JustPearlyThings - April 27, 2023


Woke Simp Claims That You Should Negotiate With Women


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9 minutes

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2,049

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175

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In this episode we talk about submissive vs. dominant women and how to be submissive in a relationship. We also talk about the term "submissive" and what it means to be a submissive to your husband.

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00:00:00.000 I think there's one type of submission.
00:00:02.020 Like, for example, if my husband, he told me to stop speaking in a room full of people and I didn't listen,
00:00:08.580 but he told me to give him sex every night and I did listen in the areas that I'm not listening.
00:00:13.920 I'm not submissive, period.
00:00:15.520 I think submission is being able to listen to your compromise to your husband in all areas.
00:00:19.820 If you're not submissing in one area, then that means you're not submissive.
00:00:24.020 That's like submissive when I feel like it.
00:00:26.220 Exactly. Picking and choosing.
00:00:28.340 So that means you're not submissive.
00:00:30.200 Yeah.
00:00:30.920 Yeah. Okay. So then you're not submissive.
00:00:33.080 So then in your case, like if your husband told you to do something and you didn't submit to that,
00:00:38.320 would you agree that you are not submissive?
00:00:40.940 Maybe I'm not submissive overall. Yeah.
00:00:43.340 I'm not submissive to anybody.
00:00:45.640 Like, I think it's...
00:00:46.640 What about your boss?
00:00:48.400 Submissive to my boss?
00:00:49.300 Yeah. Like if your boss tells you to do something, do you argue or do you listen?
00:00:52.660 I mean, to do my work.
00:00:54.660 If you tell me to do my work, I'm going to do my work.
00:00:57.100 This is what I'm paid for.
00:00:57.940 What if you're like talking and he says to stop talking?
00:01:00.560 To stop talking because I'm just talking?
00:01:02.280 No, like you're talking to your co-worker and he says, stop talking to your work.
00:01:05.460 Maybe. I mean, you cannot really talk during work, you know, like if you're working.
00:01:08.180 I have a question. Are you guys more attractive to, sorry, like attractive to more submittive women or like combative women? 0.51
00:01:19.700 That's a good question.
00:01:21.220 Oh, sorry.
00:01:21.680 I don't know, you know, I feel like, I like, I know like, I sound like I'm on the fence today, innit?
00:01:29.360 Like properly, innit?
00:01:30.080 But I'm real with it.
00:01:30.820 No, this is how I feel, innit?
00:01:31.980 Like naturally.
00:01:33.540 I like a bit of both, I'd say, innit?
00:01:35.300 I don't even like the term submissive.
00:01:37.280 To me, when I think that, I just don't like the term.
00:01:39.380 I don't know why.
00:01:40.060 What about it is like...
00:01:41.340 I don't know, it just, it sounds too like, in control.
00:01:45.600 I don't, I like to have, when I'm with someone, I like us to both have, what's the word?
00:01:50.740 Like, similar power within the relationship, do you get me?
00:01:54.400 So, I like a bit of both, man.
00:01:56.380 Like, don't get twisted.
00:01:57.300 Like, I like, obviously, I like to be able to, do you know what?
00:01:59.680 I like her to listen to me as well when I say something, but at the same time, it works both ways.
00:02:04.280 So, like I said, I don't like the term submissive, but I like her as well to give me pointers and say, 0.97
00:02:09.660 yo, that's not right to do this in this area.
00:02:11.520 Like, like I said, everyone's different.
00:02:13.820 Everyone's got their expertise and things they know in it.
00:02:16.320 So, it's good to learn from people in it rather than just try and be in control.
00:02:20.320 Have you seen an example of a traditional relationship where the woman followed?
00:02:25.340 I know, I haven't seen it, like, in person to say, but I know I've heard things and I've...
00:02:31.000 So, do you feel like you know how to lead in a relationship?
00:02:34.500 That's the thing.
00:02:35.240 Times have changed, innit?
00:02:36.500 Right.
00:02:36.780 So, I feel like, I feel like I could, but at the same time, I feel like, like I just said,
00:02:42.140 it's learning from each other now.
00:02:43.620 Like, it's not just, like, we've both grown up in similar environments.
00:02:47.520 We both kind of had our points where we've seen, like, good examples of good role models
00:02:52.660 of both genders.
00:02:55.540 So, do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:57.680 Like, you can learn from that.
00:02:59.240 She's going to have ideas.
00:03:00.160 I'm going to have ideas.
00:03:00.840 I'm a little confused.
