homeless.

00:25:03.600 I had what I felt was a privileged upbringing.

00:25:05.900 My family was middle class and I went to private schools.

00:25:08.440 I felt I had an obligation to repay this to society.

00:25:11.460 I thought I should be superhuman and I felt my husband should be, too.

00:25:14.680 To other people, I seemed calm and accommodating, a kind of peacemaker.

00:25:18.300 But inside, I was pent up and deeply ashamed of myself.

00:25:21.960 And I wanted to point this out, too, because you never know what happens with women behind 1.00

00:25:26.740 closed doors.

00:25:27.660 Many women in public are perfectly pleasant. 1.00

00:25:32.120 Many women to everybody else is a nice person, but behind closed doors, you have no idea how 1.00

00:25:37.240 they treat their husband.

00:25:38.240 And this is why a lot of men are afraid of marriage, because women switch up. 0.98

00:25:43.440 And she admitted that she did.

00:25:45.120 And if she's admitting this, guys, how many people has this happened to?

00:25:49.000 Eventually, I accepted something had to change.

00:25:51.320 I'd heard about domestic violence groups, but only for men.

00:25:54.160 I felt my behavior carried an added stigma for women. 0.89

00:25:57.240 Women weren't expected to be violent, especially high-powered working women who volunteered 1.00

00:26:01.440 for charities.

00:26:02.400 Then I found an anger management course on the internet.

00:26:04.880 It was nerve-wracking at first, and I knew I'd have to face up to the aspects of my life

00:26:08.980 I'd prefer to overlook.

00:26:10.120 Yet, the course was a turning point, and by the time it had finished, I felt confident

00:26:13.860 I could control myself.

00:26:15.200 Then, two years later, I hit my husband again.

00:26:17.500 I had become complacent, assumed that I'd changed.

00:26:19.940 When I slapped his face for the last time, I was forced to confront the situation.

00:26:24.080 This time, I had told my family and my friends what had been happening, that they didn't

00:26:27.420 criticize or judge was a huge help.

00:26:29.360 Soon, after I decided to go part-time as a lawyer and a mediator, I now run a course

00:26:33.760 on how to help people deal with anger and conflict.

00:26:36.280 My husband and I are still together.

00:26:38.060 I'm careful not to choose language that is aggressive.

00:26:40.580 If I ever feel angry and feel my heart beat quicken, I leave the room, but that is rare.

00:26:44.660 I wouldn't claim our marriage is now perfect, but it's pretty good.

00:26:47.100 A caring and gentle relationship, which feels like an achievement for me.

00:26:50.980 What if we looked at male abuse like that?

00:26:53.480 You know, she talked about how this was a terrible thing that she wanted to overcome,

00:26:58.720 and yet she's still married. 0.96

00:27:00.380 And, you know, I think this story is important because a lot of people will say that women

00:27:05.320 are not violent.

00:27:06.240 A lot of people will say that women are not abusive. 1.00

00:27:08.560 But in my experience, women are more abusive than men. 0.99

00:27:11.620 They are more violent than men.

00:27:13.000 And oftentimes, when it comes to abusive relationships, they are much more likely to hit the husband

00:27:19.580 than the husband is to hit the wife. 0.75

00:27:21.380 This is not uncommon.

00:27:22.460 I've heard stories like this so many times.

00:27:24.840 And the issue is, really, we tell women that being crazy is a good thing. 1.00

00:27:31.400 Oh, we even have phrases like, I went crazy.

00:27:33.860 How is going crazy socially acceptable in society?

00:27:37.040 It's not.

00:27:37.860 It should not be.

00:27:39.000 And when these stories like that, it kind of begs the question, if this is one woman

00:27:43.300 that this has happened to, how many women are there that are abusing their husband and 1.00

00:27:48.020 their husbands are just sticking it out because they love their wives?

00:27:51.340 Men are much more likely to work through conflict than women are. 0.67

00:27:54.860 Women throw in the towel. 1.00

00:27:56.220 Men tend to try to work it out. 0.59

00:27:57.740 But guys, this stuff is more common in society than really, I think, women admit to. 1.00

00:28:03.420 And I really do think as women, we are more violent.

00:28:07.200 I will die on this hill.

00:28:08.000 But let me know what you guys think in the comments.

00:28:10.360 Make sure you like the video on your way out.

00:28:12.140 Get yourself a Women Shouldn't Vote t-shirt from the audacitynetwork.store.

00:28:15.920 And I will talk to you next time.

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