00:03:01.980 So, I'm just trying to figure out, have you seen it before?
00:03:04.860 Not in person, no.
00:03:05.540 Okay, do you know how to do it?
00:03:07.020 How to...
00:03:07.720 Lead in a relationship, yes or no.
00:03:09.880 And have you...
00:03:10.360 To be honest, I don't know.
00:03:11.740 You don't know.
00:03:12.660 And you haven't done it before.
00:03:14.760 I'd like to say, I don't know.
00:03:16.800 What do you see as leading?
00:03:18.220 What's, like, that's broad.
00:03:19.720 You say something that she does, she says yes.
00:03:22.140 That's, to me, that's submissive.
00:03:24.140 Like, well, I don't feel like it's fully that, though.
00:03:26.440 It partially is, because you have to be the type of guy she wants to listen to.
00:03:29.820 But it depends on, there's lots of factors.
00:03:31.620 Like, I like to break things into factors, and it's like, there's the tone you say it.
00:03:34.780 Like, say we're out to eat.
00:03:36.000 Uh-huh.
00:03:36.160 Or what?
00:03:36.980 Should we get this, for example?
00:03:38.740 Or I think you'd like this.
00:03:40.080 And then she might say to me, oh, yeah, actually, I do.
00:03:42.420 Or no.
00:03:42.920 Like, do you get me?
00:03:43.480 Like, it's not always you do this.
00:03:45.800 You can negotiate.
00:03:48.260 You want to be in a relationship where you're constantly negotiating?
00:03:51.780 Um, I don't mind that, to be honest.
00:03:53.540 I'd rather that than arguing.
00:03:55.260 I'd rather do that than argue, personally.
00:03:58.300 Okay.
00:03:58.800 I think, sorry.
00:04:00.040 No, go ahead.
00:04:00.600 I think that's the, you know, obviously, this is not to go against you.
00:04:05.160 Yeah, yeah, no, I'll say, no, of course, yeah.
00:04:06.980 I think that's the main problem.
00:04:08.140 I think people don't really understand what submission means.
00:04:10.600 I feel like when people hear the word submission, they think, you know,
00:04:13.720 you know, this Nazi who's going to tell you what to do here and then. 0.77
00:04:17.520 I think wrestling.
00:04:17.980 Yeah, they think that it's this impressive thing.
00:04:20.020 But it's not.
00:04:20.980 I think submission is just the idea of trusting in someone who can basically
00:04:24.880 lead your life into the right direction.
00:04:27.400 So I feel like people have this idea in their mind that submission is just this
00:04:30.720 you control my every move.
00:04:32.680 It's not that submission is just trusting in someone who knows what's best for you.
00:04:36.860 And obviously, you can't just submit to any man.
00:04:39.140 You have to submit to a man who's strong, who knows how to lead and who's smart
00:04:43.020 and he's intelligent and that makes good decisions.
00:04:45.560 But it's not what people try to, what the feminists try to paint it out 1.00
00:04:49.780 to be.
00:04:50.960 With the term, like, I don't know, though, with the actual, what is the dictionary
00:04:54.520 definition of submitting?
00:04:56.340 Like, I mean, if you say it this way, I do understand and I hear that.
00:05:00.520 Like, you're totally right.
00:05:01.740 If you say it like that.
00:05:02.640 Yeah, that's true.
00:05:03.680 But when you're talking like submissive, like traditional family,
00:05:06.920 the way it was before, like not all men were like, you know, I want the best
00:05:10.940 for my family and I want the best for my wife.
00:05:13.380 Most of them are just, you know, strong and they wanted the submissive woman 1.00
00:05:17.220 just to be easier for them.
00:05:18.680 Like, you know, to.
00:05:19.500 Do you think men want someone that's harder?
00:05:22.000 Depends of the guy.
00:05:23.060 I mean, let's say, okay, let's talk about majority right now.
00:05:25.460 Because if you, you know, I think men in general, if they want a relation,
00:05:30.440 if they want something serious with you, then you need to have your own
00:05:34.100 thoughts, your own vision.
00:05:35.260 You need to be a strong woman.
00:05:36.380 Yes.
00:05:37.140 Yes.
00:05:37.700 If they just want to have someone to lead on and, you know, maybe, I don't
00:05:41.740 know, everyone is different.
00:05:42.980 They might just get someone that is, you know, they like to be submissive,
00:05:47.180 let's say.
00:05:47.520 They like to get, you know.
00:05:49.700 Can I also point out something?
00:05:51.240 You mentioned how, like, you know, back in the day when men were submissive,
00:05:55.860 they were just doing it to be controlling.
00:05:57.820 When men were submissive?
00:05:59.860 Sorry, when women were submissive, they were doing it to just be a bit 1.00
00:06:02.420 controlling over women.
00:06:03.800 Yeah.
00:06:04.120 But statistics show that women were actually way more happier back then
00:06:07.340 than they are now.
00:06:08.600 Because they didn't have enough resources, let's say, to, you know,
00:06:12.280 they didn't have the same education system that we have right now.
00:06:17.220 They didn't have a lot of things that we are, let's say, enjoying as
00:06:20.380 in this world, you know.
00:06:22.980 Yeah, but it doesn't make us happier.
00:06:24.780 Like, it doesn't make us happier to be educated if we don't have a husband.
00:06:28.720 I mean, for me, for example.
00:06:29.860 Look at Chelsea. 1.00
00:06:30.720 Come on.
00:06:31.040 I know.
00:06:31.420 I mean, in your 20s, fine.
00:06:33.020 And, like, in maybe your early 30s.
00:06:35.520 But after 35, you're not going to be happy.
00:06:37.820 Okay.
00:06:38.380 Okay, that's true.
00:06:39.660 I agree.
00:06:40.220 But it doesn't make you happy if you are able to have your own money,
00:06:43.620 you know, buy whatever you want for yourself, help your family out,
00:06:47.000 travel.
00:06:47.320 No, no, let's talk about what outcomes has that produced?
00:06:52.140 Women own 70 to 80% of consumer debt. 0.90
00:06:55.800 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:57.500 So now we have a bunch of debt.
00:06:59.440 So does that make us happier?
00:07:01.580 We can run the credit card.
00:07:03.200 You're right.
00:07:03.740 We can put that, you know, we can go to Barbados, put it on credit,
00:07:07.480 but we can't afford it.
00:07:09.320 The average woman makes, like, 30,000 pounds a year. 1.00
00:07:12.260 Yeah, but you should live in your own, you know, like.
00:07:16.240 Budget.
00:07:16.800 Budget.
00:07:17.400 You should.
00:07:18.080 I cannot have, like, I don't know, a salary of, I don't know, 50K per year
00:07:21.900 and go and spend, you know, everything.
00:07:24.760 Yeah, I agree with you.
00:07:25.480 You should, but women don't. 1.00
00:07:26.860 So I say, like, what outcomes does it lead to?
00:07:28.960 Well, I guess it's, you know, you need to make your own life and, you know,
00:07:33.340 in your own bed and lay on it, I guess.
00:07:36.180 Yeah.
00:07:36.660 Or getting your priorities straight.
00:07:38.220 Yeah.
00:07:38.540 You need to know what you want.
00:07:41.200 I mean, it's, I cannot really talk about, I cannot talk for women out there. 0.99
00:07:45.240 You know, I can just talk from my experience and from what I believe in.
00:07:49.660 Who here has been in a traditional relationship before?
00:07:54.200 I have.
00:07:56.000 You have?
00:07:56.820 I have.
00:07:57.120 You have, you have.
00:07:58.100 Okay, what was it like?
00:07:59.760 I enjoyed it.
00:08:01.160 You know, you kind of just take the back seat and I was with someone that I
00:08:04.580 trusted and I was with someone that actually knew how to make good
00:08:07.880 decisions.
00:08:08.580 So I enjoyed it a lot.
00:08:10.320 And if I could take it, go back to that, I would 100%.
00:08:13.900 What happened?
00:08:15.880 I happened.
00:08:17.500 What did you do?
00:08:18.940 I think I was very young.
00:08:21.280 And I, let me tell you something.
00:08:22.760 I was very young and I was listening to those influences of why would you
00:08:27.100 want a man to be in control of you? 0.98
00:08:28.560 Why would you want a man to tell you what to wear? 1.00
00:08:30.360 Why would you want to?
00:08:31.140 Wow.
00:08:31.260 So you, you had a guy.
00:08:32.920 Yeah.
00:08:33.240 That was, he was.
00:08:34.020 He did all of those things and I actually listened to those influences and
00:08:38.240 I was 10 times unhappier once I left that relationship than when I was
00:08:42.840 with that relationship because I realized that man was only doing things
00:08:45.880 for my own benefit.
00:08:47.780 Like small things like, okay, losing weight or dressing better or not being
00:08:51.140 in bikinis and things like that.
00:08:52.800 On Instagram, I actually thought those things made me happy, but I realized
00:08:56.240 they were hurting me more than they were upgrading me.
00:08:59.580 So I think once you find someone that, you know, is intelligent and smart and
00:09:04.540 knows how to lead and, you know, can take the back seat, like who wouldn't
00:09:08.880 want that?
00:09:10.020 Do you understand?
00:09:10.540 Wait, is he single still?
00:09:12.480 I don't know.
00:09:13.640 You should, you should call him.
00:09:16.220 I don't have his number.
00:09:17.800 You don't have, you don't have, it doesn't have to be now, but I mean.
00:09:21.140 Maybe I should call him.
00:09:22.280 I mean, I think a lot of guys would give girls second chances if they said
00:09:25.280 that like they were wrong.
00:09:26.320 As many of you know, I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a
00:09:32.600 daily basis on this platform.
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